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I Am Tired Of Catering To Everyone's Expectations

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    I feel like knowing that I can talk to people

    and just vent all my frustration will help me cope , will help me not cheat , will help me be more patient . maybe some other women are going through what I have been for a very long time. having a jobless ,very broke husband
    gege1984 gege1984 31-35, F May 19, 2014

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    So I Won't

    I'm not even going to try anymore. I'm fat, ugly, boring, bad at even simple math, I laugh at inappropriate times, I don't have great credit, and there are many people my age and younger who have already achieved things I will never achieve in my entire lifetime. I am also...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 23, 2010

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    Just Let Me Do Me

    Well, it is a Friday night, and what the hell am I doing? Sitting on EP. Just. Like. Every. Other. Effing. Night. I just want to get this all off my chest so I can sleep well tonight. For one thing, I hate that *everyone* thinks someone my age is always off doing cool **** with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 8, 2013

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    So Tired.

    My parents expect me to be the one who has perfect grades and perfect friends, but still be nice, unselfish and responsible. My friends expect me to be happy, outgoing and crazy. They think I'm not smart so don't expect me to have good grades, I'm smarter than I look or act. But...
    TheRealClover TheRealClover 16-17, F May 20, 2013

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    I used to try to please everyone,

    and still for the most part still do. . .but I got tired of the feeling like I need to hide who I am. It gets confusing though, because when I was catering to everyone I was still being me. I just happened to subconsciously bring out the aspects of myself that others wanted to...
    EurydiceKallos EurydiceKallos 18-21, F 3 Responses May 8, 2015

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    Imperfect Package

    This is me. I can't be anything else. Self-expression is part of my nature. It is not vulgar or perverse. I still have morals and I am a good person. Yet,I never fail to disappoint. Whatever value I have means nothing as soon as I fail to be everything that is expected of me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 3, 2010

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    I am not a cookie cutter person.

    I am going to live up to my own expectations. Just because you recognize the look on my face doesn't mean it is there for the usual reasons. People often misconstrue my motives, emotions, thoughts, and expectations. I am different you've never seen anything like me because we...
    moonspun moonspun 26-30, F Mar 8, 2014

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    What Do People Expect Me To Be Exactly?

    I am never going to be the prostitute hot ****** in bed or the great striper etc...I think I was born to be a lawyer or something official ... in govt or whatever... diplomacy or businessI am never going to be some drug pusher etcI am basicly a conservative person ....I have...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Jun 6, 2012

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    I Just Want To Be Me

    oh yes, I fall into this trap....  I'm not suppose to get mad or angry.  I'm not supposed to say "no".  I was put on this Earth to listen to people's problems not ever have any of my own......
    silentwellofsorrow silentwellofsorrow 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 25, 2010

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    What About Me

    I feel like I have to be what my parents want me to be. What my husband wants me to be. what my kids want me to be. What society wants me to be. I can't please everyone and I'm tired of trying. What about me, what about what I want to do. It's like I always have to be the perfect...
    howsab howsab 31-35, F 17 Responses Jul 8, 2011

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    Done.

    I'm good with words - REALLY good with words.  I'm also good at playing parts - saying what I'm supposed to say and also being what I'm expected to be.  The problem is, I hate being fake - I just wanna be me... and right now, "me" is pretty frickin jaded.  I...
    MovingForward28 MovingForward28 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 7, 2010

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    So what if you don't find me attractive?

    So what if I'm not what you expected? You don't dictate my life and you're hardly relevant to me.
    OohlalaMimi OohlalaMimi 16-17, F 1 Response May 9, 2015

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    I'm Always Being Judged

    Mainly it's religious people who judge me the most.  Like I'm not holy enough or something.  Or I act like I'm small in the mind.  I have depression and anxiety disorder no wonder I'm a quiet little mouse in a corner.  I'm scared to open my mouth in case I say something...
    Masihi Masihi 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 22, 2011

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    Absolutely This...

    I feel like everyone has expectations for me, especially my parents. I know my mother wanted me to be a teacher and to marry my ex friend (who ended up getting arrested for crimes against kids). I haven't done any of that. I am the eternal singleton, still living at home and have...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 8, 2011

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    i have given 13 years of my life to this

    relationship which also include 3 years of marriage..Although i have tried very hard to meet his expectations...bt when it comes to what i want the only answer i get from other end is"i can't".Is asking for little bit of affection from my husband is wrong???
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 19, 2015

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    Its Good To Have No Expectations

    I realized somehow there should not be any expectation from anyone in our life. Not even from ourselves. Expectations cause trouble. make you sad. In love there is nothing like true love. If we expect to get true love , we will not be able to match a real world person with our...
    bloodNroses bloodNroses 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 26, 2012

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    Yeah

    I don't have a job or a man and take pills to deal with my pain. Please put nasty comments below. The one to reach 50 gets a prize.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 25, 2010

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    Ugh

    😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😑
    dasiychainsxxx dasiychainsxxx 16-17, F 1 Response May 19, 2014

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    Hard Nut To Crack

    I know and have been told that I am a hard nut to crack. It's mostly because of the usual hard life story, learn to survive on my own etc. But as I grow older I realise that I need to trust a bit more and I think that I have done pretty well in that regard. I know some good...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 23, 2011

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    "may We Always Be Mindful Of The Needs Of Others"-crap Have You Heard This One?

