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I Am Unhappy In My Marriage

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    I have been married over a year now,

    my husband has always been a pothead, and in the beginning smoked and lied and smoked cigarettes too. The first year of our relationship I had to deal with him smokin weed behind my back. Eventually I felt like I had to smoke too, cuz I love him and want to keep the relationship...
    akiyama10 akiyama10 18-21, F 6 Responses Feb 19

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    What I'm Doing To Cope

    My husband wants to leave me and I am torn apart.  I've had a lot of trouble sleeping in the bed we used to share.  So I started a blog about it all.  I don't want to burden my friends and family with it, so I am trying to promote it in an anonymous way.  Making a post each...
    rahkeepschanging rahkeepschanging 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 11, 2012

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    I am having problems in my seven month old

    marriage. I have posted several things about it already. I have written a long message for my wife - yes I guess it is an ultimatum, but I have had enough of the hurt and pain she is dishing out. Either she wants the marriage or she doesn't. I am ready to throw in the towel and...
    tcennoC tcennoC 51-55, M 5 Responses Mar 16

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    I Would Like...

    I would like someone to hug me and tell me they are so glad I am a part of their life...I want to be something other than an option..I would like to share my thoughts, fears, dreams and passion with someone that really cared what they were...I'd like to feel the rain on my face...
    sweetpetite68 sweetpetite68 41-45, F 21 Responses Oct 14, 2012

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    My husband and I are

    both unhappy. However, we love each other. We have been to counseling and my husband doesn't like it. He doesn't feel we have "gotten anywhere." I am wondering if anyone has any suggestions besides counseling to help a marriage?
    JetBlak501 JetBlak501 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    Should I Ask Get A Divorce?

    I am contemplating leaving my husband. He is overseas working at the moment & I think that the distance really opened my eyes. We have a whole list of problems. He has hit me before.. actually he hits me every time we have a big argument. I have gained a bit weight since we got...
    unhappyyoungwife unhappyyoungwife 22-25, F 22 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    After all that went down today,

    I really just wanted to get drunk. Plain and simple. I poured my vodka and coke, thought it tasted disgusting, drank it anyway, and decided I was just too old for this s***. Needless to say, cake vodka is repulsive and I'm not putting forth the effort to down another one. Stay...
    Luckylotus013 Luckylotus013 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 13

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    Till death do us part.

    ..... well I feel like I'm dying a little every day, every second of every day my heart breaks. There is nothing left and soon nothing left to feel, cause I'm just left numb from it all. Till eventually you're a shell of the person you once were. Yeah did you ever meet one of...
    blissfulmiss blissfulmiss 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 7

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    I've been married for ten years

    and have two kids. My husband wanted me in his life but in hindsight, he never wanted to be in mine. I went to weddings alone, graduations alone, family dinners alone, and was alone for the birth of one of our kids. For that one he swears he just needed time to wake up. Wtf? I...
    lonelymom22 lonelymom22 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 15

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    When Do You Walk Away???

    I am so glad I found this site. I have to say that I don't wish this upon anyone but so glad I am not the only one in this boat. Fifteen years and I am literally sleeping on the couch tonight. And not just tonight. I am much like the rest of you. No communication, no intimacy, no...
    Dolb75 Dolb75 36-40, F 19 Responses Oct 27, 2013

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    So Unhappy I Wish I Were Dead

    I have been married for 25 years. They have all been pretty terrible. Each year I think it can't get any worse but it does. I am so totally ignored in my house that when I speak, everyone talks right over me like I'm not there. The thing that is the worst of all is how my husband...
    tselliott tselliott 56-60, F 48 Responses Mar 24, 2008

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    maybe I should've done more,

    tried more and cried less. I actually thought withholding sex when I was angry or so tired was a good thing. maybe I should've let him take me every time and in every way but now that he has already cheated is it too late?
    cheat3dwife cheat3dwife 31-35, F 11 Responses Feb 20

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    Staying For The Kids

    I am in a mostly unhappy marriage. My wife suffers from depression and that has made my marriage pretty unhappy. You can read my other story about that aspect of my relationship if you're curious. What I'd like to address her is why I stay...my children. You might think from...
    iRant iRant 46-50, M 15 Responses Mar 12, 2013

