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I Am Unhappily Married

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    is it me? is it him? is it just us?

    I don't know. I used to love coming home to him. I took care of my family. I was proud of my family. My kids are out of the house. maybe I didn't see the way he took me for granted until my kids were gone. I just took care of the house, worked two or more jobs, cared for my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Feb 9

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    I gave my new husband $1,

    000 thinking he would pay his tax debt off. He lied and said he did. The bill came in the mail and I found out he didn't pay it. He takes his wedding ring off at work and has lost it less than 30 days after our wedding. He has a desk job and no reason to take it off. I'm hurt...
    lonelywriter2015n lonelywriter2015n 36-40, F 24 Responses Jun 2

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    I find it really insulting

    that when you share your depth of despair with your situation , wether you've been in it years or months that people lack empathy You know when someone pours their heart out to you even when it's for the umpteenth time .... Just be a friend ! They are not looking for answers...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 7 Responses Jul 26, 2014

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    I am a married mom of three

    and I am currently contemplating ending my marriage. My husband has changed through the years and at one point was extremely mean and distant with me. When I was pregnant with our third child I found out he had been having a 2 year affair that had ended. I tried to move past it...
    Sonya9 Sonya9 41-45, F 8 Responses Jun 2

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    so I'm unhappily married .

    my husband is probably the most unappreciated person I've ever met. I really cannot stand him. he's upset bc he has to cover my half of things . when I carried his sorry ads for three months bought him shoes jackets and a beanie ..he gets mad bc I don't half of the rent . hmmmm...
    imissdnce imissdnce 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 30

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    My husband NEVER wants to have sex

    and he's only 46! What's gonna happen when he's 56???
    BumMagnet BumMagnet 46-50, F 14 Responses Apr 2

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    Weight Issues

    My wife and I have been together for fifteen years. We have two wonderful kids. The problem is that we have no sex life. My wife has gained a tremendous amount of weight and has many physical issues as a result. Mainly her back and emotional health. I try to be supportive and...
    Eddy Eddy 31-35, M 19 Responses Nov 8, 2007

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    rebacc11 rebacc11 26-30, F Jun 7

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    my husband constantly degrades me by telling me

    I'm fat. I need to lose weight. I weigh 150 at 5'1 with double d's. I know I've gained some weight as well as he has. He never shows me affection anymore and yells and complains about every little thing I do or don't do. We have been together since 2003. He is gone all week...
    neverfindtruelove neverfindtruelove 46-50, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    There are times when things are good.

    Not perfect, but better. I'm still not secure in our relationship though. It's hard to heal old wounds. And now my husband keeps pushing for us to have another baby...which I know I don't want....sigh. Why is marriage so hard?
    justliss justliss 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 19

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    Driving home listening to this song,

    crying uncontrollably... realizing the last 13yrs were built on lies, tears, unkept promises, black eyes, broken bones, and pain. Theory of a Deadman - Not Meant To Be [OFFICIAL VIDEO] - YouTube m.youtube.com/watch?v=ivu2ktfompc
    soldiergirl2 soldiergirl2 41-45, F 6 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    For all the other folks on here,

    when did you know it was time to leave? What was your breaking point?
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Apr 19

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    How Do You Do "Happily Married"????

    I've been married twice.  I am still married to husband number two.  Husband number one was my college sweetheart.  That marriage lasted five years.  The marriage ended because my husband couldn't keep his pants zipped up. Waited a very long time...
    Shazz Shazz 56-60 50 Responses May 24, 2008

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    I am so unhappily married.

    my husband was a great man until he let his alcohol addition take over his life. he had a great job with good benefits but got fired because of his drinking. now he works at a seasonal job . when he's laid off all he do is lay around and drink all day. im so tired of having to...
    gnews gnews 51-55, F 6 Responses Jun 23

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    My wife and I have slowly grown apart

    for the past few years. She recently got a Second Life account and spends all her time on there. We had a huge fight last week and are both still devastated by the encounter. I already had a trip I was going on this weekend with our son, so I left for that. She told me...
    EissacL EissacL 31-35, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    Empty Lonely and Miserable

    hello...im glad to have found tis site because i like evryone here is unhappily married. i guess my story begins 13 years ago which is when i met my husband i was only 15 and he was 17. i loved him soooo much back then .... but i realize now what i didnt then is that he was...
    ava12982 ava12982 26-30, F 18 Responses Sep 23, 2009

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    I hate being unappreciated!

