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I Am Unhappy In My Marriage

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    I wasn't always unhappy.

    I've tried very hard over the years to make my husband happy and to support him in everything he did. I'm not perfect by any means and I know I have failed him along the way a time or two but I feel like he has broken my heart and me a little bit at a time over the past 20 years...
    Curiouskitty77 Curiouskitty77 36-40, F 15 Responses May 28, 2014

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    I did it. Left him Tuesday

    and served him divorce papers today. Whew.
    Bikinigardener Bikinigardener 46-50, F 25 Responses Sep 26, 2014

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    I am unhappy in my marriage.

    No love between us.Sometimes i am making myself to fix things between us but him not trying and being ignorant makes me crazy.We have one kid,I feel that me being sad and unhappy all the time influences and affects my child.I feel so unloved but trying to restore our relationship...
    kimlife kimlife 31-35, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    Good evening --- I however AM HAPPY IN MY

    MARRIAGE. This post is in response to the countless women that are unhappy in their marriages. Many wives lament and languish that they are lonely, afraid, vulnerable, disillusioned, disenfranchised, isolated and relegated to lower status and unequal pay & benefits -- adding...
    Tannasheart Tannasheart 51-55, F 3 Responses Mar 7

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    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    There Is No Intimacy, In Any Form, In My Marriage

    My husband and I have become no more than roommates. While he seems perfectly content this has made me incredibly unhappy and sad to the point I am considering leaving. I don't want to live like this any longer. For many years we couldn't keep our hands off on another, always...
    Moonwillow85 Moonwillow85 41-45, F 40 Responses Sep 17, 2011

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    I'm back from the dead people,

    not dead really just not in the mood to deal with anyone. I'm sick of depression, sick of my horrible lonely marriage, and now it's the holidays again sigh
    Wantfreedom67 Wantfreedom67 46-50, F 8 Responses Nov 22, 2014

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    i m unhappy with my husband

    who beats me and tortures me when i m jobless.
    sesir sesir 41-45, F Feb 28

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    I know I deserve better.

    feels like I'm stuck in an never ending loop... fight, apologize, good, fight, apologize, good.. repeat... when will I stop letting the apologies pull on my heart strings?..
    mrsskayl mrsskayl 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Completely stuck, drowning,

    no way out type of feeling. I don't love him anymore. I'm not attracted to him anymore. He never grew as a person. I want to be happy. I want to live and enjoy life. I want to go out on a date on a Saturday night. I'm outside alone, sitting under a beautifully lit gazebo...
    PolishedSadness PolishedSadness 36-40, F 7 Responses Jun 7, 2014

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    I am a very private person.

    ..posting here is a bit uncomfortable and foreign to me. I hope letting the thoughts that play in my head out will help a bit. A couple very close friends are aware of my marital issues, I trust them immensely. Outside of them, no one has a clue of issues. I am a very positive...
    Hopeshope Hopeshope 36-40, F 8 Responses Nov 5, 2014

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    More I try to run, more it my h.

    trying to stop me.. The man seems more determined to keep me as his wife than he wanted to date me 10 years ago. Feel like a prisoner trying to escape and villain for wanting it so badly :( ...Am I so bad for not loving back and not being able to give another chance?
    Ninive Ninive 26-30, F 9 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have been truly unhappy

    for years but held on for the sake of my children and for the fact that I do love my husband.... But really don't like him. We will be married 20 years in May but have been together since high school. He is all I know and I do find comfort in that but hate these feelings I have...
    TrinityX2 TrinityX2 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    Why are there so many scumbags on this sight?

    They use the unhappy lonely experiences to feed on people. Something that should be positive those sad pathetic scumbags turn bad.
    Wantfreedom67 Wantfreedom67 46-50, F 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I love my children, I want them to be proud of

    who they are. I want them to learn that what they perceive as weaknesses, may be after all strengths. I want them to know that if they don't like the life they have, they can create a new one. Creativeness, imagination, invention are what has madeĀ us humans progress. I only...
    MrSquishy MrSquishy 41-45, M 3 Responses Dec 14, 2013

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    Our relationship started off with good

    but over the years it has changed. We have two beautiful children. I am no longer in love with him. He is very negative, love to drink alcohol, do drugs, etc.. He doesnt view education as being important, and he thinks that the world owes him. He has said some very harsh...
    sweetie629 sweetie629 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 21

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    Some dark humour: Me: "I'm a bridesmaid

    yet again soon". Respondent: " so you're a bridesmaid at a funeral, good for you". Only the respondent and I got the joke. Gotta laugh at misery once in a while.
    Aero2015 Aero2015 36-40, F Feb 22

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    if you are unhappy in your marriage

    and are looking for some fun with a young girl message me xxx
    sophh99 sophh99 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 8, 2014

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    Hello all, Ok my marriage needs to END.

