I Am Trying to Love Myself

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 295 People

    Society Makes It Harder Than It Should Be

    I have been trying to do this for years.  Almost 31 years, in fact.  I'm a BBW, a thick chick, whatever you want to call me.  I've never been thin, I've never had the perfect anything.  But, I'm a real woman.  I have natural breasts.  I hate getting...
    CuriosityKitten CuriosityKitten
    31-35, F
    32 Responses Aug 13, 2008

    Who I Am Is Important Even When There Is No One There To Tell Me So

     In the last three years I have decided to live as if it was on purpose. When My relationship ended and I was left as a single parent I realised how much my life had deviated from all the ambitious goals and dreams I had set myself. I had listened to everyone else's opinion...
    bex22 bex22
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 15, 2009

    Trying Is The Key Word!

    I am trying to Love myself. Its something I work hard on Every-day. Its something that takes a lot of work. I have to think to myself, what about myself I Like, or even love. Lately it has been getting a little easier, which has caused my heart to open up even more.
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jan 10, 2010

    Im Not Ok

    my biggest problem with being thick or voluptuous is being around other women. i need to stop comparing myself, but then i think about why someone would chose to be my friend or lover when there are millions of better women out there, who look better (bigger or smaller than i am...
    wilderdreamer wilderdreamer
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Oct 22, 2008


    When you think about something like oh, say, the Grand Canyon what do you think of it? Some would say its a "big hole in the Earth" which for the most part is true, probably something I'd say also..however I think its so much more. Ever wonder how something so majestic and...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum
    31-35, F
    Feb 8, 2013


    love myself,the less I will need love from others. Does it resonate with you?This is the eternal truth which we miss in our life. No one taught us to love ourselves. We were told to have high self-esteem,be self-confident but not much about loving the self. What do we all...
    26-30, M
    1 Response May 20, 2014

    It's True.

    I do like myself. I'm fond of myself. I think I'm a very good person, but I still can't necessarily say that I love myself. I would love to be able to say that someday & to be able to mean it.
    lyricalongings lyricalongings
    31-35, F
    Apr 24, 2010

    Bizarre Childhood Makes Me Feel "Less Than"

    I know nobody really grew up in a Brady Bunch or Leave It to Beaver family, hardly anyone, anyway.  But God!  My family was just... wow.  We didn't have much money, lived in a ghetto-ish area, parents drank a lot & fought violently.  VIOLENTLY.  So...
    2Quirky 2Quirky
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Feb 18, 2009

    Hasnt Worked Yet!!

     i keep trying to love myself, but it never seems to work, but im actually quite a stubborn man, so maybe i should just keep persisting, and maybe one day i will find it in me to give myself a bit of love from time to time!!!
    cowshed123 cowshed123
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Jan 3, 2010


     it is hard to truly love yourself in this society...if you are above a certain size and such. the "in" size is matter of factly way smaller than me...i am a size 20-22 but i know i am beautiful it is just hard to see it sometimes....but i will get there one day...
    Biglady18 Biglady18
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jul 22, 2008

    I'Ll Be Honest And Say...

    I want to say that as a bigger girl, I. am. TIRED of this "real women have curves" bullshit. No, I am not defending "them skinny anorexic *******" but I'm also not defending plus sized women, either. Want to string me up? Come at me bro/sis. The concept in itself is stupid...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum
    31-35, F
    1 Response May 9, 2013

    i am working on it. some days i just cant.

    i cant. but then other days its like wow why cant every day be like this? today is one of the days that I find myself to be a good person. i dont hate myself 100%. like, i think i have an okay personality. i love people. sometimes a little too much. but anyway- i just hate how...
    IkIlLeDyOuRsOuLaNdAtEiT IkIlLeDyOuRsOuLaNdAtEiT
    16-17, F
    Apr 2

    I think I'm doing well!

