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I Am Too Shy to Start a Relationship

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    Shy Around You.

    where am i right now, where do i stand to you or do you even think about me i just wanna feel like i’m making an impact, like there’s a difference between the days when i’m around and the days when i’m not there but i’m too nervous to even talk to you because i’m...
    PhoenixAlpha PhoenixAlpha 22-25, M Sep 4, 2013

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    When a guy talks to me I totally shut him out

    because I get nervous I absolutely hate being shy! #Foreveralone lmao!
    Ale246 Ale246 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 23

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    I can't figure out why guys just hurt me I mean

    I want a relationship that he wants to cuddle not **** wants to spend alittle time with me not dump me for his friends who wouldn't care if I lost weight who would love me even if I have issues
    WaitingToLiveLifeWith WaitingToLiveLifeWith 16-17, F 1 Response May 1

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    There Is This Girl

    She is smart, pretty, funny... A really good match for me. We are really good friends and she admitted that she had a crush on me Freshman year (of college). She was kind of an outsider of our group until last semester, right before she transferred to another school. We are still...
    serenityeryx serenityeryx 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 19, 2012

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    I liked this boy for a while.

    I dont know if he likes me but now its too late because school is over and by the time we get back he would have forgotten all bout me. Smh
    ashash03 ashash03 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 26

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    I'll never have a girlfriend

    because I'm always too shy to ask and then if I'm about to I lose all confidence :P
    Fred363 Fred363 16-17, M Jul 21

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    Gay And Ready

    I used to be an extremely introverted person. It was hard for me to start relationships with anybody. When I started college, it took me three months to even talk to people. When I finally did meet a wonderful group of friends and got more involved on campus, I started to grow...
    samma2900 samma2900 18-21 1 Response Feb 18, 2011

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    Rejection hurts, obviously.

    But so does not being able to muster up the courage to ask someone out.
    robopen10 robopen10 16-17, M 1 Response May 7

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    Him.. Read Plzz! Give Me Advice?

    So theres this guy that I really like he is so chill, laid back, cool, sweet, funny, and a great friend, he is really cute by the way. I have him only 1 class -.- Not cool We started talking and he asked me who I liked and I said the usual, "tell me who you like first" He...
    AlejandraUrbina AlejandraUrbina 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 9, 2013

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    I swear girls are from a different planet.

    All that's going through my mind when I try talking to a girl is, my god you're petty why are you even talking to me!? It's stupid cause the only way I feel comfortable around a girl is if she starts all the conversation and has control over it. She decides where it goes and she...
    BrownSunSet97 BrownSunSet97 16-17, M 3 Responses Jul 16

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    My First and only Love-who still doesn't know.

    Just wanted to touch the edge of Johnson's sleeve..But only always dreamed of it.We were 7 years old.I practically lived imagining me talking to him,but in my imaginations too..he never said anything to me.I felt my Heart knocking against my ribs whenever I gazed at him.(Leave...
    BridaPaulo BridaPaulo 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 3, 2013

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    I Have An Anti-female Substance In My Body

    Basically I'm not a very shy person. I blurt out answers in class and sing out loud around people. When it come to making friends with the other guyz, it's fairly easy for me.........but then with girls, it's a total disaster. When I confront with girls, I become a total new...
    emoguyzpunk emoguyzpunk 16-17 3 Responses Jan 29, 2011

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    I have never asked a guy out,

    not because the gentlemen and lady thing with courting and stuff but because I'm way too shy and can't get up the nerve… I don't think I could ever ask a guy out.
    Kmarcum99 Kmarcum99 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 15

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    If Shes Here...

    I understand people at this website. But i want someone to talk to and be open minded to
    tannerl tannerl 22-25 1 Response Mar 22, 2013

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    How Can Something That Seems So Easy Be So Difficult?

    Pretty much every day, I encounter people who approach others effortlessly. They know exactly what to say, are able to come up with just the right words, and can manage to entice the object of their desire to be with them. I have never had that ability. It had been years since I...
    forestlaw77 forestlaw77 31-35, M Jun 9, 2013

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    Painfully, Awkwardly Shy

    im completely inept when it comes to acting on my feelings and desires towards women im attracted to. i choke up, freeze up, and worst of all shut up. all i can think of is sex and how very little i have. then i feel like a pig-headed douchebag womanizer and feel guilty about...
    VomitEnema VomitEnema 26-30, M Sep 11, 2010

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    Too Shy To Talk

    I traced back the cause of my shyness to teh fact that im the youngest of 5 kids, so I never had to go out of my way to make friends, but im getting to the point in my life where I want to start dating, most of the girls I become interested in end up just shutting me down, mainly...
    Sulka19 Sulka19 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 2, 2012

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    Too Shy to Stand Up For Myself

