I Am Tired of Feeling Like I'm Plan B

For anyone who's ever felt like they've been pushed aside or second choice over someone else. 762 People

    I realized after being in love with same man

    for 14 years that I'm the only one whose trying and loving the person. I lost all the love and respect for myself. While I was blinded by this love the person was busy stabbing me. A lost of respect is a lost of love. I should have seen the sign. Nevertheless, I would cry for...
    ezzy2014 ezzy2014
    31-35, F
    Nov 21, 2014
    TrustingJungle TrustingJungle
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 1

    I thought I was the only one.

    I always seem to be the, "if i have nothing better to do.." Or "until something else comes along" girl. I want to be "the" girl not "that" girl. I want to be claimed and have someone want to let the world know I'm theirs... I don't want to be on someone's back burner. "Never...
    ffnell343 ffnell343
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 17
    alysha1011 alysha1011
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Nov 6, 2015
    verynlotus verynlotus
    18-21
    3 Responses Jun 18, 2014

    We become plan B or second best

    when we allow our partner to treat us this way! *sigh* :( I'm tired of being second best...tired of not being first! Is it wrong for me to feel this way? To want more? Desire more? Sometimes I wonder because I've allowed everyone to treat me like I'm nothing. But what do you...
    angelpumpkin36 angelpumpkin36
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Apr 17

    I'm ALWAYS someone's back up plan.

    Even the person I've been dealing with for 2 years always tries to make me feel like a backup
    shortbeauty96 shortbeauty96
    18-21, F
    Mar 13

    I must have the worst taste in women

    when it comes to this. Ex-GF, ex-Wife, ex-GF. The last one outright said, "I don't want to think I settled for you." Ouch.
    4lornhope 4lornhope
    51-55, M
    Sep 2, 2015

    This sucks! No matter what I end up being plan b

    or 2 choice! What kills me most is the guy doesn't get it. He says I'm jealous and want more then what we have and he wants. I'm a honest person and he knows that, so I tell him the truth... I don't want more from him we have a great friendship that I value and I'm good with...
    mariatwila mariatwila
    36-40, F
    Nov 22, 2014

    I'm in love with a boy,

    and I've been in love with him for soo long...but I'm his second choice and his first choice is my best friend, yet he dated me first and it's all screwed up and my best friend screwed it all up, everything I ever wanted she has....it's absolutely ridiculous.
    anna0310 anna0310
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jun 18, 2014

    at this point I'd say "plan b" would be a step

    up from how I've been treated.
    kk1874 kk1874
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 13
    woot2u2 woot2u2
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Feb 10, 2015

    I am either going to be your first choice,

    or nothing at all. I am not a backup plan if things don't work out between you and someone else. I am not the one you settle for when everyone else leaves. I am not less than everyone else, and I will never settle for being treated like I am
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    Nov 24, 2015

    I never feel like I'm anybody's first choice :(

    It's like I'm living my life in the shadow of everything I want and will never be. I used to be smart and get good grades but I threw that away because I thought I knew best. I hate my body. I have a good job now so I guess I've landed on my feet but I still feel like I'm a fake...
    Sinead432 Sinead432
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Dec 27, 2013

    Don't you just hate it

    when in the middle of your day you friends call you and say to come meet up when your doing something.Could you have not thought of me before you went you by yourselves rather than me rushing over just to meet you up in an unknown area!๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜–
    B2ST B2ST
    18-21, M
    1 Response Sep 30, 2014
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jun 22, 2015

    At my core I am happy.

    I am happy with myself, in my own space, with my life, and all of my choices. The problem is being so able to rely on myself has kinda turned into a negative. "Who would care enough to give me the best?" I rely on others and get let down. I never screw myself over, so if i...
    Jonesing4nice Jonesing4nice
    22-25, M
    1 Response Feb 15, 2014

    Soul Crushing

    I'm with a guy who was in love with me, and now I don't even know any more. We went out for 2 years, and then it turned into a long distance relationship because of uni choices. We went on a break, and he started talking about this new girl, he sounded crazy about her. He said...
    BornInABirdcage BornInABirdcage
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 17, 2010

    Tis saddening and maddening feeling like you

    are an option way down on a list, it's not much to ask to be appreciated.
    Curiouscatbug Curiouscatbug
    22-25, M
    1 Response Nov 6, 2015

    So , I have two friends.

