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I Am Unhappily Married

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    There are times when things are good.

    Not perfect, but better. I'm still not secure in our relationship though. It's hard to heal old wounds. And now my husband keeps pushing for us to have another baby...which I know I don't want....sigh. Why is marriage so hard?
    justliss justliss 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    what am I suppose to do.

    I have nothing no one no friends no family just his. I can't fight anymore I'm not strong enough for this.
    alonenjustme alonenjustme 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 9

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    Empty Lonely and Miserable

    hello...im glad to have found tis site because i like evryone here is unhappily married. i guess my story begins 13 years ago which is when i met my husband i was only 15 and he was 17. i loved him soooo much back then .... but i realize now what i didnt then is that he was...
    ava12982 ava12982 26-30, F 18 Responses Sep 23, 2009

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    Weight Issues

    My wife and I have been together for fifteen years. We have two wonderful kids. The problem is that we have no sex life. My wife has gained a tremendous amount of weight and has many physical issues as a result. Mainly her back and emotional health. I try to be supportive and...
    Eddy Eddy 31-35, M 19 Responses Nov 8, 2007

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    Wife's mood swings are really getting on my

    nerves... She walks around with a chip on her shoulder for a few days at a time, snapping at the kid and at me, doesn't smile for days, and then comes clean and apologizes. We're good for a few days and the the cycle repeats. I'm at the point where I just shrug and say...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 4 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    My husband and I used to have great sex!

    !!! Now I cannot ******... Sexually frustrated and don't understand why this has happened. We are close to seperation but this is always one thing we had...
    vangogh7 vangogh7 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 9, 2014

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    My wife left because she wanted to take a brake.

    Our young son is with me and I have three major medical issues. If your situation has some similarities, chat with me.
    TrustworthyEric TrustworthyEric 41-45, M Jan 19

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    http://www.smh.com.au/nsw/man-loses-court-bid-for-share-of-exwifes-6-million-lotto-win-20141014-115moo.html This is so funny
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F Oct 13, 2014

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    Dear my husband.If you don't love me

    and want a divorce ,why don't you just tell me then leave .why do you even stay,and keep lying to me. I will wait until my financial is sate then i will leave you.i sacrificed too much for you but all I have from you is lie and lies
    brokenheartcry brokenheartcry 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 13, 2014

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    I find it really insulting

    that when you share your depth of despair with your situation , wether you've been in it years or months that people lack empathy You know when someone pours their heart out to you even when it's for the umpteenth time .... Just be a friend ! They are not looking for answers...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 7 Responses Jul 26, 2014

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    I come to this site ,

    to share my experience and seek support and friendship from others whom have either experienced or are experiencing similar just as many others do However just as I find myself in a very unhappy situation.... Does not reflect on my integrity as a person , nor make me desperate...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 8 Responses Sep 17, 2014

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    My husband keeps observing

    that I don't smile anymore. So I finally work up the nerve to tell him I'm unhappy in our marriage and he's shocked. To me it just shows how disconnected we are. I never wanted to be the woman who stays for the kids, but I think somewhere along the line I've become that. I'm...
    justliss justliss 31-35, F 16 Responses Jan 18

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    I want scream! I want to cry!

    I want to throw things at the wall! Maybe hope a few will hit him in the head. But I will just go to bed. Let the anger seep out of me as sleep takes over. Damn. Why is leaving so hard?
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 8 Responses Oct 3, 2014

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    It makes me sad how so many years spent

    together just ceases to exist. Separate rooms, barely words spoken, polite nods. I accept my part in the dissolution of this marriage, but I still grieve for what it was at one time. How far we have drifted from that couple we once were. Did we abandon love or did it abandon...
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 13 Responses Jan 21

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    Right now. I'm not exactly hating my husband.

    Sometimes I do. I feel bad for it. He's a good man. But sometimes he's a complete jerk. The life we've lived has been the life he wanted. I wasn't strong enough to resist and I thought I was doing the right thing. But I've been miserable for 26 years I don't believe in divorce...
    Ludavin Ludavin 46-50, F 5 Responses Aug 1, 2014

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    is it me? is it him? is it just us?

    I don't know. I used to love coming home to him. I took care of my family. I was proud of my family. My kids are out of the house. maybe I didn't see the way he took me for granted until my kids were gone. I just took care of the house, worked two or more jobs, cared for my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Feb 9

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    I never thought I'd feel this way.

    So I just turned 20, my husband is turning 19 in a few months. We've been married for almost 4 months and yet he refuses to grow up and respect the fact he's married and living with MY parents (who were nice enough to take him in after being abused in his home for 18 years). So...
    CielPhantomhive1214 CielPhantomhive1214 18-21, F 15 Responses Dec 17, 2014

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    Birthday.

    That's right today is my birthday. Woohoo...not! I asked my H if he remember what today was and he said no, so I reminded him and he said "oh ok, I have plans for today, I should be back by 5". SERIOUSLY!!! We are both off today kids are I'm school and he makes plans with his...
    Chelle74 Chelle74 36-40, F 37 Responses Aug 29, 2013

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    Told my husband I am just done.

    Financially I really don't know how I'll make it, but at this point I will have to work through that. I can't go through life this way with such an angry person. Do you know he said I am not angry! Ha! What a joke. Yesterday he came home screaming and yelling that ppl were...
    lostinnewengland lostinnewengland 41-45, F 8 Responses Nov 10, 2014

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    Explaining that you will no longer tolerate

    being spoken to rudely,disrespected , de valued ...... Which is met with the most demeaning attitude /tone/ arm crossed eye rolling...stating " how do I devalue you" Argggggg ..... Need I point it out Followed by the usual diversion of " me me me "what about .... Blah blah blah...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 3 Responses Jul 13, 2014

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    "Water Runs Dry" We don't

    even talk anymore We don't even know what we argue about Don't even say I love you no more Cause sayin' how we feel is no longer allowed Some people work things out And some just don't know how to change [Chorus:] Let's don't wait till the water runs dry We might watch our...
    LanaKane101 LanaKane101 31-35, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    My husband decided to give me the "silent

    treatment" . What do I do to warrant this? I asked if he remembered any of the old sitcoms from the 80's-90's. He said (yelled) I already told you we didn't have cable when we were kids, we only had an antenna and only got a few channels. If it wasn't on channel 2, 5, 11 or 13...
    HemiCuda HemiCuda 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 21, 2014

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    Starving For Love

    I have been married for seven years and together for twelve. I breakdown crying about two to three times a week. My husband is so consumed with himself and what he wants, that I might as well not exist. We have three beautiful children together. They are my life. I always dreamed...
    deleted deleted 26-30 14 Responses Aug 5, 2012

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    For any who have lost all attraction to their

    mate - does it ever come back once it's gone? Thanks.
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 6 Responses Feb 9

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    So this probably makes me a bad person

    but I think I married the wrong man. I am a mother to his daughter since she was a year old and is now 5. We also have a 2 year old together. He always tells me we will get through it and things will get better . Problem is things aren't moving as fast as I would like. He has...
    starkizzed21 starkizzed21 22-25, F 6 Responses Dec 11, 2014

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    I always had this image of myself

    and my husband being this great couple. Not the cookie cutter they look so perfect it's disgusting to look at them and not go uggghh kind of couple but the couple that just meshes so well that there are no need for words. I thought wow I actually married the one person who gets...
    LittleMissSunshine80 LittleMissSunshine80 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 16

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    Married To Young

    I meet my husband when I was 17 and we were married by the time I was 19. I think back now and cannot remember what the rush was for. We have nothing in common anymore he does his thing I do mine. I do not mesh well with his friends, he openly dislikes my friends. If it was...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Feb 17, 2013

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    I've no idea what I'm doing.

    The pressure to run, to scream is building up so fast in my head that it's all I can do to keep myself from doing so. I feel insane with it all, feel jumbled up, about to pop. What to do? I can't leave, I can't. Why not? I don't know. Can I make a go of it and stay? I don't...
    Paganangel22 Paganangel22 36-40, F 9 Responses Jan 1

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    Is This What Life Had In Store For Me???

    I've been so friggin unhappy for the last 23 years. If I knew my life wouldn't off ended like this, I would of done **** different. I hate hate dislike hate the man I married. It's been 23 years of hell... No let me rephrase that, hell would be a breeze. For all you perps reading...
    GiannaFilippelli GiannaFilippelli 46-50, F 11 Responses Oct 28, 2013

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    Christmas Eve - full of family friends gifts

    food - all done by me. No thanks no fu just grief over when I am going to give it up. How about this - I will give in to sex when you successfully put the crock pot up. It's been in the same cabinet for 14 years!
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 6 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    How Much Lower?

