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I Am Unhappy In My Marriage

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    I am a very private person.

    ..posting here is a bit uncomfortable and foreign to me. I hope letting the thoughts that play in my head out will help a bit. A couple very close friends are aware of my marital issues, I trust them immensely. Outside of them, no one has a clue of issues. I am a very positive...
    Hopeshope Hopeshope 36-40, F 8 Responses Nov 5, 2014

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    I recently went through a serious upset .

    My spouse did something sexually that I literally told him not to seconds b4 he did it. Now he says it was a joke , & that he thinks its hilarious. What he did was something that I've banned from the bedroom because he has pushed the boundaries w that way to many times. So this...
    AsylumLeech132 AsylumLeech132 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 8

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    I have been truly unhappy

    for years but held on for the sake of my children and for the fact that I do love my husband.... But really don't like him. We will be married 20 years in May but have been together since high school. He is all I know and I do find comfort in that but hate these feelings I have...
    TrinityX2 TrinityX2 46-50, F 12 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    I experience deep sadness every time I think of

    how miserable and sad my marriage has become.
    sadsoul1975 sadsoul1975 36-40, M 2 Responses May 6

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    I Would Like...

    I would like someone to hug me and tell me they are so glad I am a part of their life...I want to be something other than an option..I would like to share my thoughts, fears, dreams and passion with someone that really cared what they were...I'd like to feel the rain on my face...
    sweetpetite68 sweetpetite68 46-50, F 21 Responses Oct 14, 2012

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    Did I Marry The Right Person?

    This is to help those who have some challenges in their marriages. Someone once wrote. Every relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. you anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your...
    JustMe2B JustMe2B 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 16, 2013

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    I wasn't always unhappy.

    I've tried very hard over the years to make my husband happy and to support him in everything he did. I'm not perfect by any means and I know I have failed him along the way a time or two but I feel like he has broken my heart and me a little bit at a time over the past 20 years...
    Curiouskitty77 Curiouskitty77 36-40, F 15 Responses May 28, 2014

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    Marie6421 Marie6421 26-30, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    My idea of marriage and the reality of it (for

    me) are so far off the mark that I don't consider myself to be married. Is that weird? Maybe it should be ended. I may or may not ever be with someone again but isn't it better to be alone than to settle for crumbs? I'm sure he would see it differently.
    elizabeth111 elizabeth111 46-50, F 4 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    My wife asked me to make a peach cobbler

    tonight. I'm more then happy to make a treat, however I told her that she would have to sit in the kitchen with me and keep me company while I made the cobbler. She can't do that, she's busy paying bills on the couch in the living room with her laptop and the TV on. Are there...
    LifeinWoodinville LifeinWoodinville 41-45, M 15 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    I am really unhappy with my marriage.

    My wife turned out to be a clinically depressed person and she is not willing to see a doc r get any kind of help. Its killing our marriage and im tired of trying to keep my head above water. Im tired! I want out!!! but I have 1 child. I dont know hat to do
    mikesmith6453 mikesmith6453 26-30, M 5 Responses Apr 20

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    I know I deserve better.

    feels like I'm stuck in an never ending loop... fight, apologize, good, fight, apologize, good.. repeat... when will I stop letting the apologies pull on my heart strings?..
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 4

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    I feel like my husband of 20 years has morphed

    into a different person...whom I am constantly annoyed by and then I wonder if it has me who has had a complete change in expectations
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses May 10

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    I'm sorry you're going through this.

    Remember that anything done out of love is not stupid. You have two beautiful children out of this relationship, so focus on them. She's not worth your time and u deserve much better! I too went through a marriage like this. I was never good enough for him. I would rather be...
    Need2bTIH Need2bTIH 41-45, F 2 days ago

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    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Apr 30

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    I found a condom wrapper in our bedroom.

    Again. They keep appearing - and he swears he has no idea where they come from. I think I'm experiencing every emotion possible as I sit and look at this little piece of torn-open foil.
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 17

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    Why are there so many scumbags on this sight?

