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I Am Unhappy In My Marriage And Don't Know What To Do

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    Going on 8 years and i am 26 years young

    and hes 30 years old. Ever since he started a new physically hard job last june from an easy peasy sales one our sex life has plummeted. hes "too tired" all the time. i am a SAHM with two little ones and yes id like nit to feel so alone all the time. ive been loyal to a fault...
    LoveRemedy LoveRemedy 26-30, T 1 Response Feb 6

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    Nearly 26 years married,

    last child has left the nest... I'm bored with a man who is happy watching TV and going to bed at 8 o'clock...well do I just settle or make way to the door...ugh!
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 23

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    I've been married for 3 years now,

    and i dont know how to be happy again, i miss the idea of having a husband i love and who loves me too, i want to talk to him and work out our problems, but he wont listen He says we are ok, but keeps being rude to me and i cant love him anymore I'm just depressed now
    Liz890 Liz890 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 5

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    My heart and my head are

    so confused..I feel like someone is dying but it's my marriage.. And I have be the one to pull the plug with extremely shaky hands.
    kathryn30 kathryn30 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 31, 2014

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    Society has long become more open to the idea

    of older man - younger woman relationship and older woman - younger man relationship as well. Hollywood has brought in the practice of successful older men looking for younger women. With actresses such as Catherine Zeta Jones marrying Michael Douglas with an age gap of 25 years...
    sarahcc11 sarahcc11 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 26

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    FFFFFFFFUUUUUUUUCCCCCCCKKKKKKK I HATE MY WIFE!

    !!! Wow, that feels better. What a deceitful, hurtful, miserable thing I got attached to.
    sparksearcher sparksearcher 41-45, M 2 Responses Jan 22

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    Unhappy Marriage Please Help

    Hi, OK so this is my second marriage, first one was great was with him 10 years and had 3 daughters with him and he wanted me all the time sexually and was very romantic, flowers every month and surprise gifts, nights out, etc.... he went screwball (brain tumors) turned out he...
    gobbalino gobbalino 31-35, F 6 Responses Jul 19, 2012

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    I am no longer sure if I still am in love with

    him or just comfortable and love him like a bestfriend. If I leave him I don't have much family and the ones I have I'm not really close to. We have a 3 yr old and a 1 week old. I don't want a custody fight. And he has said he wants the kids if we divorce. We fight alot and he...
    kclayne kclayne 18-21, F 7 Responses Mar 11

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    It was a Tuesday, I think…maybe a Thursday I

    can’t remember. At the time, I was content with where I was in life. Single…healthy, happy, no debt, free to live life as I chose. I seem to recall being lonely from time to time, but my travels far and near kept me from noticing too much. A very close friend mentioned that...
    1StateAway 1StateAway 36-40, M 4 Responses May 5

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    I have no where to go.

    No one who cares. I have a health issue that keeps me from being able to work and support myself. I'm forced to be dependent but my husband is horrible and I want a divorce but unfortunately need him for a place to stay. I have no where else to go and absolutely no one in my...
    UnfulfilledMe UnfulfilledMe 31-35, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    I've been with my husband

    for 5 years now we dated for 3 months before I got pregnant lately I've been feeling like I don't make him happy anymore he is always angry, tired, and easily gets frustrated with our toddlers in the beginning he was so loving and nurturing always wanting to do thing together...
    armijo2w armijo2w 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 31

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    I need to find happiness.

    Anyone know how and where ?.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 18

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    So I have talked to my husband about feeling

    our marrige is in trouble, his reaction was, "I understand if you wanna leave. I am not a bad husband." He seems like he has started to try more since then but I checked his phone history and found a lot of personal adds for women seeking men. I have caught him looking at them...
    BabyDoll23p BabyDoll23p 22-25, F 11 Responses May 16

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    I have a good family,

    with a wonderful wife and two beautiful boys. But sometimes, I can't help wondering how much she really loves me? Both my wife and I love our two boys, a lot! She is a great mom, who wants to give everything to the boys. But for a long time now, I rarely feel the love between us...
    oldmonkeyxu oldmonkeyxu 31-35, M 2 Responses Apr 4

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    I've been married for almost seven years now,

    together for closer to ten. We have two wonderful children, both of which are loved. I feel like I should be happy in my marriage, but I'm not. My spouse is wonderful, goes out of her way to make sure that I'm well taken care of but I'm still not happy. We are of two...
    enjoymentofquiet enjoymentofquiet 31-35, M 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I need advice please!