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    I have only been married 3 months

    and I'm confused why things have changed. My husband has completely turned into someone else. He used to want to spend every minute with me and was super nice. Now all he does is put me down and makes me feel bad. He likes having lots of "him" time and I just don't get what...
    writer4ever writer4ever 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 9

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    I find myself reading what feels like the same

    story from so many different people... and it's extremely sad. I often find myself looking at my life & often wonder what's wrong with ME? Why can't I find happiness with what I've got? Why can't what he is be enough for me? I never was in love w/ him... one lonely night...
    Dreamer359 Dreamer359 31-35, F 19 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I just wanted to say that

    for everyone who is struggling with this question and situation to read "Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay" by Mira Kirshenbaum. It is a positive book that helps you think through each aspect of your relationship. Best book I have ever read.
    adelaider adelaider 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 2

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    Dear dear husband: I want to leave

    but I can't for three main reasons. The public humiliation. My religion. Our daughter. Those three things are why I am not free to live happily alone. Everyday life is another disappointment. Nothing like what I had hoped for. We are too fundamentally different to enjoy one...
    queenCupcakes queenCupcakes 26-30, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I don't have the sad story of marrying

    for the wrong reason, being cheated on or lied to multiple times. My life has, for the most part, been quite happy. We have a beautiful little girl who is the reason I want things to work and is the reason I do everything. I love my daughter and I do love my wife...
    njstringer njstringer 31-35, M 3 Responses Mar 8

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    Marriage Is Nothing More Than Legalized Slavery.

    Needless to say, Im pretty unhappy.  I have been married for only 5 year and they have been a wretched.  I have three children ages 10, 4, and 2.  My husband is exceptionally controlling, very demanding, and has an explosive temper.  He opens and reads of my...
    MsEnigma MsEnigma 26-30 22 Responses Jun 24, 2010

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    I have been truly unhappy

    for years but held on for the sake of my children and for the fact that I do love my husband.... But really don't like him. We will be married 20 years in May but have been together since high school. He is all I know and I do find comfort in that but hate these feelings I have...
    TrinityX2 TrinityX2 46-50, F 8 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    "Rough Patch"?

    In the past couple of months, since my marriage reached its breaking point, I have received a lot of advice and/or wisdom regarding long-term relationships. A lot of this comes in this form, or some variation thereof: "All marriages go through rough patches" "My parents went...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 23, 2011

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    I Get No Affection From My Husband.

    I have been married for about a year and a half, been together four years.  When my husband and I were dating, he was affectionate.  Once we started living together after about six or seven months, he became less and less affectionate quickly.  Now his expressions...
    MarenGolden MarenGolden 36-40, F 76 Responses Jun 14, 2009

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    I am married, going on 12 years,

    and for about the past 11 years we have pretty much lived as roommates. We were unable to have children but while trying getting my husband to have sex was next to impossible. We attempted IVF and from that point forward our sex life has been pretty much non-existent dwindling...
    wvgirlatheart wvgirlatheart 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 19

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    My husband has definitely got a split

    personality. One minute he ignores me for weeks, doesn't support me or encourage me to do anything. I do everything for him. Then all off a sudden when I'm ready to walk out on the marriage and return back to my home roots. He decides to be nice to me but I've had enough. I...
    olivia2807 olivia2807 31-35, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    What gets your through the hard days?

    What's your go-to? For me, it's the gym, running.... I can spend 2+hours in the gym just focusing on nothing but what I'm doing... I don't have that kind of time everyday, but it makes me a much happier married person when I go.
    Dreamer359 Dreamer359 31-35, F 12 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    My idea of marriage and the reality of it (for

    me) are so far off the mark that I don't consider myself to be married. Is that weird? Maybe it should be ended. I may or may not ever be with someone again but isn't it better to be alone than to settle for crumbs? I'm sure he would see it differently.
    elizabeth111 elizabeth111 46-50, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    A Tribute To Shel Silversteins " The Missing Piece Meets The Big O"

    To all my relationship challenged friends.   I read this years ago and ran across this animation. While we cannot change our significant others we can change ourselves.  In doing so we will find what we are all searching for...
    Anriba Anriba 41-45, M 5 Responses Jul 13, 2013

