I Am Unsure About My Sexuality

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    I think I'm "demisexual"

    Defined as feeling absolutely no sexual attraction to a person prior to knowing them. That's how I feel most of the time. The only exception seems to be when someone has a characteristic that reminds me of a person that I already knew. Like really defined shoulders. Other than...
    Mdear Mdear
    18-21, F
    2 Responses May 10, 2013

    If anyone can help pm me.

    I am romantically attracted to men but I'm not physically attracted to men. The idea of having sex and kissing men appeals to me emotionally because I want to bond with them. Outside of a fantasy setting the idea repulses me at worst and at best Ijust find it odd. My attraction...
    KelseyLeigh123 KelseyLeigh123
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Mar 7, 2015

    I am still really unsure about my sexuality,

    thought about what itd be like to be with a guy or just to do things with one. I've had actually 2 experiences since all this started but even after 2 times I'm always so nervous, scared, and feeling like it really weird to want to do that. But I may be meeting up with someone...
    WackedWasp WackedWasp
    18-21, M
    1 Response Jul 11, 2015

    Confused....

    ok so ive always though i was straight and most of the time i think i am....i mean whenever i think about being married or in a serious relationship i always think about guys but (im into acting) and a lot of times i think about being with girls in a play or doing more...intimate...
    dancergirl101 dancergirl101
    18-21, F
    Feb 8, 2012

    I am a female and I seek a relationship with a

    guy but I'm head over heels for one of my friends that happens to be a girl! We have kissed and made out and done things that's friends wouldn't do. But yet we don't call ourselves anything but friends. I've only been attracted to 3 girls my whole life but the one I like right...
    Aboswell Aboswell
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jan 3, 2014

    I'm at my best female friends house

    and I can't stop thinking of the things that happened a while back and the things that I wish would happen with her. And I'm texting a male interest at the same time. I'm so confused about everything and I wish I could just be okay with myself which ever way makes me happy.
    Forevertired23 Forevertired23
    22-25, F
    7 Responses Apr 28, 2015

    I've never really given much thought to my

    sexuality. I don't think I'm ready for any kind of intimacy yet, not so soon. I think I have to get through all of this first, then turn my thoughts to my preferences after. I'm really not bothered by who I like at the moment, to be honest.
    betruetoyourself14 betruetoyourself14
    16-17, F
    13 Responses Feb 1, 2015

    I think that I'm bi because I do like the way

    girl'a bodies look. But only certain girls turn me on. I don't know if it's just because I have a very specific type or if I'm not sure that I'm bi. Now I don't need you people telling me that I'm asking for attention because I'm not. I'm just not sure if I'm really bi or not.
    meganayyye21 meganayyye21
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Apr 15, 2014

    There are times that I feel very bisexual

    and then there are times that I feel my desires are more toward men than women and it makes me wonder deep down if I might be gay.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 22, 2015

    Loyalty Vs Secrecy ?

    So i'm a normal 19 year old guy with a girlfriend (20), we've only been a couple for a few months now and so far we are really happy together. the thing is, when we get intimate, i struggle to get aroused!? we kiss and touch but i usually just get a semi. when i pleasure her...
    Earlythrob Earlythrob
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Jul 9, 2013

    Yes, I have almost no idea what to call my

    sexuality (bisexual, pansexual, etc.). No, I do not find this a bad thing. Yes, I am confused. But I think I am quite okay with that. I do carry the traits of a demisexual, but it feels as though it goes a little farther than that. Perhaps I could be pansexual, but I am...
    AngelofForgottenLore AngelofForgottenLore
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 24, 2015

    Confused!?!?

    I am 14. I think I am bi, but when i think about it I can't stand that it even crosses my mind to have gay sex. I mean, I'm against gay marriage, and like i said i cant stand being gay. But at other times, it feels so right. There is a kid i know and he is my bestfriend, and...
    surf22658 surf22658
    13-15
    1 Response Aug 10, 2012

    I have no idea what I am now,

    growing up through life identifying as straight, had three girls I like, two of them was a "meant to be" relationship, more like a friendship tbh, cause I just couldn't go further than that, and I was a bit upset when the relationship ended, but that was me just a bit upset at...
    all2livefor all2livefor
    22-25, T
    1 Response Jul 10, 2014

    Or Maybe I Have No Clue

    I didn't realise how much I was attracted to woman until recently. It was when I developed major feelings for one of my friends. Now I can't get her out of my mind. It's driving me crazy to be near her and know that I can't touch her. But enough of this crazy passion I feel...
    fadingvioletdawn fadingvioletdawn
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Jun 23, 2011

    I think I might be bi curious,

    Not sure on how to explore and fully discover that just yet. For years I've had crushes on guys, have found men attractive but recently have found that some of those same emotions have been focused on a particular girl. In the past I've sort of pondered on the idea of going out...
    Mafrici Mafrici
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Apr 29, 2015

    Well recently because I realize I'm not

    attracted to men. I find more than 99.9 percent of men unattractive even celebrities. I have to remind myself not to stare at women and even when I 'love' a man it is always strictly emotional or intellectual never physical. I keep postponing dating and making up excuses, like...
    honestlyanonymouslyme honestlyanonymouslyme
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 27, 2015

