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I Am Too Shy to Start a Relationship

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 1,242 People

    What's wrong with me?

    I never thought of myself as the shy type until recently when I struggled to make the first move. I used to think I would be the dominant-always showing initiative type in a relationship of any kind. Granted I've never been in a relationship to compare anything to. In m head...
    Brokenpanda Brokenpanda 22-25, F Apr 28, 2014

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    I'll Never Be In A Relationship

    I'm always too scared to flirt with a girl or talk to her because i don't know if she'll be a lesbian or not.... so I just don't even try.
    wikis15 wikis15 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 3, 2012

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    Being lonely doesn't always mean you hate being

    alone. Sometimes it is just a longing for connection.. To experience romance. Wanting a relationship doesn't mean you need one.. It doesn't always mean you hate yourself and seek validation. Sometimes a friendly hug isn't enough.. Or a great conversation with a friend. It is...
    SuumCuique SuumCuique 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 4

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    Painfully, Awkwardly Shy

    im completely inept when it comes to acting on my feelings and desires towards women im attracted to. i choke up, freeze up, and worst of all shut up. all i can think of is sex and how very little i have. then i feel like a pig-headed douchebag womanizer and feel guilty about...
    VomitEnema VomitEnema 26-30, M Sep 11, 2010

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    if I like you I will not talk to you

    unless you speak up first. I'll get my friends to talk to you for me but face to face confrontation will not happen if it means me coming to you. if you never talk to me first we will never date. idk why but it's just the fear of rejection and me being awkward that overwhelms me...
    juanitaalovee juanitaalovee 13-15, F Jun 26, 2014

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    Why I'm Too Shy to Start a Relationship

    I've had many negative experiences with men. My last boyfriend was not good for me at all. So with all of that, I'm really shy around men. My shyness is worse around men that I'm really attracted to. I can hardly talk to them, let alone start a relationship. I really wish guys...
    gmrpirate gmrpirate 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 10, 2007

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    Rejection hurts, obviously.

    But so does not being able to muster up the courage to ask someone out.
    robopen10 robopen10 18-21, M 1 Response May 7, 2014

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    Pretty Much.

    I want to be in a relationship really badly, I just can't get past my introversion. I've been rejected so many times for being ugly, I just can't try anymore. Rejection may not be the worst thing, but I've taken many blows to my self-esteem. I've also had to reject as well. I'm...
    coinoperatedgirl coinoperatedgirl 46-50 4 Responses Jan 29, 2012

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    I want to be in one I'm more

    or less to shy to ask
    Maddya Maddya 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 17, 2014

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    Shy But Romantic Boy

    I am 19, and not so good looking  or confident, but people usually say I'm sensible and a good person. I still haven't had a girlfriend, not even a first kiss. After trying to hook with two girls and being rejected 2 times, I feel really uneasy about trying to start a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Dec 15, 2009

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    Gay And Ready

    I used to be an extremely introverted person. It was hard for me to start relationships with anybody. When I started college, it took me three months to even talk to people. When I finally did meet a wonderful group of friends and got more involved on campus, I started to grow...
    samma2900 samma2900 18-21 1 Response Feb 18, 2011

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    Too Shy to Stand Up For Myself

    In college I was in this really awesome English class.  Everyone got along great, we spent time before and after class just hanging out and talking (sometimes even continuing class discussions). I was amazingly comfortable in the group - which is to say I was still...
    eyes eyes 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 6, 2007

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    When a guy talks to me I totally shut him out

    because I get nervous I absolutely hate being shy! #Foreveralone lmao!
    Ale246 Ale246 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 23, 2014

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    Frustrated And Amazed

     Hi...I'm 35, single obviously...decent looking, intelligent, funny, great conversationalist...and lacking in self -confidence and self-esteem. I am the dreaded "Nice Guy." I hate being that. I have longed for a relationship so badly...to love and be loved, to know and...
    Grin32 Grin32 31-35, M 9 Responses Dec 16, 2009

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    41 And Single

    Ya'd think I would be more mature in this area... but I'm not. Childish fears still hold me back... fear of rejection, like in the 4th grade when I tried to get the attention of one of the prettiest girls in school... but that didn't work out, she wanted a friend of mine instead...
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71 41-45, M 2 Responses Sep 1, 2012

