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I Am Tired Of Trying To Be "perfect" For Everyone

Have you ever just been fed up with living up to everyones expectations and yet still not being good enough? Share your story here. 862 People

    This is a personal post towards my mother.

    All I seem to be doing is upsetting her. Nothing I do makes her happy. All I do is worry that if I do something its gonna upset her. Which is one of the mains reasons I am scared to do or try things on my own, because even if it makes me happy, I know it wont make her happy. We...
    untilmydeath untilmydeath 18-21, F Jun 14

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    Just a few more months

    until graduation; I hope. I've been contemplating on dropping out and joining the army; I just can't do this anymore. I do not want to come home anymore; it has gotten to the point where I enjoy walking around all day and night just because I am not home to here the insults. I...
    xoelizabethhroe xoelizabethhroe 22-25, F Jan 26, 2014

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    I Try Too Hard

    I am sick of trying to be the perfect kid, my parents always hated me regardless, so what the fuckk is the point? Just today I was called worthless by mother. Thanks mom, love ya' too.
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25 8 Responses Oct 30, 2010

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    The "good" Child

    My parents have 3 daughter me being the youngest. I have always been the "good" one. I've never done drugs & I wasnt into partying. One of my sisters are in the county jail right now & the other is in State prison. I have never been in any type of trouble. & i have always tried...
    jmecovington jmecovington 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 21, 2012

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    when they need u they know how to find u

    but when u need them u will never find them !! huh
    tukie14 tukie14 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 21

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    I Am Tired, I Want A Happy Life

    All my life i tried to please everyone, i know how to give almost everything but no one appears to be willing to reciprocate the gesture. Give and take is a foundation of a loving and lasting relationship but where is mine!! Common ladies where i'm i going wrong? or guys are you...
    inspirehub99 inspirehub99 36-40, M 2 Responses Aug 6, 2012

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    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 1 Response May 13

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    lts too much.. i am tired to be perfect.

    .i am tired seems happy but actually i am not...everyone said i am lucky because i can achieve almost what i want but i feeling lonely with this situation..i am feeling lost and sad..i want go far away..very far then cried as much as i can so no body know i am crying..
    myselfhere myselfhere 22-25, F May 13

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    I always feel as if my family wants the best of

    me and wants me to be how they define the word "perfect". I'm always being told how disappointed people are of me and how they expected better. I've tried and tried to be how they expect, but what my mother expects is much different than what my grandmother expects, which...
    WalkingSadness WalkingSadness 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 9, 2014

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    People's ignorance rattles my cage especially

    when it comes to people with mental health. For years i suffered with my mental health, i ended up making the biggest mistakes of my life and not a day goes by when they don't haunt me but i need to be cut some slack. I can say sorry a thousand times but it will not take back...
    Raindrops18 Raindrops18 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 19, 2014

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    Giving Up

    Sometimes it feels like I can't take it anymore that life is just to much it feels like I'm suffocating like every single piece of happiness in me is slowly dying and as hard as I try to stay strong to keep going on for those around me I feel my self control slipping away and I...
    Lely914 Lely914 18-21, F 1 Response May 9, 2012

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    I try my best to fit in with my family

    but nothing seems 2 work :'(........ at school its the same i changed my whole image just 4 people 2 like me so one day i went as myself and I'm just ugly!!! i have had boyfriends but none so far that liked me for me.; but my best friend tells me that i have a long path 2 go and...
    christinababy23 christinababy23 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 23, 2014

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    Maybe not "perfect" but someone I'm not.

    I become a different person for different groups. At work I'm confident and outspoken, at home I'm domestic and insecure. With my relatives I'm crazy but respectful. In an unknown group I'm quiet and try to blend into the scenery. When I am being myself people assume I'm...
    jrf9782 jrf9782 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 22

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    Whose To Judge?

    "Who are you to judge the life I live? I know I'm not perfect and I don't live to be. But, before you start pointing fingers, make sure your hands are clean." ~Bob Marley He who seeks perfection in a friend will stay without friends. ~Yiddish Proverb (Yiddish...
    NoFinalConflict NoFinalConflict 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 2, 2012

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    I'm not really a fan of Nicki Minaj

    but the other day I saw this on tumblr and I really liked it: "When you're a girl, you have to be everything, You have to be dope at what you do, but you have to be super sweet, and you have to be sexy, and you have to be this and you have to be that and you have to be nice...
    RobbieID RobbieID 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 1, 2014

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    people only accept you

    for someone your not ,they want you to fix yourself I think people.do this because they're not happy with themselves
    goddessxx goddessxx 18-21, F Nov 1, 2014

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    My nose is the feature I like the least.

    But I'm starting to accept it more, why should I let the media and people who are in control of making girls feel like they're not good enough physically make me think that I'm ugly because I don't have the cutest nose. I'm unique, and nobody actually cares if you have an...
    Miriamjen Miriamjen 16-17, F Jul 3

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    I am a self harmer I used to be on the brink of

    being anorexic I used to be bulimic I get depressed sometimes I punch walls I rip phone books I smile I laugh I cry I joke I learn I listen I talk I help I'm me...
    lennie4 lennie4 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 6, 2014

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    For years I've tried.

