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I Am Very Insecure and An Extreme Introvert

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 148 People

    Is There Such A Thing As An Introvert-in-denial?

    I just had a talk with someone who to me, seems to be an introvert. She does not like to be seen by people. She does not talk much. Above all, she makes me get things from the common area. I told her in passing that she may have a fear of people. She told me she does not. I've...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 1 Response Apr 5, 2012

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    Extreme Introvert

    I have been conducting surveys for roughly 17 years. The reason I chose this job is because I am an extreme introvert and I am very uncomfortable being around other people, especially  people who ask personal questions.  The challenge that I am experiencing is that if...
    icanhavewhateveriwant icanhavewhateveriwant 41-45 1 Response May 1, 2009

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    Very, Very Insecure.

    I don't know why anyone would like me, or would want my friendship, or anything more. The fact is I'm a hidden mess. I'm mostly scared of loss, of rejection, of failure.I thinkĀ I'd be ecstatic to date someone who was hopelessly socially inept, just because I wouldn't have to...
    Rennn Rennn 18-21, M 10 Responses Jun 11, 2011

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    Resisting Looking At The Ground

    I walked to school without looking at the ground today. I willed myself to look at people eye-level. Every time someone approached, I hold my breath. And then we pass each other and it was done. Sometimes, I winced. Sometimes, I just pretended like I was just walking on EP-land...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 Mar 27, 2012

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    Extreme Introvert Parent With A Child

    I have a child and she is growing up very fast. So far, all social obligations to the school were undertaken by another family member so I practically was not seen.I am afraid though. There will be countless times when I will have to show my child "the ropes" in the society...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 2 Responses Apr 5, 2012

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    I literally HATE walking down the road by

    myself. I feel like everyone is looking & laughing at me because of how I'm dressed or because I'm ugly. I hate the way I look & I wish I could change everything about myself. Every time I'm in a new situation where I meet new people, I say to myself, right you are going to...
    IntrovertedHuman IntrovertedHuman 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 25

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    The Right Word...

    I think the right name for this group would maybe be, people with social anxiety or avoidant personality disorder.
    Gemma8 Gemma8 18-21, F Feb 2, 2013

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    My Dad Is In Prison For Life And I Don't Know What To Do?

    Hi my name is Renee Peralta i am 13 yrs old. I barely found out my dad was in prison a year ago and he has been in there since i was 2. All those years i had no idea where he was. I used to think he was the greatest guy in the world but when i found out he was in prison i...
    Rene99 Rene99 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 21, 2012

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    Why I Can't Go And Watch My Child Perform

    I'm very sad.My daughter is going to perform in a play. Her school is doing the Wizard of Oz. She's been practicing and practicing and told me she wants me to see her perform. I saw her wake up almost six o'clock in the morning when their play is in the afternoon. She was singing...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 1 Response Dec 17, 2012

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    Introvertion

    Withdrawn was much my motto and state of being. i read an enormous number of books I came out of my shell in books.I thought girls liked silent brooding men. Apologies to max von Sydow. When I attended univsersity we seemed like new adults. No longer being babied. You're...
    carumca carumca 61-65 Jul 30, 2012

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    Jaleousy Hurts

    Hey everyone, I don't know if it will help but I'd like to share a story. I had a pretty rough childhood (divorced parents, lots of moving, bullied, used etc.) I had a very close friend and he meant the world to me. He was like the big brother I never had. (I'm an only child...
    MetalRubyz MetalRubyz 18-21, F Jun 9, 2013

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    A Mouse In a Lions Body

    I too have never been able to come out. I'm extremely passionate , adventurous and out going. That part of me doesn't come out until I get really comfortable with someone and that takes a while even then there's some walls I won't let down. And I can also relate to people...
    aeee aeee 21-25, M Jan 14, 2008

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    So Very, Very Introverted

    Sometimes the pressure of keeping it all inside, locked brings me to tears. Hard core sobbing ensures till I can get it out. I clean up and put on my game face, always emotionless and start the cycle again... It's not that I'm shy, per se, just that I'm usually on a very...
    SilverCookies SilverCookies 16-17, F Oct 16, 2012

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    Do I look like a horse?

