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I Am Tired of Helping People Who Hurt Me

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    I have a bad habit, I date women who are hurting. I tend to draw women who are hurting or wounded to me, I end up helping them. I guess I'm one of those guys who just needs to be needed. I stay with them through the hard nights, and through the hard memories. I help them get...
    jfrost092 jfrost092 18-21, M Feb 23, 2013

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    So Disallusioned With Life.....

    It's a harsh lifelesson to learn. Ruthless, self absorbed and materialistic people do tend to get better on in life. It's all I have ever known and so I can't see it any different. I no longer believe in karma, I have seen horrible and self absorbed people with great lives...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 21, 2011

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    Mentoring Mistakes

    I wasn't long ago I started mentoring a few younger girls who asked me for help in getting their lives together.Like all mentoring projects I went in with high hopes and what I thought were  low key expectations, self help is generally the slowest progressing of all...
    warstorm warstorm 46-50, M Oct 6, 2012

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    I Know, It's My Own Fault.

    I have been told more than once it was my own fault because I ALWAYS let myself be used.  I accept that, I am a sucker.  But MUST people be such ***** when all you are trying to do is be a friend or show compassion?   It just makes me sick...people are always...
    patchworkofmistakes patchworkofmistakes 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 18, 2010

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    I Question The Tail About Those Who Give And Help Gain The Most

    I have spent my whole life helping other people be what they want at the expense of my own needs and desires... I don't get much back in return for helping those who I have cared for and all they do is abuse me and say that I must be taught lessons all the time year after year...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 6, 2011

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    ~ Fam!ly Farew3ll ~

    The FAMILY FAREWELL came last year : )  I let my FAVORITE COUSIN & KIDS stay with me 4 a couple of months . It was going 2 B so GREAT, 2 families living under one roof. WOW !!! Not so much ??? WHAT IS THIS I asked myself constantly. WE totally could not have had the same...
    MzMoneymaker MzMoneymaker 31-35, F Feb 7, 2010

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    Lovely Feeling Of All Your Effort Been Thrown Away!

    I meet a stranger online posting teenage advice on a teen website. I was amazed how we both had the same thoughts on changing society. Stupidly being typical me I offered to help her build her own website. Putting hours of my life into it, everything else I put on hold (work...
    SemiBulletProof SemiBulletProof 18-21, F Jan 15, 2012

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    She Came, She Took, She Left

    My husband and I took in a single mom and her eight children last summer.  We loved those kids with all our heart.  It wasn't easy managing a home with 14 kids, but we did it!  And loved it!   We payed her car insurance, got her a trailer to live in, fed her...
    SHWA SHWA 36-40, F 6 Responses Feb 7, 2010

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    This Is A Story Of A Girl...

    There once was a girl who liked hearing stories, who liked solving problems, who just wanted one friend....The girl was alone most of her life. Being made fun of for things like her teeth being to big and bucked, how she developed large boobs in kindergarten, how she was so...
    Angelofloveandlife Angelofloveandlife 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 15, 2012

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    To That Point

    It's seems Every ******* time you go to help someone, They Try and hurt you. I am Fed up with it. I help someone and they want to **** you over. I am to that Point Where I am beginning to say **** people. Just Turn away and be about myself. Because Every time Not just Here...
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 31, 2008

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    Neither Friends Nor Family No One Values Me

    I always help people, I dont like to help, an 1 reason is because I help people and people dont help me, I always listen to my friends problems, and I try to help, but when I need help my friends never help me, or say that I cant do anything, also when I can do something. In case...
    mccintosh mccintosh 18-21, M 4 Responses Jun 3, 2012

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    Marraige

    hi i been married 20 years dont no if i should be still do we fight alot lately when he drinks he is different person treats me like **** but it is always my fault well thats what he says verbal abuse he says very hurtfull things but still my fault i think its control thing any...
    joyd1972 joyd1972 36-40 May 26, 2010

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    Don't Trust Anyone.