    I am so unhappy in this facade of a marriage I literally don't know that I can stand it another day...nighttime is the worst time. I am married to a man who has not touched me in six years, who has zero respect for me as a wife, person, human being. He has taken every ounce of...
    suenit suenit 56-60, F 11 Responses Nov 21, 2013

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    What does it say about my spouse

    that she gets upset enough to ruin her day over the actions of others? The other day my wife was on Facebook and discovered many of the moms from my sons basketball team where all having lunch and drinks in Toledo and she was not invited. I used to think she always just got...
    dynamic71 dynamic71 41-45, M 8 Responses Feb 9

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    Worst year of my life.

    Pulling the plug!
    007alone 007alone 36-40, M 1 Response Dec 22, 2014

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    So things have been going okay.

    ..which is terrifying because whenever things are good for too long things start to go straight to hell. I don't know how to get rid of this feeling.
    justliss justliss 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 8

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    I really want to get out

    but my kids adore their father so much:((
    zasha192 zasha192 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    If people are so unhappy with each other

    and don't even want to have sex anymore why the **** do they get so upset when someone shows an interest in their partner?? ****** baffles me !!
    righthanded righthanded 56-60, M 4 Responses Jan 17

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    How Do You Do "Happily Married"????

    I've been married twice.  I am still married to husband number two.  Husband number one was my college sweetheart.  That marriage lasted five years.  The marriage ended because my husband couldn't keep his pants zipped up. Waited a very long time...
    Shazz Shazz 56-60 50 Responses May 24, 2008

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    A Letter Unsent

    When I met you, we were friends, we could talk. When we fell in love things changed. You treated me poorly but I put up with it because that's all I've ever known. My whole life I was made to feel worthless and deserving of being treated like the lump of crap I was. So I took and...
    FindingMyVoice FindingMyVoice 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 26, 2011

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    Another Fight!

    Last night my wife packed my bags and screamed "GET OUT"! As I walked out thr front door she said "I wish you a slow and painful death you bastard". "Oh" I replied, "So now you want me to stay"!
    dangerously39 dangerously39 51-55, M 9 Responses Mar 11, 2013

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    Weekend away. After weeks of feeling down due

    to many reasons. A broken heart, sad and depressed. My hubby decided to book a weekend away. I was hesitant. It has been years since the two of us have spent that kind of time together. Leading up to Friday I was finding myself actually being a little excited. Just the thought...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 24 Responses Feb 9

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    Relationship limbo is awful.

    My husband is sleeping in the basement. I asked for seperation....basement was his compromise. I wouldn't say in miss him but I am lonely. Sad being alone...0
    vangogh7 vangogh7 31-35, F 9 Responses Nov 2, 2014

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    What do you do when you left the corporate

    world...your friends...and now have to give up your family for your husband. After six years of marriage I'm not sure he even loves me or now I'm continent. I take care of the house, food, help with the business that you might as well change my label to person assistant...
    RenFlorida RenFlorida 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 19, 2014

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    minnieccaa minnieccaa 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 19

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    We're currently casting a new show looking

    for monogamous married couples to participate in a 21-day social experiment for a new series that will explore the boundaries of their relationship. Both parties must be interested in the possibility of exploring an ‘open relationship’. Chosen participants will receive FREE...
    tinaeisnernews tinaeisnernews 22-25, F Feb 3

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    I feel that my spouse wasn't ready

    for marriage. He goes out every weekend with his friends. I left my life to be an army wife and I feel like there was no point of me coming up here if he's going to just hang out with his friends. I also feel like I'm always given the last 5 minutes of his day. It truly hurts to...
    chanel0408 chanel0408 18-21, F Nov 17, 2014

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    I said that I would break the mould

    and get through my marital problems. I've been trying to improve my marriage for 4 years and find that spark again. I feel trapped and annoyed. I was desperate to rediscover that pulse but she is in denial. How can a person be so blind and not be prepared to try for someone...
    Burrrr Burrrr 31-35, M 4 Responses Feb 12

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    Driving home listening to this song,

    crying uncontrollably... realizing the last 13yrs were built on lies, tears, unkept promises, black eyes, broken bones, and pain. Theory of a Deadman - Not Meant To Be [OFFICIAL VIDEO] - YouTube m.youtube.com/watch?v=ivu2ktfompc
    soldiergirl2 soldiergirl2 41-45, F 6 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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