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I Am Unhappily Married

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    I've been with my wife

    for 6 years. She has 3 children that aren't mine. I love them very much. My wife is always yelling at me and makes me feel useless! I'm tired of been disrespected and living like a second class citizen. I want to leave but am afraid the children will never forgive me.
    bipolarPeter bipolarPeter 31-35, M May 8

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    Is This What Life Had In Store For Me???

    I've been so friggin unhappy for the last 23 years. If I knew my life wouldn't off ended like this, I would of done **** different. I hate hate dislike hate the man I married. It's been 23 years of hell... No let me rephrase that, hell would be a breeze. For all you perps reading...
    GiannaFilippelli GiannaFilippelli 46-50, F 11 Responses Oct 28, 2013

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    Sometimes all I want to do is cry.

    But then I realize that I can't. I just can't because im tired and bored of it. My eyes don't make tears and face muscles refuse to move. I don't know how to let the pain out. Or where to exactly let it go. So I just feel numb at heart. Im not angry im not sad but im numb. A...
    ithinkithink ithinkithink 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 4

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    Right now. I'm not exactly hating my husband.

    Sometimes I do. I feel bad for it. He's a good man. But sometimes he's a complete jerk. The life we've lived has been the life he wanted. I wasn't strong enough to resist and I thought I was doing the right thing. But I've been miserable for 26 years I don't believe in divorce...
    Ludavin Ludavin 46-50, F 4 Responses Aug 1, 2014

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    My husband and I have been married

    for 7 months and a few months ago he brought up that I've been spending a lot of time at my job and I'm a musician and I travel sometimes and work on weekends and he suggested couples therapy because we haven't done it in 2 and a half months and we don't spend that much time...
    skailor skailor 22-25, F 4 Responses May 10

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    Birthday.

    That's right today is my birthday. Woohoo...not! I asked my H if he remember what today was and he said no, so I reminded him and he said "oh ok, I have plans for today, I should be back by 5". SERIOUSLY!!! We are both off today kids are I'm school and he makes plans with his...
    Chelle74 Chelle74 36-40, F 35 Responses Aug 29, 2013

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    I can't do it anymore.

    he can't talk to me rather watch TV. won't hug or kiss me unless he tells me to do it. he doesn't say I love you... only in a text and it's love you. I cook I clean we have 3 kids I seriously do everything for him I'm a stay at home mom he works. I get his pjs out I get his...
    alonenjustme alonenjustme 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 6

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    My husband keeps observing

    that I don't smile anymore. So I finally work up the nerve to tell him I'm unhappy in our marriage and he's shocked. To me it just shows how disconnected we are. I never wanted to be the woman who stays for the kids, but I think somewhere along the line I've become that. I'm...
    justliss justliss 31-35, F 12 Responses Jan 18

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    I know marriage is a two way street

    and its not just one person to blame in success or failure of a marriage. I tried so hard for 3 years or better to be the wife I thought he wanted with no success. now he is trying n I could care less. I know the marriage is over. theres not a doubt in my mind. But I CANNOT...
    sixtens sixtens 36-40, F 10 Responses Mar 12

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    My husband NEVER wants to have sex

    and he's only 46! What's gonna happen when he's 56???
    BumMagnet BumMagnet 46-50, F 15 Responses Apr 2

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    Another Fight!

    Last night my wife packed my bags and screamed "GET OUT"! As I walked out thr front door she said "I wish you a slow and painful death you bastard". "Oh" I replied, "So now you want me to stay"!
    dangerously39 dangerously39 51-55, M 9 Responses Mar 11, 2013

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    That feeling that you just want to quit

    and leave your marriage but it's not that easy because of your kids. i'm physically and emotionally drain.
    destiny0221 destiny0221 26-30, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    I must admit, I had doubts

    before I married my wife but I went through with it anyways. We've been married 11 years with two beautiful daughters and she is a very good person at heart. I won't say it's been completely miserable by any means but I've always felt there was a large part of me that has gone...
    Bucco11 Bucco11 36-40, M 5 Responses May 18

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    is it me? is it him? is it just us?

