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I Am Very Lonely In My Marriage

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    Womanwith

    I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 25 YEARS. I USED TO BE VERY UP BEAT WHEN I WAS WORKING, BUT MY HUSBAND AND I ARE RETIRED. HE IS A   MAN THAT PUTS HIS SELF FIRST AND IF HE DOES NOT HE IS NOT HAPPY. HE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ME IN THE BEDROOM WE DO NOT EVEN SLEEP IN THE SAME ROOM. HE...
    womanwith womanwith 56-60 3 Responses Mar 8, 2011

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    I Have Gone Numb

    I think I am losing my mind. I have been trying for 14 years to bring some type of intimacy to my marriage. Friendship, companionship, sex...one of the above, or all the above. I have been met with rejection, disrespect, being ignored. and made to feel like a puppy. Something...
    northguy northguy 46-50, M 35 Responses Apr 10, 2010

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    This Is What Brought Me Here.

    And for now, this is where I dwell. I am not a basket case. I am hyper focused, over analytical problem solver. I cannot do anything but try to be introspective and proactive until whatever strife I'm enduring reaches a resolution. In many ways I am a natural "go with the flow...
    Bobahmdis Bobahmdis 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 25, 2013

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    Where Will It All End

    How a life changed over a death. I lost my oldest son to suicide almost 7 years ago. That is where it all skyrocketed to where I am right now. I was suicidal myself ...prior to his death. I came from a broken and abusive dysfunctional home to start with. Is that the beginning...
    Tearsinhawaii Tearsinhawaii 51-55 Apr 22, 2012

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    How Can This Happen?

    I can cry and talk about my feelings yet he doesn't respond with love or attention. I feel so hated in my marriage and manipulated. I wish I never married him. If I could have one do over in life being single would be one.
    Ashley216 Ashley216 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 19, 2013

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    Where Can You Go From This

    I have been married for 14 years and every time I try to talk about my feelings concerning our relationship it only ever makes things worse. Anything I say is twisted and into being me attacking her or is met with “well why don't you leave then” I can never get anything in...
    BaronJack67 BaronJack67 41-45 2 Responses Oct 8, 2012

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    Married For 23 Years And Very Few Good Memories Or Pictures To Share. Emotionally I Have Disconnected.

    I have been married for a little over 23 years and to this date I am still fighting for a place in my husbands life.  I am included in some of his family celebrations and not included in others.  I feel no love or emotional connection to him anymore, and feel that I...
    tarole96 tarole96 51-55, F 4 Responses Jul 5, 2010

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    In Laws

    I have a problem with my in laws, and my husband does not support me. He gets upset with me for telling him. Even after his sister and I almost came to blows, he promised me that he would be there for me and yet again he failled me. I love him but I don't know how to deal...
    kidsx3 kidsx3 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 25, 2012

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    Feel So Lonely

    I have been married for over 20 years and most of them has been miserable. My wife and I have nothing in common anymore. She has been out of work over a year, lays on the couch, will not cook or clean the house. She is a hypochondria that has all kind of tests & is ok. I don't...
    sweetnshort sweetnshort 56-60, M 3 Responses Jun 8, 2010

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    Feeling Desperate &Amp; Alone In My Marriage

    My Husband won't talk to me. If and when he does it's all about work (and basically just complaining about employees or customers). When I try starting a conversation with him, he doesn't listen.... he just stares straight ahead, won't make eye contact, nod his head, nothing...
    JillNeglected JillNeglected 31-35, F 6 Responses Apr 25, 2013

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    All The Same

    25 years of marriage, I can relate....
    knightnstlouis knightnstlouis 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 18, 2012

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    My Husband Has Found Another Love,and It Is Not A Person.

     I am in my second marriage, and I thought this one would be different. The first one ended with an affair. During both I experienced great loneliness. The current relationship is suffering because my husband has found a new love. About five years ago he became disabled and...
    lizzypo lizzypo 41-45, F 7 Responses Oct 8, 2010

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    Sometimes Feel Invisible

    Reading through some of these stories, and much of it seems familiar. But I am the husband, very lonely, in this marriage. Feel at times invisible, or that the only reason I am here is to provide the income. For almost 15 years I've been constantly told I'm wrong, or do things...
    dadto4 dadto4 36-40, M 4 Responses Jun 8, 2010

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    Why Am I Married Still?

    Well it is around 2 in the morning I go lay down on my husbands bed try to get under covers with him,just to cuddle and talk and he starts yelling and saying how I mess up things,because I uncovered him. He threw a fit and moved over and turn the other way. So I got mad and said...
    lonelybutinlove07 lonelybutinlove07 36-40, F 4 Responses May 12, 2013

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    Something Different

    Well, I am hopeful that the numbness has passed. I have a new energy now and I have come to several decisions. My wife has long treated my like a dog, to which she would just throw a bone to once in a while when she got tired of me jumping up and down. While we have been...
    northguy northguy 46-50, M 8 Responses Apr 14, 2010

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    So Lonely In Marriage - Do Not Know Where Else To Turn

