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I Am Tired of Helping People Who Hurt Me

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    I'm Tired Of Helping People...

    Whether they hurt me or not, I'm just tired of helping people in general.  A 17yo girl lives with us.  We're preparing her for adulthood because her own parents failed her.  This is the second 17yo girl we've done this for.  We also get called when people's...
    SHWA SHWA 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 7, 2010

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    Everytime

    I have a bad habit, I date women who are hurting. I tend to draw women who are hurting or wounded to me, I end up helping them. I guess I'm one of those guys who just needs to be needed. I stay with them through the hard nights, and through the hard memories. I help them get...
    jfrost092 jfrost092 18-21, M Feb 23, 2013

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    She Came, She Took, She Left

    My husband and I took in a single mom and her eight children last summer.  We loved those kids with all our heart.  It wasn't easy managing a home with 14 kids, but we did it!  And loved it!   We payed her car insurance, got her a trailer to live in, fed her...
    SHWA SHWA 36-40, F 6 Responses Feb 7, 2010

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    It Is Really Upsetting.

    the more you try to be nice and help someone, the more people try to hurt you.i some times get so mad i say i will never help anyone again.but i know i will.not everyone is like that.and the ones who really appreciate it more than make up for the rest.
    ghostofmyself ghostofmyself 36-40 1 Response Apr 24, 2009

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    To That Point

    It's seems Every ******* time you go to help someone, They Try and hurt you. I am Fed up with it. I help someone and they want to **** you over. I am to that Point Where I am beginning to say **** people. Just Turn away and be about myself. Because Every time Not just Here...
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 31, 2008

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    Lovely Feeling Of All Your Effort Been Thrown Away!

    I meet a stranger online posting teenage advice on a teen website. I was amazed how we both had the same thoughts on changing society. Stupidly being typical me I offered to help her build her own website. Putting hours of my life into it, everything else I put on hold (work...
    SemiBulletProof SemiBulletProof 18-21, F Jan 15, 2012

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    Marraige

    hi i been married 20 years dont no if i should be still do we fight alot lately when he drinks he is different person treats me like **** but it is always my fault well thats what he says verbal abuse he says very hurtfull things but still my fault i think its control thing any...
    joyd1972 joyd1972 36-40 May 26, 2010

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    Don't Trust Anyone.

    Basically, I moved to England for around 6 months. I came back to Ireland ( where I'm from ), I came to visit my friends, and they'd just made friends with this girl, who was a lot younger than us. She was 16 we were like 18/19. We both became really good friends. She told me...
    PennyForYourThoughts PennyForYourThoughts 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 1, 2010

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    I Question The Tail About Those Who Give And Help Gain The Most

    I have spent my whole life helping other people be what they want at the expense of my own needs and desires... I don't get much back in return for helping those who I have cared for and all they do is abuse me and say that I must be taught lessons all the time year after year...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 6, 2011

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    This Is A Story Of A Girl...

    There once was a girl who liked hearing stories, who liked solving problems, who just wanted one friend....The girl was alone most of her life. Being made fun of for things like her teeth being to big and bucked, how she developed large boobs in kindergarten, how she was so...
    IvannaQuinn IvannaQuinn 22-25 1 Response Sep 15, 2012

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    Mentoring Mistakes

    I wasn't long ago I started mentoring a few younger girls who asked me for help in getting their lives together.Like all mentoring projects I went in with high hopes and what I thought were  low key expectations, self help is generally the slowest progressing of all...
    warstorm warstorm 46-50, M Oct 6, 2012

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    Neither Friends Nor Family No One Values Me

    I always help people, I dont like to help, an 1 reason is because I help people and people dont help me, I always listen to my friends problems, and I try to help, but when I need help my friends never help me, or say that I cant do anything, also when I can do something. In case...
    mccintosh mccintosh 18-21, M 4 Responses Jun 3, 2012

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    I Know, It's My Own Fault.

