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I Am Tired of Helping People Who Hurt Me

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    This Is A Story Of A Girl...

    There once was a girl who liked hearing stories, who liked solving problems, who just wanted one friend....The girl was alone most of her life. Being made fun of for things like her teeth being to big and bucked, how she developed large boobs in kindergarten, how she was so...
    Angelofloveandlife Angelofloveandlife 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 15, 2012

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    Lovely Feeling Of All Your Effort Been Thrown Away!

    I meet a stranger online posting teenage advice on a teen website. I was amazed how we both had the same thoughts on changing society. Stupidly being typical me I offered to help her build her own website. Putting hours of my life into it, everything else I put on hold (work...
    SemiBulletProof SemiBulletProof 18-21, F Jan 15, 2012

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    ~ Fam!ly Farew3ll ~

    The FAMILY FAREWELL came last year : )  I let my FAVORITE COUSIN & KIDS stay with me 4 a couple of months . It was going 2 B so GREAT, 2 families living under one roof. WOW !!! Not so much ??? WHAT IS THIS I asked myself constantly. WE totally could not have had the same...
    MzMoneymaker MzMoneymaker 31-35, F Feb 7, 2010

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    Neither Friends Nor Family No One Values Me

    I always help people, I dont like to help, an 1 reason is because I help people and people dont help me, I always listen to my friends problems, and I try to help, but when I need help my friends never help me, or say that I cant do anything, also when I can do something. In case...
    mccintosh mccintosh 18-21, M 4 Responses Jun 3, 2012

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    I Question The Tail About Those Who Give And Help Gain The Most

    I have spent my whole life helping other people be what they want at the expense of my own needs and desires... I don't get much back in return for helping those who I have cared for and all they do is abuse me and say that I must be taught lessons all the time year after year...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 6, 2011

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    She Came, She Took, She Left

    My husband and I took in a single mom and her eight children last summer.  We loved those kids with all our heart.  It wasn't easy managing a home with 14 kids, but we did it!  And loved it!   We payed her car insurance, got her a trailer to live in, fed her...
    SHWA SHWA 36-40, F 6 Responses Feb 7, 2010

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    It Is Really Upsetting.

    the more you try to be nice and help someone, the more people try to hurt you.i some times get so mad i say i will never help anyone again.but i know i will.not everyone is like that.and the ones who really appreciate it more than make up for the rest.
    ghostofmyself ghostofmyself 36-40 1 Response Apr 24, 2009

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    My family has no need

    for me anymore and no longer understands me as a person. Also, my boyfriend continually corrects my character due to multiple, conflicting reasons. I'm tired of feeling obligated to cater to so many people. I end every day restless and unable to sleep because I've spent no time...
    ruthlessObsession ruthlessObsession 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 12

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    it seems every time u go out of ur way to help people, once u do help them, and they no longer need u, they toss u aside, like u r trash, and just **** on u.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 1, 2009

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    Marraige

    hi i been married 20 years dont no if i should be still do we fight alot lately when he drinks he is different person treats me like **** but it is always my fault well thats what he says verbal abuse he says very hurtfull things but still my fault i think its control thing any...
    joyd1972 joyd1972 36-40 May 26, 2010

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    Don't Trust Anyone.

    Basically, I moved to England for around 6 months. I came back to Ireland ( where I'm from ), I came to visit my friends, and they'd just made friends with this girl, who was a lot younger than us. She was 16 we were like 18/19. We both became really good friends. She told me...
    PennyForYourThoughts PennyForYourThoughts 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 1, 2010

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    I'm Tired Of Helping People...