    ! So i have been married for 3 years and have a dauther so separating is not that easy, and bot what i want So... Im upset about my marriage, a lot And my husband knows this, because i have explained this many times And no, i dont think its bacause im asking for too much, or...
    Liz890 Liz890 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 13

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    I have been married for five years,

    and have been unhappy for most of it. I want to leave, but we have a child together, and I don't want to ruin that child's life. My husband hasn't been interested in sex for four years. He doesn't seem to like me and is always putting me down in front of our child and other...
    np1106 np1106 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 5, 2014

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    I've been married for 4 years now

    and I'm so unhappy my husband would rather play video games and smoke pot can spend time with me. he sleeps in bed with me maybe 3 times a month other than that he sleeps on this chair in the living room. he stays up half the night playing his video games and smoking and thinks...
    lonelyandconfusedwife2015 lonelyandconfusedwife2015 26-30, F 5 Responses May 6

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    I am increasingly unsatisfied sexually,

    and I just don't know what to do. He does nothing to get me turned on (he just says "play with yourself" or "get it wet") and I just feel... I don't know what I feel. Bored? Fed up? I have so many kinks and fantasies and he seems unable to fill a single one. I'm not solely...
    missstarrysky missstarrysky 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 17, 2014

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    Never Marry A Divorced Man With Kids.....

    I thought I knew the man I married; loving, caring, sensitive. When we first met we were just friends. I already had a stigma for the situation that he was in, divorced with two kids (one his, one not).  I was 30 and had come out of a long term abusive engagement. I was relieved...
    Kozpac Kozpac 31-35 30 Responses Feb 9, 2011

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    So Valentine's Day came

    and went. It was a nice day...breakfast in bed...sweet gifts. Received my first lingerie gift ever from my man of 15 years. Tried it on two times. Took it off and went to bed. Yes, that's how my night ended. Bizarre? You tell me. I tried.
    SexyMomma37 SexyMomma37 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 16

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    I feel so alone in my marriage.

    Last weekend I was off and had made plans to meet friends at a show - I know everyone playing in the band, and several folks buying tickets. I had planned for two weeks to go. Alone. I promised my husband I would work on *us* and so I made special efforts to spend time with...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 6 Responses Apr 4

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    Gws1269 Gws1269 41-45, M 3 Responses Apr 14

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    I've been married for 14 years

    and finally left him and was gone for 2 years until he got sick and went into the hospital then I went to be by his side and now I don't know how to get out again.
    gina1970 gina1970 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 13

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    vanessacc11 vanessacc11 26-30, F Jan 4

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    First off I am not someone to join a forum like

    this I usually keep things private, but I am interested in other peoples views especially women. I am a married man with 2 kids & even though I still love my wife I am seriously starting to doubt if the feeling is mutual. I don't want to come on here & put her down because she...
    Henjo24 Henjo24 31-35, M 7 Responses Oct 9, 2014

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    I have been with my husband

    for 32years, married for 25 of those years. I'm so unhappy I want to scream! We have tried counseling, several times. I have tried to talk to him a hundred time I have cried I have screamed I have begged Always same answer from him "I'll have to do better" Truth is I really do...
    zamaja3 zamaja3 51-55, F 2 Responses May 17, 2014

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    I'm the type of person

    who rather bottle stuff up then deal with it at the time or talk to ppl about things bc i dont like ppl knowing my business plus when i get into my feelings i get into my mad mood for letting someone upset me so much that i get loud anf then sad lol so this may be better lol...
    ashleynichole25 ashleynichole25 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 5

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    Newly Misery

    I recently got married with my long time boyfriend of 10 years. So far it's been nothing but arguments. He doesn't respect me. I try to do everything I can to be a good wife but all he cares about it's his family. He can be very rude and it doesn't even bother him that he hurts...
    Jj6116 Jj6116 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2012

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    I am so unhappy. There is no love between my

    husband and I. He insults me even in front of others. We do not enjoy any of the same activities. We rarely spend time together. We fight daily, mostly because he is always on edge and I can't talk to him. He is rude and confrontational about everything. The only reason we are...
    holeforheart holeforheart 31-35, F 3 Responses May 3

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    Nothing makes him happy.

