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I Am Trying To Accept The Things I Cannot Change

But it's not easy! 11,469 People

    Life is hell. Bad **** happens to good people.

    People kill, steal, rape, plunder et cetera everyday, across the world. I suffer from bouts of depression very regularly. I will suffer personal tragedies in the future that will dwarf those I have survived up to this point. I will someday die. I will most likely die without...
    IntoTheFuckingFloodAgain IntoTheFuckingFloodAgain 18-21, M 2 Responses May 31

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    For sohhh lonnnggg now.

    Started at 20. Am now 47. Tried sohhh hard. Had heart attacks trying. But they multiply. Those who are heard improve nothing. Tried not caring. Tried prayer. Tried meds. Tried selfish. Tried working again despite rage. Tried ****. Tried...
    converted converted 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 11

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    I've seen a lot these past few years.

    I've lost my grandmother, seen a few good friends move away or go overseas, and watched a few ladies walk out my door for the last time. And while I still think about them every now and again, I am refusing to let the bad times outweigh the good. A lot of who I am came from...
    WhiskeyShooter WhiskeyShooter 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 4

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    My boyfriend and I were together

    for nearly 10 years. He was the first and only man I've ever loved, and the first man to ever tell me he loved me. Shortly after exchanging those three little words (with a very big meaning), he cheated on me. Instead of leaving him, I stayed, though I had misgivings. But I...
    iknowmykingdomawaits iknowmykingdomawaits 26-30, F 16 Responses 1 day ago

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    MySecretsWithin MySecretsWithin 36-40, F 13 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Yep... this is a big one.

    And very difficult. I believe people in general like to think they have a certain amount of control over things in life. Well, in my personal experience, it doesn't seem so true lol. I've worked hard my entire life, always tried to do right by everyone, never tried to cause harm...
    StormTheVixen StormTheVixen 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    It isn't the easiest thing to do,

    it's definitely a learning process. There's a lot of things i wish i could change, especially my past but...i can't and i need to accept that and move on. I'm trying to accept that there's no such thing as perfection, that there's always going to be things that we don't want to...
    WistfulSigh WistfulSigh 18-21, F 7 Responses Jul 16

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    I'm trying hard to accept

    that my father will never change, he's an alcoholic. Which means he's selfish & manipulative.He only ever talks to me when he needs me to do him a favour. He builds my hopes up then knocks them down. I keep talking to him & I need to stop for my own good. I just don't know what...
    EveMarieJones EveMarieJones 18-21, F 7 Responses Jul 4

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    So, I dated someone for 7 years.

    It ended abruptly and I stopped all communication instantly. He is getting married next weekend I heard. Kinda feel weird but am at a loss of words as to how to describe it. So here's to you love, congratulations and thank you for being a part of my life. Xo
    marandajenine marandajenine 26-30, F 9 Responses May 13

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    I feel like I'm losing one of my best friends

    and I try to give her her space, but it just feels like she wants to walk away and every time I think about that, I start to cry. I can't focus at work, life just doesn't feel the same and I don't really know how much more I want to keep going.
    GabeR1991 GabeR1991 22-25, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Yeah it's hard to accept things you can't change

    but it's worth end!!! For me I have accepted that spankings are a part of discipline in my house, I can't change it just accept it and behave and follow rules
    brandonpatrick brandonpatrick 13-15, M 2 days ago

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    There are many things i hate

    but i can't change them. Like People' Judgements, Hateful words, Creepy people all around my city, who are always drunk and gambling, who are always staring other's women and many more things...
    mahdiraza mahdiraza 16-17, M 6 days ago

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    Life can only be understood backwards,

    but life must lived forwards.
    BehappyToday BehappyToday 18-21, F May 9

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    I can't change the fact my "mother" is insane

    and trying to get rid of me. I can't change my past. I can't change that I was attacked and raped. I can't change that destroyed my relationship. I can however change one thing. I can get clean of the drugs that have controlled me for so long.
    sluggo111 sluggo111 16-17, M 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Zarina23 Zarina23 22-25, F 9 hrs ago

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    I don't want to eat because I'm not comfortable

    with my body but everytime I try not to I get caught and then I have to eat how do anorexic parents let there kids starve because i don't want to eat and if I try to starve they will make me eat?!
    jennkardash13 jennkardash13 13-15, F 3 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    acw012192 acw012192 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 22, 2013

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    It follows me wherever I go.