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    I Want to Be In One

    but i am too shy to go up to guys anymore. i want to but i dont have the confidence.
    SomebodyHelpMe SomebodyHelpMe 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 30, 2008

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    I have a hard time around other people I don't

    know. but I like when a man takes control it makes me more comfortable with the person. but I can't go up to a guy and be like"hey you have a gf?"no not me. not enough confidence.
    myshell91 myshell91 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 28

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    I can't figure out why guys just hurt me I mean

    I want a relationship that he wants to cuddle not **** wants to spend alittle time with me not dump me for his friends who wouldn't care if I lost weight who would love me even if I have issues
    DollFacedBeauty2k15 DollFacedBeauty2k15 16-17, F 1 Response May 1, 2014

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    Couldn'T Do It..

    A beautiful girl stares at me, I look back.. and I just couldn't do it. I cannot even start a conversation. That is what it feels like everytime. Just couldn't do it...
    Nuol Nuol 18-21, M Oct 3, 2013

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    I hate how shy I am..

    I literally just don't get it! It's not something I can change..
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 13 Responses Oct 9, 2014

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    I'm so shy , I want to change I cant talk to

    girls without being embarrassed, I feel like girls from another planet, I cant make good conversation with them I'm so shy .
    Ihabq8 Ihabq8 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 2, 2014

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    Damned If I Do, Damned If I Don't

    I'm really not sure I want to post this, because the idea freaks me out. An old friend of mine is acting like he thinks there should be more than just friendship. I'm not entirely sure how I feel about him, or about that, except that the idea terrifies me. I cannot...
    eyes eyes 31-35, F 23 Responses Jan 15, 2008

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    Shy Around You.

    where am i right now, where do i stand to you or do you even think about me i just wanna feel like i’m making an impact, like there’s a difference between the days when i’m around and the days when i’m not there but i’m too nervous to even talk to you because i’m...
    PhoenixAlpha PhoenixAlpha 22-25, M Sep 4, 2013

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    I'm hopeless, I can't hold conversations with

    the person I like to save my life.....
    Breakeven92 Breakeven92 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 26

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    The thing with me is that

    for some reason in scared of being in a relationship, I've only been in one and it wasn't the best. In the beginning I always find myself being a little awkward and weird. I guess I'm mostly just scared that the other person won't like me for who I truly am. I also don't believe...
    blooop123 blooop123 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 15, 2014

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    I liked this boy for a while.

    I dont know if he likes me but now its too late because school is over and by the time we get back he would have forgotten all bout me. Smh
    ashash03 ashash03 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 26, 2014

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    She'S So Hot, I Wish I Could...

    I am a freshman (now a sophomore) and there was this girl in one of my classes whose initials are p.r. I'll just call her pr. I usually don't like redheads, but she was different. Her butt was really hot and she is average height and weight. I don't know if is love, but I just...
    fungi2752 fungi2752 16-17, M Jun 10, 2013

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    I have never asked a guy out,

    not because the gentlemen and lady thing with courting and stuff but because I'm way too shy and can't get up the nerve… I don't think I could ever ask a guy out.
    Kmarcum99 Kmarcum99 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 15, 2014

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    They say opposites attract.

    I guess it's more of a magnet attracting a magnetic metal. He's so nice to be loved, or maybe he's just so similar to my ex. We are both introverted and we both have anger management issues. So I guess it shouldn't work out between us. I'm soooo shy to even ask him out the only...
    nerdylizz nerdylizz 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 22, 2014

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    I Have An Anti-female Substance In My Body

    Basically I'm not a very shy person. I blurt out answers in class and sing out loud around people. When it come to making friends with the other guyz, it's fairly easy for me.........but then with girls, it's a total disaster. When I confront with girls, I become a total new...
    emoguyzpunk emoguyzpunk 16-17 3 Responses Jan 29, 2011

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    I wish starting a relationship were this easy.

    LOL https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ADoO0fTNzFo
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71 41-45, M May 28, 2014

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    How Can Something That Seems So Easy Be So Difficult?