    I don't know. I used to love coming home to him. I took care of my family. I was proud of my family. My kids are out of the house. maybe I didn't see the way he took me for granted until my kids were gone. I just took care of the house, worked two or more jobs, cared for my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Feb 9

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    It makes me sad how so many years spent

    together just ceases to exist. Separate rooms, barely words spoken, polite nods. I accept my part in the dissolution of this marriage, but I still grieve for what it was at one time. How far we have drifted from that couple we once were. Did we abandon love or did it abandon...
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 12 Responses Jan 21

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    Weight Issues

    My wife and I have been together for fifteen years. We have two wonderful kids. The problem is that we have no sex life. My wife has gained a tremendous amount of weight and has many physical issues as a result. Mainly her back and emotional health. I try to be supportive and...
    Eddy Eddy 31-35, M 19 Responses Nov 8, 2007

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    After i told him to stop giving me lame excuse,

    he admit that he has low libido. I described my desperation ( one day I nearly had an accident, as I was thinking about my marriage with tears running down rather than watching the road) . He said he would change. Two weeks gone, nothing changed. Yesterday I suggested to have...
    Raisingup Raisingup 31-35, F 15 Responses Apr 3

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    Kindness is another form of wisdom especially

    when we understand that wisdom isn't just what we know but what we say and do kindness isn't some fleeting attribute that escapes from our mouth now and then it is a law,a principle of our very existence how powerful it would be if the law of kindness where to guide all that...
    dfries63 dfries63 46-50, M 3 Responses Mar 28

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    so I'm unhappily married .

    my husband is probably the most unappreciated person I've ever met. I really cannot stand him. he's upset bc he has to cover my half of things . when I carried his sorry ads for three months bought him shoes jackets and a beanie ..he gets mad bc I don't half of the rent . hmmmm...
    imissdnce imissdnce 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 30

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    How Do You Do "Happily Married"????

    I've been married twice.  I am still married to husband number two.  Husband number one was my college sweetheart.  That marriage lasted five years.  The marriage ended because my husband couldn't keep his pants zipped up. Waited a very long time...
    Shazz Shazz 56-60 50 Responses May 24, 2008

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    Wife's mood swings are really getting on my

    nerves... She walks around with a chip on her shoulder for a few days at a time, snapping at the kid and at me, doesn't smile for days, and then comes clean and apologizes. We're good for a few days and the the cycle repeats. I'm at the point where I just shrug and say...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 4 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    Unhappiness marriages are cussed

    for different reasons, but the same pain, frustration, depress...... Almost all the words using to describe pain can be adopted here
    Raisingup Raisingup 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 5

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    i think my husband hates me.

    .he said to me that he regret married with me everytime we argue..n this time is the 3rd time..i knew this is going to happen the day before we married..
    nothimanymore nothimanymore 26-30, F 23 Responses Mar 28

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    A Letter Unsent

    When I met you, we were friends, we could talk. When we fell in love things changed. You treated me poorly but I put up with it because that's all I've ever known. My whole life I was made to feel worthless and deserving of being treated like the lump of crap I was. So I took and...
    FindingMyVoice FindingMyVoice 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 26, 2011

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    Empty Lonely and Miserable

    hello...im glad to have found tis site because i like evryone here is unhappily married. i guess my story begins 13 years ago which is when i met my husband i was only 15 and he was 17. i loved him soooo much back then .... but i realize now what i didnt then is that he was...
    ava12982 ava12982 26-30, F 18 Responses Sep 23, 2009

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    Literally, my husband won't stop playing a

    video game to give me a hug and a kiss. Mind you, I just complained to him the other day how he's not as affectionate as he should be. He literally wouldn't stop playing a game to give me a hug and a kiss. I am not worth a pause. That's great to know. I'm going to have an affair...
    aurismith aurismith 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 14

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    I want scream! I want to cry!

    I want to throw things at the wall! Maybe hope a few will hit him in the head. But I will just go to bed. Let the anger seep out of me as sleep takes over. Damn. Why is leaving so hard?
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 8 Responses Oct 3, 2014

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    How Much Lower?

    I am so unhappy in this facade of a marriage I literally don't know that I can stand it another day...nighttime is the worst time. I am married to a man who has not touched me in six years, who has zero respect for me as a wife, person, human being. He has taken every ounce of...
    suenit suenit 56-60, F 12 Responses Nov 21, 2013

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    Does marriage counseling really work?