    Basically, I moved to England for around 6 months. I came back to Ireland ( where I'm from ), I came to visit my friends, and they'd just made friends with this girl, who was a lot younger than us. She was 16 we were like 18/19. We both became really good friends. She told me...
    PennyForYourThoughts PennyForYourThoughts 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 1, 2010

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    It Is Really Upsetting.

    the more you try to be nice and help someone, the more people try to hurt you.i some times get so mad i say i will never help anyone again.but i know i will.not everyone is like that.and the ones who really appreciate it more than make up for the rest.
    ghostofmyself ghostofmyself 36-40 1 Response Apr 24, 2009

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    Being Hurt

    I have a friend , sorry had a friend of many years  she as three girls all grown between them they  have nine children, none of the girls have partners , and i would do anything for them bye cloths help them with money and even food that goes for my friend to. i classed them...
    shazreid04 shazreid04 56-60 1 Response May 4, 2012

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    it seems every time u go out of ur way to help people, once u do help them, and they no longer need u, they toss u aside, like u r trash, and just **** on u.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 1, 2009

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    My family has no need

    for me anymore and no longer understands me as a person. Also, my boyfriend continually corrects my character due to multiple, conflicting reasons. I'm tired of feeling obligated to cater to so many people. I end every day restless and unable to sleep because I've spent no time...
    ruthlessObsession ruthlessObsession 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 12, 2014

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    I'm Tired Of Helping People...

    Whether they hurt me or not, I'm just tired of helping people in general.  A 17yo girl lives with us.  We're preparing her for adulthood because her own parents failed her.  This is the second 17yo girl we've done this for.  We also get called when people's...
    SHWA SHWA 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 7, 2010

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    I love helping people. It happened when I first went through a melt down.. I needed help and I couldn't be totally open with anyone but myself. I told my close friends but that was...
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    Why does no one ask about me? Why do I have to check in on everyone? Who checks in on me? The only people who wanna chat to me wanna spill their guts. I'm tired of hearing crap...
    Littlepigisabitlow Littlepigisabitlow 31-35, F May 14

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    I love helping people out but the thing that sucks is that I give and give to certain people so much more than I should but when I need something they can't lift a finger
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    femininespirit femininespirit 22-25, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    There is a saying in a book "You don't get to choose if you get hurt in this world...but you do have some say in who hurts you" Unfortunately for me I chose wrong, because i chose...
    Lyta22 Lyta22 22-25, F May 8

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    I hate people who judge because let me tell u this I am in grade 7 and I have learning disabilities so if u judge children like me who have a learning disability this story will...
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    We all have our own sufferings.....The excruciating pain of losing a loved one,The death in the family,Seeing someone laying lifeless supported by medical machines...some of these...
    AWhiteRose AWhiteRose 36-40, F 1 Response May 20

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    When I chose to share my sexual fantasies, I'm fine with people who judge them... as long as: - If they judge my fantasies as "hot"... they tell me! and: - If they judge my...
    dan13732 dan13732 51-55, M 10 Responses Apr 29

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    I guess some people have too much pride. They know what they did but pretend it never happened and start talking to you again like everything is fine. Im one of those people who...
    anonamanda001 anonamanda001 18-21, F Apr 29

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    Everyone has, like those people who built my house or made my car or phone or clothes. I don't know them but they've helped me a great deal.
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    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 3

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    Yessss! People who are smart and funny are amazing. Others think its funny to act dumb. But its really not.
    ninjadentistinspace ninjadentistinspace 16-17, F 1 Response May 4

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    Yeah, people tend to question my sanity when I reject hanging out with them, so I can spend more time with people who dont exist!
    AudioTravylerRavenwolf AudioTravylerRavenwolf 13-15, F May 6

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    Its better to be alone than being with people who just going to bring me down. Instead of being there for me during difficult times, instead, they brought me so much misery.
    Shansai84 Shansai84 26-30, F 2 Responses May 9

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    People who say to me, "Oh don't worry you'll grow." I've been 4'6" for over two years. I have to exercise to keep from gaining weight.
    pardax pardax 13-15, M May 9

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    I can't say I'm Sorry I'm more sad for the people who don't believe.. I once was their. it's not that I didn't believe so much it was I didn't understand. but GOD has done amazing...
    jenneric07 jenneric07 36-40, F May 12

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