    Pretty much every day, I encounter people who approach others effortlessly. They know exactly what to say, are able to come up with just the right words, and can manage to entice the object of their desire to be with them. I have never had that ability. It had been years since I...
    forestlaw77 forestlaw77 36-40, M Jun 9, 2013

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    Ill Never Even Get One

    I'm way to shy to even talk to girls, I know im a reject but i thought at least maybe i could have fun in life and get a girl to like me but thas not gonna happen cause im to ******* shy, like my name saids "Im Hopelss and Worthless", I'd like to see one girl say im cute
    ImHopelessandWorthless ImHopelessandWorthless 18-21, M 3 Responses Jun 30, 2011

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    Him.. Read Plzz! Give Me Advice?

    So theres this guy that I really like he is so chill, laid back, cool, sweet, funny, and a great friend, he is really cute by the way. I have him only 1 class -.- Not cool We started talking and he asked me who I liked and I said the usual, "tell me who you like first" He...
    AlejandraUrbina AlejandraUrbina 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 9, 2013

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    I talked to the guy I like today.

    And while in class I was eating sour patch kids. I do eat the orange, green or yellow ones. So once I ate the red and blue I asked him if he wanted the rest. It was kind of a test to see if he would be kind about it, or be an *******. He took the bag, chuckled and thanked me...
    Emily217 Emily217 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 17

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    Finding love comes down to luck,

    plain and simple, there are like 6 billion people in the world and out of those six billion your exposed to a impossible slim percentage, and out of that tiny group of people, even fewer of them are datable due to them either already being in a relation, or you two being...
    Sulka19 Sulka19 22-25, M Dec 31, 2013

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    I find it difficult to be in a relationship

    and its because im shy around girls, does anybody else have this problem. if so I would like to know how you deal or overcome it.
    shadowdragon24 shadowdragon24 22-25, M 1 Response Oct 19, 2014

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    Forever Alone, Well At This Rate

    Well, I'm the same as anyone here, except I suppose you could add anti-social to the experience as well. I'm 19 at the moment, and haven't been in a relationship (should I add a yet?). In high school, I had some chances, I don't know. A few girls did like me, but I didn't share...
    Koriy Koriy 18-21, M 4 Responses Jan 7, 2012

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    35 and Still Single

     I don't suffer from any disease except my addiction to the Net. I'm also quite funny and charming and warm but I just have a huge problem when it comes to starting a relationship with a male and being intimate. Just thought I'd share! Heh-heh!
    sleepcake sleepcake 31-35, F 8 Responses Apr 24, 2008

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    I really don't know why!

    If I like a girl I will try my best to get her attention but it always seems like I either end up in the "friendzone" or I just screw up! Is it that I'm still immature for a relationship? Or is it that I'm trying too hard? Am I too desperate? Do I wait too long to ask the...
    TheConfusedOne321 TheConfusedOne321 16-17, M 1 Response May 9, 2014

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    that's why I'm probably going to need internet

    dating sites to find a girlfriend.
    MrGensin MrGensin 18-21, M Jan 24

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    Eyes In Darkness

    Ok, I've been sat here for 10 minutes now wondering what to write here. I'm gonna attempt a start. Yes, I am too shy to start a relationship. I think. I've never asked anyone out or anything. I came close to confessing my feelings for someone once, but when push came to shove, I...
    Emptysoul30 Emptysoul30 22-25, M 3 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    I'll never have a girlfriend

    because I'm always too shy to ask and then if I'm about to I lose all confidence :P
    Fred363 Fred363 18-21, M Jul 21, 2014

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    I have trouble going up to new people

    and starting a conversation with them because I am too shy or worried of messing it up which makes me an awkward person to most people but when someone decides to actually speak to me first they learn that I am not actually that awkward of a person after all.
    RZTheSlayer RZTheSlayer 16-17, M Oct 4, 2014

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    I'm a shy person. Some people don't think

    so like my friends. Others don't really know me because I'm shy. And I'm to shy to ask a girl out. I want to ask this girl out I met a few days ago but I don't know if I should or if I can. She is my sisters, bestfriend' friend. Me and my sister were going to our county fair to...
    TheMonsterCookie TheMonsterCookie 16-17, M 1 Response Jan 21, 2014

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    I like a boy who has never had a girlfriend,

    he is not gay or anything, he isn't typically popular, he is a sweet boy and one of my close friends. I want to start a relationship with him but we are both painfully shy, we only talk to the teachers and our closest friends, my friend spoke to him and named a hand full of...
    Hornybouncytits Hornybouncytits 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 3, 2014

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