I Am Very Lonely In My Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 401 People

    Sometimes Feel Invisible

    Reading through some of these stories, and much of it seems familiar. But I am the husband, very lonely, in this marriage. Feel at times invisible, or that the only reason I am here is to provide the income. For almost 15 years I've been constantly told I'm wrong, or do things...
    dadto4 dadto4
    36-40, M
    4 Responses Jun 8, 2010

    Free at Last Well, your faith was strong

    but you needed proof You saw her bathing on the roof Her beauty and the moonlight overthrew ya And she tied you to the kitchen chair She broke your throne and cut your hair And from your lips she drew, “Hallelujah” Hallelujah, Hallelujah Hallelujah, Hallelujah - K.D...
    ryanbradley ryanbradley
    46-50, M
    Jan 7, 2014

    I haven't written in a while,

    hoping that I would figure some things out for my self. That has not been the case. I find that my wife feels she is carrying all the pressures of life and I am in my own world. When I try to ask what is wrong I am blamed for things that are not my fault or my responsibility. If...
    Barry1966 Barry1966
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Nov 16, 2014

    I've only been married six months.

    I'm unhappy and don't know what to do. My husband and I are fundamentally different. I'm social and outgoing and love to chat and meet new people, to sing and dance. I had a catholic upbringing. My husband is a home body. He doesn't like to be social, doesn't like group dates...
    halestorm12 halestorm12
    22-25, F
    Nov 3, 2015

    So Lonely In Marriage - Do Not Know Where Else To Turn

    I have been feeling alot like many of the other post about lonely in a marriage. For the last three years I have been battling this because I am unemployed and care for my disabled father and children, there are weeks, maybe even months where I handle being invisible in this...
    SonyaO SonyaO
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Jul 29, 2010

    Very Lonely In My Marriage

     I have been married for 30 years. And in all our 30 years there has been many periods where I  have felt very lonely. But for the past 7 years it goes way beyond  just being LONELY. It's all about being trapped in a loveless marriage that I learned years ago...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Jun 24, 2010

    Moved like never before.

    I am as clay; Though only moments before, I was the sculptor. And before that…the clay again. Seamlessly trading roles as easily as the wind changes direction. Swept on a gentle current Now a raging river. Part of me still clinging to the rope of logic. But will it...
    Tnsouthernsweetie Tnsouthernsweetie
    46-50, F
    1 Response Dec 12, 2013

    A Bed Made Just For Cathy

    A Bed Made Just for Cathy The pillow that you made for me It was soft with feather down And the headboard, it came from an old house That was about to be torn down And the songs you always sang to me Oh wow to fall asleep Did they sound the same to her In the bed you made for me...
    ryanbradley ryanbradley
    46-50, M
    Oct 10, 2013

    All The Same

    25 years of marriage, I can relate....
    knightnstlouis knightnstlouis
    41-45, M
    Dec 18, 2012

    So Lonely.......

    I have been married 6yrs and with my husband for 8 years and things have been bad since the beginning. I was warned not to marry him but I thought things would get better. We had a lovely girl in October 09 and he says he is finding it hard to cope with a child. He won't pay...
    lisa678 lisa678
    31-35
    4 Responses Aug 11, 2010

    I'm was with a women

    that hasn't giving me no sx in 3 months and today she didn't let me go out so I left went to a night club got me so h right now if you live close by I will go see you
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jul 5, 2014

    Anyone Have Any Advise For Me

    I'm a clean cut guy that has been married to his High School sweetheart for 25 years. In the past couple of year our relationship has changed. Seems we are now two strangers who share the same house. This isn't how I envisioned my marriage or my life. After raising two children...
    nicebamaguy nicebamaguy
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Feb 14, 2013

    The Veil Has Lifted

    After a very frank talk we came to the conclusion that neither of us is happy. Now what? When someone has cheated it's easy, throw their *** out and divorce follows... But instead of ending in an explosion.... What if It just burns out? Seems sadder somehow...
    HighOnLife3 HighOnLife3
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Nov 3, 2013

    How Can This Happen?

