I Am Told That I Am Intimidating

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 536 People

    I Can't Fathom Why

    I am generally (<-- key word) a mild mannered womanMaybe it's because I'm a borderline *snickers @ borderline* psycho, a bit emotional at times, fierce witted and a bit forward,  flirtatious, sweet and loving, a good kisser, opinionated and smart (alecky) all the time, and a...
    wack1985 wack1985
    31-35, F
    Sep 16, 2011
    RH17 RH17
    22-25, F
    Mar 11, 2015

    An Insult

    People tell me other people are intimidated by me.  I know that story for many years now.  Each time someone comes telling me that, I feel insulted.  I get along most cordially with many people who don't know me at all.  An image the world perceives of me stands...
    moreandless moreandless
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Feb 9, 2010

    6'4" a full beard, I look middle eastern,

    and I'm athletic, people sometimes cross the street to avoid me, which can be hilarious when a old couple sees me and try to run.
    persononinternet persononinternet
    18-21, M
    Jan 11, 2014
    sumerlin sumerlin
    22-25, F
    Jan 5, 2015

    I never realized this about myself

    until somebody told me that they were afraid to talk to me when they first met me because I look intimidating. I started asking other people and they said "yea" and "I can see that". Its weird cuz I'm super friendly.
    mwiltshire mwiltshire
    26-30, F
    Jan 1, 2015

    Dont F--- With Me.... I Guess....

    So me and a couple of girl friends go out on the town. So I told them that I would help them find men for the evening (yes I was their escort for the evening). Anywho we get into this bar in downtown Austin and I do my usual thing.... open up a tab, sit in the corner at the bar...
    Silver01ta Silver01ta
    31-35, M
    4 Responses Apr 17, 2008

    I'm looking at these posts trying to understand

    someone I work with. Thanks for giving me a little insight. But seriously I'd rather avoid intimidating people entirely.
    deleted deleted
    Apr 10, 2015


    I'm always told by every friend I've ever had, that I am extremely intimidating when people first meet me. It usually goes something like "I was so intimidated by you when we first met, but now I know, you're just awesome." I don't do anything but be myself, but apparently...
    CodeCruncher CodeCruncher
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jul 25, 2012

    "You know, you're great.

    You're just so awkward, it's intimidating." Fear my lack of social skills, human. I am a horde of Mongol soldiers at the height of Genghis Khan's power. I am your childhood fears. I lurk under your bed at night, scheming to eat your children. I am death itself. In the form of a...
    Fuzzies Fuzzies
    61-65, M
    Apr 10, 2015

    I used to think it was

    because I have resting ***** face, but now I wonder if I just project an intimidating aura. My younger sister told me that her friends are all scared of me, although I've always been nice and friendly. My colleagues complain that people who are rude to them are always nice to...
    deleted deleted
    Oct 22, 2015


    For a short person, I'm quite scary, when I need to be. Im quite softly spoken, so I guess when Im angry and when my accent comes out the most, I can be quite scary to many. It goes further than that though. Apparently it's my manner, my essence as someone desribed...
    MrsLalaninjacakes MrsLalaninjacakes
    26-30, F
    32 Responses Dec 10, 2009

    Drink Me

    Talk about the weather Will you miss me ever? Lately I'm obsessed And I need the rest I hope that you're impressed She's so pretty, I'm jealous And she's lost like Alice In a painted past In a looking glass I see me looking back I'll take another Drink Me, baby...
    twilighteyes twilighteyes
    3 Responses Jul 16, 2009

    This was a category of experience I was

    hesitant at first to choose. The immediate connotation would seem to be a physical one. "Tall, dark, and scary." No, in my case it is more by way of the eloquence and thoughtfulness of my writing, even when simply chatting online. I say this not in a boastful way, but in...
    WellFrog WellFrog
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Nov 21, 2015

    Kinda a Compliment...

    lots of my friends were scared of me at first... Apparently I appear sarcastic, and too intelligent.... like theyre scared to talk to me because I'll know more than them, which is ridiculous, because im not smart, i just spend wayyyyyyyyyyyy too much time reading and learning...
    Tesse Tesse
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Oct 7, 2008


    I'm told I am by one person in particular. It baffles me. I would definitely consider myself on the timid side of things.
    deleted deleted
    16 Responses Apr 25, 2008

    Lots of people are scared to talk to me at

    first. Offline that is, I don't know about online. My friends tell me about not daring to make contact with me until we actually started talking and they tell on our common friends / acquaintances when they've said the same thing. I wonder how this happened. I'm 153cm tall and I...
    Atmosfaerie Atmosfaerie
    3 Responses Mar 29, 2015

    I've heard this often throughout my life.

    I always giggle, because I'm a tiny, quiet mouse. But my mind and opinions are strong and spoken when needed. I have high standards and hold others to these standards, demanding excellence and integrity. but that was before. I'm still intimidating, but now it seems that my...
    goodwitchofthenorth goodwitchofthenorth
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Feb 16

    It's just.... People have said

    before that occasionally I'd give off this "cold vibe" whenever I stare at them dead in the eye.
    deleted deleted
    Apr 10, 2015

    An Imposing Prescence.

