I Am Trapped In My Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 188 People

    I got married young, just out of school.

    A year later we had a baby. She's two years old now. And I can't tell anyone what this is like, or has been like, living with HIM. He rules my every decision, from how long I take in the bathroom, what I should wear, eat, drink, cook. Who I should talk to friendwise. He...
    jaythebird jaythebird
    4 Responses Apr 12, 2014

    Me and my wife have not spoken

    for months now and we have not had sex for last 2 years. She has clearly told me to go away from her life. But I continue to stay, I love our son more than I hate her. Sometimes in life, you just have to swallow the bitter pill...
    tjat2013 tjat2013
    36-40, M
    1 Response May 28, 2014

    Our marriage has been terrible

    for years. I recently reached a breaking point and asked for a divorce. In my state, couples with children need to live apart for 1 year before a divorce is final. We are both being stubborn and both think the other should move out. But the cost of living is so high, it's...
    annaanderson annaanderson
    41-45, F
    1 Response May 25, 2015


    After spending many sleepless nights crunching numbers and counting up the cost of school, diapers and food, I have concluded that the only way out of of my marriage is if one of us dies. I have no money, no job and I was in the middle of my masters degree when I got pregnant...
    Penelopejones Penelopejones
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Nov 9, 2009

    Married To A Batterer

    I don't know where to start, I hate my husband for what he does to me but I can not get out of this marriage for many reasons one of them is the fact that I have a son and I am pregnant with the second one. I am very seccuessful in my carrier and my social life, and that what...
    Alsham Alsham
    Aug 27, 2012

    I just want him to accept

    that I want out of the marriage and stop trying to fix what can't be fixed. I want to move and try to be happy. Is that too much to ask?
    reneedarkside reneedarkside
    46-50, F
    2 Responses May 24, 2014

    I've Fallen And I Can't Get Up

    Been with this guy for almost 30 years. We have one teenage son. We do not agree on child rearing styles. He is a strict disciplinarian, and my son has to do what he is told or he gets the silent treatment. I feel more like my son should make his own decisions on his life...
    Snickers1960 Snickers1960
    3 Responses Dec 8, 2011

    India as you all might know is a country rich

    in culture and tradition. Arranged marriages happens to be a very integral part of this culture. I am 27 years old and got married in January last year. Like many other marriages mine was also an arranged one. I was working in Mumbai until November 2013. I had to leave my work...
    femaleskeleton femaleskeleton
    1 Response Jan 19, 2015

    I Can't Breathe

    First off, let me say I found this place by accident and in less than a half an hour, I find that I'm not alone and it's a good feeling to have. Especially since people like me feel lonely often. As many of you have mentioned, I too married young, 19. He was my first everything...
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses May 30, 2013

    Why Do I Feel Like This?

    I got married a year ago after i discovered i was pregnant. My husband is a nice guy but we can't communicate. I don't think I can be with him for much longer but I don't want anybody else either. If i want a divorce he will take our son- he doesn't even have to divorce me...
    questforknowledge questforknowledge
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 19, 2010


    I've been married almost 14 years. My husband is extremely hard to live with. We have a 9 year old together. He loves her more than me. I also have an 18 year old son who also I had as a single mom. My husband has completely checked out. He is tired of my free spirit spending...
    butterflyjoy butterflyjoy
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jun 7, 2013

    I Feel Like Life Is Passing Me By

    I'm in my mid thirties, married with three great kids that I get to stay home with.  This doesn't come without sacrifice though.  We are consistently broke and barely scrape by each month, often times having my parents save the day.   Because of this, I have...
    serendipity75 serendipity75
    2 Responses Aug 15, 2008

    As Trapped As It Gets

    No job and not bites in all the applications I have submitted. No family near by to help with transition. My son .... all the questions about what divorce will do to him. Some say it would better, some say it would not - to put him through it.I don't know. Doesn't seem like it...
    lisa36 lisa36
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Nov 6, 2010

    I wish there was a way to end my marriage.

    There are so many social pressures (and emotional pressures) to continue in the same way.
    tjat2013 tjat2013
    36-40, M
    Apr 14, 2014

    I Wish I Can Just Snap My Fingers ..

    I wish that I can just snap my fingers and I will be out of my marriage. Sounds like a dream eh? Yes I am dreaming indeed that things will be that easy. It took us 12 years before we got married. The relationship started when we were first year college. It was a record-breaker as...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 30, 2012

    Married And Trapped..? I Deserve Better...