    Even when things seem to be going his way there are always other reasons to complain.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 22

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    I grew up in a happy family,

    my parents loved each other so much; they still do, I have always longed for someone who respected and loved me that much. My husband is so against marriage I cant seem to understand why he married me, when I ask him he says he married me to make me happy because I believe in...
    TheDeadRose3 TheDeadRose3 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 10

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    Ugh! I hate Valentine's Day.

    Every year he justifies not doing anything for me by saying this holiday is bogus and made up by big companies to get consumers to spend money. Every year I do something special for him, or get him a gift, knowing I will get nothing in return. It's not all about spending money...
    Geekmom007 Geekmom007 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 14

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    he only reaches put to me

    when he needs something, when there are errands to be run, when he's troubled, sad, problematic. when he's happy, who does he call? who does he share it with? im not your errand girl. im your wife.
    muymuyb muymuyb 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 1, 2014

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    I'm living in a loveless marriage

    and don't know how I'm going to continue for 9 more years. I can't be without my kids so divorce isn't an option. She has turned so sour on me and has no interest in changing that. She has had at least an emotional affair with another man and I think that she resents me even...
    sparksearcher sparksearcher 41-45, M 4 Responses Jan 15

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    How Do You Leave When He Is Sick?

    I've been married 11 years and have two beautiful children (5 & 7). You would think I could be happy just because my kids are happy and healthy but I want...more. My husband was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis 6 years ago and has become a shell of a person. He sleeps for...
    natashasonja natashasonja 36-40, F 17 Responses May 4, 2012

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    What Do I Do?

    It's been two years of mess. Up and down the emotional roller coaster with my husband. What to do? I don't know. He wants me to say I'm ready to work on our marriage, and I can't. I don't feel like doing anything with our relationship right now. I've been working hard to keep it...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 14, 2013

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    My wife and I have been married

    for 34 years now. There's been so many times where she withdraws from me and expects me to pull her back all the time. If I feel withdrawn, she just draws further away. When you look at successful men in this world, I guarantee you will find a wife that is openly supportive and...
    Carpenterman Carpenterman 51-55, M 2 Responses Mar 7

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    My wife and I had a good talk today.

    She told me one of her friends is getting divorced, largely due to her (female) friend's infidelity towards their husband. Their marriage is pretty young, and they do have children. The children have made things difficult enough for them to be intimate, it seems, and the...
    onlymortal onlymortal 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 15

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    Well, I've been married

    for 17 years! To a man that is cold, cruel and calculating! I'm not afraid to leave because I can make it on my own financially! We have children! Every time I look in their faces I feel that it would be selfish for me to leave and disrupt their life. On the other hand it's...
    17Rachel 17Rachel 41-45, F 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    Anniversary Blues

    So today is my wedding anniversary and I sign up for EP. Funny, yet sad. Is this really my life? How did I end up married, but feel like I have never been in love? Makes me wretch at the thought of anyone wishing me a happy day today.
    Vadne Vadne 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 8, 2013

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    And So I Left

    Picking up the pieces, taking it day by day. I know that if you want something in life, through optimism and hard work, many things can be achieved. I have a lot of discovering to do, of myself, my children, what is best for us. I left my spouse and went to the city. The city to...
    MissingBoston MissingBoston 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 7, 2013

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    It's not that I don't love my wife

    and son. I can't imagine my life without them. I still feel very confined, however, by the social and legal pressures that come with having a traditional family. I never thought of myself as a family man, and for most of my dating life, made it clear that all things were a...
    onlymortal onlymortal 26-30, M 1 Response Jan 31

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    In A Relationship, Married Or Not... You Should Read This!

    When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a...
    deepness deepness 22-25, F 7 Responses Apr 9, 2011

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