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I Am Unhappy In My Marriage And Don't Know What To Do

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    I have been married for a little over 10 years

    and have been miserable for about 9 of it. I have 2 beautiful girls both under the age of 10 whom I love to the moon and back. After I had my first child I gained a lot of weight. My husband told me during an argument one night that I should lose some effin weight. Since then he...
    Sweettch33 Sweettch33 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 25, 2015

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    I notice myself gradually isolating myself from

    my family. I love them all, but I feel like a guest in my own home. The lack of everything from my wife has put a considerable dent in my excitement to be with them. I work a lot so I can provide but when I am home there is a loneliness I feel. Maybe it's the lack of empathy...
    incognito21 incognito21 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 5, 2015

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    I need some advice. Last winter I caught my

    husband in a stream of lies. While I was pregnant with our second child he was communicating with a "female friend". This communication was going on for at least 6 months, he claims nothing physical happened. However, since then things have gone down hill. He doesn't show me any...
    lilone2306 lilone2306 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 17, 2015

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    Somedays i just feel like leaving

    and never returning.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 15, 2015

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    I feel so alone in my marriage.

    Last weekend I was off and had made plans to meet friends at a show - I know everyone playing in the band, and several folks buying tickets. I had planned for two weeks to go. Alone. I promised my husband I would work on *us* and so I made special efforts to spend time with...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 6 Responses Apr 4, 2015

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    I ve been unhappy for a long time.

    I just need someone to talk to.
    mhbb2 mhbb2 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 7, 2015

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    Newly Misery

    I recently got married with my long time boyfriend of 10 years. So far it's been nothing but arguments. He doesn't respect me. I try to do everything I can to be a good wife but all he cares about it's his family. He can be very rude and it doesn't even bother him that he hurts...
    Jj6116 Jj6116 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2012

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    I have been with my husband

    for 32years, married for 25 of those years. I'm so unhappy I want to scream! We have tried counseling, several times. I have tried to talk to him a hundred time I have cried I have screamed I have begged Always same answer from him "I'll have to do better" Truth is I really do...
    zamaja3 zamaja3 56-60, F 2 Responses May 17, 2014

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    My heart and my head are

    so confused..I feel like someone is dying but it's my marriage.. And I have be the one to pull the plug with extremely shaky hands.
    kathryn30 kathryn30 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 31, 2014

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    How to you speak to a person

    who constantly contradicts you? No matter how small or minor the topic of conversation is, my spouse automatically contradicts me. Then he wonders why I don't speak to him. He will say, "How come you are so quiet?" and I'm honest with him, I say, "Because you constantly...
    mom4ce mom4ce 51-55, F 5 Responses Aug 12, 2015

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    So I've been having problems in my four years

    relationship. Recently I allowed myself to be caught up in someone I work with. I was going to leave my so for him. Today I realized that trying to end the relationship is screwing up everything. finances, transportation, outside appts, everything so I told him I'm not ready...
    mhbb2 mhbb2 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 21, 2015

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    I've been with my wife

    for 8 years, married for 5 years and we have a two year old little boy. We are so different from each other, she's not a good communicator & I love long engaging conversations.... She's not interested in sex & I really miss intimacy.... She's uptight & moody and I'm relaxed...
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 2, 2015

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    my s/o and I are going to counseling.

    The next session will be our second together. I am putting everything on this. It is our last hope.
    mhbb2 mhbb2 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 8, 2015

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    I'm the type of person

    who rather bottle stuff up then deal with it at the time or talk to ppl about things bc i dont like ppl knowing my business plus when i get into my feelings i get into my mad mood for letting someone upset me so much that i get loud anf then sad lol so this may be better lol...
    ashleynichole25 ashleynichole25 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 5, 2015

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    It isn't just hollywood.

