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I Am Trying to Find Myself

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    With my ex, whom I still love,

    trying to find himself... I've become lost. I have to find myself, while he does the same. We'll always be friends and his family will always be mine as well, so it's going to be hard for him to get rid of me.
    MichaelClifford MichaelClifford 13-15, F Mar 13

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    The Mask We Wear

    Every one I know wears a mask from time to time. Perhaps it's human nature not to expose ourselves to people around us. My mask comes with me every place I go. Not many know the real me. I don't even want anyone to know the mixed-up crazy me. Yesterday, I went to church and wore...
    keeva keeva 46-50, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    to most people, this post might seem useless.

    it may seem like a waste of time, especially if you're like me. i personally find positivity and happiness to be "fake", i was always drawn to melancholy so i guess, it has become a part of me. ive come to realise that i do everything based on my feeling. literally everything...
    LifeAfterBlake LifeAfterBlake 18-21, M 2 Responses May 9

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    Still Lost

    i have a secret that i have been keeping in my entire life and i am looking for some answers to my questions....but still no luck, i am still stuck in the middle and still not moving forward... how should i overcome it????
    maynee maynee 18-21, F 15 Responses Oct 14, 2010

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    Up and Down

    Sometimes I feel myself, free of self-conciousness and fear and full of love, and then I seem to get scared and run away back into my shell.  When I am feeling like that it's absolutely incredible and freeing, it's really hard to describe.  But then it's like I can't...
    outoftheshadows outoftheshadows 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2008

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    who is Jayda Lyric Byrd ?

    Jayda is a very sweet girl who is trying to find herself because she has been through so much in life living only for eighteen years. Who is Jayda Lyric Byrd she want to succeed in life because she has lots of dream to pursue in life Who is Jayda Lyric Byrd she is a loving...
    lyricbutterfly2013 lyricbutterfly2013 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 19

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    I am sick of looking.

    I can't find me. I wanna die =.. (...
    WolfOfDreams WolfOfDreams 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 17

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    Inspiration From Ep, I Identified

    This is the dark thick coastal form, from where my waves are trying to come outside with mystical strength and love but it is the hurdle!But I would have tht clear watery being inside me tht is ready to flow with full energy towards skies..I know there are treasures inside but I...
    sunshines333 sunshines333 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 4, 2012

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    Trying To Find A Way

    So I know what I want to do and who I want to be but I don't know how to actually do it. I want to actually start a doggie day care and training center. However, I am such a shy person I'm having a hard to finding a way to open my self up. I love dogs and I'm so passionate about...
    Ambere13 Ambere13 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 5, 2013

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    This is going to be like my life story

    so I want to say I am sorry for the long winded post in advance but I need to get this out. sigh. Ok where the hell do I start!?!? Ok well how about here. Growing up with my Mother was not an easy feat at all. She was an alcoholic and I do not mean a in closet drinker I mean...
    snowbabe3 snowbabe3 22-25, F May 8

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    This is the hard time

    for me.. I need to be strong... I am trying to find myself after breaking up with my gf who i love to death
    AnnaKhit AnnaKhit 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    don't know what im doing,

    don't know what i want to do, don't know where im going haha hmmm....
    lfcsean lfcsean 18-21, M 3 Responses Jul 7

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    Untamed

    I feel like I am in a constant battle with myself.   My mother was a committed Christian, and my father was indifferent.  My grandfather was a pastor, many of my other relatives held positions within the church.  Having this background, along with growing up in a tiny...
    Kimba2992 Kimba2992 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 12, 2012

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    Oh wait! There I am! Finding yourself is the

    wring task. The correct would be "getting busy living and choosing little goals to accomplish".
    davidinverness davidinverness 22-25, M Jun 26

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    People have an amazing way of shaping your

    perception about yourself. I have struggled my whole life with issues either about body image, confidence, academic performance or other achievements..i have wasted my whole life trying to conform with the standards set for me, until now, I had an approach that I should be like...
    maddyha maddyha 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 22

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    I have stepped outside of my comfort zone.

    I left all my friends and family and moved to another country. Now that I am away from all that is familiar to me I realize how much of my life was spent living for them and not for myself. So much so that I don't really know who I am. I am now going through this process of...
    elitetb elitetb 31-35, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Call it a mid-life crisis,

    but really I've been going through this for a while. If I could, I would pack a few things and go on an "eat, pray, love" journey to find "me" again. I'm not a religious person, but more spiritual...and I'm a foodie...the love aspect would definitely be interesting as well. I...
    W4W2 W4W2 41-45, F 30 Responses May 30

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    I've Been Lost For A Long Time

    I didn't know where to go But then again I had nowhere to go No one's ever been here for me So I couldn't call anyone to help me I was beaten in every way you can think of I felt worthless I felt useless I thought I was hideous I was non-existent I lost my self-esteem I lost...
    InmemoryofLifelessStar InmemoryofLifelessStar 18-21, F 3 Responses May 17, 2011

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    I Just Discovered This..."i Haven't Found Myself Yet."