    When someone tries to tell you to be mindful of the needs of other, it is like brainwashing.  Selfishness in moderation is healthy.  Catering to everyone's expectations is a good way to get sick.
    Igneous Igneous 56-60, M 2 Responses Mar 23, 2010

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    Just Me

    I have reached a point in my life where I can no longer conform to what you want me to be, by ignoring what you are. I have struggled to mold myself into what you expect and it has never been good enough anyhow. I suppose it was a survival tactic I learned as a child. If I am...
    shydragonfly shydragonfly 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 14, 2012

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    I Have Become

    Everyone's expectations...ask anyone what they think of me, how they see me....and they will give a description of a well rounded, kind, caring genuine, honest, respectful, open mined, intelligent person. I am intelligent yes, but as for the rest, these are things I know how do...
    APS9 APS9 36-40 Apr 25, 2012

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    Expectations

    Expectations,I'm tired,Catering for everyone else,What about mine?From now on,I'm gonna be me,And only me.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket 46-50, M 1 Response Feb 9, 2012

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    Im Sick Of It

    At home I cater to everyone's expectations because I don't want to be questioned. Here I everyone expects me to be someone I'm not. I'm not going to hide it any more I am still haunted by past, childhood and much more recent. I will no longer try to please everyone I will be me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 26, 2013

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    I'm Sorry I'm Not Perfect

    I'm sorry I'm not a fashion lover, I'm sorry I have trust issues, I'm sorry you feel bad when I'm alone! I'm sorry I don't love shopping. I'm sorry I react pissed sometimes, but you don't know how guilty I feel about that.. I'm sorry I can't do what you want. I'm sorry I feel bad...
    littlewolf1 littlewolf1 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 26, 2013

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    Do Unto Others...(and Be Their Slave)

    Most of us like to help out those in need.  It is said if you give a man a fish, he will eat for a day; if you teach a man how to fish, he can eat for the rest of his life.  But, will every man you help by teaching him how to fish actually learn to fish for himself?  This is...
    bentheredundat bentheredundat 26-30, M 3 Responses Apr 28, 2011

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    The Rotten System

    It has dawned to me that I was not being true to myself. I need my life back, my old self. And I felt like I was stressed out. I really don't have to be explaining anything. I can think for myself. I don't need any advice. And I really can't talk the whole day with senseless...
    zephyr2005 zephyr2005 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 13, 2011

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    That is the truth. We are programmed with a

    preconception of how things should work and how each of use should be. That is all good and wonderful for those who actually resemble that mold. In my own self assessment, I am 95% there. It is that 5%, that darker side of myself that just doesn't fit. I have done my best...
    BDBW BDBW 41-45, M Dec 8, 2013

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    I want you to help me make ep better u can help by doing the following 1. flag any inappropriate content 2. block report and flag any sex talkers pervs 3. I'm a volunteer I ask...
    FluttershyK FluttershyK 13-15, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    For some reason I woke at 8am and have been unable to go back to sleep. I think it's because I saw he texted me at 6 saying he was awake and that I should come over. It puzzled me...
    WingsofTime WingsofTime 22-25, F 2 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    This is a true story of what happened to Greg Zaffuto. I have just experienced much the same and do not want this to happen to you, so I am sharing the following. I apologize for...
    Grace2U Grace2U 66-70, F 2 days ago

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    Not sure of it's a typical EP break or if I'm just growing up at last. I haven't been very active on here for a while...which happens. I like EP and the interaction on this site...
    SpilledSecrets SpilledSecrets 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    Yeah these days are harder and harder for me....I feel like I am drowning...and suffocating .... I just sometimes wish to be completely alone...because my friends are hurting me...
    JaneSerenity JaneSerenity 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I'm sick of everyone's profile, saying that they are so depressed. They're gonna be depressed if they don't cheer up. Sorry. I'm not being abrupt. I just want people to feel happy...
    Harryp0tter Harryp0tter 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I didn't know that when your birthday's near you're suppose to be dealing with all the emotions and sadness in your heart for a whole month. February is my birth-month, yes I am...
    SaarahCarisse SaarahCarisse 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    My Daddy has access to all of my messages and he and I both are tired of receiving pictures of guy's junk all of the time. I want to find more submissives to chat with here on EP...
    SifusLittleRed2 SifusLittleRed2 31-35, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I just finally got over mono a few days ago. And now, I'm sick again. A cold. But still sucks. And it's multiplied by the flare I'm having due to weather... And I just want to...
    LolitaAngie LolitaAngie 13-15, F 5 days ago

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    After surgical operation, I couldn't imagine why my life become so hard.. 1 week already, but I don't feel well yet! It's bad to make my family busy with me! I don't wanna tell ppl...
    kimlys kimlys 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    there is something really wrong with me. i'm 20, i've just turned 20 yesterday and for some reason it's so hard for me to find someone that's head over heels for me. i've had a...
    missnicething missnicething 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Have you ever noticed that being "tired" means different things to different people depending on what they have going on in their life? A few months ago when I was battling some...
    KinkyKatelyn KinkyKatelyn 22-25, F 8 Responses a week ago

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    I loathe when people see crying as a weakness. Sometimes when you cry it's not over one thing, it's built up anger and emotions that you've been harboring for too long.
    lexxrodriguezz lexxrodriguezz 18-21, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I should be used to everyone leaving me, it's almost a regular occurrence, but it still hurts... I lose everyone I care about, they just leave me in the end. All of them. But most...
    AngelsInBlack AngelsInBlack 16-17, F a week ago

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    I really need help. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years, talking about marriage and whatnot, and due to family reasons we broke up for about a month. But we...
    DaisyDuke101 DaisyDuke101 22-25, F 3 Responses