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I Am Unhappy In My Marriage And Don't Know What To Do

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    What Do I Do?

    It's been two years of mess. Up and down the emotional roller coaster with my husband. What to do? I don't know. He wants me to say I'm ready to work on our marriage, and I can't. I don't feel like doing anything with our relationship right now. I've been working hard to keep it...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 14, 2013

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    I've been with a man

    for almost 7 years now and it breaks my heart knowing that as the year passes by, we're growing apart. I'm trying my best to comply with what he wants to save this marriage. I just hope it's not too late for us to be okay and be happy again.
    ShopaholicQueen ShopaholicQueen 22-25, F 2 Responses May 17

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    I Cannot Forgive Him

    My husband and I have been married for four and a half years now. During the first two years of dating, I attended college in another state over 1,000 miles away, so reunions were terrific. He got the best of both worlds by being emotionally involved with me from afar while...
    txngrl1386 txngrl1386 26-30 2 Responses Sep 23, 2013

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    It Is My Responsibility My Happiness In This Marriage

    i am married 6 years now - and as with all marriages phases happen and changes take place. my issue is let go and let love in but i am so protective of my heart and untrusting to allow someone else to have control of my life yet i am not taking control. my husband is a...
    serkjo serkjo 51-55, F 1 Response Jul 5, 2012

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    How Do You Leave A Thirty Year Marriage?!

    I am being totally open and honest here.We will be "celebrating" our 30th wedding anniversary this December and I have not been happy or in love with him for over 5 years!I have told him on several occasions how I feel and I am not involved with another man, but think about it...
    missdefiance missdefiance 46-50, F 9 Responses Sep 2, 2011

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    The women I married is

    now showing her true colors. her ego is more than I can bare. I am planning on leaving her when I finally obtain my nursing degree. It is rough, and I love her but I am not in love with her anymore. Everything is an argument. We don't see eye to eye on anything and we don't have...
    qwerty350 qwerty350 26-30 Jul 12

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    Marriage - Why It Doesn't Work

    After listening to and reading countless personal stories over the years, I've come to realize that marriage is not something that a majority of humans are capable of - particularly myself. Why I asked myself over and over. There must be a logical reason. We're the only...
    DrSoftLips DrSoftLips 36-40, M 14 Responses Oct 24, 2012

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    same here..I too have the same thing.

    ..my husband is highly egoistic......we lack intimacy,caring,understanding..every now and then we end up fighting.... once I was writing something personal which involved happy moments of both of us and when he asked I jovially replied something personal... then I went on to him...
    needemotionalsupport needemotionalsupport 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 22

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    First off I am not someone to join a forum like

    this I usually keep things private, but I am interested in other peoples views especially women. I am a married man with 2 kids & even though I still love my wife I am seriously starting to doubt if the feeling is mutual. I don't want to come on here & put her down because she...
    Henjo24 Henjo24 26-30, M 8 Responses Oct 9

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    Lying To Myself

    I've been married for a year and a half. My husband and I have so many problems, I can't even type them all. The point is- is i dont think im happy. I left my home state and moved to another with him, and now i have nothing without him. I could go to Nevada and stay with an aunt...
    lrspears lrspears 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 21, 2013

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    CastingMarriedCouples CastingMarriedCouples 26-30, F Oct 22, 2013

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    I don't even know what to say.

    I love my family - they are my family. But they make me so unhappy at the same time. I want to walk out the door but I know that will hurt them and I don't want that but at the same time staying is hurting me. Will hanging around to keep them happy just hurt them down the...
    iamsumwun2 iamsumwun2 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 21

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    Unhappily Married

    I have been married for 26 years we have four children togther and for the 10 years sex has been almost nothing. I have asked her if somthing is wrong and she tells me it is because of menopause. She started menopause early in her late 30's. Now 50 I have tried to make...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses May 7, 2012

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    Sick Of Feeling Tolerated. I Want To Feel Loved.

    My husband and I were desperately in love when we got married. We went through military deployments to Iraq together, long separations, stress, and all the while remained strong as a couple. We thought nothing could touch us. We dealt with unexpected medical issues in our...
    stillinlovewife stillinlovewife 26-30, F 7 Responses Oct 16, 2012

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    I have been with my husband

    for 32years, married for 25 of those years. I'm so unhappy I want to scream! We have tried counseling, several times. I have tried to talk to him a hundred time I have cried I have screamed I have begged Always same answer from him "I'll have to do better" Truth is I really do...
    zamaja3 zamaja3 51-55, F 2 Responses May 17

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    In an effort to make a long story short,

    I will sum up by saying that I have been married to my husband for 11 yrs and we started dating in high school 15 yrs ago. We had our first child very young and out of wedlock. Worked on a rocky relationship until our daughter was 2 when my husband decided to join the Army to...
    Jme0925 Jme0925 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    today again the fight started.

    .. it went on and on and on.... he sticks to his ego...his friends ..his family... he says..he stays on earth just for 2 people in life..and that is his parents... what about me...what about meeee...who has sacrificed everything for him..my life..my career....everything....... I...
    needemotionalsupport needemotionalsupport 22-25, F 5 Responses May 18

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    New to all of this. Help please I feel like my

    marriage is falling apart and I don't know what to do. My husband and I have been married for 9 years and have been together for 10. We have a 7 year old son. In the beginning we were very in love. But about a year after our son was born our relationship went south. We were no...
    hopeful1220 hopeful1220 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 1

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    Newly Misery

    I recently got married with my long time boyfriend of 10 years. So far it's been nothing but arguments. He doesn't respect me. I try to do everything I can to be a good wife but all he cares about it's his family. He can be very rude and it doesn't even bother him that he hurts...
    Jj6116 Jj6116 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2012

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    I am married for 22yrs.

    My relationship at home is abusive and working has really helped me to become stronger and more independent. I still don't have the confidence to leave but my two eldest children are almost finished university and I was hoping to leave in the next few years. I have been in my...
    Dinkiel Dinkiel 41-45 Oct 11

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    Never Marry A Divorced Man With Kids.....

    I thought I knew the man I married; loving, caring, sensitive. When we first met we were just friends. I already had a stigma for the situation that he was in, divorced with two kids (one his, one not).  I was 30 and had come out of a long term abusive engagement. I was relieved...
    Kozpac Kozpac 31-35 26 Responses Feb 9, 2011

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    I Feel Like He Despises Our Daughter

    Here is a little background on my relationship: EP Link#comment_embed So last week my 2 year old daughter spent the week with her grandparents (my parents) who live in a different state than we do. While she was gone my husand and I connected like we haven't in a very long time...
    rileypaige rileypaige 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 7, 2013

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    Married Over 20 Yrs. I Have Wanted Out For 10

    Married 23 years, I have wanted out for more than 10 of these years. I have a 21 yr old daughter (senior in college) and a 14 yr old son. My kids mean the world to me. One of the MANY reasons for wanting out of my 'marrirage' is his drinking. I learned to deal with it, he is...
    llieno8 llieno8 51-55, F 4 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    And So I Left

    Picking up the pieces, taking it day by day. I know that if you want something in life, through optimism and hard work, many things can be achieved. I have a lot of discovering to do, of myself, my children, what is best for us. I left my spouse and went to the city. The city to...
    MissingBoston MissingBoston 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 7, 2013

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    I moved out of the house almost 2 months ago.

    I feel so much better, being without him. He's trying very hard to win me back, which I find confusing - he couldn't even be polite to me when we lived together, but now he's Mr. Wonderful. I can't decide what to do. On one hand, I feel like he is who he is and he isn't...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 2

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    Going mad ! I've been with my wife

    for 7 years. Her 20 year old son who was living with us along with her 18 year old daughter ( still with us ) has been thrown out for stealing approx £800 worth of items from me. He's gone ! Now my wife's daughter is still living with us. She won't look for work, won't get out...
    deqa deqa 41-45, M 3 Responses Aug 4

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    Unhappy

    This man beside me is not the man I fell in live with. He is rude, jealous and full of hate. I know it's just a matter of time before I leave, I should have never came back when I left last time.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Feb 18, 2012

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    I want to be happy once again,

    I truly do. But, it seems like we aren't like we used to be. We used to be in love so much, it made others jealous. Now, we are falling apart by the minute and I don't know what else to do. I've been fighting for this marriage for the past four years and I don't want to give up...
    mysteriousluna mysteriousluna 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 22

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    My Husband Is Why I Am Depressed - Do I Stay Or Go??

    My husband is moody all the time.  I suspect he may be depressed but he would never admit it.Nothing I do is ever good enough. I spoilt him with little gift and treats like his fav meal but i get little or no appreciation.I do love him but I am wondering if the grief is worth...
    Pinkyboo12 Pinkyboo12 31-35 4 Responses Nov 27, 2011

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    Anniversary Blues

    So today is my wedding anniversary and I sign up for EP. Funny, yet sad. Is this really my life? How did I end up married, but feel like I have never been in love? Makes me wretch at the thought of anyone wishing me a happy day today.
    Vadne Vadne 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 8, 2013

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    To Good To Leave To Bad To Stay

    So here's the backstory ; I am married but unhappy We don't have any kids together , thank God His genetics and mine would make a demon child ( history of drugs , mental illness and heart problems and cancer and just a lot of big additude ) He is not abusive physically He...
    cajunlady337 cajunlady337 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2013

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    My 'husband' Is Hiding Me From His Family