    Whether they hurt me or not, I'm just tired of helping people in general.  A 17yo girl lives with us.  We're preparing her for adulthood because her own parents failed her.  This is the second 17yo girl we've done this for.  We also get called when people's...
    SHWA SHWA 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 7, 2010

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    Being Hurt

    I have a friend , sorry had a friend of many years  she as three girls all grown between them they  have nine children, none of the girls have partners , and i would do anything for them bye cloths help them with money and even food that goes for my friend to. i classed them...
    shazreid04 shazreid04 56-60 1 Response May 4, 2012

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    Mentoring Mistakes

    I wasn't long ago I started mentoring a few younger girls who asked me for help in getting their lives together.Like all mentoring projects I went in with high hopes and what I thought were  low key expectations, self help is generally the slowest progressing of all...
    warstorm warstorm 46-50, M Oct 6, 2012

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    To That Point

    It's seems Every ******* time you go to help someone, They Try and hurt you. I am Fed up with it. I help someone and they want to **** you over. I am to that Point Where I am beginning to say **** people. Just Turn away and be about myself. Because Every time Not just Here...
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 31, 2008

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    I Know, It's My Own Fault.

    I have been told more than once it was my own fault because I ALWAYS let myself be used.  I accept that, I am a sucker.  But MUST people be such ***** when all you are trying to do is be a friend or show compassion?   It just makes me sick...people are always...
    patchworkofmistakes patchworkofmistakes 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 18, 2010

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    Everytime

    I have a bad habit, I date women who are hurting. I tend to draw women who are hurting or wounded to me, I end up helping them. I guess I'm one of those guys who just needs to be needed. I stay with them through the hard nights, and through the hard memories. I help them get...
    jfrost092 jfrost092 18-21, M Feb 23, 2013

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    So Disallusioned With Life.....

    It's a harsh lifelesson to learn. Ruthless, self absorbed and materialistic people do tend to get better on in life. It's all I have ever known and so I can't see it any different. I no longer believe in karma, I have seen horrible and self absorbed people with great lives...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 21, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    I am tired of people who make snap judgments, people who assume they know you based on a number of limited experiences they've had with you, people who are convinced that their...
    ashleymaggie ashleymaggie 22-25, F 8 Responses Apr 3

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    i always forgive people that hurt me,my mom has this same habit even she forgives people who hurt her i dont know why i have such a soft heart i dont like to take revenge,even if i...
    Roadguy Roadguy 26-30, M 1 Response a week ago

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    Some things you just can't change & I have to forgive the people who hurt me so I can let go and move on. Something traumatizing happened in my life and I need to change the way I...
    Lucky1217 Lucky1217 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 26

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    Despite having a bit of social anxiety and have been negatively influenced by people around me, I like to help people who need it. Sometimes I've got to break down those barriers...
    Katami Katami 16-17, F Mar 24

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    Growing up i liked helping people mostly in high school i would help classmate and friends with social studies homework it felt good helping out plus they graduated :) helping...
    saints56 saints56 16-17 Apr 8

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    I am really tired of people on here who totally misconstrue what I am saying and are looking to start trouble. They are the ones who take themselves way too seriously. If I don't...
    johnny048 johnny048 46-50, M 1 Response a week ago

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    No. It does not work like that. You do not forgive because you want people to walk right over you...even though sometimes it could be interpreted that way and they call you a...
    Psychologica Psychologica 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 11

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    I am so ******* tired of people thinking they are better than others. Everyone is equal so get over yourself already!!!!
    TheUNkn0wn0n3 TheUNkn0wn0n3 13-15, M 2 days ago

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    This is a major pet peeve. I hate when people think they can predict things about me or they "know me sooo well". All the people who REALLY know me (and I wouldn't say that's a lot...
    fairytalesandspiderwebs fairytalesandspiderwebs 18-21, F Mar 23

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    I know they say to forgive and forget, but, I find it really hard to forgive people who knowingly do things that are wrong, meanwhile, playing the innocent role. These people will...
    NeedMoreSunnyDays NeedMoreSunnyDays 41-45 Mar 31

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    I do admire people who adopt children. There are so many children in the foster system that need good homes to, and people who open those homes up to, are good people in my book.
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 4

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    yeah like people who are comfortable wid their thoughts and dont go on the moral high ground standards set by some unknown people society etc etc in short like people who challenge...
    romell romell 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 4

