I Am Too Hard On Myself

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    Road Trip

    Well, today's the day. I'm heading 2 hours out of town with my bipolar boyfriend for the holiday weekend. I'm really nervous because I don't know what to expect. He has been very moody these past few days. I read on a bipolar supporter's blog that keeping a mood journal for your...
    shortysvr shortysvr
    26-30, F
    Sep 1, 2012

    The Consequences...

    With all my flaws for all to see, I am kind of a perfectionist inside and you pay the price for that. I have a savior complex for straightening situations and people out and myself more than anyone.Thoughts like "I could have done better"I'm still not good enough to approach...
    deleted deleted
    Jul 28, 2012

    I Never

    I never get mad at people for making a mistake. The definition of a mistake implies that the person didn't mean to do what they did. I smile and show them how to fix the mistake because yelling or lecturing people only wastes time. However, I don't allow myself the same...
    suucakes suucakes
    May 1, 2011

    Oh Well

    I am my own biggest critique and nothing that any other person can dish out could possibly come close to what I do to myself. 
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Jul 11, 2011

    Beatting Myself Up For It

    I'm a bad person when it comes to being hard on myself. Especially when it comes to cooking. I follow recipes and to me it has to be just right. And if I mess up I get angry and disapointed and I throw it away and think to myself I could've done better. And like if I do stuff...
    tngurl25 tngurl25
    26-30, F
    Feb 17, 2013

    What If Someone Else Did?

    I am way too hard on myself and i understood that when i started to think in a different way. I used to blame myself in every way are humanly possible, every time i did (in my opinion) something wrong. For example if i said something not pertinent, if i forgot something, if i was...
    Jmewow Jmewow
    Sep 8, 2013

    I'll Never Know Why I Keep Trying

    Sometimes I think my life could have been so much better, if I had just kept my mouth shut the whole time, never saying a word.  I think that if maybe from early on I had just refused to do anything, and never strove to achieve anything, and never attempted to be anything, I...
    CopperCoil CopperCoil
    36-40, M
    1 Response Apr 26, 2008

    Being hard on myself is what keeps me going

    and pushes me to overcome many things. Yet, I crumble when someone else does it to me. Especially an intimate partner. I feel that the added pressure is almost too much to handle. How do I find the strength within myself to withstand the world around and within me?
    Scorpio2468 Scorpio2468
    22-25, F
    Feb 4, 2015

    I feel like I could always be doing way more

    than I currently am. I am a stay at home mom of a active boy, I cook, I bake, I clean, workout, crochet. I want to write. I am usually doing at least 2 things at once . I miss working, I lost my last job because I was pregnant and they let me go illegally. And before that was...
    ellequence ellequence
    26-30, F
    Feb 1, 2014


    I have made mistakes in my life. I guess everyone does but I can't seem to forgive myself and move on. I'm stuck in the past. I keep wondering what my life would be like if only I had done things differently. I hate myself for my mistakes! To make things even more confusing...
    lagatta lagatta
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Jan 16, 2011

    Self Loathing

    I have always been very hard on myself for as long as I can remember. When I was in school, my grades were never good enough, I left like I didn't have enough friends, I always felt like I wasn't good enough. Not much has changed. I constantly attack myself inside my head. I tell...
    shortysvr shortysvr
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 24, 2012


    I am my most severe judge and the bloodiest executioner.  I am getting better now, I used to be much worse, I forgive myself more easily and I try not to have those thoughts but I do not succeed all the time and when I don't they torture me for days.
    jc2009 jc2009
    41-45, M
    Jan 11, 2011

    Why Can't I Trust Me

    I have been told I give good advice. I have several close friends that come to me when they need someone to talk to, and feel flattered an happy If I can help them. It's when I can't an they're still unhappy is when I feel horrible. I get mad at myself for not being good enough...
    loveful loveful
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 16, 2012

    Me Too

    Yeah I know how you all feel, i do have high expectations on life and what i want out of it. i suppose its like a collision between a calm and chilled out self to someone who pushes himself until he cant go on anymore, its not natural
    theresonly1ash theresonly1ash
    26-30, M
    Oct 7, 2010

    Not Satisfied

    I have a fatal character flaw. I don't value/cherish anything. I've accomplished a few things in my life, I am a survivor, I'm intelligent, I'm a husband, father, homeowner, landlord, I've saved lives, comforted/treated ppl in ICU, learned enough technical skills to be an IT...
    doitagain doitagain
    36-40, M
    3 Responses Jun 10, 2008

    Think Im Never Good Enough

    i am very hard on myself... I dont like to make mistakes and i like to do the best i can and more if i can... My best is never good enough in my eyes, i always think i can do better. Is everyone like that? Maybe it comes from having it all to losing everything... thats why i am...
    angeldevon angeldevon
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jul 11, 2008

    or I am lazy. Trying to figure this out at the

    moment. Feeling highly motivated to do enough to make my satisfied with how I spent my day.
    deleted deleted
    Mar 11, 2016

    I Criticize Myself Too Much

    I go to an art school and every time I'm sent to do a new project, I always feel that my efforts aren't good enough. I feel that my work is mediocre and I get so stressed out about it. Sometimes, I miss classes just to avoid turning my work in even after I spent so much time...
    LeZombie LeZombie
    22-25, F
    Jan 22, 2010

    When It Comes To Me,

    When it comes to myself I am far too hard on myself.  I want to work on this.  Yes, I need to confront myself when I treat another person poorly, or when I messed up in relation to another person.  Those are the times that I am alllowed to be hard on myself, but...
    deleted deleted
    Nov 8, 2010

    Tough On Me

    HI everyone out there, i am also like that.  I cant even go out and have a good time.  firstly i dont mind having a couple of wines with dinner, but more than likely i continue on being the life of the party, nothing really bad has ever happend, in fact most people...
    prisnelle prisnelle
    41-45, F
    Jan 14, 2010

    I Expect Too Much From Myself

    Here I am, fighting cancer, undergoing 6 months of chemo and I'm still trying to keep up with what I used to do. I've always been a nurturer and caretaker but I often do things at my own expense. Yesterday I took the bus to visit my elderly parents and help them with dinner and...
    lagatta lagatta
    46-50, F
    5 Responses May 15, 2013

    Am I actually even good at my job?

    I am a very successful, well educated 35 year old career woman, but every day I leave work I find myself feeling badly about something I could have done better or a mistake I made and then I spend the night wondering if I am even good at my job!   I have constant...
    alwayscritical alwayscritical
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 16, 2009
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