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I Am Trapped In My Marriage

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    Trapped

    After spending many sleepless nights crunching numbers and counting up the cost of school, diapers and food, I have concluded that the only way out of of my marriage is if one of us dies. I have no money, no job and I was in the middle of my masters degree when I got pregnant...
    Penelopejones Penelopejones 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 9, 2009

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    As Trapped As It Gets

    No job and not bites in all the applications I have submitted. No family near by to help with transition. My son .... all the questions about what divorce will do to him. Some say it would better, some say it would not - to put him through it.I don't know. Doesn't seem like it...
    lisa36 lisa36 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 6, 2010

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    I Wish I Can Just Snap My Fingers ..

    I wish that I can just snap my fingers and I will be out of my marriage. Sounds like a dream eh? Yes I am dreaming indeed that things will be that easy. It took us 12 years before we got married. The relationship started when we were first year college. It was a record-breaker as...
    ladybug1234 ladybug1234 46-50, F 1 Response Jun 30, 2012

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    So Desperate to Leave

    hi there my story may seem a little different to most people wanting out of their marriage but here goes, ok i'm 33 yrs old and have been married since i was 18 to an absolute wonderful guy he's caring, considerate, extremely loving and totally devoted to me the problem is i...
    clare76 clare76 31-35 4 Responses Jul 9, 2009

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    Our Life Has No Meaning Together

    I have been married for 2 years. For the duration of this marriage, I have felt frustrated that my spouse does not take initiative in our marriage. We do not share any common interests, activities, or groups, other than the desire to zone out by eating fast food and watching...
    greenscales25 greenscales25 26-30 3 Responses Jun 14, 2013

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    I've Fallen And I Can't Get Up

    Been with this guy for almost 30 years. We have one teenage son. We do not agree on child rearing styles. He is a strict disciplinarian, and my son has to do what he is told or he gets the silent treatment. I feel more like my son should make his own decisions on his life...
    Snickers1960 Snickers1960 51-55 3 Responses Dec 8, 2011

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    Stale Marriage - At The Polite Facade Stage

    I met my wife in 1995 and we had a long distance relationship for 1 year and we then married and I moved to where she lived.At different points of our courtship it was clear that she was not an easy going person even though this is clearly the best match for me. Several times she...
    Acadian1 Acadian1 51-55, M 5 Responses Jun 27, 2011

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    Married And Trapped..? I Deserve Better...

    So I felt like I could relate alot with this group!! As to why I joined it... It is a very unfortate group to be a part of and I feel bad that other people are feeling the same aweful feelings relating to their husbands and wives, but at the same time I feel comforted in knowing...
    MsBeautyExpert MsBeautyExpert 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 23, 2013

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    No Where

    I raised my children on my own and when they left home I became reacquainted with a high school friend. I thought I had found someone to share my life with. We have been together for five years. I lost my job shortly after we began living together and have had no luck finding...
    kschryver kschryver 56-60, F Oct 31, 2013

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    An Update....

    I posted a story in this thread last year - I wont repeat it but wanted to give an update I finally found the courage to voice my feelings and suggested to my husband that we separate. He agreed and moved out on 21st January this year. All was amicable and he continued to come...
    lisa2331 lisa2331 31-35, F 6 Responses Jul 15, 2011

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    I got married young, just out of school.

    A year later we had a baby. She's two years old now. And I can't tell anyone what this is like, or has been like, living with HIM. He rules my every decision, from how long I take in the bathroom, what I should wear, eat, drink, cook. Who I should talk to friendwise. He...
    jaythebird jaythebird 18-21 7 Responses Apr 12

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    Married To A Batterer

    I don't know where to start, I hate my husband for what he does to me but I can not get out of this marriage for many reasons one of them is the fact that I have a son and I am pregnant with the second one. I am very seccuessful in my carrier and my social life, and that what...
    Alsham Alsham 26-30 Aug 27, 2012

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    Might Be Ready To Hang It Up

    I got married entirely too young and for all the wrong reasons.  I was 20 and had been lonely all of my life.  I never had a girlfriend, so when this girl took an interest in me I was elated.  I did anything I had to to hold onto her. My first clue how things were...
    openroad72 openroad72 36-40, M 3 Responses Jun 6, 2010

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    Why Do I Feel Like This?