    They use the unhappy lonely experiences to feed on people. Something that should be positive those sad pathetic scumbags turn bad.
    Wantfreedom67 Wantfreedom67 46-50, F 3 Responses May 4

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    I've been needing to say this out loud

    for a long time now and I have never had anyone to talk to. I can't even talk to my best friend about it. I met my husband when I was 17 years old. He was 18 turning 19. He was in a band that was somewhat popular in our hometown and I was the often overlooked and rejected kid...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 4

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    I feel badly that I've fallen out of love with

    my husband. It's primarily based upon lack of respect. He constantly has apologized over and over again for YEARS because I must work harder to be with him than without him! He's lazy compared to me and has yet to get his career together. I've done all that I can to be a...
    brokenwoman13 brokenwoman13 36-40, F 17 Responses Dec 3, 2013

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    I did it. Left him Tuesday

    and served him divorce papers today. Whew.
    Bikinigardener Bikinigardener 46-50, F 25 Responses Sep 26, 2014

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    isn't for the most part every one unhappy in

    their marriage? I know its wrong but my body is broken so I am still married due to money, our kidd, I love my in laws n he wont leave. I wont leave my kids n I wont uproot them. What do you win....a,yes you guessed it, A UNHAPPY MARRIAGE. I am sure I'm just as much to blame...
    sixtens sixtens 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 10

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    Staying For The Kids

    I am in a mostly unhappy marriage. My wife suffers from depression and that has made my marriage pretty unhappy. You can read my other story about that aspect of my relationship if you're curious. What I'd like to address here is why I stay...my children. You might think from...
    iRant iRant 46-50, M 18 Responses Mar 12, 2013

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    There Is No Intimacy, In Any Form, In My Marriage

    My husband and I have become no more than roommates. While he seems perfectly content this has made me incredibly unhappy and sad to the point I am considering leaving. I don't want to live like this any longer. For many years we couldn't keep our hands off on another, always...
    Moonwillow85 Moonwillow85 41-45, F 40 Responses Sep 17, 2011

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    I've been with my husband

    for 9 years, married for 8; we don't have kids and I'm 35; he is 40. We have struggled through our marriage at times as a result of my husband's drinking which is caused by his emotional problems. I have not handled it well in the past and share the blame for where we are today...
    SadPanda35 SadPanda35 31-35, F 3 Responses May 19

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    if you are unhappy in your marriage

    and are looking for some fun with a young girl message me xxx
    sophh99 sophh99 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 8, 2014

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    Wife is divorcing me.

    Wants a higher income earner. Says the birthday present I got her wasn't expensive enough and her friend got diamonds. (I have two kids Btw.) Anyhow ... the question is, how could a nice non materialistic, doesn't have a mean bone in his body kind of person end up with this...
    marriedtodevil marriedtodevil 41-45, M 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    You know what hurts? What really,

    really hurts about my marriage? That I am my Husbands Best Friend. He's told me this. It's true, all the good friends I've known him to have also got walked on. Seriously, no other person has given him as much. No other person has forgiven him as much and tried to accept who...
    FreewritingFreyja FreewritingFreyja 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 11, 2014

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    We are coming up married 10 years 2 kids

    and we haven't had sex since September !! We have agreed to be friends and live together I don't want to cheat but I have needs . It is really tough because I'm still attracted to her and it seems so easy for her
    SeanPHung77 SeanPHung77 36-40, M 7 Responses May 19

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    I've been married for 7 years & my husband

    still doesn't know how to satisfy me. I have told, demonstrated, written, given a "cheat sheet" & sent articles. I have bought toys, books, creams, oils, jellies & sprays. He still uses the same moves for foreplay & only hits the same 3 spots. He's not very big but in his mind...
    question72 question72 41-45, F 63 Responses Jan 14

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    I love my children, I want them to be proud of

    who they are. I want them to learn that what they perceive as weaknesses, may be after all strengths. I want them to know that if they don't like the life they have, they can create a new one. Creativeness, imagination, invention are what has madeĀ us humans progress. I only...
    MrSquishy MrSquishy 41-45, M 3 Responses Dec 14, 2013

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    If you could love the wrong person

    that much,Imagine how much you could love the right one.
    wvcountrylady wvcountrylady 56-60, F 6 Responses Jun 20, 2014

