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I Am Unhappy In My Marriage

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    Married for 7 months

    and my husband and me are really not communicating sometimes I feel that he talks more than what he listens nor try to understand my point of view everything seems so perfect at the beginning now I feel like everything is not what I expected sometimes I feel that we rushed into...
    mzcomplicated88 mzcomplicated88 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 16

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    Marriage Is Nothing More Than Legalized Slavery.

    Needless to say, Im pretty unhappy.  I have been married for only 5 year and they have been a wretched.  I have three children ages 10, 4, and 2.  My husband is exceptionally controlling, very demanding, and has an explosive temper.  He opens and reads of my...
    MsEnigma MsEnigma 26-30 22 Responses Jun 24, 2010

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    I feel at a loss as to what to do with my

    marriage. I'm 43 and have been married for 22 years. We are not connected in any way whatsoever other than sharing our child who happens to be 21. Our child left home freshman year which was 2011. I think the void became more evident at that point. Suddenly, it was just us at...
    txnurse txnurse 41-45, F 4 Responses Jul 17

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    For those that are familiar with love languages,

    mine is physical touch. Yes, that is partially the bedroom, but mostly, everywhere else. My wife has been so focused on herself for the past two years, she has stopped touching me. She never really did, but anymore it is never. I truly realized how bad it has become last...
    runnfree runnfree 36-40, M 3 Responses Jun 20

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    I'm Ready For This To Be Over Now

    We both suck at communicating and, in all honestly, I just don't care anymore and don't see us staying together much longer. He gets pissed off about everything and complains when I ask him to do too much. No one has to ask me to do anything at home, I do it because it needs to...
    livelustlove livelustlove 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 26, 2012

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    It sucks. Three years married

    and it's not getting any easier. He's a very difficult man to be around. We have nothing in common either.
    armstrong7984 armstrong7984 26-30, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    The Other Woman Contacted Me

    I got a surprise instant message on my FB. The OW said she's tired of his lies and that I can now have him. Isn't that nice of her? They have both been denying an affair ever since I first discovered their FB contact about 4 years ago. She now admits to me that it's been going on...
    LifeGaveMeLemons LifeGaveMeLemons 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 14, 2013

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    Till death do us part.

    ..... well I feel like I'm dying a little every day, every second of every day my heart breaks. There is nothing left and soon nothing left to feel, cause I'm just left numb from it all. Till eventually you're a shell of the person you once were. Yeah did you ever meet one of...
    blissfulmiss blissfulmiss 36-40, F 5 Responses Feb 7

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    When Do You Walk Away???

    I am so glad I found this site. I have to say that I don't wish this upon anyone but so glad I am not the only one in this boat. Fifteen years and I am literally sleeping on the couch tonight. And not just tonight. I am much like the rest of you. No communication, no intimacy, no...
    Dolb75 Dolb75 36-40, F 17 Responses Oct 27, 2013

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    if you are unhappy in your marriage

    and are looking for some fun with a young girl message me xxx
    sophh99 sophh99 18-21, F 6 Responses Jul 8

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    I hate how he runs to his mom.

    She calls him "baby" and kisses him on the mouth. She encouraged him to take "time off" after being fired from a part time job. She covers his bills at least once a year. Sometimes I want to be immature and suggest he move back in with her.
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 22

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    I Would Like...

    I would like someone to hug me and tell me they are so glad I am a part of their life...I want to be something other than an option..I would like to share my thoughts, fears, dreams and passion with someone that really cared what they were...I'd like to feel the rain on my face...
    sweetpetite68 sweetpetite68 41-45, F 21 Responses Oct 14, 2012

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    I feel badly that I've fallen out of love with

    my husband. It's primarily based upon lack of respect. He constantly has apologized over and over again for YEARS because I must work harder to be with him than without him! He's lazy compared to me and has yet to get his career together. I've done all that I can to be a...
    brokenwoman13 brokenwoman13 36-40, F 17 Responses Dec 3, 2013

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    You know your happiness in a marriage is over

    when we have money for vacations yet you allow me to close my retirement account. Fml!
    peoplesHere peoplesHere 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 20

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    I feel betrayed, my husband may be snooping

    through my device, and i forgot to sign off, had to use erase mode on "find my iPad" There's stuff here i do not want to share with him!!!
    133jenn 133jenn 46-50, F 5 Responses Jul 12

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    I wasn't always unhappy.

    I've tried very hard over the years to make my husband happy and to support him in everything he did. I'm not perfect by any means and I know I have failed him along the way a time or two but I feel like he has broken my heart and me a little bit at a time over the past 20 years...
    Curiouskitty77 Curiouskitty77 36-40, F 18 Responses May 28

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    Should I Ask Get A Divorce?

    I am contemplating leaving my husband. He is overseas working at the moment & I think that the distance really opened my eyes. We have a whole list of problems. He has hit me before.. actually he hits me every time we have a big argument. I have gained a bit weight since we got...
    unhappyyoungwife unhappyyoungwife 22-25, F 23 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    Did I Marry The Right Person?

