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I Am Unhappy In My Marriage

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    Help Me Stay In My Marriage

    I don't want to get a divorce, we have a good life. He is a wonderful father and provider. Most people looking in would think it is the perfect family. We have been married for 10 years and have two young kids. It has been going downhill for the last 5. We don't communicate...
    Loki39 Loki39 36-40, F 7 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    Completely stuck, drowning,

    no way out type of feeling. I don't love him anymore. I'm not attracted to him anymore. He never grew as a person. I want to be happy. I want to live and enjoy life. I want to go out on a date on a Saturday night. I'm outside alone, sitting under a beautifully lit gazebo...
    PolishedSadness PolishedSadness 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 7

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    I have been truly unhappy

    for years but held on for the sake of my children and for the fact that I do love my husband.... But really don't like him. We will be married 20 years in May but have been together since high school. He is all I know and I do find comfort in that but hate these feelings I have...
    TrinityX2 TrinityX2 46-50, F 10 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    if you are unhappy in your marriage

    and are looking for some fun with a young girl message me xxx
    sophh99 sophh99 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 8

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    If you could love the wrong person

    that much,Imagine how much you could love the right one.
    wvcountrylady wvcountrylady 51-55, F 5 Responses Jun 20

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    You know your happiness in a marriage is over

    when we have money for vacations yet you allow me to close my retirement account. Fml!
    peoplesHere peoplesHere 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 20

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    After 20 years, he's just a roommate.

    I've told him but it doesn't change......
    WickedJourney WickedJourney 46-50 8 Responses Dec 7, 2013

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    I have a very hard time in my marriage.

    My husband is very dominant and I am extremely passive. I let things go that normal people would go crazy over just because I hate confrontation. I can't hold a grudge. I am a stay at home mom/student. I don't get out much at all. My husband treats me like I'm his child. I am...
    lp1989 lp1989 22-25, F 13 Responses Jul 23

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    I read an article recently about the turning

    point people had that defined the end of their marriage. I am not saying this is the last straw, but certainly adding to the pile. My wife has been sick the last 2 years, but starting to get better. maybe 75% now. Especially lately, I have been working 2 jobs, trying to be a...
    runnfree runnfree 36-40, M 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    I Dream Of Running Away :(

    I have been married 7 years and it feels like 5 of them have been too long ! My partner has such a nasty temper , the smallest of things set him off ranting and raving about how **** his life is ... well maybe he should try living my life ?? I don't march around the place...
    TaannAz TaannAz 31-35, F 20 Responses Sep 22, 2013

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    I Get No Affection From My Husband.

    I have been married for about a year and a half, been together four years.  When my husband and I were dating, he was affectionate.  Once we started living together after about six or seven months, he became less and less affectionate quickly.  Now his expressions...
    MarenGolden MarenGolden 36-40, F 86 Responses Jun 14, 2009

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    I have been married for over seven years.

    We got married young. Unfortunately we were both ill equipped to have a successful relationship. Since the beginning we have both wanted a divorce. He mentioned it first, four days after our wedding day. By now I really do want a divorce. I can not stand him anymore. I realize...
    enduring0125 enduring0125 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 6

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    Seems most apt here..

    . The Journey One day you finally knew what you had to do, and began, though the voices around you kept shouting their bad advice- though the whole house began to tremble and you felt the old tug at your ankles. "Mend my life!" each voice cried. But you didn't stop...
    EttaS EttaS 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 30

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    So....hubby did and said all the right things

    last night. Dinner at my favorite restaurant, bottle of wine, walk on the beach. At home, I surprised him with new sexy lingerie. Another bottle of wine, kissing, hand holding. Time for some loving, and he had a surprise of his own, a penis extender! But then, he...
    Bikinigardener Bikinigardener 46-50, F 12 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am just beyond sad.

    I have been married for a year and my husband had an emotional affair with someone for most of that year. Not to mention he's just the type to become self-destruct when times get tough. He's going to counseling and so am I, but I don't know if the damage has been done. Just...
    caradeluna caradeluna 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 19

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    I am living in a separated situation with my

    abuser/ refuser / Narcissistic husband ( on paper only ) sleep in seperate rooms Do nothing together. In fact he ignores me, neglects any responsibility to maintain home , garden , maintenance Ect I try to just go about my business , ignore his attempts at triggering a...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    Had an interesting experience today with the

    wife...wanted some opinions on it. As some background, it's quite clear that we have issues with our relationship - we've had a sexless marriage since our two boys were born (won't go into detail on that here, long post in that forum), and we were barely speaking to each...
    HopefulDude HopefulDude 36-40, M 9 Responses Aug 15

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    You know something ill never comprehend is

    cowards and liars If your such a big man that you think you are.... Then be accountable and responsible for your choices I will never understand why people look outside their marriage ? LEAVE it!!! To berate, lie, cheat ... You are not only doing that to your spouse but the...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 3 Responses Jul 24

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    Where to begin other

    than the title of this group says it all. I'm unhappy but I am even more tired of being unhappy. I cannot tell you the times people will tell us how perfect we look together. How we seem to have it together. I smile and simply say thank you but inside I fight back the tears...
    Peaches1976 Peaches1976 36-40, F 4 Responses May 27

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    I feel at a loss as to what to do with my

    marriage. I'm 43 and have been married for 22 years. We are not connected in any way whatsoever other than sharing our child who happens to be 21. Our child left home freshman year which was 2011. I think the void became more evident at that point. Suddenly, it was just us at...
    txnurse txnurse 41-45, F 4 Responses Jul 17

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    He up and quit his job today.

    We have a 19 month old and he just goes and quits. I'm so mad and worried. I am so close to wanting to call it quits with my marriage.
    MegMichelle29 MegMichelle29 26-30, F 5 Responses Sep 2

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    I love my children, I want them to be proud of

    who they are. I want them to learn that what they perceive as weaknesses, may be after all strengths. I want them to know that if they don't like the life they have, they can create a new one. Creativeness, imagination, invention are what has made us humans progress. I only...
    MrSquishy MrSquishy 41-45, M 4 Responses Dec 14, 2013

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    So my husband refuses to stop talking to this

    single mom on our street. He clearly has a thing for her. I have told him many times that it really bothers me but it doesn't matter to him. He has been so mean and nasty to me and talking to all these girls and being really secretive about if. Not only does it make me feel like...
    blondie529 blondie529 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 11

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    My husband keeps threatening to leave me

    even though he promised to stop putting divorce on the table... We have been through a lot and things are hard... But we both never believed in divorce... Except he's brought it up 3 times in the last month... How can I trust someone who always wants to leave?
    rocknangel rocknangel 26-30, F 14 Responses Jul 18

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    After a weekend away

    for work training my husband is more distant than ever. This time he did not come up with excuse that he did not have phone reception in hotel. He did call at night to say good night to kids. Did not really talk for long. When he got home I went to him to kiss him and hug him...
    txhouswife42 txhouswife42 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 12

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    I feel badly that I've fallen out of love with

    my husband. It's primarily based upon lack of respect. He constantly has apologized over and over again for YEARS because I must work harder to be with him than without him! He's lazy compared to me and has yet to get his career together. I've done all that I can to be a...
    brokenwoman13 brokenwoman13 36-40, F 17 Responses Dec 3, 2013

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    My wife asked me to make a peach cobbler

    tonight. I'm more then happy to make a treat, however I told her that she would have to sit in the kitchen with me and keep me company while I made the cobbler. She can't do that, she's busy paying bills on the couch in the living room with her laptop and the TV on. Are there...
    LifeinWoodinville LifeinWoodinville 41-45, M 14 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    My idea of marriage and the reality of it (for

    me) are so far off the mark that I don't consider myself to be married. Is that weird? Maybe it should be ended. I may or may not ever be with someone again but isn't it better to be alone than to settle for crumbs? I'm sure he would see it differently.
    elizabeth111 elizabeth111 46-50, F 3 Responses Apr 18

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    I Just Want to Feel Loved and Wanted

      This story starts about 15 years ago. I was 21 and had my whole life ahead of me. I was in my second year of college and had every intention of graduating. I felt that one day I would achieve my goals and dreams. I thought that there was a purpose in life and I was...
    LivinaLie LivinaLie 36-40, M 31 Responses Nov 7, 2007

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    Staying For The Kids

    I am in a mostly unhappy marriage. My wife suffers from depression and that has made my marriage pretty unhappy. You can read my other story about that aspect of my relationship if you're curious. What I'd like to address her is why I stay...my children. You might think from...
    iRant iRant 46-50, M 15 Responses Mar 12, 2013

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    Tomorrow is our 8th anniversary.

    I haven't gotten my husband anything yet. Our marriage is a mess, to say the least. Two years ago he FORGOT our anniversary, and I was devastated. He made ME feel guilty for being upset about it. He says he doesn't want to give up on us, I'm not sure I can keep trying...
    wasguzie wasguzie 41-45, F 10 Responses Aug 28

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    Till death do us part.

    ..... well I feel like I'm dying a little every day, every second of every day my heart breaks. There is nothing left and soon nothing left to feel, cause I'm just left numb from it all. Till eventually you're a shell of the person you once were. Yeah did you ever meet one of...
    blissfulmiss blissfulmiss 36-40, F 6 Responses Feb 7

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    It sucks. Three years married

    and it's not getting any easier. He's a very difficult man to be around. We have nothing in common either.
    armstrong7984 armstrong7984 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 23

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    So Unhappy I Wish I Were Dead

    I have been married for 25 years. They have all been pretty terrible. Each year I think it can't get any worse but it does. I am so totally ignored in my house that when I speak, everyone talks right over me like I'm not there. The thing that is the worst of all is how my husband...
    tselliott tselliott 56-60, F 49 Responses Mar 24, 2008

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    There Is No Intimacy, In Any Form, In My Marriage

    My husband and I have become no more than roommates. While he seems perfectly content this has made me incredibly unhappy and sad to the point I am considering leaving. I don't want to live like this any longer. For many years we couldn't keep our hands off on another, always...
    Moonwillow85 Moonwillow85 41-45, F 39 Responses Sep 17, 2011