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    my husband hasn't slept next to me

    for 7 months. I know we'll never divorce because of our kids, this is now my reality. I used to disagree with people that said marriage can be lonely, but I really do understand now
    redpelican redpelican 31-35, F 25 Responses Feb 17

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    Yesterday daughter and I were discussing our

    impending 21st and 50th birthdays Asked husband what will he be getting me for this special birthday His response : a divorce that should make you happy I used to respond in utter shock and disbelief in such comments but no longer do(but yes they still hurt )as I realise its all...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 5 Responses Jul 9, 2014

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    I'm back from the dead people,

    not dead really just not in the mood to deal with anyone. I'm sick of depression, sick of my horrible lonely marriage, and now it's the holidays again sigh
    Wantfreedom67 Wantfreedom67 46-50, F 8 Responses Nov 22, 2014

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    I read an article recently about the turning

    point people had that defined the end of their marriage. I am not saying this is the last straw, but certainly adding to the pile. My wife has been sick the last 2 years, but starting to get better. maybe 75% now. Especially lately, I have been working 2 jobs, trying to be a...
    runnfree runnfree 36-40, M 3 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Over the last week or

    so I have decided I want to end my marriage. Each day that passes makes me more resolved to do so. I just need to find the moment to tell my husband. There's never a good time for this sort of conversation but some are better than others. I know he'll be gutted but it's the...
    yespleaseMrDarcy yespleaseMrDarcy 36-40, F 12 Responses Apr 5

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    My daughter has a few girls

    that she brings over to the house often. The girls trust me and talk to me about things. One friend recently told me that her mom started sleeping on the couch. And that her parents aren't speaking to one another. Knowing all too well what thats like I felt for her. Not because...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 24 Responses Feb 21

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    Had first marriage counseling appointment.

    She believes our problems are fixable, I'm not so sure. I didn't get into detail about our main problem, but I believe I said enough to let her know its occurred repeatedly in my marriage. By definition of law it could be considered sexual assault . Unwanted sexual touch. It's...
    AsylumLeech132 AsylumLeech132 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 26

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    An update. I've told my hub I want a separation.

    Made it clear him not having finances to pay for his own place is his responsibility. He tried saying I know his bipolar keeps him from wanting to get a job. I told him that was just another excuse, that he needs to be responsible for himself and that there are plenty of ppl who...
    AsylumLeech132 AsylumLeech132 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 11

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    I'm tired and beat down by marriage!

    A man should never move into a home with his wife. Just speaking from my own experience; I've sacrificed every ounce of my manhood.
    johnqrich johnqrich 41-45, M 2 Responses May 13

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    Im not sure I can forgive my husband

    for the disrespect that he's shown me. Our relationship and marriage was always rocky, but we've continued to try. I had to move out before we even attempted counseling. He's putting in effort now, finally, but I almost feel like it's too little too late. Is that something we...
    mph94 mph94 18-21 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Hello all, Ok my marriage needs to END.

    I'm honestly going nuts with her . We have tried to work things out nothing works . It's been 12 years of hell with her . We are absolutely two different people . She has no idea how to be a wife at all . The only thing she cares about is our kids . She totally forgets about me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Apr 7

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    I simply want to die,

    Im so frustratef
    charmedangel1978 charmedangel1978 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 13

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    It was our wedding anniversary 2 days ago.

    We wished each other and he took me for anniversary dinner. When we got there, we ordered our favourite food. I couldn't wait to eat it. As soon as we started eating, he began arguing for no reason and we left everything and came back home. It was our first anniversary. I'm...
    afia123 afia123 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 19

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    So Unhappy I Wish I Were Dead

    I have been married for 25 years. They have all been pretty terrible. Each year I think it can't get any worse but it does. I am so totally ignored in my house that when I speak, everyone talks right over me like I'm not there. The thing that is the worst of all is how my husband...
    tselliott tselliott 56-60, F 51 Responses Mar 24, 2008

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    Im not feeling strong enough

    for this. When will i ever hear "im sorry, i didnt mean to hurt you"?or "i want something good for you", im not even asking for "i love you" thats my biggest wish, but... Id be ok with something like "i will do my best for this marriage?? So we had a good few days... Cause i...
    Liz890 Liz890 26-30, F 4 Responses May 17

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