    This is a story about me,

    and my current situation. I met a guy online who I started to get on with really well, and we met up and made love and it was lovely...we kind of didn't talk too much for a couple of weeks afterwards, as the feelings of guilt of us enjoying each other so much and that we are...
    flyone flyone
    41-45, M
    1 Response Mar 23

    i think i might be bisexual.

    while i find girls sexy and feel attraction, i also feel competitive in from of women and i dont think i could ever be romantically involved with a woman for this reason.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Nov 8, 2015

    It wasn't until I was twelve years old in the

    7th grade that I started noticing girls. I guess that meant I was straight. There were several girls I completely fell for even though we weren't even actually close. At all. It was just your typical school crush. In my mind, they were completely cute and adorable and I wanted...
    TheDarkestZero TheDarkestZero
    18-21, M
    1 Response Oct 25, 2015

    Am I aromantic or asexual?

    I just....I don't have any interest in dating or romantic stuff. I mean, I love my family and my friends, but...nothing more than that really. And I fantasize about sexual things and it excites me, yeah, but I got no interest in experiencing them.
    AjiaT AjiaT
    16-17, F
    1 Response Sep 8, 2015

    Can Just One Person Change Your Sexuality?

    I really don't know what to make of it; i've never fallen in love with a girl before, i have never felt this strongly for a girl before, yet all i do is think about her and just wish she was with me ( i recently moved away). She's no help when talking to about the matter because...
    shezzypants shezzypants
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Jun 3, 2010

    Its like I'm confused

    but I'm also confused about being confused. Its so difficult when you don't know what u are or what your not. When u cant tell anyone you are doubting because you feel like they wont understand. This overthinking is killing me. Ive liked girls before and not guys. Then i started...
    lesley2456 lesley2456
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Apr 16, 2015

    I've always been. I'm attracted to men (I'm a

    woman) but I feel way more emotionally attracted to women. I don't think sexually about women but I think that might be because of society? I've been in love with a woman in the past but we never acted on it. I don't know, it's so hard to know, but if I'm not a lesbian I don't...
    Fiftypercent Fiftypercent
    18-21
    1 Response Jan 1

    I'm thinking I might be panesexual,

    though there's never been a girl I've had a crush on. I have imagined a couple of girls that I'm interested in, but does my imaginations sexuality count for mine to? I would definetly be panesexual over bisexual, as I really never care about anything but personality.
    Bracelets Bracelets
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jul 1, 2014

    I've Never Really Felt attracted to guys,

    I'm mean I've had boyfriends before and I've had Girlfriends.I always find myself looking at girls Boobs though.But Guys Like Jeffree Star,Andy Biersack and Ashley Purdy I Find Good Looking.My Friends Tell Me I'm Asexual But I'm Still Unsure.
    Soulless666 Soulless666
    13-15, F
    3 Responses Sep 22, 2014

    I don't know, like when people ask the question,

    Do you see yourself getting married to a man or woman I say " I don't think ill ever get married but if I do I think a man" but then it's like some girls are attractive, not sexually( but then again I don't do sex ) I'm so confused...
    OmegaLove OmegaLove
    13-15, F
    1 Response Oct 3, 2015
    BabyCiria BabyCiria
    16-17, F
    1 Response Mar 27

    So frustrated- I used to love ****!

    Loved the look, and couldn't wait to loose my virginity then I realized I was bi, then I soon after realized I was a lesbian, a closet lesbian that is. I carried on flirting with guys so no one would expect anything. Then I met this one guy, my current boyfriend (so I guess I'm...
    Bingabang Bingabang
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 23, 2013

    I'm Confused...sometimes Proud, Sometimes Ashamed.

    So basically I never even thought about my sexuality growing up. I just had boyfriends. I made out with my best girl friend in highschool but I figured it was just for fun I guess. I never really thought about it. I knew she was bisexual but I was into guys and never thought...
    xlilblonde4lifex xlilblonde4lifex
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Jul 16, 2011

    Like, how do people figure out this?

    ?? My friends have it all figured out and some are genderqueer and say it was easy for them. >_< I don't know and it's frustrating because this one girl keep making assumptions and labeling me which gets me pissed off.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response May 11, 2015

    For a majority of my life my peers have always

    assumed I was gay. I was called gay before I really understood the meaning behind the word. I was the "gay kid/***" from elementary-the day I graduated. But I've only just recently considered the possibility that I, in fact, may be gay. Am I attracted to the male body? Yes...
    20Somethin 20Somethin
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jan 7, 2014

    I've dated a couple of boys

    but I've never dated a girl. I know I'm attracted to girls though too though. I'm confused:/
    JusttThatGirl JusttThatGirl
    18-21, F
    4 Responses May 31, 2014

    Crazy subject this one,

    as a kid I was...let´s say.... curious, kissed a few boys and two girls, I only stopped when I got sexually abused, then when I grew up I told myself that I´d avoid things like that, but sometimes I feel really attracted to guys, sometimes only girls, and sometimes both at the...
    Thelonery Thelonery
    16-17, M
    Oct 12, 2015

    i dont get it, i fall

    for girls. but i also love to have on their clothing...HELP ME
    LilLefty LilLefty
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jul 21, 2015

    I say I'm straight, but i always get these

    feelings for girls. Im currently in a relationship with a male. I had a drunken night with a friend way back she stayed over.. Ended up making out. Found it pretty attractive. Still do even when I'm sober. What do??
    Ohxoxo Ohxoxo
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Mar 19, 2014

    I am very confused about my sexuality.

