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I Am Tired Of Catering To Everyone's Expectations

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    So I Won't

    I'm not even going to try anymore. I'm fat, ugly, boring, bad at even simple math, I laugh at inappropriate times, I don't have great credit, and there are many people my age and younger who have already achieved things I will never achieve in my entire lifetime. I am also...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 23, 2010

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    Done.

    I'm good with words - REALLY good with words.  I'm also good at playing parts - saying what I'm supposed to say and also being what I'm expected to be.  The problem is, I hate being fake - I just wanna be me... and right now, "me" is pretty frickin jaded.  I...
    MovingForward28 MovingForward28 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 7, 2010

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    Absolutely This...

    I feel like everyone has expectations for me, especially my parents. I know my mother wanted me to be a teacher and to marry my ex friend (who ended up getting arrested for crimes against kids). I haven't done any of that. I am the eternal singleton, still living at home and have...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 8, 2011

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    Expectations

    Expectations,I'm tired,Catering for everyone else,What about mine?From now on,I'm gonna be me,And only me.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket 46-50, M 1 Response Feb 9, 2012

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    Ugh

    😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😑
    dasiychainsxxx dasiychainsxxx 13-15, F 1 Response May 19

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    Just Me

    I have reached a point in my life where I can no longer conform to what you want me to be, by ignoring what you are. I have struggled to mold myself into what you expect and it has never been good enough anyhow. I suppose it was a survival tactic I learned as a child. If I am...
    shydragonfly shydragonfly 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 14, 2012

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    I feel like knowing that I can talk to people

    and just vent all my frustration will help me cope , will help me not cheat , will help me be more patient . maybe some other women are going through what I have been for a very long time. having a jobless ,very broke husband
    gege1984 gege1984 26-30, F May 19

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    I Have Become

    Everyone's expectations...ask anyone what they think of me, how they see me....and they will give a description of a well rounded, kind, caring genuine, honest, respectful, open mined, intelligent person. I am intelligent yes, but as for the rest, these are things I know how do...
    APS9 APS9 31-35 Apr 25, 2012

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    "may We Always Be Mindful Of The Needs Of Others"-crap Have You Heard This One?

    When someone tries to tell you to be mindful of the needs of other, it is like brainwashing.  Selfishness in moderation is healthy.  Catering to everyone's expectations is a good way to get sick.
    Igneous Igneous 56-60, M 2 Responses Mar 23, 2010

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    Its Good To Have No Expectations

    I realized somehow there should not be any expectation from anyone in our life. Not even from ourselves. Expectations cause trouble. make you sad. In love there is nothing like true love. If we expect to get true love , we will not be able to match a real world person with our...
    bloodNroses bloodNroses 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 26, 2012

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    Just Let Me Do Me

    Well, it is a Friday night, and what the hell am I doing? Sitting on EP. Just. Like. Every. Other. Effing. Night. I just want to get this all off my chest so I can sleep well tonight. For one thing, I hate that *everyone* thinks someone my age is always off doing cool **** with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 8, 2013

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    I'm Sorry I'm Not Perfect

    I'm sorry I'm not a fashion lover, I'm sorry I have trust issues, I'm sorry you feel bad when I'm alone! I'm sorry I don't love shopping. I'm sorry I react pissed sometimes, but you don't know how guilty I feel about that.. I'm sorry I can't do what you want. I'm sorry I feel bad...
    littlewolf1 littlewolf1 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 26, 2013

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    Im Sick Of It

    At home I cater to everyone's expectations because I don't want to be questioned. Here I everyone expects me to be someone I'm not. I'm not going to hide it any more I am still haunted by past, childhood and much more recent. I will no longer try to please everyone I will be me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 26, 2013

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    The Rotten System

    It has dawned to me that I was not being true to myself. I need my life back, my old self. And I felt like I was stressed out. I really don't have to be explaining anything. I can think for myself. I don't need any advice. And I really can't talk the whole day with senseless...
    zephyr2005 zephyr2005 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 13, 2011

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    Yeah

    I don't have a job or a man and take pills to deal with my pain. Please put nasty comments below. The one to reach 50 gets a prize.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 25, 2010

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    Imperfect Package

    This is me. I can't be anything else. Self-expression is part of my nature. It is not vulgar or perverse. I still have morals and I am a good person. Yet,I never fail to disappoint. Whatever value I have means nothing as soon as I fail to be everything that is expected of me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 3, 2010

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    That is the truth. We are programmed with a

    preconception of how things should work and how each of use should be. That is all good and wonderful for those who actually resemble that mold. In my own self assessment, I am 95% there. It is that 5%, that darker side of myself that just doesn't fit. I have done my best...
    BDBW BDBW 41-45, M Dec 8, 2013

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    I'm Always Being Judged

    Mainly it's religious people who judge me the most.  Like I'm not holy enough or something.  Or I act like I'm small in the mind.  I have depression and anxiety disorder no wonder I'm a quiet little mouse in a corner.  I'm scared to open my mouth in case I say something...
    Masihi Masihi 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 22, 2011

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    Identity Crisis (Story 75)

    I was so absorbed with what people expected me to do for them that I had an identity crisis, more than one. I needed to feel how I was expected to feel and have the opinions I was expected to have. I ended up not knowing how I feel anymore and not having any opinions. I actually...
    LadyIndiscretion LadyIndiscretion 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2012

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    Do Unto Others...(and Be Their Slave)

    Most of us like to help out those in need.  It is said if you give a man a fish, he will eat for a day; if you teach a man how to fish, he can eat for the rest of his life.  But, will every man you help by teaching him how to fish actually learn to fish for himself?  This is...
    bentheredundat bentheredundat 26-30, M 3 Responses Apr 28, 2011

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    What Do People Expect Me To Be Exactly?

    I am never going to be the prostitute hot ****** in bed or the great striper etc...I think I was born to be a lawyer or something official ... in govt or whatever... diplomacy or businessI am never going to be some drug pusher etcI am basicly a conservative person ....I have...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Jun 6, 2012

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    I Just Want To Be Me

    oh yes, I fall into this trap....  I'm not suppose to get mad or angry.  I'm not supposed to say "no".  I was put on this Earth to listen to people's problems not ever have any of my own......
    silentwellofsorrow silentwellofsorrow 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 25, 2010

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    I am not a cookie cutter person.

    I am going to live up to my own expectations. Just because you recognize the look on my face doesn't mean it is there for the usual reasons. People often misconstrue my motives, emotions, thoughts, and expectations. I am different you've never seen anything like me because we...
    moonspun moonspun 26-30, F Mar 8

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    So Tired.

    My parents expect me to be the one who has perfect grades and perfect friends, but still be nice, unselfish and responsible. My friends expect me to be happy, outgoing and crazy. They think I'm not smart so don't expect me to have good grades, I'm smarter than I look or act. But...
    TheRealClover TheRealClover 16-17, F May 20, 2013

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    Hard Nut To Crack

    I know and have been told that I am a hard nut to crack. It's mostly because of the usual hard life story, learn to survive on my own etc. But as I grow older I realise that I need to trust a bit more and I think that I have done pretty well in that regard. I know some good...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 23, 2011

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    What About Me

    I feel like I have to be what my parents want me to be. What my husband wants me to be. what my kids want me to be. What society wants me to be. I can't please everyone and I'm tired of trying. What about me, what about what I want to do. It's like I always have to be the perfect...
    howsab howsab 31-35, F 17 Responses Jul 8, 2011

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    I love cleaning up after everyone! I decided to clean up a large room of my husband's crap from an organization that he belongs to. I have asked REPEATEDLY for him to take care of...
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