I Am Trying to Save My Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 270 People

    The Fallout From A Single Week

    I married my wife in June last year. Prior to our wedding we have lived together for 18 months. We have been in a relationship for three and a half years. This is my second marriage. I am in my late fifties and my wife hear early forties. I have custody of the one child from my...
    SL1803 SL1803
    1 Response Feb 22, 2012

    I went through my husband phone

    and he is cheating on me now he says he is getting his phone cut off because that's the only way he can stay married to me because he can't trust me I invaded his privacy .
    madblackwomen madblackwomen
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Apr 25, 2014


    im trying to get my husband to come back home and save our marriage and the family i love him and forgive him i want to put the past behind us no bringing up the past want awhole new start want a clean and strong heart
    sjones46 sjones46
    2 Responses Sep 14, 2012

    I'm Lack Of Emotional Maturity

    Today, I did a lot of reflections and studies to see why am I breaking down so rapidly. One findings is my emotional maturity is at its low or have not grow at all. Although I'm 47, I feel like I'm still a highschool kid, emotional wise. This is very frightening to me. Will I...
    ptat ptat
    46-50, M
    1 Response Aug 8, 2011

    I Spent One Really Good In My Children'S Life And Heard GOD

    My wife and I have been at odds for nearly16 years and finally , after I told her mother off over Christmas, decided to divorce. We have been separated since January and this has given me some time to let my head clear and gain some insight. We have never had a great sexual...
    cvann5 cvann5
    51-55, M
    Feb 3, 2013

    I Am Trying to Save My Marriage

    For years my husband and I have hurt each other. We've tried to put the other down to lower them to the level of our own personal self esteem. We have refused to forgive and have held on to bitterness. Recently we have allowed others into our lives. Just when I thought we were...
    learn2bu learn2bu
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Oct 21, 2007

    I Need Help Saving My Marriage

    I married my husband nearly four years ago after only three months of dating and learning we were pregnant. Yes, the pregnancy was very unexpected, but we loved each other very much and decided marriage was the best so we could build a family together. Everything was fine until...
    tylersmama1224 tylersmama1224
    22-25, F
    12 Responses Mar 9, 2012

    Counseling For a Year and Burned Out

    I have been in marriage counseling for over a year now..and its not working.  Seems like its even getting worse. We have been together 11 years...married for 8 ....sexless 9.. unhappy 5..counseling 1..burned out now.  Last year I was facing divorce when he presented...
    CooCoo4Cocoapuffs CooCoo4Cocoapuffs
    3 Responses Jun 26, 2008

    Above all love each other deeply

    because lover covers even the greatest of sins.
    Smckinnis Smckinnis
    26-30, F
    Dec 16, 2013

    Have you ever been so mad

    that you can't even think straight? You literally cannot stop your body from shaking? And the only thing you can think to do is ram your head into a wall? Ugh. As if the physical pain will take away the emotional hurt. Even though you know it won't. So you just sit there and cry...
    Wifeneedingimprovements Wifeneedingimprovements
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 11, 2015

    I Try

    I try to explain how I feel or why I did a certain thing, but he has his own preconcieved ideas and it doesn't matter what I say because he sees things from his perspective, not mine. He doesn't even try to understand what I'm telling him. When I say this is how it is, he adds...
    totallytea totallytea
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Jun 7, 2011

    Should I Wait For Her And For How Long

    This is a continuation of a previous post... I'm in a 4 year marriage with no kids. Life was good and fun with laughs, but we had family problems and sex was becoming infrequent (1 year since last time). An argument 10 months ago led to big positive changes for me as she was...
    jaeger05 jaeger05
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Jul 24, 2013

    Worst Day Of My Life

    Yesterda my wife and I decided it was time to let the kids in on our marriage troubles.  Well,  to those who have told me that the kids know what is going on, you were dead wrong.  Both of my kids were in total shock.   My son hit the floor screaming and it went into a 5-10...
    rob31rob31 rob31rob31
    41-45, M
    7 Responses Sep 11, 2011


    I hesitate to share this here, because I have been in the other side of the boat, and I know how it hurts...but as this group is for people who want things to get better... There is hope. When I first joined EP, I was here. I was hurting and afraid and lonely and sad...
    onceandfutureglow onceandfutureglow
    31-35, F
    17 Responses Jul 19, 2009

    My heart is heavy today

    so I keep crying . My husband has really hurt me and has not apologized yet but says he can't trust me cause I went in his phone but this makes the second time I had his phone and both times he got caught cheating
    madblackwomen madblackwomen
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Apr 25, 2014

    What Can I Do? My Life Is Destroyed.

    Married 27 years. Three great kids. The youngest is a senior in high school. My wife and I are both in our late 40s. My wife cheated on me last year. I was shocked and devastated.  A wake up call for me, beginning of a downward spiral for her. I suspect menopause...
    iietm iietm
    46-50, M
    11 Responses Aug 27, 2008

    Money & Marriage ...

