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I Am Unhappy In My Marriage And Don't Know What To Do

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    I notice myself gradually isolating myself from

    my family. I love them all, but I feel like a guest in my own home. The lack of everything from my wife has put a considerable dent in my excitement to be with them. I work a lot so I can provide but when I am home there is a loneliness I feel. Maybe it's the lack of empathy...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 3 Responses Jul 5

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    My husband spent about an hour this morning

    calling me every name he could think of. I destroyed his career and I am the reason our 15 year old is transgender. He wishes I would just kill myself and do everyone a favor. I did destroy his career though, so I suppose he is correct. I made the horrible mistake of asking for...
    Laifu Laifu 36-40, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    before I was married,

    I was able to live very cheaply. I would hang laundry on clothes lines. I cooked from scratch. I didn't have cable tv stations. I lived very frugally but it wasn't painful. I raised three children. I used to sleep with my bedroom door open. My kids and I laughed all the time...
    mom4ce mom4ce 51-55, F 5 Responses Aug 12

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    Never Marry A Divorced Man With Kids.....

    I thought I knew the man I married; loving, caring, sensitive. When we first met we were just friends. I already had a stigma for the situation that he was in, divorced with two kids (one his, one not).  I was 30 and had come out of a long term abusive engagement. I was relieved...
    Kozpac Kozpac 31-35 31 Responses Feb 9, 2011

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    I have been married for five years,

    and have been unhappy for most of it. I want to leave, but we have a child together, and I don't want to ruin that child's life. My husband hasn't been interested in sex for four years. He doesn't seem to like me and is always putting me down in front of our child and other...
    np1106 np1106 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 5, 2014

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    Gws1269 Gws1269 41-45, M 3 Responses Apr 14

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    I have been married for a little over 10 years

    and have been miserable for about 9 of it. I have 2 beautiful girls both under the age of 10 whom I love to the moon and back. After I had my first child I gained a lot of weight. My husband told me during an argument one night that I should lose some effin weight. Since then he...
    Sweettch33 Sweettch33 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 25

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    the title says it all

    for so many of us, doesnt it? and then we think the grass will be greener with someone else, and sometimes maybe it is. but lets face it, after time catches up to you, the newness fades, sex fades, the excitement fizzles, life and reality can get in the way and dominate your...
    mrawesome08755 mrawesome08755 46-50, M 5 Responses Aug 11

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    I am increasingly unsatisfied sexually,

    and I just don't know what to do. He does nothing to get me turned on (he just says "play with yourself" or "get it wet") and I just feel... I don't know what I feel. Bored? Fed up? I have so many kinks and fantasies and he seems unable to fill a single one. I'm not solely...
    missstarrysky missstarrysky 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 17, 2014

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    I'm the type of person

    who rather bottle stuff up then deal with it at the time or talk to ppl about things bc i dont like ppl knowing my business plus when i get into my feelings i get into my mad mood for letting someone upset me so much that i get loud anf then sad lol so this may be better lol...
    ashleynichole25 ashleynichole25 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 5

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    Nothing makes him happy.

    Even when things seem to be going his way there are always other reasons to complain.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 22

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    I am so unhappy. There is no love between my

    husband and I. He insults me even in front of others. We do not enjoy any of the same activities. We rarely spend time together. We fight daily, mostly because he is always on edge and I can't talk to him. He is rude and confrontational about everything. The only reason we are...
    holeforheart holeforheart 36-40, F 3 Responses May 3

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    What Do I Do?

    It's been two years of mess. Up and down the emotional roller coaster with my husband. What to do? I don't know. He wants me to say I'm ready to work on our marriage, and I can't. I don't feel like doing anything with our relationship right now. I've been working hard to keep it...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 14, 2013

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    I need to find happiness.

    Anyone know how and where ?.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 18

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    Talk about stress and just itching

    for a fight all the time..
    Filam Filam 31-35, F Jun 24

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    I have been with my husband

    for 32years, married for 25 of those years. I'm so unhappy I want to scream! We have tried counseling, several times. I have tried to talk to him a hundred time I have cried I have screamed I have begged Always same answer from him "I'll have to do better" Truth is I really do...
    zamaja3 zamaja3 51-55, F 2 Responses May 17, 2014

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    I've been married for 4 years now

    and I'm so unhappy my husband would rather play video games and smoke pot can spend time with me. he sleeps in bed with me maybe 3 times a month other than that he sleeps on this chair in the living room. he stays up half the night playing his video games and smoking and thinks...
    lonelyandconfusedwife2015 lonelyandconfusedwife2015 26-30, F 5 Responses May 6

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    I have been married for 13 years .

