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I Am Very Lonely In My Marriage

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    Very Lonely In My Marriage

     I have been married for 30 years. And in all our 30 years there has been many periods where I  have felt very lonely. But for the past 7 years it goes way beyond  just being LONELY. It's all about being trapped in a loveless marriage that I learned years ago...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 6 Responses Jun 24, 2010

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    Sometimes Feel Invisible

    Reading through some of these stories, and much of it seems familiar. But I am the husband, very lonely, in this marriage. Feel at times invisible, or that the only reason I am here is to provide the income. For almost 15 years I've been constantly told I'm wrong, or do things...
    dadto4 dadto4 36-40, M 4 Responses Jun 8, 2010

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    Something Different

    Well, I am hopeful that the numbness has passed. I have a new energy now and I have come to several decisions. My wife has long treated my like a dog, to which she would just throw a bone to once in a while when she got tired of me jumping up and down. While we have been...
    northguy northguy 46-50, M 8 Responses Apr 14, 2010

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    An Interview With A Married Woman And Her Affair

    Cynthia’s Ride Life ain’t always beautiful, but it's a beautiful ride. - country singer Gary Allan, Life Ain’t Always Beautiful Most people don’t just flip a switch one day and decide to embark on an affair. They come to that decision only after a lot of deep...
    ryanbradley ryanbradley 46-50, M Feb 27, 2013

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    Moved like never before.

    I am as clay; Though only moments before, I was the sculptor. And before that…the clay again. Seamlessly trading roles as easily as the wind changes direction. Swept on a gentle current Now a raging river. Part of me still clinging to the rope of logic. But will it...
    january71 january71 46-50, F 1 Response Dec 12, 2013

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    I'm was with a women

    that hasn't giving me no sx in 3 months and today she didn't let me go out so I left went to a night club got me so h right now if you live close by I will go see you
    dmedina513 dmedina513 36-40, M Jul 5

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    Anyone Have Any Advise For Me

    I'm a clean cut guy that has been married to his High School sweetheart for 25 years. In the past couple of year our relationship has changed. Seems we are now two strangers who share the same house. This isn't how I envisioned my marriage or my life. After raising two children...
    nicebamaguy nicebamaguy 41-45, M 3 Responses Feb 14, 2013

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    I Have Gone Numb

    I think I am losing my mind. I have been trying for 14 years to bring some type of intimacy to my marriage. Friendship, companionship, sex...one of the above, or all the above. I have been met with rejection, disrespect, being ignored. and made to feel like a puppy. Something...
    northguy northguy 46-50, M 36 Responses Apr 10, 2010

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    Always The Last Priority

    I just don't know where to start. 20 years of marriage and it is getting worse as time goes on. My wife would rather spend time with a total stranger and give that person the shirt off her back than lift a finger to enhance our relationship. At the end of the work day (we both...
    nowayintheworld nowayintheworld 36-40, M 3 Responses Jul 5, 2012

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    Living Out Of A Suitcase

    Living Out of a Suitcase “Make no mistake, your relationships are the heaviest components in your life. All those negotiations and arguments and secrets, the compromises. The slower we move the faster we die. Make no mistake, moving is living. Some animals were meant to carry...
    ryanbradley ryanbradley 46-50, M Mar 27, 2013

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    Married For 23 Years And Very Few Good Memories Or Pictures To Share. Emotionally I Have Disconnected.

    I have been married for a little over 23 years and to this date I am still fighting for a place in my husbands life.  I am included in some of his family celebrations and not included in others.  I feel no love or emotional connection to him anymore, and feel that I...
    tarole96 tarole96 51-55, F 4 Responses Jul 5, 2010

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    My Husband Has Found Another Love,and It Is Not A Person.

     I am in my second marriage, and I thought this one would be different. The first one ended with an affair. During both I experienced great loneliness. The current relationship is suffering because my husband has found a new love. About five years ago he became disabled and...
    lizzypo lizzypo 41-45, F 7 Responses Oct 8, 2010

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    I have been married for almost 10 years .