    I Hate being stuck in this marriage with a careless, insensitive, and alcoholic guy. I hate not being able to do what i want in my life. I miss my freedom, and being able to make decision my own.
    destiny0221 destiny0221 26-30, F 3 Responses May 10

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    Well, I never saw it coming I should have

    started running A long, long time ago! And I never thought I'd doubt you I'm better off without you More than you, more than you know I'm slowly getting closure I guess it's really over I'm finally gettin' better Now I'm picking up the pieces From spending all of these years...
    soldiergirl2 soldiergirl2 41-45, F 7 Responses Mar 11

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    I come to this site ,

    to share my experience and seek support and friendship from others whom have either experienced or are experiencing similar just as many others do However just as I find myself in a very unhappy situation.... Does not reflect on my integrity as a person , nor make me desperate...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 7 Responses Sep 17, 2014

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    When I posted that bit yesterday about having

    an affair, I was just angry. I'm not really going to have an affair. I would be too scared to. Then on top of that, the idea of me being that close to another man kinda makes me sick and grosses me out some. I just get so angry with my husband sometimes for not showing me any...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Apr 15

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    I haven't been posting anything lately

    because my husband and I have been good over the last couple of months. More hugging and kissing and affection and I've been loving it all. He still doesn't like to hug and kiss as much as me, but that's okay. I compromise and hold back some. But last night after I got home from...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 14

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    I just tried to have sex with my wife

    and I couldn't do it maybe that why I am going sissy girl.
    hotlicker68 hotlicker68 56-60, M 3 Responses Jul 12

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    Been married for six months.

    Regret it already. My wife just doesnt understand me.
    jms142 jms142 22-25, M 3 Responses Jun 11

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    This month marks my 5 year wedding anniversary.

    We have two young boys that I adore. But I am miserable. I unknowingly married someone who has a huge temper and a very negative outlook on life. I feel like I'm daily walking on egg shells not wanting to make her mad. I can't see myself ending marriage because of the boys...
    mydogriley mydogriley 41-45, M 6 Responses Jun 5

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    Starving For Love

    I have been married for seven years and together for twelve. I breakdown crying about two to three times a week. My husband is so consumed with himself and what he wants, that I might as well not exist. We have three beautiful children together. They are my life. I always dreamed...
    deleted deleted 26-30 14 Responses Aug 5, 2012

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    i think my husband hates me.

    .he said to me that he regret married with me everytime we argue..n this time is the 3rd time..i knew this is going to happen the day before we married..
    nothimanymore nothimanymore 26-30, F 23 Responses Mar 28

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    I must admit, I had doubts

    before I married my wife but I went through with it anyways. We've been married 11 years with two beautiful daughters and she is a very good person at heart. I won't say it's been completely miserable by any means but I've always felt there was a large part of me that has gone...
    Bucco11 Bucco11 36-40, M 5 Responses May 18

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    I want scream! I want to cry!

    I want to throw things at the wall! Maybe hope a few will hit him in the head. But I will just go to bed. Let the anger seep out of me as sleep takes over. Damn. Why is leaving so hard?
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 7 Responses Oct 3, 2014

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    After i told him to stop giving me lame excuse,

    he admit that he has low libido. I described my desperation ( one day I nearly had an accident, as I was thinking about my marriage with tears running down rather than watching the road) . He said he would change. Two weeks gone, nothing changed. Yesterday I suggested to have...
    Raisingup Raisingup 31-35, F 13 Responses Apr 3

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    If people are so unhappy with each other

    and don't even want to have sex anymore why the **** do they get so upset when someone shows an interest in their partner?? ****** baffles me !!
    righthanded righthanded 56-60, M 4 Responses Jan 17

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    What does it say about my spouse

    that she gets upset enough to ruin her day over the actions of others? The other day my wife was on Facebook and discovered many of the moms from my sons basketball team where all having lunch and drinks in Toledo and she was not invited. I used to think she always just got...
    dynamic71 dynamic71 41-45, M 8 Responses Feb 9

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    My husband calls me a nympho just bc he never

    wants to have sex! That makes me feel cheap and dirty! I'm 48 and in my prime. We've been married 2 yrs! Ok!!! So I want sex at least 4 days a week! Wth is wrong with that???? He just says... Sorry I'm not 20! But damn! Once a week is just plain frigid!!!
    BumMagnet BumMagnet 46-50, F 7 Responses Apr 2

