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I Am Unhappy In My Marriage

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    My husband and I have been married

    for 1 year, together for 10. I started to file for divorce when things got really bad and weren't changing and then found out I was pregnant. He drinks in excess and refuses to give it up even though he comes home most nights drunk and says horrible things to me. He is...
    bmore250 bmore250 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 9

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    Coming up to my second anniversary.

    The last few days have been really bad. I have lost count of how many upsets and arguments there have been over stupid little things that should never cause an argument in the first place. I am sick of always being in the wrong. I am fed up with all the stupid, childish...
    tcennoC tcennoC 51-55, M 2 Responses Aug 1

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    My husband have anger issues he always make me

    Feel so small!!!! am so sad can't do this anymore!!! Am drowning!! :(
    Divine82 Divine82 31-35, F 8 Responses Aug 15

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    Hi, I am new to this.

    Here's my story. I have been married for 3 years, together 7 and have two small children. Ever since my first was born (for the last 5 years) my marriage has had problems. I have always been totally in love with my husband, but in my heart of hearts I shouldn't have married him...
    mirandan2027 mirandan2027 22-25 3 Responses Jul 27

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    I did it. Left him Tuesday

    and served him divorce papers today. Whew.
    Bikinigardener Bikinigardener 46-50, F 23 Responses Sep 26, 2014

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    I miss writot on here.

    He got my phone and read my post so I stopped but now I don't care. we're in counseling but its not helping. Now instead of constant fighting its occasional. But I'm ready to give up. He can stay the anger is gone. I m sick of being afraid to be alone. I'm alone in this...
    ariuri1 ariuri1 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 6

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    Ugh. I am so depressed in my marriage.

    We've been together almost 10 years. Married for 5. There is no love. I stay for all the wrong reasons. My husband is lazy and the most selfish person I know. I have been trying so hard the last few years to completely give up on who I really want to be so that i can make him...
    Kittinxoxo Kittinxoxo 31-35, F 6 Responses Jul 12

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    Funny how the littlest things we live with

    for years...me? The continued nasty, belittling of my H and how he treats me....but with a mm in my life I see more of how nasty my H is to me... I sometimes wish I didn't cross that line and stray from my H but most times I sit back and hear the nasty things he says to me...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 13

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    I am entering my 3rd year of marriage.

    I love my wife. I love the life we have built so far. There are some issues. She will not allow me any personal hobbies. She demeans my personal appearance often and does not want me to have much of a social life outside of the marriage. So I really have no one to confide in...
    ja07 ja07 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 16

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    I've always been a cheerful person

    who tried to keep those around me cheerful too. I was alone and self-employed for decades, but I had my dogs and a good group of friends. As I got older, I found myself wishing I had someone to love; a boyfriend or husband, a companion, a partner in life who would love me above...
    LonelyInTheWoods LonelyInTheWoods 56-60, F 2 Responses Aug 11

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    I'm back from the dead people,

    not dead really just not in the mood to deal with anyone. I'm sick of depression, sick of my horrible lonely marriage, and now it's the holidays again sigh
    Wantfreedom67 Wantfreedom67 46-50, F 7 Responses Nov 22, 2014

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    My daughter has a few girls

    that she brings over to the house often. The girls trust me and talk to me about things. One friend recently told me that her mom started sleeping on the couch. And that her parents aren't speaking to one another. Knowing all too well what thats like I felt for her. Not because...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 24 Responses Feb 21

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    OK so I joined this site

    for some anonymous advice awhile ago. I posted some stuff and got decent feed back. told my wife about it to stimulate some conversation, and things for the most part went well. to keep it anonymous I changed my profile, and posted another comment regarding concerns for our...
    19justanotherusername80 19justanotherusername80 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 16

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    I have never been appreciated by my husband.

    He always taunts me about my small height but never says a single word about my pretty face. I graduated with distinction but was forced into an arranged marriage. Now I want to make my career but he is again taunting me about not getting an MS degree and says that I am not...
    minime159 minime159 26-30, F 5 Responses Aug 21

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    I have been truly unhappy

    for years but held on for the sake of my children and for the fact that I do love my husband.... But really don't like him. We will be married 20 years in May but have been together since high school. He is all I know and I do find comfort in that but hate these feelings I have...
    TrinityX2 TrinityX2 46-50, F 12 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    I feel badly that I've fallen out of love with

    my husband. It's primarily based upon lack of respect. He constantly has apologized over and over again for YEARS because I must work harder to be with him than without him! He's lazy compared to me and has yet to get his career together. I've done all that I can to be a...
    brokenwoman13 brokenwoman13 36-40, F 16 Responses Dec 3, 2013

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    I think my husband is with me

    because his life would be worse if he left. He tells me he loves me but that's just a routine as he never shows it. He isn't romantic or flirty. If im honest he spend more time on fb and his phone than even asking how my day has been. I provide everything in our relationship...
    Dollymixture2 Dollymixture2 26-30, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    My husband is a good man.

