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I Am Through With Trying to Please Everyone

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    I Give Up

    I'm so tried of trying to please everyone that I know.  I go out of my way and create more stress for myself just trying to make other people happy and its never good enough.  I just want to weep because of this frustration.  No matter what I do its never good...
    kayislandgirl kayislandgirl 22-25 3 Responses Jan 2, 2009

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    Trying To Please Everyone

    Trying to please everyone,I'm true with it,Need a life,Time to be me,Not everyone else!
    startinover1 startinover1 46-50 2 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    No More Worrying

     After struggling with my sexual orientation and depression for so many years while tying to make others happy, I've come to grasp the fact that I don't NEED to please everybody. I like being who I am, and I'm growing more comfortable with it every day I start to turn...
    filthydieseltech filthydieseltech 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 20, 2009

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    It is nearly impossible to please everyone

    and even though I try my best to be considerate to others, they don't appreciate my generosity. I'm not asking for acknowledgement from everyone but for them to let me be able to make myself happy sometimes. No one can make you happy but yourself and if you're constantly trying...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 17, 2014

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    I Learn To Say No

    I used to do things just to please family, close friends and relatives even if I hate doing it, just to keep them happy. But I realized that I lost myself in the process and whatever I do it's never enough for them. I was treated like a doormat. Now with the support of my husband...
    aussiering aussiering 31-35 2 Responses Dec 13, 2010

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    Why the Hell Would I???

    im done, trying to please everyone else got me no where. i waisted time and money. yah im a douche. now that im me i have time for things i actually like to do. not ice fishing. i was f**king dumb..who the hell does that just for someone else. the old me. i have time to paint and...
    helentheripper14 helentheripper14 18-21, F Jun 1, 2008

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    That Is What Made Me So Unhappy

    I wanted to make everybody happy. In the process, I made myself unhappy, because there were always some who were miserable, and no matter how hard I tried I couldn't please them.In both my personal life and my business, I was trying to please everyone. Once I stopped trying, I...
    Serenitree Serenitree 70+, F 2 Responses Oct 15, 2012

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    GarrettYdoom GarrettYdoom 18-21, M Nov 18, 2014

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    I've Had Enough

    I've had enough,Trying to please everyone,What about me?Need a break,Bugger it!Today,I'm taking for myself.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket 46-50, M 1 Response Feb 1, 2012

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    What?

    What do you want me to do? Say sugar coated things to fulfill your petty needs?
    LightlySaltedSalmon LightlySaltedSalmon 18-21, F Aug 15, 2013

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    I Realized It Now...

    I realized it now that so many things I had done in the past to try pleasing everyone around me. Why? Probably because I did not believe in myself. I sought validation from others on what my personality was. I thought I would be a bad person if they said so. Or I would be a...
    LifeApprentice LifeApprentice 26-30, M 3 Responses Nov 25, 2007

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    Aesop's Fable: “the Man, The Boy, And The Donkey”

    I’ve always liked this story as it perfectly conveys how it's just not possible to please all the people. Some people keep trying and trying but you inevitably wind up miserable yourself. A Man and his son went to market with their Donkey. As they were walking a countryman...
    2Buddies 2Buddies 46-50, M 5 Responses Oct 3, 2010

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    I Don't Try

    I know and clearly understand, that I can't please everyone.  Why Try!  I have to please myself first.  Is this selfish?  I don't think so.  I can still be generous, loving, giving and pleasing to others, without denying myself.
    PeedeeDog PeedeeDog 66-70 5 Responses Nov 24, 2008

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    If I Tried...

    I'd probably develop multiple personality disorder and have to change my name to Sybil.
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Feb 13, 2009

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    This Moment In Time

    I do not think everyone expects me to please him or her. Honestly, I take it upon myself to do so. Sometimes, I overwhelm myself with everything I am trying to accomplish and life gets chaotic. I am not really through with trying to please those around me. It is better for me...
    PrecariousMe PrecariousMe 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 28, 2011

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    Over It...

    What a mistake, I spent a lot of time trying to please everyone, especially my family and people that I have to deal with on a continual basis but I'm over that ****. You're damned if you do and damned if you don't. I know the core issue of what started me acting that way but it...
    simpothing simpothing 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 19, 2011

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    I Am Through

    I've always been this way, I tried pleasing everyone no matter what and reality, there's not such things as pleasing everybody cause pleasing every person is not common sense or real.  There will always be a few who will oppose in everything that you-we do or say.  Before, I...
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F Aug 24, 2011

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    It Does You No Good

    I have learned the hard that you cannot always make others happy. For years I have put myself before everyone. Why do I do this. I have no idea, i guess I don't want others to think I don't care. But whatever now, now I am all about what is going to make me happy and push those...
    GothicXCupcake GothicXCupcake 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 22, 2011

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    Forever!

