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I Am Unhappy In My Marriage And Don't Know What To Do

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    Never Enough

    I have been married almost a year now to the man I hoped to to spend the rest of my life with. We are both in our early 20's, but I feel like I am married to a child. I am very settled before we were married I had my own home, vehicle and a great job. Although my husband has a...
    tabitdg tabitdg 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 22, 2013

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    I Am Tired Of The Bs

    I have been with my husband about ten years. My marriage has never been wonderful. We have alot of problems but I will give him credit for always being a good father to our kids. However our relationship is in dire straits. I am so tired of being tolerant of his selfish...
    ksbonneau ksbonneau 31-35, F Dec 7, 2012

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    Am I Making A Mistake?

    I've been married for almost 7 years now. I met my husband when I was 19, and it was love at first sight. Soon after, I became pregnant with our first son. I can remember asking myself if this is the man I was prepared to spend the rest of my days with. If this is the man I...
    DevlynDisguise DevlynDisguise 26-30, F Jan 18, 2013

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    Things Are Getting Worse.

    My husband and I have had our problems. But these last couple of days have made me really lean towards leaving. I just started really working on losing weight. He started making fun of me for counting calories, and measuring my portions. It really bothered me so I told him thanks...
    Steelwing Steelwing 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 19, 2011

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    How Do You Leave A Thirty Year Marriage?!

    I am being totally open and honest here.We will be "celebrating" our 30th wedding anniversary this December and I have not been happy or in love with him for over 5 years!I have told him on several occasions how I feel and I am not involved with another man, but think about it...
    missdefiance missdefiance 46-50, F 9 Responses Sep 2, 2011

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    My Husband Is Why I Am Depressed - Do I Stay Or Go??

    My husband is moody all the time.  I suspect he may be depressed but he would never admit it.Nothing I do is ever good enough. I spoilt him with little gift and treats like his fav meal but i get little or no appreciation.I do love him but I am wondering if the grief is worth...
    Pinkyboo12 Pinkyboo12 31-35 4 Responses Nov 27, 2011

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    Sick Of Feeling Tolerated. I Want To Feel Loved.

    My husband and I were desperately in love when we got married. We went through military deployments to Iraq together, long separations, stress, and all the while remained strong as a couple. We thought nothing could touch us. We dealt with unexpected medical issues in our...
    stillinlovewife stillinlovewife 26-30, F 7 Responses Oct 16, 2012

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    What Am I Doing Wrong?

    So my husband has decided that we should split the house in half, I guess. We live in a 2 bedroom home with 2 bathrooms. Apparently, I am not a good enough housekeeper for him, so his solution is to split the house. He says he doesn't want to leave me, no, he just wants his...
    LoosingMyself LoosingMyself 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 19, 2012

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    Grown Apart

    My Story, We have been together since highschool, 17yrs old (both of us) We have shared the same friends then, as we do now(same friends from high school). We are both in our late 30's & 40. We have children and were in love for a few years. Then something changed, i started to...
    kokoj kokoj 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    I'm Stuck

    I am about to be 28 years old and have been married for almost 7 years. I love my husband but there are so many things that eat away at me about him. I love that he is different than anyone I've ever known and he loves me, too, but I am very unhappy. To begin, my husband is...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 6, 2012

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    Am I Totally Missing The Signs? Lost In Love?

    Here's my story. I met him 16 years ago. I was recently divorced. I had kids, he didn't. I also had a home, car, career and money in the bank. He lived at home with his mom, but worked at a job that he hated and soon quit while we dated. I broke off our relationship several...
    QuietVoice1 QuietVoice1 51-55, F 3 Responses Jan 3, 2013

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    I Love My Wife

    Well here I am on EP today. I don't know where else to go. I don't know who else to talk to. I have to do something. Imagine having the greatest spouse in the world, being completely attracted to her, but only if you imagine yourself as a different gender. Now imagine that she...
    InquisitiveShadow InquisitiveShadow 36-40, M 7 Responses Nov 25, 2013

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    My Husband Is More Concerned With Money Than Me Leaving. Need Opinions.

