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I Am Unhappy and Depressed With My Marriage

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    Not Sure What To Do Anymore

    My husband and I have been married 5 months together 7 years. We have a beautiful son together. On my birthday this past may I got a DUI. First time ever getting into trouble. My husband is in the army and left a week before my birthday. Well I moved in with in June. But ever...
    Evelyn90 Evelyn90 22-25, F Sep 18, 2013

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    So Unsure

    I feel so unsure about my marriage, my wife and I have only been married a year and three months we've been together for three years. We rarely ever have sex anymore. She doesn't wear her rings anymore, she says they don't fit anymore. She has gained some weight since we got...
    gazrael gazrael 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 3, 2013

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    Depressed

    I am about to celebrate my 5th year wedding anniversary and I am miserable. I have a long history of depression and it is part of the reason I am writing this today. I am depressed because my husband does not give me the time of day. He is always too busy working. Work comes...
    Ginasmithgina Ginasmithgina 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 8, 2012

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    Hope For Success

    I was married for 13 yrs the first time, then briefly a 2nd and 3rd time...this is my 4th marriage. I've been married this time around so far for 1 and 1/2 yrs and even though I know that we are still getting used to each other, I do worry about whether it will really last. I...
    help40 help40 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 22, 2013

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    Lonely Marriage

    I'm so lonely in my marriage. My husband would rather look at his computer then talk to me. About two years ago, it looked like we had some hope but I'm not sure we ever have a chance of really connecting. We don't fight, there's just no connection, no love. I'm thinking that...
    Coll78 Coll78 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 8, 2009

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    Marriage Depression

    My husband and I have been married for 11 years . Through our marriage I have dealt with his stupidity . Moving his mom in our house without asking and then she disrespected me in my own home. He took out loans and lied,and a whole lot of other things to much to describe. I am...
    1 Response Jan 21, 2013

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    Terrified And Depressed

    It's getting harder and harder for me to eat, sleep, or work. My wife and I keep going to counseling, but I don't feel like she's trying, she doesn't seem to want to be there, and she barely acknowledges me when I'm home. I give her a heartfelt good morning and get a snippy "hi...
    Rb5397 Rb5397 46-50, M Aug 1, 2013

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    So Confused..

    My husband and I have only been married for about 5 months. Together 4 years with two beautiful daughters. He is honestly the only man I ever loved. He helped me get through some very hard times in my life and maybe that's why I'm so attached to him. We are both only 20. We...
    lizgill lizgill 18-21, F 2 Responses May 12, 2013

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    Marriage Sucks!

    I think part of my problem is that I just really don't like being married. I have been married for almost three years now. I've questioned my decision for at least two and a half of them. Since then, there aren't many days that go by where I don't imagine what my...
    ananomoose ananomoose 26-30 4 Responses Jul 10, 2009

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    In Love And Confused...need Help

    I am 27 years old and have been with my husband for almost 10 years.  We met in highschool and got married a little over a year ago.  He was my first real boyfriend and the love of my life. We did everything together.  We went to highschool and college...
    michaela4m michaela4m 26-30 1 Response Aug 16, 2010

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    Very

    I have been married almost 9 years.....together almost 11.  I feel my wife doesnt love me, and will honestly admit that at this point I cant say I love her
    TruePal TruePal 31-35, M 6 Responses Aug 10, 2008

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    Baby Steps On My Exit Plan Feel Good!

    When I joined this group, I was seeking understanding of my SM and wondering why I was so unhappy married to such a 'nice guy'.  This has been an excellent process for me.  It has taken a few months, but I have a greater understanding of myself and my marriage.  I understand...
    louiseshaw louiseshaw 51-55, F 5 Responses Sep 8, 2011

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    Depressed

    I am about to celebrate my 5th year wedding anniversary and I am miserable. I have a long history of depression and it is part of the reason I am writing this today. I am depressed because my husband does not give me the time of day. He is always too busy working. Work comes...
    Ginasmithgina Ginasmithgina 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 8, 2012

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    Savitri And Satyavan : An Indian Love Story

    There was a king called Ashvapati. The king had a daughter, who was so good and beautiful that she was called Sâvitri, which is the name of a sacred prayer of the Hindus. When Savitri grew old enough, her father asked her to choose a husband for herself. These ancient Indian...
    Abhih123 Abhih123 22-25, M Sep 19, 2013

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    Praying For A Better Life

    I have been with my husband for almost 8 years now and married for 5 years we have 4 children. 1 child is from a previous relationship. I'm madly in love with him and always will be but I'm so depressed. I was so happy when we were dating and then the year we got married...
    rubylips1014 rubylips1014 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 2, 2011

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    Very Depressed With My Marriage!!!