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    I'm having a very difficult time in my marriage

    right now. My husband show me no compassion and now he says he has no feelings for me but he keeps going back and forth. It's enough to drive someone crazy. He's so cold and I want affection badly
    jb2002 jb2002 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 21

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    Like many people posting here,

    more and more often I've been asking myself how I got here. It's not because I'm an addict or a murderer or anything. By all outward accounts, my life up until this point has been quite successful. I married my "high school sweetheart" and we've been married now for a shade over...
    z1985 z1985 26-30, M 2 Responses Jan 2

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    I have been married 8 years

    and been together with my wife for a total of 18 years. we had 2 small kids. for the past 4-5 years, we have not been working on our marriage but focusing on being the perfect parent, She says that she has fallen out of love with me and was very unhappy for 2-3 years. In a way...
    needtotalk37 needtotalk37 36-40, M 4 Responses Apr 1

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    I have been married just over 10 years,

    no children (unable to) and for the past 2 years or so, my husband has been very distant, our intimacy is not at all like it use to be, the thoughtful and sweet things he used to say or do have pretty much stopped and worst of all, I have discovered that he may be cheating on...
    LolaDeee LolaDeee 46-50, F 5 Responses Feb 24

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    Well, i do belong to this group (a husband in a

    sexless marriage). I am married for last three years. It was an arranged marriage. Although my preference was to marry a very good looking, but considering all the aspects got married to a decent looking girl, who is active in all other house hold activity. I admire her for all...
    RDASN RDASN 31-35, M 3 Responses Mar 14

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    I Just Want to Feel Loved and Wanted

      This story starts about 15 years ago. I was 21 and had my whole life ahead of me. I was in my second year of college and had every intention of graduating. I felt that one day I would achieve my goals and dreams. I thought that there was a purpose in life and I was...
    LivinaLie LivinaLie 36-40, M 31 Responses Nov 7, 2007

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    from the first day of my marriage I feel

    that there is no chemistry between me and my wife, now we are two years marriage and one baby, thinking of divorce but worried about the baby, I don't share any thing with her, I think continuing like this will kill us both slowly
    mohameddxb mohameddxb 26-30, M 4 Responses Mar 18

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    How To Stay Married

    1. Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE...
    chrisgaza chrisgaza 51-55, M 5 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    I am married to a very angry person

    who has the shortest fuse and takes all his frustrations out on me even if they nave nothing to do with me. We have only been married for a few moths and I moved to USA for him. I left my country and I have no friends or family here and I have never felt so lonely in my life.
    ClowdyDays ClowdyDays 36-40, F 7 Responses Feb 19

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    Is marriage about the acceptance of one's

    character and personality or a requirement for change? I am not getting along with my partner because he finds me too 'strong'. Is it that I should change who I am for him or he should accept me for who I am?
    anatriza anatriza 36-40, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    My husband is so deficult to be with.

    He always thinks I'm cheating. I don't have any friends I don't see my family like once a year if that. We've been together 15 years. I've started feeling like what THE HELL IS WRONG WITH ME.
    Hatemelife Hatemelife 41-45, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I Want Out, But....

    Two years ago my husband betrayed me. The hurt was so deep, my love for him changed and continues to change. I love him for what he is but I don't want to be married to him anymore. I don't believe he loves me as much as he loved the other woman. We moved when he went full...
    jadedkitty jadedkitty 31-35, F 8 Responses Nov 13, 2013

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    Help Me Stay In My Marriage

    I don't want to get a divorce, we have a good life. He is a wonderful father and provider. Most people looking in would think it is the perfect family. We have been married for 10 years and have two young kids. It has been going downhill for the last 5. We don't communicate...
    Loki39 Loki39 36-40, F 8 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    I feel badly that I've fallen out of love with

    my husband. It's primarily based upon lack of respect. He constantly has apologized over and over again for YEARS because I must work harder to be with him than without him! He's lazy compared to me and has yet to get his career together. I've done all that I can to be a...
    brokenwoman13 brokenwoman13 31-35, F 16 Responses Dec 3, 2013

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    Newbie In A Unhappy Marriage