    Two hours ago i was on the motorcycle with my twin brother,it's been a month since i came back from italy to visit my family,it's been a little bit hard for me there,for i had been put in so many embarassing situations by the person i appreciated the most and took as a brother,it...
    jonahsalam jonahsalam 18-21, M Jul 12, 2013

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    Sometimes I Think Who Cares?

    I feel like I've been trying to find myself forever, sometimes I think who cares.  I may never know and I wonder if that's such a bad thing.  I have so much going on in my life that sometimes I just don't have the energy to try and figure it out.
    keyna keyna 36-40, F 7 Responses Mar 28, 2008

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    My Journey

    I'm on a path to try to find myself, I try to keep an open mind and have done and had many experiences. I've met people who were religious to people who were just simply spiritual, I've met bussiness type people to people in the healthcare field. I was taught and mentored by...
    marx5 marx5 18-21, M 1 Response May 30, 2013

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    I Am Trying To Find Who I Am

    Please help me . I am fed up of this mid life crisis of mine. I am 43. I have done nothing With my life. My mum calls Me a failure, she says why do I not have a life? I admit my life has gone bad on me, I'm very lonely, I have been depressed for years. I take anti depressants...
    defoekeane defoekeane 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 2, 2013

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    A Letter To My Dearest Friends...

    Last night....about that, I allow things to eat me up inside and I have been searching for and working for a long time to find an answer as to why that is. On top of that, I have a tendency to bring those around me down the spiraling path of self loathing and confusion. One thing...
    lostapril lostapril 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 5, 2011

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    Where Has She Gone?

    I have been on a self journey now for about 2 1/2 years. The day I left my ex-husband was the cusp of that journey....but even before I had begun a transformation that was needed and wanted for a long time. I too, like many other men and women in relationships, lost the person I...
    MegJgeM MegJgeM 31-35, F 5 Responses Jun 6, 2009

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    Wow

    All these stories and no one to help u with them it seems to me that this website is eithe outdated or not cared about I dunno which is worse. I really wish i could help you all out.
    Lookingformrsright Lookingformrsright 31-35, M Apr 7, 2013

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    Forever 21

    well im 21 and i have no job, sexual lover or a place of my own.  i live with my mom and hate it because we dont get along and i cant have friends period. i'm bisexual and cant bring myself to tell the girl i love how i feel about her.  my boyfriend died in his sleep a...
    herzighart herzighart 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2009

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    Lost A Piece Of Me

    I feel like I lost my identity when I got married. I have become his wife and mother to our children, but I can't remember who I was and what my dreams were. I feel like I want to run away sometimes and try new things and have new expieriences outside my home all alone. I want to...
    howsab howsab 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 1, 2011

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    Who, What, Where am I

    I look in front of me, behind meand even at my shadow. I am a stranger to myself.  I know others around me better than I now me. I am trying to resolve this mystery about who I am, what I am and where I am. I go to my analytical brain and look at myself in mirror of...
    keeva keeva 46-50, F 3 Responses Dec 12, 2012

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    Just Something I'm Thinking Of!

    For since I was a little boy,i've always wanted to travel to see the world,to always meet new people,i've always thought of myself as "special","one of a kind",and then came a time when i finally traveled to Italy to study,there where i met people who were of my nationality...
    jonahsalam jonahsalam 18-21, M Jul 12, 2013

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    Lately I've been thinking a lot about my future

    and what kind of person I want to be everyday that goes by I get even more lost in myself
    Jenna1214 Jenna1214 13-15, F May 29

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    Wanted Dead Or Alive

    Hmmmmmmmmmm I think I left him in my other pants. If you find me please return =P
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 2, 2010

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    I am trying to be happy

    but find myself being glum. I want to start going out with friend's, going out on dates, and just live life to it's fullest. Being an introvert that has just broke up with his girlfriend of fifteen years makes me want to crawl in a shell and disappear. I just want to feel normal...
    fifteenyearslost fifteenyearslost 36-40, M 3 Responses Jun 12

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    It Takes Time

    I keep waiting to wake up one day and just know myself. Know myself enough that I can stand up for my beliefs and not be swayed by peoples opinions. But it never happens that way. I wake up day after day expecting to see some change in my life but there is never one. My life...
    JDoe1890 JDoe1890 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 7, 2011

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    Opening up to someone is

    as hard as building up walls around you.Lately, I've discovered that being so caught up in your bubble, your own shell, won't be able to do you any good. Ever. It's gonna drown you in sorrow, and keep you from knowing; from learning other things that you can grasp, if you just...
    ErinValcourt ErinValcourt 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 21, 2013

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    Aren't We All?

    I think this is pretty self explanatory, but I'll share my personal experience. I spent a lot of my time as a child alone.  My siblings were older than me by quite a bit and never wanted to spend time with their bratty little sister.  I played alone a lot, and was...
    chaotic chaotic 26-30, F 4 Responses May 30, 2007

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    Onmymind1976

    I joined this so I could type out my frustrations... but now find myself speechless. lol... i lost myself in my marriage. I was Mom, & wife. But there was no Me left. So now im learning ab out myself again, but still being a mom. THat is difficult, when im struggling to make ends...
    Onmymind1976 Onmymind1976 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 1, 2012

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    About Me And Why Im Writing

    first i would like to say that i have terrible grammar and i might put a period or a comma where it doesn't belong so if you wouldn't mind to just ignore that for now, that would be great. :) so anyway let me start with telling you a little bit about myself, i have social...
    bluefrlife bluefrlife 18-21, F Oct 19, 2013

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    He’s like the other half of me.