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    My husband keeps observing

    that I don't smile anymore. So I finally work up the nerve to tell him I'm unhappy in our marriage and he's shocked. To me it just shows how disconnected we are. I never wanted to be the woman who stays for the kids, but I think somewhere along the line I've become that. I'm...
    justliss justliss 31-35, F 13 Responses Jan 18

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    Weekend away. After weeks of feeling down due

    to many reasons. A broken heart, sad and depressed. My hubby decided to book a weekend away. I was hesitant. It has been years since the two of us have spent that kind of time together. Leading up to Friday I was finding myself actually being a little excited. Just the thought...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 22 Responses Feb 9

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    I've been with my wife

    for 6 years. She has 3 children that aren't mine. I love them very much. My wife is always yelling at me and makes me feel useless! I'm tired of been disrespected and living like a second class citizen. I want to leave but am afraid the children will never forgive me.
    bipolarPeter bipolarPeter 31-35, M May 8

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    I married my wife because we got pregnant.

    Even before being married I was out still acting like a single man and talking to other women. I didn't love her yet. She found out and stayed with me. After being married for a year I cheated on her and she found out. She stayed with me. I don't know why...she says it is...
    rrspearo rrspearo 26-30, M 4 Responses Jun 3

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    My husband and I have been together

    for 38 years and I have gotten to a place where I have finally had enough! Through the years he has cheated on me twice, he's been a drug addict and an alcoholic and verbally abusive. I don't feel like I have any love for him anymore. I don't know what to do....
    Dawn1118 Dawn1118 56-60, F 7 Responses Jul 21

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    I was a divorced single mother of one

    when I met my current husband. From all appearances he was very responsible, had goals, wanted a family and loved my child as his own. He moved in with us when I became pregnant with his child. All was well until he asked me to spot him $100 until payday so his account would...
    Trapped4toolong Trapped4toolong 46-50, F 5 Responses Jun 24

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    Right now. I'm not exactly hating my husband.

    Sometimes I do. I feel bad for it. He's a good man. But sometimes he's a complete jerk. The life we've lived has been the life he wanted. I wasn't strong enough to resist and I thought I was doing the right thing. But I've been miserable for 26 years I don't believe in divorce...
    Ludavin Ludavin 46-50, F 4 Responses Aug 1, 2014

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    I've finally realized my husband is a

    misogynist. He has serious unresolved mommy issues which blow up on me whenever he feels the least bit threatened or challenged. He's extremely intelligent and when we first met I felt I was nowhere near his intellectual equal. In a way I was his Eliza Doolittle and I was okay...
    janaykirk janaykirk 41-45, F 4 Responses Jun 8

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    Is This What Life Had In Store For Me???

    I've been so friggin unhappy for the last 23 years. If I knew my life wouldn't off ended like this, I would of done **** different. I hate hate dislike hate the man I married. It's been 23 years of hell... No let me rephrase that, hell would be a breeze. For all you perps reading...
    GiannaFilippelli GiannaFilippelli 46-50, F 12 Responses Oct 28, 2013

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    I know marriage is a two way street

    and its not just one person to blame in success or failure of a marriage. I tried so hard for 3 years or better to be the wife I thought he wanted with no success. now he is trying n I could care less. I know the marriage is over. theres not a doubt in my mind. But I CANNOT...
    sixtens sixtens 36-40, F 10 Responses Mar 12

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    It makes me sad how so many years spent

    together just ceases to exist. Separate rooms, barely words spoken, polite nods. I accept my part in the dissolution of this marriage, but I still grieve for what it was at one time. How far we have drifted from that couple we once were. Did we abandon love or did it abandon...
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 12 Responses Jan 21

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    I was so upset when my husband call me by his

    ex name in front of her family,I don't know how to interact with him now after that happen. I feel like he still think of her and has not move on yet. I need some advice or somebody to talk. I'm just confuse with my feelings now.
    destiny0221 destiny0221 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 8

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    I want to end it...my life.

    .. I am hanging on by a thread and it is tied together with my two kids...God help me...if it wasn't for them I would have jumped off a bridge a long time ago...
    Dreamgirl75 Dreamgirl75 36-40, F 9 Responses Jun 7

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    Wife's mood swings are really getting on my

    nerves... She walks around with a chip on her shoulder for a few days at a time, snapping at the kid and at me, doesn't smile for days, and then comes clean and apologizes. We're good for a few days and the the cycle repeats. I'm at the point where I just shrug and say...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 36-40, M 4 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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