    In college I was in this really awesome English class.  Everyone got along great, we spent time before and after class just hanging out and talking (sometimes even continuing class discussions). I was amazingly comfortable in the group - which is to say I was still...
    eyes eyes 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 6, 2007

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    Shy But Romantic Boy

    I am 19, and not so good looking  or confident, but people usually say I'm sensible and a good person. I still haven't had a girlfriend, not even a first kiss. After trying to hook with two girls and being rejected 2 times, I feel really uneasy about trying to start a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Dec 15, 2009

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    Eyes In Darkness

    Ok, I've been sat here for 10 minutes now wondering what to write here. I'm gonna attempt a start. Yes, I am too shy to start a relationship. I think. I've never asked anyone out or anything. I came close to confessing my feelings for someone once, but when push came to shove, I...
    Emptysoul30 Emptysoul30 22-25, M 3 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    I Want to Be In One

    but i am too shy to go up to guys anymore. i want to but i dont have the confidence.
    SomebodyHelpMe SomebodyHelpMe 21-25, F 2 Responses Jan 30, 2008

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    Forever Alone, Well At This Rate

    Well, I'm the same as anyone here, except I suppose you could add anti-social to the experience as well. I'm 19 at the moment, and haven't been in a relationship (should I add a yet?). In high school, I had some chances, I don't know. A few girls did like me, but I didn't share...
    Koriy Koriy 18-21, M 4 Responses Jan 7, 2012

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    Ill Never Even Get One

    I'm way to shy to even talk to girls, I know im a reject but i thought at least maybe i could have fun in life and get a girl to like me but thas not gonna happen cause im to ******* shy, like my name saids "Im Hopelss and Worthless", I'd like to see one girl say im cute
    ImHopelessandWorthless ImHopelessandWorthless 18-21, M 3 Responses Jun 30, 2011

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    I'm Just To Damn Shy...

    I am too damn shy. I am American, but I live in Shanghai, China, and go to the British International School (I could make a song about my life!). At my school, there's a Finnish girl that I really, really like. We're friends, and I want to ask her out, but guess what? I can't...
    Horizonstorm Horizonstorm 16-17, M Oct 27, 2013

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    They say opposites attract.

    I guess it's more of a magnet attracting a magnetic metal. He's so nice to be loved, or maybe he's just so similar to my ex. We are both introverted and we both have anger management issues. So I guess it shouldn't work out between us. I'm soooo shy to even ask him out the only...
    nerdylizz nerdylizz 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 22

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    Why I'm Too Shy to Start a Relationship

    I've had many negative experiences with men. My last boyfriend was not good for me at all. So with all of that, I'm really shy around men. My shyness is worse around men that I'm really attracted to. I can hardly talk to them, let alone start a relationship. I really wish guys...
    gmrpirate gmrpirate 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 10, 2007

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    True But Not An Excuse

    Yeah I am a shy guy, socially awkward at the most random times as well. Either way I just have to get over that if I want to get in a relationship. I can't just say "oh I'm shy so thats that", no thats just no excuse anymore. Something like a relationship isn't just handed to you...
    Breathe6 Breathe6 22-25, M 4 Responses Jan 6, 2012

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    My Shyness Has Root Cause

    I think I'm shy because I was poked fun at... everyday. I have good features, but I have never come to fully appreciate myself, my looks, my intelligence, etc. I must state beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and I don't really abide by so-called "standard beauty" yardstick...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 9, 2012

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    if I like you I will not talk to you

    unless you speak up first. I'll get my friends to talk to you for me but face to face confrontation will not happen if it means me coming to you. if you never talk to me first we will never date. idk why but it's just the fear of rejection and me being awkward that overwhelms me...
    juanitaalovee juanitaalovee 13-15, F Jun 26

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    Thats The Reason Why I Am In Here!

    to openly talk with others! really hoping one day l may see a lady that bestills me .... and , and , and l really become brave and start talking with her.
    cyclemania cyclemania 51-55, M Mar 16, 2013

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    I really don't know why!

    If I like a girl I will try my best to get her attention but it always seems like I either end up in the "friendzone" or I just screw up! Is it that I'm still immature for a relationship? Or is it that I'm trying too hard? Am I too desperate? Do I wait too long to ask the...
    TheConfusedOne321 TheConfusedOne321 16-17, M 1 Response May 9

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    Finding love comes down to luck,

    plain and simple, there are like 6 billion people in the world and out of those six billion your exposed to a impossible slim percentage, and out of that tiny group of people, even fewer of them are datable due to them either already being in a relation, or you two being...
    Sulka19 Sulka19 18-21, M Dec 31, 2013

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    41 And Single

    Ya'd think I would be more mature in this area... but I'm not. Childish fears still hold me back... fear of rejection, like in the 4th grade when I tried to get the attention of one of the prettiest girls in school... but that didn't work out, she wanted a friend of mine instead...
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71 41-45, M 2 Responses Sep 1, 2012

