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I Am Unhappily Married

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    Never Thought It Would Be Me

    I would always read these stories and think why would you want to stay unhappily married, but now I have my own reasons. This isn't a pity party by any means. It started out great in the beginning, everything was perfect. Here we are only a year into our marriage and so much...
    drummingguy drummingguy 31-35, M 3 Responses Nov 18, 2013

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    Starving For Love

    I have been married for seven years and together for twelve. I breakdown crying about two to three times a week. My husband is so consumed with himself and what he wants, that I might as well not exist. We have three beautiful children together. They are my life. I always dreamed...
    deleted deleted 26-30 15 Responses Aug 5, 2012

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    So yesterday (Monday) was 13 years of marriage.

    We had a romantic dinner Saturday at a restaurant that she had wanted to go to. We ate a nice dinner, had a few glasses of wine each, and then came home. Monday being our actual anniversary day and a holiday where I am, she invited family over for a BBQ. Which meant as always...
    Aussiemerk Aussiemerk 36-40, M 5 Responses Jun 2

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    New progress.. He agreed with marriage

    counseling, the appoinment is 2 weeks from now ... out of no where.. he came to me and hold my hands and he admitted that he blew out of proportion... but he never say "i am sorry" he said that he loves me and asked me if we can start over.. so i told him yes we can start over...
    Isurvive14 Isurvive14 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 8

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    It's Over

    It is hard to say this after 36 years of marriage but my partner & I no longer connect at any level. We are automatons going through the process of living without any joy or creativity. He is a good man but not the man I want for whatever is left of my life. I am not challenged...
    bethdcook bethdcook 56-60 2 Responses Sep 28, 2010

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    Married To Young

    I meet my husband when I was 17 and we were married by the time I was 19. I think back now and cannot remember what the rush was for. We have nothing in common anymore he does his thing I do mine. I do not mesh well with his friends, he openly dislikes my friends. If it was...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Feb 17, 2013

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    He's a drunk and I'm just sick of it all.

    Would love to have someone who's been through this to talk to, but I've tried Al-Anon without success and am not sure where to turn to.
    sadiejane sadiejane 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 3

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    Birthday.

    That's right today is my birthday. Woohoo...not! I asked my H if he remember what today was and he said no, so I reminded him and he said "oh ok, I have plans for today, I should be back by 5". SERIOUSLY!!! We are both off today kids are I'm school and he makes plans with his...
    Chelle74 Chelle74 36-40, F 38 Responses Aug 29, 2013

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    Up until this morning it all was good,

    to me anyway. I know that marriage is a give and take thing and that couples go thru rough patches but.... After 16+ years she drops a bombshell on me, she says she loves me but she has never been in love with me. What do I do now? I have a crap job so living on my own will...
    mrhph3 mrhph3 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 19

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    Been married for 27 years.

    .through the years I have noticed that my mate was not as equal of a partner as I had hoped. When we married I had 3 kids and he claimed he was ok with it. However; I have found that he was not as ok with it as I had thought. I worked 2-3 jobs to support my kids and we had one...
    cbhash55234my cbhash55234my 56-60, F 4 Responses Jan 21

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    Always Walking On Eggshells

    That's how I feel, like I'm always walking on eggshells.  My wife and I both have bad tempers, though I feel her temper is what often triggers mine.  Married almost five years and it's been an emotional rollercoaster ride.  We have two beautiful children...
    think2much think2much 46-50, M 7 Responses Jun 28, 2008

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    Okay so I thought I might share some additional

    information about my situation. Like I said in the previous experience I have been married 22 years. Staying until my daughter graduates...anyway I was a full-time youth worker for 13 years before I got my Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy...YUP There is the irony! I have...
    Therapy4therapist Therapy4therapist 46-50, M 3 Responses Mar 29

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    This is what i forgot to discuss with my husband

    before i said "YES": 1. how we gonna dealing with our financial, how open are you about it. 2. How we plan to raise our kids. 3. Respect. 4. sex.. sex is very important in marriage.. 4 things that the most important in marriage life.
    Isurvive14 Isurvive14 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 6