    I got married a year ago after i discovered i was pregnant. My husband is a nice guy but we can't communicate. I don't think I can be with him for much longer but I don't want anybody else either. If i want a divorce he will take our son- he doesn't even have to divorce me...
    questforknowledge questforknowledge 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 19, 2010

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    What Should I Do

    I have been married just over 20 years. Lately I have been feeling I'm not in love anymore and want to leave. We have two kids and of course the guilt about wanting to leave is terrible. He really isn't that bad of a person which of course is another reason for the guilt. I'm...
    carolppr carolppr 46-50, F 4 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    Not sure where my soul mate went

    I have known my husband since I was a junior in high school. I really did love him more than anything on this planet at a time. Way before the cheating, lying, the lack of emotion and disrespect. He was my world and I was his. Fast forward about 13 years and where are we at? He...
    kaye30kaye kaye30kaye 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 13, 2012

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    I wish there was a way to end my marriage.

    There are so many social pressures (and emotional pressures) to continue in the same way.
    tjat2013 tjat2013 31-35, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    I am married to a narcissistic man.

    I have a love/hate relationship with him. I don't even know where to start. I feel so trapped and alone. He denies any sort of problem and thinks he needs no help. We have been together for 14 years. I left him a year ago and it was a temporary separation. I felt the best I had...
    mandyp21 mandyp21 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 8

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    I used to teach swimming almost everyday.

    I did this for free. This was a family business and I was happy to help. Now that I am married, my wife forced me to stop teaching for free. I have been swimming almost my whole life. I am having trouble sleeping. Am I too selfish?
    beedio beedio 46-50, M 1 Response Jan 29

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    Positive But Self Honest About My Marriage

    My wife has admitted she married me for all the wrong reasons.  She's had one affair that I know about.  I suspect that this affair with her boyfriend before we were married has lasted many years inside our marriage.  At least seven.  We have four great kids...
    pla6zuk8zm pla6zuk8zm 51-55 2 Responses Jun 6, 2010

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    Trapped

    I've been married almost 14 years. My husband is extremely hard to live with. We have a 9 year old together. He loves her more than me. I also have an 18 year old son who also I had as a single mom. My husband has completely checked out. He is tired of my free spirit spending...
    butterflyjoy butterflyjoy 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 7, 2013

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    A Loooong Story

    I have been with my husband for 14 years and have been married for seven.  we have no children and have experienced four miscarriages.  Our problems really started about 6 years ago.  My husband is a lovely man, but i feel that I am not his priority (as he...
    lisa2331 lisa2331 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 12, 2010

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    I Can't Breathe

    First off, let me say I found this place by accident and in less than a half an hour, I find that I'm not alone and it's a good feeling to have. Especially since people like me feel lonely often. As many of you have mentioned, I too married young, 19. He was my first everything...
    eke67 eke67 46-50, F 4 Responses May 30, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    Make that, that I used to live in a marriage that was becoming a sexless marriage. Today would have been our second anniversary. The story is complicated, but to make it short, she...
    soundtrackforantarctica soundtrackforantarctica 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    My time has come. Court is tomorrow. Hopefully it is the last court date and I get my divorce. It is bittersweet. I had such hopes. I took my vows seriously. For better or worse...
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 36-40, F 25 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have had an experience where somebody who I loved decided to have an arranged marriage. If there is anyone who has had a similar experience or going through this, and wishes to...
    wishfulsoul wishfulsoul 31-35, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    One of the worst things about this situation is that I haven't had the courage to tell people about the hell I am in. I am simply too ashamed that (as one poster on here put it...
    Pattycakey Pattycakey 36-40, F 8 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Why won't you just let me go?! I'm doing you, us, a favor by owning it all and *trying* to set you free! But no, you hold on for dear effing life. Am I property? Status? A promise...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 10 Responses Mar 26

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    I am trapped in my relationships. Trapped in my work. Trapped in my family. Trapped in this house. This is all I will ever be...landscape in someone one else's picture. . I...
    littlecreekgirl littlecreekgirl 41-45, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I wrote recently about the problems my husband was having in coming to terms with my rather creamy bowel movements. Thanks to everyone who responded and offered their help and...
    JennyFilth JennyFilth 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    Around five weeks ago I did it. I fired off my exit plan, worked through the anxiety and fear and depression, told her how unhappy I had been, and I left. That was one of the most...
    RecoveringCaffeineAddict RecoveringCaffeineAddict 31-35, M 12 Responses Apr 10

