I Am Uncomfortable With Flattery

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    Flattery,Embarrasses me,I'm not a fan,Just down to earth,Plain ordinary me.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket
    46-50, M
    Mar 30, 2012

    Flattery Confuses Me

    I can never tell if it is simply a well meant "conversation starter" or if it is because someone wants something from me, and are laying on the charm to make sure they get it. I can never tell the difference.  My instinct automatically puts me on my guard.  I'd rather people...
    Opalgem Opalgem
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Apr 20, 2011

    I Wish I Were Invisible...

    Hi you guys! Just thought I'd share my experience and see if anybody feels the same. If I were to choose a power, it would be invisibility, even if all I get is flattery. I'd rather people insult me, so that I can show them I don't care or come up with a witty insult or comment...
    MilkMoon MilkMoon
    18-21, F
    Sep 14, 2011

    I'm not used to people actually talking to me

    in any way, because I'm that girl in the corner that you ignore and I ignore you as well and it's just feels weird when people say nice things, well most of them still don't. It's worst when you know the person who is giving you flattery has no reason to say that to you at all...
    GiddyX GiddyX
    18-21, F
    Feb 8

    Growing Up

    I grew up without  father, my mum's relationship with her own mother was strained so i never recieved any compliments growing up, now that i'm 16 i've started to get some nice things said o my by my friends but it seems weird to me, i don't really know how to take or give...
    NikkiBlack NikkiBlack
    16-17, F
    1 Response Aug 8, 2009

    Real Meaning...

      It makes me wonder what's the real true meaning behind it-are they saying it to be funny? Are they just flat out lying? 
    lostprophet lostprophet
    22-25, F
    Mar 5, 2009

    Don't Bullshit Me

    I get uncomfortable when complemented. I'm honestly more comfortable getting chewed out or snapped at by, say, my boss than I am getting complemented. I prefer being "praised with faint damning".
    solowing solowing
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Aug 9, 2009


    I've been accused of being cold because I quickly change the subject when I'm being flattered. One time this guy called me on it after I ignored several flattering comments he made, and he finally got me to respond. After he told me I just ignore every compliment he gives me, I...
    Veevie Veevie
    26-30, F
    Jun 2, 2009

    I get so red and hot in my face

    when someone gives me a compliment. I never know what to say other than "thanks" and and just stand there being weird. Iv never thought I was much of a looker because I was always picked on about my looks so when someone says something nice I feel like they are lying. Even my...
    alice0493 alice0493
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 18, 2015

    Don't Know Why

    I know I am great. Yet when others acknowledge this it gets me all flustered ;)
    deleted deleted
    Mar 25, 2009

    I always get a little uncomfortable

    and awkward when someone compliments me in any way. I guess it doesn't help that I've been bullied for so long, that my self esteem has become nonexistent... But I still don't know how to grow comfortable with it :/
    ShizukaRose ShizukaRose
    18-21, F
    1 Response Sep 7, 2014

    The worst. I don't get it

    and I can tell when someone is just looking for me to give a compliment in return...and I won't. Very few people are genuine in their heart speak. I think only you can be complimentary to yourself! :)
    SneakySoundSystem SneakySoundSystem
    46-50, F
    Oct 24, 2015


    I am very unconfortable with flattery, since ive gotten it so many times. Sometimes people just do it to a certain degree to where i actually want to say F u and walk off. I used to be a cashier and so many men would come in and just tell me what they wanted to do to me, and it...
    LadyLennon LadyLennon
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jan 8, 2009

    Hate It

    i don`t likje it when they sing of me.it makes me feel as though i am seeking attention.and i personally hate the spotlight.i have better things to do than be in the spotlight.i become extrmely nausese when everyones attention is on me.
    ghostofmyself ghostofmyself
    Jul 5, 2009


    I distrust anybody who flatters me.  Even when it is not flattery but a simple flattering truth I feel uneasy and don't know how to react.  I have a tendency to minimize or flatly deny what has been said.  Sometimes I just don't believe it. Flattering always...
    moreandless moreandless
    56-60, M
    May 25, 2010

    I Feel Unsuccessful.

    It doesn’t matter how much my parents tell me I have done well and when things go wrong, “it’s not your fault, it could have happened to anybody”. I am now 57 and I know I have not made a complete success of my life and I’m only...
    redarrow redarrow
    2 Responses Aug 3, 2009

    Me Too, Guys.

    I am am ridiculously uncomfortable with flattery. I grew up in a household with a model for an older sister, and parents who are more successful than I could ever be. I was also an ugly duckling for 15 years. I got teased everyday and eventually developed an ED. When I finally...
    Endemism Endemism
    16-17, F
    1 Response Aug 2, 2009

    There's Just No Point

    I didn't understand the purpose of compliments when I was younger. When people said that they liked something about me, all I perceived was that they were randomly telling me something about themselves. I didn't understand why they expected me to care about what they liked.Later...
    darkchild darkchild
    31-35, F
    Dec 25, 2012

    "You're the best!" "Why, thank you! You're even better!"

