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I Am Unhappy and Depressed With My Marriage

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    Married And Miserable

    My husband and I have been married for 1yr and 5 months, but we've been together a total of 2yrs and 5mos. Lately our marriage has been going downhill. I guess it's the stress of bills and the kids but I still feel like none of that should take a toll on our marriage. We no...
    cutestuff2011 cutestuff2011 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 19, 2011

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    Confused

    I have been married for 13 1/2 yrs, together 14 1/2. Me and my husband just stopped communicating. I cannot talk to him anymore. I cannot get over his affair with my best friend of 19 years, And I have the constant reminder of his affair because of the child he had with her. My...
    findingmyself73 findingmyself73 31-35, F 11 Responses Jul 15, 2008

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    Lonely Marriage

    I'm so lonely in my marriage. My husband would rather look at his computer then talk to me. About two years ago, it looked like we had some hope but I'm not sure we ever have a chance of really connecting. We don't fight, there's just no connection, no love. I'm thinking that...
    Coll78 Coll78 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 8, 2009

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    Casting: Divorcing Couples

    Are you ready to put your divorce behind you and start a fresh life? Do you and your soon to be ex, need help dividing up your significant assets amicably? Cornwell Casting and Engel Entertainment are looking for ‘wealthy’ couples with many assets in the NYC/NJ/CT area, Los...
    tinaeisnernews tinaeisnernews 22-25, F 1 Response May 9, 2013

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    So Confused..

    My husband and I have only been married for about 5 months. Together 4 years with two beautiful daughters. He is honestly the only man I ever loved. He helped me get through some very hard times in my life and maybe that's why I'm so attached to him. We are both only 20. We...
    lizgill lizgill 18-21, F 2 Responses May 12, 2013

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    Misunderstood

    Hurt and Unhappy.  This is my 4th attempt at this thing we call marriage and instead of things getting better it seems to get worst.  He says all I do is nag!! and it's true, because there is nothing else we have to talk about. If we are not disagreeing we are not talking at...
    auveal7 auveal7 46-50 3 Responses Mar 6, 2011

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    Where To Start....What To Do

    I have been married 26 years but together for 29. But the last 15 or so have been miserable. Why I stayed I have no idea! I have done some reading on things and feel that I am in an emotionally abusive and controlling relationship and when i've tried talking to him about it he...
    Cabanadoll Cabanadoll 51-55, F 1 Response Jun 13, 2013

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    Baby Steps On My Exit Plan Feel Good!

    When I joined this group, I was seeking understanding of my SM and wondering why I was so unhappy married to such a 'nice guy'.  This has been an excellent process for me.  It has taken a few months, but I have a greater understanding of myself and my marriage.  I understand...
    louiseshaw louiseshaw 51-55, F 5 Responses Sep 8, 2011

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    Depressed

    I am about to celebrate my 5th year wedding anniversary and I am miserable. I have a long history of depression and it is part of the reason I am writing this today. I am depressed because my husband does not give me the time of day. He is always too busy working. Work comes...
    Ginasmithgina Ginasmithgina 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 8, 2012

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    Marriage Depression

    My husband and I have been married for 11 years . Through our marriage I have dealt with his stupidity . Moving his mom in our house without asking and then she disrespected me in my own home. He took out loans and lied,and a whole lot of other things to much to describe. I am...
    1 Response Jan 21, 2013

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    My Marriage Life..

    Hello everyone.. Let me introduce as "depressed wife" rather than a happy life.Like all other girls, i too had many dreams.. A dream college. A dream job.. A dream guy.. A dream sweet home.. A dream life all together..But i was unaware that all my dreams would be shattered in...
    thanmaya thanmaya 22-25 3 Responses Jan 20, 2011

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    Burned Out

    My wife Married 11 years) used to be fun, and we had a lot of good times together.  She got a promotion a 4 years ago and now spends all her time with her job.  She recently took a new job which allows her to work from home occasionally, but apparently being late having...
    Jamesd1030 Jamesd1030 36-40 4 Responses Oct 22, 2010

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    Very

    I have been married almost 9 years.....together almost 11.  I feel my wife doesnt love me, and will honestly admit that at this point I cant say I love her
    TruePal TruePal 31-35, M 6 Responses Aug 10, 2008

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    Marriage Sucks!