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    I Don't Like Showing My Feelings To Anybody

    every time i star a relationship i don't  continue on it ;i run away from that person! i feel like that if i go just little more further that person will leave and i'm do one who"s gonna be hurt ;i leave hem before he does  ...... and when i feel that he become...
    auroragirl auroragirl 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 10, 2012

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    Damned If I Do, Damned If I Don't

    I'm really not sure I want to post this, because the idea freaks me out. An old friend of mine is acting like he thinks there should be more than just friendship. I'm not entirely sure how I feel about him, or about that, except that the idea terrifies me. I cannot...
    eyes eyes 31-35, F 23 Responses Jan 15, 2008

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    What's wrong with me?

    I never thought of myself as the shy type until recently when I struggled to make the first move. I used to think I would be the dominant-always showing initiative type in a relationship of any kind. Granted I've never been in a relationship to compare anything to. In m head...
    Brokenpanda Brokenpanda 22-25, F Apr 28

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    I want to be in one I'm more

    or less to shy to ask
    Maddya Maddya 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 17

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    I'm a shy person. Some people don't think

    so like my friends. Others don't really know me because I'm shy. And I'm to shy to ask a girl out. I want to ask this girl out I met a few days ago but I don't know if I should or if I can. She is my sisters, bestfriend' friend. Me and my sister were going to our county fair to...
    TheMonsterCookie TheMonsterCookie 16-17, M 1 Response Jan 21

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    Me Too!

    I haven't been in a relationship since march of 2011!! And i still haven't gone out on a date! No one has even approached me because i don't give out the 'signals'! I'm shy and i do want to start dating again! That combination does not work well! Anyone, tips on how to put myself...
    Resona Resona 22-25, F 6 Responses Mar 13, 2012

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    I wish starting a relationship were this easy.

    LOL https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ADoO0fTNzFo
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71 41-45, M May 28

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    35 and Still Single

     I don't suffer from any disease except my addiction to the Net. I'm also quite funny and charming and warm but I just have a huge problem when it comes to starting a relationship with a male and being intimate. Just thought I'd share! Heh-heh!
    sleepcake sleepcake 31-35, F 7 Responses Apr 24, 2008

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    Pretty Much.

    I want to be in a relationship really badly, I just can't get past my introversion. I've been rejected so many times for being ugly, I just can't try anymore. Rejection may not be the worst thing, but I've taken many blows to my self-esteem. I've also had to reject as well. I'm...
    coinoperatedgirl coinoperatedgirl 46-50 4 Responses Jan 29, 2012

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    I Guess We Both Are Kinda Shy About Being In A Relationship

    Hi. I'm 15. There's a girl in my class I like, who i've been friends with since EIGHT years. 8. She's currently a really good friend, and I thought we could really elevate it up. We enjoy each others company (I guess she enjoys my company, not sure). We've always been in the same...
    owlcity01 owlcity01 13-15, M 2 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    The thing with me is that

    for some reason in scared of being in a relationship, I've only been in one and it wasn't the best. In the beginning I always find myself being a little awkward and weird. I guess I'm mostly just scared that the other person won't like me for who I truly am. I also don't believe...
    blooop123 blooop123 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 15

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    Couldn'T Do It..

    A beautiful girl stares at me, I look back.. and I just couldn't do it. I cannot even start a conversation. That is what it feels like everytime. Just couldn't do it...
    Nuol Nuol 18-21, M Oct 3, 2013

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    She'S So Hot, I Wish I Could...

    I am a freshman (now a sophomore) and there was this girl in one of my classes whose initials are p.r. I'll just call her pr. I usually don't like redheads, but she was different. Her butt was really hot and she is average height and weight. I don't know if is love, but I just...
    fungi2752 fungi2752 16-17, M Jun 10, 2013

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    Frustrated And Amazed

     Hi...I'm 35, single obviously...decent looking, intelligent, funny, great conversationalist...and lacking in self -confidence and self-esteem. I am the dreaded "Nice Guy." I hate being that. I have longed for a relationship so badly...to love and be loved, to know and...
    Grin32 Grin32 31-35, M 9 Responses Dec 16, 2009

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    Living The Life Of A Shy Loner...

    its not just about being shy,its about the fact that i never became this sociable person who likes to party, who likes to be around people and who enjoys the company and the interaction with others.i don't know how to be in a relationship,I've never really known how to make...
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 10, 2012

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    I like a boy who has never had a girlfriend,

    he is not gay or anything, he isn't typically popular, he is a sweet boy and one of my close friends. I want to start a relationship with him but we are both painfully shy, we only talk to the teachers and our closest friends, my friend spoke to him and named a hand full of...
    Hornybouncytits Hornybouncytits 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 3

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