    I'm honestly going nuts with her . We have tried to work things out nothing works . It's been 12 years of hell with her . We are absolutely two different people . She has no idea how to be a wife at all . The only thing she cares about is our kids . She totally forgets about me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Apr 7

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    I feel badly that I've fallen out of love with

    my husband. It's primarily based upon lack of respect. He constantly has apologized over and over again for YEARS because I must work harder to be with him than without him! He's lazy compared to me and has yet to get his career together. I've done all that I can to be a...
    brokenwoman13 brokenwoman13 36-40, F 17 Responses Dec 3, 2013

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    I Just Want to Feel Loved and Wanted

      This story starts about 15 years ago. I was 21 and had my whole life ahead of me. I was in my second year of college and had every intention of graduating. I felt that one day I would achieve my goals and dreams. I thought that there was a purpose in life and I was...
    LivinaLie LivinaLie 36-40, M 32 Responses Nov 7, 2007

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    So Unhappy I Wish I Were Dead

    I have been married for 25 years. They have all been pretty terrible. Each year I think it can't get any worse but it does. I am so totally ignored in my house that when I speak, everyone talks right over me like I'm not there. The thing that is the worst of all is how my husband...
    tselliott tselliott 56-60, F 51 Responses Mar 24, 2008

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    I found a condom wrapper in our bedroom.

    Again. They keep appearing - and he swears he has no idea where they come from. I think I'm experiencing every emotion possible as I sit and look at this little piece of torn-open foil.
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 17

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    If you could love the wrong person

    that much,Imagine how much you could love the right one.
    wvcountrylady wvcountrylady 56-60, F 6 Responses Jun 20, 2014

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    Had first marriage counseling appointment.

    She believes our problems are fixable, I'm not so sure. I didn't get into detail about our main problem, but I believe I said enough to let her know its occurred repeatedly in my marriage. By definition of law it could be considered sexual assault . Unwanted sexual touch. It's...
    AsylumLeech132 AsylumLeech132 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 26

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    Before we were married,

    we had a long-distance, sometimes rocky relationship. He was jealous and didn't trust me completely. I got pregnant so we got married. The first year was really rough, but we got through it. Now, he doesn't take any parental responsibility, always wants to go out with friends...
    mph94 mph94 18-21 2 Responses Apr 4

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    Over the last week or

    so I have decided I want to end my marriage. Each day that passes makes me more resolved to do so. I just need to find the moment to tell my husband. There's never a good time for this sort of conversation but some are better than others. I know he'll be gutted but it's the...
    yespleaseMrDarcy yespleaseMrDarcy 36-40, F 12 Responses Apr 5

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    My wife asked me to make a peach cobbler

    tonight. I'm more then happy to make a treat, however I told her that she would have to sit in the kitchen with me and keep me company while I made the cobbler. She can't do that, she's busy paying bills on the couch in the living room with her laptop and the TV on. Are there...
    LifeinWoodinville LifeinWoodinville 41-45, M 15 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    Yesterday daughter and I were discussing our

    impending 21st and 50th birthdays Asked husband what will he be getting me for this special birthday His response : a divorce that should make you happy I used to respond in utter shock and disbelief in such comments but no longer do(but yes they still hurt )as I realise its all...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 5 Responses Jul 9, 2014

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    I have been married for just short of 5 years.

    We have a beautiful 1 year old child who I live and breathe for. We met when I was 19 and he was 22. We dated and got married when I was 22. I am currently 27 almost 28. Things are stressful financially. I have outrageous student loans and he has outrageous credit card debt. I...
    Midwestmommie Midwestmommie 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    Did I Marry The Right Person?

    This is to help those who have some challenges in their marriages. Someone once wrote. Every relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. you anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your...
    JustMe2B JustMe2B 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 16, 2013

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    today I threw in the towel.

