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I Am Unhappy In My Marriage

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    So tonight is my wife's first attempt at

    scheduling a date night on her own in months and first since our recent round of struggles. So far, no plan in place. Vague reference to going to dinner but no idea where - and sounds like probably figuring on coming home right after. If it is coming home to be romantic and...
    lonelyguy375 lonelyguy375 46-50, M 1 Response Sep 18

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    My idea of marriage and the reality of it (for

    me) are so far off the mark that I don't consider myself to be married. Is that weird? Maybe it should be ended. I may or may not ever be with someone again but isn't it better to be alone than to settle for crumbs? I'm sure he would see it differently.
    elizabeth111 elizabeth111 46-50, F 3 Responses Apr 18

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    My wife and I have had a tumultuous last four

    weeks after approaching the brink of divorce for the second time in about a 30 month span after years of issues. Over a week we had some of the most open and honest discussions of our marriage and were intimate three times. Now over the last three days, the same lame excuses...
    lonelyguy375 lonelyguy375 46-50, M 3 Responses Sep 26

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    I have been truly unhappy

    for years but held on for the sake of my children and for the fact that I do love my husband.... But really don't like him. We will be married 20 years in May but have been together since high school. He is all I know and I do find comfort in that but hate these feelings I have...
    TrinityX2 TrinityX2 46-50, F 10 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    My wife asked me to make a peach cobbler

    tonight. I'm more then happy to make a treat, however I told her that she would have to sit in the kitchen with me and keep me company while I made the cobbler. She can't do that, she's busy paying bills on the couch in the living room with her laptop and the TV on. Are there...
    LifeinWoodinville LifeinWoodinville 41-45, M 18 Responses Sep 16

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    I Would Like...

    I would like someone to hug me and tell me they are so glad I am a part of their life...I want to be something other than an option..I would like to share my thoughts, fears, dreams and passion with someone that really cared what they were...I'd like to feel the rain on my face...
    sweetpetite68 sweetpetite68 46-50, F 21 Responses Oct 14, 2012

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    I can't wait to leave

    and never look back.
    Zoren047 Zoren047 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 10

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    After 20 years, he's just a roommate.

    I've told him but it doesn't change......
    WickedJourney WickedJourney 46-50 8 Responses Dec 7, 2013

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    Staying For The Kids

    I am in a mostly unhappy marriage. My wife suffers from depression and that has made my marriage pretty unhappy. You can read my other story about that aspect of my relationship if you're curious. What I'd like to address her is why I stay...my children. You might think from...
    iRant iRant 46-50, M 15 Responses Mar 12, 2013

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    I Get No Affection From My Husband.

    I have been married for about a year and a half, been together four years.  When my husband and I were dating, he was affectionate.  Once we started living together after about six or seven months, he became less and less affectionate quickly.  Now his expressions...
    MarenGolden MarenGolden 36-40, F 88 Responses Jun 14, 2009

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    I read an article recently about the turning

    point people had that defined the end of their marriage. I am not saying this is the last straw, but certainly adding to the pile. My wife has been sick the last 2 years, but starting to get better. maybe 75% now. Especially lately, I have been working 2 jobs, trying to be a...
    runnfree runnfree 36-40, M 4 Responses Sep 10

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    So....hubby did and said all the right things

    last night. Dinner at my favorite restaurant, bottle of wine, walk on the beach. At home, I surprised him with new sexy lingerie. Another bottle of wine, kissing, hand holding. Time for some loving, and he had a surprise of his own, a penis extender! But then, he...
    Bikinigardener Bikinigardener 46-50, F 12 Responses Sep 16

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    I have been married for 19 years.

    My husband is a good guy. No abuse, good work ethic, affectionate, etc. The problem is I am just not happy anymore. We have very different goals in life. He is positively content with life, very mellow, no real motivation to improve his life in any way, no dreams, goals or...
    vaughng vaughng 41-45, F 12 Responses Mar 3

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    Had a huge fight with the husband today.