    I feel like my husband takes me for granted. I am raising our two sons and his teenage daughter and son because he works, goes to school and has internship. Which leaves no time for me or to really be a father. He wants me to cook for him, which I do but also wants me to bring...
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 25

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    Where Can You Go From This

    I have been married for 14 years and every time I try to talk about my feelings concerning our relationship it only ever makes things worse. Anything I say is twisted and into being me attacking her or is met with “well why don't you leave then” I can never get anything in...
    BaronJack67 BaronJack67 41-45 2 Responses Oct 8, 2012

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    I'm to the point that I'm tired of

    even trying with him. I have thought about not getting him anything for Christmas. For the last several years I haven't received as much as a card for Christmas, birthday or anniversary, and it really hurts.   Don't get me wrong, I'm not a materialistic person at all, but...
    january71 january71 46-50, F 4 Responses Dec 9, 2013

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    He Just Doesn't Understand

    he think everything is all peaches and cream but it's not almost had a nervous breakdown this morning I clean the house for about 5 hours straight yesterday which is need it due to our artistic daughter all of the kids had 3 more extra days off of school so she has extra extra...
    lilone2626 lilone2626 26-30 2 Responses Oct 19, 2012

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    Feeling Desperate &Amp; Alone In My Marriage

    My Husband won't talk to me. If and when he does it's all about work (and basically just complaining about employees or customers). When I try starting a conversation with him, he doesn't listen.... he just stares straight ahead, won't make eye contact, nod his head, nothing...
    JillNeglected JillNeglected 31-35, F 6 Responses Apr 25, 2013

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    Why Am I Married Still?

    Well it is around 2 in the morning I go lay down on my husbands bed try to get under covers with him,just to cuddle and talk and he starts yelling and saying how I mess up things,because I uncovered him. He threw a fit and moved over and turn the other way. So I got mad and said...
    lonelybutinlove07 lonelybutinlove07 36-40, F 4 Responses May 12, 2013

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    Trapped

    Hello there.  I have an eight year old son with mild asperger's syndrome and a husband that I now believe to be autistic because of my experiences with him over the years.  I love my son more than anything and will never do anything to rock his boat.  My husband was a great...
    lonelywifeandmother lonelywifeandmother 41-45 3 Responses Jun 6, 2012

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    Very Disheartened

    I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 30 YEARS. MY WIFE HAS MULTIPLE HEALTH PROBLEMS THAT HAVE REALLY WRECKED OUR RELATIONSHIP. WE HAVE BEEN IN SEPARATE BEDS FOR 5 YEARS, & AS FOR SEX, NOT SINCE DECEMBER ---  2000!! SHE STAYS AT HOME ALL DAY & DOES NOTHING BUT PLAY ON HER...
    dehan dehan 46-50, M 3 Responses Feb 25, 2009

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    A Bed Made Just For Cathy

    A Bed Made Just for Cathy The pillow that you made for me It was soft with feather down And the headboard, it came from an old house That was about to be torn down And the songs you always sang to me Oh wow to fall asleep Did they sound the same to her In the bed you made for me...
    ryanbradley ryanbradley 46-50, M Oct 10, 2013

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    In Laws

    I have a problem with my in laws, and my husband does not support me. He gets upset with me for telling him. Even after his sister and I almost came to blows, he promised me that he would be there for me and yet again he failled me. I love him but I don't know how to deal...
    kidsx3 kidsx3 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 25, 2012

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    Three Months of Heaven

    for Justin John Kinsella: Is this heaven? Ray Kinsella: It's Iowa. John Kinsella: Iowa? I could have sworn this was heaven. [John starts to walk away] Ray Kinsella: Is there a heaven? John Kinsella: Oh yeah. It's the place where dreams come true. - Field of Dreams On...
    ryanbradley ryanbradley 46-50, M Dec 9, 2013

