I Am Unhappy With My Mother In Law Living With Us

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    My MIL is a tetraplegic.

    She was in a car accident and she damaged her c-6 and c-7 vertebrae. She is now wheel chair bound. I know starting a story about how I am unhappy living with my disabled MIL probably makes me sound heartless, but there’s more to it than that. It’s not herself living with...
    Natesbabydoll Natesbabydoll
    26-30, F
    Jul 3, 2014

    Well my wife is stressed with dealing with her

    mother, she keeps telling her about doctor's appointments that need to be made and just be the typical mom, but with the added stress of things work our skin and my recent surgery it is getting to her more and more. This id's causing stress between her and I which we really don...
    Fotoman Fotoman
    46-50, M
    May 14, 2015

    finished my dinner, then mil did.

    I was still sitting at the table looking at a few things on my phone she gets up takes her stuff away from the table and doesn't Take mine our offer to, of I would have done that I would have gotten at dirty look, and/or a comment from my wife later on.
    Fotoman Fotoman
    46-50, M
    1 Response May 26, 2015

    On The Verge Of Divorce, 31 Mil 54.

    Ok so my story may be a little differnet because my mother in law is not elderly.  She is 54.  She just has no money and has been living with my husband and I for almost 4 years and we have only been married for 5.  She does not contribute to the house hold and...
    everjen everjen
    31-35
    5 Responses Jun 25, 2010

    It's going on 8 years

    and I still can't get rid of her! I have stayed, nothing has changed since I posted on here a couple of years ago. I'm lost and losing my mind. Husband can't ask her to leave so I am either stuck or my marriage is over. Now, she is purposely staying at home while I'm here and...
    macy2 macy2
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Jan 8

    Out Of Control.

    I'm going crazy. I flipped out on my husband and I'm hoping we work it out when he gets home... She packed up her stuff from the house she shared with her husband, in February. She just took two carloads and went to a friends house while he was at work. Suddenly she has an...
    chellemdiaz chellemdiaz
    22-25
    1 Response Aug 8, 2012

    My MIL moved in with us 6 months ago.

    Before this my wife told me she would help with things around the house, well the only thing she has done is help my son unload the dish washer a couple times and that has been it. One morning I was making eggs and as I was she was starting over my shoulder at the eggs, I...
    Fotoman Fotoman
    46-50, M
    Jan 27, 2015

    Living With A Divorced Financially Dependent Mil...and Its Hurting My Marriage

    Hello Everyone, I am happy to have found this forum and relate with those in similar situations, so here is my story: my husband's mother suffered through 2 divorces, never worked a day in her life, is extremely dependent (cannot even drive) and is unfortunately living with us...
    Vent1218 Vent1218
    26-30, F
    7 Responses Jul 25, 2012

    So my fiancé and I are preparing to move to a

    new place to take care of my mother in law to be, someone who I know is going to put a damper in our relationship and I really don't want to move or understand why she cannot get an apartment. The reason we are doing this is because she is losing her house which is awful, but...
    Kdp24 Kdp24
    22-25, M
    1 Response Dec 17, 2015

    This is a little long

    but I really need to vent. I live with my husband and our 8 month old baby in a small 3 bedroom home. 3 months ago my mother in law moved in. It was very sudden and unexpected. She had quit her job and needed a place to stay. We had no time to think or set any boundaries or...
    luaberry luaberry
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 22, 2014

    Depressed about being 29 years old

    and now having my MIL live with us the rest of her life. My FIL passed away from leukemia in 2012 and he was her sole income. Now she had to sell her home and gets 1200 in SS but that pays just her car payment,insurance, and life insurance. My husband (her son) is in military...
    Hannahemma2014 Hannahemma2014
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jan 19, 2014

    My mother-in-law has lived with us

    for awhile. I have two kids from previous relationship, but three months ago I gave birth to a handsome little boy and her first grandchild. Now she won't let me do anything. It's driving crazy. I do a load of laundry and after I fold it she does and gets it and rewashes it...
    goincrazy83 goincrazy83
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 25, 2014

    I came across this post,

    funny right at the time I have to make this decision. My choice is to move to a town 5 hours from my city life, leave a good job to move into a house with the boyfriend and his sick mother? I love him but should I give this all up for Love? Will I just become the house wife who...
    Jackson0422 Jackson0422
    36-40, F
    5 Responses May 6, 2015

    By the way, if anyone out there actually does

    succeed in getting their mil out please share. I will pay you.:))
    getoutofmyspace getoutofmyspace
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jan 28, 2014

    MIL is not my mother!

    she has a daughter she can take care of her.
    Yvette1963 Yvette1963
    51-55, F
    1 Response Oct 2, 2015