    My great grandfather's first wife died when he was about 60. He remarried a woman in her 20s who recently divorced her first husband and had two kids. He raised a second family with her and one of those children was my grandmother. He died when she was about 20. So, he had to be...
    Mossonarock Mossonarock 41-45, M Aug 11, 2015

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    Talk about stress and just itching

    for a fight all the time..
    Filam Filam 31-35, F Jun 24, 2015

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    And So I Left

    Picking up the pieces, taking it day by day. I know that if you want something in life, through optimism and hard work, many things can be achieved. I have a lot of discovering to do, of myself, my children, what is best for us. I left my spouse and went to the city. The city to...
    MissingBoston MissingBoston 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 7, 2013

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    I am so unhappy. There is no love between my

    husband and I. He insults me even in front of others. We do not enjoy any of the same activities. We rarely spend time together. We fight daily, mostly because he is always on edge and I can't talk to him. He is rude and confrontational about everything. The only reason we are...
    holeforheart holeforheart 36-40, F 3 Responses May 3, 2015

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    I've been married for 3 years now,

    and i dont know how to be happy again, i miss the idea of having a husband i love and who loves me too, i want to talk to him and work out our problems, but he wont listen He says we are ok, but keeps being rude to me and i cant love him anymore I'm just depressed now
    Liz890 Liz890 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 5, 2015

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    I am constantly going back

    and forth on whether or not to get a divorce. I am just so confused and he is never home or available to talk too about it.
    peanutbrat94 peanutbrat94 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 26, 2015

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    I've been married for almost seven years now,

    together for closer to ten. We have two wonderful children, both of which are loved. I feel like I should be happy in my marriage, but I'm not. My spouse is wonderful, goes out of her way to make sure that I'm well taken care of but I'm still not happy. We are of two...
    enjoymentofquiet enjoymentofquiet 31-35, M 3 Responses May 26, 2015

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    I have been married for 13 years .

    I have one child. We have certainly had our ups and downs but always pulled through against all odds when I really thought I couldn't take anymore . Our problems have always been financial ! Some of these problems were due to making stupid decisions and some because of being...
    debra86 debra86 51-55, M 1 Response Aug 25, 2015

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    I've been married for 4 years now

    and I'm so unhappy my husband would rather play video games and smoke pot can spend time with me. he sleeps in bed with me maybe 3 times a month other than that he sleeps on this chair in the living room. he stays up half the night playing his video games and smoking and thinks...
    lonelyandconfusedwife2015 lonelyandconfusedwife2015 31-35, F 6 Responses May 6, 2015

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    I work 40+ hours a week.

    I have a 7 year old son who I just adore and spend as much possible time as I can with. I also have a beautiful wife of 11 years. The problem is, I feel as though I am not appreciated by my wife. Let me say this, my wife is an amazing mother. She dotes on our boy and balances...
    willt992 willt992 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 19, 2015

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    I need to find happiness.

    Anyone know how and where ?.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 18, 2015

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    Anniversary Blues

    So today is my wedding anniversary and I sign up for EP. Funny, yet sad. Is this really my life? How did I end up married, but feel like I have never been in love? Makes me wretch at the thought of anyone wishing me a happy day today.
    Vadne Vadne 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 8, 2013

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    Gws1269 Gws1269 46-50, M 3 Responses Apr 14, 2015

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    I was recently in a awful relationship

    for 12 years with my girls Dad. i just remarried and will be married a year here soon. when we first met he was the perfect guy. After we married and i moved two hours away from my family he changed. he has a company that i have helped with. I do a lot for his company. He could...
    LynWV0406 LynWV0406 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 24, 2015

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    How Do You Leave When He Is Sick?

