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I Am Trapped In My Marriage

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    A Loooong Story

    I have been with my husband for 14 years and have been married for seven.  we have no children and have experienced four miscarriages.  Our problems really started about 6 years ago.  My husband is a lovely man, but i feel that I am not his priority (as he...
    lisa2331 lisa2331 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 12, 2010

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    I just want him to accept

    that I want out of the marriage and stop trying to fix what can't be fixed. I want to move and try to be happy. Is that too much to ask?
    reneedarkside reneedarkside 46-50, F 4 Responses May 24

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    I Wish I Can Just Snap My Fingers ..

    I wish that I can just snap my fingers and I will be out of my marriage. Sounds like a dream eh? Yes I am dreaming indeed that things will be that easy. It took us 12 years before we got married. The relationship started when we were first year college. It was a record-breaker as...
    ladybug1234 ladybug1234 46-50, F 1 Response Jun 30, 2012

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    Trapped

    After spending many sleepless nights crunching numbers and counting up the cost of school, diapers and food, I have concluded that the only way out of of my marriage is if one of us dies. I have no money, no job and I was in the middle of my masters degree when I got pregnant...
    Penelopejones Penelopejones 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 9, 2009

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    An Update....

    I posted a story in this thread last year - I wont repeat it but wanted to give an update I finally found the courage to voice my feelings and suggested to my husband that we separate. He agreed and moved out on 21st January this year. All was amicable and he continued to come...
    lisa2331 lisa2331 31-35, F 6 Responses Jul 15, 2011

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    Might Be Ready To Hang It Up

    I got married entirely too young and for all the wrong reasons.  I was 20 and had been lonely all of my life.  I never had a girlfriend, so when this girl took an interest in me I was elated.  I did anything I had to to hold onto her. My first clue how things were...
    openroad72 openroad72 36-40, M 3 Responses Jun 6, 2010

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    Trapped

    I've been married almost 14 years. My husband is extremely hard to live with. We have a 9 year old together. He loves her more than me. I also have an 18 year old son who also I had as a single mom. My husband has completely checked out. He is tired of my free spirit spending...
    butterflyjoy butterflyjoy 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 7, 2013

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    I feel very trapped in my marriage.

    We are two people who should never have gotten married. There are some things I want to do and experience that I am unable to do. She has so many rules around romance and the like that it's one way or nothing. It carries over to other area's as well. I want to feel free to...
    wannabechef wannabechef 51-55, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Stale Marriage - At The Polite Facade Stage

    I met my wife in 1995 and we had a long distance relationship for 1 year and we then married and I moved to where she lived.At different points of our courtship it was clear that she was not an easy going person even though this is clearly the best match for me. Several times she...
    Acadian1 Acadian1 51-55, M 5 Responses Jun 27, 2011

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    What Should I Do

    I have been married just over 20 years. Lately I have been feeling I'm not in love anymore and want to leave. We have two kids and of course the guilt about wanting to leave is terrible. He really isn't that bad of a person which of course is another reason for the guilt. I'm...
    carolppr carolppr 46-50, F 4 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    I Feel Like Life Is Passing Me By

    I'm in my mid thirties, married with three great kids that I get to stay home with.  This doesn't come without sacrifice though.  We are consistently broke and barely scrape by each month, often times having my parents save the day.   Because of this, I have...
    serendipity75 serendipity75 31-35 2 Responses Aug 15, 2008

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    I used to teach swimming almost everyday.

    I did this for free. This was a family business and I was happy to help. Now that I am married, my wife forced me to stop teaching for free. I have been swimming almost my whole life. I am having trouble sleeping. Am I too selfish?
    beedio beedio 46-50, M 1 Response Jan 29

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    So Desperate to Leave

    hi there my story may seem a little different to most people wanting out of their marriage but here goes, ok i'm 33 yrs old and have been married since i was 18 to an absolute wonderful guy he's caring, considerate, extremely loving and totally devoted to me the problem is i...
    clare76 clare76 31-35 4 Responses Jul 9, 2009

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    I got married young, just out of school.

    A year later we had a baby. She's two years old now. And I can't tell anyone what this is like, or has been like, living with HIM. He rules my every decision, from how long I take in the bathroom, what I should wear, eat, drink, cook. Who I should talk to friendwise. He...
    jaythebird jaythebird 18-21 4 Responses Apr 12

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    Married And Trapped..? I Deserve Better...

