Post
Experience Project iOS Android Apps | Download EP for your Mobile Device

I Am Unhappy In My Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 5,659 People

    I hate my life right now.

    I rushed into a marriage with a woman with three kids. She's a great woman but I just have major regret and resentment because I found out things after the fact. What do I do?
    tmantx tmantx 31-35, M 2 Responses Oct 16

    Your Response

    Cancel

    well after our huge fight the other day,

    my husband sent this nice long text that he wanted to save or marriage and we should have a nice long talk about what we want, and not about the past... just how to move forward... seemed nice... and days later ask he had done is play video games. ask day and all night. I am...
    nodbates nodbates 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 28

    Your Response

    Cancel

    What do you do when you know

    that you never really loved the person you married? I explained it all in a post that disappeared into oblivion after writing it for about 20 min. I married for the wrong reasons and am now after twenty five years of feeling like a walking dead person I want to find a way out. I...
    curltwirler curltwirler 41-45 5 Responses Dec 2

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I said I want to stop fighting

    so maybe we can work on things. That doesn't mean in ready to move back into the bedroom
    blondiecbl0105 blondiecbl0105 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 7

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Completely stuck, drowning,

    no way out type of feeling. I don't love him anymore. I'm not attracted to him anymore. He never grew as a person. I want to be happy. I want to live and enjoy life. I want to go out on a date on a Saturday night. I'm outside alone, sitting under a beautifully lit gazebo...
    PolishedSadness PolishedSadness 36-40, F 7 Responses Jun 7

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I have been with my husband

    for 4 years and have been married for two. Well anyways my husband is so controlling I don't know what to do anymore. I can't go out by myself or go and do anything with the few girlfriends I do have because he doesn't want me spending money that I make by babysitting a little...
    alwaysmiserable23 alwaysmiserable23 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 8

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My husband and I have been having problems

    for a while now. He is an addict. He was struggling with opiate addiction when we met, but went into methadone treatment and has been successful in that aspect. But over the years his alcoholism has grown worse. I have confronted him many times on the issue. Possibly the worst...
    nodbates nodbates 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 22

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My wife asked me to make a peach cobbler

    tonight. I'm more then happy to make a treat, however I told her that she would have to sit in the kitchen with me and keep me company while I made the cobbler. She can't do that, she's busy paying bills on the couch in the living room with her laptop and the TV on. Are there...
    LifeinWoodinville LifeinWoodinville 41-45, M 18 Responses Sep 16

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Oh, and to top that off,

    he brushed me off when I tried to initiate sex after I got back from the store. He had fell asleep on the couch and was 'tired'. He'd been nice this morning. He told me to wait until after supper. Wft ever, no way would I let him touch me after being so mean.
    FreyjaInBattle FreyjaInBattle 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 7

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I am a very private person.

    ..posting here is a bit uncomfortable and foreign to me. I hope letting the thoughts that play in my head out will help a bit. A couple very close friends are aware of my marital issues, I trust them immensely. Outside of them, no one has a clue of issues. I am a very positive...
    Hopeshope Hopeshope 36-40, F 9 Responses Nov 5

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I am hating myself right now.

    the other night at our anniversary dinner, when I saw the plenty of fish app on his phone, I wish I had walked out right there. but I pretended that I bought his lies... not in just so angry and I don't have the nerve to say why. and of course I get, "are you on your period...
    nodbates nodbates 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 23

    Your Response

    Cancel

    So....hubby did and said all the right things

    last night. Dinner at my favorite restaurant, bottle of wine, walk on the beach. At home, I surprised him with new sexy lingerie. Another bottle of wine, kissing, hand holding. Time for some loving, and he had a surprise of his own, a penis extender! But then, he...
    Bikinigardener Bikinigardener 46-50, F 11 Responses Sep 16

    Your Response

    Cancel

    if you are unhappy in your marriage

    and are looking for some fun with a young girl message me xxx
    sophh99 sophh99 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 8

    Your Response

    Cancel

    After 20 years, he's just a roommate.

    I've told him but it doesn't change......
    WickedJourney WickedJourney 46-50 7 Responses Dec 7, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm kind of at a phase in my marriage

    where I don't feel like being the good guy anymore. I don't want to put my best foot forward to make things as good as I can. I feel like if she's not going to take the time to understand and meet my needs then why should I do anything to meet her needs? I'm somewhat...
    LifeinWoodinville LifeinWoodinville 41-45, M 6 Responses Oct 18

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Just Want to Feel Loved and Wanted

      This story starts about 15 years ago. I was 21 and had my whole life ahead of me. I was in my second year of college and had every intention of graduating. I felt that one day I would achieve my goals and dreams. I thought that there was a purpose in life and I was...
    LivinaLie LivinaLie 36-40, M 31 Responses Nov 7, 2007

    Your Response

    Cancel

    If you could love the wrong person

    that much,Imagine how much you could love the right one.
    wvcountrylady wvcountrylady 51-55, F 5 Responses Jun 20

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I am so sad. I do believe my husband loves me

    or loved me. The person I married would have never told me to "dry it up" when I was crying or not give me a hug if I was upset. However, after having children, he has become this person. I am very sad because I would give anything for a hug, to be loved, to know that I have...
    pricelesshugs pricelesshugs 36-40 2 Responses Oct 24

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I have been married for 19 years.

