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I Am Very Lonely In My Marriage

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    Trapped - Hello there.  I have an eight year old son with mild asperger's syndrome and a husband that I now believe to be autistic because of my experiences with him over the...
    lonelywifeandmother lonelywifeandmother 41-45 3 Responses Jun 6, 2012

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    I'm to the point that I'm tired of even trying with him. I have thought about not getting him anything for Christmas. For the last several years I haven't received as much as a...
    january71 january71 46-50, F 4 Responses Dec 9, 2013

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    The Veil Has Lifted - After a very frank talk we came to the conclusion that neither of us is happy. Now what? When someone has cheated it's easy, throw their *** out and...
    Blackvelvetsex Blackvelvetsex 41-45, F 6 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    I'm miserable in my marriage. I'm always alone even when he's home. There is a void in our marriage and I don't even remember the last time I felt loved. We've been together since...
    lonelyinlove88 lonelyinlove88 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    Like Tonight - I am feeling lonely right now... and yet my wife is here in the house... it's the lack of a sex life with her (she is anti-sex) that is causing in me the feeling of...
    JRSK007 JRSK007 51-55, M 12 Responses Oct 10, 2009

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    My Husband Has Found Another Love,and It Is Not A Person. -  I am in my second marriage, and I thought this one would be different. The first one ended with an affair. During...
    lizzypo lizzypo 41-45, F 7 Responses Oct 8, 2010

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    Moved like never before. I am as clay; Though only moments before, I was the sculptor. And before that…the clay again. Seamlessly trading roles as easily as the wind...
    january71 january71 46-50, F 1 Response Dec 12, 2013

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    He Just Doesn't Understand - he think everything is all peaches and cream but it's not almost had a nervous breakdown this morning I clean the house for about 5 hours straight...
    lilone2626 lilone2626 26-30 2 Responses Oct 19, 2012

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    Something Different - Well, I am hopeful that the numbness has passed. I have a new energy now and I have come to several decisions. My wife has long treated my like a dog, to...
    northguy northguy 46-50, M 8 Responses Apr 14, 2010

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    Married For 23 Years And Very Few Good Memories Or Pictures To Share. Emotionally I Have Disconnected. - I have been married for a little over 23 years and to this date I am still...
    tarole96 tarole96 51-55, F 4 Responses Jul 5, 2010

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    Where Will It All End - How a life changed over a death. I lost my oldest son to suicide almost 7 years ago. That is where it all skyrocketed to where I am right now. I was...
    Tearsinhawaii Tearsinhawaii 51-55 Apr 22, 2012

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    Always The Last Priority - I just don't know where to start. 20 years of marriage and it is getting worse as time goes on. My wife would rather spend time with a total stranger...
    nowayintheworld nowayintheworld 36-40, M 3 Responses Jul 5, 2012

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    Where Can You Go From This - I have been married for 14 years and every time I try to talk about my feelings concerning our relationship it only ever makes things worse. Anything I...
    BaronJack67 BaronJack67 41-45 2 Responses Oct 8, 2012

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    I Have Gone Numb - I think I am losing my mind. I have been trying for 14 years to bring some type of intimacy to my marriage. Friendship, companionship, sex...one of the above...
    northguy northguy 46-50, M 35 Responses Apr 10, 2010

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    So Lonely In Marriage - Do Not Know Where Else To Turn - I have been feeling alot like many of the other post about lonely in a marriage. For the last three years I have been...
    SonyaO SonyaO 41-45, F 5 Responses Jul 29, 2010

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    Sometimes Feel Invisible - Reading through some of these stories, and much of it seems familiar. But I am the husband, very lonely, in this marriage. Feel at times invisible, or...
    dadto4 dadto4 36-40, M 4 Responses Jun 8, 2010

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    Golf Widow - I am in a second marriage (2 yrs) He plays golf most of the time so I am alone alot. When he's not playing golf he's working or with his adult kids next state over...
    Secondbestinlove Secondbestinlove 51-55 4 Responses Apr 24, 2013

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    Anyone Have Any Advise For Me - I'm a clean cut guy that has been married to his High School sweetheart for 25 years. In the past couple of year our relationship has changed. Seems...
    nicebamaguy nicebamaguy 41-45, M 3 Responses Feb 14, 2013

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    How Long Can I Keep This Up - how long can I keep this I've been married for a year and a half but we been together 9 years and have 4 kids together and to apart but it's like I...
    lilone2626 lilone2626 26-30 3 Responses Oct 19, 2012

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    Very Disheartened - I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 30 YEARS. MY WIFE HAS MULTIPLE HEALTH PROBLEMS THAT HAVE REALLY WRECKED OUR RELATIONSHIP. WE HAVE BEEN IN SEPARATE BEDS FOR 5...
    dehan dehan 46-50, M 3 Responses Feb 25, 2009

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    This Is What Brought Me Here. - And for now, this is where I dwell. I am not a basket case. I am hyper focused, over analytical problem solver. I cannot do anything but try to be...
    Bobahmdis Bobahmdis 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 25, 2013

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    Still Here For You Ya Selfish Bastiiiid!!!! - Once again I wait to feel your loving arms around me....what a disappointment , as usual. 2 years n 2months now that you make excuses...
    brokenragdoll brokenragdoll 51-55, F Apr 19, 2013

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    He does most of the talking, I just listen. When I do try to talk, I'm always wrong...
    MeriMiya MeriMiya 22-25, F Mar 16

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    Feeling Desperate &Amp; Alone In My Marriage - My Husband won't talk to me. If and when he does it's all about work (and basically just complaining about employees or customers...
    JillNeglected JillNeglected 31-35, F 6 Responses Apr 25, 2013