    This is to help those who have some challenges in their marriages. Someone once wrote. Every relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. you anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your...
    JustMe2B JustMe2B 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 16, 2013

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    My husband of four years

    and I have been having a few issues lately. After going to counselling we decided to work on things and after some quality time together they have been a lot better. However, one of the big issues was his nights out with the boys. Other people may not agree with this but still...
    fer11 fer11 26-30 5 Responses Jun 27

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    Yesterday daughter and I were discussing our

    impending 21st and 50th birthdays Asked husband what will he be getting me for this special birthday His response : a divorce that should make you happy I used to respond in utter shock and disbelief in such comments but no longer do(but yes they still hurt )as I realise its all...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 3 Responses Jul 9

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    Little update... My husband said he was leaving,

    because he was sick and tired of being sick and tired of being with me, and he don't want to continue putting his money into a place where he rarely wants to be. All he has said to me really hurts. So Friday night I told him if he's so tired leave he packed his things it took...
    OverPowered1 OverPowered1 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 22

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    Help Me Stay In My Marriage

    I don't want to get a divorce, we have a good life. He is a wonderful father and provider. Most people looking in would think it is the perfect family. We have been married for 10 years and have two young kids. It has been going downhill for the last 5. We don't communicate...
    Loki39 Loki39 36-40, F 8 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    If you could love the wrong person

    that much,Imagine how much you could love the right one.
    wvcountrylady wvcountrylady 51-55, F 6 Responses Jun 20

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      I feel I have mentally checked out of

    this marriage months ago. I keep trying to deny my feelings and think everything is okay and not that bad. I am tired of being married to a workaholic. My husband is married to his business. We have not had sex in over a year. We were first married in 1990. I...
    Goddess65 Goddess65 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 28

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    Spent this last weekend fighting with my very

    soon to be Ex! My daughter and myself have been invited to my Mothers home for a week, the last few times my husband has gone he expects everyone to pick up the tab for him non stop and won't allow my mother to have any quiet time with her daughter or granddaughter but he...
    Rena4 Rena4 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 14

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    My husband keeps threatening to leave me

    even though he promised to stop putting divorce on the table... We have been through a lot and things are hard... But we both never believed in divorce... Except he's brought it up 3 times in the last month... How can I trust someone who always wants to leave?
    rocknangel rocknangel 26-30, F 15 Responses Jul 18

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    After 20 years, he's just a roommate.

    I've told him but it doesn't change......
    WickedJourney WickedJourney 46-50 10 Responses Dec 7, 2013

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    TheCunylinguist TheCunylinguist 41-45, F Jun 16

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    I Just Want to Feel Loved and Wanted

      This story starts about 15 years ago. I was 21 and had my whole life ahead of me. I was in my second year of college and had every intention of graduating. I felt that one day I would achieve my goals and dreams. I thought that there was a purpose in life and I was...
    LivinaLie LivinaLie 36-40, M 31 Responses Nov 7, 2007

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    I Want Out, But....

    Two years ago my husband betrayed me. The hurt was so deep, my love for him changed and continues to change. I love him for what he is but I don't want to be married to him anymore. I don't believe he loves me as much as he loved the other woman. We moved when he went full...
    jadedkitty jadedkitty 31-35, F 8 Responses Nov 13, 2013

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    Been married for21 years,

    three great kids who I love dearly. My wife was my best friend, my fascination, my desire. 6 years ago she lost her spark. The fires of passion have died. She has never had the same libido as I , but now hers is completely dead. Every time I try to flirt with her she gives me...
    RoughRed RoughRed 46-50, M 3 Responses Jul 3

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    I have no sex with my partner

    and he has said that he finds our sex boring and repetitive. It has killed my self esteem and is so painful for me to handle. His neglect toward me sexually has made me resent him. Is anyone else in the same boat? I'm going on vacation with him. Any advice on how I should handle...
    mistakeoverload mistakeoverload 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 28

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    What gets your through the hard days?

    What's your go-to? For me, it's the gym, running.... I can spend 2+hours in the gym just focusing on nothing but what I'm doing... I don't have that kind of time everyday, but it makes me a much happier married person when I go.
    Dreamer359 Dreamer359 31-35, F 11 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    i just realized that I have been in an

    unhealthy marriage for the last 34 years. A few years ago,I tried asking my husband for a divorce and he said go ahead, but he knew that I had nowhere to go, because all of my family is back east. I blame him for dragging me all the way out to the west coast. I knew that I was...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 8 Responses Jul 20

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    There Is No Intimacy, In Any Form, In My Marriage

    My husband and I have become no more than roommates. While he seems perfectly content this has made me incredibly unhappy and sad to the point I am considering leaving. I don't want to live like this any longer. For many years we couldn't keep our hands off on another, always...
    Moonwillow85 Moonwillow85 41-45, F 39 Responses Sep 17, 2011