    After being up literally all night with my 2 week old baby my husband gets mad for having to get up with our 2 year old. I can't deal with a screaming baby and a crying toddler on my own. He thinks that because he works during the day and I am on mat leave everything is up to me...
    blondie529 blondie529 22-25, F 14 Responses Oct 8

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    Hi everyone ..its my 1st time to try this blog.

    .i do like the idea and i hope someone will listen to me one day in life.. Im a father for 2 sons , married since 6 years ago to my wife , we knew each other for sometime ..had shared some life experience ..she likes my way of thinking and i did the same ....we had a very good...
    NightHawk2020 NightHawk2020 31-35, M 4 Responses Oct 5

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    Hi everyone ..its my 1st time to try this blog.

    .i do like the idea and i hope someone will listen to me one day in life.. Im a father for 2 sons , married since 6 years ago to my wife , we knew each other for sometime ..had shared some life experience ..she likes my way of thinking and i did the same ....we had a very good...
    NightHawk2020 NightHawk2020 31-35, M Oct 5

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    Bad day today. My husband has financially

    trapped me in our marriage so regardless how miserable he makes me I cannot just leave. I need a Prince Charming to sweep me off my feet and save my life
    blondie529 blondie529 22-25, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I Just Want to Feel Loved and Wanted

      This story starts about 15 years ago. I was 21 and had my whole life ahead of me. I was in my second year of college and had every intention of graduating. I felt that one day I would achieve my goals and dreams. I thought that there was a purpose in life and I was...
    LivinaLie LivinaLie 36-40, M 31 Responses Nov 7, 2007

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    I love my children, I want them to be proud of

    who they are. I want them to learn that what they perceive as weaknesses, may be after all strengths. I want them to know that if they don't like the life they have, they can create a new one. Creativeness, imagination, invention are what has made us humans progress. I only...
    MrSquishy MrSquishy 41-45, M 4 Responses Dec 14, 2013

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    I did it. Left him Tuesday

    and served him divorce papers today. Whew.
    Bikinigardener Bikinigardener 46-50, F 29 Responses Sep 26

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    Yesterday daughter and I were discussing our

    impending 21st and 50th birthdays Asked husband what will he be getting me for this special birthday His response : a divorce that should make you happy I used to respond in utter shock and disbelief in such comments but no longer do(but yes they still hurt )as I realise its all...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 4 Responses Jul 9

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    He up and quit his job today.

    We have a 19 month old and he just goes and quits. I'm so mad and worried. I am so close to wanting to call it quits with my marriage.
    MegMichelle29 MegMichelle29 26-30, F 5 Responses Sep 2

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    Completely stuck, drowning,

    no way out type of feeling. I don't love him anymore. I'm not attracted to him anymore. He never grew as a person. I want to be happy. I want to live and enjoy life. I want to go out on a date on a Saturday night. I'm outside alone, sitting under a beautifully lit gazebo...
    PolishedSadness PolishedSadness 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 7

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    So Unhappy I Wish I Were Dead

    I have been married for 25 years. They have all been pretty terrible. Each year I think it can't get any worse but it does. I am so totally ignored in my house that when I speak, everyone talks right over me like I'm not there. The thing that is the worst of all is how my husband...
    tselliott tselliott 56-60, F 49 Responses Mar 24, 2008

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    Seems most apt here..

    . The Journey One day you finally knew what you had to do, and began, though the voices around you kept shouting their bad advice- though the whole house began to tremble and you felt the old tug at your ankles. "Mend my life!" each voice cried. But you didn't stop...
    EttaS EttaS 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 30

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    I Want Out, But....

