I Am Unhappy In My Marriage

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    I wasn't always unhappy.

    I've tried very hard over the years to make my husband happy and to support him in everything he did. I'm not perfect by any means and I know I have failed him along the way a time or two but I feel like he has broken my heart and me a little bit at a time over the past 20 years...
    Curiouskitty77 Curiouskitty77
    36-40, F
    11 Responses May 28, 2014
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Nov 13, 2015

    My daughter has a few girls

    that she brings over to the house often. The girls trust me and talk to me about things. One friend recently told me that her mom started sleeping on the couch. And that her parents aren't speaking to one another. Knowing all too well what thats like I felt for her. Not because...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    31-35, F
    20 Responses Feb 21, 2015

    I hate this title as I feel it does not justify

    my happiness for So many years. I'm just venting and I'm grateful to have a place to do this . Face book is not the place .
    virgodragon virgodragon
    13-15, M
    1 Response Feb 29

    Last night he yelled at me .

    ..he flies off the handle more and more. I so sick of his verbal abuse. I kept saying in my head I want a divorce ....I don't deserve to be talked to this way. I secretly wish he would get his wish and go to sleep and just not wake up. Yes I know I need out ...I feel there is no...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Feb 20

    I'm convinced there's a stranger in my house!

    This person looks like my wife, sounds like my wife, but isn't the person I married! We got into an argument tonight because I did not eat the pasta soup and garlic bread she made. We've been married for 13 years and she knows that I don't like soup and I absolutely hate all...
    Lovehurtstoomuch Lovehurtstoomuch
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Feb 27

    I was super happy to hear from my friend

    who is getting divorced after 26 years. I gave him some advice and threw down a path for him to move forward with his life. Hearing that he took some of my advice made me so happy. He has a date this week. I told him to not sit around be complacent and lick his wounds. Life is...
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Mar 8

    I got married 3 months ago under the pressure

    of my family and now I'm not that happy. I mean. I cannot accept him. I couldn't accept him even during the engagement period. He loves me a lot and all but I cannot love him in return. I feel like he was the one who created a huge hindrance in my life interrupted my studies and...
    FallingApart33 FallingApart33
    22-25, F
    9 Responses Apr 3

    I love my children, I want them to be proud of

    who they are. I want them to learn that what they perceive as weaknesses, may be after all strengths. I want them to know that if they don't like the life they have, they can create a new one. Creativeness, imagination, invention are what has madeĀ us humans progress. I only...
    MrSquishy MrSquishy
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Dec 14, 2013

    Ok so I'm 25 got married at 18 .

    ..my husband is in the navy and has been gone a lot over the past 7 years. I have learned in many ways to deal with him being gone and me taking care of the kids, house, school and full time job. After different infidelities over the past 5 years, arguing, living in a state with...
    Locativa Locativa
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Mar 20

    My husband is a good man.

    I'm bored unappreciated and conflicted. Married 13 years. Does it get better?
    Rayale Rayale
    41-45, F
    17 Responses Aug 28, 2015

    My husband is a dreamer

    and he tends to dream out loud. He has spoken out several times saying he wants to go back to school to get a degree that he thinks sounds interesting, but that he will not use to make a career our of. I should mention he already has 2 1/2 degrees that he does not use. We are...
    wjlh wjlh
    41-45, F
    8 Responses Mar 16

    YOU ARE TRULY A GREAT GROUP!

    You guys saved my marriage and possibly saved my life. Thank you all for your comments. I had been spinning in circles for at least 5 years and had a really rough 6 weeks but today I had what I could only call a MIRACLE! Some of your suggestions were very helpful. I...
    Lovehurtstoomuch Lovehurtstoomuch
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Dec 5, 2015

    I swear, if I read one more article telling men

    to learn to communicate with their wives, take out the trash, help with the kids, help with home chores, show appreciation for their wives' cooking etc as a way to ignite their love, I'm going to take that article and make the writer eat it... It is all BS - none of this friggen...
    Lovehurtstoomuch Lovehurtstoomuch
    41-45, M
    10 Responses Nov 28, 2015

