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I Am Told That I Am Intimidating

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    Really?

    I'm told I am by one person in particular. It baffles me. I would definitely consider myself on the timid side of things.
    deleted deleted 26-30 16 Responses Apr 25, 2008

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    Five Two, High Iq

    I have been told on a regular basis that I am intimidating or make others feel stupid. I never have the intention to intimidate others, but if so many people see that in me, how can I change that? When I see myself I see a chubby, short, geek.
    carlin66pat carlin66pat 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 29, 2012

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    I Don't See It

    I don't see it. I am a pretty easy going guy. They tell me that because of my deep voice and size. I am not that big of a guy, 6 feet and 220lbs, is not that big. At least I don't think so. My voice does carry well and I am not going to be walked on, but I don't try to intimidate...
    Percheron Percheron 41-45, M May 31, 2008

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    Not So Much Now

    but this is the reason me and my ex broke up.  He said I was too intimidating and I scared him. Apparently I was to confrontational in our arguements, and ok, maybe he's right.  But I also had my reasons. When people see me they usually think, oh crap she looks mean...
    Maqi Maqi 26-30, F 3 Responses May 24, 2009

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    I'm Just Drawn That Way

    I'm 6'5" 230lbs and I have a goatee and regulation cut hair. With my size and head it's no wonder people are afraid of me. Kids think I'm silly at least. Sometimes when I am in neutral mode people think I am pissed of, my voice gets a bit gruff sometimes, but I'm a big ole...
    kryptonian kryptonian 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 5, 2008

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    Physically+ Personality-wise Intimidating

    I really used to not know what people were talking about when my friends (once they got to know me well) informed me that they were soooooooo intimidated by me "at first." I guess I have a pretty blunt personality and a pretty sarcastic and biting sense of humor and I...
    pologirl31 pologirl31 18-21, F 3 Responses May 27, 2009

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    Constantly

    I'm always told by every friend I've ever had, that I am extremely intimidating when people first meet me. It usually goes something like "I was so intimidated by you when we first met, but now I know, you're just awesome." I don't do anything but be myself, but apparently...
    CodeCruncher CodeCruncher 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 25, 2012

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    A Few Times

    a lot of ppl wont say it , guys esp , coz then its the whole stoooooopid ego thing .. ugh .. wtf .. guys suck .. *lol* soz guy ppl out there , but i really think this , as far as egos go , generally actually all ppl suck .. im sounding terrible omg .. soz ppl .. or maybe egos...
    wezamuntkee wezamuntkee 36-40, M 10 Responses Sep 29, 2007

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    I'm Often Told This

    But I think it's because I know what I want and most people don't? I really am at a loss, as to why people perceive me as intimidating. I used to be worried over it. It still makes me nervous. But I think it's not something i can change. Whatever it is about me, is too much a...
    anadude anadude 22-25, M May 22, 2009

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    I Am Told That I Am Intimidating

    I am told that I am intimidating. I lost a job because they said I was intimidating a customer. I am doing well on my current job and am not having any trouble so far.   I feel bad about the past but I can't change the past. I can only do better in the future. I am doing...
    Peter123 Peter123 41-45, M 8 Responses Sep 11, 2008

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    I Dont Plan On It...

    I suppose, like has been said elsewhere in this group, folks judge my looks.  I am big, and when I get to doing something that requires focus, I apparently get this...look... on my face.  And it's kinda funny, cause i really am just a teddy bear!
    SunnyKris SunnyKris 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 17, 2007

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    It Drives Me Crazy

    I've been told for years that I'm "intimidating." It really bothers me. I try not to be. I try to smile and be friendly, but I'm naturally just a quiet person who would rather have people approach me than me approach them. It really hinders my love life too, all of the...
    earth2bella earth2bella 22-25, F Dec 26, 2007

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    I Can't Fathom Why

    I am generally (<-- key word) a mild mannered womanMaybe it's because I'm a borderline *snickers @ borderline* psycho, a bit emotional at times, fierce witted and a bit forward,  flirtatious, sweet and loving, a good kisser, opinionated and smart (alecky) all the time, and a...
    wack1985 wack1985 26-30, F Sep 16, 2011

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    6'4" a full beard, I look middle eastern,

    and I'm athletic, people sometimes cross the street to avoid me, which can be hilarious when a old couple sees me and try to run.
    persononinternet persononinternet 16-17, M Jan 11

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    At Times

     I don't find myself intimidating at all. But i am not so sure others don't find me to be a bit. My one cat is not my biggest fan. Its not that he doesn't like me...but he is afraid. I was asking my mother why this would be and she said that i am "impulsive and...
    Tacit Tacit 22-25, F Jul 3, 2008

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    Bane of My Existence...