    I can cry and talk about my feelings yet he doesn't respond with love or attention. I feel so hated in my marriage and manipulated. I wish I never married him. If I could have one do over in life being single would be one.
    Ashley216 Ashley216
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 19, 2013

    Like Tonight

    I am feeling lonely right now... and yet my wife is here in the house... it's the lack of a sex life with her (she is anti-sex) that is causing in me the feeling of loneliness if anyone can relate to this. james atlanta  
    JRSK007 JRSK007
    51-55, M
    12 Responses Oct 10, 2009

    Where Can You Go From This

    I have been married for 14 years and every time I try to talk about my feelings concerning our relationship it only ever makes things worse. Anything I say is twisted and into being me attacking her or is met with “well why don't you leave then” I can never get anything in...
    BaronJack67 BaronJack67
    41-45
    2 Responses Oct 8, 2012

    This Is What Brought Me Here.

    And for now, this is where I dwell. I am not a basket case. I am hyper focused, over analytical problem solver. I cannot do anything but try to be introspective and proactive until whatever strife I'm enduring reaches a resolution. In many ways I am a natural "go with the flow...
    Bobahmdis Bobahmdis
    46-50, M
    1 Response Jul 25, 2013

    He Just Doesn't Understand

    he think everything is all peaches and cream but it's not almost had a nervous breakdown this morning I clean the house for about 5 hours straight yesterday which is need it due to our artistic daughter all of the kids had 3 more extra days off of school so she has extra extra...
    lilone2626 lilone2626
    26-30
    2 Responses Oct 19, 2012

    Feeling Desperate &Amp; Alone In My Marriage

    My Husband won't talk to me. If and when he does it's all about work (and basically just complaining about employees or customers). When I try starting a conversation with him, he doesn't listen.... he just stares straight ahead, won't make eye contact, nod his head, nothing...
    JillNeglected JillNeglected
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Apr 25, 2013

    Why Am I Married Still?

    Well it is around 2 in the morning I go lay down on my husbands bed try to get under covers with him,just to cuddle and talk and he starts yelling and saying how I mess up things,because I uncovered him. He threw a fit and moved over and turn the other way. So I got mad and said...
    lonelybutinlove07 lonelybutinlove07
    36-40, F
    4 Responses May 12, 2013

    Walking on eggshells!

    ! Yes, that it is my life trying to survive in a sad marriage. He doesn't love me anymore. I feel it is like a sword cutting my heart. Almost 12 years trying to be the perfect wife and nothing for him I'm a crazy *****... He said I'm a bipolar because I want some attention and...
    tikitiki07 tikitiki07
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Oct 28, 2014

    How Long Can I Keep This Up

    how long can I keep this I've been married for a year and a half but we been together 9 years and have 4 kids together and to apart but it's like I'm falling out of love and I don't know what to do I love my husband but there's no excitement or connection there anymore like...
    lilone2626 lilone2626
    26-30
    2 Responses Oct 19, 2012

    Very Disheartened

    I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 30 YEARS. MY WIFE HAS MULTIPLE HEALTH PROBLEMS THAT HAVE REALLY WRECKED OUR RELATIONSHIP. WE HAVE BEEN IN SEPARATE BEDS FOR 5 YEARS, & AS FOR SEX, NOT SINCE DECEMBER ---  2000!! SHE STAYS AT HOME ALL DAY & DOES NOTHING BUT PLAY ON HER...
    dehan dehan
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Feb 25, 2009

    I just want my husband to look at me,

    smirk and shake his head in disbelief that I'm his. I had that once...and not from him ever.
    Lolypolypostrgrl Lolypolypostrgrl
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Sep 6, 2014

    In Laws

    I have a problem with my in laws, and my husband does not support me. He gets upset with me for telling him. Even after his sister and I almost came to blows, he promised me that he would be there for me and yet again he failled me. I love him but I don't know how to deal...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Dec 25, 2012

    Feeling alone . He barely talks to me.

    I feel like I'm just here. He says he loves me but doesn't say it often or barely shows it. He doesn't touch me or tell me I'm pretty or beautiful. He doesn't even say I love you good night he just rolls over and goes to sleep like I'm not here. When I cry and hurt he just...
    kashx kashx
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Dec 20, 2014

    An Interview With A Married Woman And Her Affair

    Cynthia’s Ride Life ain’t always beautiful, but it's a beautiful ride. - country singer Gary Allan, Life Ain’t Always Beautiful Most people don’t just flip a switch one day and decide to embark on an affair. They come to that decision only after a lot of deep...
    ryanbradley ryanbradley
    46-50, M
    Feb 27, 2013

    I have been married for almost 10 years .

