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I Am Tired Of Parenting My Adult Child

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 3 People

    When Do I Get To Live My Life?!

    I have lived half my life raising my children.  I am almost 50 and I have never had a chance to really live my life.  I understand that is what a mother does but, when do they finally grow up and move on with their lives? I have three kids one is 24 one is 20 and...
    irishgurl01 irishgurl01 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 22, 2010

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    21 Year Old Daughter Drives Me Crazy!

    I am 43 with a 21 year old daughter and 18 year old son.  My son seems on the right track but my daughter is another story.  She has these huge dreams but cannot see past today.  I paid for a year of college which she failed.  Don't get me wrong, she is a...
    Ponypal Ponypal 41-45 Sep 30, 2010

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    Caroline Myss 'Why People Don't Heal". You can find it on youtube. This woman is amazing. Why we can't heal? We can't heal because we don't want to heal. This is not about our ACoA...
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    ShirleyPaul ShirleyPaul 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 3

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    5THCommandment 5THCommandment 61-65, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    Diciplindad Diciplindad 31-35, M 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    Some would say immature I say just a kid at heart :) Seriously for 18 FREAKING years you wait for the day when you're finally an adult and then this is the sh!t we get!!?? Just...
    Anya000 Anya000 18-21, F 8 hrs ago

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    Momof2spankedstill Momof2spankedstill 41-45, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    worromjw worromjw 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    Dontcare8 Dontcare8 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 31

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    believexo believexo 16-17, F 57 mins ago

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    EmbraceForever EmbraceForever 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 10

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    AlphahatesOmega AlphahatesOmega 18-21, M 2 days ago

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    4myinnerchild 4myinnerchild 51-55, M Aug 30

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    WelcomeTheSilence WelcomeTheSilence 16-17, F Aug 31

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    im tired of crying . im tired of cutting myself . im tired of being alive . if i ever actually had a conversation with God in person, I'm pretty sure he'd hate me. If I were God...
    SubmissiveSecrets SubmissiveSecrets 18-21, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    Ub12 Ub12 61-65, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Hello everyone. You may call me discipline :) I don't want to give away my real name until I have gotten to know you all better personally, anyway. Back on topic. I have never been...
    Disciplining Disciplining 13-15, F 9 Responses Sep 6

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    I had a spark of hope last month. But the tears put it out. I'm so tired of coming back to the pain. It's like how they say you are in the woods without a compass. I circle back...
    Ludavin Ludavin 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 10

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    I'm 21 years old, and this is probably the first time I've really let myself believe that what I have experienced is not something I brought upon myself. For so long I've felt so...
    mjh92 mjh92 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 12

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