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I Am Told That I Am Intimidating

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 372 People

    Five Two, High Iq

    I have been told on a regular basis that I am intimidating or make others feel stupid. I never have the intention to intimidate others, but if so many people see that in me, how can I change that? When I see myself I see a chubby, short, geek.
    carlin66pat carlin66pat 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 29, 2012

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    I'm Just Drawn That Way

    I'm 6'5" 230lbs and I have a goatee and regulation cut hair. With my size and head it's no wonder people are afraid of me. Kids think I'm silly at least. Sometimes when I am in neutral mode people think I am pissed of, my voice gets a bit gruff sometimes, but I'm a big ole...
    kryptonian kryptonian 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 5, 2008

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    Physically+ Personality-wise Intimidating

    I really used to not know what people were talking about when my friends (once they got to know me well) informed me that they were soooooooo intimidated by me "at first." I guess I have a pretty blunt personality and a pretty sarcastic and biting sense of humor and I...
    pologirl31 pologirl31 18-21, F 3 Responses May 27, 2009

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    Is This Supposed To Be A Good Or Bad Thing??

        I've been told this several times.My friends tell me it makes me unapproachable cos people(who don't know me) assume i'm snubbish. I get this even when i'm dressed down and wearing almost nothing extra(make-up,jewelry...). They say i walk like i have a purpose...
    mocha39 mocha39 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 19, 2009

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    This story is not said with any arrogance by

    any means, but just like the Spanish Inquisition, no one really expects to meet a muscular/large Asian. I love to lift heavy things and put them down, and this has contributed to a decent amount of muscle mass over the years. I'm no Dwayne Johnson by any means, but most people I...
    thx10050 thx10050 31-35, M Dec 29, 2014

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    Repeatedly

    It's not intentional. I greet people with a smile. A big, warm genuine smile. I'm quick to tell visitors to make themselves at home, sit anywhere, don't worry about shoes, no problem, no problem, no problem. But online and in real life, everywhere I go, I keep intimidating people...
    chovhani chovhani 46-50, F 5 Responses Sep 29, 2007

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    6'4" a full beard, I look middle eastern,

    and I'm athletic, people sometimes cross the street to avoid me, which can be hilarious when a old couple sees me and try to run.
    persononinternet persononinternet 18-21, M Jan 11, 2014

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    Constantly

    I'm always told by every friend I've ever had, that I am extremely intimidating when people first meet me. It usually goes something like "I was so intimidated by you when we first met, but now I know, you're just awesome." I don't do anything but be myself, but apparently...
    CodeCruncher CodeCruncher 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 25, 2012

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    sumerlin sumerlin 18-21, F Jan 5

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    I Can't Fathom Why

    I am generally (<-- key word) a mild mannered womanMaybe it's because I'm a borderline *snickers @ borderline* psycho, a bit emotional at times, fierce witted and a bit forward,  flirtatious, sweet and loving, a good kisser, opinionated and smart (alecky) all the time, and a...
    wack1985 wack1985 26-30, F Sep 16, 2011

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    I mean seriously LOL I honestly try to be nice

    and courteous since I hold a leadership position; but one of my subordinates (young female) asked an older co worker to speak on her behalf since I looked like a strict and initiating boss. Little does she know how much overwhelmed she'd feel if I decided to sleep with her.
    DomDGrade DomDGrade 31-35, M Mar 5

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    An Insult

    People tell me other people are intimidated by me.  I know that story for many years now.  Each time someone comes telling me that, I feel insulted.  I get along most cordially with many people who don't know me at all.  An image the world perceives of me stands...
    moreandless moreandless 56-60, M 2 Responses Feb 9, 2010

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    But I Don't Know How

    I have been told many times by many people that I am intimidating. The problem with this is that I have no idea what I do that is perceived to be intimidating. I have even told by a man older than my father that I intimidated him. Don't have a clue what I did to make him feel...
    ColorMeReal ColorMeReal 41-45, F 5 Responses Dec 14, 2007

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    Dont F--- With Me.... I Guess....