    Let me premise this with: I am 29,

    my husband 31, and we've been married 8 years. No kids. My mother-in-law and I had a GREAT relationship when I was younger, she was always the "cool mom" who I'd go talk to about why my mom was such a stickler. A few years ago, she started making what I'd call "questionable...
    Karebearkid Karebearkid
    31-35, F
    Feb 26, 2014

    My MIL moved in over 2 months ago with myself,

    my husband and our 6 month old baby. She had quit her job and called us saying she needed a place to stay. We had no time to think or talk about it so we said it was ok. No ground rules were set in place as in my mind I thought it would only last a couple weeks. Anyway, she...
    luaberry luaberry
    26-30, F
    2 Responses May 7, 2014

    One day my husband took his mom to a doctor's

    appointment. When he took her back home, to his sister's house where she had been living for six months, most of her belongings were packed in trash bags on the lawn. With no notice, my mother-in-law moved in. Here's a little background to help you understand how this made me...
    Lumps1love Lumps1love
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Mar 24, 2014

    Financially Dependent Future MIL. Stay Or Go?

    Okay so my story is a little different as we aren't married yet. I'm just really worried about what I may be getting myself into. To preface, I recently got my B.S. and am currently working as a DSP (Direct Support Professional) for individuals with developmental disabilities...
    rachmarie927 rachmarie927
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 12, 2013

    A few months ago my and my partner decided to

    settle down and get our own house. About 2 weeks before we moved in my partner mentioned how his mother who was living in another country was getting very lonely and was having some issues with her ex (his father) Reluctantly I agreed that she could come and stay with us for a...
    Sonbou Sonbou
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 28, 2015

    My Mil Has Yours Beat......

    MIL lived with us for 9 long months. I literally thought I was having a nervous breakdown. Initially my hubby told me she would help cook and clean(60yr old, no ailments, no job)she did not. She was demanding and disrespectful, rude, and judegmental when hubby wasn't home, an...
    kshousewife kshousewife
    41-45
    3 Responses Apr 24, 2012

    Haven't Even Been A Month!!!

    Hello alright to start of me and my fiancée have 2 children a 19 month old and a 7 month old. We just recently moved into out first apartment like 2 and a half weeks ago... Like 2 days ago my fiancées mom asked him if it was ok if she moved in with us because she hasn't been...
    Neka145 Neka145
    22-25, F
    1 Response Oct 12, 2013

    Killing Me With Kindness

    So sorry guys.  I'm in a similar boat.  My MIL has been living with us since the beginning 5 years ago.  I knew that she would be living with us b/c of her health and finances (OCD/bipolar/severe crohns/multiple other ailments) but I was hoping and expecting that she would...
    ykittys ykittys
    31-35
    3 Responses Apr 4, 2012

    I've Have Come To Understand The ONLY Way This Is Going To Work Is...

    It's been about 3 months since my MIL moved in with us. Us being myself, fiancé, son, and my mom. We've been living together now for several years and, while we did have some growing pains, we've been getting along very well. In comes MIL. She's an independent Mexican woman who...
    Oodalalee Oodalalee
    31-35, F
    Nov 9, 2013

    I really need advice from someone outside of my

    family. My MIL moved in almost five years ago. Her father left his home to her when he passed away. She lived there with her other son for almost a year and could not financially maintain the home, even though the mortgage was paid. So the plan was to have her move in with us...
    TheLimit TheLimit
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jan 5

    My mother in law and father in law live with us.

    She has early onset dementia at 68. She has lived with us for 6 months and is convinced that I am her lover or husband and continually pesters me for sex and to sleep with her. My wife and father in law think it hilarious and make jokes about it - " go on just give it to her...
    andyp3136 andyp3136
    51-55
    4 Responses Jul 6, 2015

    My inlaws showed up without any notice two

    years ago. He had advanced dementia. He died in August. She hated him, and was nothing but mean and cold when he was alive. Of course now that he is gone he was the love of her life, and she moans on and on about her resentments about him and her life. She is 85, blind and...
    camaryllis camaryllis
    61-65, F
    1 Response Sep 10, 2015

    I am soo happy to finally have a place to vent.