    The first one is my best friend, I met her six years ago. The second one, I met her three years ago. Everything was fine until my best friend started rejecting me for this other girl. And this other girl has an OTHER girl as an ACTUAL best friend, but keeps calling mine HERS...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Apr 17

    Well, I'm back.. Ugh!

    ! So , my AP has to stop drinking for 45 days. The court said so. Since this started 2 weeks ago, he hadn't seen me of even tried to see him. He said things r fine, but, he doesn't call, or breaks every plan. I told him it was not ok and I missed him. He acts like everything is...
    Newgonegirl Newgonegirl
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Mar 12

    If you want to have a nice life,

    try to enjoy it do what ever you want. Life is too short. Do the things that will make you happy. Live wild and free :)
    imaginetomorrow imaginetomorrow
    18-21, F
    Mar 22, 2014

    Well I was let down again.

    We made plans for Friday night. He called(surprise surprise) about 7. We made plans for drinks.. His idea. He said he just got home and was relaxing. I texted back and said..plans..drinks. No response. I refused to contact him back. I went out by myself. He texted about...
    Newgonegirl Newgonegirl
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Dec 13, 2015
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Sep 16, 2015

    I shouldn't even be feeling like this.

    But damn, it's sometimes,always on my mind.
    RandomExistence RandomExistence
    16-17, M
    Nov 6, 2015

    Do you ever wonder how different your life

    would be if you could change just one thing about yourself
    DisgustedLolita DisgustedLolita
    18-21, F
    1 Response May 13, 2015

    My husband is always choosing his friends over

    the kids and I. Case in point, he made plans with a drinking buddy on Christmas Eve. It hurts me that he'd rather be out than at home with me, but it hurts even more when the kids ask him where he is going, and he says "work".
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 22, 2014

    jadasmith24 jadasmith24
    16-17, F
    Aug 9, 2015

    How does, we stopped 2 hours ago

    for a beer, and left you alone to deal with the kids (who were asking for you all day) equal "we're staying out of your way so we don't get in ****?" That's just a way to make yourself feel better and me to feel like a *****, like I said anything about you bothering me. (which...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jan 12, 2015

    Even though we are married

    and he says he love me, he puts his work ahead of me All the time then through it my face that he pays the rent. He just pays the rent and car insurance, I pay for everything else. I'm just tired of fighting for attention and I work just as hard but make efforts.
    loner2009 loner2009
    31-35, F
    Aug 3, 2015

    Always Second Best

    โ€œNever allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.โ€ I really should listen to this advice. But unfortunately I can't bring myself to. I always end up putting them far too high on a pedestal whilst not realising too late that I'm just a...
    KnightyKnight KnightyKnight
    22-25, M
    Apr 26, 2013

    This just happened to me

    for the first time with a dear friend. Iโ€™m not sure how to handle the situation. To be brief- three hours before I was to get on a plane to join my friend on his vacation. (Which was his plan. I was to stay with him. He worked hard to get me to agree to take time off from...
    anakatt76 anakatt76
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Mar 13

    I just want you to stay put long enough

    so that I can talk to you, how can I say the things that need to be said when you wonโ€™t be stay home for more than a few hours? The kids need you, I need youโ€ฆ beer does not need you; your so called friends donโ€™t need you. You are missing out on the most important things in...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jan 18, 2015

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    mimimgbimby mimimgbimby
    22-25, F
    Jun 1, 2015

    I always hate when I'm someone's second choice.

    I feel like I'm being used. And I don't like that. I feel like you only wan me around when something fails,It makes me feel like dirt
    AshCakes AshCakes
    18-21, F
    Nov 21, 2014

    Some of my "friends" at school only come to me

    when no one wants to put up with their *** or they just want to annoy someone.Well guess what im ******* tired of it i just wish they would come to me as a true friend not someone to annoy or come to with drama going aroound,expecially anoutthem. It's not my fault ysll are...
    wannaloveyou wannaloveyou
    13-15, F
    Sep 7, 2014
    lilimartelini lilimartelini
    51-55, F
    May 14, 2015

    Just Once.

    I know this feeling well.  I just want once in a relationship to feel like I am the only one and that there are no other choices.  I don't want to compete for the affections of a man and I WON'T!  I want to know that when I wake up next to him he isn't dreaming...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Jul 14, 2009

    2nd? No Thanks.

    Either I'm the number one choice from the start or nothing at all. **** that ****.
    Vbot123 Vbot123
    31-35, F
    Aug 18, 2013

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