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I Am Tired Of Catering To Everyone's Expectations

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    I'm good with words - REALLY good with words.  I'm also good at playing parts - saying what I'm supposed to say and also being what I'm expected to be.  The problem is, I hate being fake - I just wanna be me... and right now, "me" is pretty frickin jaded.  I...
    MovingForward28 MovingForward28 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 7, 2010

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    What Do People Expect Me To Be Exactly?

    I am never going to be the prostitute hot ****** in bed or the great striper etc...I think I was born to be a lawyer or something official ... in govt or whatever... diplomacy or businessI am never going to be some drug pusher etcI am basicly a conservative person ....I have...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Jun 6, 2012

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    So I Won't

    I'm not even going to try anymore. I'm fat, ugly, boring, bad at even simple math, I laugh at inappropriate times, I don't have great credit, and there are many people my age and younger who have already achieved things I will never achieve in my entire lifetime. I am also...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 23, 2010

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    Yeah

    I don't have a job or a man and take pills to deal with my pain. Please put nasty comments below. The one to reach 50 gets a prize.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 25, 2010

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    Its Good To Have No Expectations

    I realized somehow there should not be any expectation from anyone in our life. Not even from ourselves. Expectations cause trouble. make you sad. In love there is nothing like true love. If we expect to get true love , we will not be able to match a real world person with our...
    bloodNroses bloodNroses 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 26, 2012

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    Identity Crisis (Story 75)

    I was so absorbed with what people expected me to do for them that I had an identity crisis, more than one. I needed to feel how I was expected to feel and have the opinions I was expected to have. I ended up not knowing how I feel anymore and not having any opinions. I actually...
    LadyIndiscretion LadyIndiscretion 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2012

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    "may We Always Be Mindful Of The Needs Of Others"-crap Have You Heard This One?

    When someone tries to tell you to be mindful of the needs of other, it is like brainwashing.  Selfishness in moderation is healthy.  Catering to everyone's expectations is a good way to get sick.
    Igneous Igneous 56-60, M 2 Responses Mar 23, 2010

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    Ugh

    😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😑
    dasiychainsxxx dasiychainsxxx 13-15, F 1 Response May 19

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    What About Me

    I feel like I have to be what my parents want me to be. What my husband wants me to be. what my kids want me to be. What society wants me to be. I can't please everyone and I'm tired of trying. What about me, what about what I want to do. It's like I always have to be the perfect...
    howsab howsab 31-35, F 17 Responses Jul 8, 2011

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    Do Unto Others...(and Be Their Slave)

    Most of us like to help out those in need.  It is said if you give a man a fish, he will eat for a day; if you teach a man how to fish, he can eat for the rest of his life.  But, will every man you help by teaching him how to fish actually learn to fish for himself?  This is...
    bentheredundat bentheredundat 26-30, M 4 Responses Apr 28, 2011

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    That is the truth. We are programmed with a

    preconception of how things should work and how each of use should be. That is all good and wonderful for those who actually resemble that mold. In my own self assessment, I am 95% there. It is that 5%, that darker side of myself that just doesn't fit. I have done my best...
    BDBW BDBW 41-45, M Dec 8, 2013

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    I am not a cookie cutter person.

    I am going to live up to my own expectations. Just because you recognize the look on my face doesn't mean it is there for the usual reasons. People often misconstrue my motives, emotions, thoughts, and expectations. I am different you've never seen anything like me because we...
    moonspun moonspun 26-30, F Mar 8

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    I Have Become

    Everyone's expectations...ask anyone what they think of me, how they see me....and they will give a description of a well rounded, kind, caring genuine, honest, respectful, open mined, intelligent person. I am intelligent yes, but as for the rest, these are things I know how do...
    APS9 APS9 31-35 Apr 25, 2012

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    The Rotten System

    It has dawned to me that I was not being true to myself. I need my life back, my old self. And I felt like I was stressed out. I really don't have to be explaining anything. I can think for myself. I don't need any advice. And I really can't talk the whole day with senseless...
    zephyr2005 zephyr2005 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 13, 2011