    I like to think I'm a pretty mellow guy these days for the most part (wasn't always this way), but have been told that some people find my appearance and/or demeanor intimidating and that I have an imposing prescence.  Frankly I was shocked when I heard this.  I'd had...
    zillaron zillaron
    51-55, M
    1 Response May 21, 2009

    But I Don't Know How

    I have been told many times by many people that I am intimidating. The problem with this is that I have no idea what I do that is perceived to be intimidating. I have even told by a man older than my father that I intimidated him. Don't have a clue what I did to make him feel...
    ColorMeReal ColorMeReal
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Dec 14, 2007


    I've heard it from both guys and girls.  When asked why, I've heard that they think I'm intimidating because I'm a physically tiny person and things I say, do, and the aura I give off aren't what they expect from such a small package.  On this topic, someone's called me...
    yoyy yoyy
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 29, 2009

    This story is not said with any arrogance by

    any means, but just like the Spanish Inquisition, no one really expects to meet a muscular/large Asian. I love to lift heavy things and put them down, and this has contributed to a decent amount of muscle mass over the years. I'm no Dwayne Johnson by any means, but most people I...
    thx10050 thx10050
    31-35, M
    Dec 29, 2014

    I'm "Too Intense"

    I've been told that I'm intimidating when people first meet me (in person). It's not like I'm oh-so impressive, or demanding, or intelligent, or amazingly beautiful - it's just that I'm intense. Or so I've been told. Recently a male friend of mine was saying how when he first met...
    PaperPlanes PaperPlanes
    18-21, F
    1 Response May 1, 2009

    I'm Intimidating Because I'm Intelligent?

    That to me doesn't sound right. What? I do have a hard time making friends, and I have a hard time opening up about myself. I wouldn't call it 'trust issues' or anything, it's just that I hear all the time about people spreading rumours around school, straight up insulting...
    SarahCatt SarahCatt
    3 Responses Jun 5, 2012

    Believe It Or Not.

    i'm pretty sure that no one here has seen me be intimidating, but i've been told that i can be, and in some circumstances i can believe it. when i'm in an official position, for example, i don't mess around. i held various offices in my sorority...
    journeyfulloflaughter journeyfulloflaughter
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 1, 2008

    I always ask people why

    and the most common answer is "It's your face". Lol some people say I walk like im tough, and other people say it's the way I talk. When I talk my words come out harsh sounding sometimes because it's just very straightforward and stern. That's how I am though, I don't purposely...
    RoastedCycki RoastedCycki
    70+, F
    Sep 2, 2015

    It's my way of keeping myself from getting hurt

    and know who is really interested in getting to know me.
    SurpriseMeToday SurpriseMeToday
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 24, 2014

    Love It

    Since i'm a very shy person, I just love it when people tell me they feel intimidated by me.
    nokaoi nokaoi
    36-40, M
    1 Response Sep 16, 2011

    Physically+ Personality-wise Intimidating

    I really used to not know what people were talking about when my friends (once they got to know me well) informed me that they were soooooooo intimidated by me "at first." I guess I have a pretty blunt personality and a pretty sarcastic and biting sense of humor and I...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses May 27, 2009

    I don't know how though.

    Yeah, I'm mean but if you know me I'm a really sweet person . I'd just rather be seclusive. Kind of like Daria. It's easier .
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 24, 2014

    I Find It Amusing

    So everyone i come accross can be easily intimidated but i find it funny. I am pretty extreme at seeing the world its black and white, love or hate and i have a tendancy to want to get into peoples heads and then i find that i can cut to the core of a person. I can see how that...
    marishkashadow marishkashadow
    13-15, F
    Sep 11, 2012


    It's not intentional. I greet people with a smile. A big, warm genuine smile. I'm quick to tell visitors to make themselves at home, sit anywhere, don't worry about shoes, no problem, no problem, no problem. But online and in real life, everywhere I go, I keep intimidating people...
    chovhani chovhani
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Sep 29, 2007

    People tell me that I look intimidating

    and angry all the time. It's just my face.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Feb 16

    One of my guy friends from work told me

    that I look too beautiful and confident for anyone to ask me out because they just assume I will reject them. It was the sweetest thing a friend had ever told me. I didn't know I was seen that way...for a long time jn had self esteem issues and I don't really pay attention to my...
    deleted deleted
    Dec 23, 2014

    People in public tell me

    that i am just a huge brute but if you peel my layers (shrek referance) you can clearly see that i am much more than just strength and intimidation
    Beaniesandbands Beaniesandbands
    18-21, M
    Apr 12, 2015

    Always got a face like thunder a lot of people

    think I look like a *****, but no one knows how weak I am, it's all just a front
    maddieXxx maddieXxx
    18-21, F
    Jul 8, 2014

    Quiet but quick witted.

    Calm. Physically imposing. These are a few things that I have been told make people a little wary of me at times. I don't mind. It definitely helps in my profession. I'm just feeling you out a little. As soon as I think you're cool, you will know that all these attributes are...
    BrokenViking BrokenViking
    31-35, M
    1 Response Sep 23, 2015

    I've been told that I'm intimidating

    because of my height, weight, and generally neutral expression when walking about. But I quite literally empathize with inanimate objects (for example, I get sad seeing a balloon floating upwards because I imagine it's very scary to uncontrollably float towards your demise.) An...
    PendulEmPlum PendulEmPlum
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 22, 2015

    Five Two, High Iq

    I have been told on a regular basis that I am intimidating or make others feel stupid. I never have the intention to intimidate others, but if so many people see that in me, how can I change that? When I see myself I see a chubby, short, geek.
    carlin66pat carlin66pat
    46-50, F
    1 Response Apr 29, 2012

    Friend: Hey, you wanna take a badass picture

    with me?! Me: Lol okay sure Friend: Make that scary face you make when it looks like you want to kill everybody!! Me: You mean my normal face...? Friend: Yes, yes that one!!!!!!!!!!
    RoastedCycki RoastedCycki
    70+, F
    Jul 30, 2015
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