    We are newly married We are so happy together We enjoy and cherish everyday But then this devil issue comes Which is taking us apart I'm saving my marriage By saving money and controling it By trusting and being trusted Before our marriage breaks down  
    DollyDiva DollyDiva
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Sep 11, 2011


    I am a young Egyptian love not know the woman know you love and possible marriage
    moke2010 moke2010
    22-25, M
    Sep 19, 2012

    My marriage is being restored!

    I asked the Holy Spirit of God for wisdom and He guided me to do something I thought was crazy. Even more surprising to me it's how it worked on that same day! My husband came back from the couch, is now sleeping in bed with me and we are having sex. Oh, what did God tell me to...
    Danizuk Danizuk
    31-35, F
    1 Response Sep 27, 2014

    Is there a point of no return?

    What more can you do if you give and give but they're never satisfied??
    Wifeneedingimprovements Wifeneedingimprovements
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 19, 2014


    Why don't people cherish commitment any more now a days. Why is everyone so eager to jump ship when problems arise. I think that it is unfortunate that people don't try. They are missing out on the experience of making something stronger. Just like when you go through a traumatic...
    lostandscared lostandscared
    36-40, M
    1 Response Nov 17, 2007

    Marriage On The blink- Maybe Last Chance To Save Marriage

    I have been married for 14 years have a daughter 14, son 11 and step-daughter 18. We were married when I was 24 and she was 21. It came as a big shock to me a couple of weeks ago, My wife told me that she isn’t connected to me emotionally and loves me, but is not in love. Since...
    JamesNadenicek JamesNadenicek
    3 Responses Apr 3, 2013

    Thanks you guys for all the advice emmm the

    passion is improving a little...
    deleted deleted
    Nov 7, 2014

    Trusting & Lying

    Always catching husband in a lie. He will not tell the truth to save his own soul. I have informed him on several occasions that I pay attention to everything that he does and he pays that no mind. I can tell by the conversations that we have that he has or will do something that...
    Littletrustleft2 Littletrustleft2
    46-50, F
    1 Response Aug 4, 2013

    Should Have Seen The Early Signs...

    I really don't know how I got here, at this stage in my life, 38, 3 kids and separated. I met this man who I thought was the most wonderful thing that ever happened to me.  He was separated, and I was single.  I had three children from one of those highly over rated long term...
    bella389 bella389
    36-40, F
    1 Response Sep 25, 2011

    Husband Came Back From 2mnth Separation,,just Cuz Out Of Guilt From Our Son. Doesnt Know What He Feels For Me. Help!

    My husband separated from me and our 7 yr old 2 months ago,, due to him not knowing what he feels for me. possibly no longer loving me ...well...... ,,, hes back ,,,, heres what happened::::: . This weekend my 7 year old spent the w/ my husband where was staying... when it was...
    kathr1322 kathr1322
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Sep 27, 2012

    Thinking Of The Kids Has Slowed My Thought Process Down

    As I slowly gather up all that I can about our finances and begin my plannig of my future, I happened to read an article today by a child psychologist.  The article stated that the worst ages of children to go thru a divorce is 9-14.   Of course my boy is 9 and my girl is 12...
    rob31rob31 rob31rob31
    41-45, M
    7 Responses Jun 15, 2011

    I'm Here Again...

    e meet very young, early 20s ans very much in love. After 3 years living together He told me that He wasn't sure He loved me. I was devastated... He was my life, heart and soul! He broke my heart in a million pieces. After some timeI got myself together, rediscovered my dreams...
    Milqk Milqk
    4 Responses Aug 29, 2012

    Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

    I have been with my husband ffour years and married three, he is my heart, my sole, my everything, he is in the navy and hates his job, he comes home frustrated with his life and takes his anger out on me, not by physical abuse but by mentally breaking me down, i tell my self all...
    1 Response Jan 30, 2013

    Should I Let My Wife Go?

     I have been fighting a losing battle with my wife. She left me last spring, 2008 and moved from our family home to my parents home 2 miles away. As soon as she left I started to receive calls and letters from our mortgage company regarding our being in...
    donkman90 donkman90
    6 Responses Aug 10, 2009

    Time For An Exit Plan

    I have been trying to save my marriage for 7 months now.  I have been to counseling,  my wife has been to counseling,  we even went together.  She says she has no feelings for me anymore.  We have 2 children that love us both dearly, 12 and 9 years old.  My children are my...
    rob31rob31 rob31rob31
    41-45, M
    9 Responses Jun 11, 2011

    World Is Now Upside Down -- Must Get A Grip

    We have been married 29 years, we pulled together and made things work and the we had a good time. Now the kids have grown up and moved out. I started a few new hobbies (mountain biking, motorcycles, trying to learn guitar) and suggested she do the same. Instead the...
    Raz00 Raz00
    1 Response Apr 2, 2012