    Two years ago my husband betrayed me. The hurt was so deep, my love for him changed and continues to change. I love him for what he is but I don't want to be married to him anymore. I don't believe he loves me as much as he loved the other woman. We moved when he went full...
    jadedkitty jadedkitty 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 13, 2013

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    So I am busy cooking

    and I ask my husband to hold our 8 month old. He stares at me with this vicious look. He STARES. Straight into my eyes. I ask him why he's looking at me like that. He keeps staring, like he's trying to intimidate me. He even squints. He looks like he wants to murder me. He says...
    Nathee Nathee 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 5

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    Where to begin other

    than the title of this group says it all. I'm unhappy but I am even more tired of being unhappy. I cannot tell you the times people will tell us how perfect we look together. How we seem to have it together. I smile and simply say thank you but inside I fight back the tears...
    Peaches1976 Peaches1976 36-40, F 5 Responses May 27

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    I am living in a separated situation with my

    abuser/ refuser / Narcissistic husband ( on paper only ) sleep in seperate rooms Do nothing together. In fact he ignores me, neglects any responsibility to maintain home , garden , maintenance Ect I try to just go about my business , ignore his attempts at triggering a...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 6 Responses Sep 12

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    Last night I got to share with him a nature

    documentary directed by an old friend, I'd funded their kickstarter and finally got the DVD. It was gorgeous, full of humor, adventure, people's stories, musicians & artists, the natural history of the Catskills mountains. Sooo beautiful and inspiring. Of course he hated it.
    jenzy42 jenzy42 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 12

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    My Emotions Things are better,

    that’s what I tell myself, and to an extent they are. Yet deep down I’m not sure if she really wants me. It’s not that she doesn’t love me; I know she does. But is she IN love with me? Does she long for my touch? Does she smile when merely thinking of me? That’s the...
    Cumquat83 Cumquat83 31-35, M 2 Responses Oct 8

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    People always fall in love with the most

    perfect aspects of each other’s personalities. Who wouldn’t? Anybody can love the most wonderful parts of another person. But that’s not the clever trick. The really clever trick is this: Can you accept the flaws? Can you look at your partner’s faults honestly and say...
    myownbox myownbox 26-30, F 5 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Sorry, this is awfully long!

    I'm a married mother of two little boys - two little treasures who make my heart soar with every kiss, every pudgy hand-hold, and every time I hug their small bodies tightly. I'm so grateful for them and I want very much to do an excellent job as their mother. I try to be a...
    Wonderloon Wonderloon 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 18

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    I have been married for 6 months now

    and it just seems like nothing ever goes right. My husband and I should still be in our honeymoon stage but it seems like we are so far apart from one another. I'm so lost. It seems like all we ever do is fight. I try to talk to him about it and he says that he just isn't an...
    lonelygirl3355 lonelygirl3355 31-35, F 8 Responses Sep 12

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    Marriage Is Nothing More Than Legalized Slavery.

    Needless to say, Im pretty unhappy.  I have been married for only 5 year and they have been a wretched.  I have three children ages 10, 4, and 2.  My husband is exceptionally controlling, very demanding, and has an explosive temper.  He opens and reads of my...
    MsEnigma MsEnigma 26-30 23 Responses Jun 24, 2010

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    Tomorrow is our 8th anniversary.

    I haven't gotten my husband anything yet. Our marriage is a mess, to say the least. Two years ago he FORGOT our anniversary, and I was devastated. He made ME feel guilty for being upset about it. He says he doesn't want to give up on us, I'm not sure I can keep trying...
    wasguzie wasguzie 41-45, F 10 Responses Aug 28

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    Divorce isn't such a tragedy.

    A tragedy's staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce.
    myownbox myownbox 26-30, F 3 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    My husband wants to see his divorce attorney

    today. I am soo incredibly sad and at the same time I am completely void of emotions.....I gave up my life to be with him, I relocated, I gave up seeing my friends and family, I have beeing putting up with his family's hatred towards me for two years, I postponed finishing my...
    Astriabirdy Astriabirdy 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 10

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    There Is No Intimacy, In Any Form, In My Marriage

    My husband and I have become no more than roommates. While he seems perfectly content this has made me incredibly unhappy and sad to the point I am considering leaving. I don't want to live like this any longer. For many years we couldn't keep our hands off on another, always...
    Moonwillow85 Moonwillow85 41-45, F 38 Responses Sep 17, 2011