    Ok, I'll keep this short. Last night I went to bed in tears after another fight with my husband. He's meanest at night, because that's when he's usually drunk. So, I grabbed my phone and googled "unhappily married", and found this web site. I'm so excited! I finally feel like I...
    keepittogether keepittogether 31-35, F 10 Responses Aug 11, 2012

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    I was googling dissatifaction in marriage

    when I stumbled on this site, I am so glad I did cuz I need to empty my heart rite now.. I've been married for 2yrs now and and I want out.. Am tired and emotionally drained,am tired of trying so hard to please someone who never cares abt my feelings. He dictates my life, every...
    Viva21 Viva21 22-25, F 21 Responses Jan 4

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    Tired Of Living A Lie

    I met my husband 10 years ago after a bad break up. I wasn't looking to meet anyone my friends had brought me out to get me outta my funk. A few weeks later he had moved in with me. And after a year together I tried breaking up with him, he cried and begged and basically we...
    ToniS ToniS 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 22, 2013

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    My husband and I are in our 60's

    and just married 7 months ago. We had sex exactly 3 times the first two weeks we were married and now NOTHING. He even nudges me away if I try to get physically close to him. He is definitely not interested in sex-no intimacy going on at all and he will not discuss it. I am...
    Blondeartist444 Blondeartist444 61-65, F 3 Responses Apr 7

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    There Is No Intimacy, In Any Form, In My Marriage

    My husband and I have become no more than roommates. While he seems perfectly content this has made me incredibly unhappy and sad to the point I am considering leaving. I don't want to live like this any longer. For many years we couldn't keep our hands off on another, always...
    Moonwillow85 Moonwillow85 41-45, F 36 Responses Sep 17, 2011

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    I Regret My Husband

    I hate being in this relationship more and more everyday, every time I convince myself to stay he gives me two more reasons to leave. I hate the person he makes me become, I am bitter, mean, depressed, angry and discouraged from/about love. I know I am not perfect but he thinks...
    carolinamunoz carolinamunoz 22-25, F 6 Responses Sep 17, 2013

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    I dnt know we're to start

    but everyday deep inside im not happy with my husband anymore..Emotionaly he hurt me so badly..Tormented my heart.I need some advice please .I cant take it anymore..
    lonelylady2985 lonelylady2985 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    I have been married for 19 years.

    My husband is a good guy. No abuse, good work ethic, affectionate, etc. The problem is I am just not happy anymore. We have very different goals in life. He is positively content with life, very mellow, no real motivation to improve his life in any way, no dreams, goals or...
    vaughng vaughng 41-45, F 10 Responses Mar 3

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    I am unhappy in my marriage not

    because my husband is a monster. My husband isn't the person I thought he was when I married him. It is so unfair! He is fake! I thought we were so perfect together. The longer we are married the more I see how deceiving he really is and it hurts. He will talk to me about...
    tracieee tracieee 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 10

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    We are not compatible at all!

    !! 17 yrs of marriage n 3 lovely kids
    cluelessboy cluelessboy 41-45, M 5 Responses Mar 22

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    Last Night

    My husband asked for sex last night and I though what the hell! We did it but I was dry the entire time. ****! All the more reason to go ahead with the divorce!
    ToniS ToniS 31-35, F 8 Responses Sep 23, 2013

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    I Dream Of Running Away :(

    I have been married 7 years and it feels like 5 of them have been too long ! My partner has such a nasty temper , the smallest of things set him off ranting and raving about how **** his life is ... well maybe he should try living my life ?? I don't march around the place...
    TaannAz TaannAz 31-35, F 23 Responses Sep 22, 2013

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    After 20 years, he's just a roommate.

    I've told him but it doesn't change......
    WickedJourney WickedJourney 46-50 10 Responses Dec 7, 2013

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    Here is a good example of how he ****** me off.

    .. So my husband text a random text to me today and in the middle of the messages we had going I found out my aunt passed and the following is what was said in the messages... Tell me what you wold have said... Him: i like sex me: I know u do... him: sex is fun. me: ok... him: i...
    mekelb mekelb 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 26

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    I have been married for 11 years.

    Things started out good -but after 3 kids and life I feel that we have just lost that spark. Through our marriage I have always tried to keep the spark alive -weekend trips, special gifts, even spicing up our love life by doing things for him and having sex in not so common...
    zoey0824 zoey0824 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 19

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