    So I felt like I could relate alot with this group!! As to why I joined it... It is a very unfortate group to be a part of and I feel bad that other people are feeling the same aweful feelings relating to their husbands and wives, but at the same time I feel comforted in knowing...
    MsBeautyExpert MsBeautyExpert 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 23, 2013

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    Not sure where my soul mate went

    I have known my husband since I was a junior in high school. I really did love him more than anything on this planet at a time. Way before the cheating, lying, the lack of emotion and disrespect. He was my world and I was his. Fast forward about 13 years and where are we at? He...
    kaye30kaye kaye30kaye 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 13, 2012

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    Married To A Batterer

    I don't know where to start, I hate my husband for what he does to me but I can not get out of this marriage for many reasons one of them is the fact that I have a son and I am pregnant with the second one. I am very seccuessful in my carrier and my social life, and that what...
    Alsham Alsham 26-30 Aug 27, 2012

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    As Trapped As It Gets

    No job and not bites in all the applications I have submitted. No family near by to help with transition. My son .... all the questions about what divorce will do to him. Some say it would better, some say it would not - to put him through it.I don't know. Doesn't seem like it...
    lisa36 lisa36 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 6, 2010

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    I wish there was a way to end my marriage.

    There are so many social pressures (and emotional pressures) to continue in the same way.
    tjat2013 tjat2013 31-35, M Apr 14

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    Me and my wife have not spoken

    for months now and we have not had sex for last 2 years. She has clearly told me to go away from her life. But I continue to stay, I love our son more than I hate her. Sometimes in life, you just have to swallow the bitter pill...
    tjat2013 tjat2013 31-35, M 1 Response May 28

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    Sinking With No Life Boat

    How in the hell did my first (and only) marriage turn into this nightmare? Within a year of being married I began to notice that my wife thought that saying yes to her teenage son 99% of the time was a good idea. Then, after I noticed repeated thefts of things from my car I ...
    DeadButAlive DeadButAlive 46-50, M 13 Responses May 29, 2008

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    Why Do I Feel Like This?

    I got married a year ago after i discovered i was pregnant. My husband is a nice guy but we can't communicate. I don't think I can be with him for much longer but I don't want anybody else either. If i want a divorce he will take our son- he doesn't even have to divorce me...
    questforknowledge questforknowledge 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 19, 2010

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    Our Life Has No Meaning Together

    I have been married for 2 years. For the duration of this marriage, I have felt frustrated that my spouse does not take initiative in our marriage. We do not share any common interests, activities, or groups, other than the desire to zone out by eating fast food and watching...
    greenscales25 greenscales25 26-30 3 Responses Jun 14, 2013

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    Positive But Self Honest About My Marriage

    My wife has admitted she married me for all the wrong reasons.  She's had one affair that I know about.  I suspect that this affair with her boyfriend before we were married has lasted many years inside our marriage.  At least seven.  We have four great kids...
    pla6zuk8zm pla6zuk8zm 51-55 2 Responses Jun 6, 2010

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    I've Fallen And I Can't Get Up

    Been with this guy for almost 30 years. We have one teenage son. We do not agree on child rearing styles. He is a strict disciplinarian, and my son has to do what he is told or he gets the silent treatment. I feel more like my son should make his own decisions on his life...
    Snickers1960 Snickers1960 51-55 3 Responses Dec 8, 2011

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    I Can't Breathe

    First off, let me say I found this place by accident and in less than a half an hour, I find that I'm not alone and it's a good feeling to have. Especially since people like me feel lonely often. As many of you have mentioned, I too married young, 19. He was my first everything...
    eke67 eke67 46-50, F 5 Responses May 30, 2013

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    My wife and I have nothing in common.

    We cannot communicate, she doesn't understand me. I'm staying in my marriage because my kids deserve a complete family. I'm very lonely.
    Stky2001 Stky2001 36-40, M 4 Responses Jun 10

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    No Where

    I raised my children on my own and when they left home I became reacquainted with a high school friend. I thought I had found someone to share my life with. We have been together for five years. I lost my job shortly after we began living together and have had no luck finding...
    kschryver kschryver 56-60, F Oct 31, 2013

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    I am married to a narcissistic man.

    I have a love/hate relationship with him. I don't even know where to start. I feel so trapped and alone. He denies any sort of problem and thinks he needs no help. We have been together for 14 years. I left him a year ago and it was a temporary separation. I felt the best I had...
    mandyp21 mandyp21 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 8

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