    My husband and I have been having problems (I've written other stories). But today, I decided to brave the storm and tell him outright that if we haven't solved our problems in the next seven months (when I graduate) then I would like to move two hours away to complete my PhD...
    Hera2011 Hera2011 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 18, 2012

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    Feeling At A Loss

    I am a 33 year old woman with a two year old son and one on the way.  I have been married for 3 years and at this point in my relationship I am unhappy.  I do not trust my husband. He works on the road and is only home 2-3 days a week.  He has done things in the...
    Mushu76 Mushu76 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 1, 2009

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    A Little Lost

    I have been with my husband for about 7 years. He is a very good man and goes to work everyday and supports me. He is very caring. The problem is that for most of our relationship he has not been interested in sex. I don't think he is cheating or gay or anything like that...
    alittlelosthere alittlelosthere 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 18, 2013

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    My 'husband' Is Hiding Me From His Family

    Today I got a text from my husband saying 'I finally told my mom we got married.' It's been two months. He told me in October he told his parents. He was 'afraid' of what they'd think. And he expects me to be okay with the fact that he's been hiding me. I'm angry, sad, and...
    randomroads randomroads 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 8, 2011

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    In A Relationship, Married Or Not... You Should Read This!

    When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a...
    deepness deepness 22-25, F 7 Responses Apr 9, 2011

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    And So I Left

    Picking up the pieces, taking it day by day. I know that if you want something in life, through optimism and hard work, many things can be achieved. I have a lot of discovering to do, of myself, my children, what is best for us. I left my spouse and went to the city. The city to...
    MissingBoston MissingBoston 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 7, 2013

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    I Feel Like He Despises Our Daughter

    Here is a little background on my relationship: EP Link#comment_embed So last week my 2 year old daughter spent the week with her grandparents (my parents) who live in a different state than we do. While she was gone my husand and I connected like we haven't in a very long time...
    rileypaige rileypaige 22-25, F 5 Responses Jun 7, 2013

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    Need Advice Or Someone To Talk To...

    If anyone out there is interested in listening to a super lonely new mother about her marraige woes, I would be equally inclined to listen to your troubles. I just need someone to talk to about this... I don't really have anyone to talk to.
    TeeTeeMommy TeeTeeMommy 26-30 5 Responses Jan 30, 2013

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    Too Soon To Be Unhappy...

    My husband and I have known each other for more than 20 years. We dated on and off throughout our teens, but in our 20s, we went separate ways and married other people and started families. After we were both divorced, we reconnected about 3 years ago, and have now been married...
    barod barod 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 17, 2013

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    What Is Wrong With Me, My Wife, And My Relationship?

    I've been married for 18 years. My two sisters have five marriages and four divorces between them. I told myself that getting married was a once in a lifetime thing and that I would not let a divorce interfere with raising children. My kids are 17 and 14 now. Is it wrong to...
    BlueIAm BlueIAm 41-45, M 2 Responses Jan 1, 2013

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    Lying To Myself

    I've been married for a year and a half. My husband and I have so many problems, I can't even type them all. The point is- is i dont think im happy. I left my home state and moved to another with him, and now i have nothing without him. I could go to Nevada and stay with an aunt...
    lrspears lrspears 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 21, 2013

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    Never Marry A Divorced Man With Kids.....

    I thought I knew the man I married; loving, caring, sensitive. When we first met we were just friends. I already had a stigma for the situation that he was in, divorced with two kids (one his, one not).  I was 30 and had come out of a long term abusive engagement. I was relieved...
    Kozpac Kozpac 31-35 26 Responses Feb 9, 2011

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    I Hate Feeling This Way..so Confused And So I Stay.