    I feel like my husband takes me for granted. I am raising our two sons and his teenage daughter and son because he works, goes to school and has internship. Which leaves no time for me or to really be a father. He wants me to cook for him, which I do but also wants me to bring...
    Februarychic Februarychic
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Apr 25, 2014

    Where to begin? We rarely converse

    unless necessary. My husband only comes to bed with me to have sex and then he leaves to watch tv and sleep in the family room. I crave intimacy so much that I never refuse him and I end up ultimately feeling horribly used. We have two teens and I am not prepared to ruin...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jun 28, 2015

    My Husband Has Found Another Love,and It Is Not A Person.

     I am in my second marriage, and I thought this one would be different. The first one ended with an affair. During both I experienced great loneliness. The current relationship is suffering because my husband has found a new love. About five years ago he became disabled and...
    lizzypo lizzypo
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Oct 8, 2010

    Feel So Lonely

    I have been married for over 20 years and most of them has been miserable. My wife and I have nothing in common anymore. She has been out of work over a year, lays on the couch, will not cook or clean the house. She is a hypochondria that has all kind of tests & is ok. I don't...
    sweetnshort sweetnshort
    56-60, M
    4 Responses Jun 8, 2010

    Three Months of Heaven

    for Justin John Kinsella: Is this heaven? Ray Kinsella: It's Iowa. John Kinsella: Iowa? I could have sworn this was heaven. [John starts to walk away] Ray Kinsella: Is there a heaven? John Kinsella: Oh yeah. It's the place where dreams come true. - Field of Dreams On...
    ryanbradley ryanbradley
    46-50, M
    Dec 9, 2013

    Something Different

    Well, I am hopeful that the numbness has passed. I have a new energy now and I have come to several decisions. My wife has long treated my like a dog, to which she would just throw a bone to once in a while when she got tired of me jumping up and down. While we have been...
    northguy northguy
    46-50, M
    8 Responses Apr 14, 2010

    Lonely, Too

    Been married 10 years and so lonely, it's a bummer. He was so crazy about me the year before we married, then he lost all interest and became depressed and shut-down soon after our marriage. I've just learned to get used to having no affection, no validation, no kind words said...
    KimberlyAnne KimberlyAnne
    36-40
    2 Responses Oct 17, 2012

    Living Out Of A Suitcase

    Living Out of a Suitcase “Make no mistake, your relationships are the heaviest components in your life. All those negotiations and arguments and secrets, the compromises. The slower we move the faster we die. Make no mistake, moving is living. Some animals were meant to carry...
    ryanbradley ryanbradley
    46-50, M
    Mar 27, 2013

    My husband doesn't pay attention to me

    or our child anymore. He's very preoccupied with his hobbies, and with his ****. We have stopped having sex, though I have tried initiating. I don't nag, *****, or moan. I Don't have unrealistic expectations. I haven't let myself go (I've gotten into shape... Muscles, even!). I...
    WarriorRising WarriorRising
    70+
    1 Response May 12, 2015

    Still Here For You Ya Selfish Bastiiiid!!!!

    Once again I wait to feel your loving arms around me....what a disappointment , as usual. 2 years n 2months now that you make excuses why ur not intimate with me....I can only do so much with ur excuses.....I NEED YOU DAMNIT!!!!! I'M not a cheater but I want n need some...
    brokenragdoll brokenragdoll
    56-60, F
    Apr 19, 2013

    I'm to the point that I'm tired of

    even trying with him. I have thought about not getting him anything for Christmas. For the last several years I haven't received as much as a card for Christmas, birthday or anniversary, and it really hurts.   Don't get me wrong, I'm not a materialistic person at all, but...
    Tnsouthernsweetie Tnsouthernsweetie
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Dec 9, 2013

    I Do Not Feel Lonely Any More

    I do not feel lonely any more in my marriage.  Today, my wife made plans to have a close friend baby-sit our young children for an evening next week so that the two of us could go out on a date.  This will be the first date my wife and I went on for a long, long time...
    AnarChristian AnarChristian
    36-40, M
    10 Responses Oct 22, 2009

    Womanwith

    I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 25 YEARS. I USED TO BE VERY UP BEAT WHEN I WAS WORKING, BUT MY HUSBAND AND I ARE RETIRED. HE IS A   MAN THAT PUTS HIS SELF FIRST AND IF HE DOES NOT HE IS NOT HAPPY. HE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ME IN THE BEDROOM WE DO NOT EVEN SLEEP IN THE SAME ROOM. HE...
    womanwith womanwith
    56-60
    3 Responses Mar 8, 2011

    I'm miserable in my marriage.

