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I Am Unhappily Married

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    Been married for six months.

    Regret it already. My wife just doesnt understand me.
    jms142 jms142 22-25, M 3 Responses Jun 11

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    I must admit, I had doubts

    before I married my wife but I went through with it anyways. We've been married 11 years with two beautiful daughters and she is a very good person at heart. I won't say it's been completely miserable by any means but I've always felt there was a large part of me that has gone...
    Bucco11 Bucco11 36-40, M 5 Responses May 18

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    That feeling that you just want to quit

    and leave your marriage but it's not that easy because of your kids. i'm physically and emotionally drain.
    destiny0221 destiny0221 26-30, F 4 Responses May 22

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    Wife's mood swings are really getting on my

    nerves... She walks around with a chip on her shoulder for a few days at a time, snapping at the kid and at me, doesn't smile for days, and then comes clean and apologizes. We're good for a few days and the the cycle repeats. I'm at the point where I just shrug and say...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 36-40, M 4 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    My husband calls me a nympho just bc he never

    wants to have sex! That makes me feel cheap and dirty! I'm 48 and in my prime. We've been married 2 yrs! Ok!!! So I want sex at least 4 days a week! Wth is wrong with that???? He just says... Sorry I'm not 20! But damn! Once a week is just plain frigid!!!
    BumMagnet BumMagnet 46-50, F 8 Responses Apr 2

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    I am in a loveless marriage

    for 34 years , I have stayed for kids kids are married now I really stayed for my daughter she is a real sweet catering person I didn't want to hurt her by leaving we are a Christian family (not the best) one morning my daughter single 32 years old picks up and leaves goes 200...
    Verysadperson Verysadperson 56-60, M 5 Responses May 23

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    is it me? is it him? is it just us?

    I don't know. I used to love coming home to him. I took care of my family. I was proud of my family. My kids are out of the house. maybe I didn't see the way he took me for granted until my kids were gone. I just took care of the house, worked two or more jobs, cared for my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Feb 9

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    Right now. I'm not exactly hating my husband.

    Sometimes I do. I feel bad for it. He's a good man. But sometimes he's a complete jerk. The life we've lived has been the life he wanted. I wasn't strong enough to resist and I thought I was doing the right thing. But I've been miserable for 26 years I don't believe in divorce...
    Ludavin Ludavin 46-50, F 4 Responses Aug 1, 2014

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    When I posted that bit yesterday about having

    an affair, I was just angry. I'm not really going to have an affair. I would be too scared to. Then on top of that, the idea of me being that close to another man kinda makes me sick and grosses me out some. I just get so angry with my husband sometimes for not showing me any...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Apr 15

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    I can't do it anymore.

    he can't talk to me rather watch TV. won't hug or kiss me unless he tells me to do it. he doesn't say I love you... only in a text and it's love you. I cook I clean we have 3 kids I seriously do everything for him I'm a stay at home mom he works. I get his pjs out I get his...
    alonenjustme alonenjustme 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 6

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    I was a divorced single mother of one

    when I met my current husband. From all appearances he was very responsible, had goals, wanted a family and loved my child as his own. He moved in with us when I became pregnant with his child. All was well until he asked me to spot him $100 until payday so his account would...
    Trapped4toolong Trapped4toolong 46-50, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    Another Fight!

    Last night my wife packed my bags and screamed "GET OUT"! As I walked out thr front door she said "I wish you a slow and painful death you bastard". "Oh" I replied, "So now you want me to stay"!
    dangerously39 dangerously39 51-55, M 9 Responses Mar 11, 2013

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    Starving For Love

    I have been married for seven years and together for twelve. I breakdown crying about two to three times a week. My husband is so consumed with himself and what he wants, that I might as well not exist. We have three beautiful children together. They are my life. I always dreamed...
    deleted deleted 26-30 14 Responses Aug 5, 2012

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    Literally, my husband won't stop playing a

    video game to give me a hug and a kiss. Mind you, I just complained to him the other day how he's not as affectionate as he should be. He literally wouldn't stop playing a game to give me a hug and a kiss. I am not worth a pause. That's great to know. I'm going to have an affair...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 14

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    It was a Tuesday, I think…maybe a Thursday I

    can’t remember. At the time, I was content with where I was in life. Single…healthy, happy, no debt, free to live life as I chose. I seem to recall being lonely from time to time, but my travels far and near kept me from noticing too much. A very close friend mentioned that...
    1StateAway 1StateAway 36-40, M 3 Responses May 5

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    Does marriage counseling really work?

