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I Am Tired Of Trying To Be "perfect" For Everyone

Have you ever just been fed up with living up to everyones expectations and yet still not being good enough? Share your story here. 1,245 People

    I am fed up with writing the same old sad story

    for myself. I am fed up with being the victim. I am fed up with being so fed up. So from today I'm going to start all over and write a new story. I'm not prepared to put up with people bringing me down anymore. I'm going to not be a people pleaser. I am going to start making...
    sicksadjoe sicksadjoe 22-25, M 1 Response Dec 22, 2015

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    we are taught to scrutinize the bad,

    no one's bad,,,we are each opportunist
    miimii0069 miimii0069 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 8, 2015

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    What's the worst about this is that

    even though I put my all into everything, there are always people that criticize what I do. I won't stop doing what I want to do, but I'm done driving myself crazy when it's not going to be good enough anyway. I will do what I can without pushing myself too hard.
    meadowes meadowes 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 23, 2015

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    It's Been So Long..

    Exactly that. It's been so long. The last time I remembered being truly myself, not caring what people think, carrying on with my life without a care in the world, loving my imperfections no matter what. I realized that it's not only been so long, but too long, since I was...
    123IMissYou321 123IMissYou321 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 21, 2013

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    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 1 Response May 13, 2015

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    tsubakiblossom tsubakiblossom 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 22, 2015

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    I am perfect for the benefit

    for myself which gives me a boost in motivation and self esteem. A lot of people would rather me do something else but I write the story of my life not them. You shouldn't have someone so your work for you.
    ValhallaAwaits ValhallaAwaits 22-25, M Nov 2, 2014

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    Just not even worth the hassle anymore!

    Fed up is an understatement
    Hannahmc18 Hannahmc18 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 23, 2015

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    Whose To Judge?

    "Who are you to judge the life I live? I know I'm not perfect and I don't live to be. But, before you start pointing fingers, make sure your hands are clean." ~Bob Marley He who seeks perfection in a friend will stay without friends. ~Yiddish Proverb (Yiddish...
    NoFinalConflict NoFinalConflict 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 2, 2012

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    I cant wait till I save up enough money to get

    this cosmetic surgery on my face. I cant go a day without people constantly asking me "whats wrong?" "why do you look so angry"? I honestly cant help the way my face is when its resting. I was just born with a natural mean look. I could have had more friends and have people be...
    miamor12 miamor12 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 13, 2015

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    I am a self harmer I used to be on the brink of

    being anorexic I used to be bulimic I get depressed sometimes I punch walls I rip phone books I smile I laugh I cry I joke I learn I listen I talk I help I'm me...
    lennie4 lennie4 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 6, 2014

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    Especially my dad. I can't live up to his

    expectations bc I'm not perfect
    auroragold auroragold 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 5, 2015

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    People's ignorance rattles my cage especially

    when it comes to people with mental health. For years i suffered with my mental health, i ended up making the biggest mistakes of my life and not a day goes by when they don't haunt me but i need to be cut some slack. I can say sorry a thousand times but it will not take back...
    Raindrops18 Raindrops18 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 19, 2014

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    I'm not the smart girl my parents think I am.

    They always say that I'm a smart girl, that I know better. I don't see it. Even if I know better, I still make mistakes like everyone else in the world. My mom always tells me this is how I should do it and says my way doesn't work. I'm not her. I'm not going to have everything...
    olive8976 olive8976 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 6

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    And I have decided good is good enough.

    I like myself, I'm witty and funny. I don't need your approval nor your friendship if the friendship isn't real.
    cheekyhannah36 cheekyhannah36 36-40, F 2 Responses May 29, 2015

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    I am really guilty of doing this.

    It's like I want to fit in, but also stand out. I want to be that certain guys "ideal girl" or that certain girls "ideal friend" it's hard living in this society. I also spend WAY to much time on my looks. I know proper hygiene etc is different, but I mean my hair, makeup...
    lc543 lc543 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 1, 2014

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    there is a saying that says,

    "you will laugh at all this matter by the time you're old. those obstacles that you feel right now are nothing compared to other people. " and now the thing is i am afraid that i won't be able to laugh at all the obstacles or sufferings that i have right now. i have this...
    56jennn 56jennn 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 6

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    I'm not really a fan of Nicki Minaj

    but the other day I saw this on tumblr and I really liked it: "When you're a girl, you have to be everything, You have to be dope at what you do, but you have to be super sweet, and you have to be sexy, and you have to be this and you have to be that and you have to be nice...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 1, 2014

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    when they need u they know how to find u

    but when u need them u will never find them !! huh
    tukie14 tukie14 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 21, 2015

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    lts too much.. i am tired to be perfect.

    .i am tired seems happy but actually i am not...everyone said i am lucky because i can achieve almost what i want but i feeling lonely with this situation..i am feeling lost and sad..i want go far away..very far then cried as much as i can so no body know i am crying..
    myselfhere myselfhere 22-25, F 1 Response May 13, 2015

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    You can only take so much.