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    My husband constantly yells at me

    and is a lazy jerk. He never helps with anything including our 7 yr old child . We've been together for 10 yrs and I'm convinced he won't change . I see other peoples husbands and how much they do for their families and It makes me sad . I beg and plead with him to please help...
    Bostonscan Bostonscan 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 27

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    Am I crazy to expect my husband to be home in

    the evenings since we just had our second baby and our toddler isn't sleeping through the night? Because he seems to think it's acceptable to be out with his buddy until 2 am when his family needed him
    blondie529 blondie529 22-25, F 6 Responses Oct 11

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    if you are unhappy in your marriage

    and are looking for some fun with a young girl message me xxx
    sophh99 sophh99 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 8

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    I feel badly that I've fallen out of love with

    my husband. It's primarily based upon lack of respect. He constantly has apologized over and over again for YEARS because I must work harder to be with him than without him! He's lazy compared to me and has yet to get his career together. I've done all that I can to be a...
    brokenwoman13 brokenwoman13 36-40, F 16 Responses Dec 3, 2013

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    I have been married for 8 years now

    and my wife and I have a beautiful 4 year old daughter who we both cherish. My wife is a kind, loving woman who loves me and our daughter and has put up with my **** for years now. I know that the main reason we fight is because I secretly want out of our marriage. I have never...
    Jeremy0121 Jeremy0121 31-35, M 4 Responses Sep 19

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    For everyone who may be unhappily married

    please do not give up or lose hope. If you are in the UK I have the perfect opportunity for you it's called the "Love School Event"- Before you pull a face and scream "How can there be a school on love, you learn everything yourself!!!" Give me a chance to explain. Of course no...
    dannirsj dannirsj 18-21 Sep 9

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    If you could love the wrong person

    that much,Imagine how much you could love the right one.
    wvcountrylady wvcountrylady 51-55, F 5 Responses Jun 20

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    I'm kind of at a phase in my marriage

    where I don't feel like being the good guy anymore. I don't want to put my best foot forward to make things as good as I can. I feel like if she's not going to take the time to understand and meet my needs then why should I do anything to meet her needs? I'm somewhat...
    LifeinWoodinville LifeinWoodinville 41-45, M 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    Solitairediamond posted a phrase basically

    saying doing things out of duty depletes you, while doing them out of love energizes you. While I agree to an extent with her thoughts, I also see it a bit differently. If an act is performed solely based on duty I fully agree. However, I think of love and/or a marriage...
    lonelyguy375 lonelyguy375 46-50, M 3 Responses Sep 21

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    I wasn't always unhappy.

    I've tried very hard over the years to make my husband happy and to support him in everything he did. I'm not perfect by any means and I know I have failed him along the way a time or two but I feel like he has broken my heart and me a little bit at a time over the past 20 years...
    Curiouskitty77 Curiouskitty77 36-40, F 18 Responses May 28

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    Should I Ask Get A Divorce?

    I am contemplating leaving my husband. He is overseas working at the moment & I think that the distance really opened my eyes. We have a whole list of problems. He has hit me before.. actually he hits me every time we have a big argument. I have gained a bit weight since we got...
    unhappyyoungwife unhappyyoungwife 22-25, F 24 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    I have a very hard time in my marriage.

    My husband is very dominant and I am extremely passive. I let things go that normal people would go crazy over just because I hate confrontation. I can't hold a grudge. I am a stay at home mom/student. I don't get out much at all. My husband treats me like I'm his child. I am...
    lp1989 lp1989 22-25, F 14 Responses Jul 23

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    Till death do us part.

    ..... well I feel like I'm dying a little every day, every second of every day my heart breaks. There is nothing left and soon nothing left to feel, cause I'm just left numb from it all. Till eventually you're a shell of the person you once were. Yeah did you ever meet one of...
    blissfulmiss blissfulmiss 36-40, F 6 Responses Feb 7

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    I hate my life right now.

    I rushed into a marriage with a woman with three kids. She's a great woman but I just have major regret and resentment because I found out things after the fact. What do I do?
    tmantx tmantx 31-35, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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