    My husband is a good guy. No abuse, good work ethic, affectionate, etc. The problem is I am just not happy anymore. We have very different goals in life. He is positively content with life, very mellow, no real motivation to improve his life in any way, no dreams, goals or...
    vaughng vaughng 46-50, F 12 Responses Mar 3

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Take that Husband! I'm sick today,

    fatigue and nausea, the works. So my H tried to initiate and I flat out told him '*No*. I haven't refused him in quite a while, and he is typically the refuser himself. I was laying on the couch, him on the other and he starts waving his hard-on at me. I do usually get happy...
    FreyjaInBattle FreyjaInBattle 26-30, F 9 Responses a week ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I hate what goes on inside my head.

    My wife left on a business trip on Monday morning. The entire time she's gone my anxiety is through the roof, I miss her, and we text and email a lot. She comes back to town last night and I'm not on her radar, I get half a hug and she barely speaks to me. She spends all her...
    LifeinWoodinville LifeinWoodinville 41-45, M 3 Responses Oct 23

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I love my children, I want them to be proud of

    who they are. I want them to learn that what they perceive as weaknesses, may be after all strengths. I want them to know that if they don't like the life they have, they can create a new one. Creativeness, imagination, invention are what has madeĀ us humans progress. I only...
    MrSquishy MrSquishy 41-45, M 4 Responses Dec 14, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Yesterday daughter and I were discussing our

    impending 21st and 50th birthdays Asked husband what will he be getting me for this special birthday His response : a divorce that should make you happy I used to respond in utter shock and disbelief in such comments but no longer do(but yes they still hurt )as I realise its all...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 5 Responses Jul 9

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I read an article recently about the turning

    point people had that defined the end of their marriage. I am not saying this is the last straw, but certainly adding to the pile. My wife has been sick the last 2 years, but starting to get better. maybe 75% now. Especially lately, I have been working 2 jobs, trying to be a...
    runnfree runnfree 36-40, M 3 Responses Sep 10

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I feel badly that I've fallen out of love with

    my husband. It's primarily based upon lack of respect. He constantly has apologized over and over again for YEARS because I must work harder to be with him than without him! He's lazy compared to me and has yet to get his career together. I've done all that I can to be a...
    brokenwoman13 brokenwoman13 36-40, F 16 Responses Dec 3, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I have a very hard time in my marriage.

    My husband is very dominant and I am extremely passive. I let things go that normal people would go crazy over just because I hate confrontation. I can't hold a grudge. I am a stay at home mom/student. I don't get out much at all. My husband treats me like I'm his child. I am...
    lp1989 lp1989 22-25, F 14 Responses Jul 23

    Your Response

    Cancel

    confronted my husband.

    .. boy did that backfire. presictibly he denied that he had any intention of cheating. He went on plenty of fish to "meet friends." boy he must really think I'm stupid... and so he jumps right into "we need to split, because I don't give a **** about him" and that I'm only there...
    nodbates nodbates 31-35, F 4 Responses Nov 23

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I find I can't share with many people

    and I just want to shout here. I just got married in 1 month. I been with my hubby for 7 years, before we got married. I hope to get married and he will change to a better person. But I realized it is wrong decision that I have made. In this 1 month and we got into argument and...
    depressrach depressrach 31-35, F 5 Responses Oct 25

    Your Response

    Cancel

    We have known each other

    for 9 years: 1st year long distance, lived together for another 3 years and on/off long distance for the next 5, and then recently got married. Marriage life is different from what it was when we lived together or when we were doing long distance. I gave up my career goals and...
    mewmy mewmy 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 23

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My husband loves making money more

    than me. Married for 6 years with 2 kids. We struggle paycheck to paycheck to take care of family needs. And hardly ever spend alone time together. I told my husband that I am very unhappy and thinking about life without him. That I love him and all I want more time to...
    SadieB83 SadieB83 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 7

    Your Response

    Cancel

    i just realized that I have been in an

    unhealthy marriage for the last 34 years. A few years ago,I tried asking my husband for a divorce and he said go ahead, but he knew that I had nowhere to go, because all of my family is back east. I blame him for dragging me all the way out to the west coast. I knew that I was...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 20 Responses Jul 20

    Your Response

    Cancel

    So Unhappy I Wish I Were Dead

    I have been married for 25 years. They have all been pretty terrible. Each year I think it can't get any worse but it does. I am so totally ignored in my house that when I speak, everyone talks right over me like I'm not there. The thing that is the worst of all is how my husband...
    tselliott tselliott 56-60, F 51 Responses Mar 24, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Last night I got to share with him a nature

    documentary directed by an old friend, I'd funded their kickstarter and finally got the DVD. It was gorgeous, full of humor, adventure, people's stories, musicians & artists, the natural history of the Catskills mountains. Sooo beautiful and inspiring. Of course he hated it.
    jenzy42 jenzy42 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 12

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My husband has a Craig's list ad,

    looking for a couple to have sex with. I feel sad and really don't know what to do.
    Rosegalv Rosegalv 51-55, F 1 Response Dec 8

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm don't know what to listen to my head

    or my heart. ones telling me to stay the other to leave
    blondiecbl0105 blondiecbl0105 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 7

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Should I Ask Get A Divorce?