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    I bet this is familiar to many of you here, I thought I'd share it as it might be of use. "What is the cost of being an emotional caretaker in a manipulative relationship? Loss of...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 10 Responses 5 days ago

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    My husband drinks too much and too often. We got in a big fight today after he was drinking after a funeral...but believe me, he wasn't drinking out of sadness. He went after me...
    jenni2014 jenni2014 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I dont know if what I am feeling is paranoia. Lately I have been feeling like my psychiatrist is lying to me about my medication. I have also been struggling to see people the same...
    innerself000 innerself000 18-21 Mar 22

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    I sometimes get that feeling of wanting to drop everything and run...run and not turn back...but the moment I start to day dream of the life I would make for myself..i get the...
    imherealways imherealways 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    I had an affair 3 yrs ago even tho I told my bf it was over, I now feel soo trapped I want him to leave but he won't n I have 2. Get the police to help n then he takes my eldest so...
    hayley34 hayley34 31-35, F Mar 28

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    I am literally trapped in my depression. I always felt something was missing in my life so at the age of 23 i joined the army hoping to fill that emptiness but i truly did want to...
    robboom robboom 22-25, M Apr 6

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    He told me if I ever leave, go far away, because he'll destroy his life if I do. I don't know what to do. I feel trapped.
    kmhdancer16 kmhdancer16 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 9

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    I live in the most horrible most sexist country in the world. In this country I as a women cannot live decently without relying on a man. I cannot study the same majors as men in...
    TamiChan TamiChan 18-21, F a week ago

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    the reasons why i dont want to do anything sexual before marriage : reason number 1 : what if i had sex with my girl friend before marriage , and after few days i met with...
    lifetriangle lifetriangle 22-25, M 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    Psychology Today has a couple of recent articles regarding "Does Sexless marriage justify adultery". The articles are reasonable and informed and the comments worthwhile. They...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    Normal.... There are many stories on here about after leaving marriages and having normal relationships. Well I haven't left my marriage yet. I have talked to a lawyer and...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 11

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    The rubble of our marriage I try not to look I try to change my focus to what else gives me happiness my children my friends my home my community I cannot help...
    Bobbie71 Bobbie71 41-45, F 16 Responses Mar 24

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    Two weeks ago, I shared what I thought would be my current status for awhile. Life being what it is - it has thrown me into a crazy roller coaster loop once again. The good news...
    lightblueeyes lightblueeyes 46-50, F 21 Responses Mar 28

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    Before and After … Nearing 8 months after my separation, I reflect on the emotional desert I have called my marriage. During those years, I was starved for a smile or a hug. A...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 6

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    Thought this was worth a read. Not applicable to all but still interesting. A lack of sexual interest in women is a big topic Fotolia_49866286_XS Peter and Andrea are teachers...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 13 Responses Apr 10

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    I don't believe in gay marriage. I believe in marriage. And I think that's between any two people that love each other. Man and man. Woman and man. Woman and woman. Or whatever you...
    emilyv97 emilyv97 16-17, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I finally lined up both a marriage counselor (to help us sort out whether or not our marriage is toast) and an individual therapist (to help me get my **** together) and now the...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 30 Responses 4 days ago

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    Not to be confused with forced marriage. I am very rational when it comes to marriage, and believe this is why mine has been successful so far. To many people it sounds wrong that...
    esmeraldream esmeraldream 26-30, F 11 hrs ago

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    I had an incredible night. I have to share my experience. I was raised by my Grandmother, who lived in a sexless marriage. My Grandfather was a mean, cold, loveless husband. He...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 11 Responses Mar 25

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    I guess "troubled" is the best way to describe it. I used to think nothing could come between us. My husband's been in and out of part-time, dead-end jobs for ten years. Most...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    Update from Opposite Land Even though I normally have sex 3-4 times a week with my beloved post sexless marriage lover, I haven't had sex for a week. Why? He is sick with...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 14 Responses Apr 10

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    Those who do not have to deal with this situation must find it odd that those of us who do, express such deep sadness and longing. How often do the comments suggested the simple...
    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 18 Responses a week ago

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