    ....and I try not to be.  I'll spare you the gory details.  The details alone are intimidating - even to me.  ;o)  I try to just get by with a sense of humor and a philosophical attitude.  
    Enki2 Enki2 46-50, F 4 Responses Nov 12, 2008

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    Is This Supposed To Be A Good Or Bad Thing??

        I've been told this several times.My friends tell me it makes me unapproachable cos people(who don't know me) assume i'm snubbish. I get this even when i'm dressed down and wearing almost nothing extra(make-up,jewelry...). They say i walk like i have a purpose...
    mocha39 mocha39 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 19, 2009

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    But I Don't Know How

    I have been told many times by many people that I am intimidating. The problem with this is that I have no idea what I do that is perceived to be intimidating. I have even told by a man older than my father that I intimidated him. Don't have a clue what I did to make him feel...
    ColorMeReal ColorMeReal 41-45, F 5 Responses Dec 14, 2007

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    Dont F--- With Me.... I Guess....

    So me and a couple of girl friends go out on the town. So I told them that I would help them find men for the evening (yes I was their escort for the evening). Anywho we get into this bar in downtown Austin and I do my usual thing.... open up a tab, sit in the corner at the bar...
    Silver01ta Silver01ta 26-30, M 4 Responses Apr 17, 2008

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    I Don't See It

    I'm always surprised when people tell me that I am, in any way, intimidating. Because I don't see it. At all. I'm pretty sociable and am definitely vocal, especially in social situations, which I suppose might by slightly intimidating. But still, I don't bite. (At least, not in...
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 11, 2008

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    Unapproachable

    I have been told that people feel like they can't approach me.  I don't understand where that impression comes from, but I am told that all the same...  It sucks because that's all I have ever really wanted to do was to be there for people.  It's frustrating...
    dyin2live dyin2live 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 2, 2008

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    I Don't Look It...

    It's not how I look... I mean hell I am 5'1" and I am a size 6... I'm a fairly petite girl... but I have a VERY strong personality and I can come off as unapproachable in real life... I don't let too many people close to me b/c well I am very selective about who I let...
    phidget phidget 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 3, 2008

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    I Don't Really Get It.

    I am always being told that I am extremely intimidating and unapproacheable.  Yes, I do put on the tough, silent act, but it is only a wall I have put up to protect myself because I have been hurt so many times by others.  In reality, I would never hurt a fly.  It...
    sparklyindigo sparklyindigo 41-45, F Dec 15, 2007

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    Repeatedly

    It's not intentional. I greet people with a smile. A big, warm genuine smile. I'm quick to tell visitors to make themselves at home, sit anywhere, don't worry about shoes, no problem, no problem, no problem. But online and in real life, everywhere I go, I keep intimidating people...
    chovhani chovhani 46-50, F 5 Responses Sep 29, 2007

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    Drink Me

    Talk about the weather Will you miss me ever? Lately I'm obsessed And I need the rest I hope that you're impressed She's so pretty, I'm jealous And she's lost like Alice In a painted past In a looking glass I see me looking back I'll take another Drink Me, baby...
    twilighteyes twilighteyes 22-25 3 Responses Jul 16, 2009

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    An Insult

    People tell me other people are intimidated by me.  I know that story for many years now.  Each time someone comes telling me that, I feel insulted.  I get along most cordially with many people who don't know me at all.  An image the world perceives of me stands...
    moreandless moreandless 56-60, M 2 Responses Feb 9, 2010

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    I'm Intimidating Because I'm Intelligent?