    I have been feeling alot like many of the other post about lonely in a marriage. For the last three years I have been battling this because I am unemployed and care for my disabled father and children, there are weeks, maybe even months where I handle being invisible in this...
    SonyaO SonyaO 41-45, F 5 Responses Jul 29, 2010

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    Golf Widow

    I am in a second marriage (2 yrs) He plays golf most of the time so I am alone alot. When he's not playing golf he's working or with his adult kids next state over.about an hour away. His ex is soooo needy. He has stay at his ex for the kids. 20 yr old son with schizophrenia...
    Secondbestinlove Secondbestinlove 51-55 4 Responses Apr 24, 2013

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    If I Knew Then What I Know Now

    I am trying to get to know myself better. I have spent the last few months thinking and writing and reading my journal. I still have a lot to uncover about myself. So far I have been able to decide that the last time I was truly happy was before I met my husband. Slowly over the...
    DeeLisa DeeLisa 31-35 1 Response May 19, 2012

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    So Lonely.......

    I have been married 6yrs and with my husband for 8 years and things have been bad since the beginning. I was warned not to marry him but I thought things would get better. We had a lovely girl in October 09 and he says he is finding it hard to cope with a child. He won't pay...
    lisa678 lisa678 31-35 4 Responses Aug 11, 2010

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    Still Here For You Ya Selfish Bastiiiid!!!!

    Once again I wait to feel your loving arms around me....what a disappointment , as usual. 2 years n 2months now that you make excuses why ur not intimate with me....I can only do so much with ur excuses.....I NEED YOU DAMNIT!!!!! I'M not a cheater but I want n need some...
    brokenragdoll brokenragdoll 51-55, F Apr 19, 2013

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    Like Tonight

    I am feeling lonely right now... and yet my wife is here in the house... it's the lack of a sex life with her (she is anti-sex) that is causing in me the feeling of loneliness if anyone can relate to this. james atlanta  
    JRSK007 JRSK007 51-55, M 12 Responses Oct 10, 2009

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    Trapped

    Hello there.  I have an eight year old son with mild asperger's syndrome and a husband that I now believe to be autistic because of my experiences with him over the years.  I love my son more than anything and will never do anything to rock his boat.  My husband was a great...
    lonelywifeandmother lonelywifeandmother 41-45 3 Responses Jun 6, 2012

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    He Just Doesn't Understand

    he think everything is all peaches and cream but it's not almost had a nervous breakdown this morning I clean the house for about 5 hours straight yesterday which is need it due to our artistic daughter all of the kids had 3 more extra days off of school so she has extra extra...
    lilone2626 lilone2626 26-30 2 Responses Oct 19, 2012

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    Very Lonely In My Marriage

     I have been married for 30 years. And in all our 30 years there has been many periods where I  have felt very lonely. But for the past 7 years it goes way beyond  just being LONELY. It's all about being trapped in a loveless marriage that I learned years ago...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 6 Responses Jun 24, 2010

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    Very Disheartened

    I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 30 YEARS. MY WIFE HAS MULTIPLE HEALTH PROBLEMS THAT HAVE REALLY WRECKED OUR RELATIONSHIP. WE HAVE BEEN IN SEPARATE BEDS FOR 5 YEARS, & AS FOR SEX, NOT SINCE DECEMBER ---  2000!! SHE STAYS AT HOME ALL DAY & DOES NOTHING BUT PLAY ON HER...
    dehan dehan 46-50, M 3 Responses Feb 25, 2009

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    He does most of the talking,

    I just listen. When I do try to talk, I'm always wrong...
    MeriMiya MeriMiya 22-25, F Mar 16

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    I'm to the point that I'm tired of

    even trying with him. I have thought about not getting him anything for Christmas. For the last several years I haven't received as much as a card for Christmas, birthday or anniversary, and it really hurts.   Don't get me wrong, I'm not a materialistic person at all, but...
    january71 january71 46-50, F 4 Responses Dec 9, 2013

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    I'm miserable in my marriage.

    I'm always alone even when he's home. There is a void in our marriage and I don't even remember the last time I felt loved. We've been together since high school and married 6 years for a total of 9 years together. He never tells me I'm pretty, never brings home roses, never...
    lonelyinlove88 lonelyinlove88 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    How Long Can I Keep This Up

    how long can I keep this I've been married for a year and a half but we been together 9 years and have 4 kids together and to apart but it's like I'm falling out of love and I don't know what to do I love my husband but there's no excitement or connection there anymore like...
    lilone2626 lilone2626 26-30 3 Responses Oct 19, 2012

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    The Veil Has Lifted

    After a very frank talk we came to the conclusion that neither of us is happy. Now what? When someone has cheated it's easy, throw their *** out and divorce follows... But instead of ending in an explosion.... What if It just burns out? Seems sadder somehow...
    Blackvelvetsex Blackvelvetsex 41-45, F 6 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    Anyone Have Any Advise For Me

    I'm a clean cut guy that has been married to his High School sweetheart for 25 years. In the past couple of year our relationship has changed. Seems we are now two strangers who share the same house. This isn't how I envisioned my marriage or my life. After raising two children...
    nicebamaguy nicebamaguy 41-45, M 3 Responses Feb 14, 2013

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    Always The Last Priority

    I just don't know where to start. 20 years of marriage and it is getting worse as time goes on. My wife would rather spend time with a total stranger and give that person the shirt off her back than lift a finger to enhance our relationship. At the end of the work day (we both...
    nowayintheworld nowayintheworld 36-40, M 3 Responses Jul 5, 2012

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    Moved like never before.

