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I Am Tired of People Competing Over Who Has Suffered More

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    People really do this??? hmmmm...  I guess I don't view it as a competition, I view it as them expressing their hurts and where they've been.  To me it's never been a competition in my eyes because it's how they're feeling and how they're hurting. 
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 30, 2010

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    Everyone Hurts

    everyone hurts. we all hurt, we all have been through hard things. i wish more people would be understanding, and less trying to act like their pain is more important than other people. we all hurt, we all have pain... When the day is long and the night, the night is yours alone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Sep 21, 2009

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    Oh, I Am Sorry, But I Had To Sleep (not Easy) On This....count Me In On This!!!

    Ok, now I am SOOOO sick of people "Getting out their proverbial 'yard stick' to measure who has suffered more. I am 37, and have been clinically dead for 23 minutes (the only 23 minutes I remmember NOT suffering constant pain!!!! The only 23 minutes of peace; but to the topic...
    beatnrsd beatnrsd 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 21, 2011

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    "I've had it worse than you" "Somebody out

    there has it worse than you" "____ is happening in _____ country" Whether or not that's true, I feel that people saying that when hearing about a struggle someone's going through makes them seem like they're trying to invalidate someone's pain, which isn't right. You might as...
    JadedDivinity JadedDivinity 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 27

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    Suffering

    We all have suffered at some point. It's just perspective that makes it so different.  My friend and I would sometimes get into arguments as to who suffers more with BDD. To end it, I just say that we have suffered at the same level.   
    reset reset 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 29, 2009

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    Pain Is Not A Competition

    Everybody has pain. Your pain is no worse, or no better than mine. It just is. I think my worst experience was telling a pain doctor that my pain level was an 8, He looked at me and said, I think it really should be a 2 or a 3. I was not there looking for narcotics, I just wanted...
    kwilty61 kwilty61 46-50 2 Responses Jul 11, 2011

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    What's With The Competition?

    Everyone has a different kind of pain and I don't see why people compete on who has suffered more and the longest.
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F 2 Responses May 3, 2010

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    Got Another One For Ya!!!! (like There Isn't Enough)

    Oh, yeah, I had another one who was screaming when her "old pain doctor died (uh huh) and fifteen years of records of treating her for RSD was reduced to seven pages, and boo hooo now I can only get 300mg MS Contin and 90mg of MS-immediate release." On my old regimen, I had days...
    beatnrsd beatnrsd 36-40, F Nov 24, 2011

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    We All Hurt

    everybody feels pain I feel pain you feel pain my dog feels pain my best friend, he feels pain she feels pain we all feel pain its a part of like a few months ago I was hanging around a group of people who where all in lots of pain I soon realized why being around them made me...
    chocolatelover987 chocolatelover987 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 22, 2013

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    "poor Mee .. Boooooo Hooooo Hoooooooooooo Hooooo !! Sob ..."

    Hey ! everyone is given some ..  no one  is 'THE' ONLY ONE with heartaches 'n' pain..  or with BIGGER heartaches 'n' pain !!!
    Auror Auror 31-35, F Mar 22, 2010

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    Get Over It!

    I hate when I'm telling someone how I feel and suddenly their life is so much worse.   Nothing like telling someone who still has both parents about losing one or both and they turn around and say something idiotic like  " I know how you feel, when my snake died...
    BlasphemousAngel BlasphemousAngel 31-35, M 3 Responses Jan 9, 2010

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    Something I Learned A Long Time Ago...

    You can sympathize...and you can have shared a similar experience...but when another is in pain, no one can truly truly understand what they feel. Everyone feels pain differently, and sooner we all realize this, the sooner we come to realize that what to you, might be minor, to...
    LEBsCreations LEBsCreations 22-25, M Aug 22, 2013

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    We All Hurt...

    We all Hurt. You hurt I Hurt He Hurts She hurts They Hurt We hurt Everyone hurts. No one's pain is greater than others. We all hurt for various reasons. Some have lost a Loved one. Others have terminally sick. Others have a mental illness. Others are facing challengens Others...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 30, 2010

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    My Husband Does This.

    Every time something happens to me or I get sick or anything I never mention it to my husband anymore. When I used to he would always come back with how he was/is sooooo much worse off as if I have nothing to complain about and he deserves all the sympathy.
    katnipkitkat katnipkitkat 41-45, F Mar 20, 2011

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    Yeah!

    everyone hurts. we all hurt, we all have been through hard things. i wish more people would be understanding, and less trying to act like their pain is more important than other people. we all hurt, we all have pain... When the day is long and the night, the night is yours...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 19, 2013

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    The Oppression Olympics?

    I have something to say to all of you in that:
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix 26-30, M Feb 6, 2013

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    You May Not Like Hearing This...

    ...but SOME of you need to practice what you preach! To the woman who keeps posting a story about her little online "buddy," - SERIOUSLY???!!! So you bombard the people here with ten different stories??? Don't you realize how YOU sound?? Princess much??? How do you know you...
    kerryjd kerryjd 36-40 Aug 22, 2013

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    Everyone Hurts

    When the day is long and the night, the night is yours alone, When you're sure you've had enough of this life, well hang on Don't let yourself go, 'cause everybody cries and everybody hurts sometimes Sometimes everything is wrong. Now it's time to sing along When your day...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 2, 2009

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