    One Day At A Time

    At the end of October of 2011, I came back from a business trip and I was angry at my wife, my life and everything else. I told my wife we needed to separate for a while. It was the hardest thing for me to do but I couldn't stay at home. I was wanting to divorce my wife because...
    Newmanofgod Newmanofgod
    5 Responses Apr 4, 2012

    How Do I Fix It? Part 2

    I love my husband of seven years. We have two beautiful children, we both have great jobs,and we have a nice home. Why am I unhappy? I try to think about what is causing me to feel disconnected and I can't seem to pinpoint anything that doesn't make ...
    forgotten7 forgotten7
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Dec 9, 2009

    I Dont Care

    Something has cause me to not care about saving my marriage anymore.  I have done everything possible the past 8 months to save my marriage, but I cant say the same about my significant other.  Lately my brain has shut down.  I suddenly dont care.  I dont know if this is a...
    rob31rob31 rob31rob31
    41-45, M
    5 Responses Aug 6, 2011

    The Good, The Bad, The Ugly And The Hopeful?

    Well its been about two months now since my husband had a brief fling with a younger women. In some way things have improved from the early days after I found out, when I could barely eat sleep or function and my thoughts were consumed with anger and betrayal. But in some ways...
    WoundedLioness WoundedLioness
    1 Response Feb 16, 2012

    I'm Gone

    Sorry to disappoint everyone, but I'm leaving to go get him in a few minutes. Something has to give either way. Don't be too harsh. Even though I deserve it. I will be back soon and  I will let everyone know what happened. I have to try.
    totallytea totallytea
    51-55, F
    7 Responses May 31, 2011

    A Little Revenge Is Not Bad!! Right?

    September 1st I found out my husband cheated on me.... September 5th was my B-day...I declared FREEDOM!! To do what ever I wanted....SO.... I went to do something my husband has never allowed me to do and was against it.. I GOT A TATTOOOOOO!!!!! I felt so free and yes I did...
    dianaspy5 dianaspy5
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Oct 21, 2008

    I Give Up!

    I finally give up trying to save my marriage. As much as I wanted, I can't fight the pains and emotional abuses y wife is throwing at me. I find out  her she been doing things that she don't wanted to do with me. I finally let out the pains that was buried deep within my heart...
    ptat ptat
    46-50, M
    5 Responses Aug 1, 2011

    I'm not here for your sympathy

    or your advice. I am here to purely get things off my chest. I hate that I automatically think the worst and second guess every second of his day. I feel as though there is an elephant sitting on my heart 80% of the time. Or like I'm slowly drowning. It takes so much energy to...
    Wifeneedingimprovements Wifeneedingimprovements
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jan 2, 2015

    With Perfect Clarity..

    If I look down the road, I can see perfectly how this will play out. It's like a dance. I may never have danced this dance before, but I know all the steps...We're already falling apart. I am home, lonely, seeking solace, but coming up empty handed. I never get a break from my...
    onceandfutureglow onceandfutureglow
    31-35, F
    11 Responses Apr 1, 2008

    My Husband Says He's Not Sure If He Ever Loved Me

    I am 43 years old and have been with my husband for 23 years; married for 13.  Of course we've had our ups and downs, but we've always had a good marriage.  Well, that is what I thought.  About five days ago, I knew there was something on my husband's mind.  When I asked what...
    GA715 GA715
    41-45, F
    8 Responses Oct 29, 2011

    Do You Really Want To Save Your Marriage?

    I REALLY want you to be successful at getting back the love of your life…I will take you by the hand and... -Get you in the right frame of mind. (panic mode won't work) -Assess where you are in the heart and mind of your ex. -based on where you are give you a step by step...
    andyandyto andyandyto
    22-25, F
    Jul 19, 2012

    Don't Know What to Do

    I've been trying to save my marriage for a long time now. But we always seem to go back to fighting. I don't know what happened we used to be so happy. But the last few years have been hell. We thought about splitting up so many times but don't want to give up. I don't want...
    HurricaneLeia HurricaneLeia
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 7, 2008

    Not When It's Over

    So, I'm stuck, at a crossroads of course. I was going to delete this experience, because right now, I am not trying to save my marriage.  I am trying to figure out how we are going to get through this separation.   I really do not know how to love my...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Dec 12, 2008


    It started  two weeks ago. My husband was acting strange so I asked him what was going on. He said he wasn't sure he didn't know what he wants in his life. I moved out and we started counsiling. I want it to work but not sure what he wants, it's very hard. I don't know if I...
    huffmanj1990 huffmanj1990
    4 Responses Sep 18, 2011

    Touch & Go

    Soooo, I went and picked him up. The trip home was fine. When we got here though, we started arguing.  That went on for the next day or so. He was really upset and got out of the car and walked to his Dad's house.When I woke up the next morning he was laying there watching me...
    totallytea totallytea
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Jun 6, 2011
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