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    Told husband the other night we needed to spend

    some "us" time together only like 5-10 minutes a night is all even & that was feeling lonely/neglected. His reply was I don't want to be around you, we have nothing in common anymore & then he proceeded to go out for the night / leaving me with the kids alone yet again... Woke...
    pudgee2 pudgee2 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 21

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    Is it normal? This marriage leaves me

    so confused, I don't know which direction is up anymore. My husband and I have been married for 5 years. Everything was fine until I got pregnant. We planned our child and he was the first one to express that he was ready for a child. So since then everything has gone down the...
    pc223 pc223 26-30, F 8 Responses Jun 22

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    Weight Issues

    My wife and I have been together for fifteen years. We have two wonderful kids. The problem is that we have no sex life. My wife has gained a tremendous amount of weight and has many physical issues as a result. Mainly her back and emotional health. I try to be supportive and...
    Eddy Eddy 31-35, M 19 Responses Nov 8, 2007

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    Another silent night.

    . :/ i tried to find something to do so im not drown in this overwhelming situation... I made homemade curry, fried chicken and rice for dinner tonight.. My kids love it.. They said im the best cook in the whole wide world.. Awe... I love my kids so much... The divorce attorney...
    Isurvive14 Isurvive14 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 7

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    I thought when I was younger

    that getting married was a good idea....thats what I get for thinking!
    Workoutguy720 Workoutguy720 26-30, M 4 Responses Jul 30

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    Here we go.. i was a strong

    and independent woman until i got married.. 5 years marriage drown me to the deepest dark sticky mud and it is really hard to get out.. Sex is really bad.. "1 minute bam bam thank you ma'am" haha... i know.. he said "you can survive without me" he is cruel, mean and mentally...
    Isurvive14 Isurvive14 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 6

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    Married for 22 years.

    ...why? That is right, it is two primary reasons...1) Wonderful daughter and it is my responsibility to keep her world as healthy as possible. Her mother and I do not fight, we do not talk about anything other than weather, movies and our daughter. We have not touched one...
    Therapy4therapist Therapy4therapist 46-50, M 3 Responses Mar 28

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    How Do You Do "Happily Married"????

    I've been married twice.  I am still married to husband number two.  Husband number one was my college sweetheart.  That marriage lasted five years.  The marriage ended because my husband couldn't keep his pants zipped up. Waited a very long time...
    Shazz Shazz 56-60 49 Responses May 24, 2008

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    I have been married for 16 years

    and have come to realize that my husband and I are 2 totally different people. I love him deeply but more like a brother. There is no passion or attraction left for me. I couldn't ask for a better father,or husband for that matter, which makes me feel very selfish for wanting...
    cesb557 cesb557 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 24

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    I Want A Boyfriend.

    Unhapplily married for 8 years and the mother of two.  I am not sure if my marriage is a sham or a joke.  My husband and I started dating in college around 97 and married in 2001.  During our college years we were among mutual friends who enjoyed fight parties and...
    jussex jussex 31-35, F 7 Responses Dec 28, 2009

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    We are so deep in debt.

    Today my wife borrowed some money to go to the casino with her friend. I'm sick of how much she spends. She has no brains when it comes to money.
    Aeonian Aeonian 51-55, M 6 Responses Jul 27

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    Hi there I am seriously thinking about leaving

    my husband and need some advice on how to tell him I am leaving someone please help me
    boy01234 boy01234 41-45, F 3 Responses Jun 12

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    Should I Stay Or Should I Go...

    When I first my husband, it was a whirlwhind romance that moved extremely quickly. I moved in with him in weeks. We were inseperable, passionate and enthusiastic about eachother's interests and dreams. We couldn't keep our hands off eachother and rarely argued.  Slowly the...
    DestroyingAngel DestroyingAngel 31-35, F 6 Responses May 29, 2010

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    How Much Lower?

    I am so unhappy in this facade of a marriage I literally don't know that I can stand it another day...nighttime is the worst time. I am married to a man who has not touched me in six years, who has zero respect for me as a wife, person, human being. He has taken every ounce of...
    suenit suenit 56-60, F 11 Responses Nov 21, 2013

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    I wish to leave my husband

    but not sure how to do it ?
    boy01234 boy01234 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 14

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    Went to counseling yesterday with husband.