    I'm bored unappreciated and conflicted. Married 13 years. Does it get better?
    Rayale Rayale 36-40, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    isn't for the most part every one unhappy in

    their marriage? I know its wrong but my body is broken so I am still married due to money, our kidd, I love my in laws n he wont leave. I wont leave my kids n I wont uproot them. What do you win....a,yes you guessed it, A UNHAPPY MARRIAGE. I am sure I'm just as much to blame...
    sixtens sixtens 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 10

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    My wife asked me to make a peach cobbler

    tonight. I'm more then happy to make a treat, however I told her that she would have to sit in the kitchen with me and keep me company while I made the cobbler. She can't do that, she's busy paying bills on the couch in the living room with her laptop and the TV on. Are there...
    LifeinWoodinville LifeinWoodinville 41-45, M 15 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    I feel that it's just a matter of time

    before I leave my husband. He broke my trust and I don't believe a marriage can be truly happy without it. He lies too much when he's already caught lying. No self control with checking out women, I refuse to be disrespected like this. I've had better relationships and I know...
    akeginu akeginu 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 13

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    My husband and i have been going through a

    rough patch and he told me he never loved me until we got married (jan 2015) and he keeps meeting his ex and she got in touch with me and now we talk. I feel so ****, he treated her way better. Im so stuck. Like i cannot leave this marriage because on my wedding day i promised...
    Anotherfrustratedgirl Anotherfrustratedgirl 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 2

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    I've been married for 7 years & my husband

    still doesn't know how to satisfy me. I have told, demonstrated, written, given a "cheat sheet" & sent articles. I have bought toys, books, creams, oils, jellies & sprays. He still uses the same moves for foreplay & only hits the same 3 spots. He's not very big but in his mind...
    question72 question72 41-45, F 59 Responses Jan 14

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    my husband hasn't slept next to me

    for 7 months. I know we'll never divorce because of our kids, this is now my reality. I used to disagree with people that said marriage can be lonely, but I really do understand now
    redpelican redpelican 31-35, F 23 Responses Feb 17

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    Ugh... Further testament to how my H believes

    the world revolves around him and that he wants me to be his mother: He tells me after I watch him take off his shirt, "I'm going to take a shower, Okay baby?"! And looks at me to make sure I got it! I'm cooking so I would only be a few feet away, it is like he thinks I really...
    FreewritingFreyja FreewritingFreyja 26-30, F 12 Responses Jun 2

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    Ugh. So tired of my boring life.

    I have four great kids, a great job, and what could be a great life. But my husband is Fat and we no longer have a lot in common. What I wouldn't do for a night out and a good snuggle.
    Needtotalk77 Needtotalk77 46-50, F 14 Responses Jul 11

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    I'm not sure what to make of my marriage at

    this point. I thought I was marrying my best friend, but instead of being a wife she has become another mother. I've mentioned this numerous times and she ways finds some way to justify her words and behavior. The lastest is "I'm going through a nervous breakdown and you caused...
    RNMedic RNMedic 26-30, M 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    allisoncc11 allisoncc11 26-30, F Aug 13

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    I am very unhappy in marriage .

    . I have asked my wife to leave me but not sure why she is hanging around with me .. I have no physical relationship with her .. She is not staying with me, still when I talk about separation, she makes my life difficult and do everything to stop me .. Being women she has too...
    Ravidesai Ravidesai 41-45, M 3 Responses Jul 6

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    A revelation? My husband

    and I started marriage counseling this past Monday. It was hard. Having to sit there and explain to a stranger why you are there...with your husband sitting next to you. After the session, we were given an assignment to outline our expectations of each other. In doing so...
    deleted deleted 26-30 14 Responses Jul 24

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    Yesterday daughter and I were discussing our

    impending 21st and 50th birthdays Asked husband what will he be getting me for this special birthday His response : a divorce that should make you happy I used to respond in utter shock and disbelief in such comments but no longer do(but yes they still hurt )as I realise its all...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 5 Responses Jul 9, 2014

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    I wasn't always unhappy.

