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I Am Very Insecure and An Extreme Introvert

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 149 People

    Jaleousy Hurts

    Hey everyone, I don't know if it will help but I'd like to share a story. I had a pretty rough childhood (divorced parents, lots of moving, bullied, used etc.) I had a very close friend and he meant the world to me. He was like the big brother I never had. (I'm an only child...
    MetalRubyz MetalRubyz 18-21, F Jun 9, 2013

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    So Very, Very Introverted

    Sometimes the pressure of keeping it all inside, locked brings me to tears. Hard core sobbing ensures till I can get it out. I clean up and put on my game face, always emotionless and start the cycle again... It's not that I'm shy, per se, just that I'm usually on a very...
    SilverCookies SilverCookies 16-17, F Oct 16, 2012

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    I literally HATE walking down the road by

    myself. I feel like everyone is looking & laughing at me because of how I'm dressed or because I'm ugly. I hate the way I look & I wish I could change everything about myself. Every time I'm in a new situation where I meet new people, I say to myself, right you are going to...
    IntrovertedHuman IntrovertedHuman 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 25

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    So Insecure It Hurts

    I am probably the most insecure girl on the planet. I have zero self-esteem from years of mental, emotional and physical abuse. I have generalized anxiety disorder, depression and PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) which has left me with an uphill battle not to become a fat...
    BlueSelkie BlueSelkie 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 7, 2013

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    Do I look like a horse?

    Some people say that.
    karinabrown2 karinabrown2 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 28

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    The Right Word...

    I think the right name for this group would maybe be, people with social anxiety or avoidant personality disorder.
    Gemma8 Gemma8 18-21, F Feb 2, 2013

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    Extreme Introvert

    I have been conducting surveys for roughly 17 years. The reason I chose this job is because I am an extreme introvert and I am very uncomfortable being around other people, especially  people who ask personal questions.  The challenge that I am experiencing is that if...
    icanhavewhateveriwant icanhavewhateveriwant 41-45 1 Response May 1, 2009

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    Why I Can't Go And Watch My Child Perform

    I'm very sad.My daughter is going to perform in a play. Her school is doing the Wizard of Oz. She's been practicing and practicing and told me she wants me to see her perform. I saw her wake up almost six o'clock in the morning when their play is in the afternoon. She was singing...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 1 Response Dec 17, 2012

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    I Am An Extreme Introvert, But I Am Not Insecure.

     I am okay with being extremely introverted.  My partner is extremely introverted, all my kids are introverts.  To me, this is just normal.  My entire family tends to think that extroverts are rather annoying on their best days. For the guy that wants to...
    nightowlinak nightowlinak 41-45, F 5 Responses May 2, 2009

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    A Mouse In a Lions Body

    I too have never been able to come out. I'm extremely passionate , adventurous and out going. That part of me doesn't come out until I get really comfortable with someone and that takes a while even then there's some walls I won't let down. And I can also relate to people...
    aeee aeee 21-25, M Jan 14, 2008

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    Introvertion

    Withdrawn was much my motto and state of being. i read an enormous number of books I came out of my shell in books.I thought girls liked silent brooding men. Apologies to max von Sydow. When I attended univsersity we seemed like new adults. No longer being babied. You're...
    carumca carumca 61-65 Jul 30, 2012

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    Extreme Introvert Parent With A Child

    I have a child and she is growing up very fast. So far, all social obligations to the school were undertaken by another family member so I practically was not seen.I am afraid though. There will be countless times when I will have to show my child "the ropes" in the society...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 2 Responses Apr 5, 2012

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    Is There Such A Thing As An Introvert-in-denial?

    I just had a talk with someone who to me, seems to be an introvert. She does not like to be seen by people. She does not talk much. Above all, she makes me get things from the common area. I told her in passing that she may have a fear of people. She told me she does not. I've...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 1 Response Apr 5, 2012

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    My Dad Is In Prison For Life And I Don't Know What To Do?

    Hi my name is Renee Peralta i am 13 yrs old. I barely found out my dad was in prison a year ago and he has been in there since i was 2. All those years i had no idea where he was. I used to think he was the greatest guy in the world but when i found out he was in prison i...
    Rene99 Rene99 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 21, 2012

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    Am I a Weirdo, or the people surround are weirdos. Which is which?

    Hi. I am glad I stumbled upon this website. I am an introvert; I prefer to spend my time alone rather than going out with my friends watching movie or having a pint of beer. Trust me, my story is just pain in the *** to deal with. Sometimes, I couldn't even understand myself. Why...
    Fazlie Fazlie 18-21, M 2 Responses Dec 11, 2012

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    Do I look like a horse?

    Or have a horse mouth?
    karinabrown2 karinabrown2 13-15, F 9 Responses Aug 25

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    Resisting Looking At The Ground

    I walked to school without looking at the ground today. I willed myself to look at people eye-level. Every time someone approached, I hold my breath. And then we pass each other and it was done. Sometimes, I winced. Sometimes, I just pretended like I was just walking on EP-land...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 Mar 27, 2012

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    Passionate On the Inside Though

    It just won't come out--or at least not until I feel comfortable.  Unfortunately, this process takes a while and some people get disappointed waiting.  I can't help it, that's me.  I am working on that, but it's slow going.  Maybe by the time I'm on my death...
    trixi trixi 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 10, 2008

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    Very, Very Insecure.