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    I'm Always Being Judged

    Mainly it's religious people who judge me the most.  Like I'm not holy enough or something.  Or I act like I'm small in the mind.  I have depression and anxiety disorder no wonder I'm a quiet little mouse in a corner.  I'm scared to open my mouth in case I say something...
    Masihi Masihi 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 22, 2011

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    Hard Nut To Crack

    I know and have been told that I am a hard nut to crack. It's mostly because of the usual hard life story, learn to survive on my own etc. But as I grow older I realise that I need to trust a bit more and I think that I have done pretty well in that regard. I know some good...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 23, 2011

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    I'm Sorry I'm Not Perfect

    I'm sorry I'm not a fashion lover, I'm sorry I have trust issues, I'm sorry you feel bad when I'm alone! I'm sorry I don't love shopping. I'm sorry I react pissed sometimes, but you don't know how guilty I feel about that.. I'm sorry I can't do what you want. I'm sorry I feel bad...
    littlewolf1 littlewolf1 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 26, 2013

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    I feel like knowing that I can talk to people

    and just vent all my frustration will help me cope , will help me not cheat , will help me be more patient . maybe some other women are going through what I have been for a very long time. having a jobless ,very broke husband
    gege1984 gege1984 26-30, F May 19

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    Absolutely This...

    I feel like everyone has expectations for me, especially my parents. I know my mother wanted me to be a teacher and to marry my ex friend (who ended up getting arrested for crimes against kids). I haven't done any of that. I am the eternal singleton, still living at home and have...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 8, 2011

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    Imperfect Package

    This is me. I can't be anything else. Self-expression is part of my nature. It is not vulgar or perverse. I still have morals and I am a good person. Yet,I never fail to disappoint. Whatever value I have means nothing as soon as I fail to be everything that is expected of me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 3, 2010

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    I Just Want To Be Me

    oh yes, I fall into this trap....  I'm not suppose to get mad or angry.  I'm not supposed to say "no".  I was put on this Earth to listen to people's problems not ever have any of my own......
    silentwellofsorrow silentwellofsorrow 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 25, 2010

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    Just Me

    I have reached a point in my life where I can no longer conform to what you want me to be, by ignoring what you are. I have struggled to mold myself into what you expect and it has never been good enough anyhow. I suppose it was a survival tactic I learned as a child. If I am...
    shydragonfly shydragonfly 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 14, 2012

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    Just Let Me Do Me

    Well, it is a Friday night, and what the hell am I doing? Sitting on EP. Just. Like. Every. Other. Effing. Night. I just want to get this all off my chest so I can sleep well tonight. For one thing, I hate that *everyone* thinks someone my age is always off doing cool **** with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 8, 2013

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    Im Sick Of It

    At home I cater to everyone's expectations because I don't want to be questioned. Here I everyone expects me to be someone I'm not. I'm not going to hide it any more I am still haunted by past, childhood and much more recent. I will no longer try to please everyone I will be me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 26, 2013

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    Expectations

    Expectations,I'm tired,Catering for everyone else,What about mine?From now on,I'm gonna be me,And only me.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket 46-50, M 1 Response Feb 9, 2012

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    So Tired.

    My parents expect me to be the one who has perfect grades and perfect friends, but still be nice, unselfish and responsible. My friends expect me to be happy, outgoing and crazy. They think I'm not smart so don't expect me to have good grades, I'm smarter than I look or act. But...
    TheRealClover TheRealClover 16-17, F May 20, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    Too be honest I already have - I am the girl who was told not to bother sitting her exams, and yet here I am with a BA (hons) and a Masters under her belt and looking to undertake...
    lostlittlefirefly lostlittlefirefly 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    I am taking a cue from one of my EP friends and am trying to write a story about each of my experiences. Maybe that will exceed at least someone's expectations?
    RaverFan RaverFan 41-45 2 Responses Jul 2