    ..what a waste of an hour & 1/2. He only sees the kids really once a week due to "his" hobbies, is never home, told them both we need more communication & when I brought this up I am the problem??? Going back once more & if I don't get any better answers i'm not going back!
    pudgee2 pudgee2 36-40, F 5 Responses Apr 24

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    What you all think about "Silent treatment"

    or "Speak only when its necessary" is it can make everything worsen or make him "THINK.."?? he just left the house.. and im going to start cooking for my kids.. today menu is homemade spaghetti meatballs and garlic bread... did i mention i love to cook? i am great homecook...
    Isurvive14 Isurvive14 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 6

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    14 Years And Dying

    I married my husband for the typical reasons a 29 year old woman would: security, reliability and no drama. Sounds pretty good, him? Well, 14 years in with 2 beautiful daughters, I pine for a new life. I keep the "it could be worse" mantra going so I don't just run. I used to...
    lauragriffin lauragriffin 46-50 2 Responses Jun 3, 2013

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    I cannot believe how hard it is to actually

    write this down. I mean I have all these thoughts in my head about what I feel and what I want to say and now that I have this time to let it out I am actually coming up empty. I am 38 years old. Married to my high school sweetheart with two teenage sons. I cannot say its been...
    ronirockbottom ronirockbottom 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 21

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    AM Discussed With My Marriage

      I NEED TO BE HELD ....TO FEEL THE TOUCH OF ANOTHER PERSON...   TO TASTE ANOTHER PERSON......IF IT WASN'T FOR MY KIDS I WOULD NEVER GET ANY HUGS OR ANY KISSES.....AT CHURCH WE HUG AND TELL ONE ANOTHER THAT YOU LOVE EACH OTHER ...
    bquick bquick 51-55, M 5 Responses Apr 2, 2008

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    Ok... So tomorrow is my birthday Andy husband

    of only 1 1/2 yrs forgets and doesn't bother rescheduling his on call work schedule.., my feelings are so hurt bc he didnt do **** for me LAST year For my birthday either. It's very obvious my birthday is not a priority...
    BumMagnet BumMagnet 46-50, F 3 Responses Jun 29

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    I have been married for close to 5 years.

    The entire five years has been the worst five years of my life. My husband cheated on me from day one, ( he apparently started while we were dating) and I 'forgave' him and tried to move on. But I couldn't, I was hurt and angry at the world that I stayed with him. I allowed...
    taylor8209 taylor8209 26-30, F 6 Responses May 28

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    I Don't Know Why I Did It.

    When I got married, I felt like I was making a mistake. Even before we got married, we were in counseling. Everything was my fault. Any slight, real or imagined were thrown in my face. Even when I was in the right, it was twisted and turned around on me. I married her anyway...
    dangerously39 dangerously39 51-55, M 6 Responses Jun 8, 2010

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    Another Fight!

    Last night my wife packed my bags and screamed "GET OUT"! As I walked out thr front door she said "I wish you a slow and painful death you bastard". "Oh" I replied, "So now you want me to stay"!
    dangerously39 dangerously39 51-55, M 8 Responses Mar 11, 2013

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    Empty Lonely and Miserable

    hello...im glad to have found tis site because i like evryone here is unhappily married. i guess my story begins 13 years ago which is when i met my husband i was only 15 and he was 17. i loved him soooo much back then .... but i realize now what i didnt then is that he was...
    ava12982 ava12982 26-30, F 18 Responses Sep 23, 2009

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    Just a question do u think it is alright to

    send a message to someone you have been with for 20 years and tell them you are leaving them
    boy01234 boy01234 41-45, F 13 Responses Aug 6

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    Not sure if I can get past my husband's

    "Emotional Affair" - 10 years into marriage with 3rd husband. 1st marriage ended after 11 years and two kids. He cheated, tried to make it work and left 4 years later, re-bound marriage #2 lasted less than 2 years (of course) no kids (thank God). Found text message on husband...
    amc0438 amc0438 46-50, F 4 Responses Mar 11

