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I Am Unhappy With My Mother In Law Living With Us

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    inlawcasting inlawcasting 31-35 Apr 2, 2010

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    5 Weeks Left

    I live with my wife, stepson and Turkish MIL who was supposed to have moved back home last fall. She will not leave the house if I am there, so there is never any private time or intimacy between the three of us because we are constantly being monitored. Don't even get me...
    Fmlrn Fmlrn 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 11, 2013

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    I Thought I Was Alone Mil Issues....

    Ok my story starts from way back in 1995 when I met my husband....I already had 2 children from previous relationship. In 1997 I had my son from my husband, now this is where I blame myself for not speaking up.  The day I came home from the hospital with my son my MIL was there...
    sparker1597 sparker1597 36-40 Nov 22, 2011

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    Almost Packed Up And Left!!

    My MIL issues have been so hard to deal with. My husband has recently fallen on hard times and I am the only one working. We have two kids 8 and 1. His mother has been living with us since shortly after we bought the house 4 years ago. We used to be great friends, I would confide...
    Macgirl2009 Macgirl2009 31-35, F Feb 24, 2013

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    Since The Beginning

    My wife and I have been together since1998 we married in 09 and my wife joined the military my mil has been living with us since 09 thought I got away from her when we moved to Louisiana but she came down to "visit" in 10 and hasn't left she's not disabled or even older she still...
    Pittman01 Pittman01 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 21, 2013

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    Help? Moving In With Mom In Law

    my mother in law recently got her 30 day notice to leave her current livivng place. my husband ahd i whom have been married for a yr and a half now and i do have a 3 yrold son with decided to stay in our tiny apartment a yr longer to save for a house. my husband without talking...
    alanavillano alanavillano 70+, F 1 Response Dec 22, 2011

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    Killing Me With Kindness

    So sorry guys.  I'm in a similar boat.  My MIL has been living with us since the beginning 5 years ago.  I knew that she would be living with us b/c of her health and finances (OCD/bipolar/severe crohns/multiple other ailments) but I was hoping and expecting that she would...
    ykittys ykittys 31-35 2 Responses Apr 4, 2012

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    About To Leave Because Of MIL

    Hi all, Wow, the relief you feel when you find this site. I feel so isolated because you cannot say what you really think. My story....would love opinions please...I am divorced, I then met the man I thought was my world. THEN a couple of years into our relationship...he...
    Green2013 Green2013 41-45, F 4 Responses Feb 7, 2013

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    10 Years And Counting

    My MIL was living with another woman when, 10 years ago, this other woman decided to file bankruptcy. They had purchased a trailer together. When the friend decided to live in town my MIL came to live with us. We have since raised our children(4) to adulthood, although they...
    reddmomma reddmomma 51-55 2 Responses Apr 7, 2013

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    Married Almost Two Years, Bought A House And Mother-in-law Moved In With Us...

    That was 10 years ago this coming June. We bought the house and within three months, my mother-in-law decided she couldn't pay her rent increase any longer, no money...and she had no job. She was at that time 72 and very independent. My husband suggested we knock a wall out of...
    WindyLin WindyLin 51-55, F 4 Responses Dec 23, 2011

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    No Respect MIL

    So my mother in law has been living with us for almost two years. We are non smokers but she constenly smokes in our house and cars while we are working... She shots on her butt all day while I work and cant even do her own dishes. She spills drinks/food on the carpet almost...
    Pennysizemore85 Pennysizemore85 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 23, 2013

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    my husbands mother has been living with us

    for two years,. she up and decided to move in with no warning or woman to woman conversation with me . while i was in the hospitol giving birth to my son. she didnt take into consideration i had already had my post pardom plans,. my parents had already taken fmla to come stay...
    Msbonnie Msbonnie 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 1

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    Am I The Only Man In These Shoes?

    My MIL lives with us because she has lived with my wife for 10 years, the problem is she is as healthy as can be, has a job, and drives around no problem. The woman is pretty kind accept she gets into all our business including small things like "where and why are we going to...
    briwils briwils 36-40 4 Responses Apr 5, 2012

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    Mother-In-Law Culture Clash

    My MIL has lived with us for 6 years now. Life has been miserable the entire time. My husband and I have nearly gotten divorced three times during these years. He knows my feelings, but refuses to just kick his mom out with no where for her to go. She is Eastern European and the...
    4 Responses Jan 30, 2013

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    I Have 2!

    Not only do i have my mother in law but my sister in law too! My mother in law has been with us for 2 years. Through 2 major moves, we picked up my sister in law along the way. Most of this is my fault i must first admit, as i was the one that thought this may be a good idea. I...
    kmcgriff kmcgriff 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 9, 2013

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    Young, Able Bodied And Freaking Crazy!

    I can't even begin to express how therapeutic it is to read of other people's troubles that are similar to mine. My mother-in-law bought a one way ticket to my wedding and stayed with us. My husband couldn't send her home (his brother was a 30 year old drug addict that had...
    DYSPHEMISM DYSPHEMISM 22-25, F Feb 15, 2013

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    I've Have Come To Understand The ONLY Way This Is Going To Work Is...