    I'm getting out of a relationship and I'm doing well so far. I'm going out a lot to take my mind off it. I'm going ice skating and to a lot of gigs soon. I'm just trying to take my mind of everything and realise that as long as i have friend that love me I'll be ok :) it's...
    BulletproofLoneliness BulletproofLoneliness
    18-21, F
    Sep 29, 2015

    I need good, doable ideas to help me build self

    worth. I had a rough childhood (all the daddy issues). I recently left a 17 year emotionally abusive marriage. I'm ready to love myself... And honestly don't know where to start!! How do you overcome who you've always been to become who you want to be?
    jkvegas jkvegas
    41-45, F
    Jun 5, 2014

    I Began Working Out, Finally.

    I began working out at the gym yesterday, and boy, was it something! Stretched my muscles and made me feel, among other things, pain in my muscles, haha. But I will get used to it. I want to feel better, I want to bulk up. It's really difficult doing those lying fly's though. I...
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Dec 11, 2012

    For So Long

    I have been trying to love myself. It's just hard to love yourself when so many people have told you otherwise. Ever since I was 6 years old, all I've ever felt was hate, neglect, loneliness and sadness. I rarely felt what it was like to be loved. I was often ignored in school...
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Apr 25, 2010

    Battle of the Bulge?

    The Battle of the Bulge is now over. I say it is, and I intend to stick to it this time! I continually go in and out of eating disorders...and I am miserable! So time to call a cease-fire on the madness, and learn to love every inch that I see in the mirror, and even every inch...
    lolitapita lolitapita
    3 Responses Aug 14, 2008

    The Escape

    Many times people are so concerned with HELPING OTHERS, that they FORGET TO HELP THEMSELVES. ... some just use 'helping others' as an ESCAPE not to help themselves, as an ESCAPE NOT TO CONFRONT THEIR OWN EMOTIONAL BODIES... ...using the Mental faculties as an ESCAPE from their...
    indigowitch indigowitch
    22-25, F
    Dec 4, 2011

    It's Not So Easy.

    i really do try to tell myself that i'm pretty and that i'm worth it but i don't feel like i am. i used to be a cute kid, and when i was in 5th grade, i started gaining weight due to some anti-depresants i was on. when i got off of them the weight stayed and just kept coming. i'm...
    ericaissorad ericaissorad
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 14, 2009

    I Am Looking For A Female That Is Trying To Love Herself For A Loving Anr In An Adult Nursing Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . I am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in Tampa Bay, Florida. If you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    deleted deleted
    Nov 28, 2013

    You Are Really Beautiful For A Fat Girl

    You are really beautiful for a fat girl ... I categorize this as a back handed complement,though I can tell that it's not meant that way when it's said to me. Why cant I just be a beautiful girl?
    OsageAphrodite OsageAphrodite
    26-30, F
    2 Responses May 16, 2012

    I'm a disabled really skinny without any

    muscles. I've always wanted to be skinny. But now I want to be healthy. I'm 5'5" weigh 92lbs. I can't gain weight and if I do I can lose it very quickly. It's hard to maintain my weight. I don't feel beautiful Any more. I'm trying so hard to love myself but it's getting harder...
    stayingstrong08 stayingstrong08
    31-35, F
    1 Response May 20, 2014

    Loving Myself The Best Way I Know How

    Is it really possible to truly love yourself? I've been trying to do this for the longest time. I've never been happy with my looks. I've always been hard on myself. All of the men in my life, have told me how sexy I am, how beautiful my body is, what pretty teeth I have. I...
    Pisceskitty Pisceskitty
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Apr 24, 2010


    Something happened that I feel opened my eyes a bit.  On the surface it appears my life hasn't changed a bit, but there is a lot going on underneath.  I've always looked to others to fulfill me, and that's why I've never been fulfilled.  I now realize...
    eromreven eromreven
    1 Response Jan 10, 2009

    Loving Yourself

    tigerspaw1 tigerspaw1
    61-65, M
    1 Response Apr 24, 2010


    Going by a quote I saw online, "girls are taught to hate their bodies at a young age" and it makes me absolutely sick because its so true as were inundated with images of an ideal body from an early age in print or tv and that we'd never be appealing to the opposite sex unless we...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum
    31-35, F
    Feb 1, 2013
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