    My idea of marriage and the reality of it (for

    me) are so far off the mark that I don't consider myself to be married. Is that weird? Maybe it should be ended. I may or may not ever be with someone again but isn't it better to be alone than to settle for crumbs? I'm sure he would see it differently.
    elizabeth111 elizabeth111
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Apr 18, 2014

    Married 25 years 2 days ago.

    husband said he had something special planned. he didn't. no card, no kiss, no hug....and this after a really bad last couple of years. 0 intimacy, 0 hugs, 0 kisses, and forget sex - doesn't exist. 2nd marriage, first one was 9.5 years, single for 4.5, and now married for...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Apr 1

    20 years and I'm over it ,

    I don't know where to start , but I need too .
    virgodragon virgodragon
    13-15, M
    2 Responses Feb 29

    Where to stare, eh? I have a great husband

    and I am a decent person. I just don't gel with him anymore and I don't know how to tell him. I can barely stand to have him touch me anymore. Our sex life is horrific and he thinks we just need to get our rhythm back. I don't know how to tell him that is not the case. The...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Dec 13, 2015

    So less than 1 year in I want out of our

    marriage. There's someone else, never even met her. My wife no longer wants sex with me though, we've led an open relationship and she's gotten out of control, she only wants sex with other people. I've never even so much as kissed anyone else, but the way she's acting at...
    friendlygent friendlygent
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Mar 14

    So here is the deal. I wanted to go catch a

    movie this morning. Key word, morning. The wife was cool with it last night and not this morning. I didn't see the problem since it would be during the am and wouldn't consume to much of the day. Nonetheless, I don't go and run some errands that needed to be done and come...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Feb 14

    The worst kiss in the world is the peck.

    To me the peck says "I don't have time for you" or "I'm only doing this to keep you from complaining". Seriously, as an adult, have you ever once in your life received a peck and thought "Man that was awesome!"? Or better yet, have you ever gotten butterflies in your...
    LifeinWoodinville LifeinWoodinville
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Jan 10

    I always believed the pure love.

    I have read so many stories about man can do anything just for sex. Here is my story. I am not sure if I am just overreaction or all the stories about man are true. It breaks my believe We have married for 20 years. I always feel deeply in love with my husband. I believed my...
    AirBolt AirBolt
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Mar 8

    Well it all began in 2007

    and 2008, I fooled around with my manager at the time who is 13 years older then me, and well he was separated from his wife, in Jan of 2008 we moved in together by April I got pregnant , we moved out of state for work, he worked all time, I thought I was happy at the time. Come...
    Scblondie1210 Scblondie1210
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Apr 7
    minime159 minime159
    26-30, F
    7 Responses Sep 2, 2015

    Today is my 12th anniversary.

    It has been pretty rocky the past couple of years. We went to dinner and my husband said we should try to stay together bc it is not fair to our son to get divorced at least until he is out of high school. He is 6. He said he really wanted us to try to be happier and get...
    Virgogirl76 Virgogirl76
    36-40, F
    10 Responses Oct 4, 2015

    I can tell when my dinner is made w resentment,

    I just don't know what I'm being resented for! Asking does not help...
    Lovehurtstoomuch Lovehurtstoomuch
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Mar 28

    I wish I was happy in my marriage.

    .. been 3 long years, since she wanted to have sex....
    marriedguy67 marriedguy67
    46-50, M
    7 Responses Feb 25

    When you have mentioned

    that you are going to try going off anti depressants to your husband because you feel life has been balanced , level loving and measured for a decent amount of time and he says " ok then " The 4-5 days later has completely forgotten to ask how you are .
    virgodragon virgodragon
    13-15, M
    2 Responses Feb 29

    He is always in my face.