    I always been attracted to guys ever since I can remember and I always thought that I would be straight my whole life. When I was young I never heard of being gay, bi or lesbians before and I never seen or known what it meant so I just grew up thinking and knowing that that's...
    Ki123 Ki123
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Jul 25, 2014

    Well, pretty much what the experience says.

    I just don't know sometimes... I think I might be bisexual but at the same time I have my doubts. I go back and forth between males and females. Females I have a sexual attraction and romantic attraction to. For guys, though, I have the romantic attraction but not the sexual...
    FleshEatingBacteria FleshEatingBacteria
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Jul 10, 2015

    I'm unsure what to call it.

    I'm attracted to women. To femininity in appearance and demeanor. However, it has nothing to do with what's between their legs. I could date a transgender person if they were feminine enough that they are passable until they tell or show someone. I am admittedly curious enough...
    OrganicMachina OrganicMachina
    31-35, M
    Feb 7

    idk but i sometimes think

    or feel like im bi :/
    HappyYevs HappyYevs
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 28, 2015

    I am 34 and still trying to work out

    if I am gay straight or bi. It's so complicated and wish I could find the answer
    lilboyuk lilboyuk
    31-35, M
    1 Response May 4, 2015

    I think I'm bi-curious.

    . Like I'm attracted to guys and I've only been with guys but I also find girls really attractive but I'm not sure if that would ever be an option so I've never really admitted it to anyone except my best guy friend. I don't really know if it would be better to try to explore...
    Imjustme73 Imjustme73
    18-21, F
    1 Response May 1, 2015

    Ok, I am a young teen girl

    that is confused with my sexuality. I know I shouldn't be stressed over such a silly thing because I'm only young, but I would rather find out if I'm gay, bi or straight to stop me stressing and get on with my life knowing who I am. Recently, I have been thinking about what it...
    bewildyoungandfree bewildyoungandfree
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Jul 1, 2014

    I've always been straight.

    At least, that's how I assumed myself to be until I grew feelings for this one particular girl that sat behind me. It all started with a joke. Where I'm from, being anything other than straight requires a high dose of secrecy. Nevertheless, I've always joked about being lesbian...
    MsPickleberry MsPickleberry
    16-17, F
    Nov 13, 2015

    So I love my boyfriend

    and sex is honestly amazing, and I've gotten to a point where I'm usually ok with being unsure about exactly what I am, but now sometimes when we have sex I find myself thinking about a girl, and my fantasies when I'm alone are usually of both him and a random girl. It's...
    serenabelle serenabelle
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 3, 2015

    I'm Confused To The Point Of Tears.

    I always knew there was something different about me, but being cyclothymic, I kind of assumed it was that. I'd always liked guys, and though I admired my girl friends, I never really knew what being gay was. The first time it really occurred to me,I was in seventh grade, 12. I...
    mysterygirl13 mysterygirl13
    18-21
    5 Responses Feb 23, 2012

    I am completely confused about my sexuality.

    I am like a mix of bisexual, asexual, and other stuff that I don't even completely understand. I have had trouble having relationships because my lack of attraction, but it's way more complicated than that. I'm seriously just lost right now. I just feel like no label 100% fits...
    Anonymousrebel Anonymousrebel
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 4, 2015

    I've always had crushes on guys.

    When I was little I never thought about girls, just boys. In middle school I started to notice girls bodies, but I dismissed it. In high school I continued to notice girls and dated a few guys. I had one boyfriend in the beginning of senior year who I thought I was falling in...
    serenabelle serenabelle
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 24, 2015

    I usually like guys (including trans guys),

    but I also can like genderfluid/androgynous girls. Sometimes, very rarely, I'll be awestruck by a girl who is feminine. I don't know what this makes me...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Sep 13, 2015

    I guess I am heading towards a lack of one

    actually, I fear women and men when it comes to contact
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Nov 27, 2015

    I'm confused about my sexuality.

    I don't know what to do. I believe that love is love. That love will never die as long as you love that person. I want to experience more but I'm scared to . I don't know what to do and I don't know what to think. I'm really confused
    lilibeth415 lilibeth415
    18-21, F
    Aug 5, 2015

    I'm Just Going To Say

    That I like girls.I'm attracted to women.They just draw my attention, more than they ever have before.Maybe it's because my curiosity changed from that to developing a personal interest in a girl, but still.What is confusing me is that now that all of this has come to the clear,I...
    WiltingBlossom WiltingBlossom
    18-21, F
    13 Responses Jun 23, 2011
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