    Some people say that.
    karinabrown2 karinabrown2 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 28

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    I Am An Extreme Introvert, But I Am Not Insecure.

     I am okay with being extremely introverted.  My partner is extremely introverted, all my kids are introverts.  To me, this is just normal.  My entire family tends to think that extroverts are rather annoying on their best days. For the guy that wants to...
    nightowlinak nightowlinak 41-45, F 5 Responses May 2, 2009

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    Do I look like a horse?

    Or have a horse mouth?
    karinabrown2 karinabrown2 13-15, F 10 Responses Aug 25

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    So Insecure It Hurts

    I am probably the most insecure girl on the planet. I have zero self-esteem from years of mental, emotional and physical abuse. I have generalized anxiety disorder, depression and PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) which has left me with an uphill battle not to become a fat...
    BlueSelkie BlueSelkie 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 7, 2013

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    Am I a Weirdo, or the people surround are weirdos. Which is which?

    Hi. I am glad I stumbled upon this website. I am an introvert; I prefer to spend my time alone rather than going out with my friends watching movie or having a pint of beer. Trust me, my story is just pain in the *** to deal with. Sometimes, I couldn't even understand myself. Why...
    Fazlie Fazlie 18-21, M 2 Responses Dec 11, 2012

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    Passionate On the Inside Though

    It just won't come out--or at least not until I feel comfortable.  Unfortunately, this process takes a while and some people get disappointed waiting.  I can't help it, that's me.  I am working on that, but it's slow going.  Maybe by the time I'm on my death...
    trixi trixi 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 10, 2008

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    Am a university student and am extremely introverted. I have like zero friends and am not close with any of my family members, most of them just think am weird or sort of proud...
    ranjian0 ranjian0 18-21, M 4 Responses Sep 20

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    I am an extreme introvert and I am always in a cycle of moods, from high spirits to suicidal depression. Recently the mood swings have been happening so rapidly and consistently...
    ranjian0 ranjian0 18-21, M Oct 10

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    Here's a question to all the introverts. Practically all job offers list requirements such as "team player", "outgoing", "good interpersonal skills" and as an introvert I feel...
    Steppenwolff Steppenwolff 26-30, F 24 Responses Sep 25

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    People think I'm shy...I'm not and far from it. I keep to myself most of the time. I'm reserved and laid back. It takes a lot to open up to someone, not quick to call someone my...
    alishawill alishawill 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 3

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    Yes I Am! Being an introvert doesn't mean that I'm depressed, anti-social or lonely, in fact being an introvert allows me to express my creativity and do the things I love the...
    iAmARagdoll iAmARagdoll 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 9

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    http://laughingsquid.com/how-to-live-with-introverts/ I guess this graphic Guide to Introverts has been doing the rounds in social media, but if you haven't seen it, it's worth a...
    koalaguy koalaguy 46-50, M 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I found out about two years ago that I contracted HSV-1. I have no clue who I contracted it from and now I am trying to find a partner who also has the same type as me to spend my...
    naota1254 naota1254 22-25, M 1 day ago

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    I have always been an introvert, which was somewhat of a problem for me in school. I hated when teachers forced me to group up with others for projects. I was the quiet one who...
    ImaginaryAlchemist ImaginaryAlchemist 18-21, F 6 Responses Sep 23

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    So I just noticed that EP classifies "I Am An Introvert" into "Personality Disorders"... Time for all the Introverts to revolt, me thinks! Oh heck, who cares, can't be bothered etc...
    Faust76 Faust76 36-40, M 3 Responses Sep 24

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    I love the deep conversations that mean something; where I learn about someone or something. Who cares about the small talk? I leave that to the extroverts. If I don't say hello or...
    HavingFun2 HavingFun2 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 25