    We are in a sexless marriage. And I have reached a point where not only im not attracted to my husband but I feel incestous to be with him. It's disgusting beyond words. Can't even kiss him. 9 years of togetherness but never had sex. Tried in the past, but even the foreplays...
    ithinkithink ithinkithink 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 5

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    I know marriage is a two way street

    and its not just one person to blame in success or failure of a marriage. I tried so hard for 3 years or better to be the wife I thought he wanted with no success. now he is trying n I could care less. I know the marriage is over. theres not a doubt in my mind. But I CANNOT...
    sixtens sixtens 36-40, F 10 Responses Mar 12

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    There is life after is this don't stay in the

    marriage for the sake of it be happy. So on Saturday I finally moved out I have left the marriage I have left the abuse I have left being taken for granted the only thing I feel sad and upset about is that I am leaving my two girls although I am seeing them twice a week it...
    Sirwithherkey Sirwithherkey 36-40, M 2 Responses May 18

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    I want scream! I want to cry!

    I want to throw things at the wall! Maybe hope a few will hit him in the head. But I will just go to bed. Let the anger seep out of me as sleep takes over. Damn. Why is leaving so hard?
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 7 Responses Oct 3, 2014

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    I married my wife because we got pregnant.

    Even before being married I was out still acting like a single man and talking to other women. I didn't love her yet. She found out and stayed with me. After being married for a year I cheated on her and she found out. She stayed with me. I don't know why...she says it is...
    rrspearo rrspearo 26-30, M 5 Responses Jun 3

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    Well, I never saw it coming I should have

    started running A long, long time ago! And I never thought I'd doubt you I'm better off without you More than you, more than you know I'm slowly getting closure I guess it's really over I'm finally gettin' better Now I'm picking up the pieces From spending all of these years...
    soldiergirl2 soldiergirl2 41-45, F 7 Responses Mar 11

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    Driving home listening to this song,

    crying uncontrollably... realizing the last 13yrs were built on lies, tears, unkept promises, black eyes, broken bones, and pain. Theory of a Deadman - Not Meant To Be [OFFICIAL VIDEO] - YouTube m.youtube.com/watch?v=ivu2ktfompc
    soldiergirl2 soldiergirl2 41-45, F 6 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    My husband and I have been married

    for 7 months and a few months ago he brought up that I've been spending a lot of time at my job and I'm a musician and I travel sometimes and work on weekends and he suggested couples therapy because we haven't done it in 2 and a half months and we don't spend that much time...
    skailor skailor 22-25, F 4 Responses May 10

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    A Letter Unsent

    When I met you, we were friends, we could talk. When we fell in love things changed. You treated me poorly but I put up with it because that's all I've ever known. My whole life I was made to feel worthless and deserving of being treated like the lump of crap I was. So I took and...
    FindingMyVoice FindingMyVoice 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 26, 2011

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    How Do You Do "Happily Married"????

    I've been married twice.  I am still married to husband number two.  Husband number one was my college sweetheart.  That marriage lasted five years.  The marriage ended because my husband couldn't keep his pants zipped up. Waited a very long time...
    Shazz Shazz 56-60 50 Responses May 24, 2008

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    Weight Issues

    My wife and I have been together for fifteen years. We have two wonderful kids. The problem is that we have no sex life. My wife has gained a tremendous amount of weight and has many physical issues as a result. Mainly her back and emotional health. I try to be supportive and...
    Eddy Eddy 31-35, M 19 Responses Nov 8, 2007

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    I am so unhappily married.

    my husband was a great man until he let his alcohol addition take over his life. he had a great job with good benefits but got fired because of his drinking. now he works at a seasonal job . when he's laid off all he do is lay around and drink all day. im so tired of having to...
    gnews gnews 51-55, F 6 Responses a week ago

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    My husband NEVER wants to have sex

    and he's only 46! What's gonna happen when he's 56???
    BumMagnet BumMagnet 46-50, F 15 Responses Apr 2

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    I find it really insulting

    that when you share your depth of despair with your situation , wether you've been in it years or months that people lack empathy You know when someone pours their heart out to you even when it's for the umpteenth time .... Just be a friend ! They are not looking for answers...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 7 Responses Jul 26, 2014

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    I haven't been posting anything lately

    because my husband and I have been good over the last couple of months. More hugging and kissing and affection and I've been loving it all. He still doesn't like to hug and kiss as much as me, but that's okay. I compromise and hold back some. But last night after I got home from...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 14

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    There are times when things are good.