    So me and a couple of girl friends go out on the town. So I told them that I would help them find men for the evening (yes I was their escort for the evening). Anywho we get into this bar in downtown Austin and I do my usual thing.... open up a tab, sit in the corner at the bar...
    Silver01ta Silver01ta 31-35, M 4 Responses Apr 17, 2008

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    Yeah

    I've heard it from both guys and girls.  When asked why, I've heard that they think I'm intimidating because I'm a physically tiny person and things I say, do, and the aura I give off aren't what they expect from such a small package.  On this topic, someone's called me...
    yoyy yoyy 26-30, F 1 Response May 29, 2009

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    Believe It Or Not.

    i'm pretty sure that no one here has seen me be intimidating, but i've been told that i can be, and in some circumstances i can believe it. when i'm in an official position, for example, i don't mess around. i held various offices in my sorority...
    journeyfulloflaughter journeyfulloflaughter 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 1, 2008

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    I Guess It's Anxiety

    When I meet new people I'm usually terrified that they won't like me or that I'll do or say something to embarrass myself.  The result is I end up staying very quiet and only speak in short sentences when someone talks to me. Somehow, I've still managed to make friends...
    HGolightly HGolightly 22-25, F Oct 7, 2008

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    A Marine

      When I go and talk to my Marines they tell me that I have "Great People Skills"  Because every conversation starts with me talking and it ends when I want it to.  I am very straight and to the point and it really dosent matter who they are.  I a...
    TankUSMC TankUSMC 31-35, M 6 Responses Jan 1, 2008

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    Really?

    I'm told I am by one person in particular. It baffles me. I would definitely consider myself on the timid side of things.
    deleted deleted 26-30 16 Responses Apr 25, 2008

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    One of my guy friends from work told me

    that I look too beautiful and confident for anyone to ask me out because they just assume I will reject them. It was the sweetest thing a friend had ever told me. I didn't know I was seen that way...for a long time jn had self esteem issues and I don't really pay attention to my...
    Passionfruit101 Passionfruit101 18-21, F Dec 23, 2014

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    I Am Told That I Am Intimidating

    I am told that I am intimidating. I lost a job because they said I was intimidating a customer. I am doing well on my current job and am not having any trouble so far.   I feel bad about the past but I can't change the past. I can only do better in the future. I am doing...
    Peter123 Peter123 46-50, M 8 Responses Sep 11, 2008

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    Unapproachable

    I have been told that people feel like they can't approach me.  I don't understand where that impression comes from, but I am told that all the same...  It sucks because that's all I have ever really wanted to do was to be there for people.  It's frustrating...
    dyin2live dyin2live 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 2, 2008

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    I don't know how though.

    Yeah, I'm mean but if you know me I'm a really sweet person . I'd just rather be seclusive. Kind of like Daria. It's easier .
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F Dec 24, 2014

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    I Don't Really Get It.

    I am always being told that I am extremely intimidating and unapproacheable.  Yes, I do put on the tough, silent act, but it is only a wall I have put up to protect myself because I have been hurt so many times by others.  In reality, I would never hurt a fly.  It...
    sparklyindigo sparklyindigo 41-45, F Dec 15, 2007

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    An Imposing Prescence.

    I like to think I'm a pretty mellow guy these days for the most part (wasn't always this way), but have been told that some people find my appearance and/or demeanor intimidating and that I have an imposing prescence.  Frankly I was shocked when I heard this.  I'd had...
    zillaron zillaron 51-55, M 1 Response May 21, 2009

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    RH17 RH17 18-21, F Mar 11

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    Drink Me

    Talk about the weather Will you miss me ever? Lately I'm obsessed And I need the rest I hope that you're impressed She's so pretty, I'm jealous And she's lost like Alice In a painted past In a looking glass I see me looking back I'll take another Drink Me, baby...
    twilighteyes twilighteyes 22-25 3 Responses Jul 16, 2009

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    Not So Much Now

    but this is the reason me and my ex broke up.  He said I was too intimidating and I scared him. Apparently I was to confrontational in our arguements, and ok, maybe he's right.  But I also had my reasons. When people see me they usually think, oh crap she looks mean...
    Maqi Maqi 26-30, F 3 Responses May 24, 2009

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    I'm Often Told This

    But I think it's because I know what I want and most people don't? I really am at a loss, as to why people perceive me as intimidating. I used to be worried over it. It still makes me nervous. But I think it's not something i can change. Whatever it is about me, is too much a...
    anadude anadude 22-25, M May 22, 2009

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    Bane of My Existence...