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    Lonely, Too

    Been married 10 years and so lonely, it's a bummer. He was so crazy about me the year before we married, then he lost all interest and became depressed and shut-down soon after our marriage. I've just learned to get used to having no affection, no validation, no kind words said...
    KimberlyAnne KimberlyAnne 36-40 2 Responses Oct 17, 2012

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    There Can Be A Happily Ever After For An Affair

    Doug’s Happily Ever After “I want the fairytale.” - Julia Roberts as Vivian in Pretty Woman I interviewed Doug because it was imperative that his story be prominently depicted in this book. As committed as these types of relationships can be, it is infrequent that an...
    ryanbradley ryanbradley 46-50, M Sep 15, 2013

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    Free at Last Well, your faith was strong

    but you needed proof You saw her bathing on the roof Her beauty and the moonlight overthrew ya And she tied you to the kitchen chair She broke your throne and cut your hair And from your lips she drew, “Hallelujah” Hallelujah, Hallelujah Hallelujah, Hallelujah - K.D...
    ryanbradley ryanbradley 46-50, M Jan 7

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    If I Knew Then What I Know Now

    I am trying to get to know myself better. I have spent the last few months thinking and writing and reading my journal. I still have a lot to uncover about myself. So far I have been able to decide that the last time I was truly happy was before I met my husband. Slowly over the...
    DeeLisa DeeLisa 31-35 1 Response May 19, 2012

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    This Is What Brought Me Here.

    And for now, this is where I dwell. I am not a basket case. I am hyper focused, over analytical problem solver. I cannot do anything but try to be introspective and proactive until whatever strife I'm enduring reaches a resolution. In many ways I am a natural "go with the flow...
    Bobahmdis Bobahmdis 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 25, 2013

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    I Do Not Feel Lonely Any More

    I do not feel lonely any more in my marriage.  Today, my wife made plans to have a close friend baby-sit our young children for an evening next week so that the two of us could go out on a date.  This will be the first date my wife and I went on for a long, long time...
    AnarChristian AnarChristian 36-40, M 10 Responses Oct 22, 2009

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    Still Here For You Ya Selfish Bastiiiid!!!!

    Once again I wait to feel your loving arms around me....what a disappointment , as usual. 2 years n 2months now that you make excuses why ur not intimate with me....I can only do so much with ur excuses.....I NEED YOU DAMNIT!!!!! I'M not a cheater but I want n need some...
    brokenragdoll brokenragdoll 51-55, F Apr 19, 2013

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    So Lonely In Marriage - Do Not Know Where Else To Turn

    I have been feeling alot like many of the other post about lonely in a marriage. For the last three years I have been battling this because I am unemployed and care for my disabled father and children, there are weeks, maybe even months where I handle being invisible in this...
    SonyaO SonyaO 41-45, F 5 Responses Jul 29, 2010

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    How Can This Happen?

    I can cry and talk about my feelings yet he doesn't respond with love or attention. I feel so hated in my marriage and manipulated. I wish I never married him. If I could have one do over in life being single would be one.
    Ashley216 Ashley216 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 19, 2013

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    All The Same

    25 years of marriage, I can relate....
    knightnstlouis knightnstlouis 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 18, 2012

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    Where Will It All End

    How a life changed over a death. I lost my oldest son to suicide almost 7 years ago. That is where it all skyrocketed to where I am right now. I was suicidal myself ...prior to his death. I came from a broken and abusive dysfunctional home to start with. Is that the beginning...
    Tearsinhawaii Tearsinhawaii 51-55 Apr 22, 2012

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    So Lonely.......

