I Am Too Shy to Start a Relationship

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    When a guy talks to me I totally shut him out

    because I get nervous I absolutely hate being shy! #Foreveralone lmao!
    Ale246 Ale246
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 23, 2014

    Several girls I could have asked out,

    but I was always too nervous
    ramblinboy ramblinboy
    16-17, M
    1 Response Jul 9, 2015

    Frustrated And Amazed

     Hi...I'm 35, single obviously...decent looking, intelligent, funny, great conversationalist...and lacking in self -confidence and self-esteem. I am the dreaded "Nice Guy." I hate being that. I have longed for a relationship so badly...to love and be loved, to know and...
    Grin32 Grin32
    31-35, M
    9 Responses Dec 16, 2009

    Shy But Romantic Boy

    I am 19, and not so good looking  or confident, but people usually say I'm sensible and a good person. I still haven't had a girlfriend, not even a first kiss. After trying to hook with two girls and being rejected 2 times, I feel really uneasy about trying to start a...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Dec 15, 2009

    I'm hopeless, I can't hold conversations with

    the person I like to save my life.....
    Breakeven92 Breakeven92
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jan 26, 2015

    Too Shy to Stand Up For Myself

    In college I was in this really awesome English class.  Everyone got along great, we spent time before and after class just hanging out and talking (sometimes even continuing class discussions). I was amazingly comfortable in the group - which is to say I was still...
    eyes eyes
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Oct 6, 2007

    I hate how shy I am..

    I literally just don't get it! It's not something I can change..
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    12 Responses Oct 9, 2014

    I'll never have a girlfriend

    because I'm always too shy to ask and then if I'm about to I lose all confidence :P
    Fred363 Fred363
    18-21, M
    Jul 21, 2014

    My crush ignores my snapchat stories.

    I know this for sure because she is very active on snapchat and she even posts stories every other day. I dated her once like a year ago but nothing happened and then we lost contact. I heard recently that she had a crush on me back then too (by a rumour). I think she has a...
    Goku1900 Goku1900
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Mar 25

    I don't think I'd be able to keep one either,

    I'm just so bad at relationships :/
    DoorMattress DoorMattress
    13-15, M
    1 Response Jul 6, 2015

    I wish starting a relationship were this easy.

    LOL https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ADoO0fTNzFo
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71
    41-45, M
    May 28, 2014

    If I ever got a boyfriend,

    I probably wouldn't even know what to do or say :S
    meganheappey meganheappey
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Mar 24

    Gay And Ready

    I used to be an extremely introverted person. It was hard for me to start relationships with anybody. When I started college, it took me three months to even talk to people. When I finally did meet a wonderful group of friends and got more involved on campus, I started to grow...
    samma2900 samma2900
    18-21
    1 Response Feb 18, 2011

    I have trouble going up to new people

    and starting a conversation with them because I am too shy or worried of messing it up which makes me an awkward person to most people but when someone decides to actually speak to me first they learn that I am not actually that awkward of a person after all.
    RZTheSlayer RZTheSlayer
    16-17, M
    1 Response Oct 4, 2014

    I am way to shy because guys want the girls

    who are skinny and have perfectly tanned skin and are pretty and I am not any of those things.
    misspiggybf97 misspiggybf97
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Jul 11, 2015

    I began talking to this guy

    but felt like I was talking too much. I literally gave him a history lesson about my culture. He was patient and kind. I just felt like I overwhelmed him. ??
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 25

    I have never asked a guy out,

    not because the gentlemen and lady thing with courting and stuff but because I'm way too shy and can't get up the nerve… I don't think I could ever ask a guy out.
    Kmarcum99 Kmarcum99
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Jun 15, 2014

    I have a hard time around other people I don't

    know. but I like when a man takes control it makes me more comfortable with the person. but I can't go up to a guy and be like"hey you have a gf?"no not me. not enough confidence.
    myshell91 myshell91
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 28, 2015

    I really don't know why!

    If I like a girl I will try my best to get her attention but it always seems like I either end up in the "friendzone" or I just screw up! Is it that I'm still immature for a relationship? Or is it that I'm trying too hard? Am I too desperate? Do I wait too long to ask the...
    TheConfusedOne321 TheConfusedOne321
    16-17, M
    1 Response May 9, 2014

    This is probably why i never get a girl.

    Because I'm always too shy to ever say anything. My friend tells me they're human beings just like everyone else but then I'm like they're way too pretty though. The weird people struggles ;-;
    Theguy0298 Theguy0298
    18-21, M
    1 Response Jul 7, 2015
    DiamondAuthority DiamondAuthority
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 27

    Painfully, Awkwardly Shy

    im completely inept when it comes to acting on my feelings and desires towards women im attracted to. i choke up, freeze up, and worst of all shut up. all i can think of is sex and how very little i have. then i feel like a pig-headed douchebag womanizer and feel guilty about...
    VomitEnema VomitEnema
    26-30, M
    Sep 11, 2010

    I talked to the guy I like today.

    And while in class I was eating sour patch kids. I do eat the orange, green or yellow ones. So once I ate the red and blue I asked him if he wanted the rest. It was kind of a test to see if he would be kind about it, or be an *******. He took the bag, chuckled and thanked me...
    E1738 E1738
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 17, 2015

    that's why I'm probably going to need internet

    dating sites to find a girlfriend.
    MrGensin MrGensin
    18-21, M
    Jan 24, 2015

    Rejection hurts, obviously.