    I've never invited it along and I can never tell it to leave. These memories have broken something inside me. I don't think I'll ever be happy again, but I'd like to be. I was young when these memories attached themselves to me. I'm forever haunted by the events that linger in...
    Steinbaum Steinbaum 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 19

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    I'm trying to accept the fact I'm forever alone.

    Like today I went to work and there's a girl that comes in to my job all the time. She's my age 17 and I asked her out she laughed so hard that she had to run into the bathroom to throw up. Then she left laughing with her friends and made me feel like **** like usual. It's ok...
    superabe11 superabe11 16-17, M 6 Responses Jul 4

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    I'm one of those people

    that never usually goes on these forums to pour my heart out as I usually internalise things and try to deal with it myself - this seems to be one of the reasons my husband of 13 years is considering leaving me.........14 years ago my husband fell so in love with me he gave up...
    Liya2004 Liya2004 41-45, F 3 Responses Jul 3

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    True love exist of its own volition.

    It can't be created or imagined, rushed or stopped, bought or sold. True love will feel and find its own path. I will follow and enjoy the journey!
    GJOFJ3 GJOFJ3 56-60, M 3 Responses May 21

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    Well you only need the light

    when it's burning low, Only miss the sun when it starts to snow, Only know you love her when you let her go, Only know you've been high when you're feeling low, Only hate the road when you're missing home, Only know you love her when you let her go, and you let her go. 🌹
    KristianNathan KristianNathan 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 30

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    This is basically my online journal

    and I'm keeping my name private so none of my friends know about this..I'm sorry for the people who have added me to their circles and want to know I'm just not comfortable sharing yet..
    rablst rablst 16-17, F 4 days ago

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    I am trying to accept the fact

    that I'm so sensitive and take everything to heart I really try not to but I just do . So I guess I just make myself upset over nothing
    BisshhWhet BisshhWhet 16-17, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Up Up And Away

    I'm an EP frequent flyer. I enjoyed the travel, then when I get to my destination I'm occupied with other things until it is time to reboard EP for another journey. On my first flight many years ago, I found the technology here somewhat daunting. The format, the icons and the...
    Duchessforthright Duchessforthright 46-50 7 Responses Jun 21, 2013

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    Will Would that I could compel you To do my

    will. Would that I could dispel the hurt That maims me still. Maybe then I could seize peace. But then I’d own a life With no challenge, no unknown, No chance for victory, No reason to atone. I’d be clutching to my breast That which if it is confessed, Is something all...
    Quintesse Quintesse 46-50, F 11 Responses Jan 23

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    "Life isn’t about waiting

    for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain." Vivian Greene
    Aimee17 Aimee17 36-40, F 2 Responses May 13

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    Sometimes I look life through a filter of

    perfection...how things should be.A supportive family,friends and happy kids around,living a peaceful life full of feelings and deep emotions...and why not,some adventure too.Laughter as an often thing,and being content,at ease,in pesce.Giving the best of me and bringing love...
    4biandu 4biandu 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 5

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    I wish I hadn't done certain things in the past,

    but I can't change that now. I've hurt so many people in the past, and a lot of it is just blending together. I've been through so much, and because of my choices I've gained nothing. I only lose. I just want to be able to move forward in life even with those burdens still in...
    dyingalittleinside97 dyingalittleinside97 16-17, F 6 Responses Jun 23

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    I am trying it will take tons of work on my

    part. Some things I can give and take whilst other things I just cannot.
    xMisunderstoodgirlx xMisunderstoodgirlx 22-25, F 3 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I've recently learned

    as well as discovered that there's no point in being upset over things that you have no control over. Just have faith. Let it go. It'll all work out on its own. It doesn't do you or anyone any good stressing over something that you have absolutely no control over. Just live.
    Philli8807 Philli8807 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 7

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    God grant me the serenity to accept the things

    I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; Taking, as Jesus did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it...
    LookingForSoMuchMore LookingForSoMuchMore 51-55, M May 21

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    I struggle with this all the time.