    So I felt like I could relate alot with this group!! As to why I joined it... It is a very unfortate group to be a part of and I feel bad that other people are feeling the same aweful feelings relating to their husbands and wives, but at the same time I feel comforted in knowing...
    MsBeautyExpert MsBeautyExpert
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Apr 23, 2013

    Not sure where my soul mate went

    I have known my husband since I was a junior in high school. I really did love him more than anything on this planet at a time. Way before the cheating, lying, the lack of emotion and disrespect. He was my world and I was his. Fast forward about 13 years and where are we at? He...
    kaye30kaye kaye30kaye
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 13, 2012

    So Desperate to Leave

    hi there my story may seem a little different to most people wanting out of their marriage but here goes, ok i'm 33 yrs old and have been married since i was 18 to an absolute wonderful guy he's caring, considerate, extremely loving and totally devoted to me the problem is i...
    clare76 clare76
    3 Responses Jul 9, 2009

    A Loooong Story

    I have been with my husband for 14 years and have been married for seven.  we have no children and have experienced four miscarriages.  Our problems really started about 6 years ago.  My husband is a lovely man, but i feel that I am not his priority (as he...
    lisa2331 lisa2331
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 12, 2010

    Stale Marriage - At The Polite Facade Stage

    I met my wife in 1995 and we had a long distance relationship for 1 year and we then married and I moved to where she lived.At different points of our courtship it was clear that she was not an easy going person even though this is clearly the best match for me. Several times she...
    Acadian1 Acadian1
    51-55, M
    4 Responses Jun 27, 2011

    I am married to a narcissistic man.

    I have a love/hate relationship with him. I don't even know where to start. I feel so trapped and alone. He denies any sort of problem and thinks he needs no help. We have been together for 14 years. I left him a year ago and it was a temporary separation. I felt the best I had...
    mandyp21 mandyp21
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Feb 8, 2014

    Positive But Self Honest About My Marriage

    My wife has admitted she married me for all the wrong reasons.  She's had one affair that I know about.  I suspect that this affair with her boyfriend before we were married has lasted many years inside our marriage.  At least seven.  We have four great kids...
    pla6zuk8zm pla6zuk8zm
    2 Responses Jun 6, 2010

    Our Life Has No Meaning Together

    I have been married for 2 years. For the duration of this marriage, I have felt frustrated that my spouse does not take initiative in our marriage. We do not share any common interests, activities, or groups, other than the desire to zone out by eating fast food and watching...
    greenscales25 greenscales25
    3 Responses Jun 14, 2013

    I was in long distance relationship

    and just moved back to the States after several years abroad. I let red flags slide because 1) I had such renewed optimism about life being back home and 2) despite sad optimism, I left all my friend and acquired community to come back ad didn't ant to sever the connection I had...
    lifecontinueson lifecontinueson
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jan 23, 2015

    My wife and I have nothing in common.

    We cannot communicate, she doesn't understand me. I'm staying in my marriage because my kids deserve a complete family. I'm very lonely.
    Stky2001 Stky2001
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Jun 10, 2014

    Might Be Ready To Hang It Up

    I got married entirely too young and for all the wrong reasons.  I was 20 and had been lonely all of my life.  I never had a girlfriend, so when this girl took an interest in me I was elated.  I did anything I had to to hold onto her. My first clue how things were...
    openroad72 openroad72
    36-40, M
    3 Responses Jun 6, 2010

    An Update....

    I posted a story in this thread last year - I wont repeat it but wanted to give an update I finally found the courage to voice my feelings and suggested to my husband that we separate. He agreed and moved out on 21st January this year. All was amicable and he continued to come...
    lisa2331 lisa2331
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Jul 15, 2011

    What Should I Do

    I have been married just over 20 years. Lately I have been feeling I'm not in love anymore and want to leave. We have two kids and of course the guilt about wanting to leave is terrible. He really isn't that bad of a person which of course is another reason for the guilt. I'm...
    carolppr carolppr
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Nov 3, 2013

    No Where

    I raised my children on my own and when they left home I became reacquainted with a high school friend. I thought I had found someone to share my life with. We have been together for five years. I lost my job shortly after we began living together and have had no luck finding...
    kschryver kschryver
    61-65, F
    Oct 31, 2013

    I've been asked why don't I just leave.

    Well, it's easier said than done. A- I haven't held a job in seven years. I stayed home to raise his kids. Of course I don't get credit for it. B- Both my parents are gone, and the remainder of my family could care less about what happens to me. No support system C- I have no...
    zanyzoey zanyzoey
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Nov 13, 2014

    Sinking With No Life Boat

    How in the hell did my first (and only) marriage turn into this nightmare? Within a year of being married I began to notice that my wife thought that saying yes to her teenage son 99% of the time was a good idea. Then, after I noticed repeated thefts of things from my car I ...
    DeadButAlive DeadButAlive
    46-50, M
    12 Responses May 29, 2008

    I am married to a good guy,

    everyone tells me so. He lost his business three years ago and stays home and takes care of the kids. I go to work everyday to support him and the kids. I am getting tired supporting him financially. On top of that, he borrowed and lost a lost a ton of money on get rich...
    Idontbelieveindivorce Idontbelieveindivorce
    51-55, F
    Aug 24, 2014

    I used to teach swimming almost everyday.

    I did this for free. This was a family business and I was happy to help. Now that I am married, my wife forced me to stop teaching for free. I have been swimming almost my whole life. I am having trouble sleeping. Am I too selfish?
    beedio beedio
    51-55, M
    1 Response Jan 29, 2014
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