    I have one child. We have certainly had our ups and downs but always pulled through against all odds when I really thought I couldn't take anymore . Our problems have always been financial ! Some of these problems were due to making stupid decisions and some because of being...
    debra86 debra86 51-55, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    It's not that I don't love my wife

    and son. I can't imagine my life without them. I still feel very confined, however, by the social and legal pressures that come with having a traditional family. I never thought of myself as a family man, and for most of my dating life, made it clear that all things were a...
    onlymortal onlymortal 26-30, M 2 Responses Jan 31

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    It isn't just hollywood.

    My great grandfather's first wife died when he was about 60. He remarried a woman in her 20s who recently divorced her first husband and had two kids. He raised a second family with her and one of those children was my grandmother. He died when she was about 20. So, he had to be...
    Mossonarock Mossonarock 41-45, M Aug 11

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    Well, I've been married

    for 17 years! To a man that is cold, cruel and calculating! I'm not afraid to leave because I can make it on my own financially! We have children! Every time I look in their faces I feel that it would be selfish for me to leave and disrupt their life. On the other hand it's...
    17Rachel 17Rachel 46-50, F 6 Responses May 26

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    I have no where to go.

    No one who cares. I have a health issue that keeps me from being able to work and support myself. I'm forced to be dependent but my husband is horrible and I want a divorce but unfortunately need him for a place to stay. I have no where else to go and absolutely no one in my...
    FightingForHappiness FightingForHappiness 31-35, F 5 Responses May 25

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    In A Relationship, Married Or Not... You Should Read This!

    When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a...
    deepness deepness 22-25, F 7 Responses Apr 9, 2011

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    First off I am not someone to join a forum like

    this I usually keep things private, but I am interested in other peoples views especially women. I am a married man with 2 kids & even though I still love my wife I am seriously starting to doubt if the feeling is mutual. I don't want to come on here & put her down because she...
    Henjo24 Henjo24 31-35, M 7 Responses Oct 9, 2014

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    FFFFFFFFUUUUUUUUCCCCCCCKKKKKKK I HATE MY WIFE!

    !!! Wow, that feels better. What a deceitful, hurtful, miserable thing I got attached to.
    sparksearcher sparksearcher 41-45, M 2 Responses Jan 22

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    I've been with my wife

    for 8 years, married for 5 years and we have a two year old little boy. We are so different from each other, she's not a good communicator & I love long engaging conversations.... She's not interested in sex & I really miss intimacy.... She's uptight & moody and I'm relaxed...
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 2

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    So Valentine's Day came

    and went. It was a nice day...breakfast in bed...sweet gifts. Received my first lingerie gift ever from my man of 15 years. Tried it on two times. Took it off and went to bed. Yes, that's how my night ended. Bizarre? You tell me. I tried.
    SexyMomma37 SexyMomma37 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 16

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    I have a good family,

    with a wonderful wife and two beautiful boys. But sometimes, I can't help wondering how much she really loves me? Both my wife and I love our two boys, a lot! She is a great mom, who wants to give everything to the boys. But for a long time now, I rarely feel the love between us...
    oldmonkeyxu oldmonkeyxu 31-35, M 3 Responses Apr 4

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    How Do You Leave When He Is Sick?

    I've been married 11 years and have two beautiful children (5 & 7). You would think I could be happy just because my kids are happy and healthy but I want...more. My husband was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis 6 years ago and has become a shell of a person. He sleeps for...
    natashasonja natashasonja 36-40, F 17 Responses May 4, 2012

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    I've been married for 3 years now,

    and i dont know how to be happy again, i miss the idea of having a husband i love and who loves me too, i want to talk to him and work out our problems, but he wont listen He says we are ok, but keeps being rude to me and i cant love him anymore I'm just depressed now
    Liz890 Liz890 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 5

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    I've been married for almost seven years now,

    together for closer to ten. We have two wonderful children, both of which are loved. I feel like I should be happy in my marriage, but I'm not. My spouse is wonderful, goes out of her way to make sure that I'm well taken care of but I'm still not happy. We are of two...
    enjoymentofquiet enjoymentofquiet 31-35, M 4 Responses May 26

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    I've been with my husband

    for 5 years now we dated for 3 months before I got pregnant lately I've been feeling like I don't make him happy anymore he is always angry, tired, and easily gets frustrated with our toddlers in the beginning he was so loving and nurturing always wanting to do thing together...
    armijo2w armijo2w 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 31

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    I need some advice. Last winter I caught my

    husband in a stream of lies. While I was pregnant with our second child he was communicating with a "female friend". This communication was going on for at least 6 months, he claims nothing physical happened. However, since then things have gone down hill. He doesn't show me any...
    lilone2306 lilone2306 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 17

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    So I have talked to my husband about feeling

    our marrige is in trouble, his reaction was, "I understand if you wanna leave. I am not a bad husband." He seems like he has started to try more since then but I checked his phone history and found a lot of personal adds for women seeking men. I have caught him looking at them...
    BabyDoll23p BabyDoll23p 22-25, F 12 Responses May 16

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    How to you speak to a person

    who constantly contradicts you? No matter how small or minor the topic of conversation is, my spouse automatically contradicts me. Then he wonders why I don't speak to him. He will say, "How come you are so quiet?" and I'm honest with him, I say, "Because you constantly...
    mom4ce mom4ce 51-55, F 3 Responses Aug 12

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    The best part of my morning.

    .. All my mornings
    AlexMD21212 AlexMD21212 36-40, M 1 Response Jun 21

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    Newly Misery

    I recently got married with my long time boyfriend of 10 years. So far it's been nothing but arguments. He doesn't respect me. I try to do everything I can to be a good wife but all he cares about it's his family. He can be very rude and it doesn't even bother him that he hurts...
    Jj6116 Jj6116 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2012

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    I need advice please!

    ! So i have been married for 3 years and have a dauther so separating is not that easy, and bot what i want So... Im upset about my marriage, a lot And my husband knows this, because i have explained this many times And no, i dont think its bacause im asking for too much, or...
    Liz890 Liz890 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 13

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    Anniversary Blues

    So today is my wedding anniversary and I sign up for EP. Funny, yet sad. Is this really my life? How did I end up married, but feel like I have never been in love? Makes me wretch at the thought of anyone wishing me a happy day today.
    Vadne Vadne 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 8, 2013

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    Seriously, can't talk to ANYONE about it.

    It's so much to explain. I moved last year, lost most of my communication with friends. My family loves him. I love him, so I don't want to talk ill. ..But. Money-fight. Food-fight. Future-fight. Drunk-fight. Sex-fight. There is only enough good to make my insides...
    amflynn amflynn 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    I am not married but I am engaged.

    Me and my fiancé have been having problems especially when he's drunk. We have been living together for 5 years. I got pregnant at 18 and we have together since. He says Im the reason his life is f****d up. It's my fault he has to work so much to and ends up with...
    Lucylubbsgolda Lucylubbsgolda 22-25, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    And So I Left

    Picking up the pieces, taking it day by day. I know that if you want something in life, through optimism and hard work, many things can be achieved. I have a lot of discovering to do, of myself, my children, what is best for us. I left my spouse and went to the city. The city to...
    MissingBoston MissingBoston 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 7, 2013

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    It was a Tuesday, I think…maybe a Thursday I

    can’t remember. At the time, I was content with where I was in life. Single…healthy, happy, no debt, free to live life as I chose. I seem to recall being lonely from time to time, but my travels far and near kept me from noticing too much. A very close friend mentioned that...
    1StateAway 1StateAway 36-40, M 4 Responses May 5

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    I have been married for 19 years.

    my husband prefers I keep any issue that may start argument's to myself. he respects outsiders over me and our marriage. he doesn't listen to my needs or plea's. I feel alone in this marriage. I want a divorce so I can move on. I might as well be alone cause that is how I...
    mrsunderstood72 mrsunderstood72 41-45 2 Responses Jan 4

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    My heart and my head are

    so confused..I feel like someone is dying but it's my marriage.. And I have be the one to pull the plug with extremely shaky hands.
    kathryn30 kathryn30 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 31, 2014

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