    Not perfect, but better. I'm still not secure in our relationship though. It's hard to heal old wounds. And now my husband keeps pushing for us to have another baby...which I know I don't want....sigh. Why is marriage so hard?
    justliss justliss 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 19

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    I come to this site ,

    to share my experience and seek support and friendship from others whom have either experienced or are experiencing similar just as many others do However just as I find myself in a very unhappy situation.... Does not reflect on my integrity as a person , nor make me desperate...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 8 Responses Sep 17, 2014

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    Sometimes all I want to do is cry.

    But then I realize that I can't. I just can't because im tired and bored of it. My eyes don't make tears and face muscles refuse to move. I don't know how to let the pain out. Or where to exactly let it go. So I just feel numb at heart. Im not angry im not sad but im numb. A...
    ithinkithink ithinkithink 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 4

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    This month marks my 5 year wedding anniversary.

    We have two young boys that I adore. But I am miserable. I unknowingly married someone who has a huge temper and a very negative outlook on life. I feel like I'm daily walking on egg shells not wanting to make her mad. I can't see myself ending marriage because of the boys...
    mydogriley mydogriley 41-45, M 7 Responses Jun 5

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    If people are so unhappy with each other

    and don't even want to have sex anymore why the **** do they get so upset when someone shows an interest in their partner?? ****** baffles me !!
    righthanded righthanded 56-60, M 4 Responses Jan 17

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    I want to end it...my life.

    .. I am hanging on by a thread and it is tied together with my two kids...God help me...if it wasn't for them I would have jumped off a bridge a long time ago...
    Dreamgirl75 Dreamgirl75 36-40, F 9 Responses Jun 7

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    Unhappiness marriages are cussed

    for different reasons, but the same pain, frustration, depress...... Almost all the words using to describe pain can be adopted here
    Raisingup Raisingup 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 5

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    For all the other folks on here,

    when did you know it was time to leave? What was your breaking point?
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Apr 19

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    i think my husband hates me.

    .he said to me that he regret married with me everytime we argue..n this time is the 3rd time..i knew this is going to happen the day before we married..
    nothimanymore nothimanymore 26-30, F 23 Responses Mar 28

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    I was so upset with my husband.

    Yesterday we bought him shirt to wear for our family gathering, but then i told him it's gonna be too hot outside to wear a long sleeve, so he ask if he needs to change,so i pick a shirt for him, but then he insisted that he still want to wear that shirt that we just bought...
    destiny0221 destiny0221 26-30, F 2 Responses May 10

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    He's at it again. He will be ok

    for a few weeks and then the tiniest thing will set him off. This time, it's because I said I needed to go get my 2016 car tag sticker while I have the money. Since my vehicle is the only vehicle we have now, you would think that he would want me to get my sticker. Nope. He's...
    HemiCuda HemiCuda 41-45, F 2 Responses May 13

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    My husband keeps observing

    that I don't smile anymore. So I finally work up the nerve to tell him I'm unhappy in our marriage and he's shocked. To me it just shows how disconnected we are. I never wanted to be the woman who stays for the kids, but I think somewhere along the line I've become that. I'm...
    justliss justliss 31-35, F 12 Responses Jan 18

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    I've been with my wife

    for 6 years. She has 3 children that aren't mine. I love them very much. My wife is always yelling at me and makes me feel useless! I'm tired of been disrespected and living like a second class citizen. I want to leave but am afraid the children will never forgive me.
    bipolarPeter bipolarPeter 31-35, M May 8

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    Married To Young

    I meet my husband when I was 17 and we were married by the time I was 19. I think back now and cannot remember what the rush was for. We have nothing in common anymore he does his thing I do mine. I do not mesh well with his friends, he openly dislikes my friends. If it was...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Feb 17, 2013

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    Is This What Life Had In Store For Me???

    I've been so friggin unhappy for the last 23 years. If I knew my life wouldn't off ended like this, I would of done **** different. I hate hate dislike hate the man I married. It's been 23 years of hell... No let me rephrase that, hell would be a breeze. For all you perps reading...
    GiannaFilippelli GiannaFilippelli 46-50, F 12 Responses Oct 28, 2013

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    Weekend away. After weeks of feeling down due

    to many reasons. A broken heart, sad and depressed. My hubby decided to book a weekend away. I was hesitant. It has been years since the two of us have spent that kind of time together. Leading up to Friday I was finding myself actually being a little excited. Just the thought...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 22 Responses Feb 9

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