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    I want to fulfill my expectations about myself.Every good thing should begin from me.
    booklover87 booklover87 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 14

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    I guess this is what I have been planning to do for years. I feel like the time is close by, but I have been an objective loser for the entirety of my life up to this point.
    FunnyLookingCorpse FunnyLookingCorpse 18-21 1 Response Jun 25

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    I don't want to be. **** up for the rest of my life. I hope I can gather the strength to make my family proud one day.
    VerucaRose VerucaRose 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 25

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    Most of the things i strive for are because people would tell me i can do this, i can't do that. Hell i'm gonna do it all and so much more to prove to the world that i can
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Well, within reason. If you expected me to almost jump off a cliff, I wouldn't like to exceed that one. But anything I want to do, I'm gonna do it better than you think! Or at...
    InternationalDarkness InternationalDarkness 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I always need to be better... In front of others and in front of myself. If I'm not good, I get really mad...
    faithandfree faithandfree 16-17, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    this is why i like to sand bag. i like to under promise and over deliver. i let the dufus exterior set the stage for what is expected of me and then i apply the inner ocd to the...
    trailsonrails trailsonrails 51-55, M 2 days ago

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    This girl at my part-time job (pizza restaurant) and not my full-time job (Direct Support for people with disablities) is emotionally and mentally draining. I've been dealing with...
    betweenlustandlove betweenlustandlove 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    I am so tired of peoples selfish ways. I think most people are so wrapped up in their own world that they don't see anything beyond. I always thought of myself as kind and always...
    sunflowergirl78 sunflowergirl78 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    If you are going to destroy all humans' habitat, don't destroy their minds as well.
    Supercat8835 Supercat8835 13-15, M Jun 23

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    Its so rude to be rude & to call anyone out to be rude cuz then ur rude!! Ugh!! Best thing is to do is ignore the rudeness & move on!!. I dnt mean to be rude i really dont but...
    missyluvsmissy4me missyluvsmissy4me 41-45, F 3 Responses Jul 2

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    If you knew my family, you would know they are very opinionated. If you do one thing they do not approve of they get mad. They say very mean hurtful things. It gets to the point...
    MissCheekyFaced MissCheekyFaced 16-17, F Jul 6

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    I just recently had a friendship break up because I moved to another state and there wasn't a point in texting me if I wasn't going to hang out with her. Also when I moved my...
    Cory45 Cory45 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 7

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    Stop thinking on your own ego and paying with others your problems,frustrations and bad mood.Ok,we all can have a bad day...or do unwanted things but c'mon,doing it on purpose...
    4biandu 4biandu 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    Awe poor kitty (see experience pic)
    1LilLefty 1LilLefty 13-15, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Lol this is so true! I say really embarrassing things when I'm tired sometimes, it's like the equivalent of being drunk! Lol... I just think it's best I don't talk to anyone whilst...
    BoundlessThoughts BoundlessThoughts 18-21, F Jul 9

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    I'm so tired. Everyday it's the same. Just when I think something might be changing for the better, it doesn't, and usually things just get worse. No one should ever feel this...
    absolom absolom 36-40 2 Responses Jul 4

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    Up at 1:30 in the morning 😫 I'm so tired but it's too hot to sleep
    bluegirlie98 bluegirlie98 13-15, F Jul 7

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    It seems that every time something is asked of me I tend to jump right up and do it but ifi all someone else for a favor I get put aside like I am nothing. So I guess the only way...
    lostguy19892014 lostguy19892014 22-25, M Jul 1

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    Anybody else agree with this? 😔 Hi. My name is Hashimoto’s. I’m an invisible autoimmune disease that attacks your thyroid gland causing you to become hypothyroid.
I am now...
    sarahglass sarahglass 18-21, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    Seriously? I ask my self. I am tired. Sick and tired. For the most part I am pretty well held together, but for the past several months everything seems to keep crumbling apart. It...
    sweetiepoo sweetiepoo 26-30, F 1 hr ago

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