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    I have been truly unhappy

    for years but held on for the sake of my children and for the fact that I do love my husband.... But really don't like him. We will be married 20 years in May but have been together since high school. He is all I know and I do find comfort in that but hate these feelings I have...
    TrinityX2 TrinityX2 46-50, F 10 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    I think I belong to this group with my story

    instead of ILISM, or both.. Something just doesn’t feel right on the inside of me. I have this heart that can love and be loved, but in a marriage that lacks what I desire. It is causing a restlessness in both mind and body. I experience motherly love and it’s something...
    moonstruck77 moonstruck77 46-50, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I find myself reading what feels like the same

    story from so many different people... and it's extremely sad. I often find myself looking at my life & often wonder what's wrong with ME? Why can't I find happiness with what I've got? Why can't what he is be enough for me? I never was in love w/ him... one lonely night...
    Dreamer359 Dreamer359 31-35, F 19 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    You know your marriage sucks

    when you enjoy your partner being gone for work months at a time and that is when you feel the most yourself and happy. Fml!
    peoplesHere peoplesHere 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 20

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    I Dream Of Running Away :(

    I have been married 7 years and it feels like 5 of them have been too long ! My partner has such a nasty temper , the smallest of things set him off ranting and raving about how **** his life is ... well maybe he should try living my life ?? I don't march around the place...
    TaannAz TaannAz 31-35, F 20 Responses Sep 22, 2013

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    Where to begin other

    than the title of this group says it all. I'm unhappy but I am even more tired of being unhappy. I cannot tell you the times people will tell us how perfect we look together. How we seem to have it together. I smile and simply say thank you but inside I fight back the tears...
    Peaches1976 Peaches1976 36-40, F 3 Responses May 27

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    I m loosing hope that the marriage will get any

    better and am starting to plan an exit
    Stefunie Stefunie 46-50, F 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Brilliance or evil ? That is the

    question Recently married friend confronted husband on issue if he was having affair ? Of course not all in your mind , your crazy Ect Ect .... You get the picture She then informs me that she as lovingly as ever made his pre sleep cup of tea but put in a extra additive of...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    Well I am fairly certain my husband has a girl

    on the side. A single mom that opens up and shares everything with him. They text each other asking how they slept and he is always going to her house with our daughter. If our marriage was solid I wouldn't be worried but since it's rocky I think it just makes everything worse
    blondie529 blondie529 22-25, F 10 Responses Jul 1

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    I have been married for over seven years.

    We got married young. Unfortunately we were both ill equipped to have a successful relationship. Since the beginning we have both wanted a divorce. He mentioned it first, four days after our wedding day. By now I really do want a divorce. I can not stand him anymore. I realize...
    EnduringwhatIcan EnduringwhatIcan 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 6

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    You know something ill never comprehend is

    cowards and liars If your such a big man that you think you are.... Then be accountable and responsible for your choices I will never understand why people look outside their marriage ? LEAVE it!!! To berate, lie, cheat ... You are not only doing that to your spouse but the...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    What I'm Doing To Cope

    My husband wants to leave me and I am torn apart.  I've had a lot of trouble sleeping in the bed we used to share.  So I started a blog about it all.  I don't want to burden my friends and family with it, so I am trying to promote it in an anonymous way.  Making a post each...
    rahkeepschanging rahkeepschanging 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 11, 2012

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    So last night she realized I wasn't trying

    anymore because I have no reason to and we had one of our usual talks where I tell her AGAIN what I don't like about this marriage. She cries and promises to change. It's the same thing all the time. I even told her that and she says this time is different and she will be better...
    Shaider83 Shaider83 31-35, M 4 Responses Jun 20

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    I love my children, I want them to be proud of

    who they are. I want them to learn that what they perceive as weaknesses, may be after all strengths. I want them to know that if they don't like the life they have, they can create a new one. Creativeness, imagination, invention are what has made us humans progress. I only...
    MrSquishy MrSquishy 41-45, M 4 Responses Dec 14, 2013

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    My idea of marriage and the reality of it (for

    me) are so far off the mark that I don't consider myself to be married. Is that weird? Maybe it should be ended. I may or may not ever be with someone again but isn't it better to be alone than to settle for crumbs? I'm sure he would see it differently.
    elizabeth111 elizabeth111 46-50, F 3 Responses Apr 18

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    How To Stay Married

    1. Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE...
    chrisgaza chrisgaza 51-55, M 5 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    I have a very hard time in my marriage.

    My husband is very dominant and I am extremely passive. I let things go that normal people would go crazy over just because I hate confrontation. I can't hold a grudge. I am a stay at home mom/student. I don't get out much at all. My husband treats me like I'm his child. I am...
    lp1989 lp1989 22-25, F 11 Responses 6 days ago

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    So Unhappy I Wish I Were Dead

    I have been married for 25 years. They have all been pretty terrible. Each year I think it can't get any worse but it does. I am so totally ignored in my house that when I speak, everyone talks right over me like I'm not there. The thing that is the worst of all is how my husband...
    tselliott tselliott 56-60, F 48 Responses Mar 24, 2008

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