    Today I got a text from my husband saying 'I finally told my mom we got married.' It's been two months. He told me in October he told his parents. He was 'afraid' of what they'd think. And he expects me to be okay with the fact that he's been hiding me. I'm angry, sad, and...
    randomroads randomroads 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 8, 2011

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    A Little Lost

    I have been with my husband for about 7 years. He is a very good man and goes to work everyday and supports me. He is very caring. The problem is that for most of our relationship he has not been interested in sex. I don't think he is cheating or gay or anything like that...
    alittlelosthere alittlelosthere 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 18, 2013

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    Unhappy Marriage Please Help

    Hi, OK so this is my second marriage, first one was great was with him 10 years and had 3 daughters with him and he wanted me all the time sexually and was very romantic, flowers every month and surprise gifts, nights out, etc.... he went screwball (brain tumors) turned out he...
    gobbalino gobbalino 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 19, 2012

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    I Hate Feeling This Way..so Confused And So I Stay.

    In a nut shell.....I've been married 9 years now... married my best friend i went to highschool with. For the longest time he was very interested in me and I just wanted to remain friends..but after a couple years of friendship I allowed to take it to the next level. He/is was...
    jlw77 jlw77 31-35, F 8 Responses Jul 13, 2011

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    I am not looking for pity,

    I am not looking for anyone to take sides. I have been married for 14 years. My husband has a difficult time with emotions, he is almost complete logic. He is a live in the right now nothing planned type person. (This is okay to help bring my list oriented almost OCD...
    lu7998 lu7998 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 24

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    Grown Apart

    My Story, We have been together since highschool, 17yrs old (both of us) We have shared the same friends then, as we do now(same friends from high school). We are both in our late 30's & 40. We have children and were in love for a few years. Then something changed, i started to...
    kokoj kokoj 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    Don't know what to do.

    My wife gives everything I buy away. I should have known from the beginning when she let her kids use and break my24 karat tip calligraphy pens that my Mom bought me, and let them play with items that my grandmother gave me before she passed away. I would go out of town and when...
    kenvisor kenvisor 46-50, M 4 Responses May 16

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    My heart and my head are

    so confused..I feel like someone is dying but it's my marriage.. And I have be the one to pull the plug with extremely shaky hands.
    kathryn30 kathryn30 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 31

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    This is my second marriage.

    It is an arranged marriage and we spoke on the phone and we met up for 3 days and we agreed to get married. i recently moved here and we had problems since day 1. our personalities are heavily mismatched and we want different things in life. I feel like I should not have got...
    Samaira99 Samaira99 36-40, F 5 Responses Apr 28

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    I Love My Wife

    Well here I am on EP today. I don't know where else to go. I don't know who else to talk to. I have to do something. Imagine having the greatest spouse in the world, being completely attracted to her, but only if you imagine yourself as a different gender. Now imagine that she...
    InquisitiveShadow InquisitiveShadow 36-40, M 7 Responses Nov 25, 2013

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    I feel I can not carry this burden of sadness

    any longer,my marriage has been lonely for so long.My husband and I had not been intimate for years he did not approach me avoided and rejected me and was unable to function if we attempted intimacy.I found out he had been hiding a *********** habit for years which increased my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Sep 5

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    I have been married for the past 5 years.

    We have 2 kids 3 and 1 years old. I am with my kids all the time. Can't wait to leave work to see them. My husband on the other hand continues to have a whole life independent from us. He does wake up in the morning and get the kids ready for daycare. He drops them off every...
    carol723 carol723 36-40, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Oye, Trials & Tribulations...

    My husband & I have been married for 6 years and together 13. We have been through a lot; however 3 of our/his issues keeping on rearing their ugly heads. He was exposed to **** at a young age (his mother's great parenting skills) and it continues to be an area that is destroying...
    arel576 arel576 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 13, 2013

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    Confused

    I've been married for almost 2 years have no kids and am just fed up with not being myself with my husband. I finally realised how unhappy I was and brought it up to my husband about 6 weeks ago and nothing has changed. The only time he ever tries to change things is when we have...
    foodDee foodDee 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 2, 2011

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    In A Relationship, Married Or Not... You Should Read This!

    When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a...
    deepness deepness 22-25, F 7 Responses Apr 9, 2011

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    How Do You Leave When He Is Sick?

    I've been married 11 years and have two beautiful children (5 & 7). You would think I could be happy just because my kids are happy and healthy but I want...more. My husband was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis 6 years ago and has become a shell of a person. He sleeps for...
    natashasonja natashasonja 36-40, F 18 Responses May 4, 2012

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    Never Enough

    I have been married almost a year now to the man I hoped to to spend the rest of my life with. We are both in our early 20's, but I feel like I am married to a child. I am very settled before we were married I had my own home, vehicle and a great job. Although my husband has a...
    tabitdg tabitdg 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 22, 2013

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    MPCasting23 MPCasting23 26-30, F Oct 28, 2013

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