    My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now but have been together for 3 1/2. For the last couple weeks I have been feeling like he doesn't really care anymore. We don't really have a sex life, hardly ever kiss anymore, or spend much time together. Sometimes I want...
    slove0828 slove0828 22-25, F Aug 10, 2012

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    Stuggling Marriage

    I have been married almost 6 years together 9 but struggling to keep it together for over 4 years now and 2 kids later. I still love my husband but its been over for along time. I spent so much time dedicating my life trying to do everything for him to make him happy and along...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jun 26, 2013

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    Confused

    I have been married for 13 1/2 yrs, together 14 1/2. Me and my husband just stopped communicating. I cannot talk to him anymore. I cannot get over his affair with my best friend of 19 years, And I have the constant reminder of his affair because of the child he had with her. My...
    findingmyself73 findingmyself73 31-35, F 11 Responses Jul 15, 2008

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    I'm Devastated

    I've only been married for a few months. I was so happy, because my husband and I were so close-- we had such a good connection, and each of us thought we'd found our soul mate. He's a quirky guy, and he's been through a lot of hardship, a lot of death. He's struggled with...
    downsprout downsprout 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 10, 2012

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    Casting: Divorcing Couples

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    tinaeisnernews tinaeisnernews 22-25, F May 9, 2013

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    Where To Start....What To Do

    I have been married 26 years but together for 29. But the last 15 or so have been miserable. Why I stayed I have no idea! I have done some reading on things and feel that I am in an emotionally abusive and controlling relationship and when i've tried talking to him about it he...
    Cabanadoll Cabanadoll 46-50, F 1 Response Jun 13, 2013

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    Misunderstood

    Hurt and Unhappy.  This is my 4th attempt at this thing we call marriage and instead of things getting better it seems to get worst.  He says all I do is nag!! and it's true, because there is nothing else we have to talk about. If we are not disagreeing we are not talking at...
    auveal7 auveal7 46-50 3 Responses Mar 6, 2011

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    Married And Miserable

    My husband and I have been married for 1yr and 5 months, but we've been together a total of 2yrs and 5mos. Lately our marriage has been going downhill. I guess it's the stress of bills and the kids but I still feel like none of that should take a toll on our marriage. We no...
    cutestuff2011 cutestuff2011 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 19, 2011

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    Struggleing

    Not sure where to start, we have neen married for 19 years. After the honeymoon phase was over the affection started to just stop. It has been a very difficult marrage but our daughter is now a senior in high school. My wife has always had a very short fuse, I think many of her...
    leftyferg leftyferg 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 25, 2013

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    My Marriage Life..

    Hello everyone.. Let me introduce as "depressed wife" rather than a happy life.Like all other girls, i too had many dreams.. A dream college. A dream job.. A dream guy.. A dream sweet home.. A dream life all together..But i was unaware that all my dreams would be shattered in...
    thanmaya thanmaya 22-25 3 Responses Jan 20, 2011

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    Savitri And Satyavan : An Indian Love Story

    There was a king called Ashvapati. The king had a daughter, who was so good and beautiful that she was called Sâvitri, which is the name of a sacred prayer of the Hindus. When Savitri grew old enough, her father asked her to choose a husband for herself. These ancient Indian...
    Abhih123 Abhih123 22-25, M Sep 19, 2013

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    Burned Out

    My wife Married 11 years) used to be fun, and we had a lot of good times together.  She got a promotion a 4 years ago and now spends all her time with her job.  She recently took a new job which allows her to work from home occasionally, but apparently being late having...
    Jamesd1030 Jamesd1030 36-40 4 Responses Oct 22, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    I have been married 8 years and been together with my wife for a total of 18 years. we had 2 small kids. for the past 4-5 years, we have not been working on our marriage but...
    needtotalk37 needtotalk37 36-40, M 4 Responses Apr 1

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    I don't even know what to say. I love my family - they are my family. But they make me so unhappy at the same time. I want to walk out the door but I know that will hurt them...
    iamsumwun2 iamsumwun2 31-35, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    My husband has definitely got a split personality. One minute he ignores me for weeks, doesn't support me or encourage me to do anything. I do everything for him. Then all off a...
    olivia2807 olivia2807 31-35, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    Is marriage about the acceptance of one's character and personality or a requirement for change? I am not getting along with my partner because he finds me too 'strong'. Is it that...
    anatriza anatriza 36-40, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    I have only been married 3 months and I'm confused why things have changed. My husband has completely turned into someone else. He used to want to spend every minute with me and...
    writer4ever writer4ever 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 9