    In a nut shell.....I've been married 9 years now... married my best friend i went to highschool with. For the longest time he was very interested in me and I just wanted to remain friends..but after a couple years of friendship I allowed to take it to the next level. He/is was...
    jlw77 jlw77 31-35, F 8 Responses Jul 13, 2011

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    I'm So Unhappily Married

    My story goes like this . I been with my husband now 17 years i got with him when i was 20 years old . How we meet okay when i was like 12 he was 15 he was a friend of my cousins and we started going out things were okay for a while until my parents said i could no longer call...
    sadgirl209 sadgirl209 36-40, F Oct 24, 2011

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    I Cannot Forgive Him

    My husband and I have been married for four and a half years now. During the first two years of dating, I attended college in another state over 1,000 miles away, so reunions were terrific. He got the best of both worlds by being emotionally involved with me from afar while...
    txngrl1386 txngrl1386 26-30 2 Responses Sep 23, 2013

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    Newly Misery

    I recently got married with my long time boyfriend of 10 years. So far it's been nothing but arguments. He doesn't respect me. I try to do everything I can to be a good wife but all he cares about it's his family. He can be very rude and it doesn't even bother him that he hurts...
    Jj6116 Jj6116 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 10, 2012

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    Unhappily Married - Is My Emotional Affair Becoming More?

    I'll start with a bit of background info: I've been married to my husband for nearly 4 years. We don't have any kids. I'm in my early 30s and he's in his early 40s. Since the beginning of 2012 we'd not been getting on so well, but things weren't too bad. However, during the...
    browneyedgirl1234 browneyedgirl1234 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 21, 2013

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    Marriage Confusion

    i always wanted to marry someone who love me for me and all that i am. i never wanted to marry someone who treats me like a little kid are makes me feel unconfortable in my own skin i think i may have to really consider getting a divorce because i dont want to waste my time with...
    Queen711 Queen711 18-21 Jul 15, 2011

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    I Feel Alone

    I try to talk and have communication but for my husband most of the times he is tired or the fbook or playing on the play station or sleepy and tired Leily we don't make love always there is a reason and the next day he call from work and said he miss me but when is a chance to...
    Mujercita Mujercita 36-40 1 Response Jan 31, 2013

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    To Good To Leave To Bad To Stay

    So here's the backstory ; I am married but unhappy We don't have any kids together , thank God His genetics and mine would make a demon child ( history of drugs , mental illness and heart problems and cancer and just a lot of big additude ) He is not abusive physically He...
    cajunlady337 cajunlady337 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 12, 2013

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    I Am In A Crisis And Don'T Know How To Resolve It!

    I have been through a trauma, which left me with surgery and unable to do all the things that I could do before. I have been amazed at how demanding everyone is when I cannot perform. I do for everyone, everyone says they love me but all throw me under the bus if their needs...
    Marvette Marvette 46-50, F 2 Responses May 20, 2013

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    Confused

    I've been married for almost 2 years have no kids and am just fed up with not being myself with my husband. I finally realised how unhappy I was and brought it up to my husband about 6 weeks ago and nothing has changed. The only time he ever tries to change things is when we have...
    foodDee foodDee 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 2, 2011

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    CastingMarriedCouples CastingMarriedCouples 26-30, F Oct 22, 2013

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    Anniversary Blues

    So today is my wedding anniversary and I sign up for EP. Funny, yet sad. Is this really my life? How did I end up married, but feel like I have never been in love? Makes me wretch at the thought of anyone wishing me a happy day today.
    Vadne Vadne 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 8, 2013

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    Cant Get To The Truth Of My Husbands Emotional Affair

    My husband and i are both in our 50's and have been happily married for 26yrs, in Nov 2012 i noticed a change in his attitude towards me, and changes in his daily habits, wearing more aftershave etc, in his job he works alongside a lot of women age ranging from 18 to 60yrs, he...
    saraps saraps 56-60 4 Responses Apr 5, 2013

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    Unhappily Married

    Even though I am married, we haven't had sex in over two years!  I have been beaten down so much over the years that I have no desire to have sex with her.  But, I still have physical and emotional needs that she just isn't giving me anymore.  I am so frustrated I don't know...
    MrRick37 MrRick37 51-55, M 1 Response Dec 4, 2011

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    I Am In A Unhappy Marriage

    I am 26 years old. I have been with my husband since I was 16. Married for 2 years. I found myself in a situation now where I don't even think I am in love anymore. I have become so distant from him. I sleep on the couch every night, We never have sex, I avoid any kind of...
    susiejq susiejq 26-30 1 Response Jan 10, 2012

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    What Do I Do?