    I have been married 6yrs and with my husband for 8 years and things have been bad since the beginning. I was warned not to marry him but I thought things would get better. We had a lovely girl in October 09 and he says he is finding it hard to cope with a child. He won't pay...
    lisa678 lisa678 31-35 4 Responses Aug 11, 2010

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    How Long Can I Keep This Up

    how long can I keep this I've been married for a year and a half but we been together 9 years and have 4 kids together and to apart but it's like I'm falling out of love and I don't know what to do I love my husband but there's no excitement or connection there anymore like...
    lilone2626 lilone2626 26-30 3 Responses Oct 19, 2012

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    Womanwith

    I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 25 YEARS. I USED TO BE VERY UP BEAT WHEN I WAS WORKING, BUT MY HUSBAND AND I ARE RETIRED. HE IS A   MAN THAT PUTS HIS SELF FIRST AND IF HE DOES NOT HE IS NOT HAPPY. HE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ME IN THE BEDROOM WE DO NOT EVEN SLEEP IN THE SAME ROOM. HE...
    womanwith womanwith 56-60 3 Responses Mar 8, 2011

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    The Veil Has Lifted

    After a very frank talk we came to the conclusion that neither of us is happy. Now what? When someone has cheated it's easy, throw their *** out and divorce follows... But instead of ending in an explosion.... What if It just burns out? Seems sadder somehow...
    HighOnLife3 HighOnLife3 41-45, F 6 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    I'm miserable in my marriage.

    I'm always alone even when he's home. There is a void in our marriage and I don't even remember the last time I felt loved. We've been together since high school and married 6 years for a total of 9 years together. He never tells me I'm pretty, never brings home roses, never...
    lonelyinlove88 lonelyinlove88 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    Like Tonight

    I am feeling lonely right now... and yet my wife is here in the house... it's the lack of a sex life with her (she is anti-sex) that is causing in me the feeling of loneliness if anyone can relate to this. james atlanta  
    JRSK007 JRSK007 51-55, M 12 Responses Oct 10, 2009

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    Feel So Lonely

    I have been married for over 20 years and most of them has been miserable. My wife and I have nothing in common anymore. She has been out of work over a year, lays on the couch, will not cook or clean the house. She is a hypochondria that has all kind of tests & is ok. I don't...
    sweetnshort sweetnshort 56-60, M 4 Responses Jun 8, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    Its been the toughest year of my life. After 20 years of marriage. I have no single friends. Haven't felt I should start dating yet. Boring and lonely nights and week ends. Sure I...
    Hardright2 Hardright2 41-45, M 7 hrs ago

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    My wife never tells me she loves me and never has a kind word for me. She doesnt like the way I breathe, sweep the floor, clean the toilets or the counter, gets angry with me when...
    48Jeff 48Jeff 46-50, M 7 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Someone on this site mentioned that living in a sexless marriage is like living in a bubble. Exactly, that is what i feel like. Inside the bubble is My marriage, My family, My kids...
    whereishome whereishome 36-40, M 14 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I am lonely I come home and there is no one to say hi how was your day. I broke up with my girlfriend because she cheated on me. And now I am lonely and really sad and the longer I...
    juju786 juju786 13-15, M 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Update from me....things are better! Counseling is going very well. I am proud of myself, first of all. The first day of marital counseling, I was so nervous and the weight of...
    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 14 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Do any other married but lonely people here feel emotionally paralyzed by the loneliness in your marriage? I do. It is not every single day but often enough to be significant to me...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 15 Responses Jul 16

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    I am married but I often feel lonely in the marriage. I feel really misunderstood and emotionally rejected often. The emotional void pushes me further and further away to the...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 32 Responses Jul 1

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    I have found that there is some misunderstanding about what married and lonely seems to mean. There are different ways a person can feel lonely in a marriage. It can be emotionally...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 10 Responses Jul 2

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    Im kinda new here and I feel really lonely. I need someone right now :(
    ysobelley ysobelley 18-21, F 6 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    So it's truly pointless honestly. To maintain the socialistic behavior if being alone and unattached to anyone is pain free. Near death experiences may cease to exist, who knows...
    YoungRidah YoungRidah 18-21, M 7 hrs ago

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    In about 2 weeks it will be exactly 1 year since the day I lost my virginity. I will also mark one year since the day I was raped. I want to be with a man sooo bad it hurts but i...
    loveandotherdrugs8 loveandotherdrugs8 18-21, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago