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I Am Tired of Helping People Who Hurt Me

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    My family has no need

    for me anymore and no longer understands me as a person. Also, my boyfriend continually corrects my character due to multiple, conflicting reasons. I'm tired of feeling obligated to cater to so many people. I end every day restless and unable to sleep because I've spent no time...
    ruthlessObsession ruthlessObsession 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 12

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    Being Hurt

    I have a friend , sorry had a friend of many years  she as three girls all grown between them they  have nine children, none of the girls have partners , and i would do anything for them bye cloths help them with money and even food that goes for my friend to. i classed them...
    shazreid04 shazreid04 56-60 1 Response May 4, 2012

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    It Is Really Upsetting.

    the more you try to be nice and help someone, the more people try to hurt you.i some times get so mad i say i will never help anyone again.but i know i will.not everyone is like that.and the ones who really appreciate it more than make up for the rest.
    ghostofmyself ghostofmyself 36-40 1 Response Apr 24, 2009

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    To That Point

    It's seems Every ******* time you go to help someone, They Try and hurt you. I am Fed up with it. I help someone and they want to **** you over. I am to that Point Where I am beginning to say **** people. Just Turn away and be about myself. Because Every time Not just Here...
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 31, 2008

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    Don't Trust Anyone.

    Basically, I moved to England for around 6 months. I came back to Ireland ( where I'm from ), I came to visit my friends, and they'd just made friends with this girl, who was a lot younger than us. She was 16 we were like 18/19. We both became really good friends. She told me...
    PennyForYourThoughts PennyForYourThoughts 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 1, 2010

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    I Question The Tail About Those Who Give And Help Gain The Most

    I have spent my whole life helping other people be what they want at the expense of my own needs and desires... I don't get much back in return for helping those who I have cared for and all they do is abuse me and say that I must be taught lessons all the time year after year...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 6, 2011

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    She Came, She Took, She Left

    My husband and I took in a single mom and her eight children last summer.  We loved those kids with all our heart.  It wasn't easy managing a home with 14 kids, but we did it!  And loved it!   We payed her car insurance, got her a trailer to live in, fed her...
    SHWA SHWA 36-40, F 6 Responses Feb 7, 2010

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    ~ Fam!ly Farew3ll ~

    The FAMILY FAREWELL came last year : )  I let my FAVORITE COUSIN & KIDS stay with me 4 a couple of months . It was going 2 B so GREAT, 2 families living under one roof. WOW !!! Not so much ??? WHAT IS THIS I asked myself constantly. WE totally could not have had the same...
    MzMoneymaker MzMoneymaker 31-35, F Feb 7, 2010

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    Mentoring Mistakes

    I wasn't long ago I started mentoring a few younger girls who asked me for help in getting their lives together.Like all mentoring projects I went in with high hopes and what I thought were  low key expectations, self help is generally the slowest progressing of all...
    warstorm warstorm 46-50, M Oct 6, 2012

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    it seems every time u go out of ur way to help people, once u do help them, and they no longer need u, they toss u aside, like u r trash, and just **** on u.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 1, 2009

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    So Disallusioned With Life.....

    It's a harsh lifelesson to learn. Ruthless, self absorbed and materialistic people do tend to get better on in life. It's all I have ever known and so I can't see it any different. I no longer believe in karma, I have seen horrible and self absorbed people with great lives...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 21, 2011

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    Marraige

    hi i been married 20 years dont no if i should be still do we fight alot lately when he drinks he is different person treats me like **** but it is always my fault well thats what he says verbal abuse he says very hurtfull things but still my fault i think its control thing any...
    joyd1972 joyd1972 36-40 May 26, 2010

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    Everytime

    I have a bad habit, I date women who are hurting. I tend to draw women who are hurting or wounded to me, I end up helping them. I guess I'm one of those guys who just needs to be needed. I stay with them through the hard nights, and through the hard memories. I help them get...
    jfrost092 jfrost092 18-21, M Feb 23, 2013

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    I Know, It's My Own Fault.

    I have been told more than once it was my own fault because I ALWAYS let myself be used.  I accept that, I am a sucker.  But MUST people be such ***** when all you are trying to do is be a friend or show compassion?   It just makes me sick...people are always...
    patchworkofmistakes patchworkofmistakes 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 18, 2010

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    Lovely Feeling Of All Your Effort Been Thrown Away!

    I meet a stranger online posting teenage advice on a teen website. I was amazed how we both had the same thoughts on changing society. Stupidly being typical me I offered to help her build her own website. Putting hours of my life into it, everything else I put on hold (work...
    SemiBulletProof SemiBulletProof 18-21, F Jan 15, 2012

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    This Is A Story Of A Girl...

    There once was a girl who liked hearing stories, who liked solving problems, who just wanted one friend....The girl was alone most of her life. Being made fun of for things like her teeth being to big and bucked, how she developed large boobs in kindergarten, how she was so...
    Angelofloveandlife Angelofloveandlife 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 15, 2012

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    Neither Friends Nor Family No One Values Me

    I always help people, I dont like to help, an 1 reason is because I help people and people dont help me, I always listen to my friends problems, and I try to help, but when I need help my friends never help me, or say that I cant do anything, also when I can do something. In case...
    mccintosh mccintosh 18-21, M 4 Responses Jun 3, 2012

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    I'm Tired Of Helping People...

    Whether they hurt me or not, I'm just tired of helping people in general.  A 17yo girl lives with us.  We're preparing her for adulthood because her own parents failed her.  This is the second 17yo girl we've done this for.  We also get called when people's...
    SHWA SHWA 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 7, 2010

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    sashakimi4 sashakimi4 13-15, F a week ago

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    Usually when you know about someone who makes fun of another person, then everyone else always thinks like, "Oh, you're just insecure and you need to put other people down to make...
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    i really prefer people who are open minded i never really liked anyone who judges others. i don't like people who are rude to people who are different from them or who have their...
    unknownfate15 unknownfate15 22-25 2 Responses Aug 9

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    I guess I'm "judging" people because I dislike the way they judge others but I don't understand. I mean, you have people that make it obvious and known that they won't accept...
    EmmieBear EmmieBear 16-17, F a week ago

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    Hello people! As a person, we all tend to belong to a society. A society that unfortunately builds unrealistic goals for us. For example being super skinny and having thigh gaps...
    farahway farahway 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 3

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    No hidden meaning or manipulation! I dislike it when people deliberately test your mind to see what they can mess with and say one thing but mean another... As well a lot of...
    MilweePetite MilweePetite 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 3

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    I know a lot of time people will say I care but they don't show it. Actions speak louder than words! I'm thankful for the people who show they care for me. I'll do my best to show...
    Idreamtowaketofindthefate Idreamtowaketofindthefate 18-21, F Aug 6

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    I hang out with people like this. Most people in high school would always tell me why I hang with them ( i am there total opposites & I sugar coat things and don't speak my mind...
    gostop4 gostop4 18-21 2 Responses Aug 6

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    In fact I only want people who are barely 50 miles from me i know people will roll their eyes but yea i cant handle long distance friendships and relationship i dont have time nor...
    anasteel2 anasteel2 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 9

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    Let's not even bother with mentioning genders. People who abuse other people suck. It doesn't matter what gender they are.
    blargendee blargendee 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 12

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    I wish these experiences would stop with the "I hate people that..." You shouldn't hate anyone, because when you hate you are really hating God! So fist off I want to say I do not...
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    so theres this girl that use to be in my group, ill name her allie (not her real name). any who on her birthday party she was super happy, but she invited a girl she liked who was...
    brownzugar brownzugar 16-17, M Jul 30

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    I hate people who talk and be on their phone during a movie. Sometimes I want to throw their phone. And yell at them to SHUT THE **** UP
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 31

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    Just because im really a 97yo male nudist from Japan why cant i make a fake profile and pretend to be a hot 26yo babe so no i dont hate people who make fake profiles, would i have...
    ExtremeNext ExtremeNext 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 1

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    I really admire people who never lose their temper. I hate it when it happens to me. I feel stupid and defeated by my inside demons.
    Danceofhours Danceofhours 36-40, M 2 Responses Aug 1

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    I love people who are able to express their opinion and who have their own thoughts on varying topics. I think being true to yourself and living authentically is one of the...
    Dutchess68 Dutchess68 41-45 2 Responses Aug 4

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    Stop fuckking judging people. Your no better. God i hate people who judge
    brookedawn1234 brookedawn1234 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 8

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    i like add people who like navel torture and navel fetish to be toughener because its our fetish;)we should add toughener we are group
    navelhottorture navelhottorture 26-30, M Aug 10

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    The ironic thing is that the bunch of people who bullied me on this site hide behind this same banner. I didnt realise it was a bully gang until i noticed the affiliations through...
    PinkNPunky PinkNPunky 31-35, T 1 Response Aug 11

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    I love to be with people who are nice enough. :)
    ElleFrancene ElleFrancene 18-21, F Aug 13

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    It's not okay, no matter the circumstance. By cheating you betray the person who you supposedly "love" and throw away their trust. It is a horrible and despicable thing to do...
    VoraciousTurtles VoraciousTurtles 16-17, F Aug 20

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    Real talk! Hate people who are fraud, i cut them off easy.
    RealTalkFriend RealTalkFriend 26-30, M Aug 20

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