    I'm always alone even when he's home. There is a void in our marriage and I don't even remember the last time I felt loved. We've been together since high school and married 6 years for a total of 9 years together. He never tells me I'm pretty, never brings home roses, never...
    lonelyinlove88 lonelyinlove88
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 20, 2014

    I Have Gone Numb

    I think I am losing my mind. I have been trying for 14 years to bring some type of intimacy to my marriage. Friendship, companionship, sex...one of the above, or all the above. I have been met with rejection, disrespect, being ignored. and made to feel like a puppy. Something...
    northguy northguy
    46-50, M
    35 Responses Apr 10, 2010

    There Can Be A Happily Ever After For An Affair

    Doug’s Happily Ever After “I want the fairytale.” - Julia Roberts as Vivian in Pretty Woman I interviewed Doug because it was imperative that his story be prominently depicted in this book. As committed as these types of relationships can be, it is infrequent that an...
    ryanbradley ryanbradley
    46-50, M
    Sep 15, 2013

    Related Experiences

    I am writing at the suggestion of Robb Warren and Waiting 4 What (and inspired by Vegas Baby). It seems appropriate to put a coda on what was one of the most important and...
    maryryan maryryan
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Apr 21
    EP will be Closing at 4pm tomorrow and i just really want to at least try to keep in contact with people that have similar interest or feel the same way i feel I'm so lonely and...
    spiritualvirgo82 spiritualvirgo82
    31-35, F
    Apr 20
    ATTENTION! I am creating a new social network for people like us! The beta will be released on May 1st! If you are tired of being lonely and having no one to relate then I suggest...
    qari1722 qari1722
    22-25, M
    Apr 20
    I joined EP three years ago because I was lonely and looking for someone to connect with. I met some great people but sadly no connection ever lasted. I'm upset that EP is shutting...
    chasingMonday chasingMonday
    31-35, M
    1 Response Apr 20
    I am lonely because no one likes my little skinny tiny ****
    Toeslongerthanmypp Toeslongerthanmypp
    26-30, M
    1 Response Apr 19
    So for the past almost five years of marriage it has basically been like living with a roommate. My husband treats me like a maid and nanny and I am so sick of it. Last night he...
    SusanAlexander SusanAlexander
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Apr 19
    My husband travels a lot on business and I do often get lonely when he's away.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Apr 18
    i am looking for a bf i am really lonely
    Sexyruby5 Sexyruby5
    13-15
    1 Response Apr 18
    Keeping busy and sleeping helps me break the habit of reaching out to people who don't care when I get lonely.
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover
    16-17, F
    1 Response Apr 16
    There are days when sitting in the same room is lonely . I love my husband with all my heart and soul . when we met the chase his perspective on life dreams ambition morals where...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Apr 14
    Ughh it's my countries election next month and guess what no ******* matter what party wins nothing is gonna be done about LGBTQ rights in the country like c'mon were the only...
    HatredIncarnated HatredIncarnated
    13-15, M
    1 Response Apr 13
    am feeling very lonely here someone to get alone with me now
    priscilladillson100 priscilladillson100
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Apr 12
    I want to be able to say I'm not lonely just because I'm alone, but it wouldn't be true. I am lonely. I have not one friend and the three I thought I had stopped talking to me it...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Apr 12
    I even should speak from the past. I have been many years ago in a marriage and I am divorced since 15 years now. But I´ve seen that there was nothing normal in my marriage...
    Loretta78 Loretta78
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Apr 12
    The silence of the night is breathlessI feel lost and alonelike floating at the bottom of the seaA lost and lonelyforgotten meThe sky shinesfireflies looking downon a lonely and...
    nocool nocool
    41-45, M
    1 Response Apr 11
    Well, not just tonight, but I've felt this way all day. Hell, practically this whole weekend. :/ I wish I didn't. I posted something like this last night as well, but I deleted it...
    Timster91 Timster91
    22-25, M
    1 Response Apr 10
    I hate to admit it but I'm definitely lonely
    Lexie35 Lexie35
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 10
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