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I Am Tired of Feeling Like I'm Plan B

For anyone who's ever felt like they've been pushed aside or second choice over someone else. 339 People

    I never feel like I'm anybody's first choice :(

    It's like I'm living my life in the shadow of everything I want and will never be. I used to be smart and get good grades but I threw that away because I thought I knew best. I hate my body. I have a good job now so I guess I've landed on my feet but I still feel like I'm a fake...
    Sinead432 Sinead432 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    Some of my "friends" at school only come to me

    when no one wants to put up with their *** or they just want to annoy someone.Well guess what im ******* tired of it i just wish they would come to me as a true friend not someone to annoy or come to with drama going aroound,expecially anoutthem. It's not my fault ysll are...
    wannaloveyou wannaloveyou 13-15, F Sep 7

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    Don't you just hate it

    when in the middle of your day you friends call you and say to come meet up when your doing something.Could you have not thought of me before you went you by yourselves rather than me rushing over just to meet you up in an unknown area!😐😖
    B2ST B2ST 16-17, M 1 Response Sep 30

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    I'm in love with a boy,

    and I've been in love with him for soo long...but I'm his second choice and his first choice is my best friend, yet he dated me first and it's all screwed up and my best friend screwed it all up, everything I ever wanted she has....it's absolutely ridiculous.
    anna0310 anna0310 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 18

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    The Fattest Guy In The Room

    Good Evening- I always find it comforting to come here and read others stories to know that I am not alone- I recently shared my story with the world about growing up overweight and the challenges that go along with it. I wrote The Fattest Guy in the Room which is now available...
    TheBMRP TheBMRP 26-30, M Nov 23, 2011

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    Always Second Best

    “Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” I really should listen to this advice. But unfortunately I can't bring myself to. I always end up putting them far too high on a pedestal whilst not realising too late that I'm just a...
    KnightyKnight KnightyKnight 22-25, M Apr 26, 2013

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    If you want to have a nice life,

    try to enjoy it do what ever you want. Life is too short. Do the things that will make you happy. Live wild and free :)
    imaginetomorrow imaginetomorrow 16-17, F Mar 22

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    Just Once.

    I know this feeling well.  I just want once in a relationship to feel like I am the only one and that there are no other choices.  I don't want to compete for the affections of a man and I WON'T!  I want to know that when I wake up next to him he isn't dreaming...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 14, 2009

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    I'm not sure if I will ever have more pain than I do at this moment. Please kill me
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Sep 9, 2010

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    Plan B Aka "just An Option"

    I'm gona try and have more self-worth this time because I am sick of being just an option. I understand why guys do it though. I am a ****** up person so I get to only be the back up. I wish for once I wouldnt be just an option. 
    reset reset 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 19, 2011

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    This sucks! No matter what I end up being plan b

    or 2 choice! What kills me most is the guy doesn't get it. He says I'm jealous and want more then what we have and he wants. I'm a honest person and he knows that, so I tell him the truth... I don't want more from him we have a great friendship that I value and I'm good with...
    mariatwila mariatwila 31-35, F Nov 22

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    Soul Crushing

    I'm with a guy who was in love with me, and now I don't even know any more. We went out for 2 years, and then it turned into a long distance relationship because of uni choices. We went on a break, and he started talking about this new girl, he sounded crazy about her. He said...
    BornInABirdcage BornInABirdcage 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 17, 2010

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    I'm not a second choice,

    and I sure as hell am not third choice. I'm just so tired of being the person someone talks to because they can't talk to who they really wanted to. Don't think of them while you're talking me. Because I know you don't want to talk to me... just don't talk to me at all if it's...
    Kmarcum99 Kmarcum99 13-15, F Jul 18

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    2nd? No Thanks.

    Either I'm the number one choice from the start or nothing at all. **** that ****.
    Vbot123 Vbot123 31-35, F Aug 18, 2013

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    Would Like To Be First To One Human Being.

    i said that because my awesome black lab makes me feel like i am the  best human ever!! love you sara!  but my husband is on his cell constantly which has made me try to get the same attention in not so great ways. and even most of my friends cyber and other wise want...
    darlinsam darlinsam 36-40, F 2 Responses May 31, 2010

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    When It Comes To...

    friends..guys...family even sometimes...I'm most likely to be placed on the backburner.  I think my low self-esteem and varying opinions of myself may reflect onto others, and they in turn treat me as I show them I feel about myself.  I've got a lot of work to do, but maybe in...
    Pooh1608 Pooh1608 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 15, 2011

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    Sick And Tired Of It

    my husband gets on **** sex chats and xxxmatch.com
    bluejay82 bluejay82 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 25, 2012

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    At my core I am happy.

    I am happy with myself, in my own space, with my life, and all of my choices. The problem is being so able to rely on myself has kinda turned into a negative. "Who would care enough to give me the best?" I rely on others and get let down. I never screw myself over, so if i...
    Jonesing4nice Jonesing4nice 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 15

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    I always hate when I'm someone's second choice.

    I feel like I'm being used. And I don't like that. I feel like you only wan me around when something fails,It makes me feel like dirt
    AshCakes AshCakes 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 21

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    I realized after being in love with same man

    for 14 years that I'm the only one whose trying and loving the person. I lost all the love and respect for myself. While I was blinded by this love the person was busy stabbing me. A lost of respect is a lost of love. I should have seen the sign. Nevertheless, I would cry for...
    ezzy2014 ezzy2014 26-30, F Nov 21

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    Pushed Aside Again!!!!!

    HiI was just wanting to write this to get out what I am feeling - which might I add - isn't good!I have been in a relationship now for 4 years and married for 1 year. I have two fantastic kids who I adore and are thankful for them everyday. But I was just wanting to know, how...
    hereforhelp hereforhelp 26-30 2 Responses Jan 16, 2010

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