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I Am Very Selective When It Comes to Letting People Get Close

For anybody who has a hard time -really- opening up to people, because of past relationships or experiences.. 28,189 People

    I am usually very cautious about

    who I let into my life. I won't bore you with the back story, but I do not trust easily. It takes time for me to feel a level of friendship or intimacy. Every time I think I've moved past this, I'm proven wrong by the people I've chosen to let in. I always swear it will never...
    smhinterrupted smhinterrupted 36-40, F 7 Responses Jan 15

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    Many people view me as snobby,

    when in fact I am only being selective. I've been burned too many times to reach into the oven again without proper protection (metaphorically).
    picses2222 picses2222 13-15, F Sep 13

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    I didn't used to be..

    .but life has taught me to be more cautious. I have let too many people get close to me when I was younger & I ended up getting hurt. So I have been more selective as I've gotten older. Yet I let my boyfriend (eventually fiancee) get close & we were together for 2 years...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 10

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    Call me paranoid, but u don't trust people.

    People are mean. People are two faced. People will hurt you. People will most likely try to rob you of money, happiness and dignity. I have a very smart conscience. I call her by my own name, and yes she is female. If I feel someone has anterior motives in the first 5 seconds of...
    Passionfruit101 Passionfruit101 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    hai everyone this is hari i am in search of

    people with whom i can share my personal feelings
    hariiyengar hariiyengar 13-15, M Sep 29

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    Why so serious? Some people may think I am snob

    and serious person. Sometimes I am, sometimes I am just shy or tired. I might accelerate to extreme seriousness if needed. It's a useful thing at keeping unnecessary people away.
    JD0121 JD0121 31-35, F 5 Responses Aug 22

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    I lost one of my best friends a few years back

    and I'm so afraid of becoming that close to people again 😢
    LisaMannion LisaMannion 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 30

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    Im happy to be with people with sense of humor

    or those that agrees with me. Unfortunately not all are like that.
    Elleshore81 Elleshore81 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 24

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    Im very selective when it comes to my friends.

    In the past i used to be cool with almost everyone at my school. Now that im older (16), i come to realize that not everyone is your friend. There are some people i look at now and in my head im like"Wow was i reallyyy friends with this b!tch". People need to open their eyes...
    stacy0508 stacy0508 18-21, F 8 Responses Jan 2

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    I don't want to **** a guy

    that isn't going to call me the nest day. I wont **** a guy that ***** girls and marks notches on his belt. Sex is something that I want to appreciate throughout my life. Just having sex to have sex is not my in best interest... I will never do that but.
    spiteyourface spiteyourface 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 5

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    Finding the right people to be your friends is

    a task in itself and once you find them another task is to see if they are they are good enough to be really close to your heart.. I may have not chosen the wrong people to be around me but probably have always selected the wrong people to be close to my heart. Or maybe I...
    uselessguy uselessguy 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 25

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    I hate opening up to people

    and getting close to them and then they just leave.... Painful is what it is...
    Shoutittotheworld23 Shoutittotheworld23 26-30, M 3 Responses May 25

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    Relationships

    I was hurt but the first girl I truly liked when I was 18 and since then I haven't been able to let anyone get close and all my relationships have ended up just being one night stands. Sometime I hate myself for doing it but I don't want to be hurt again; anyone have any ideas...
    JensonC JensonC 22-25, M 10 Responses Jan 23, 2012

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    I have to have some kind of connection with you

    before I let anyone in. Trust is very important to me.
    whyisitsohard44 whyisitsohard44 41-45, F 15 Responses May 19

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    I dont let many get close to me.

    .. Not because im snobbish or antisocial... Im just very guarded... Ive been hurt much in my life and i put up walls to protect that from happening... I used to be scared of letting people close not only to protect me but i was scared of what they would see.... The abuse... The...
    sunpea sunpea 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 28

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    It looks like they're coming back at it again!

    Taverncraft, a extra of 3 Aspect Entertainment, just announced that they have just engaged some new "Legendary Collection" Steins to their Hand-crafted Stein Selection. Extremely enough, Indicate Berkwits, the Promotion Manager of 3 Aspect.By the way,you can login RS Gold to...
    zhuanghan zhuanghan 22-25, F 2 days ago

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    When it comes down to it I actually have it

    determined whether I will open to specific people. Usually at the beginning of a convo if a person seems like they need help I will offer help from my personal experiences.
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M Sep 25

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    I dont know why it is hard

    for me to be completely truthful to people. i feel like i should be able to tell my life to a total stranger without being judged.
    jwmcmaha jwmcmaha 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 8

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    Don't Throw Your Pearls Before Swine

    Several months after my puppy dog Grace had been weaned, my children and I took her back so I could speak with the breeder and to visit her mother Sweet Pea. My dog was so excited to see her mother. She jumped all over her and licked her and did whatever she could to get her...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 7 Responses Oct 25, 2012

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    Awer1 Awer1 13-15, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I absolutely trust no one in my life.