    I think part of my problem is that I just really don't like being married. I have been married for almost three years now. I've questioned my decision for at least two and a half of them. Since then, there aren't many days that go by where I don't imagine what my...
    ananomoose ananomoose 26-30 4 Responses Jul 10, 2009

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    Praying For A Better Life

    I have been with my husband for almost 8 years now and married for 5 years we have 4 children. 1 child is from a previous relationship. I'm madly in love with him and always will be but I'm so depressed. I was so happy when we were dating and then the year we got married...
    rubylips1014 rubylips1014 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 2, 2011

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    In Love And Confused...need Help

    I am 27 years old and have been with my husband for almost 10 years.  We met in highschool and got married a little over a year ago.  He was my first real boyfriend and the love of my life. We did everything together.  We went to highschool and college...
    michaela4m michaela4m 26-30 1 Response Aug 16, 2010

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    Savitri And Satyavan : An Indian Love Story

    There was a king called Ashvapati. The king had a daughter, who was so good and beautiful that she was called Sâvitri, which is the name of a sacred prayer of the Hindus. When Savitri grew old enough, her father asked her to choose a husband for herself. These ancient Indian...
    Abhih123 Abhih123 22-25, M Sep 19, 2013

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    So Unsure

    I feel so unsure about my marriage, my wife and I have only been married a year and three months we've been together for three years. We rarely ever have sex anymore. She doesn't wear her rings anymore, she says they don't fit anymore. She has gained some weight since we got...
    gazrael gazrael 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 3, 2013

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    Hope For Success

    I was married for 13 yrs the first time, then briefly a 2nd and 3rd time...this is my 4th marriage. I've been married this time around so far for 1 and 1/2 yrs and even though I know that we are still getting used to each other, I do worry about whether it will really last. I...
    help40 help40 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 22, 2013

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    I'm a newly wed and I should have known

    that we're going to have problems right off the bat. Especially that she has depression and eating disorders. Lately, she's been irritated and taking my words the wrong way. I feel like I'm walking on egg shells and every thing I say is hurtful towards her. She's so sensitive...
    xlostcause xlostcause 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 31

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    Struggleing

    Not sure where to start, we have neen married for 19 years. After the honeymoon phase was over the affection started to just stop. It has been a very difficult marrage but our daughter is now a senior in high school. My wife has always had a very short fuse, I think many of her...
    leftyferg leftyferg 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 25, 2013

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    Stuggling Marriage

    I have been married almost 6 years together 9 but struggling to keep it together for over 4 years now and 2 kids later. I still love my husband but its been over for along time. I spent so much time dedicating my life trying to do everything for him to make him happy and along...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jun 26, 2013

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    Not Sure What To Do Anymore

    My husband and I have been married 5 months together 7 years. We have a beautiful son together. On my birthday this past may I got a DUI. First time ever getting into trouble. My husband is in the army and left a week before my birthday. Well I moved in with in June. But ever...
    Evelyn90 Evelyn90 22-25, F Sep 18, 2013

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    Savitri And Satyavan : An Indian Love Story

    There was a king called Ashvapati. The king had a daughter, who was so good and beautiful that she was called Sâvitri, which is the name of a sacred prayer of the Hindus. When Savitri grew old enough, her father asked her to choose a husband for herself. These ancient Indian...
    Abhih123 Abhih123 22-25, M Sep 19, 2013

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    Terrified And Depressed

    It's getting harder and harder for me to eat, sleep, or work. My wife and I keep going to counseling, but I don't feel like she's trying, she doesn't seem to want to be there, and she barely acknowledges me when I'm home. I give her a heartfelt good morning and get a snippy "hi...
    Rb5397 Rb5397 46-50, M Aug 1, 2013

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    Depressed

    I am about to celebrate my 5th year wedding anniversary and I am miserable. I have a long history of depression and it is part of the reason I am writing this today. I am depressed because my husband does not give me the time of day. He is always too busy working. Work comes...
    Ginasmithgina Ginasmithgina 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 8, 2012

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    I'm Devastated

    I've only been married for a few months. I was so happy, because my husband and I were so close-- we had such a good connection, and each of us thought we'd found our soul mate. He's a quirky guy, and he's been through a lot of hardship, a lot of death. He's struggled with...
    downsprout downsprout 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 10, 2012

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    Very Depressed With My Marriage!!!