    I never expected to have a guy friend that knows almost everything about me. I can’t even admit some of those things to myself, yet whenever we talk, every detail seems to flow freely, forgetting being kept a secret. He was an unexpected friend. I never saw this friendship...
    ErinValcourt ErinValcourt 18-21, F Dec 19, 2013

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    Help Me Find Her...

    I want to find myself......"Excuse me sir, but I'm lost. I'm looking for my friend, can you help me find her? Well...she looks like me...she is me. I've lost myself and I'm looking for her, can you help me find her please...Have I been drinking? No, not today. Am I on drugs? No...
    stellastarz420 stellastarz420 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 21, 2012

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    D New Me !

    I could never do, I didn't know how to, It was difficult, & entirely my fault, I could just not stop, I was never so strong, Couldn't ever stick, & it made me feel sick! Forever easy, And very lazy! Never in discipline, With just no routine, Followed only my heart, From the very...
    SACHIAN SACHIAN 26-30, F May 13, 2013

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    It's All About How We See It!

    Two days ago,I went to my uncle's house wich is a one hour journey by car,and while on the way,i started reading in a book in wich i've been keeping as a journal for about two years,I used to write in it a lot,and while reading,I noticed that for about a year i've been...
    jonahsalam jonahsalam 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 15, 2013

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    Me Too

    I have never really been able to follow my heart. Being young, it's understandable that I would be under someone else's control and guidance for most of my life. I have also been afraid of branching out on my own. Now that I'm older, and am starting to realize that I can direct...
    TheQuietGirl TheQuietGirl 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 14, 2012

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    I Dont Even Know Now A Days

    Lately I have been feeling distance for everyone. I've been feeling stress about school! I feel like my parents want me to be perfect at school . To have all A's when they have no clue how hard it is for me to have that . They accept me from 2 years from now to go to a good...
    forevermeza98 forevermeza98 16-17 1 Response Nov 2, 2013

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    I question what my purpose really is.

    . Why am I still even here on this earth? How I act at school isn't who I am.. And how I act outside of school isn't really who I am.. So really WHO am I? I just want to be able to figure it all out and say "This is who I am" I'm tired of putting on a show for others at school...
    distanceandspace distanceandspace 18-21, F Jan 17

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    The Power Of Your Mind

    You can convince yourself to believe in anything, want anything, love anyone, hate anyone. You just have to learn how to steer your thoughts. Where we all fail is that most of the time, we are trying to change someone else, for better or for worse. Even worse, we think we need...
    Kimstarway Kimstarway 31-35, F 2 Responses May 27, 2011

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    Bits and Peices

    It feels like I am gradually finding my own person. As if I am gathering the shattered pieces. It's a journey of hardships, scars, smiles, and exquisite pleasure-pain. We live. We love. We laugh. We lie. Things we experience are all the same in everyone else's lives except...
    HanaNoMizu HanaNoMizu 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 22, 2007

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    A Slow Process...

    It's a slow process, but i am slowly discovering the person i once was.  Somewhere over the course of my last relationship (which lasted 5 yrs) i lost myself....i learned things about the world that scared me, unexpectedly got pregnant, had to put up w/my ex's drug use even...
    KinkyFlower KinkyFlower 31-35, F 4 Responses Nov 17, 2007

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    I Still Care For Her

    Well it all started in October. I met this girl in my English 12 class who transferred in from AP Lit (like how AP Lang is the equivalent of English 11) and we peer edited a paper together and she was really nice and before long I developed a crush on her. When I realized it I...
    Soundgardenfan6010 Soundgardenfan6010 18-21 Apr 10, 2013

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    Somehow somewhere along the way I lost

    who I really was.. it's time for me to find myself and bring back reality..
    SammiKitten SammiKitten 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 4

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    Here lately I've been lost.

    I've been searching for something or someone to understand me. And that's put me into a lot of tough situations. I'm in love with a man who is as broken as I am. But he's so hurt now that he is afraid to trust me. I've learned so much about myself through loving him though. I've...
    saraheboothe saraheboothe 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 2

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    I Have This Idea…

    that at some point in my life every facet of myself will flow together...back and forth...around and through. When that happens, when I express my depth...breadth in the same heart and mind, at the same time and space… maybe it won’t manifest as a cacophony of noise. Perhaps...
    kittysoftpaws kittysoftpaws 36-40, F Apr 10, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I've been trying out different ways to find happiness in myself.. Listening to different kinds of music, exposing myself to new cultures and lifestyles, It helps quite a bit...
    pennyly pennyly 13-15, F Jul 12

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    Our lives are considered to be packed in a matter of 80-90 years. If you get lucky enough, maybe 100 years will be your life. Everyday, the subtraction of hours into minutes into...
    Wewerethereinthattime Wewerethereinthattime 18-21, F Jul 7