    We are in a sexless marriage. And I have reached a point where not only im not attracted to my husband but I feel incestous to be with him. It's disgusting beyond words. Can't even kiss him. 9 years of togetherness but never had sex. Tried in the past, but even the foreplays...
    ithinkithink ithinkithink 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 5

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    I don't understand how someone can go from a

    loving happy relationship, to a unhappy one. Makes me rethink the whole marriage thing, it scares me /:
    jcmpmx jcmpmx 18-21, F Mar 29

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    What's your excuse for being stuck in a

    marriage you're unhappy in? Do not bring the “kids” into this issue, kids can sense unhappiness and hatefulness. Divorce can be brutal, but the post divorce environment can be a much healthier environment than the toxic one you're forcing yourself into and calling it a...
    Offing Offing 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 28

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    Starving For Love

    I have been married for seven years and together for twelve. I breakdown crying about two to three times a week. My husband is so consumed with himself and what he wants, that I might as well not exist. We have three beautiful children together. They are my life. I always dreamed...
    deleted deleted 26-30 14 Responses Aug 5, 2012

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    I'm almost 3 years married now,

    and i have this weird feeling towards my spouse. I feel i'm fallin out of love with him, i don't feel sexually,physically and emotionally attractive to him anymore. I can't even look at him straight when im saying " I love you". I feel like horrible. I know even if i ask him for...
    destiny0221 destiny0221 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    I haven't been posting anything lately

    because my husband and I have been good over the last couple of months. More hugging and kissing and affection and I've been loving it all. He still doesn't like to hug and kiss as much as me, but that's okay. I compromise and hold back some. But last night after I got home from...
    aurismith aurismith 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 14

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    I come to this site ,

    to share my experience and seek support and friendship from others whom have either experienced or are experiencing similar just as many others do However just as I find myself in a very unhappy situation.... Does not reflect on my integrity as a person , nor make me desperate...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 8 Responses Sep 17, 2014

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    Well, I never saw it coming I should have

    started running A long, long time ago! And I never thought I'd doubt you I'm better off without you More than you, more than you know I'm slowly getting closure I guess it's really over I'm finally gettin' better Now I'm picking up the pieces From spending all of these years...
    soldiergirl2 soldiergirl2 41-45, F 7 Responses Mar 11

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    Married To Young

    I meet my husband when I was 17 and we were married by the time I was 19. I think back now and cannot remember what the rush was for. We have nothing in common anymore he does his thing I do mine. I do not mesh well with his friends, he openly dislikes my friends. If it was...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Feb 17, 2013

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    If people are so unhappy with each other

    and don't even want to have sex anymore why the **** do they get so upset when someone shows an interest in their partner?? ****** baffles me !!
    righthanded righthanded 56-60, M 4 Responses Jan 17

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    When I posted that bit yesterday about having

    an affair, I was just angry. I'm not really going to have an affair. I would be too scared to. Then on top of that, the idea of me being that close to another man kinda makes me sick and grosses me out some. I just get so angry with my husband sometimes for not showing me any...
    aurismith aurismith 26-30, F 6 Responses Apr 15

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    I was so upset with my husband.

    Yesterday we bought him shirt to wear for our family gathering, but then i told him it's gonna be too hot outside to wear a long sleeve, so he ask if he needs to change,so i pick a shirt for him, but then he insisted that he still want to wear that shirt that we just bought...
    destiny0221 destiny0221 26-30, F 2 Responses May 10

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    if you are unhappy you need to get out

    now sex is a must ever woman need it at lest 9 time a week
    joecool59 joecool59 51-55, M 1 Response Apr 2

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    For all the other folks on here,

    when did you know it was time to leave? What was your breaking point?
    aurismith aurismith 26-30, F 6 Responses Apr 19

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    He's at it again. He will be ok

    for a few weeks and then the tiniest thing will set him off. This time, it's because I said I needed to go get my 2016 car tag sticker while I have the money. Since my vehicle is the only vehicle we have now, you would think that he would want me to get my sticker. Nope. He's...
    HemiCuda HemiCuda 41-45, F 1 Response May 13

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    It was a Tuesday, I think…maybe a Thursday I

    can’t remember. At the time, I was content with where I was in life. Single…healthy, happy, no debt, free to live life as I chose. I seem to recall being lonely from time to time, but my travels far and near kept me from noticing too much. A very close friend mentioned that...
    1StateAway 1StateAway 36-40, M 3 Responses May 5

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    I hate being unappreciated!

    I Hate being stuck in this marriage with a careless, insensitive, and alcoholic guy. I hate not being able to do what i want in my life. I miss my freedom, and being able to make decision my own.
    destiny0221 destiny0221 26-30, F 3 Responses May 10

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    I find it really insulting

    that when you share your depth of despair with your situation , wether you've been in it years or months that people lack empathy You know when someone pours their heart out to you even when it's for the umpteenth time .... Just be a friend ! They are not looking for answers...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 7 Responses Jul 26, 2014

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