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I Am Tired Of Catering To Everyone's Expectations

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    So I Won't

    I'm not even going to try anymore. I'm fat, ugly, boring, bad at even simple math, I laugh at inappropriate times, I don't have great credit, and there are many people my age and younger who have already achieved things I will never achieve in my entire lifetime. I am also...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 23, 2010

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    I Just Want To Be Me

    oh yes, I fall into this trap....  I'm not suppose to get mad or angry.  I'm not supposed to say "no".  I was put on this Earth to listen to people's problems not ever have any of my own......
    silentwellofsorrow silentwellofsorrow 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 25, 2010

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    Ugh

    😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😑
    dasiychainsxxx dasiychainsxxx 16-17, F 1 Response May 19, 2014

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    The Rotten System

    It has dawned to me that I was not being true to myself. I need my life back, my old self. And I felt like I was stressed out. I really don't have to be explaining anything. I can think for myself. I don't need any advice. And I really can't talk the whole day with senseless...
    zephyr2005 zephyr2005 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 13, 2011

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    Do Unto Others...(and Be Their Slave)

    Most of us like to help out those in need.  It is said if you give a man a fish, he will eat for a day; if you teach a man how to fish, he can eat for the rest of his life.  But, will every man you help by teaching him how to fish actually learn to fish for himself?  This is...
    bentheredundat bentheredundat 26-30, M 3 Responses Apr 28, 2011

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    Done.

    I'm good with words - REALLY good with words.  I'm also good at playing parts - saying what I'm supposed to say and also being what I'm expected to be.  The problem is, I hate being fake - I just wanna be me... and right now, "me" is pretty frickin jaded.  I...
    MovingForward28 MovingForward28 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 7, 2010

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    Absolutely This...

    I feel like everyone has expectations for me, especially my parents. I know my mother wanted me to be a teacher and to marry my ex friend (who ended up getting arrested for crimes against kids). I haven't done any of that. I am the eternal singleton, still living at home and have...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 8, 2011

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    I'm Always Being Judged

    Mainly it's religious people who judge me the most.  Like I'm not holy enough or something.  Or I act like I'm small in the mind.  I have depression and anxiety disorder no wonder I'm a quiet little mouse in a corner.  I'm scared to open my mouth in case I say something...
    Masihi Masihi 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 22, 2011

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    Yeah

    I don't have a job or a man and take pills to deal with my pain. Please put nasty comments below. The one to reach 50 gets a prize.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 25, 2010

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    I'm Sorry I'm Not Perfect

    I'm sorry I'm not a fashion lover, I'm sorry I have trust issues, I'm sorry you feel bad when I'm alone! I'm sorry I don't love shopping. I'm sorry I react pissed sometimes, but you don't know how guilty I feel about that.. I'm sorry I can't do what you want. I'm sorry I feel bad...
    littlewolf1 littlewolf1 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 26, 2013

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    What About Me

    I feel like I have to be what my parents want me to be. What my husband wants me to be. what my kids want me to be. What society wants me to be. I can't please everyone and I'm tired of trying. What about me, what about what I want to do. It's like I always have to be the perfect...
    howsab howsab 31-35, F 17 Responses Jul 8, 2011

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    Im Sick Of It

    At home I cater to everyone's expectations because I don't want to be questioned. Here I everyone expects me to be someone I'm not. I'm not going to hide it any more I am still haunted by past, childhood and much more recent. I will no longer try to please everyone I will be me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 26, 2013

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    I feel like knowing that I can talk to people

    and just vent all my frustration will help me cope , will help me not cheat , will help me be more patient . maybe some other women are going through what I have been for a very long time. having a jobless ,very broke husband
    gege1984 gege1984 26-30, F May 19, 2014

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    Hard Nut To Crack

    I know and have been told that I am a hard nut to crack. It's mostly because of the usual hard life story, learn to survive on my own etc. But as I grow older I realise that I need to trust a bit more and I think that I have done pretty well in that regard. I know some good...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 23, 2011

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    "may We Always Be Mindful Of The Needs Of Others"-crap Have You Heard This One?

    When someone tries to tell you to be mindful of the needs of other, it is like brainwashing.  Selfishness in moderation is healthy.  Catering to everyone's expectations is a good way to get sick.
    Igneous Igneous 56-60, M 2 Responses Mar 23, 2010

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    That is the truth. We are programmed with a

    preconception of how things should work and how each of use should be. That is all good and wonderful for those who actually resemble that mold. In my own self assessment, I am 95% there. It is that 5%, that darker side of myself that just doesn't fit. I have done my best...
    BDBW BDBW 41-45, M Dec 8, 2013

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    What Do People Expect Me To Be Exactly?