    I am a worrier by nature. I used to worry about pleasing everyone, no matter who they were or how important they were in my life. Not anymore. I guess with age came this "I-just-don't-care" attitude. Now I do what I want, and if other people have a problem with it, they can stay...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 24, 2010

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    Been Done With It!

    I use to try to please everyone... and sometimes I do find myself falling back into that pattern, from time to time. But honestly, it can't be done! It's impossible! You can't please all of the people, all of the time. =p So, I don't bother to! If my stories hurt or offend...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 3, 2009

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    Done, Done, Done.

    i have always cared what others thought. i would try to please everyone and keep them happy with me. i tried to win their approval and love. we'll i'm done with it. i don't need them. i need me! i need my own love and approval. forget about everyone else. how they feel is their...
    angelwings1998 angelwings1998 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 30, 2011

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    I used to try to please everyone, and still for the most part still do. . .but I got tired of the feeling like I need to hide who I am. It gets confusing though, because when I was...
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    I can not go back to yesterday ,because I was different person then .Yes,the past can hurt .We always live in regret ,things you did or things you failed to ...The older you are...
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    RebekahWriter13 RebekahWriter13 31-35, F Apr 30

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    Part Two. Consider this.. It is not to try to make anyone comply to how I feel. It is merely to enlighten you on what (I feel) is a better way. As I said in part one. What...
    Babeondwy Babeondwy 41-45, F May 2

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    I am at a crossroads, in other words "stuck". I have this opportunity coming up but I don't want to take it since I don't want to do that job anymore, or maybe it's the place. I'm...
    grrrey grrrey 22-25, F May 4

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    But it's their choice to sound awfully ignorant, though they could have done better with trying to open up more of their minds. Some people just prefer being plain narrow.
    arcticxcx arcticxcx 13-15, F 1 Response May 8

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    I should have posted this months ago. *kicks self* Anyway this is another thing I wanted to share. This is for those of you that want to actually see the character you are in love...
    DreamsAreReal1 DreamsAreReal1 16-17, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I think back to friends I had in high school and before that even, and after we graduated we drifted apart but stayed Facebook friends. I used to care that we weren't close anymore...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 6 days ago

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    Im done with life and everyone around....I cant do this **** no more I'm sick of it
    tianalovesher tianalovesher 18-21, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Ive been so confused and indenial on how my boyfriend treats me, i have tried to enf our relationship plentt of times, but could never go through with it. I dont know if i should...
    dfe213 dfe213 18-21, F May 13

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    Okay so he is 42 and I am 23, I am in University, he is my thesis teacher and married to his 2nd wife (with whom he cheated on his first wife, with whom he in turn also has 2 kids...
    kyradiesel kyradiesel 22-25, F 2 Responses May 18

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    i would swallow my pride,choke on the rine,spit it out and nothing but faith and nothing.wanna put my tender heart in a blinder ,watch it spin around to a beautiful oblivian,now i...
    country98 country98 16-17, M 4 days ago

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    I was with nathan for almost 2 years. i was the happiest i had ever been. then we both started getting into drugs. we started smoking weed every day. after a few months of...
    CasperIsHungry CasperIsHungry 18-21, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    It's funny how people around me keep on trying to convince me that I'm actually sad and lonely and that I'm trying to cover it up with a bright smile, when I'm not. I'm not sad and...
    bentorejects bentorejects 18-21, F 7 hrs ago

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    masquerade of masked creatures preserve innocence..the humanity infected cradles soothing you in delusions the only thing is left is the illusion of humanity clones pretending...
    anotherclone anotherclone 26-30, M 27 mins ago

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    PLEASE stop the adds here that pop up between questions, stories,.. They are everywhere. I am sure money is involved in it, but please, it's annoying for us, or at least for me...
    AngelicLights AngelicLights 26-30, F 1 hr ago

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    So i wanted to share my experience with you guys in order to help you in case you are confused about what to do about this feeling. I'm 18 years old and completely, fully, madly in...
    AlexaER AlexaER 18-21, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    On this subject, a certain poster (along with friends of hers) continues to malign me, and when I challenge her claims, she deletes them. So, as the original thread is much too...
    PYWACKET PYWACKET 61-65, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Life is a bitter sweet pill I am forced to take against my will Everyone trying to pull me Back into so called reality Why, I ask, what does it hold? Don't they see I have nothing...
    1986shanet 1986shanet 26-30, M May 5

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    This is my go-to song when I am down or things just get to be too much: LADY ANTEBELLUM One Day You Will Lyrics You feel like you're falling backwards Like you're slippin...
    SoConflicted233 SoConflicted233 46-50, F 10 hrs ago

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