    I am 7 months pregnant and my husband and I have been married for 3 months but together for 6 years. We have lived together for the past 3 years and I have been really happy he is my best friend. Last month his mother decided to quit her job and come live with us within a one...
    Jesstayl Jesstayl
    22-25, F
    Feb 25

    Mother In Law Will Never Leave.. My Reality Sucks

    My husband and I have been together since I was 16, I am now 32. We have a 14 year old son and now a new baby on the way. 11 years ago my husband was in a car accident and was down for over a year. I asked my mother in law to come stay with us for a short while and help take...
    poolerisk poolerisk
    31-35
    7 Responses Sep 5, 2011

    Lets see it started about five years ago I

    lived with a cousin and my wife- daughter and mother in law stayed at her grandmothers. Me and my wife aren't married at that time but were getting closer wanting to create our family we find an appt of our own and the mother in law comes along I'm cool with it (silly me...
    Whodidimarry Whodidimarry
    26-30, M
    Mar 19, 2014

    Live-In Mother In Law Like An Out-Of-Control Teenage Daughter

    First off I must say this group is great knowing there are more people out there with similar problems! Thanks for sharing your stories with all of us, I'm glad to have found this site! My mother-in-law has been living with us for 4 years now and both me and my wife are looking...
    deez333 deez333
    36-40
    3 Responses Sep 25, 2013

    Hi. I just can't take it anymore,

    and I feel horrible for not wanting to have my MIL in our home anymore. She became a widow in January, and has been living with us ever since. My Hubs and I have 2 boys, 4 and 6, and my MIL disagrees with everything we do with them. We are polar opposites. She is old fashioned...
    mafalu mafalu
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Nov 8, 2015

    The lady does nothing

    but lay on her couch( bed) and watches tv bums cigarettes and snores lately I've been very distant from my family in order to keep from irritating myself from her presence truth is I miss my family I feel like I can't compete and at times consider divorce what do I do
    Whodidimarry Whodidimarry
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Mar 20, 2014

    Since The Beginning

    My wife and I have been together since1998 we married in 09 and my wife joined the military my mil has been living with us since 09 thought I got away from her when we moved to Louisiana but she came down to "visit" in 10 and hasn't left she's not disabled or even older she still...
    Pittman01 Pittman01
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Jan 21, 2013

    my husbands mother has been living with us

    for two years,. she up and decided to move in with no warning or woman to woman conversation with me . while i was in the hospitol giving birth to my son. she didnt take into consideration i had already had my post pardom plans,. my parents had already taken fmla to come stay...
    Msbonnie Msbonnie
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Feb 1, 2014

    Am I The Only Man In These Shoes?

    My MIL lives with us because she has lived with my wife for 10 years, the problem is she is as healthy as can be, has a job, and drives around no problem. The woman is pretty kind accept she gets into all our business including small things like "where and why are we going to...
    briwils briwils
    36-40
    5 Responses Apr 5, 2012

    Mother-In-Law Culture Clash

    My MIL has lived with us for 6 years now. Life has been miserable the entire time. My husband and I have nearly gotten divorced three times during these years. He knows my feelings, but refuses to just kick his mom out with no where for her to go. She is Eastern European and the...
    5 Responses Jan 30, 2013

    Almost Packed Up And Left!!

    My MIL issues have been so hard to deal with. My husband has recently fallen on hard times and I am the only one working. We have two kids 8 and 1. His mother has been living with us since shortly after we bought the house 4 years ago. We used to be great friends, I would confide...
    Macgirl2009 Macgirl2009
    31-35, F
    Feb 24, 2013

    Ok, so I come from an Arabic culture

    but I am American and I am American born. My husband is an amazing man and it was a wonderfully romantic story how we became together. HOWEVER, he got orders to deploy to Afghanistan. Well, his mom was staying in an apartment and his idea was that she move in with us...
    frustratedwomantn frustratedwomantn
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 21, 2014

    Unhappy Living With My Mother-in-law

    My husband and i recently bought a home, 2 yrs now n decided before we moved in that his mother could of lived in the basement till we got our feet off the ground with the mortgage, from the time she moved in she became a different individual to me, she rules n tries to control...
    deathbecomesme deathbecomesme
    31-35
    2 Responses Jun 24, 2009

    Backstory: I am 20 years old.

    I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now and we've been living together for a little under a year. My boyfriends parents were no longer together and so we were living in their house with the mom, little sister, older brother, boyfriend, and myself. The mom doesn't have a...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Feb 26

    Had a baby and my mother in law constantly says

    how the baby only looks like her side and he's going to have her curly hair. My son is now 8 months old and he ended up getting my wavy hair and some of my features and then she said it got her husbands hair but his hair is curly too just cuts it a lot. She then said the baby...
    LovelyT10 LovelyT10
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jun 21, 2014

    I know there is no solution

    for what I am going through now. We are from Indian culture and MIL lives with us. To be honest, I try my level best to treat her well respecting the fact that she is the one who brought my hubby into this world. Despite all my efforts, she always finds fault in whatever I do...
    cinak cinak
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jul 15, 2015

    About To Leave Because Of MIL

    Hi all, Wow, the relief you feel when you find this site. I feel so isolated because you cannot say what you really think. My story....would love opinions please...I am divorced, I then met the man I thought was my world. THEN a couple of years into our relationship...he...
    Green2013 Green2013
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Feb 7, 2013
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