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    First off, I want to apologize for the length of this text. I'm a 23 year old mixed race, lesbian female who grew up in Singapore - which is known for being racially cliquish and...
    lucidxacid lucidxacid 22-25, F 8 Responses Sep 27

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    An interesting story with the best explanation of shy and introverted that I've ever heard. http://playfullytacky.com/2014/07/16/things-you-should-know-about-introverts/
    Cherbelle Cherbelle 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 28

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    I am comfortable being an introvert but most of the time my social anxiety and confidence issues define my being an introvert.
    migs1910 migs1910 26-30, M 2 Responses Oct 9

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    introvert [( in-truh-vurt)] a person whose motives and actions are directed inward; tend to be preoccupied with their own thoughts and feelings; minimize their contact with other...
    freakmagnet freakmagnet 36-40, F Oct 11

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    I just realized by reading books over the past year and doing research on the internet that I am an introvert. I always thought that I was shy but consider myself to be a quiet...
    wisdom26 wisdom26 46-50, F 8 Responses Oct 11

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    Because of past relationships and an eating disorder, I am very insecure, to the point where I feel like I am ruining my relationship with the love of my life. We have 13 year age...
    hopelesslove30 hopelesslove30 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 1

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    Not many people realize how insecure I really am. I've always been a bigger girl, mostly for the food I was raised around (I'm from the south so... A lot of soul food.), but my...
    autumdawnn autumdawnn 16-17, F Oct 8

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    I know most will say am doing this to get attention and to be honest am not.. Sadly I am very insecure . Even as a teenager I always felt ugly . As I get older the more insecure I...
    Verano93 Verano93 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 9

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    First of all I want to say I don't judge anyone on appearance except for myself, I don't like how I look. I saw something yesterday that made me feel more insecure, I mean, I know...
    lamaninja lamaninja 16-17, M Oct 1

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    People say I'm an introvert but I'm very outgoing and not afraid to sing in front of people or volunteer. I've had a rough life and I'm not popular so people may think this.
    Aepeth Aepeth 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 21

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    The opposite of small talk! This is such a great video. I love this idea. I have decided that when talking to people, especially random people, I will ask bigger questions instead...
    ghostofacheerfulowl ghostofacheerfulowl 36-40, F Sep 25

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    Why do people make fun of introverts? Just because we're "different"? I hear it everyday.. "I didn't know she can talk" "You need to talk more" "You're boring" "Yeah she's here...
    ravenzewolf ravenzewolf 13-15, F 8 Responses Oct 6

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    There are times where I just want to shut the world out, I just want to be alone and I honestly don't mind at all, I love my alone time. I retreat into my room, my sanctuary, my...
    dannah777 dannah777 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 8

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    Definitely by choice. There used to be a time in my life when it wasn't though. Now, however, i an actually a very social and open person but I find all the energy invested into...
    Offing Offing 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 8

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    I'm an introvert. So what? Leave me alone. ;)
    KatieTreat KatieTreat 51-55, T Oct 11

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    Even a child I was always quiet never said a word. Instead I would draw, play with my toys & enjoy my tv shows. Even in school I was always the kid that never got pick for any fun...
    DaCreativeChild DaCreativeChild 22-25, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Can somebody please explain to me what a "introvert" is? I never fully understood it.
    Bigbootyno2 Bigbootyno2 70+, T 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    About 9 months ago I discovered I was an Introvert. Not only that, but it turned out I've got a moderate case of social anxiety. Though it was good to know why I constantly feel...
    QuietViking QuietViking 18-21, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Often misunderstood and misjudged and it's fine with me. The thing about introverts, is once they feel comfortable with you, they can be the most caring, exciting, creative...
    liberty2 liberty2 46-50, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Introverts are sometimes labeled as anti-social and aloof. I was saddled with this as a young person. The truth was that I was shy and quiet. Nothing wrong with that. As I got...
    Gennee Gennee 61-65, T 1 Response