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    Explaining that you will no longer tolerate

    being spoken to rudely,disrespected , de valued ...... Which is met with the most demeaning attitude /tone/ arm crossed eye rolling...stating " how do I devalue you" Argggggg ..... Need I point it out Followed by the usual diversion of " me me me "what about .... Blah blah blah...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 3 Responses Jul 13

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    I find it really insulting

    that when you share your depth of despair with your situation , wether you've been in it years or months that people lack empathy You know when someone pours their heart out to you even when it's for the umpteenth time .... Just be a friend ! They are not looking for answers...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 6 Responses Jul 26

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    I'm not married but I'm not putting up with a

    ****** *** marriage if I don't want to and especially if I don't have to. POINT BLANK And PERIOD!
    sisi19 sisi19 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 20, 2013

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    I Wish I Could Get Out...

    In the five years we have been together, he has never given me anything. He does chores around the house and drives me from here to there and he thinks he is the best husband ever. He drives me here to there because he doesn't let me take the car. He says because he doesn't trust...
    rainydays88 rainydays88 26-30, F 11 Responses Aug 23, 2013

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    I Shouldn't Feel This Way

    But, I regret getting married. Yes, I know, I know. We shouldn't have regrets in life and so on but... I have this as regret. I really do and some times I feel like a b*itch for feeling this way. I feel my marriage has ruined my life. I did not even want to be in a...
    likeaprayerxo likeaprayerxo 31-35, F 7 Responses Jul 24, 2013

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    I cant sleep.. I remember 6 years ago.

    . I went to 24 hours starbucks with my bestfriends.. So much laughter, i dont have any broken heart, i was once free from depression or heartache.. And now im wishing the night will never end.. Because tomorrow i must face the man who do not care at all about me.. Who broke my...
    Isurvive14 Isurvive14 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 7

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    Right now. I'm not exactly hating my husband.

    Sometimes I do. I feel bad for it. He's a good man. But sometimes he's a complete jerk. The life we've lived has been the life he wanted. I wasn't strong enough to resist and I thought I was doing the right thing. But I've been miserable for 26 years I don't believe in divorce...
    Ludavin Ludavin 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 1

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    I know this borders on selfish

    but here's what I secretly wish: Once, just once when I ask my husband for help with something (like cleaning the house for example) he says "Sure dear, what can I help you with?"
    hotdamndame hotdamndame 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 4

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    He'S Been Gone For A Week On A Business Trip... And Part Of Me Wishes He'D Never Return.

    He's been gone for a week on a business trip... and part of me wishes he'd never return. I don't wish him death. I just want peace. And he seems to bring out the worst in me. I have analyzed it every which way, but the reality is he just brings out the worst in me. There are...
    NoEmailPlease NoEmailPlease 31-35 6 Responses Jun 30, 2013

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    A Letter Unsent

    When I met you, we were friends, we could talk. When we fell in love things changed. You treated me poorly but I put up with it because that's all I've ever known. My whole life I was made to feel worthless and deserving of being treated like the lump of crap I was. So I took and...
    FindingMyVoice FindingMyVoice 31-35, F 8 Responses Apr 26, 2011

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    I have been marries for 13 years now.

    The ting is I have been so unhappy for so long I have, until recently, forgotten what it was like to be happy. We have 2 beautiful children who I love with all my heart. No matter how miserable I feel, I look at them and it's worth it. The problem is that the cost of the...
    Aussiemerk Aussiemerk 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 5

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    Not even sure what to type here.

    All I can say is that I accept the blame. I blame myself. And..., I will likely die wearing the chains I've forged for myself, as the weight of responsibility drags me slowly downward into the abyss of an unhappy ending. Words are of little use to me these days. Where once...
    TheHiker TheHiker 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 31

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    Tremendously Unhappy

    I've been married to my husband for five years. We have one five year old son with one son on the way in May 2012. My husband has no idea who I am anymore and no longer relates to me. When I talk to him, it is as if i'm forcing myself to start a conversation with a stranger on...
    upsetwmwife upsetwmwife 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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