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    My idea of marriage and the reality of it (for me) are so far off the mark that I don't consider myself to be married. Is that weird? Maybe it should be ended. I may or may not...
    elizabeth111 elizabeth111 46-50, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I dnt know we're to start but everyday deep inside im not happy with my husband anymore..Emotionaly he hurt me so badly..Tormented my heart.I need some advice please .I cant take...
    lonelylady2985 lonelylady2985 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    I just wanted to say that for everyone who is struggling with this question and situation to read "Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay" by Mira Kirshenbaum. It is a positive book...
    adelaider adelaider 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 2

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    is anyone else in the same place, with lack of intimacy, caring and understanding......must be me ? you think? hmmmmm would love to find someone online or off to share all with...
    californiablue californiablue 61-65, M 1 Response Apr 12

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    My husband is so deficult to be with. He always thinks I'm cheating. I don't have any friends I don't see my family like once a year if that. We've been together 15 years. I've...
    Hatemelife Hatemelife 41-45, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    same here..I too have the same thing...my husband is highly egoistic......we lack intimacy,caring,understanding..every now and then we end up fighting.... once I was writing...
    needemotionalsupport needemotionalsupport 22-25, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    My husband and I are in our 60's and just married 7 months ago. We had sex exactly 3 times the first two weeks we were married and now NOTHING. He even nudges me away if I try to...
    Blondeartist444 Blondeartist444 61-65, F 3 Responses Apr 7

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    Dear dear husband: I want to leave but I can't for three main reasons. The public humiliation. My religion. Our daughter. Those three things are why I am not free to live happily...
    queenCupcakes queenCupcakes 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 14

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    Very unhappily married and no sex now for 9yrs ! I told my husband we need to decide once we sale the house the route of our marriage I told him we can stay friends since we have...
    Unhappilylonely Unhappilylonely 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 4

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    I am in love with a married man. Please no harsh judgements and just hear my side of the story. I am 21 years old (he is 45) and in college I met a guy 3.5 months ago and on our...
    sava1993 sava1993 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    Why does the act of making a legal contract between a man and a woman make us such deceivers in our relationships beforehand? Is it because we think no one will marry us if we are...
    Phat4Ever Phat4Ever 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 9

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    I'm not sure what's worst. Me feeling **** and depressed with bad thoughts. Or. My dad feeling this way
    hayzkid hayzkid 13-15, F Apr 6

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    Unhappy. I am very unhappy. Today, I realized how messed up my life is. My best friend doesn't even give a **** about me. My friends insult me endlessly. No one actually really...
    imamelonslut1954 imamelonslut1954 13-15, F 58 mins ago

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    As the title says...I recently fell in love with someone. Sparkles are in the air. He woos me and my feet is off the ground. I feel so excited to see him. Even talking to him gives...
    sleeplessin sleeplessin 31-35, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    Part 2: the warning signs The changes really started to happen in November. We had a vacation planned. On the vacation we did it 2 times, would have only been once but I yapped at...
    unexpectedlove15 unexpectedlove15 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 30

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    Illusions That Kept Me Trapped in Sexless Marriage If you read my first EP story, you will get the impression that the sexlessness started with the conception of my child 4 years...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 6 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    My wife and I haven't had sex for 15 years now - it's both our faults, mine as much as hers, if not more. She had two difficult pregnancies, and one of our children was born with a...
    jamespople jamespople 51-55, M 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    For those staying in miserable sexless marriages "for the sake of the kids": "On Monday, one Redditor grappling with that very question went straight to the source, asking those...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 12 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Ive been married for 13 y. And Ive been living in a sexless marriage for the past 4 or 5 maybe more. We have three kids and there was always an excuse for not having sex with...
    aking1973 aking1973 41-45, M 12 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I have been married for 10 years and have three children with my wife. The last 2-3 years have not been enjoyable. I can't say that is due to any one incident or event, so my...
    canadiankid26 canadiankid26 36-40, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm a little bit tired of sexlessness one-up-manship that's been taking place in this forum recently. We haven't had sex in 15 months.... Reply: that's nothing We've had sex...
    elkclan elkclan 41-45, F 22 Responses 1 day ago

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