    No one. Everyday that goes by is another day I know I am bring used and manipulated. It makes me sick. I am so lonely. So very very very lonely for a real connection. For one person who can love me as much as they love them self.
    NotSoPerfect777 NotSoPerfect777 36-40, F 12 Responses Sep 16

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    I've somehow become so good at shutting people

    out, never letting anyone see the real me, that I don't even know who she is anymore.
    Calsi704 Calsi704 18-21, F Oct 8

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    It probably would be nice to have a lot of

    people in my life but I've realized that you can't allow just anyone in your life without really getting to know them. A person may have some serious issues going on that can bring harm to you. You must know their character, background.. all that matters when I make a decision...
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 1

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    Self-proclaimed loner?

    People generally don't like me..  It might be my presence ( I'm not the big, but two heads taller than most women of my age.. and they are all pretty skinny ), the look in my eyes, my strong will, the fact that I'm a smart-alec or that I'm not full blooded caucasian. So when...
    PinkBunnyProject PinkBunnyProject 22-25, F 6 Responses Nov 18, 2007

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    Its like this. when you stick your hand out

    and get bitten. you learn very quickly not to stick your hand out anymore. I've been "bitten" so many times by people who are supposed to love me. I pretty much decided not to let any one near me any more. i'm so skeptical of people when they are nice to me I automatically think...
    sweetpea6200 sweetpea6200 31-35, F 7 Responses Mar 21

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    I have found throughout my life,

    that people are very cruel. They will infiltrate your life, your persona; they will discover your innermost secrets by parading as your friend. But people are cruel, and they will tear you down to your baser levels and stomp on the things that you love, the greater attitudes...
    PatrickMoosePants PatrickMoosePants 18-21, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    Its pretty hard actually

    for me to get close so much to other people I consider it as an attachment, and as my immediate family .I never let someone in my own world easily Im a type of a person who is a hard to be close with, I dont open myself oftenly especially to the strangers I think that what makes...
    mystery05 mystery05 22-25, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    It's true. I've been hurt a lot.

    I'm afraid if I let someone get too close they'll eventually leave.
    Kayleer18 Kayleer18 18-21, F Feb 8

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    It seems like letting people inside

    and trusting people is hard to do these days. I've become very careful and selective with the people I choose to be close with. It's like there's always some twisted motive that people have. Like they just want to use you or be around you out of convenience. Having trust issues...
    AcousticSoul17 AcousticSoul17 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 5

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    Wayward Stepped Right In.

    Shhhhhh, he reminds me. The world stills. My heart slowly hums. My blood finds its rhythm. My soul succumbs. The silence widens. Calming. Bends. We are just ripples in our own reflection. A paradox of echoing perfection. Footfalls, under moon lit sprawls. Casting down velvet...
    SilentBluemoon SilentBluemoon 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 29, 2013

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    People...

    I assume that everyone at some point is going to hurt me in a really bad way. I never really had friends and after high school, I just kinda stopped talking to everyone. I'm 20 now. I don't have friends. I have people that I'll hang out with every once in a while but they're far...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 1, 2012

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    I'm selective with who I allow into my life

    because I no longer believe in relating to people on a superficial level. I've found with many that as soon as I start talking about anything spiritually-related, they tend to get this blank look on their face and sort of shut down. I'm required to interact with others just as...
    AKLady14 AKLady14 26-30, F 2 Responses May 23

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    My heart Is a many faceted substance.

    While it slumbers, dark watchmen hold vigil. Their shields are stout, their manner fiercely protective.It becomes pliant and awakens scarcely. When it does, it feasts in a riot of delight and wonder at what it sees. It feels with such intensity, fervor and ferocity that it is...
    SwanSongRebeL SwanSongRebeL 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 19

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    I am very emotionally closed off

    and find it close to impossible to let people get close. That's because I am aware of the fact that I have problems with people and I cannot expect others to accept my ways if I find them had to deal with myself. If I get pushed I can be rather destructive. I like people in...
    ultimatehacker ultimatehacker 26-30, M Oct 17

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    MissWorld33 MissWorld33 36-40, F 4 Responses May 24