    I don't know why anyone would like me, or would want my friendship, or anything more. The fact is I'm a hidden mess. I'm mostly scared of loss, of rejection, of failure.I thinkĀ I'd be ecstatic to date someone who was hopelessly socially inept, just because I wouldn't have to...
    Rennn Rennn 18-21, M 10 Responses Jun 11, 2011

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    I didn't think being an introvert was a problem until I met my fiance. At first, he seemed to be an introvert, too. But in recent months, it's become apparent that he's actually...
    ediskrad ediskrad 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 13

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    Mostly do to my appearance Im very,very insecure.I have so many things that make me feel abnormal like a freak and it's all these things piled up together that make me feel hideous...
    seeminglypossible seeminglypossible 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 2

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    This isn't representative of my introversion (in fact I consider my introversion to be mostly positive). Rather, it's an example of the extreme sensitivity that can come with be...
    dynosophical dynosophical 26-30, M Oct 23

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    I sometimes think I have the worst qualities of both an introvert and an extrovert. I really can't relate to most other introverts because they have abilities that I don't have...
    atpeacewithme atpeacewithme 31-35 8 Responses 6 days ago

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    My manager recently got promoted so she moved to another department. We used to share offices and now that she's left I have my own office.. It's a nice big airy office.. So last...
    maktub1 maktub1 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 23

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    I've read The power of the introverts by Susan Cain. I'm shy and introverted and I learned how to be okay with that. Yup, I cancel plans to stay home; I rather be by myself than...
    Cvttes Cvttes 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 27

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    Antisocial people are haters of human kind,like terrorists and criminals and comparing introverts to antisocial is rude.Introverts are not inhuman.I am an extrovert though but I...
    genuineangel genuineangel 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 29

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    Look, talking is grate i enjoy hearing your thoughts and opinions on deeper subjects. I enjoy speaking with you as a person if your kind and respectful. But the problem comes in...
    Autumnflowers Autumnflowers 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Introvertness is my comfort zone . I hate being involved in conversations with people rarely know me .. I just feel uncomfortable in social situations .. being an introvert is not...
    mohameko1987 mohameko1987 26-30, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm very comfortable in my life. When it comes to myself and my family. I don't need outside friends. Me and my husband are inseparable. I do have to exist outside of my home...
    angie01993 angie01993 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    i swing between being introvert n want to meet people.[extrovert] Am always confused about myself about what i want to be at a particular point of time. Am very much interested in...
    chaitra1987 chaitra1987 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 12

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    I know this is a dilemma discussed here ad infinitum, but I'm trying my best, at nearly 35, to figure out how to have people really close to me in life, mostly in a romantic way. I...
    bewareofpity bewareofpity 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 14

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    Introverts introverts all day long soon your friends will all be gone... I'm bored
    JustMeWuuuut JustMeWuuuut 26-30, M 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I love people, but interaction just takes so much work! To go to a party at night, I have to spend the whole day alone to prepare for it. If I don't I feel like I don't have enough...
    JupitersMuse123 JupitersMuse123 22-25, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    For the longest it took me awhile to realize that I was insecure. I've been in 3 back to back bad relationships. Each of them were betrayal from guys I thought I could trust. 2...
    shemarose shemarose 22-25, F Nov 8

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    I'm very insecure about the way I look I don't have many friends but the ones I have some time only come to me when they are bored and I kind of understand why they have know each...
    KyraAnia KyraAnia 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 13

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    'Quiet' by Susan CainA Manifesto for Introverts1. There's a word for 'people who are in their heads much': thinkers.2. Solitude is a catalyst for innovation.3. The next generation...
    novembermountain novembermountain 41-45, F 5 Responses Oct 23

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    Introversion.... most misconstrue this as shy, anti social and sometimes a disorder when in fact it's not even close. It's more like an energy thing. You lose your energy the...
    CantankerousBabe CantankerousBabe 26-30, F 5 Responses Oct 26

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    People think they truly know me because I'm quiet but I listen & observe well. I am shy at times it takes time for me to warm up to people. A lot of people have misuse me...
    DaCreativeChild DaCreativeChild 22-25, F Oct 26

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    I used to label myself as shy because that's how society labeled me. I see now that I'm just happy being by myself at times. I used to think I was depressed because I didn't fit in...
    lavendershade lavendershade 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 26

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    Seems I've only gone out with extrovert girls. Time to find an introvert match. Advice/thoughts from experience?
    seabreezn seabreezn 41-45, M 1 Response Oct 27

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    I took a test that tested personality traits and I tested highly in introvertedness and extrovertedness - I understand it because spending time alone is something I don't get to do...
    kxCobra kxCobra 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 27

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    Although often misunderstood, I enjoy being an introvert (most of the time). I missed homecoming to stay home and watch the film 'her', if you haven't seen it, I highly reccomend...
    Samuelss17 Samuelss17 16-17 4 Responses Oct 27

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    I am definitely an introvert. I hate it sometimes because it makes social interaction so damn hard
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 3 Responses Oct 29

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    I told someone I was going abroad to introvertia for the weekend to get them to stop making plans and IT WORKED!!! Oh, people... Sometimes they're just too much.
    oaktheprof oaktheprof 16-17, M 1 Response Oct 30

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    I don't know how to start this letter because I'm not yet sure where I intend to post it and what I hope to gain from sharing it; I just know that I'm feeling something that...
    TheGreenPig TheGreenPig 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 3

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    I am equal parts introvert and extrovert I love being social and communicating with people on a ages and levels but other days I just want to shut myself in away from the world...
    Missatsf Missatsf 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 3

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    Writing is something you do alone. Its a profession for introverts who want to tell you a story but don't want to make eye contact while doing it." John Green
    jml2000 jml2000 56-60, M 4 Responses Nov 9

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