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I Am Tired of Being the "Other Woman"

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    So I didn't see him last night decided it

    wasn't worth the gas , he needs to realize I'm not a second choice he doesn't know it or fully understand it yet but I'm gone for good and I don't feel bad about it atleast not right now
    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 24

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    This is the actual e-mail I have sent to him

    just now: I can't even talk to you about this. I'm about to break. Please explain to me what are you doing? It makes me feel like you are both hiding my existence from others and also hiding yourself from me. It's not fair, J. It's very hard to believe you are actually...
    highnlow highnlow 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 16

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    Is anyone sick and tired of friends

    who don't understand? Friends who, at this point, flat out call you stupid for still loving/being with a MM? They don't understand. I don't know why I still try to make them understand, and why I keep expecting them to?! They will never get it.
    celticwarrior96 celticwarrior96 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 23

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    He fell asleep here last night

    after one thing lead to another. I hope she feels the way I did the many nights he pulled this very same thing with me. So many makes it seems as if this is okay, wonder how it feels now that the shoe is on the other foot? Because now he is only doing to her what he was doing...
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 19

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    This Is Killing Me

    I met him almost 3 years ago and it was love at first sight for both of us.  He was everything I ever wanted in a man and so much more.  Several months into our relationship, I found out his divorce wasn't final and a few months later, after doing some digging (didn't...
    stupidone stupidone 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 10, 2009

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    He Snuck In Under The Wire!

    We started out as friends. I knew his family, wife, kids, freinds... One day I realized that I was looking forward to seeing him. I thought he would go away and then he kissed me. Its been 2.5 years and he calles me every night. Not Saturday or Sunday. He comes to see me about...
    redjr47 redjr47 56-60 2 Responses Mar 5, 2012

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    Support Group In Manhattan Anyone?

    i know it sounds INSANE to develop a support group for "the other women" - women in affairs, in love with married men. It was a poor choice in the first place, i know it, we all do. some of us didn't even know they were taken. now they promise the world. promise to tear apart...
    muchagem muchagem 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2013

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    New And Don't Know What To Do

    I've been seeing this guy...let's call him Mr. B...for about a month.  I think it's too soon to have "the talk" but I don't know.  Our story...we met a while ago.  He came into my work...we chatted...then went our seperate ways.  A while passed...
    L80olivia L80olivia 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 30, 2009

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    How did I get myself in a mixed up

    relationship ? Better yet how do I get out of it ?? Please help me. . I have been the other woman for a year and a half. I would have never thought this would be me . I hate being this woman but I have totally fallen in love with this man as he has fallen in love with me . I...
    Islandfishinggirl Islandfishinggirl 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 26

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    Haven't been on here in a

    while glad I'm back and reading a lot of post It's been almost 2 yrs with e.m ( engaged man) So much drama , pain, regret, guilt , anger, resentment I lost my job ( where we worked together) and was so devastated for a few months , slowly we both began losing contact and...
    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 21

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    How Do I Walk Away??

    10 years ago I met the man of my dreams. He was everything I ever dreamed of but never thought existed. Within 6 months I was head over heels in love with him. We were together every day and I was on cloud nine. About a year into the relationship he said he was going away with...
    Tmc1212 Tmc1212 31-35 3 Responses Nov 14, 2011

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    Nothing Serious: The Escape

    I will never leave my Husband for him And he will never leave his wife for me And I am perfectly fine with it I don't really want him... I know it will never work... And I don't really want to live with him. I can't see myself with him Yet I have this guilty pleasure Yearning...
    indigowitch indigowitch 22-25, F Oct 7, 2012

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    I Just Want To Move Forward!

