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I Am Through With Trying to Please Everyone

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    I Give Up

    I'm so tried of trying to please everyone that I know.  I go out of my way and create more stress for myself just trying to make other people happy and its never good enough.  I just want to weep because of this frustration.  No matter what I do its never good...
    kayislandgirl kayislandgirl 22-25 3 Responses Jan 2, 2009

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    I Learn To Say No

    I used to do things just to please family, close friends and relatives even if I hate doing it, just to keep them happy. But I realized that I lost myself in the process and whatever I do it's never enough for them. I was treated like a doormat. Now with the support of my husband...
    aussiering aussiering 31-35 2 Responses Dec 13, 2010

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    GarrettYdoom GarrettYdoom 18-21, M Nov 18, 2014

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    Lost myself trying to please everyone else

    now im losing everyone while i find myself .
    desistories desistories 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 6

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    It Does You No Good

    I have learned the hard that you cannot always make others happy. For years I have put myself before everyone. Why do I do this. I have no idea, i guess I don't want others to think I don't care. But whatever now, now I am all about what is going to make me happy and push those...
    GothicXCupcake GothicXCupcake 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 22, 2011

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    Over It...

    What a mistake, I spent a lot of time trying to please everyone, especially my family and people that I have to deal with on a continual basis but I'm over that ****. You're damned if you do and damned if you don't. I know the core issue of what started me acting that way but it...
    simpothing simpothing 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 19, 2011

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    Done, Done, Done.

    i have always cared what others thought. i would try to please everyone and keep them happy with me. i tried to win their approval and love. we'll i'm done with it. i don't need them. i need me! i need my own love and approval. forget about everyone else. how they feel is their...
    angelwings1998 angelwings1998 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 30, 2011

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    I Don't Try

    I know and clearly understand, that I can't please everyone.  Why Try!  I have to please myself first.  Is this selfish?  I don't think so.  I can still be generous, loving, giving and pleasing to others, without denying myself.
    PeedeeDog PeedeeDog 66-70 5 Responses Nov 24, 2008

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    I Am Through

    I've always been this way, I tried pleasing everyone no matter what and reality, there's not such things as pleasing everybody cause pleasing every person is not common sense or real.  There will always be a few who will oppose in everything that you-we do or say.  Before, I...
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F Aug 24, 2011

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    ugh., my friend just randomly stopped liking me

    and started being a jerk. then to top it he decided to be even more of a **** by trying to get everyone to stop hanging with me. like, **** you buddy, you and whoever chooses to go with him are ******** that i dont want to be friends with. thankfully only one or two friends...
    spulunky spulunky 13-15, M 2 Responses Jul 6

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    That Is What Made Me So Unhappy

    I wanted to make everybody happy. In the process, I made myself unhappy, because there were always some who were miserable, and no matter how hard I tried I couldn't please them.In both my personal life and my business, I was trying to please everyone. Once I stopped trying, I...
    Serenitree Serenitree 70+, F 2 Responses Oct 15, 2012

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    This Moment In Time

    I do not think everyone expects me to please him or her. Honestly, I take it upon myself to do so. Sometimes, I overwhelm myself with everything I am trying to accomplish and life gets chaotic. I am not really through with trying to please those around me. It is better for me...
    PrecariousMe PrecariousMe 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 28, 2011

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    What?

    What do you want me to do? Say sugar coated things to fulfill your petty needs?
    LightlySaltedSalmon LightlySaltedSalmon 18-21, F Aug 15, 2013

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    Forever!

    I am a worrier by nature. I used to worry about pleasing everyone, no matter who they were or how important they were in my life. Not anymore. I guess with age came this "I-just-don't-care" attitude. Now I do what I want, and if other people have a problem with it, they can stay...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 24, 2010

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    I've Had Enough

    I've had enough,Trying to please everyone,What about me?Need a break,Bugger it!Today,I'm taking for myself.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket 46-50, M 1 Response Feb 1, 2012

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    No More Worrying

     After struggling with my sexual orientation and depression for so many years while tying to make others happy, I've come to grasp the fact that I don't NEED to please everybody. I like being who I am, and I'm growing more comfortable with it every day I start to turn...
    filthydieseltech filthydieseltech 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 20, 2009

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    Trying To Please Everyone

    Trying to please everyone,I'm true with it,Need a life,Time to be me,Not everyone else!
    startinover1 startinover1 46-50 2 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Why the Hell Would I???

    im done, trying to please everyone else got me no where. i waisted time and money. yah im a douche. now that im me i have time for things i actually like to do. not ice fishing. i was f**king dumb..who the hell does that just for someone else. the old me. i have time to paint and...
    helentheripper14 helentheripper14 18-21, F Jun 1, 2008

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    Been Done With It!

    I use to try to please everyone... and sometimes I do find myself falling back into that pattern, from time to time. But honestly, it can't be done! It's impossible! You can't please all of the people, all of the time. =p So, I don't bother to! If my stories hurt or offend...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 3, 2009

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    Aesop's Fable: “the Man, The Boy, And The Donkey”

    I’ve always liked this story as it perfectly conveys how it's just not possible to please all the people. Some people keep trying and trying but you inevitably wind up miserable yourself. A Man and his son went to market with their Donkey. As they were walking a countryman...
    2Buddies 2Buddies 46-50, M 5 Responses Oct 3, 2010

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    I Realized It Now...

    I realized it now that so many things I had done in the past to try pleasing everyone around me. Why? Probably because I did not believe in myself. I sought validation from others on what my personality was. I thought I would be a bad person if they said so. Or I would be a...
    LifeApprentice LifeApprentice 26-30, M 3 Responses Nov 25, 2007

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    I get tired of this. I have a life.

    I have friends. I HAVE CHILDREN and a family. I will not drop everything to talk to a person that is not any of the above and people that get mad about this have no place in my life anyway. believe it or not, I am just a random person on the internet. Random people on the...
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 6

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    It is nearly impossible to please everyone

    and even though I try my best to be considerate to others, they don't appreciate my generosity. I'm not asking for acknowledgement from everyone but for them to let me be able to make myself happy sometimes. No one can make you happy but yourself and if you're constantly trying...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 17, 2014

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    Holding in all my anger

    and frustrations to my family just isn't enough is it? I'm supposed to not show any negativity.. And yet I don't, so idk why they're all on my case and just blaming all the things on me, I don't bother them.. Sorry about the rants
    DoorMattress DoorMattress 13-15, M 1 Response Jul 7

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    If I Tried...

    I'd probably develop multiple personality disorder and have to change my name to Sybil.
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Feb 13, 2009

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    sometimes we misunderstand each other we all

    are the same we should respect each other sometimes we are scared
    Wolfbloodgirl0123 Wolfbloodgirl0123 13-15, F Jul 7

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    You just want everyone to be happy.

    .. But you get it thrown back in your face like it's your fault their upset. Or you do little jobs for people or pay for stuff for them and when you need something it's to much. You stay up all night with them trying to comfort them over something that happened and when your...
    AskingAllTimeHorizon AskingAllTimeHorizon 13-15, F Jul 7

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