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I Am Tired of Being the "Other Woman"

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    He Snuck In Under The Wire! - We started out as friends. I knew his family, wife, kids, freinds... One day I realized that I was looking forward to seeing him. I thought he would...
    redjr47 redjr47 56-60 2 Responses Mar 5, 2012

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    This Is Killing Me - I met him almost 3 years ago and it was love at first sight for both of us.  He was everything I ever wanted in a man and so much more.  Several...
    stupidone stupidone 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 10, 2009

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    I am his wife but yet I feel like I'm the other woman. It's about to be two months since I gave the hubby an ultimatum his family or this other woman. As I suspected he choose her...
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Support Group In Manhattan Anyone? - i know it sounds INSANE to develop a support group for "the other women" - women in affairs, in love with married men. It was a poor choice in...
    muchagem muchagem 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2013

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    I Just Want To Move Forward! - Me and my MM have been together now for 3 years.  I have been divorced for a year and he is still married.  I dont doubt his love at all...
    Kiep Kiep 36-40, F 8 Responses Nov 13, 2010

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    The OW - need help ending an affair, I have been with my MM for 12mths, we work together and I see him everyday. He tells me he loves me but doesn't want to leave his wife cause...
    roorooey roorooey 36-40 7 Responses Apr 13, 2013

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    Letting you go has been a slow process but I know it in my blood - the worst part is over. On Dec 31, 2013 I told myself that exactly one year from then, I would not be in the same...
    celticwarrior96 celticwarrior96 36-40, F 6 days ago

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    I think going to take an art class. I need to find myself again. This affair has ruined my self esteem and pride. I believe I've allowed all this to occur because I don't value...
    lee1898 lee1898 36-40, F 23 Responses Mar 10

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    This Is Killing Me - I met him almost 3 years ago and it was love at first sight for both of us.  He was everything I ever wanted in a man and so much more.  Several...
    stupidone stupidone 46-50, F 4 Responses Nov 10, 2009

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    New And Don't Know What To Do - I've been seeing this guy...let's call him Mr. B...for about a month.  I think it's too soon to have "the talk" but I don't know...
    L80olivia L80olivia 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 30, 2009

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    Will The Pain Stop.....? :-( - My affair hasn't been going on that long but it seems like an eternity. Our relationship is a long distance relationship, he is married as am I. He...
    amay10 amay10 31-35, F 9 Responses Dec 6, 2009

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    London based Research... Are You Interested? - NB: I am carrying out some London, UK based research. You might be interested in taking part? Are you having an affair? Are you the...
    EmmaResearch EmmaResearch 22-25 Sep 2, 2011

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    Well I'm free. Not exactly from my own accord. I found out my MM was chatting with someone else. I promptly kicked him out of my house. I will never put myself in a crazy...
    lee1898 lee1898 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 21

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    *update* London based Research... Are You Interested? - Following my previous posts about research regarding the other woman I am now conducting a quick survey which i would be...
    EmmaResearch EmmaResearch 22-25 Jun 14, 2012

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    lovedandadored lovedandadored 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 14

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    How Do I Walk Away?? - 10 years ago I met the man of my dreams. He was everything I ever dreamed of but never thought existed. Within 6 months I was head over heels in love with...
    Tmc1212 Tmc1212 31-35 3 Responses Nov 14, 2011

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    Me 2 - last night may 8th me & my friend taylor we had 3 some with my boyfriend he had $ex longer her 1 night than me in 3 years i know him. i wish i was my friend taylor he have...
    Amanda365 Amanda365 22-25, F 1 Response May 9, 2013

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    They are separated. I have a little pang of joy when they argue. I feel bad feeling happy about their arguing. That's not in my nature. This whole situation is not in my...
    lee1898 lee1898 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 12

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    London based Research... Are You Interested? - NB: I am carrying out some UK based research. You might be interested in taking part? Are you having an affair? Are you the other...
    EmmaResearch EmmaResearch 22-25 Jun 2, 2011

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    He called me last night. I wanted to be strong but I wasn't - so I answered. I found out that his wife and him are seeing the same therapist - separately not marriage counseling...
    lee1898 lee1898 36-40, F 9 Responses Mar 11

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    I always told myself that I would never be involved with someone who was already taken. But 7 months I was involved with my co/worker who already had a girlfriend. It was just...
    Lad1531 Lad1531 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 7

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    The Secret F#@k - For the last 7 years, I've had 5 relationships with married men, or men in committed relationships. At first it wad because I was so afraid of getting hurt, I...
    Gaelynthewicked Gaelynthewicked 46-50 4 Responses Mar 27, 2012

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    London based Research... Are You Interested? - NB: I am carrying out some UK based research. You might be interested in taking part? Are you having an affair? Are you the other...
    EmmaResearch EmmaResearch 22-25 Jan 2, 2011

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    Tired Being Other Women.... - I have been the other women for 3year, sept 3 of this year... I am getting tired of it,  this man seems to enjoy this situation.
    darlenenelson44 darlenenelson44 41-45, F 11 Responses Sep 8, 2009