    Me and my MM have been together now for 3 years.  I have been divorced for a year and he is still married.  I dont doubt his love at all. He pays my house rent, my dstv and is slowly but surely buying furniture for us.  Every night he comes to say good night and...
    Kiep Kiep 36-40, F 8 Responses Nov 13, 2010

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    The Secret F#@k

    For the last 7 years, I've had 5 relationships with married men, or men in committed relationships. At first it wad because I was so afraid of getting hurt, I knew they would never leave, so I was safe, I was hooking up with several guys, they knew I was seeing others but they...
    Gaelynthewicked Gaelynthewicked 46-50 4 Responses Mar 27, 2012

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    Me 2

    last night may 8th me & my friend taylor we had 3 some with my boyfriend he had $ex longer her 1 night than me in 3 years i know him. i wish i was my friend taylor he have more $ex with me. he gave her cream pie she share cream pie with me.  new details about something happen...
    Amanda365 Amanda365 22-25, F 1 Response May 9, 2013

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    Will The Pain Stop.....? :-(

    My affair hasn't been going on that long but it seems like an eternity. Our relationship is a long distance relationship, he is married as am I. He has kids, I don't. We met  in August this year when I travelled interstate for work and visited staff in one of our company's...
    amay10 amay10 31-35, F 9 Responses Dec 6, 2009

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    London based Research... Are You Interested?

    NB: I am carrying out some UK based research. You might be interested in taking part? Are you having an affair? Are you the other woman? Do you feel that you have been misrepresented? My name is Emma and I am a trainee counselling psychologist, completing my doctorate at City...
    EmmaResearch EmmaResearch 22-25 Jun 2, 2011

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    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F 1 Response May 5

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    Still There...

    I am a 14-year-old girl so you can probably see how this wouldn't be a normal situation. I met this boy a few years ago and he became my best friend. Me and his other best friend had a relashionship which was kind of okward later on. The situation is afew months ago i went on his...
    justateen justateen 13-15, F Jan 4, 2010

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    Letting you go has been a slow process

    but I know it in my blood - the worst part is over. On Dec 31, 2013 I told myself that exactly one year from then, I would not be in the same place. I'm keeping that promise. I didn't choose to fall for you at all, much less this deeply. We didn't choose to find this. I don't...
    celticwarrior96 celticwarrior96 36-40, F Apr 9

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    London based Research... Are You Interested?

    NB: I am carrying out some UK based research. You might be interested in taking part? Are you having an affair? Are you the other woman? Do you feel that you have been misrepresented? My name is Emma and I am a trainee counselling psychologist, completing my doctorate at...
    EmmaResearch EmmaResearch 22-25 Jan 2, 2011

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    I am his wife but yet I feel like I'm the other

    woman. It's about to be two months since I gave the hubby an ultimatum his family or this other woman. As I suspected he choose her, so many were suggesting for me to do this for the longest believing this will awaken him from the affair fog, the very thing I feared came true. I...
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 13

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    This Is Killing Me

    I met him almost 3 years ago and it was love at first sight for both of us.  He was everything I ever wanted in a man and so much more.  Several months into our relationship, I found out his divorce wasn't final and a few months later, after doing some digging (didn't...
    stupidone stupidone 46-50, F 4 Responses Nov 10, 2009

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    The OW

    need help ending an affair, I have been with my MM for 12mths, we work together and I see him everyday. He tells me he loves me but doesn't want to leave his wife cause she may do harm to herself. every time I end it which is nearly every month he bombards me with txt, emails...
    roorooey roorooey 36-40 7 Responses Apr 13, 2013

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    Tired Being Other Women....

    I have been the other women for 3year, sept 3 of this year... I am getting tired of it,  this man seems to enjoy this situation.
    darlenenelson44 darlenenelson44 41-45, F 12 Responses Sep 8, 2009

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    London based Research... Are You Interested?

    NB: I am carrying out some London, UK based research. You might be interested in taking part? Are you having an affair? Are you the other woman? Do you feel that you have been misrepresented? My name is Emma and I am a trainee counselling psychologist, completing my doctorate...
    EmmaResearch EmmaResearch 22-25 Sep 2, 2011

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    I always told myself

    that I would never be involved with someone who was already taken. But 7 months I was involved with my co/worker who already had a girlfriend. It was just supposed to be a one time thing, but he kept on coming back. Finally he told me we could no longer see each other anymore...
    Lad1531 Lad1531 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 7

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    *update* London based Research... Are You Interested?

