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I Am Tired of Being the "Other Woman"

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    alright ladies. I am gonna attempt to end my

    addiction ...yet again. Its been four years running.. the first step is ending communication right. I can do this. I have blocked his emails.. awwwh how the anxiety kicks in.
    kelyse2506 kelyse2506 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 5

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    How Do I Walk Away??

    10 years ago I met the man of my dreams. He was everything I ever dreamed of but never thought existed. Within 6 months I was head over heels in love with him. We were together every day and I was on cloud nine. About a year into the relationship he said he was going away with...
    Tmc1212 Tmc1212 31-35 3 Responses Nov 14, 2011

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    *update* London based Research... Are You Interested?

    Following my previous posts about research regarding the other woman I am now conducting a quick survey which i would be grateful if you could take a few minutes to complete: Survey: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/BHLJ52X Also, for any other women/men who were or are interested...
    EmmaResearch EmmaResearch 22-25 Jun 14, 2012

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    London based Research... Are You Interested?

    NB: I am carrying out some UK based research. You might be interested in taking part? Are you having an affair? Are you the other woman? Do you feel that you have been misrepresented? My name is Emma and I am a trainee counselling psychologist, completing my doctorate at...
    EmmaResearch EmmaResearch 22-25 Jan 2, 2011

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    This is the actual e-mail I have sent to him

    just now: I can't even talk to you about this. I'm about to break. Please explain to me what are you doing? It makes me feel like you are both hiding my existence from others and also hiding yourself from me. It's not fair, J. It's very hard to believe you are actually...
    highnlow highnlow 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 16

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    dropdeadwilma dropdeadwilma 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 29

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    This Is Killing Me

    I met him almost 3 years ago and it was love at first sight for both of us.  He was everything I ever wanted in a man and so much more.  Several months into our relationship, I found out his divorce wasn't final and a few months later, after doing some digging (didn't...
    stupidone stupidone 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 10, 2009

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    Haven't been on here in a

    while glad I'm back and reading a lot of post It's been almost 2 yrs with e.m ( engaged man) So much drama , pain, regret, guilt , anger, resentment I lost my job ( where we worked together) and was so devastated for a few months , slowly we both began losing contact and...
    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 21

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    Me 2

    last night may 8th me & my friend taylor we had 3 some with my boyfriend he had $ex longer her 1 night than me in 3 years i know him. i wish i was my friend taylor he have more $ex with me. he gave her cream pie she share cream pie with me.  new details about something happen...
    Amanda365 Amanda365 22-25, F 1 Response May 9, 2013

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    I always told myself

    that I would never be involved with someone who was already taken. But 7 months I was involved with my co/worker who already had a girlfriend. It was just supposed to be a one time thing, but he kept on coming back. Finally he told me we could no longer see each other anymore...
    Lad1531 Lad1531 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 7

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    Tired Being Other Women....

    I have been the other women for 3year, sept 3 of this year... I am getting tired of it,  this man seems to enjoy this situation.
    darlenenelson44 darlenenelson44 41-45, F 12 Responses Sep 8, 2009

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    London based Research... Are You Interested?

    NB: I am carrying out some UK based research. You might be interested in taking part? Are you having an affair? Are you the other woman? Do you feel that you have been misrepresented? My name is Emma and I am a trainee counselling psychologist, completing my doctorate at City...
    EmmaResearch EmmaResearch 22-25 Jun 2, 2011

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    Nothing Serious: The Escape

    I will never leave my Husband for him And he will never leave his wife for me And I am perfectly fine with it I don't really want him... I know it will never work... And I don't really want to live with him. I can't see myself with him Yet I have this guilty pleasure Yearning...
    indigowitch indigowitch 22-25, F Oct 7, 2012

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    Letting you go has been a slow process

    but I know it in my blood - the worst part is over. On Dec 31, 2013 I told myself that exactly one year from then, I would not be in the same place. I'm keeping that promise. I didn't choose to fall for you at all, much less this deeply. We didn't choose to find this. I don't...
    celticwarrior96 celticwarrior96 36-40, F Apr 9

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    Still There...

    I am a 14-year-old girl so you can probably see how this wouldn't be a normal situation. I met this boy a few years ago and he became my best friend. Me and his other best friend had a relashionship which was kind of okward later on. The situation is afew months ago i went on his...
    justateen justateen 13-15, F Jan 4, 2010

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    I love my mm so very much.