    ..I am trying to accept that my parents are not the people I want them to be and they never will be. This is not going to change. I will never be good enough so I need to stop trying now and look after myself and my family instead of wasting energy wishing things could be...
    StoneWall77 StoneWall77 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    But... My biggest struggle is to accept

    that there is anything i cannot change, if i want that change enough!
    yulico yulico 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 5

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    This is so hard!!!!!!

    I wish life was a fairy tale!
    statham18 statham18 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    So my so called best friend is not my friend

    anymore because I'm going to a special needs kid grad party over being a third wheel at the beach with him and his girlfriend. Am I the bad guy
    jimboslice501 jimboslice501 18-21, M 7 Responses Jul 11

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    A Wonderful Quote

    I have often regretted my speech,never my silence.. Thoughtful.
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Aug 15, 2013

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    Troubles always come in threes.

    .. It's like the universe wants me to suffer.
    NanaH2014 NanaH2014 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 4

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    The past is what we need to accept the way it

    was. Cause no one ever can change it. accepting the past and learning from the past, is important in life.
    andrejide10 andrejide10 18-21, M 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Nightly Prayer..

    Lord, grant me the serenity to accept Stupid as they are, courage to maintain self-control, and wisdom- to know that If I act on it..I will go to jail.
    MadamElle MadamElle 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 25, 2012

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    I used to be very cynical about the facts of

    life that I cannot change, I was always very angry and sad that no matter how hard I tried, there were some things that I couldn't change. But now, its different. Accepting that there are some things for which I cannot change, has made other aspects of my life more enjoyable...
    misternobrain misternobrain 22-25, M 4 Responses Jun 11

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    Recently my best friend

    and the girl I love started dating. She doesn't like me back, I know that for sure, but I still can't shake my feelings for her. I can't stand the fact that she is happy with someone else, but I guess there is nothing I can do now. It feels like something I love has abandoned me...
    trichy1 trichy1 16-17, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    **I feel like I'm in an AA meeting.

    ** My name is Chris and I'm... ...the youngest of 8 kids. I was born in to a strictly religious home. My father was a military officer, a church pastor & middle school English teacher who was rarely involved in our lives. My parents seperated & divorced when I was about 15...
    dukelostboy25 dukelostboy25 26-30, M 5 Responses Jul 1

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    It puzzles me that everytime it goes good with

    one guy, like in a friendship...the one day you hang out n you have a blast, it goes down hill like you feel extra paranoid that he talking to other girls like he talking to you n every lil thing that he does annoys tf outta you bc you hate that you started liking him after that...
    ethiopiangoddess ethiopiangoddess 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 11

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    Can You Love More Than One Person?

    "Relationship Status"
    jerteria07 jerteria07 13-15, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    The Waiting Is The Hardest Part

    As Tom Petty sang, "The Waiting is the Hardest Part," I began to think, oh how true of a statement, It seems we wait for 'something' most of our lives...we wait to be able to drive, to drink, to get married, to have children, to find out news regarding jobs, to see if we got...
    SmartSweet1 SmartSweet1 51-55, F 1 Response Dec 22, 2012

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    I really am torn between accepting

    and fighting the things I cannot change in the world. I simply can't accept the horrific things that go on in some of the countries notorious for such events. How could I? But I can't do anything about it apart from worry about all the poor souls affected by the actions of...
    princessalison princessalison 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 16

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    ktdunlap18 ktdunlap18 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    hey all ! ... this is important

    and big. can i have a small time of yours, just little.. few minutes.. i sign up here around a year back to share my story with people and i did. i expected people will help me out from my heart broken stage and yes to maximum extend people helped, thanks a lot... then i began...
    heartless2 heartless2 22-25, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    There is very little

    that I have enough control over to be able to change it. Which is a problem because I'm told I'm a bit of a control freak. I strive everyday to "be the change I want to see" and all I can do I hope it makes some difference to someone. Maybe someday someone will see and...
    GreenEyedFox GreenEyedFox 22-25, F Jun 3

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    My mom is literally insane.

    Anyone with me?
    lillilucero lillilucero 13-15, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I've recently split with a girl

    who has a son, I was single and happy for about 3 years before I met this girl, but being with her made me so happy and it showed me the life I want to live but now that we are seperated I feel depressed and sad and although I'm over coming this I can't help but feel down about...
    PokerPete PokerPete 26-30, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Smoray100 Smoray100 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 2

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