    I am contemplating leaving my husband. He is overseas working at the moment & I think that the distance really opened my eyes. We have a whole list of problems. He has hit me before.. actually he hits me every time we have a big argument. I have gained a bit weight since we got...
    unhappyyoungwife unhappyyoungwife 22-25, F 22 Responses Nov 24, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I was married just 9 months ago,

    in my mid-twenties, in what was quite possibly the world's most perfect wedding. The prior year of planning was challenging, to say the least. My then-fiance and I would fight constantly because he was always forgetting to do tasks he had promised to take care of. Two weeks...
    sasha898 sasha898 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 22

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Till death do us part.

    ..... well I feel like I'm dying a little every day, every second of every day my heart breaks. There is nothing left and soon nothing left to feel, cause I'm just left numb from it all. Till eventually you're a shell of the person you once were. Yeah did you ever meet one of...
    blissfulmiss blissfulmiss 36-40, F 6 Responses Feb 7

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Haven't spoken to my husband in 2 days.

    I can tell that he is ready to talk to me again, but I am not ready. I seriously though about staying in a hotel last night. But this being such a busy time for my business on the property of our home, it would have been too big of a hassle. So i stayed. I shut myself in the...
    nodbates nodbates 31-35, F Nov 23

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Bad day today. My husband has financially

    trapped me in our marriage so regardless how miserable he makes me I cannot just leave. I need a Prince Charming to sweep me off my feet and save my life
    blondie529 blondie529 22-25, F 6 Responses Oct 18

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Would Like...

    I would like someone to hug me and tell me they are so glad I am a part of their life...I want to be something other than an option..I would like to share my thoughts, fears, dreams and passion with someone that really cared what they were...I'd like to feel the rain on my face...
    sweetpetite68 sweetpetite68 46-50, F 21 Responses Oct 14, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    You know what hurts? What really,

    really hurts about my marriage? That I am my Husbands Best Friend. He's told me this. It's true, all the good friends I've known him to have also got walked on. Seriously, no other person has given him as much. No other person has forgiven him as much and tried to accept who...
    FreyjaInBattle FreyjaInBattle 26-30, F 3 Responses a week ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Staying For The Kids

    I am in a mostly unhappy marriage. My wife suffers from depression and that has made my marriage pretty unhappy. You can read my other story about that aspect of my relationship if you're curious. What I'd like to address her is why I stay...my children. You might think from...
    iRant iRant 46-50, M 15 Responses Mar 12, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I have been married for 29 years to a selfish

    materialistic ***. He has no interest in me intimately. He wants to be married but he wants to act single. Can't leave for financial reasons, but so tired of being lonely. Would love to just have a conversation. or a kiss
    lookinghappiness lookinghappiness 51-55, F 2 Responses Nov 8

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My husband wants to see his divorce attorney

    today. I am soo incredibly sad and at the same time I am completely void of emotions.....I gave up my life to be with him, I relocated, I gave up seeing my friends and family, I have beeing putting up with his family's hatred towards me for two years, I postponed finishing my...
    Astriabirdy Astriabirdy 31-35, F 7 Responses Oct 10

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I did it. Left him Tuesday

    and served him divorce papers today. Whew.
    Bikinigardener Bikinigardener 46-50, F 29 Responses Sep 26

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My idea of marriage and the reality of it (for

    me) are so far off the mark that I don't consider myself to be married. Is that weird? Maybe it should be ended. I may or may not ever be with someone again but isn't it better to be alone than to settle for crumbs? I'm sure he would see it differently.
    elizabeth111 elizabeth111 46-50, F 3 Responses Apr 18

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I just got out of the house.

    . Can't deal with tha hate inside it anymore! Sitting in the middle of nature and crying!!! I prepared sunday breakfast and wanted to have a nice day with my kids.. But he f&@)d up my happines again!!!! Yelling, complaining.. I am so over it! My kids get so agressiv, because...
    Krokus85 Krokus85 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 26

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Did I Marry The Right Person?

    This is to help those who have some challenges in their marriages. Someone once wrote. Every relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. you anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your...
    JustMe2B JustMe2B 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 16, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I have been truly unhappy

    for years but held on for the sake of my children and for the fact that I do love my husband.... But really don't like him. We will be married 20 years in May but have been together since high school. He is all I know and I do find comfort in that but hate these feelings I have...
    TrinityX2 TrinityX2 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 28, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm back from the dead people,

    not dead really just not in the mood to deal with anyone. I'm sick of depression, sick of my horrible lonely marriage, and now it's the holidays again sigh
    Wantfreedom67 Wantfreedom67 46-50, F 8 Responses Nov 22

    Your Response

    Cancel