    But there are times when he pulls away and I am sick of the games. I know it would be better to be without him. But I just cant seem to let go. Our relationship has been six-years and it is a hard habit to break. When he is being attentive he is wonderful. when he gets off...
    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 1

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    London based Research... Are You Interested?

    NB: I am carrying out some London, UK based research. You might be interested in taking part? Are you having an affair? Are you the other woman? Do you feel that you have been misrepresented? My name is Emma and I am a trainee counselling psychologist, completing my doctorate...
    EmmaResearch EmmaResearch 22-25 Sep 2, 2011

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    The OW

    need help ending an affair, I have been with my MM for 12mths, we work together and I see him everyday. He tells me he loves me but doesn't want to leave his wife cause she may do harm to herself. every time I end it which is nearly every month he bombards me with txt, emails...
    roorooey roorooey 36-40 6 Responses Apr 13, 2013

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    So I didn't see him last night decided it

    wasn't worth the gas , he needs to realize I'm not a second choice he doesn't know it or fully understand it yet but I'm gone for good and I don't feel bad about it atleast not right now
    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 24

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    I am his wife but yet I feel like I'm the other

    woman. It's about to be two months since I gave the hubby an ultimatum his family or this other woman. As I suspected he choose her, so many were suggesting for me to do this for the longest believing this will awaken him from the affair fog, the very thing I feared came true. I...
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 13

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    Will The Pain Stop.....? :-(

    My affair hasn't been going on that long but it seems like an eternity. Our relationship is a long distance relationship, he is married as am I. He has kids, I don't. We met  in August this year when I travelled interstate for work and visited staff in one of our company's...
    amay10 amay10 31-35, F 9 Responses Dec 6, 2009

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    Support Group In Manhattan Anyone?

    i know it sounds INSANE to develop a support group for "the other women" - women in affairs, in love with married men. It was a poor choice in the first place, i know it, we all do. some of us didn't even know they were taken. now they promise the world. promise to tear apart...
    muchagem muchagem 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2013

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    I'm new here. I recently made the decision to

    uproot my life and move far away from my MM. I just got tired of dealing with it all. His broken promises, his lies.....everything! It didn't help that we worked for the same company. Now I'm in my new place and I find that we're still talking over the phone with much more of...
    movingon2014 movingon2014 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 29

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    The Secret F#@k

    For the last 7 years, I've had 5 relationships with married men, or men in committed relationships. At first it wad because I was so afraid of getting hurt, I knew they would never leave, so I was safe, I was hooking up with several guys, they knew I was seeing others but they...
    Gaelynthewicked Gaelynthewicked 46-50 4 Responses Mar 27, 2012

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    Deleted his number as taken me out of his phone.

    feeling sick about it.he mocks me because I'm in love with him and it hurts says I'm acting like a 15 year old not 50.im upset hes taken my number out of his home after 2 years.im now living with someone who I don't love and my life is spiralling out of control.i want councelling...
    Pommy8 Pommy8 51-55, F 1 Response Aug 13

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    I Just Want To Move Forward!

    Me and my MM have been together now for 3 years.  I have been divorced for a year and he is still married.  I dont doubt his love at all. He pays my house rent, my dstv and is slowly but surely buying furniture for us.  Every night he comes to say good night and...
    Kiep Kiep 36-40, F 8 Responses Nov 13, 2010

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    This Is Killing Me

    I met him almost 3 years ago and it was love at first sight for both of us.  He was everything I ever wanted in a man and so much more.  Several months into our relationship, I found out his divorce wasn't final and a few months later, after doing some digging (didn't...
    stupidone stupidone 46-50, F 4 Responses Nov 10, 2009

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    I have a stressful job

    so when I say I am stressed that means I am unusually so. Lately, my hair is falling, I sleep lesser hours, my skin is dry and my hyperacidity is acting up. This double life is not helping and I so want to get out of it. For years I have been with my MM. It is ideal in a lot...
    ScarletSilk ScarletSilk 36-40, F Aug 14

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    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F 1 Response May 5

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    He Snuck In Under The Wire!

