I Am Too Hard On Myself

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    When It Comes To Me,

    When it comes to myself I am far too hard on myself.  I want to work on this.  Yes, I need to confront myself when I treat another person poorly, or when I messed up in relation to another person.  Those are the times that I am alllowed to be hard on myself, but...
    deleted deleted
    Nov 8, 2010

    I Expect Too Much From Myself

    Here I am, fighting cancer, undergoing 6 months of chemo and I'm still trying to keep up with what I used to do. I've always been a nurturer and caretaker but I often do things at my own expense. Yesterday I took the bus to visit my elderly parents and help them with dinner and...
    lagatta lagatta
    41-45, F
    6 Responses May 15, 2013

    Why Can't I Trust Me

    I have been told I give good advice. I have several close friends that come to me when they need someone to talk to, and feel flattered an happy If I can help them. It's when I can't an they're still unhappy is when I feel horrible. I get mad at myself for not being good enough...
    loveful loveful
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 16, 2012

    or I am lazy. Trying to figure this out at the

    moment. Feeling highly motivated to do enough to make my satisfied with how I spent my day.
    deleted deleted
    Mar 11

    Am I actually even good at my job?

    I am a very successful, well educated 35 year old career woman, but every day I leave work I find myself feeling badly about something I could have done better or a mistake I made and then I spend the night wondering if I am even good at my job!   I have constant...
    alwayscritical alwayscritical
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 16, 2009

    The Consequences...

    With all my flaws for all to see, I am kind of a perfectionist inside and you pay the price for that. I have a savior complex for straightening situations and people out and myself more than anyone.Thoughts like "I could have done better"I'm still not good enough to approach...
    deleted deleted
    Jul 28, 2012

    Road Trip

    Well, today's the day. I'm heading 2 hours out of town with my bipolar boyfriend for the holiday weekend. I'm really nervous because I don't know what to expect. He has been very moody these past few days. I read on a bipolar supporter's blog that keeping a mood journal for your...
    shortysvr shortysvr
    26-30, F
    Sep 1, 2012


    I have made mistakes in my life. I guess everyone does but I can't seem to forgive myself and move on. I'm stuck in the past. I keep wondering what my life would be like if only I had done things differently. I hate myself for my mistakes! To make things even more confusing...
    lagatta lagatta
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Jan 16, 2011

    Beatting Myself Up For It

    I'm a bad person when it comes to being hard on myself. Especially when it comes to cooking. I follow recipes and to me it has to be just right. And if I mess up I get angry and disapointed and I throw it away and think to myself I could've done better. And like if I do stuff...
    tngurl25 tngurl25
    26-30, F
    Feb 17, 2013

    Oh Well

    I am my own biggest critique and nothing that any other person can dish out could possibly come close to what I do to myself. 
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Jul 11, 2011

    Self Loathing

    I have always been very hard on myself for as long as I can remember. When I was in school, my grades were never good enough, I left like I didn't have enough friends, I always felt like I wasn't good enough. Not much has changed. I constantly attack myself inside my head. I tell...
    shortysvr shortysvr
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 24, 2012

    Me Too

    Yeah I know how you all feel, i do have high expectations on life and what i want out of it. i suppose its like a collision between a calm and chilled out self to someone who pushes himself until he cant go on anymore, its not natural
    theresonly1ash theresonly1ash
    26-30, M
    Oct 7, 2010

    Not Satisfied

    I have a fatal character flaw. I don't value/cherish anything. I've accomplished a few things in my life, I am a survivor, I'm intelligent, I'm a husband, father, homeowner, landlord, I've saved lives, comforted/treated ppl in ICU, learned enough technical skills to be an IT...
    doitagain doitagain
    36-40, M
    3 Responses Jun 10, 2008

    I Never

    I never get mad at people for making a mistake. The definition of a mistake implies that the person didn't mean to do what they did. I smile and show them how to fix the mistake because yelling or lecturing people only wastes time. However, I don't allow myself the same...
    suucakes suucakes
    May 1, 2011

    Tough On Me

    HI everyone out there, i am also like that.  I cant even go out and have a good time.  firstly i dont mind having a couple of wines with dinner, but more than likely i continue on being the life of the party, nothing really bad has ever happend, in fact most people...
    prisnelle prisnelle
    41-45, F
    Jan 14, 2010

    I Criticize Myself Too Much

    I go to an art school and every time I'm sent to do a new project, I always feel that my efforts aren't good enough. I feel that my work is mediocre and I get so stressed out about it. Sometimes, I miss classes just to avoid turning my work in even after I spent so much time...
    LeZombie LeZombie
    22-25, F
    Jan 22, 2010

    I feel like I could always be doing way more

    than I currently am. I am a stay at home mom of a active boy, I cook, I bake, I clean, workout, crochet. I want to write. I am usually doing at least 2 things at once . I miss working, I lost my last job because I was pregnant and they let me go illegally. And before that was...
    ellequence ellequence
    26-30, F
    Feb 1, 2014


    I am my most severe judge and the bloodiest executioner.  I am getting better now, I used to be much worse, I forgive myself more easily and I try not to have those thoughts but I do not succeed all the time and when I don't they torture me for days.
    jc2009 jc2009
    41-45, M
    Jan 11, 2011

    Being hard on myself is what keeps me going

    and pushes me to overcome many things. Yet, I crumble when someone else does it to me. Especially an intimate partner. I feel that the added pressure is almost too much to handle. How do I find the strength within myself to withstand the world around and within me?
    Scorpio2468 Scorpio2468
    22-25, F
    Feb 4, 2015

    Think Im Never Good Enough

    i am very hard on myself... I dont like to make mistakes and i like to do the best i can and more if i can... My best is never good enough in my eyes, i always think i can do better. Is everyone like that? Maybe it comes from having it all to losing everything... thats why i am...
    angeldevon angeldevon
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jul 11, 2008

    I'll Never Know Why I Keep Trying

    Sometimes I think my life could have been so much better, if I had just kept my mouth shut the whole time, never saying a word.  I think that if maybe from early on I had just refused to do anything, and never strove to achieve anything, and never attempted to be anything, I...
    CopperCoil CopperCoil
    36-40, M
    1 Response Apr 26, 2008

    What If Someone Else Did?

    I am way too hard on myself and i understood that when i started to think in a different way. I used to blame myself in every way are humanly possible, every time i did (in my opinion) something wrong. For example if i said something not pertinent, if i forgot something, if i was...
    Jmewow Jmewow
    Sep 8, 2013
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