I Am Through With Trying to Please Everyone

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 497 People

    I Give Up

    I'm so tried of trying to please everyone that I know.  I go out of my way and create more stress for myself just trying to make other people happy and its never good enough.  I just want to weep because of this frustration.  No matter what I do its never good...
    kayislandgirl kayislandgirl
    22-25
    3 Responses Jan 2, 2009
    GarrettYdoom GarrettYdoom
    18-21, M
    Nov 18, 2014

    This Moment In Time

    I do not think everyone expects me to please him or her. Honestly, I take it upon myself to do so. Sometimes, I overwhelm myself with everything I am trying to accomplish and life gets chaotic. I am not really through with trying to please those around me. It is better for me...
    PrecariousMe PrecariousMe
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 28, 2011

    Forever!

    I am a worrier by nature. I used to worry about pleasing everyone, no matter who they were or how important they were in my life. Not anymore. I guess with age came this "I-just-don't-care" attitude. Now I do what I want, and if other people have a problem with it, they can stay...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 24, 2010

    I've Had Enough

    I've had enough,Trying to please everyone,What about me?Need a break,Bugger it!Today,I'm taking for myself.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket
    46-50, M
    1 Response Feb 1, 2012

    I get tired of this. I have a life.

    I have friends. I HAVE CHILDREN and a family. I will not drop everything to talk to a person that is not any of the above and people that get mad about this have no place in my life anyway. believe it or not, I am just a random person on the internet. Random people on the...
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jul 6, 2015

    I Don't Try

    I know and clearly understand, that I can't please everyone.  Why Try!  I have to please myself first.  Is this selfish?  I don't think so.  I can still be generous, loving, giving and pleasing to others, without denying myself.
    PeedeeDog PeedeeDog
    70+
    5 Responses Nov 24, 2008

    Lost myself trying to please everyone else

    now im losing everyone while i find myself .
    desistories desistories
    22-25, F
    Jul 6, 2015

    I Am Through

    I've always been this way, I tried pleasing everyone no matter what and reality, there's not such things as pleasing everybody cause pleasing every person is not common sense or real.  There will always be a few who will oppose in everything that you-we do or say.  Before, I...
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr
    36-40, F
    Aug 24, 2011

    Trying To Please Everyone

    Trying to please everyone,I'm true with it,Need a life,Time to be me,Not everyone else!
    startinover1 startinover1
    46-50
    2 Responses Oct 26, 2012

    If I Tried...

    I'd probably develop multiple personality disorder and have to change my name to Sybil.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Feb 13, 2009

    Done, Done, Done.

    i have always cared what others thought. i would try to please everyone and keep them happy with me. i tried to win their approval and love. we'll i'm done with it. i don't need them. i need me! i need my own love and approval. forget about everyone else. how they feel is their...
    angelwings1998 angelwings1998
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 30, 2011

    Holding in all my anger

    and frustrations to my family just isn't enough is it? I'm supposed to not show any negativity.. And yet I don't, so idk why they're all on my case and just blaming all the things on me, I don't bother them.. Sorry about the rants
    DoorMattress DoorMattress
    13-15, M
    1 Response Jul 7, 2015

    I Learn To Say No

    I used to do things just to please family, close friends and relatives even if I hate doing it, just to keep them happy. But I realized that I lost myself in the process and whatever I do it's never enough for them. I was treated like a doormat. Now with the support of my husband...
    aussiering aussiering
    31-35
    2 Responses Dec 13, 2010

    ugh., my friend just randomly stopped liking me

    and started being a jerk. then to top it he decided to be even more of a **** by trying to get everyone to stop hanging with me. like, **** you buddy, you and whoever chooses to go with him are ******** that i dont want to be friends with. thankfully only one or two friends...
    spulunky spulunky
    16-17, M
    1 Response Jul 6, 2015

    It is nearly impossible to please everyone

    and even though I try my best to be considerate to others, they don't appreciate my generosity. I'm not asking for acknowledgement from everyone but for them to let me be able to make myself happy sometimes. No one can make you happy but yourself and if you're constantly trying...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Nov 17, 2014

    sometimes we misunderstand each other we all

    are the same we should respect each other sometimes we are scared
    Wolfbloodgirl0123 Wolfbloodgirl0123
    13-15, F
    Jul 7, 2015

    No More Worrying

     After struggling with my sexual orientation and depression for so many years while tying to make others happy, I've come to grasp the fact that I don't NEED to please everybody. I like being who I am, and I'm growing more comfortable with it every day I start to turn...
    filthydieseltech filthydieseltech
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jan 20, 2009

    Over It...

    What a mistake, I spent a lot of time trying to please everyone, especially my family and people that I have to deal with on a continual basis but I'm over that ****. You're damned if you do and damned if you don't. I know the core issue of what started me acting that way but it...
    simpothing simpothing
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 19, 2011

    You just want everyone to be happy.

    .. But you get it thrown back in your face like it's your fault their upset. Or you do little jobs for people or pay for stuff for them and when you need something it's to much. You stay up all night with them trying to comfort them over something that happened and when your...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jul 7, 2015

    It Does You No Good

    I have learned the hard that you cannot always make others happy. For years I have put myself before everyone. Why do I do this. I have no idea, i guess I don't want others to think I don't care. But whatever now, now I am all about what is going to make me happy and push those...
    GothicXCupcake GothicXCupcake
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Oct 22, 2011

    I Realized It Now...

    I realized it now that so many things I had done in the past to try pleasing everyone around me. Why? Probably because I did not believe in myself. I sought validation from others on what my personality was. I thought I would be a bad person if they said so. Or I would be a...
    LifeApprentice LifeApprentice
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Nov 25, 2007

    Aesop's Fable: “the Man, The Boy, And The Donkey”

    I’ve always liked this story as it perfectly conveys how it's just not possible to please all the people. Some people keep trying and trying but you inevitably wind up miserable yourself. A Man and his son went to market with their Donkey. As they were walking a countryman...
    2Buddies 2Buddies
    46-50, M
    5 Responses Oct 3, 2010

    Why the Hell Would I???

    im done, trying to please everyone else got me no where. i waisted time and money. yah im a douche. now that im me i have time for things i actually like to do. not ice fishing. i was f**king dumb..who the hell does that just for someone else. the old me. i have time to paint and...
    helentheripper14 helentheripper14
    18-21, F
    Jun 1, 2008

    What?

    What do you want me to do? Say sugar coated things to fulfill your petty needs?
    LightlySaltedSalmon LightlySaltedSalmon
    18-21, F
    Aug 15, 2013

    That Is What Made Me So Unhappy

    I wanted to make everybody happy. In the process, I made myself unhappy, because there were always some who were miserable, and no matter how hard I tried I couldn't please them.In both my personal life and my business, I was trying to please everyone. Once I stopped trying, I...
    Serenitree Serenitree
    70+, F
    2 Responses Oct 15, 2012

    Been Done With It!

    I use to try to please everyone... and sometimes I do find myself falling back into that pattern, from time to time. But honestly, it can't be done! It's impossible! You can't please all of the people, all of the time. =p So, I don't bother to! If my stories hurt or offend...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jan 3, 2009

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