    ....and I try not to be.  I'll spare you the gory details.  The details alone are intimidating - even to me.  ;o)  I try to just get by with a sense of humor and a philosophical attitude.  
    Enki2 Enki2 46-50, F 4 Responses Nov 12, 2008

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    I'm "Too Intense"

    I've been told that I'm intimidating when people first meet me (in person). It's not like I'm oh-so impressive, or demanding, or intelligent, or amazingly beautiful - it's just that I'm intense. Or so I've been told. Recently a male friend of mine was saying how when he first met...
    PaperPlanes PaperPlanes 18-21, F 1 Response May 1, 2009

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    Or Scary

    But no one can give me a reason. I am 5'2" and slender. So it cannot be a physical thing. So what? Do I have a bad vibe? Why do people who don't know me shun me....
    VincentValentine VincentValentine 31-35, M 4 Responses Aug 11, 2009

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    I never realized this about myself

    until somebody told me that they were afraid to talk to me when they first met me because I look intimidating. I started asking other people and they said "yea" and "I can see that". Its weird cuz I'm super friendly.
    mwiltshire mwiltshire 22-25, F Jan 1

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    I Don't See It

    I don't see it. I am a pretty easy going guy. They tell me that because of my deep voice and size. I am not that big of a guy, 6 feet and 220lbs, is not that big. At least I don't think so. My voice does carry well and I am not going to be walked on, but I don't try to intimidate...
    Percheron Percheron 41-45, M May 31, 2008

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    Bam!

    For a short person, I'm quite scary, when I need to be. Im quite softly spoken, so I guess when Im angry and when my accent comes out the most, I can be quite scary to many. It goes further than that though. Apparently it's my manner, my essence as someone desribed...
    MrsLalaninjacakes MrsLalaninjacakes 26-30, F 32 Responses Dec 10, 2009

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    Kinda a Compliment...

    lots of my friends were scared of me at first... Apparently I appear sarcastic, and too intelligent.... like theyre scared to talk to me because I'll know more than them, which is ridiculous, because im not smart, i just spend wayyyyyyyyyyyy too much time reading and learning...
    Tesse Tesse 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 7, 2008

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    It's my way of keeping myself from getting hurt

    and know who is really interested in getting to know me.
    SurpriseMeToday SurpriseMeToday 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    Always got a face like thunder a lot of people

    think I look like a *****, but no one knows how weak I am, it's all just a front
    maddieXxx maddieXxx 16-17, F Jul 8, 2014

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    A Few Times

    a lot of ppl wont say it , guys esp , coz then its the whole stoooooopid ego thing .. ugh .. wtf .. guys suck .. *lol* soz guy ppl out there , but i really think this , as far as egos go , generally actually all ppl suck .. im sounding terrible omg .. soz ppl .. or maybe egos...
    wezamuntkee wezamuntkee 36-40, M 10 Responses Sep 29, 2007

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    I'm Intimidating Because I'm Intelligent?

    That to me doesn't sound right. What? I do have a hard time making friends, and I have a hard time opening up about myself. I wouldn't call it 'trust issues' or anything, it's just that I hear all the time about people spreading rumours around school, straight up insulting...
    SarahCatt SarahCatt 13-15 3 Responses Jun 5, 2012

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    I Find It Amusing

    So everyone i come accross can be easily intimidated but i find it funny. I am pretty extreme at seeing the world its black and white, love or hate and i have a tendancy to want to get into peoples heads and then i find that i can cut to the core of a person. I can see how that...
    marishkashadow marishkashadow 13-15, F Sep 11, 2012

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    Love It

    Since i'm a very shy person, I just love it when people tell me they feel intimidated by me.
    nokaoi nokaoi 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 16, 2011

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