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    I do admire people who can keep clam in pretty much every situation. I am someone who has a hard time keeping calm, I don't know if it is the anxiety, or the hot-headed-woman in me...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F Apr 7

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    In all honesty, I do appreciate people who legitimately care. I know not everybody out there understands panty-lovers, or nudists for that matter. It's nice to THINK people care...
    jsdiapsfjidpa jsdiapsfjidpa 22-25, M Apr 9

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    I wish people were more honest with me. I have more respect for people who just tell it as it is and not lie than people who just tell you what they think you want to hear. I...
    pip34 pip34 31-35, F Apr 11

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    I hate it when people r mean to kids n adults with special needs cause I have members on my family that have down syndrome n other needs so it's not funny or nice to pick on them...
    Iamaweirdonproudofit Iamaweirdonproudofit 13-15, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I always admire people who be them self including myself because lots of those people are not even going to remember you 10 years from now. They may influence you today but if they...
    keston234 keston234 13-15, M 20 hrs ago

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    I try to be an open minded and thoughtful person and whilst I'm definitely thoughtful and considerate I am not as open minded as other people. I don't run around "hating" people...
    CaptainCalculus CaptainCalculus 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 23

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    I do adore people who are not afraid to share their true feelings and emotions about things. I have always been someone who has always had a hard time sharing my thoughts and...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 26

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    Well this makes sense right? And I always try to be one of those people who gives it straight. I tell you what I am really thinking and if I tell you something, believe me I mean...
    KenzieluvsRupert KenzieluvsRupert 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 27

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    i admire people who adopt children even i love to adopt orphan children but im helpless now i cannot adopt because still im single.But i will adopt once i get married i want a wife...
    Roadguy Roadguy 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 29

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    when your super ready to leave but you can't because the other people is not yet ready and they are still preparing it really annoys me.. every time when we have an outing with...
    mcindygrace mcindygrace 22-25, F Apr 9

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    Its not so much that i admire the people who are being themselves its more that i dislike people who are fake and superficial and pretentious.
    anovasiangel anovasiangel 13-15, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I don't think people understand how hard it is for people who are or aren't openly gay. It's not someone's choice to be gay its natural. I hate seeing people get bullied over their...
    Kperr14 Kperr14 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    I think life is too short to live in someone else's shadow. Therefore, I respect people who are proud of who they are, and don't bother trying to blend in with everybody else. I...
    lifeisatest lifeisatest 22-25, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    So there's this guy, right On EP All he ever posts is how he wants to kill himself. So, I told him to just do it. He took down all my comments (I'm guessing he's mad I called...
    GrimAndInUtterDismay GrimAndInUtterDismay 13-15, F 2 days ago

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    There are too many people who try to control you, but they do this just because they know deep down you are better than they are. So let them be and ignore it ;-)
    domipl domipl 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 26

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    I'm usually a very calm person, and I handle stress pretty well. You'd think I'd be able to keep calm in an emergency, but I'm not so sure I can. Last year my toaster caught on...
    couldbeheaven couldbeheaven 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 29

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    I'm not saying people who are the same are bad I love twins but its better to be yourself your not a copy machine
    MerpR MerpR 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 1

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    I like to talk to people who can listen to my opinions and then form their own opinions and discuss them with me. All to often when I tell my friends really interesting stories...
    pjpaul pjpaul 16-17, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I get impatient with people who are lazy to improve themselves. Especially at work, they constantly ask for help without trying on their own. They seriously need to know that I am...
    mytinycupcake mytinycupcake 26-30, F 6 days ago

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    So my music teacher has bipolar disorder and had to go away for a little while to get better. She is such an inspiration- she packed up her entire life here in England because of...
    writercookies writercookies 13-15, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    If you're not into somebody else's fantasies, fine. To each their own... but that doesn't give you the right to make judgements about the people who have them.
    utahwriter utahwriter 36-40, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Bullies are really people who are too scared to live their own lives so they try to make themselves look better by picking on and saying bad things about other
    alexiasnowbelle alexiasnowbelle 22-25, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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