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    All The Same - 25 years of marriage, I can relate....
    knightnstlouis knightnstlouis 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 18, 2012

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    Very Lonely In My Marriage -  I have been married for 30 years. And in all our 30 years there has been many periods where I  have felt very lonely. But for the past 7...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 6 Responses Jun 24, 2010

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    Why Am I Married Still? - Well it is around 2 in the morning I go lay down on my husbands bed try to get under covers with him,just to cuddle and talk and he starts yelling and...
    lonelybutinlove07 lonelybutinlove07 36-40, F 4 Responses May 12, 2013

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    If I Knew Then What I Know Now - I am trying to get to know myself better. I have spent the last few months thinking and writing and reading my journal. I still have a lot to...
    DeeLisa DeeLisa 31-35 1 Response May 19, 2012

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    Lonely, Too - Been married 10 years and so lonely, it's a bummer. He was so crazy about me the year before we married, then he lost all interest and became depressed and shut-down...
    KimberlyAnne KimberlyAnne 36-40 2 Responses Oct 17, 2012

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    How Can This Happen? - I can cry and talk about my feelings yet he doesn't respond with love or attention. I feel so hated in my marriage and manipulated. I wish I never married...
    Ashley216 Ashley216 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 19, 2013

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    So Lonely....... - I have been married 6yrs and with my husband for 8 years and things have been bad since the beginning. I was warned not to marry him but I thought things would...
    lisa678 lisa678 31-35 4 Responses Aug 11, 2010

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    Feel So Lonely - I have been married for over 20 years and most of them has been miserable. My wife and I have nothing in common anymore. She has been out of work over a year, lays...
    sweetnshort sweetnshort 56-60, M 3 Responses Jun 8, 2010

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    Womanwith - I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 25 YEARS. I USED TO BE VERY UP BEAT WHEN I WAS WORKING, BUT MY HUSBAND AND I ARE RETIRED. HE IS A   MAN THAT PUTS HIS SELF FIRST AND IF HE...
    womanwith womanwith 56-60 3 Responses Mar 8, 2011

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    In Laws - I have a problem with my in laws, and my husband does not support me. He gets upset with me for telling him. Even after his sister and I almost came to blows, he...
    kidsx3 kidsx3 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 25, 2012

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    Psychology Today has a couple of recent articles regarding "Does Sexless marriage justify adultery". The articles are reasonable and informed and the comments worthwhile. They...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 7 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I'll be married for 10 years in November. We have been together 14 years. I am 35 and my husband is 40. We dated 4 years before we got married.We had sex very few times when I was...
    sweetwoman34 sweetwoman34 31-35, F 28 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I've been debating on posting or questioning anything about my marriage. I've been married for over 17 yrs and I can't say that we've had a bad marriage. My husband is wonderful...
    busymomof3 busymomof3 36-40, F 29 Responses Mar 24

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    I talked to my father in heaven about some of the problems I've been having many times recently. Chronic alcohol inebriation, lying, ***********, sneaking to bars at night...
    dave56901 dave56901 31-35, M 5 hrs ago

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    Make that, that I used to live in a marriage that was becoming a sexless marriage. Today would have been our second anniversary. The story is complicated, but to make it short, she...
    soundtrackforantarctica soundtrackforantarctica 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    I am tired of feeling so lonely. I just want someone to talk to about anything... The topic doesn't matter... Just knowing that someone is willing to talk would be great. i will be...
    priyachoudary priyachoudary 22-25, F 18 hrs ago

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    It was my day off today and I felt so lonely the whole time that I stayed in my room pretty much all day and only went down for dinner...I feel so emotional and sad all the time...
    pardz pardz 22-25, M 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    The rubble of our marriage I try not to look I try to change my focus to what else gives me happiness my children my friends my home my community I cannot help...
    Bobbie71 Bobbie71 41-45, F 16 Responses Mar 24

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    I tried again today to talk to my husband about our life. We are trying to move. I have looked for months now for the perfect house for us. Finally today I told him to remove...
    misticraine misticraine 56-60, F 4 Responses Mar 30

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    My dysfunctional childhood sometimes plays havoc on my peace of mind. I can partially blame staying in my marriage due to how I was raised, dragged through my Father’s four...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 34 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am new here. I haven't participated in online discussions in years so this is quite awkward but I like the anonymity an could really use an ear. I will be married for five years...
    gardinel gardinel 36-40, F 12 Responses Apr 10

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    This was a difficult weekend. My wife and I spent a long weekend visiting old friends of hers. Normally, this is the sort of weekend that I would skip out on, but the other married...
    MasterMatt77 MasterMatt77 36-40, M 22 Responses 4 days ago

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    I knew marriage wasn't going to be all roses and sunshine. I wouldn't want it to either. That would be really boring. But I sure hadn't expected it to be so lonely. My husband...
    skidmom skidmom 41-45, F 6 Responses Mar 27

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    My husband is a high flying corporate lawyer. He works long hours and spends a lot of time away from home. I too work in the corporate world and we made the decision early in our...
    Annelle70 Annelle70 41-45, F 17 Responses Mar 31

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    Better Single and Alone-- than Married and Lonely Okay, for those who think it is better to stay married with an un-affectionate and sexless spouse, here is why that is not...
    EinEngel EinEngel 46-50, F 15 Responses Mar 27

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    I am a marriage therapist. I am in individual counseling. I've tried couples counseling ( but he gets in a bad mood each time we go). I've read many books. Spoke to many friends...
    confusedmajorly confusedmajorly 36-40, F 11 Responses Mar 28

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    For anyone still on the fence bout getting out: I am much less lonely alone(as alone as you can be surrounded by a pack of dogs!) than I ever was while still living in my sexless...
    Solonely80 Solonely80 31-35, F 11 Responses