    That to me doesn't sound right. What? I do have a hard time making friends, and I have a hard time opening up about myself. I wouldn't call it 'trust issues' or anything, it's just that I hear all the time about people spreading rumours around school, straight up insulting...
    SarahCatt SarahCatt 13-15 2 Responses Jun 5, 2012

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    Always got a face like thunder a lot of people

    think I look like a *****, but no one knows how weak I am, it's all just a front
    maddieXxx maddieXxx 16-17, F Jul 8

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    I Find It Amusing

    So everyone i come accross can be easily intimidated but i find it funny. I am pretty extreme at seeing the world its black and white, love or hate and i have a tendancy to want to get into peoples heads and then i find that i can cut to the core of a person. I can see how that...
    marishkashadow marishkashadow 13-15, F Sep 11, 2012

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    Love It

    Since i'm a very shy person, I just love it when people tell me they feel intimidated by me.
    nokaoi nokaoi 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 16, 2011

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    Factor

    I suppose if there's any one particular feature that could be defined as intimidating about me, it's the fact that I bring it. I don't beat around the bush, I play for keeps with a wicked poker face. I can cut someone off before they ever get close enough to see the architect of...
    RoaringFlameLostinShadow RoaringFlameLostinShadow 31-35, M Apr 13, 2012

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    Believe It Or Not.

    i'm pretty sure that no one here has seen me be intimidating, but i've been told that i can be, and in some circumstances i can believe it. when i'm in an official position, for example, i don't mess around. i held various offices in my sorority...
    journeyfulloflaughter journeyfulloflaughter 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 1, 2008

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    Bam!

    For a short person, I'm quite scary, when I need to be. Im quite softly spoken, so I guess when Im angry and when my accent comes out the most, I can be quite scary to many. It goes further than that though. Apparently it's my manner, my essence as someone desribed...
    MrsLalaninjacakes MrsLalaninjacakes 26-30, F 32 Responses Dec 10, 2009

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    I'm "Too Intense"

    I've been told that I'm intimidating when people first meet me (in person). It's not like I'm oh-so impressive, or demanding, or intelligent, or amazingly beautiful - it's just that I'm intense. Or so I've been told. Recently a male friend of mine was saying how when he first met...
    PaperPlanes PaperPlanes 18-21, F 1 Response May 1, 2009

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    An Imposing Prescence.

    I like to think I'm a pretty mellow guy these days for the most part (wasn't always this way), but have been told that some people find my appearance and/or demeanor intimidating and that I have an imposing prescence.  Frankly I was shocked when I heard this.  I'd had...
    zillaron zillaron 51-55, M 1 Response May 21, 2009

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    I Guess It's Anxiety

    When I meet new people I'm usually terrified that they won't like me or that I'll do or say something to embarrass myself.  The result is I end up staying very quiet and only speak in short sentences when someone talks to me. Somehow, I've still managed to make friends...
    HGolightly HGolightly 22-25, F Oct 7, 2008

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    Especially when I'm angry.

    I always liked the Incredible Hulk, especially the 80s line with Dr Banner saying calmly, you wouldn't like me when I'm angry. I always related with that and often have suppressed the rage I carry every day from my past. I've let it out before and it's scared people out of my...
    BigMtnMnds BigMtnMnds 31-35, M 3 Responses Feb 23

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    A Marine

      When I go and talk to my Marines they tell me that I have "Great People Skills"  Because every conversation starts with me talking and it ends when I want it to.  I am very straight and to the point and it really dosent matter who they are.  I a...
    TankUSMC TankUSMC 31-35, M 6 Responses Jan 1, 2008

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    Or Scary

    But no one can give me a reason. I am 5'2" and slender. So it cannot be a physical thing. So what? Do I have a bad vibe? Why do people who don't know me shun me....
    VincentValentine VincentValentine 31-35, M 4 Responses Aug 11, 2009

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    Kinda a Compliment...

    lots of my friends were scared of me at first... Apparently I appear sarcastic, and too intelligent.... like theyre scared to talk to me because I'll know more than them, which is ridiculous, because im not smart, i just spend wayyyyyyyyyyyy too much time reading and learning...
    Tesse Tesse 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 7, 2008

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    Yeah

    I've heard it from both guys and girls.  When asked why, I've heard that they think I'm intimidating because I'm a physically tiny person and things I say, do, and the aura I give off aren't what they expect from such a small package.  On this topic, someone's called me...
    yoyy yoyy 26-30, F 1 Response May 29, 2009

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    Trying to Figure Out What It Is That People Think Makes Me Intimidating

    Well I have been told over the past few days that I am intimidating and I have asked why and they can't say really what it is. I know that I am fairly quiet until I get to know people and some days I am really really quiet because my head hurts due to the disease that I have and...
    dewdropkiki dewdropkiki 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 2, 2008

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