    And. Last weekend I went to Vegas without him. He tortured me by calling me and texting me and got angry if I didn't answer. Now he's. Telling. My friends and they are giving me the third degree about why I went to Vegas. Unbelievable !!!!! I refuse to stop having fun...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jun 7, 2015

    When your husband can't get your 3 yr old

    daughter to change the channel from kiddies shows to the news , after she's had it in all day . Creating an argument between us , trying to make me be the bad cop all the time . Over it , can't see a long term marriage .
    virgodragon virgodragon
    13-15, M
    2 Responses Feb 29

    my husband hasn't slept next to me

    for 7 months. I know we'll never divorce because of our kids, this is now my reality. I used to disagree with people that said marriage can be lonely, but I really do understand now
    redpelican redpelican
    31-35, F
    24 Responses Feb 17, 2015

    A revelation? My husband

    and I started marriage counseling this past Monday. It was hard. Having to sit there and explain to a stranger why you are there...with your husband sitting next to you. After the session, we were given an assignment to outline our expectations of each other. In doing so...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    8 Responses Jul 24, 2015

    I married my husband

    before I graduated high school and he joined the military. After 2 years of marriage I just feel really unhappy. We fight a lot and most of the time it gets real physical. We don't even talk much because our conversations aren't interesting. He is really mean to me and I can't...
    jmoore80 jmoore80
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Mar 2

    Happy 2016!!! New beginnings

    for myself and my children. I have been pushed to the breaking point I can no longer do this. My heart hurts but this has to happen. Over the past two weeks he has been off a considerable amount of it. Making no acknowledgment of Christmas to myself and except for presents for...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Jan 1

    Staying For The Kids

    I am in a mostly unhappy marriage. My wife suffers from depression and that has made my marriage pretty unhappy. You can read my other story about that aspect of my relationship if you're curious. What I'd like to address here is why I stay...my children. You might think from...
    iRant iRant
    46-50, M
    21 Responses Mar 12, 2013

    "Driving nails through my scrotum.

    " "What?" "You asked me what I thought. And the moment you said it, I was thinking of a freak show I saw once. Well, a "body modification artist" he called himself. But it may as well have been a freak show. Anyway, what I remember from his act was him driving a nail into his...
    Woody6 Woody6
    41-45, M
    1 Response Feb 21

    All I did was ask one simple question.

    .. and it's like I killed his ******* cat. ugh. .so so tired..
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    9 Responses Nov 20, 2015

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    CastingReina CastingReina
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 16

    I hate the fact that I am

    so lonely and unhappy in the way this marriage life is.. I was much happier being single...
    marriedguy67 marriedguy67
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Mar 27

    I've been married for 7 years & my husband

    still doesn't know how to satisfy me. I have told, demonstrated, written, given a "cheat sheet" & sent articles. I have bought toys, books, creams, oils, jellies & sprays. He still uses the same moves for foreplay & only hits the same 3 spots. He's not very big but in his mind...
    question72 question72
    41-45, F
    50 Responses Jan 14, 2015

    Things I've always dreamed of having

    but I've given up on: -waking up to see the girl I married's smile every morning with every sunshine. Instead, I sleep alone. A big pillow behind my back makes it feel like there's someone sleeping beside me. -my wife and i playing and making each other laugh. I don't joke or...
    Lovehurtstoomuch Lovehurtstoomuch
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Apr 16

    APRIL 20th MIDNIGHT PARTY You are cordially

    invited to a midnight (eastern time) party on April 20th. Please log in on April 20th at midnight (eastern time) to say goodbye to ppl who supported us when we needed help, to those who listened when we felt alone and those who were there middle of the night writing back and...
    Lovehurtstoomuch Lovehurtstoomuch
    41-45, M
    1 Response Mar 29

    I've been married for 4 years,

    together 6... I was 19 years old when we met, him 25... I was too young, to commit myself so quickly without being able to experience life and find myself. I settled for the first man who seemed to care for me... sadly that last statement seems to be false. hindsight is 20/20...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    8 Responses Nov 29, 2015

    I am a very private person.