    I have been told more than once it was my own fault because I ALWAYS let myself be used.  I accept that, I am a sucker.  But MUST people be such ***** when all you are trying to do is be a friend or show compassion?   It just makes me sick...people are always...
    patchworkofmistakes patchworkofmistakes 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 18, 2010

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    ~ Fam!ly Farew3ll ~

    The FAMILY FAREWELL came last year : )  I let my FAVORITE COUSIN & KIDS stay with me 4 a couple of months . It was going 2 B so GREAT, 2 families living under one roof. WOW !!! Not so much ??? WHAT IS THIS I asked myself constantly. WE totally could not have had the same...
    MzMoneymaker MzMoneymaker 31-35, F Feb 7, 2010

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    Being Hurt

    I have a friend , sorry had a friend of many years  she as three girls all grown between them they  have nine children, none of the girls have partners , and i would do anything for them bye cloths help them with money and even food that goes for my friend to. i classed them...
    shazreid04 shazreid04 56-60 1 Response May 4, 2012

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    So Disallusioned With Life.....

    It's a harsh lifelesson to learn. Ruthless, self absorbed and materialistic people do tend to get better on in life. It's all I have ever known and so I can't see it any different. I no longer believe in karma, I have seen horrible and self absorbed people with great lives...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 21, 2011

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    it seems every time u go out of ur way to help people, once u do help them, and they no longer need u, they toss u aside, like u r trash, and just **** on u.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 1, 2009

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    My family has no need

    for me anymore and no longer understands me as a person. Also, my boyfriend continually corrects my character due to multiple, conflicting reasons. I'm tired of feeling obligated to cater to so many people. I end every day restless and unable to sleep because I've spent no time...
    ruthlessObsession ruthlessObsession 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 12, 2014

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    SladeTheLegend SladeTheLegend 18-21, M 4 days ago

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    I will tell my what my disability is.. I have a learning disability with a TMI.. Witch is traumatic brain injury and PST chronic PST and depression and anxiety.. People like me...
    wawbanunagway wawbanunagway 31-35, F 5 days ago

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    i have empathy and compassion on those that are hurting. i appreciate honesty.
    sunriseinmyeyes sunriseinmyeyes 31-35, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    What's not good about helping the less fortunate I mean this is just a stereotype but the UK is so selfish in my opinion and I am 12 and I was in Exeter the other day and I saw a...
    charlotte8482 charlotte8482 13-15, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    I love to open people up to how amazing they are at something no one else can do. I think of karma when I do this. :)
    azandrew88 azandrew88 26-30, M 5 days ago

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    Quite often abusers flip on you when you wont be their victim and you fight back...kick and uncaged lion *************...I dare you...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 days ago

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    This is for the girls. Sweety if a guy ever tells you that you are not 'beautiful' or that you are 'ugly' can you do me a favor? Leave his ***, he doesn't deserve you, you should...
    emmacannon16 emmacannon16 13-15, F 6 days ago

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    Psssst! You! Yeah, you, who's reading this post, whoever you are. Maybe today no one's told you, but you KNOW you're amazing, just wanted to let you know!
    ZenGrrrlLioNESS ZenGrrrlLioNESS 46-50, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I do... but I only do so if they appreciate it. I really love helping others but sadly people take it for granted... and take me for granted.
    Miridia96 Miridia96 16-17, F 4 Responses Feb 3

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    To be fair though, I hate it when people act like a victim in general.
    IntenseCookie IntenseCookie 16-17, F Feb 2

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    TracyL78 TracyL78 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 31

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    After worrying how I, who have nothing by myself, can help people, another good chance came to me just tonight. My dorm friend A don't have the keys and the dorm office already...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 31

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    There are too many people around, just when I need some quiet time. It's becoming unbearable, there's no room in this house where someone isn't there. I need some space, not all...
    ChaoticAbyss ChaoticAbyss 26-30 2 Responses Jan 30

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    I just helped somebody. Uhm.. actually not people. They're cats. Stray cats in my dorm area. I just came back from the canteen bought a chicken dish and sardines for my lunch and...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky 26-30, F 5 Responses Jan 30

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    I haven't been truly active on this site in quite awhile. I just bought my first laptop though!!! And it's really reminded me of a few years ago when I thought that it was amazing...
    DarkAngel24 DarkAngel24 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 28

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