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    i just realized that I have been in an

    unhealthy marriage for the last 34 years. A few years ago,I tried asking my husband for a divorce and he said go ahead, but he knew that I had nowhere to go, because all of my family is back east. I blame him for dragging me all the way out to the west coast. I knew that I was...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 20 Responses Jul 20

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    What I'm Doing To Cope

    My husband wants to leave me and I am torn apart.  I've had a lot of trouble sleeping in the bed we used to share.  So I started a blog about it all.  I don't want to burden my friends and family with it, so I am trying to promote it in an anonymous way.  Making a post each...
    rahkeepschanging rahkeepschanging 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 11, 2012

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    On our 10 yr anniversary,

    last yr, I thought we had a great time over drinks and dinner. When we got home, after putting the kids to bed, everything changed. Our kids, like most kids were no going to sleep. They were bickering and annoying each other. This made my husband really angry. He got so angry...
    txhouswife42 txhouswife42 41-45, F 5 Responses Aug 11

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    For everyone who may be unhappily married

    please do not give up or lose hope. If you are in the UK I have the perfect opportunity for you it's called the "Love School Event"- Before you pull a face and scream "How can there be a school on love, you learn everything yourself!!!" Give me a chance to explain. Of course no...
    dannirsj dannirsj 18-21 a week ago

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    I feel betrayed, my husband may be snooping

    through my device, and i forgot to sign off, had to use erase mode on "find my iPad" There's stuff here i do not want to share with him!!!
    133jenn 133jenn 46-50, F 5 Responses Jul 12

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    Marriage Is Nothing More Than Legalized Slavery.

    Needless to say, Im pretty unhappy.  I have been married for only 5 year and they have been a wretched.  I have three children ages 10, 4, and 2.  My husband is exceptionally controlling, very demanding, and has an explosive temper.  He opens and reads of my...
    MsEnigma MsEnigma 26-30 23 Responses Jun 24, 2010

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    Yesterday daughter and I were discussing our

    impending 21st and 50th birthdays Asked husband what will he be getting me for this special birthday His response : a divorce that should make you happy I used to respond in utter shock and disbelief in such comments but no longer do(but yes they still hurt )as I realise its all...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 4 Responses Jul 9

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    I've been married for almost one year

    and we've fought before the marriage and after marriage countless times. We've spent 8 years together and the last 5 years was amazing and now things have changed. The marriage did not help saving our relationship and I don't have the strength and power to leave.
    qoep qoep 26-30, F 6 Responses Aug 4

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    Spent this last weekend fighting with my very

    soon to be Ex! My daughter and myself have been invited to my Mothers home for a week, the last few times my husband has gone he expects everyone to pick up the tab for him non stop and won't allow my mother to have any quiet time with her daughter or granddaughter but he...
    Rena4 Rena4 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 14

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    Brilliance or evil ? That is the

    question Recently married friend confronted husband on issue if he was having affair ? Of course not all in your mind , your crazy Ect Ect .... You get the picture She then informs me that she as lovingly as ever made his pre sleep cup of tea but put in a extra additive of...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F Jul 10

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    I wasn't always unhappy.

    I've tried very hard over the years to make my husband happy and to support him in everything he did. I'm not perfect by any means and I know I have failed him along the way a time or two but I feel like he has broken my heart and me a little bit at a time over the past 20 years...
    Curiouskitty77 Curiouskitty77 36-40, F 19 Responses May 28

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    Should I Ask Get A Divorce?

    I am contemplating leaving my husband. He is overseas working at the moment & I think that the distance really opened my eyes. We have a whole list of problems. He has hit me before.. actually he hits me every time we have a big argument. I have gained a bit weight since we got...
    unhappyyoungwife unhappyyoungwife 22-25, F 24 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    I Want Out, But....

    Two years ago my husband betrayed me. The hurt was so deep, my love for him changed and continues to change. I love him for what he is but I don't want to be married to him anymore. I don't believe he loves me as much as he loved the other woman. We moved when he went full...
    jadedkitty jadedkitty 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 13, 2013

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    Well I am fairly certain my husband has a girl

    on the side. A single mom that opens up and shares everything with him. They text each other asking how they slept and he is always going to her house with our daughter. If our marriage was solid I wouldn't be worried but since it's rocky I think it just makes everything worse
    blondie529 blondie529 22-25, F 11 Responses Jul 1

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    I Would Like...

    I would like someone to hug me and tell me they are so glad I am a part of their life...I want to be something other than an option..I would like to share my thoughts, fears, dreams and passion with someone that really cared what they were...I'd like to feel the rain on my face...
    sweetpetite68 sweetpetite68 41-45, F 21 Responses Oct 14, 2012

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    I have been married for 6 months now

    and it just seems like nothing ever goes right. My husband and I should still be in our honeymoon stage but it seems like we are so far apart from one another. I'm so lost. It seems like all we ever do is fight. I try to talk to him about it and he says that he just isn't an...
    lonelygirl3355 lonelygirl3355 31-35, F 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    You know your marriage sucks

    when you enjoy your partner being gone for work months at a time and that is when you feel the most yourself and happy. Fml!
    peoplesHere peoplesHere 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 20

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