    ..posting here is a bit uncomfortable and foreign to me. I hope letting the thoughts that play in my head out will help a bit. A couple very close friends are aware of my marital issues, I trust them immensely. Outside of them, no one has a clue of issues. I am a very positive...
    Hopeshope Hopeshope
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Nov 5, 2014

    The longer my wife neglects me,

    the more I catch myself thinking like a single guy again. I don't like it!
    Lovehurtstoomuch Lovehurtstoomuch
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Mar 6

    I'm back from the dead people,

    not dead really just not in the mood to deal with anyone. I'm sick of depression, sick of my horrible lonely marriage, and now it's the holidays again sigh
    Wantfreedom67 Wantfreedom67
    46-50, F
    7 Responses Nov 22, 2014

    I find that I observe others a lot lately.

    . maybe it's because my kids are getting bigger & I'm more in tune to what's to come..... possibly. I took my youngest out to eat today.. and while chatting with him & then looking around.. all the people sitting with families were all engaged in conversation.. all the...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    10 Responses Oct 25, 2015

    Hey any fun busty ladies wanna chat

    if that's you message me be
    teddyboylovesboobs1 teddyboylovesboobs1
    41-45, M
    1 Response Mar 11

    I met my husband at work,

    it was in May 2014. He was my assistant general manager at the time. We bonded quickly, and fell in love. He was kind, funny, romantic, and always surprised me with a rose or candy or anything really. We got married in March 2015, so it's been a year now. And we were pregnant at...
    Selina923 Selina923
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Apr 7

    Ugh. So tired of my boring life.

    I have four great kids, a great job, and what could be a great life. But my husband is Fat and we no longer have a lot in common. What I wouldn't do for a night out and a good snuggle.
    Needtotalk77 Needtotalk77
    51-55, F
    10 Responses Jul 11, 2015

    Never had a dinner cooked

    for me , ever .
    virgodragon virgodragon
    13-15, M
    1 Response Feb 29

    Ugh. I am so depressed in my marriage.

    We've been together almost 10 years. Married for 5. There is no love. I stay for all the wrong reasons. My husband is lazy and the most selfish person I know. I have been trying so hard the last few years to completely give up on who I really want to be so that i can make him...
    Kittinxoxo Kittinxoxo
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Jul 12, 2015

    I Would Like...

    I would like someone to hug me and tell me they are so glad I am a part of their life...I want to be something other than an option..I would like to share my thoughts, fears, dreams and passion with someone that really cared what they were...I'd like to feel the rain on my face...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    20 Responses Oct 14, 2012
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal
    31-35, F
    8 Responses Sep 28, 2015

    In the beginning you were a calming spirit.

    I could see nothing but love and tenderness in your eyes. I could feel your love in the way you touched me. And taste it in your kiss. Now your love is gone. I hear it from your lips but it doesn't ring true. Empty words spoke from an absent heart. Truth would set us free, but...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    7 Responses Sep 22, 2015

    My husband never says what he means

    or means what he says. He's a constant puzzle that I'm supposed to solve and figure out every minute.
    amorlal5 amorlal5
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Apr 2

    Funny how the littlest things we live with

    for years...me? The continued nasty, belittling of my H and how he treats me....but with a mm in my life I see more of how nasty my H is to me... I sometimes wish I didn't cross that line and stray from my H but most times I sit back and hear the nasty things he says to me...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Jul 13, 2015

    Second trip down the aisle.

    . Why do people change so much,, or make promises that cannot be fulfilled,, show you dreams that cannot be reached.. Why? I dont have the courage to walk away, responsibility and family have created a wall.. I feel suffocated, i want to run away and be free, to stop living a...
    Forever786 Forever786
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Mar 27

    I did it. Left him Tuesday

    and served him divorce papers today. Whew.
    Bikinigardener Bikinigardener
    46-50, F
    21 Responses Sep 26, 2014

    If you're going to use my money to buy me a

    gift, at least make it look like you put some effort into it: get a card, get a proper bag, throw in some colored tissues and most importantly, don't buy the last thing we looked at last week at the store and I remember saying that it was useless. I spent half my day shopping...
    Lovehurtstoomuch Lovehurtstoomuch
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Feb 13
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