    It's been about 3 months since my MIL moved in with us. Us being myself, fiancé, son, and my mom. We've been living together now for several years and, while we did have some growing pains, we've been getting along very well. In comes MIL. She's an independent Mexican woman who...
    Oodalalee Oodalalee 31-35, F Nov 9, 2013

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    Ok, so I come from an Arabic culture

    but I am American and I am American born. My husband is an amazing man and it was a wonderfully romantic story how we became together. HOWEVER, he got orders to deploy to Afghanistan. Well, his mom was staying in an apartment and his idea was that she move in with us...
    frustratedwomantn frustratedwomantn 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 21

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    Out Of Control.

    I'm going crazy. I flipped out on my husband and I'm hoping we work it out when he gets home... She packed up her stuff from the house she shared with her husband, in February. She just took two carloads and went to a friends house while he was at work. Suddenly she has an...
    chellemdiaz chellemdiaz 22-25 1 Response Aug 8, 2012

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    Living With A Divorced Financially Dependent Mil...and Its Hurting My Marriage

    Hello Everyone, I am happy to have found this forum and relate with those in similar situations, so here is my story: my husband's mother suffered through 2 divorces, never worked a day in her life, is extremely dependent (cannot even drive) and is unfortunately living with us...
    Vent1218 Vent1218 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 25, 2012

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    Haven't Even Been A Month!!!

    Hello alright to start of me and my fiancée have 2 children a 19 month old and a 7 month old. We just recently moved into out first apartment like 2 and a half weeks ago... Like 2 days ago my fiancées mom asked him if it was ok if she moved in with us because she hasn't been...
    Neka145 Neka145 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 12, 2013

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    This is a little long

    but I really need to vent. I live with my husband and our 8 month old baby in a small 3 bedroom home. 3 months ago my mother in law moved in. It was very sudden and unexpected. She had quit her job and needed a place to stay. We had no time to think or set any boundaries or...
    luaberry luaberry 22-25, F 2 Responses May 22

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    Thank God I'm Not The Only One!!!!

    Let me first say Thank God!!!! Finally somewhere and someone who understands the sure MISSERY!!!!I I don't want to sound heartless because a BIG heart is what got us all in this sinking boat in the first place. My mother-in-law has been living with us for almost two years now...
    SisNurse SisNurse 41-45 4 Responses Oct 1, 2013

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    One day my husband took his mom to a doctor's

    appointment. When he took her back home, to his sister's house where she had been living for six months, most of her belongings were packed in trash bags on the lawn. With no notice, my mother-in-law moved in. Here's a little background to help you understand how this made me...
    Lumps1love Lumps1love 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 24

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    My Mil Has Yours Beat......

    MIL lived with us for 9 long months. I literally thought I was having a nervous breakdown. Initially my hubby told me she would help cook and clean(60yr old, no ailments, no job)she did not. She was demanding and disrespectful, rude, and judegmental when hubby wasn't home, an...
    kshousewife kshousewife 41-45 2 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    Unhappy Living With My Mother-in-law

    My husband and i recently bought a home, 2 yrs now n decided before we moved in that his mother could of lived in the basement till we got our feet off the ground with the mortgage, from the time she moved in she became a different individual to me, she rules n tries to control...
    deathbecomesme deathbecomesme 31-35 2 Responses Jun 24, 2009

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    Lets see it started about five years ago I

    lived with a cousin and my wife- daughter and mother in law stayed at her grandmothers. Me and my wife aren't married at that time but were getting closer wanting to create our family we find an appt of our own and the mother in law comes along I'm cool with it (silly me...
    Whodidimarry Whodidimarry 26-30, M Mar 19

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    Living In Misery With MIL

    Hi - My story is a little different because I am in a same-sex relationship. I have been with my partner for fifteen years. Seven years ago we decided to have children and they are now 6 and 2 years old. My partner and I agreed to always have one of us stay home as a stay at...
    Needtoescapesoon Needtoescapesoon 31-35 2 Responses Apr 23, 2013

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    Had a baby and my mother in law constantly says

    how the baby only looks like her side and he's going to have her curly hair. My son is now 8 months old and he ended up getting my wavy hair and some of my features and then she said it got her husbands hair but his hair is curly too just cuts it a lot. She then said the baby...
    LovelyT10 LovelyT10 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 21

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    On The Verge Of Divorce, 31 Mil 54.

    Ok so my story may be a little differnet because my mother in law is not elderly.  She is 54.  She just has no money and has been living with my husband and I for almost 4 years and we have only been married for 5.  She does not contribute to the house hold and...
    everjen everjen 31-35 5 Responses Jun 25, 2010

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    Let me premise this with: I am 29,

    my husband 31, and we've been married 8 years. No kids. My mother-in-law and I had a GREAT relationship when I was younger, she was always the "cool mom" who I'd go talk to about why my mom was such a stickler. A few years ago, she started making what I'd call "questionable...
    Karebearkid Karebearkid 26-30, F Feb 26

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    It Started Out As A Joke...