    It's been two years of mess. Up and down the emotional roller coaster with my husband. What to do? I don't know. He wants me to say I'm ready to work on our marriage, and I can't. I don't feel like doing anything with our relationship right now. I've been working hard to keep it...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 14, 2013

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    Always On The Edge

    I have been married 24 yrs...lived with her 6-7 yrs before...so..you would think we would be soul mates....Lately, ..we argue way too much..the kids are in college..empty nest...Iam getting used to it...not bad at all...Last week the wife informed me that she is tired of cooking...
    supermex2011 supermex2011 46-50, M 3 Responses Oct 11, 2011

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    Kids From Another Woman.

    I'm not sure what to do. I have been married for 11 years. I had an affair shortly before we separated last year. I dated the girl I had an affair with for the most part of the year. (I've detailed this story somewhere else on EP) During the separation my girlfriend got pregnant...
    willyouwontyou willyouwontyou 26-30, M 3 Responses Jul 14, 2013

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    Sick

    So I am laying in bed sick with the flu and strep and my husband is all about "how is this going to affect me?" Not, "Can I fix you anything, honey" or "What can I do for you?" He didn't clean up the dirty kitchen for 2 days so today I finally got up out of bed and loaded the...
    pizza59 pizza59 51-55 Nov 10, 2012

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    How Do You Leave When He Is Sick?

    I've been married 11 years and have two beautiful children (5 & 7). You would think I could be happy just because my kids are happy and healthy but I want...more. My husband was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis 6 years ago and has become a shell of a person. He sleeps for...
    natashasonja natashasonja 36-40, F 19 Responses May 4, 2012

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    Married Over 20 Yrs. I Have Wanted Out For 10

    Married 23 years, I have wanted out for more than 10 of these years. I have a 21 yr old daughter (senior in college) and a 14 yr old son. My kids mean the world to me. One of the MANY reasons for wanting out of my 'marrirage' is his drinking. I learned to deal with it, he is...
    llieno8 llieno8 51-55, F 4 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    Old And Sorry

    I have been married for 42 years and am so unhappy.   We have 2 grown children and because of my husbands personality we have no friends.   I am lonely and miserable and am hoping for death.   He is mean to me and rude and has been for many many years.   I feel like an idiot...
    tooold2 tooold2 61-65 1 Response Dec 4, 2011

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    Unhappy Marriage Please Help

    Hi, OK so this is my second marriage, first one was great was with him 10 years and had 3 daughters with him and he wanted me all the time sexually and was very romantic, flowers every month and surprise gifts, nights out, etc.... he went screwball (brain tumors) turned out he...
    gobbalino gobbalino 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 19, 2012

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    It Is My Responsibility My Happiness In This Marriage

    i am married 6 years now - and as with all marriages phases happen and changes take place. my issue is let go and let love in but i am so protective of my heart and untrusting to allow someone else to have control of my life yet i am not taking control. my husband is a...
    serkjo serkjo 51-55, F 1 Response Jul 5, 2012

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    Support Or Escape????

    I am 26 and have been married to my high school sweet heart for two years now. We were friends for a couple of weeks  Before we took it to the next level. We were intimate at least once a week during the first 2 years of our relationship, like most couples. She if the only...
    blink2011 blink2011 26-30 1 Response Dec 15, 2011

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    I'm Alone, Unhappy, Negleted And Uncared For.

    My husband and I have been together for 6 months and married for almost 1. I'm not sure why I got married when I was doubting it. When we met it was like a dream come true every girls fantasy turned reality. Now everythings different. It started getting different before we got...
    tishx tishx 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    Overwhelmed And Done With Husband And His Ptsd

    Terrified and frustrated. If we didn't have kids I would have physically left years ago. Since we do have 2 girls together and the only place I have to go is to a shelter I have to wait until I find a way to get a job and start making contacts again and saving some money. It...
    rockMehardplace rockMehardplace 41-45, F 4 Responses Oct 23, 2012

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