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    Hello ladies...hello Chelsea ;) ...a little birdie told me there was a pretty good discussion going on....so i wanted to contribute...but couldn't top my post from last year....so...
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    Recently, I have found my self in the position of being, somewhat, the other woman. The man I am "with" is my first boyfriend and my first love. We had dated for 6 years before I...
    cowgurrl cowgurrl 22-25, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    So I am new to this site.... Had to find a way to talk about everything I am going thru... So I am involved with a man that has been in a relationship with another woman for 13...
    Jlynn1424 Jlynn1424 22-25, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am his wife but yet I feel like I'm the other woman. It's about to be two months since I gave the hubby an ultimatum his family or this other woman. As I suspected he choose her...
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am missing my guy so much tonight! I haven't seen him since Wednesday and don't get me wrong I loved my long weekend with my kids but they're with their dad tonight so now it's...
    GenieH22 GenieH22 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 30

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    So basically, i have recently reconnected with my ex and although the love and the passion is still there between, he is now involved in a new relationship with some other woman...
    CountryGirl028 CountryGirl028 26-30, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Preservation Week. Day 1 I think being the other woman is one of the hardest role anyone can ever be in. After two weeks of being spoiled, getting constant attention from my MM...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 22-25, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am uncontrollably in love with a boy in my Uni, I am not the sort of person that is like this but there is something about him that I can't put my finger on but I love him so...
    rebeccaanon rebeccaanon 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 18

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    I was the other woman for more than 2 years. When I read the posts in “I am the other woman” experiences, I feel for all of you and it reminds how miserable I was. How the...
    CantatriceChauve CantatriceChauve 31-35, F 6 Responses Mar 31

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    I am thinking about ending my affair. I want to end it as amicably as possible. I've been in it for over six months and I can't go on like this forever. I've put aside my morals...
    LaMestiza LaMestiza 31-35, F 7 Responses Mar 17

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    So I dated my ex for only a few months two years ago. My love for him has only grown stronger. After we broke up we were on and off hooking up being friends or completely not...
    loveisreal12 loveisreal12 18-21, F Mar 24

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    I feel like I'm on a rollercoaster, when he's around I am on cloud nine but as soon as he leaves I crumble. Clearly this isn't healthy.. but I do not want to give him up. I hate...
    sleeplesssecretary sleeplesssecretary 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    I hate being the "other woman".. Knowing that I will never come first in his life and I will always be second. Sometimes I feel like I'm being used. He just wants his cake and he...
    Bellllaaaxox Bellllaaaxox 18-21, F 9 Responses 5 days ago

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    I told him how today made me feel. I was completely honest, against some of you gorgeous ladies advice. I told him today had made me feel insecure and needy, something I haven't...
    hayleysusannah hayleysusannah 18-21, F 9 Responses 2 days ago

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    Right now I appreciate allot of the comments from the other women who are supportive of other women. I am both the other woman and wife. I am out as the other woman because he got...
    christinehart christinehart 56-60, F 5 Responses Mar 20

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    Question(s): Why are you "the other woman"? What is it like? Is it a proud title? What do you think of "the main woman"? And why are you given the title of "the other woman"- why...
    Nottobeohsoblunt Nottobeohsoblunt 16-17, F 9 Responses 2 days ago

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    OK Saturday was totally awesome. The few hours together we so great. Just when I think I cant go on being the other woman, a day like that comes and I am totally ok with it...
    vwilliams69 vwilliams69 41-45, F 8 Responses Apr 7

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    My place as the other woman hits me hard in the face tonight. He planned on being here tomorrow morning but just sent me a text that it will not work. I told him it is okay even...
    Lost4him2 Lost4him2 26-30 5 Responses a week ago

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    I hope I've blocked enough trolls so I can repost this from a story I wrote for "I am Married and having an affair" without getting run over the coals. But then I can always delete...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 10 Responses Mar 16

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    I just don't know where else to pour my heart out. I am in love with my best friend of 10 years. He professed his love and claimed that he's been in love for at least half of the...
    whatnow2288 whatnow2288 31-35 1 Response Apr 7

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    How did I get back here? I think I may be a self sabotaging sadist. I don't want to be the other woman. I want to be the only woman. I know he has no relationship with her...
    L0nelyGirl L0nelyGirl 31-35, F 9 Responses Mar 25

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    Been the other woman for 3 years now, and I love this guy, but during the first year I got to know about his 3 year retaliations hip with his woman, he keep pulling me back when I...
    mrij mrij 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 19

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    I have been reading here for the past couple of weeks and understand how some of you feel - my heart goes out to you. I never thought that I would ever be the other woman but I am...
    SF5612 SF5612 46-50 4 Responses Mar 19

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    I responded to someone's post about why we cheat....I wanted to re share my answer and see how you all feel.... Sometimes married people change. The marriage changes. One or both...
    sunflowah sunflowah 36-40, F 8 Responses Mar 23

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    I come here to share my experience and listen to others. If you come here to judge or spread hate, I think all of us should make a pledge to just delete these comments. Don't...
    sunflowah sunflowah 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 23

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    I just want to say, that I may possibly be the exception to he rule. I was the other woman for a year. I'm not proud of it, but it happened. My MM told me he was going to end...
    sunflowah sunflowah 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 25

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    Hi there, I have been the other woman to a guy for the past five and a half years. We were friends before than but when my previous relationship ended and I lost my baby son he...
    Rook17 Rook17 51-55 4 Responses Mar 27