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    Yeah. Ugh. Some of the people I've talked too

    on here are so rude. Don't message me stupid ****. Don't talk to me if you don't understand why I chose to not send or do certain stuff. Basically if you can't understand my personal view on something, don't message me.
    littleka littleka 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 17

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    i might be an open book

    and tell u all the past events in my life, as well as planned events. but that doesnt mean ive let u in. im very selective with who i let in on an emotional level. im like that with everyone.
    SadisticPsychoBitch SadisticPsychoBitch 31-35, F 6 Responses May 14

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    There have been times

    when I have allowed people to walk into my life and be friends with me very easily coz am generally that carefree and happy go lucky person who keeps his problems to himself.. But I suppose people stay with you as long as they see that you are happy go lucky and the moment they...
    uselessguy uselessguy 36-40, M 6 Responses Oct 31

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    Wanna Get Close?

    I am not too sure how it started, but my whole life, I have had a hard time letting people get close to me. If you were to meet me, you wouldn’t think so, I can talk to anyone about anything. I guess that is the difference of being personable and secretive. I find it hard to...
    Joneedslove Joneedslove 26-30, F 12 Responses Jul 6, 2013

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    I believe people come in

    and out of our lives for a reason. Each experience, good or bad is a lesson to be learnt,
    Seraphina31 Seraphina31 31-35, F 8 Responses Jun 2

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    Value....

    "A friend who understands your tears is much more valuable than a lot of friends who only know your smile." -- Sushan R Sharma
    SparkofHope SparkofHope 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 4, 2013

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    Trust me its not a quality I chose.

    Theres this kid who rides my bus; he lives one street over from me so we have the same stop. the other day he threw me for a complete circle when he popped into my seat; needless to say he figured out that my face is just that, a face i.e im not as bitchy as i appear. So now...
    CassieWithAnO CassieWithAnO 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 8

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    She Just Snuck Up On Me

    Like a new lust...she s l o w l y started out...smooth and silky, with ever so a subtle hint of sour cherry followed with a sophisticated spicy berry-esque draw...her effusive and fascinating bouquet drifted so quietly, wrapping herself completely around me...overwhelming my very...
    Ferric67 Ferric67 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    It's easy for me to be intimate with people I'm

    never going to see again. But with people I see myself having a future with? I'm very cautious about what I let them see about me. I let this guy in. I wouldn't have sex with him, and I know it made him want me more. That when we hung out, he wanted me there to lay next to when...
    Livvy2 Livvy2 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 8

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    I've always been a sweet heart

    but certain girls showed me reality and now I'm less patient with relationships. I know not all girls are the same, but it just becomes harder the more I run into girls that are stuck up and won't talk to me like a person. I try to be nice but to me it seems like they just like...
    elementnov elementnov 22-25, M 3 Responses Sep 25

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    It's difficult to soar like an eagle

    when you are surrounded by turkeys." Lesson to be learned from this? Choose your friends carefully...
    Rightherenow Rightherenow 26-30, M 4 Responses Oct 3

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    I don't trust easily.

    So when I tell you that ''I Trust You'', Please Don't Make Me Regret It.
    SecretiveLady SecretiveLady 18-21, F Jun 18

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    Glimpse Of What Might Be

    You touched my cheek and twisted my hair around your finger. You held my hand and kissed my lips softly. Your smile reaches your eyes and when you look at me it's sincere and I see how much you care. You put your arms around me and I feel safe, I feel protected. I close my eyes...
    Wurkoutgurl Wurkoutgurl 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 2, 2013

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    So I am writing this

    because I have tried over and over to write about myself . I just keep a lot private . I only have a few people I truly let in. I admire everybody here who can let go & express what they feel . Me on the other hand ; I always feel as I should write more ; but my own deep truths...
    LavenderTeal23 LavenderTeal23 31-35, F 3 Responses May 14

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    I am a bit antisocial.

    I'm quiet. Unless you talk to me first,I may not talk to you. Im not trying to be a snobby *****. I dont want to come off as cold or unfriendly. I am just too careful to enjoy myself. I dont want to let you in because I know how it feels to get hurt and as a stranger,you can do...
    ComplicatedGirl18 ComplicatedGirl18 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 10

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    I am sure lots of people can relate to this

    but I grew up in an emotionally abusive environment. My parents fought every single bloody day, screaming at each other, screaming at me and for the longest time I thought that was "normal" and that was what "love" and "marriage" was all about. For every 1 day we were happy or...
    thiswatermelonlovesme thiswatermelonlovesme 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 2

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