    But so does not being able to muster up the courage to ask someone out.
    robopen10 robopen10
    18-21, M
    1 Response May 7, 2014

    The thing with me is that

    for some reason in scared of being in a relationship, I've only been in one and it wasn't the best. In the beginning I always find myself being a little awkward and weird. I guess I'm mostly just scared that the other person won't like me for who I truly am. I also don't believe...
    blooop123 blooop123
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jun 15, 2014

    I don't know if I even want a relationship.

    I mean it sounds nice but so much could go wrong
    DiamondAuthority DiamondAuthority
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Mar 24

    Damned If I Do, Damned If I Don't

    I'm really not sure I want to post this, because the idea freaks me out. An old friend of mine is acting like he thinks there should be more than just friendship. I'm not entirely sure how I feel about him, or about that, except that the idea terrifies me. I cannot...
    eyes eyes
    31-35, F
    23 Responses Jan 15, 2008

    I liked this boy for a while.

    I dont know if he likes me but now its too late because school is over and by the time we get back he would have forgotten all bout me. Smh
    ashash03 ashash03
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jun 26, 2014

    I'm so shy , I want to change I cant talk to

    girls without being embarrassed, I feel like girls from another planet, I cant make good conversation with them I'm so shy .
    Ihabq8 Ihabq8
    22-25, M
    1 Response Nov 2, 2014

    I Have An Anti-female Substance In My Body

    Basically I'm not a very shy person. I blurt out answers in class and sing out loud around people. When it come to making friends with the other guyz, it's fairly easy for me.........but then with girls, it's a total disaster. When I confront with girls, I become a total new...
    emoguyzpunk emoguyzpunk
    16-17
    3 Responses Jan 29, 2011

    im shy because im always afraid of rejection

    from a girl I like and have self doubts from what I think people think about me but never know till you try I guess
    aaronpayne aaronpayne
    22-25, M
    Jul 9, 2015

    because I can't talk anyone I would like to

    have a relationship with due to the fear of rejection
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jan 13

    35 and Still Single

     I don't suffer from any disease except my addiction to the Net. I'm also quite funny and charming and warm but I just have a huge problem when it comes to starting a relationship with a male and being intimate. Just thought I'd share! Heh-heh!
    sleepcake sleepcake
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Apr 24, 2008

    if I like you I will not talk to you

    unless you speak up first. I'll get my friends to talk to you for me but face to face confrontation will not happen if it means me coming to you. if you never talk to me first we will never date. idk why but it's just the fear of rejection and me being awkward that overwhelms me...
    juanitaalovee juanitaalovee
    16-17, F
    Jun 26, 2014

    Why I'm Too Shy to Start a Relationship

    I've had many negative experiences with men. My last boyfriend was not good for me at all. So with all of that, I'm really shy around men. My shyness is worse around men that I'm really attracted to. I can hardly talk to them, let alone start a relationship. I really wish guys...
    gmrpirate gmrpirate
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Jun 10, 2007

    I'm Just To Damn Shy...

    I am too damn shy. I am American, but I live in Shanghai, China, and go to the British International School (I could make a song about my life!). At my school, there's a Finnish girl that I really, really like. We're friends, and I want to ask her out, but guess what? I can't...
    RedMarcher RedMarcher
    18-21, M
    Oct 27, 2013

    How Can Something That Seems So Easy Be So Difficult?

    Pretty much every day, I encounter people who approach others effortlessly. They know exactly what to say, are able to come up with just the right words, and can manage to entice the object of their desire to be with them. I have never had that ability. It had been years since I...
    forestlaw77 forestlaw77
    36-40, M
    1 Response Jun 9, 2013

    I like a boy who has never had a girlfriend,

    he is not gay or anything, he isn't typically popular, he is a sweet boy and one of my close friends. I want to start a relationship with him but we are both painfully shy, we only talk to the teachers and our closest friends, my friend spoke to him and named a hand full of...
    Hornybouncytits Hornybouncytits
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 3, 2014

    Finding love comes down to luck,

    plain and simple, there are like 6 billion people in the world and out of those six billion your exposed to a impossible slim percentage, and out of that tiny group of people, even fewer of them are datable due to them either already being in a relation, or you two being...
    Sulka19 Sulka19
    22-25, M
    Dec 31, 2013

    I am in high school,

    and I want to ask a girl out. Unfortunately, I am really shy, the girl is not very popular, and I've never asked someone out before. Any tips?
    FutureFat FutureFat
    16-17, M
    1 Response Mar 5

    yeah im to shy to be in a relationship.

    ..... and i know guys like extroverts, sexy and funny girls......... soo no one won't like me :(...
    newcarlis newcarlis
    13-15, F
    5 Responses Jul 10, 2015

    41 And Single

    Ya'd think I would be more mature in this area... but I'm not. Childish fears still hold me back... fear of rejection, like in the 4th grade when I tried to get the attention of one of the prettiest girls in school... but that didn't work out, she wanted a friend of mine instead...
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Sep 1, 2012

    Being lonely doesn't always mean you hate being

    alone. Sometimes it is just a longing for connection.. To experience romance. Wanting a relationship doesn't mean you need one.. It doesn't always mean you hate yourself and seek validation. Sometimes a friendly hug isn't enough.. Or a great conversation with a friend. It is...
    CovertInk CovertInk
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Mar 4, 2015

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