    .I've tried my very best, and I can't do it anymore. I have reached far beyond my breaking point. If I do it for another day I'll go insane. I used to think that I had to be perfect for everyone, or they wouldn't like me. Come to find out that that is true for some people in my...
    KyrBella KyrBella 13-15, F Jun 25

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    I am really guilty of doing this.

    It's like I want to fit in, but also stand out. I want to be that certain guys "ideal girl" or that certain girls "ideal friend" it's hard living in this society. I also spend WAY to much time on my looks. I know proper hygiene etc is different, but I mean my hair, makeup...
    lc543 lc543 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 1, 2014

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    You could pull out a knife

    and pull out a gun but I won't back down no I said I won't back down And if you want me to back you'll haft to put some strength and force into
    ghostbeautiy ghostbeautiy 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 1, 2014

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    No Point

    I really don't see a point in pretending everything is okay when in plain truth nothing is okay. Put a nice big smile on my face. I am so ****** tired of acting like my life is perfect. I know some people have it worse sure. But doesn't mean I don't have it bad. I don't mean to...
    animalwatcher animalwatcher 18-21, F Jul 20, 2011

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    It's Been So Long..

    Exactly that. It's been so long. The last time I remembered being truly myself, not caring what people think, carrying on with my life without a care in the world, loving my imperfections no matter what. I realized that it's not only been so long, but too long, since I was...
    123IMissYou321 123IMissYou321 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 21, 2013

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    Its Complex But Yeh

    I am tired of looking perfect for everyone and stuffed up for everyone else!!!
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Jun 17, 2011

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    And I have decided good is good enough.

    I like myself, I'm witty and funny. I don't need your approval nor your friendship if the friendship isn't real.
    cheekyhannah36 cheekyhannah36 36-40, F 2 Responses May 29

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    I'm tired of it I have to pretend around

    everyone I need someone I don't have to pretend around someone I can relate to and who accepts me for me
    anshaw anshaw 13-15, F May 14

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    Trying To Be Perfect And Acting As If I'm Too Good For Everyone Else Has Left Me Without Friends And Many Insecurities.

    Trying to be perfect and acting as if i'm too good for everyone else has left me without friends and many insecurities. I've realized my only friend is my boyfriend but what will happen when he is gone? I don't have any friends, the last friends I had were from high school (i'm...
    absentia absentia 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 12, 2012

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    Everyone says its ok to be imperfect

    when they judge you behind your back for being imperfect. They say that it will all go away when it won't. They say it will all stop once things get better. They say the darkness will go away once you turn on the light. No, it won't.
    truthtobetold truthtobetold 16-17, F Feb 9, 2014

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    I Quit. -_-

    I'm just done, all right? Now I'm a nice person. I'm not unscrupulous or anything, but I'm just done. Why the hell do I have to be perfect for people? I wanna be ME. Unfortunately I STILL can't be me because of my consideration for others. If I think someone has said something...
    NaturistBlanca NaturistBlanca 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 20, 2013

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    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Nov 1, 2014

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    I want to lost.. i want to go away from this

    world..i am tired tried to be perfect in front of people..i want my life..i want myself..i want escape from self image....i am thinking getting lost in part of this world..i hope can meet someone who will accept me completely one day..:(
    myselfhere myselfhere 22-25, F Mar 22

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    My dream is to prove everyone wrong.

    My goal is for everyone's eyes to be wide open with their expressions on their faces full of surprise and their mouths wide open. I'll impress them all. My wish is for everything to be different. I'll have more respect, people wouldn't think less of me, I'll be proud of...
    torr62 torr62 13-15, F Jan 4

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    I am perfect for the benefit

    for myself which gives me a boost in motivation and self esteem. A lot of people would rather me do something else but I write the story of my life not them. You shouldn't have someone so your work for you.
    ValhallaAwaits ValhallaAwaits 22-25, M Nov 2, 2014

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    dashuria dashuria 16-17, F Nov 1, 2014

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    You can only take so much.

    And when you lose it, that's when everyone realizes. They realize when it's too late. They judge you for what only they realize without knowing the full story. And it hurts. Everyone has a breaking point, but not everyone has seen it. They can be scared to show it. When...
    torr62 torr62 13-15, F Jan 16

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    What's the worst about this is that

    even though I put my all into everything, there are always people that criticize what I do. I won't stop doing what I want to do, but I'm done driving myself crazy when it's not going to be good enough anyway. I will do what I can without pushing myself too hard.
    meadowes meadowes 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 23

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    Don'T Wanna Do It Anymore

    I just wanna be myself again, I'm tired of acting like someone I'm not. There has only been one person, a guy who has saw the real me and he liked me. But I ruined it like always. I despise my sister so much for everything she has a great boyfriend and I ruin with all mine and...
    Thatgirl8654 Thatgirl8654 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 3, 2013

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    Share Thoughts Please.....

    I took a stroll down a well traveled road, Wondering where I'm going It is the place they told me to go Directions in my pocket to a place I've never been But as I look down the road I can see where I really want to go It's not where they told me to go I tried to get off and...
    mdstudent17 mdstudent17 22-25, M Mar 4, 2013

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