    And when you lose it, that's when everyone realizes. They realize when it's too late. They judge you for what only they realize without knowing the full story. And it hurts. Everyone has a breaking point, but not everyone has seen it. They can be scared to show it. When...
    torr62 torr62 16-17, F Jan 16, 2015

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    I'm trying my best. It's hard to try

    so hard for 18 years and then just give up. A whole life being someone I was not and then just... Nothing? How do you find out who you are when you've lived and breathed a lie since you were born? I don't know if I really want the top college and the money and the power. I don...
    Writerannie Writerannie 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 18, 2015

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    I'm tired of it I have to pretend around

    everyone I need someone I don't have to pretend around someone I can relate to and who accepts me for me
    anshaw anshaw 13-15, F 1 Response May 14, 2015

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    I try my best to fit in with my family

    but nothing seems 2 work :'(........ at school its the same i changed my whole image just 4 people 2 like me so one day i went as myself and I'm just ugly!!! i have had boyfriends but none so far that liked me for me.; but my best friend tells me that i have a long path 2 go and...
    christinababy23 christinababy23 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 23, 2014

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    My dream is to prove everyone wrong.

    My goal is for everyone's eyes to be wide open with their expressions on their faces full of surprise and their mouths wide open. I'll impress them all. My wish is for everything to be different. I'll have more respect, people wouldn't think less of me, I'll be proud of...
    torr62 torr62 16-17, F Jan 4, 2015

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    My nose is the feature I like the least.

    But I'm starting to accept it more, why should I let the media and people who are in control of making girls feel like they're not good enough physically make me think that I'm ugly because I don't have the cutest nose. I'm unique, and nobody actually cares if you have an...
    Miriamjen Miriamjen 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 3, 2015

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    I want to lost.. i want to go away from this

    world..i am tired tried to be perfect in front of people..i want my life..i want myself..i want escape from self image....i am thinking getting lost in part of this world..i hope can meet someone who will accept me completely one day..:(
    myselfhere myselfhere 22-25, F Mar 22, 2015

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    For years I've tried.

    .I've tried my very best, and I can't do it anymore. I have reached far beyond my breaking point. If I do it for another day I'll go insane. I used to think that I had to be perfect for everyone, or they wouldn't like me. Come to find out that that is true for some people in my...
    KyrBella KyrBella 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 25, 2015

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    Everyone says its ok to be imperfect

    when they judge you behind your back for being imperfect. They say that it will all go away when it won't. They say it will all stop once things get better. They say the darkness will go away once you turn on the light. No, it won't.
    truthtobetold truthtobetold 16-17, F Feb 9, 2014

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    You could pull out a knife

    and pull out a gun but I won't back down no I said I won't back down And if you want me to back you'll haft to put some strength and force into
    ghostbeautiy ghostbeautiy 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 1, 2014

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    Maybe not "perfect" but someone I'm not.

    I become a different person for different groups. At work I'm confident and outspoken, at home I'm domestic and insecure. With my relatives I'm crazy but respectful. In an unknown group I'm quiet and try to blend into the scenery. When I am being myself people assume I'm...
    jrf9782 jrf9782 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 22, 2015

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    jyjyb jyjyb 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 26

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    Both of my parents were first in their family

    to attend college and had high expectations for me to finish. I've been in school for five years and have yet to choose what I want. I'm attending architecture school for the sake of my love for math and art. Math and art are my hobbies but they're not exactly things I want to...
    breezeee12 breezeee12 22-25, F Aug 22, 2015

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    I think "nuff" said we must realize we can

    please some of the people all the time but we can never please all of the people some of the time.
    closethegap closethegap 46-50, F Aug 4, 2015

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    List of things my famil hates about me: I love

    yaoi, yuri, and ecchi. X I love yaoi twincest with identical twins. X I ship Destiel, which they REALLY hate because they love Supernatural. X I am Vary-Ai, which I know at least one of then knows. My mother doesn't need to know this!! X They keep trying to "fix" me even though...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 27, 2015

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    This is a personal post towards my mother.

    All I seem to be doing is upsetting her. Nothing I do makes her happy. All I do is worry that if I do something its gonna upset her. Which is one of the mains reasons I am scared to do or try things on my own, because even if it makes me happy, I know it wont make her happy. We...
    untilmydeath untilmydeath 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 14, 2015

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    There are a lot of conceptions in my head

    that shape my actions. Which are those? "It is bad if someone does not approve of my actions". I very strongly believe in this one. Why? Because I feel, if someone knew why I do things the way I do, then they would approve always. So I am always looking for disapproving...
    Yanyka Yanyka 26-30, F Oct 9, 2015

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    Don'T Wanna Do It Anymore

    I just wanna be myself again, I'm tired of acting like someone I'm not. There has only been one person, a guy who has saw the real me and he liked me. But I ruined it like always. I despise my sister so much for everything she has a great boyfriend and I ruin with all mine and...
    Thatgirl8654 Thatgirl8654 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 3, 2013

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    Okay, so here goes nothing.

    My life is a messed up one even before I started understanding what the hell is life. I was diagnosed with a kidney related autoimmune disease. For many, I mean the doctors, it was nothing compared to other people who suffer cancer or something like that. But it mattered to me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 7

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    it doesn't mean that

    because I'm a woman, I need have a curvaceous body. I am not a sex toy that will satisfy your needs. I am a woman, a human being who also have feelings. I am already tired of trying to achieve that perfectness just for you to be satisfied.
    BlueBerryCheesecake000 BlueBerryCheesecake000 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 7

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