    I've tried very hard over the years to make my husband happy and to support him in everything he did. I'm not perfect by any means and I know I have failed him along the way a time or two but I feel like he has broken my heart and me a little bit at a time over the past 20 years...
    Curiouskitty77 Curiouskitty77 36-40, F 15 Responses May 28, 2014

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    So Unhappy I Wish I Were Dead

    I have been married for 25 years. They have all been pretty terrible. Each year I think it can't get any worse but it does. I am so totally ignored in my house that when I speak, everyone talks right over me like I'm not there. The thing that is the worst of all is how my husband...
    tselliott tselliott 56-60, F 53 Responses Mar 24, 2008

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    You know what hurts? What really,

    really hurts about my marriage? That I am my Husbands Best Friend. He's told me this. It's true, all the good friends I've known him to have also got walked on. Seriously, no other person has given him as much. No other person has forgiven him as much and tried to accept who...
    FreewritingFreyja FreewritingFreyja 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 11, 2014

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    I know I deserve better.

    feels like I'm stuck in an never ending loop... fight, apologize, good, fight, apologize, good.. repeat... when will I stop letting the apologies pull on my heart strings?..
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 4

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    He is always in my face.

    And. Last weekend I went to Vegas without him. He tortured me by calling me and texting me and got angry if I didn't answer. Now he's. Telling. My friends and they are giving me the third degree about why I went to Vegas. Unbelievable !!!!! I refuse to stop having fun...
    sassygirl42 sassygirl42 41-45, F 4 Responses Jun 7

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    I Would Like...

    I would like someone to hug me and tell me they are so glad I am a part of their life...I want to be something other than an option..I would like to share my thoughts, fears, dreams and passion with someone that really cared what they were...I'd like to feel the rain on my face...
    sweetpetite68 sweetpetite68 46-50, F 21 Responses Oct 14, 2012

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    I am extremely unhappy in my marriage :-( Got

    married in 2012 been 4years and I hate every minute of it ! My husband and his family are deceiving people.My relation was online based and I thought he would be the perfect match for me so we decided to get married and I regret every single second of it.It started from our...
    Mask12 Mask12 26-30, F 8 Responses Jul 12

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    The last time I posted on this was a year ago,

    things were at the worst but then things had changed I thought for the better. We started going to church together he spent time with me. We were happy for quite some time. And then it started again. He began working a lot, he wasn't around for major milestones even though he...
    adelaider adelaider 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 13

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    I love my children, I want them to be proud of

    who they are. I want them to learn that what they perceive as weaknesses, may be after all strengths. I want them to know that if they don't like the life they have, they can create a new one. Creativeness, imagination, invention are what has madeĀ us humans progress. I only...
    MrSquishy MrSquishy 41-45, M 3 Responses Dec 14, 2013

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    I think I could just do with some advice,

    I have been married for 20 years nearly 21... We have been together for 25... We have 3 kids 21,19 and 13.... We married young, I was 16 and he was 20.... 2 years ago I saw on his phone (complete accident) that he was sending pornagraphic pictures to my mother.... Yes my mother...
    lynny1978 lynny1978 36-40, F 5 Responses Jul 20

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    I have been married for almost 11 years.

    It is a long read...sorry We got married when he was 19 I was 18. I got pregnant before we were married. We only dated 6 months. I took my marriage vows seriously no matter what to work at it . Over the course of our marriage many things have happened. He has a highly addictive...
    redrubiess7 redrubiess7 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    Over the last week or

    so I have decided I want to end my marriage. Each day that passes makes me more resolved to do so. I just need to find the moment to tell my husband. There's never a good time for this sort of conversation but some are better than others. I know he'll be gutted but it's the...
    yespleaseMrDarcy yespleaseMrDarcy 36-40, F 9 Responses Apr 5

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    Staying For The Kids

    I am in a mostly unhappy marriage. My wife suffers from depression and that has made my marriage pretty unhappy. You can read my other story about that aspect of my relationship if you're curious. What I'd like to address here is why I stay...my children. You might think from...
    iRant iRant 46-50, M 17 Responses Mar 12, 2013

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    There Is No Intimacy, In Any Form, In My Marriage

    My husband and I have become no more than roommates. While he seems perfectly content this has made me incredibly unhappy and sad to the point I am considering leaving. I don't want to live like this any longer. For many years we couldn't keep our hands off on another, always...
    Moonwillow85 Moonwillow85 41-45, F 40 Responses Sep 17, 2011

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    I'm basically at fault

    for everything. We had troubles, she wanted to leave, I bucked up my ideas... But it's like I fixed my side of the garden, and hers is still full of weeds and issues that go unresolved. She basically takes no responsibility. But, things are weird right now. I've had a medical...
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