    My fiancé and I had been together 3 1/2 years. Hadn't married as I was finishing my education and marriage would have mucked up the financial aid I was getting. We were waiting to have children till after school/marriage. My fiancé is a single child and his mother had mentioned...
    Oodalalee Oodalalee 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 9, 2013

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    My MIL moved in over 2 months ago with myself,

    my husband and our 6 month old baby. She had quit her job and called us saying she needed a place to stay. We had no time to think or talk about it so we said it was ok. No ground rules were set in place as in my mind I thought it would only last a couple weeks. Anyway, she...
    luaberry luaberry 22-25, F 1 Response May 7

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    Going Bananas With This Woman, Help

    My mother has been living with us for several years now. Shes the kind of manipulative woman that cooks, cleans, does laundry and you'd alll think I had it made in the shade. The problem is how controlling, manipulative, and drama causing she has been in our lives. She has no...
    desperatelyinlimbo desperatelyinlimbo 41-45 4 Responses Jun 13, 2013

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    Depressed about being 29 years old

    and now having my MIL live with us the rest of her life. My FIL passed away from leukemia in 2012 and he was her sole income. Now she had to sell her home and gets 1200 in SS but that pays just her car payment,insurance, and life insurance. My husband (her son) is in military...
    Hannahemma2014 Hannahemma2014 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 19

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    Can't Take It Any More!

    My MIL has now been living with us for the almost 3 years since she left her husband. This was supposed to be temporary as she was going to get a job, car, etc... Now, she won't even drive (our cars) to go places for her self, she has no job, no money and still asks for things...
    sickofherjunk sickofherjunk 36-40, M 3 Responses Sep 16, 2013

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    I Asked For It.

    My husband and I weren't looking for a new home, but somehow we ended up looking at a model home and I fell in love!!  Jokingly I said that the house was big enough for his mother to live with us and that she could have her own bedroom, living room and dining room - that's...
    renny76 renny76 31-35 4 Responses Jul 2, 2009

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    The lady does nothing

    but lay on her couch( bed) and watches tv bums cigarettes and snores lately I've been very distant from my family in order to keep from irritating myself from her presence truth is I miss my family I feel like I can't compete and at times consider divorce what do I do
    Whodidimarry Whodidimarry 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 20

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    MIL Moved In 8 Months Ago

    Ok, like most of you my spouse made a crazy decision to have her mother move in with us. I guess on some level I understand however but 3 weeks turn into 3 months and now here we are. The real problem is she has brothers and sister who will not do anything, I just don't get. So...
    Chukka123 Chukka123 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 6, 2013

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    My MIL is a tetraplegic.

    She was in a car accident and she damaged her c-6 and c-7 vertebrae. She is now wheel chair bound. I know starting a story about how I am unhappy living with my disabled MIL probably makes me sound heartless, but there’s more to it than that. It’s not herself living with...
    Natesbabydoll Natesbabydoll 26-30, F Jul 3

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    Mother In Law Will Never Leave.. My Reality Sucks

    My husband and I have been together since I was 16, I am now 32. We have a 14 year old son and now a new baby on the way. 11 years ago my husband was in a car accident and was down for over a year. I asked my mother in law to come stay with us for a short while and help take...
    poolerisk poolerisk 31-35 7 Responses Sep 5, 2011

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    Financially Dependent Future MIL. Stay Or Go?

    Okay so my story is a little different as we aren't married yet. I'm just really worried about what I may be getting myself into. To preface, I recently got my B.S. and am currently working as a DSP (Direct Support Professional) for individuals with developmental disabilities...
    rachmarie927 rachmarie927 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 12, 2013

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    Selfish People

    My husband and I have been married for 7 years. I have 2 children from a previous marriage and my husband and I have one son together. Before we were even married my mother in law had surgery on her knee and ended up staying with us and has never left. Now we have my husband...
    misymam misymam 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 16, 2012

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    Live-In Mother In Law Like An Out-Of-Control Teenage Daughter

    First off I must say this group is great knowing there are more people out there with similar problems! Thanks for sharing your stories with all of us, I'm glad to have found this site! My mother-in-law has been living with us for 4 years now and both me and my wife are looking...
    deez333 deez333 31-35 3 Responses Sep 25, 2013

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    Living With A Martyr Victim Complex Person

    My husband and I are both in the military and we have three girls (16, 8, 6). I recently went through a bout with breast cancer and was transferred to a military unit that allows me to heal with the option of working everyday. My mother in law (MIL) who has lived with my family...
    rockysg rockysg 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 8, 2013

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    Going On 21 Years.

    My MIL moved in 20 years ago. We have always gotten along, but her presence creates tension in my marriage. I often feel like the odd man out, and have accused my wife of caring more for her mother than me. I suggested assisted living a few years ago and ended up with a spouse...
    Jan 10, 2013

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    By the way, if anyone out there actually does

    succeed in getting their mil out please share. I will pay you.:))
    getoutofmyspace getoutofmyspace 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 28

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    My mother-in-law has lived with us

    for awhile. I have two kids from previous relationship, but three months ago I gave birth to a handsome little boy and her first grandchild. Now she won't let me do anything. It's driving crazy. I do a load of laundry and after I fold it she does and gets it and rewashes it...
    goincrazy83 goincrazy83 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 25

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