    I come from working class people and a working class neighborhood. People from there never say anything nice about someone else just for the saying of it.  Why should they?  "Hey!  Wassa matta with you, girlie?  You tryin to tell me you...
    LilAnnie LilAnnie
    56-60, F
    14 Responses Nov 12, 2008


    I think there's a difference between a genuine compliment and overexuberant flattery. Not only does it make me uncomfortable, I also get impatient and annoyed when its obvious that a person is just paying lip service. When someone goes overboard in their compliments, I tend to...
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 27, 2008

    OUCH - Makes Me Extremely Uncomfy

    When you flatter me at all ... I am secretely thinking, 'Yeah, right.  What do YOU want from ME?'' I'm learning that sometimes, people truly do give you compliments. And I am learning to say thank you.
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72
    36-40, F
    8 Responses Feb 26, 2009

    Shouldn't Flattering Be Good?

    Just the other day someone complimented on my shirt and it made me feel uncomfortable. I don't really know why! I hate the attention on me. And its stupid because the compliment wasnt even about me it was just the shirt. I guess that just goes to show how insecure I really am...
    Cerulean66 Cerulean66
    16-17, F
    5 Responses Aug 11, 2009

    OUCH - Makes Me Extremely Uncomfy

    When you flatter me at all ... I am secretely thinking, 'Yeah, right.  What do YOU want from ME?'' I'm learning that sometimes, people truly do give you compliments. And I am learning to say thank you.
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Feb 26, 2009


    I get weird, with complements and flattery. I don't know how to respond and take them. I just lamely say thank you and then blush like crazy. And then I just want to run and hide! :-o I guess it has a lot to do with my anxiety disorder, something that often puts the worse...
    deleted deleted
    Dec 27, 2008

    Neighbor Boy

     We had a little neighbor boy, he was part Indian and he was so cute and loving, he would come down to our house and give me big hugs and my two sons said he was kissing up to me and seemed jealous and I said well what's wrong, he's so nice what's the matter, They said...
    kctiger kctiger
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Jan 6, 2010

    It Gets On My Nerves..

    when people complement me and over flatter or whatever, I dont know how to deal with it. My reaction sometimes may seem rude,but flattery just makes me a tad uncomfortable thats all. I just dont know how to react to it.    I always feel weird with it.
    downbytheriver11 downbytheriver11
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Mar 22, 2010

    Ummmm.... Thanks?

    I am really uncomfortable with flattery because it always comes off as ... well flattery! It does not seem like a genuine compliment. It is usually too profuse, loud, and done in front of lots of other people. I am kinda shy. I hate that. Most people who know me and want to thank...
    btrflysfound btrflysfound
    2 Responses Nov 13, 2008


    Why should you be uncomfortable with someone like Michael Flattery?  He is an extremely good dancer.  Riverdance is a great show.  I never was uncomfortabel.  Do you think your "uncomfort" might have something to do with the chip that was implanted...
    levin60kitty levin60kitty
    3 Responses Nov 13, 2008

    Once More...

    I used to drive through Dunkin Donuts every morning and get a cup of coffee. Dunkin Donuts makes a pretty decent cup of coffee. Anyway, I would see the same few people there every day, which is generally something I like. I'm fairly outgoing and I usually chat with the person who...
    Veevie Veevie
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Jun 2, 2009

    Especially When It Comes From A Dvd. . .

    I am using an instructional video for learning hoop dance and exercise. I chose this one because it breaks things down for beginners. I need that.BUT--Having a perky young thing with a forced smile (I don't blame her; I can tell some director told her she has to smile through...
    EvesHarvest EvesHarvest
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Aug 30, 2011

    Always Geared Up!

    For some reason, I kinda suck at taking flattering words from whoever they came from. Not really that am viewing it negatively (am not that bitter and paranoid ^_^), it's just that generally, I don't know exactly how to react. I wasn't raised with flattery just like the usual...
    PsychjiLL PsychjiLL
    Aug 28, 2013

    ...give It a Rest

     I am uncomfortable with compliments...it wouldn't be so bad if I believed them myself...and maybe they are true indeed but I gotta believe it about myself...the people who compliment me are being genuine ...but I just dont rightly care...sad it is...I try to be polite and...
    shikoba shikoba
    46-50, F
    1 Response Nov 12, 2008

    Brown-nosing Is a Loathsome Activity

    I can take a compliment (though not with much comfort), but I see flattery as being something different.  Flattery is insincere and intended to ingratiate the flatterer with the flatteree.  (All of this is making me think of flatulence!  Not inappropriate...
    astrophellana astrophellana
    31-35, F
    Feb 6, 2009

    It's A Sign

    Flattery from another person is nothing more than them trying to present something false to you for a limited time until they turn on you. I work with this woman who flattered me endlessly when I first began, but a few months later, her overdone flattery turned into a vile...
    Gittings99 Gittings99
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 9, 2011

    My Definition

     For me, flattery is, well, FLATTERY.  It's lots of big words intended to be complimentary, but lacking in real substance.  My discomfort has a lot to do with the provider of the flattery, who in my experience seems to be somewhat insincere and perhaps well...
    AnnOnimus AnnOnimus
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jan 6, 2010

    I Blush and Feel Silly.

    I can't remember a time that I ever took a compliment gracefully.  Even when I try I can't.  They make me uncomfortable.  Especially if they have anything to do with appearance or ability.  I am well aware of my physical limitations (I am no beauty) and I...
    Freestanding Freestanding
    56-60, F
    22 Responses Jan 8, 2009

    I Hate It

    when people give me compliments. i always have. i feel weird and i start to blush. it's such an uncomfortable moment for me. i never know what to feel like are they being honest?, are they up to something?, why are they kissing my behind for? they must want something. i guess is...
    veronica4ever veronica4ever
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Sep 13, 2011
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