    I am never going to be the prostitute hot ****** in bed or the great striper etc...I think I was born to be a lawyer or something official ... in govt or whatever... diplomacy or businessI am never going to be some drug pusher etcI am basicly a conservative person ....I have...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Jun 6, 2012

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    Its Good To Have No Expectations

    I realized somehow there should not be any expectation from anyone in our life. Not even from ourselves. Expectations cause trouble. make you sad. In love there is nothing like true love. If we expect to get true love , we will not be able to match a real world person with our...
    bloodNroses bloodNroses 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 26, 2012

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    Imperfect Package

    This is me. I can't be anything else. Self-expression is part of my nature. It is not vulgar or perverse. I still have morals and I am a good person. Yet,I never fail to disappoint. Whatever value I have means nothing as soon as I fail to be everything that is expected of me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 3, 2010

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    Just Let Me Do Me

    Well, it is a Friday night, and what the hell am I doing? Sitting on EP. Just. Like. Every. Other. Effing. Night. I just want to get this all off my chest so I can sleep well tonight. For one thing, I hate that *everyone* thinks someone my age is always off doing cool **** with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 8, 2013

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    I am not a cookie cutter person.

    I am going to live up to my own expectations. Just because you recognize the look on my face doesn't mean it is there for the usual reasons. People often misconstrue my motives, emotions, thoughts, and expectations. I am different you've never seen anything like me because we...
    moonspun moonspun 26-30, F Mar 8, 2014

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    Expectations

    Expectations,I'm tired,Catering for everyone else,What about mine?From now on,I'm gonna be me,And only me.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket 46-50, M 1 Response Feb 9, 2012

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    Just Me

    I have reached a point in my life where I can no longer conform to what you want me to be, by ignoring what you are. I have struggled to mold myself into what you expect and it has never been good enough anyhow. I suppose it was a survival tactic I learned as a child. If I am...
    shydragonfly shydragonfly 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 14, 2012

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    I Have Become

    Everyone's expectations...ask anyone what they think of me, how they see me....and they will give a description of a well rounded, kind, caring genuine, honest, respectful, open mined, intelligent person. I am intelligent yes, but as for the rest, these are things I know how do...
    APS9 APS9 31-35 Apr 25, 2012

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    So Tired.

    My parents expect me to be the one who has perfect grades and perfect friends, but still be nice, unselfish and responsible. My friends expect me to be happy, outgoing and crazy. They think I'm not smart so don't expect me to have good grades, I'm smarter than I look or act. But...
    TheRealClover TheRealClover 16-17, F May 20, 2013

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    but I can't. I am going to school again to get a higher degree but my mum says that I should work, I wouldn't earn any money. I should stop school and see the real world. Sometimes...
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    They bash Anger transferrence. Mixed with local expectations. Creates moronic jerks. And evolution stops. While jerks dominate.
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    I will always be polite to you, especially if you are a complete stranger that has done me no wrong. I just expect a little of that back. Almost everyone in this world deserves to...
    WeMermaid WeMermaid 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 3

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    So tire of so called religious people being rude and hateful to people who don't believe what they believe. I can't imagine any God would want a person to act this way.
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    THIS WAS THE STRATEGY FOR SAVING A MARRIAGE. ...ARE ALL OF YOU HYSTERIA IN TEARS WHAT A FREAKIN LIAR SHE IS IGNORED....JANINE DONT WAKE ME UP ABOUT THIS IDIOT INSTEAD OF...
    YOUDONOTHING46 YOUDONOTHING46 51-55 1 Response Mar 5

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    Hello I am a student in English from Iraq. Is there any body have enough experience in English?
    haideralwan haideralwan 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 15

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    shortfry3 shortfry3 13-15, F Mar 19

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    Because most like their delusions. Lmao.
    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M 5 days ago

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    I am sick of everyone and everything in my life. I'm sick of people not taking me serious.its really starting to make me angry. I'm sick of being in college, putting hours into my...
    bjman188 bjman188 18-21, M Mar 15

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    And now it's time to sleep. I'm scared for the nightmares but I will get through it again. It only makes me more tired... Goodnight everyone...
    Raicyn Raicyn 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 17

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    I really want to be someone's everything. Because i always be everyone's option. It's hurt when you make someone is your everything but you just their option. Not their everything...
    ochamr ochamr 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 10

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    That's all I used to do, hide, this is one of the worst things I've done because I've missed out on a lot. Now I've been breaking free from my shell of darkness and opening up to...
    Moatzart Moatzart 13-15, M 5 hrs ago

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    It keeps on giving me problems. Only EP can't load for me on my phone, for some dumb **** reasons. Even if it loads, the destination I want to go on EP can't be made, again, it's...
    iTetra iTetra 13-15, F 2 hrs ago

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    "You look and seem so innocent! So shy and fragile! And for you to be swearing and talking about s3x is ruining this!" If I am comfortable with my sexuality and am able to express...
    cheryyl cheryyl 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 9

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    I have three kids and love them all, but I'm tired of being treated badly. They apologize later but I feel so numb when I hear "I'm sorry" because it's so automatic for them and...
    Ifyouaskme Ifyouaskme 31-35 15 hrs ago

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    Got my brain fcked up so bad at today's problem solving class. Come back home and there are tutorial to be finished that is due tomorrow. Yes I do feel tired and started wondering...
    YongTauFoo YongTauFoo 18-21, F Mar 17

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    and apparently I'm the only one, so far. Look, I don’t know one single person who has never gossiped. Sure, some of us do it too often and way more than others, but the cold...
    SpilledSecrets SpilledSecrets 22-25, F Mar 22

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