    Following my previous posts about research regarding the other woman I am now conducting a quick survey which i would be grateful if you could take a few minutes to complete: Survey: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/BHLJ52X Also, for any other women/men who were or are interested...
    EmmaResearch EmmaResearch 22-25 Jun 14, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    So today I hate being the Other Woman. I want to move to the alternate reality where I met him now but we were both single and everything would be perfect. This reality is stupid...
    neverendingmadness neverendingmadness 36-40, F 9 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    This song is for all of us "the other woman:" I've been sitting here staring at the clock on the wall And I've been laying here praying, praying she won't call It's just another...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 14

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    This is somewhat of a hilarious debate in the group “I am the other woman” For me it is another warning how powerful self deception can be and to what kind of weird and...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    Today is 3 months since I found out that I was dating a taken man. We had been talking and going out since October of last year, and things were great. We have so much in common...
    Epea24 Epea24 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 4

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    Anyone have a post accidentally end up on the "I am tired of being the other woman" forum? In case you were wondering...not so friendly folks over there when you are talking about...
    ynoTme83 ynoTme83 26-30, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I need to send this to my mm. I am in a place where I don't know what he wants. He went on vacation from work and I found out he proposed to his gf. I was broken when I found out...
    Livesforme Livesforme 26-30, F 7 Responses Jul 12

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    The pain of being the other woman and my story.... Thanks to Experience Project, Thanks to my new circle of friends here, thanks to those people who are just browsing, thanks to...
    annettesan annettesan 36-40, F 7 Responses Jul 11

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    Think it was easier being the other woman than being the woman being in love with a man who is single and free to be with whoever he wants! He's still on his 'time out, I need...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    I am the other woman.. You can't charge me with a crime You can't charge me for my time I am the other woman So seductive so sublime I am property in my prime I am the other...
    Tannasheart Tannasheart 46-50, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    No Recommendation Here!! Yes, I have all the room in the world to speak here. I have been on both sides of the fence. A cheating husband.. with many females to being the other...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 5 Responses Jul 11

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    The other woman? Oh yeah. You can see me as the other woman. But you just can't see the feelings that are there. They way he has made me feel. They way he has touched my soul and...
    Xyanii Xyanii 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 7

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    Dear reader, hate is far too exhausting. If you truly want to hate something you have to give it a ton of effort... effort that could have been used on something worthwhile. I do...
    AddyAddyAddy AddyAddyAddy 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    I have found the man that I want to be with forever.. The only guy since being in an abusive relationship that I have cared about and respected enough to stick with past the first...
    urbanwanderer urbanwanderer 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 15

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    I look at being the other woman as a business deal...especially if the OW is also married and seeing another MM. Every business arrangement is different...for me and my MM, it was...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I haven’t posted in a while. It hurts too much to write sometimes. My MM and I broke up over two months ago. The last time we talked was April 29. We both love each other deeply...
    celticwarrior96 celticwarrior96 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 1

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    i grew up being inspired by these man and woman they had a beautiful house cars ,their children going to best schools and getting married to wealthy men then boom 30 years later...
    TEBOGO1992 TEBOGO1992 26-30 Jul 7

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    I am new to this so not sure how i should begin and what to expect i guess i just need to know that im not alone. Im certainly not proud of being in a relationship with a man who...
    coleya coleya 41-45, F 30 Responses Jul 13

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    It Started simply enough. We were friends at work. Laughing, joking. I'm a guy's girl so I would sit with him and other Co workers and just shoot the breeze. Somewhere it changed...
    nmurch37 nmurch37 36-40, F 5 Responses Jul 14

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    In any affair there is not only one story but three. His Hers and Ours. A few suggestions to those who have an a problem with this area here on EP called I Am The Other Woman 1...
    lilred101 lilred101 41-45, F 9 Responses Jul 16

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    I found out after 1 month of being involved with someone that I'm the other woman. We work together. We've known of each other for over a year but he recently asked for my #. We...
    Sidechic79 Sidechic79 31-35 1 Response Jul 22

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    I am new here. I found EP and it has been just in time. You women are so strong and brave for posting your experiences. Not many understand the emotional trauma of being the other...
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 7

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    I’m not the other woman. I am a man. I am not the other man either. I am married and not involved with another married woman. Interesting fact that some 950 men are currently...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 4 Responses Jul 17

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