    We started out as friends. I knew his family, wife, kids, freinds... One day I realized that I was looking forward to seeing him. I thought he would go away and then he kissed me. Its been 2.5 years and he calles me every night. Not Saturday or Sunday. He comes to see me about...
    redjr47 redjr47 56-60 2 Responses Mar 5, 2012

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    New And Don't Know What To Do

    I've been seeing this guy...let's call him Mr. B...for about a month.  I think it's too soon to have "the talk" but I don't know.  Our story...we met a while ago.  He came into my work...we chatted...then went our seperate ways.  A while passed...
    L80olivia L80olivia 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 30, 2009

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    How did I get myself in a mixed up

    relationship ? Better yet how do I get out of it ?? Please help me. . I have been the other woman for a year and a half. I would have never thought this would be me . I hate being this woman but I have totally fallen in love with this man as he has fallen in love with me . I...
    Islandfishinggirl Islandfishinggirl 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 26

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    Is anyone sick and tired of friends

    who don't understand? Friends who, at this point, flat out call you stupid for still loving/being with a MM? They don't understand. I don't know why I still try to make them understand, and why I keep expecting them to?! They will never get it.
    celticwarrior96 celticwarrior96 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 23

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    I always afraid about being 'other woman',

    you know love makes people so stupid.. Hopefully ive never been the other woman and yes i really like innocent part of love ...
    fauxlady fauxlady 22-25, F Sep 1

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    He fell asleep here last night

    after one thing lead to another. I hope she feels the way I did the many nights he pulled this very same thing with me. So many makes it seems as if this is okay, wonder how it feels now that the shoe is on the other foot? Because now he is only doing to her what he was doing...
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 19

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    Related Experiences

    Whoever posted this the other day, I want to let you know that you saved a marriage. I printed it out for my MM and gave it to him yesterday. I knew in my heart that it would...
    Breeze62 Breeze62 51-55, F 5 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I joined I am the other woman group but it's one big pity party. I believe in honesty to others and myself. The other man or woman ever wonder why you are? To cheat the cheater...
    vampirish vampirish 46-50, F 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    There are so many women on here that profess to be "the other woman", that stocks of "the woman" must be running short. I think that's why I can't find a date. Damn!!!
    brianwatson1 brianwatson1 22-25, M 9 hrs ago

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    We haven't even met in person yet... I'm new here, so I'll just launch right in. I'm having a lot of trouble dealing with these "other woman" rules. I've been here before, but I...
    Ahmazing Ahmazing 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I blocked and reported Honesty899, for using racial slurs and name calling. I think many of you should do the same. This is suppose to be a safe place for members to share and get...
    Inherownwords Inherownwords 31-35, F 19 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Ok so this post is intended to a dear friend that is a part of our EP family....They will know immediately its intended for them once they read this....and honestly I want him to...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 10

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    What a day! So we met for about 6 hours in his city. We walked around the harbour, had lunch over the river and lay on the grass in a park under the sun. Perfection. We talked...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 7

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    Last night was our monthly Retrouvaille support group (called CORE) for marriage meeting. Summary, for anyone new to this part of EP, we are over a year since I discovered his...
    lillynfriends lillynfriends 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 8

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    Men who lack the courage to leave This is not directed at other women who seduce married men, nor women who have their own personal reasons for a limited sexual relationship with...
    QueenFL QueenFL 41-45, F 11 Responses 4 days ago

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    Ok do I'm new to all this and I'm not sure what all the abbreviations stand for....I know OW is other woman....but please tell me what all the others stand for and what they are...
    Cagirlie Cagirlie 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    You ask yourself why he seems sad, after the affair, and think it's because he misses being with you. That he doesn't feel love and attention from her like you gave him. Or that...
    proulxfam proulxfam 31-35 Aug 24

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    So my story is a little different. It's a long one but please stay with me. He is married but I'm also engaged. I've been with my fiancé for 6 years now and I met my MM a little...
    AriLenni14 AriLenni14 22-25, F 5 Responses Sep 9

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    I think....I think I was on a bus the first time the reality of the situation hit me. I was on my way to see him, an d the sense of overwhelming sadness encased me. Had I really...
    SleepyHead2123 SleepyHead2123 18-21 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    My MM came to my job to see me yesterday. It took so much out of me to hold up the tears. I love him so much but how can I forgive him. The trust is gone if he loves me, wants me...
    4everhislady 4everhislady 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 19

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    Today I feel like was kind of a setback, but I guess not all days can be progress. I think I also said a couple stupid things. I should probably run more things by the OWs on here...
    wakeupdead wakeupdead 26-30, M 2 Responses Aug 27

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