    I don't know if it was the right thing to do but she refuses to talk about problems and well she said she just doesn't care anymore. seems like the story of my life.
    LoStOnArOcK LoStOnArOcK 31-35, M 4 Responses Mar 2

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    So....hubby did and said all the right things

    last night. Dinner at my favorite restaurant, bottle of wine, walk on the beach. At home, I surprised him with new sexy lingerie. Another bottle of wine, kissing, hand holding. Time for some loving, and he had a surprise of his own, a penis extender! But then, he...
    Bikinigardener Bikinigardener 46-50, F 10 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    You know what hurts? What really,

    really hurts about my marriage? That I am my Husbands Best Friend. He's told me this. It's true, all the good friends I've known him to have also got walked on. Seriously, no other person has given him as much. No other person has forgiven him as much and tried to accept who...
    FreewritingFreyja FreewritingFreyja 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 11, 2014

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    I Would Like...

    I would like someone to hug me and tell me they are so glad I am a part of their life...I want to be something other than an option..I would like to share my thoughts, fears, dreams and passion with someone that really cared what they were...I'd like to feel the rain on my face...
    sweetpetite68 sweetpetite68 46-50, F 21 Responses Oct 14, 2012

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    It was our wedding anniversary 2 days ago.

    We wished each other and he took me for anniversary dinner. When we got there, we ordered our favourite food. I couldn't wait to eat it. As soon as we started eating, he began arguing for no reason and we left everything and came back home. It was our first anniversary. I'm...
    afia123 afia123 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 19

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    My idea of marriage and the reality of it (for

    me) are so far off the mark that I don't consider myself to be married. Is that weird? Maybe it should be ended. I may or may not ever be with someone again but isn't it better to be alone than to settle for crumbs? I'm sure he would see it differently.
    elizabeth111 elizabeth111 46-50, F 4 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Have a marital counseling appt tomorrow.

    Not in hopes of reconciling . It's in hope that the therapist can help my husband see how much damage he's done & that he Does need to be responsible for himself financially. Also that using his bipolar as an excuse is just that,an excuse. And hopefully the therapist will help...
    AsylumLeech132 AsylumLeech132 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 12

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    I've been married for 7 years & my husband

    still doesn't know how to satisfy me. I have told, demonstrated, written, given a "cheat sheet" & sent articles. I have bought toys, books, creams, oils, jellies & sprays. He still uses the same moves for foreplay & only hits the same 3 spots. He's not very big but in his mind...
    question72 question72 41-45, F 64 Responses Jan 14

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    I've been needing to say this out loud

    for a long time now and I have never had anyone to talk to. I can't even talk to my best friend about it. I met my husband when I was 17 years old. He was 18 turning 19. He was in a band that was somewhat popular in our hometown and I was the often overlooked and rejected kid...
    whatsouthere whatsouthere 26-30, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    My daughter has a few girls

    that she brings over to the house often. The girls trust me and talk to me about things. One friend recently told me that her mom started sleeping on the couch. And that her parents aren't speaking to one another. Knowing all too well what thats like I felt for her. Not because...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 24 Responses Feb 21

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    i just realized that I have been in an

    unhealthy marriage for the last 34 years. A few years ago,I tried asking my husband for a divorce and he said go ahead, but he knew that I had nowhere to go, because all of my family is back east. I blame him for dragging me all the way out to the west coast. I knew that I was...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 20 Responses Jul 20, 2014

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    I read an article recently about the turning

    point people had that defined the end of their marriage. I am not saying this is the last straw, but certainly adding to the pile. My wife has been sick the last 2 years, but starting to get better. maybe 75% now. Especially lately, I have been working 2 jobs, trying to be a...
    runnfree runnfree 36-40, M 3 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Ok this isn't about me.

    But a guy I work with told me yesterday he is thinking about getting a divorce from is wife. He is 55 and been married for 34 years. How do people get divorced after over 30 years of being married?? It's just mind boggling to me.
    Tiffanyportelli Tiffanyportelli 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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    I'm a married woman..

    . And I find my coworker attractive. I just want him to hold me. And I feel so wrong.
    seatotheweed seatotheweed 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 15

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    I just confronted my husband about watching ****

    and he doesn't care. Why? What do I do? He pushed me away when I confronted him.
    dallastxbride12 dallastxbride12 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 7

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