    My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now but have been together for 3 1/2. For the last couple weeks I have been feeling like he doesn't really care anymore. We don't really have a sex life, hardly ever kiss anymore, or spend much time together. Sometimes I want...
    slove0828 slove0828 22-25, F Aug 10, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    Sorry, this is awfully long! I'm a married mother of two little boys - two little treasures who make my heart soar with every kiss, every pudgy hand-hold, and every time I hug...
    Wonderloon Wonderloon 31-35, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have been married for 8 years now and my wife and I have a beautiful 4 year old daughter who we both cherish. My wife is a kind, loving woman who loves me and our daughter and...
    Jeremy0121 Jeremy0121 31-35, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Nobody around me knows how unhappy my marriage is. I keep this secret like another weight added to my shoulders . I have nobody to talk to about how I feel and what I could do . My...
    piscean1965 piscean1965 46-50, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    Solitairediamond posted a phrase basically saying doing things out of duty depletes you, while doing them out of love energizes you. While I agree to an extent with her thoughts...
    lonelyguy375 lonelyguy375 46-50, M 2 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    I feel I can not carry this burden of sadness any longer,my marriage has been lonely for so long.My husband and I had not been intimate for years he did not approach me avoided and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Sep 5

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    Tomorrow is our 8th anniversary. I haven't gotten my husband anything yet. Our marriage is a mess, to say the least. Two years ago he FORGOT our anniversary, and I was...
    wasguzie wasguzie 41-45, F 10 Responses Aug 28

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    My heart and my head are so confused..I feel like someone is dying but it's my marriage.. And I have be the one to pull the plug with extremely shaky hands.
    kathryn30 kathryn30 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 31

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    New to all of this. Help please I feel like my marriage is falling apart and I don't know what to do. My husband and I have been married for 9 years and have been together for 10...
    hopeful1220 hopeful1220 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 1

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    He up and quit his job today. We have a 19 month old and he just goes and quits. I'm so mad and worried. I am so close to wanting to call it quits with my marriage.
    MegMichelle29 MegMichelle29 26-30, F 5 Responses Sep 2

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    For everyone who may be unhappily married please do not give up or lose hope. If you are in the UK I have the perfect opportunity for you it's called the "Love School Event...
    dannirsj dannirsj 18-21 Sep 9

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    I read an article recently about the turning point people had that defined the end of their marriage. I am not saying this is the last straw, but certainly adding to the pile. My...
    runnfree runnfree 36-40, M 4 Responses Sep 10

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    I have been married for 6 months now and it just seems like nothing ever goes right. My husband and I should still be in our honeymoon stage but it seems like we are so far apart...
    lonelygirl3355 lonelygirl3355 31-35, F 8 Responses Sep 12

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    Maybe I made my decision too fast. I met my husband last summer and started dating 3 months later. He gave me a proposal in last December and I said "Yes"... He sort of begged me...
    Saya0414 Saya0414 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 12

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    Ive been married for 35 yrs and i have endured 2 affairs (that im aware of) i feel like i have been beyond stupid, blind. I now wish i had left yrs ago when all this came about...
    three4clarin three4clarin 51-55, F 3 Responses Aug 23

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    I am living in a separated situation with my abuser/ refuser / Narcissistic husband ( on paper only ) sleep in seperate rooms Do nothing together. In fact he ignores me, neglects...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 5 Responses Sep 12

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    So....hubby did and said all the right things last night. Dinner at my favorite restaurant, bottle of wine, walk on the beach. At home, I surprised him with new sexy lingerie...
    Bikinigardener Bikinigardener 46-50, F 12 Responses 5 days ago

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    My wife asked me to make a peach cobbler tonight. I'm more then happy to make a treat, however I told her that she would have to sit in the kitchen with me and keep me company...
    LifeinWoodinville LifeinWoodinville 41-45, M 15 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm new to this forum and normally don't sign up these sort of things but I needed a place to vent. I'm a 31 female who has been with my significant other for 14 years. I have been...
    Fedup31 Fedup31 31-35, F 4 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Wife joins Facebook , posts pictures of her family, our kids but none of me. Even forgets to put she's married. Says I'm too touchy and it's not deliberate. Am I wrong to feel...
    piscean1965 piscean1965 46-50, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    So tonight is my wife's first attempt at scheduling a date night on her own in months and first since our recent round of struggles. So far, no plan in place. Vague reference to...
    lonelyguy375 lonelyguy375 46-50, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    There are truths behind these funny quotes....To the singles, would you still wanna take the plunge on marriage? ***I never married because there was no need. I have three pets at...
    0nOpalsMind 0nOpalsMind 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 9

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    I always thought that I am an unemotional person who doesn't get too sad or depressed with whatever happens. But, recently all this changed with an incident where I hurt a person...
    AGuyTurnedOptimist AGuyTurnedOptimist 22-25, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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