    I am as clay; Though only moments before, I was the sculptor. And before that…the clay again. Seamlessly trading roles as easily as the wind changes direction. Swept on a gentle current Now a raging river. Part of me still clinging to the rope of logic. But will it...
    january71 january71 46-50, F 1 Response Dec 12, 2013

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    Lonely, Too

    Been married 10 years and so lonely, it's a bummer. He was so crazy about me the year before we married, then he lost all interest and became depressed and shut-down soon after our marriage. I've just learned to get used to having no affection, no validation, no kind words said...
    KimberlyAnne KimberlyAnne 36-40 2 Responses Oct 17, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    Even thru all the trials in life I believe in marriage only b/c of who I serve & believe in which is Jesus! When you're having problems in your marriage is not the time to turn...
    bubblysunshine bubblysunshine 31-35, F 5 hrs ago

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    I got an email from my very religious sister-in-law. She and my brother have offered to bring me back to the States to stay if I were to wish to leave him, but as I told them both...
    EinEngel EinEngel 46-50, F 13 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I would never wait until marriage. Yes I know you love the person for them etc but you've got to have a but of fun and practice with other people first. Also that person might not...
    Morninglory69 Morninglory69 26-30, M 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    I grew up always wanting a wedding, but the older I got the less it seemed to be something that is needed. Yes, I did get married but that was to please others (husbands side...
    MrsGrisham MrsGrisham 22-25, F 7 hrs ago

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    My husband, depressed and sometimes suicidal for most of our marriage, finally agreed to go to counseling. He told me he feels like he has nothing to talk about with his counselor...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    For those who already left their SM I have a few questions What was the final straw that made you end your marriage? Did you discover why you stayed so long or why you put up with...
    luvisaluneed luvisaluneed 46-50, F 9 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Those of you reading this post, I am just looking for advice. I feel I have tried so much(counseling, books, etc,etc) I am not looking to just chit chat with other lonely men...
    confusedmajorly confusedmajorly 36-40, F 29 Responses 2 days ago

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    Make that, that I used to live in a marriage that was becoming a sexless marriage. Today would have been our second anniversary. The story is complicated, but to make it short, she...
    soundtrackforantarctica soundtrackforantarctica 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    Where do I start . I don't know if I'm in a bad marriage or I was just disillusioned to what marriage is. My husband rarely pays attention to me . We have lived out of state since...
    lynnethedreamer lynnethedreamer 36-40, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I think loneliness is one of the worst problems anyone has to struggle with. It's a feeling everyone feels from time to time. It might sound silly, but I feel it all the time, I...
    IHateUsernames0 IHateUsernames0 13-15, M 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    To think I could consider someone a friend over the internet. I knew it once again I was being delusional. Such relationship would never happen to me, I can hardly make friends in...
    Kricasso Kricasso 18-21, F 7 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I am married and feeling very lonely and would like to talk to married women who feel the same, msg me if you would like to chat.
    DaveInNH53 DaveInNH53 51-55, M 5 hrs ago

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    im lonely every day . its as if i have nothing to live for. The hand of time seems to just have me move on and on . Down a path of tired unforgiving life . Though i will live...
    Friendlyfacehere Friendlyfacehere 18-21, M 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    All the lesbians I meet on here only want sex from me. I did not come here for that. I want to talk to another female I can relate to. I live in a very small town and I don't know...
    alaskanrose90 alaskanrose90 22-25, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    its so weird. i have friends and family but still i feel so lonely. i cry at night and put a fake smile at daytime. nobody knows how i feel, i dont have energy Anymore. why do...
    mtt1234567 mtt1234567 22-25, F 1 Response 20 mins ago

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    The rubble of our marriage I try not to look I try to change my focus to what else gives me happiness my children my friends my home my community I cannot help...
    Bobbie71 Bobbie71 41-45, F 16 Responses Mar 24

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    I tried again today to talk to my husband about our life. We are trying to move. I have looked for months now for the perfect house for us. Finally today I told him to remove...
    misticraine misticraine 56-60, F 4 Responses Mar 30

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    My dysfunctional childhood sometimes plays havoc on my peace of mind. I can partially blame staying in my marriage due to how I was raised, dragged through my Father’s four...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 34 Responses Apr 13

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    I am new here. I haven't participated in online discussions in years so this is quite awkward but I like the anonymity an could really use an ear. I will be married for five years...
    gardinel gardinel 36-40, F 12 Responses Apr 10

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    This was a difficult weekend. My wife and I spent a long weekend visiting old friends of hers. Normally, this is the sort of weekend that I would skip out on, but the other married...
    MasterMatt77 MasterMatt77 36-40, M 22 Responses Apr 14

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