    I've been married 11 years and have two beautiful children (5 & 7). You would think I could be happy just because my kids are happy and healthy but I want...more. My husband was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis 6 years ago and has become a shell of a person. He sleeps for...
    natashasonja natashasonja 36-40, F 17 Responses May 4, 2012

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    Unhappy Marriage Please Help

    Hi, OK so this is my second marriage, first one was great was with him 10 years and had 3 daughters with him and he wanted me all the time sexually and was very romantic, flowers every month and surprise gifts, nights out, etc.... he went screwball (brain tumors) turned out he...
    gobbalino gobbalino 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 19, 2012

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    It's not that I don't love my wife

    and son. I can't imagine my life without them. I still feel very confined, however, by the social and legal pressures that come with having a traditional family. I never thought of myself as a family man, and for most of my dating life, made it clear that all things were a...
    onlymortal onlymortal 26-30, M 2 Responses Jan 31, 2015

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    What Do I Do?

    It's been two years of mess. Up and down the emotional roller coaster with my husband. What to do? I don't know. He wants me to say I'm ready to work on our marriage, and I can't. I don't feel like doing anything with our relationship right now. I've been working hard to keep it...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 14, 2013

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    i am BEYOND unhappy in marriage

    and honestly feel like the only reason that i am still with my husband is because i am pregnant and we already have two children together and i don't want them to experience a broken home like i did .. i just want to be loved and to love someone in return ..
    brittanyneaddy brittanyneaddy 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 19, 2015

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    I'm living in a loveless marriage

    and don't know how I'm going to continue for 9 more years. I can't be without my kids so divorce isn't an option. She has turned so sour on me and has no interest in changing that. She has had at least an emotional affair with another man and I think that she resents me even...
    sparksearcher sparksearcher 41-45, M 2 Responses Jan 15, 2015

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    I wish that I did not marry him

    so I could just break up with him and walk away.......
    n0f1lt3r n0f1lt3r 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 5, 2015

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    Well, I've been married

    for 17 years! To a man that is cold, cruel and calculating! I'm not afraid to leave because I can make it on my own financially! We have children! Every time I look in their faces I feel that it would be selfish for me to leave and disrupt their life. On the other hand it's...
    17Rachel 17Rachel 46-50, F 5 Responses May 26, 2015

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    In A Relationship, Married Or Not... You Should Read This!

    When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a...
    deepness deepness 22-25, F 7 Responses Apr 9, 2011

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    Never Marry A Divorced Man With Kids.....

    I thought I knew the man I married; loving, caring, sensitive. When we first met we were just friends. I already had a stigma for the situation that he was in, divorced with two kids (one his, one not).  I was 30 and had come out of a long term abusive engagement. I was relieved...
    Kozpac Kozpac 31-35 32 Responses Feb 9, 2011

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    It was a Tuesday, I think…maybe a Thursday I

    can’t remember. At the time, I was content with where I was in life. Single…healthy, happy, no debt, free to live life as I chose. I seem to recall being lonely from time to time, but my travels far and near kept me from noticing too much. A very close friend mentioned that...
    1StateAway 1StateAway 41-45, M 4 Responses May 5, 2015

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    I now have a baby sitter

    for my son and a place to go. I am leaving by the 25 th. I am so scared.
    mhbb2 mhbb2 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 14, 2015

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    I've been married a little over 2 years

    and Im dreading this marriage I really am. I love my husband he is a great man to me and a great father to our 10 month daughter but I will be much better off alone with no commitment. I had recently got in touch with an ex lover of mine and it felt great. I'm only 23 and I...
    Shadyqueen1 Shadyqueen1 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 27, 2015

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    First off I am not someone to join a forum like

    this I usually keep things private, but I am interested in other peoples views especially women. I am a married man with 2 kids & even though I still love my wife I am seriously starting to doubt if the feeling is mutual. I don't want to come on here & put her down because she...
    Henjo24 Henjo24 31-35, M 6 Responses Oct 9, 2014

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    the title says it all

    for so many of us, doesnt it? and then we think the grass will be greener with someone else, and sometimes maybe it is. but lets face it, after time catches up to you, the newness fades, sex fades, the excitement fizzles, life and reality can get in the way and dominate your...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Aug 11, 2015

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    Nothing makes him happy.

    Even when things seem to be going his way there are always other reasons to complain.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 22, 2015

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