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I Am Very Selective When It Comes to Letting People Get Close

For anybody who has a hard time -really- opening up to people, because of past relationships or experiences.. 29,225 People

    To get close to someone,

    they must have thing in common with me, share similar goals and ideas, and set off a good aura. Uk, just that right kinda vibe
    ForeverJashinist ForeverJashinist 18-21, M 3 Responses Apr 4

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    I dont let many get close to me.

    .. Not because im snobbish or antisocial... Im just very guarded... Ive been hurt much in my life and i put up walls to protect that from happening... I used to be scared of letting people close not only to protect me but i was scared of what they would see.... The abuse... The...
    sunpea sunpea 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 28, 2014

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    Maybe it's because of

    where I am in my life, but right now I only seem to be able to make emotional space for people younger, more vulnerable, less worldly-wise than me. Though I often have to question whether my worldly wisdom really makes much difference in the grand scheme of things, or even...
    SlightlyDaft SlightlyDaft 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 4

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    Why so serious? Some people may think I am snob

    and serious person. Sometimes I am, sometimes I am just shy or tired. I might accelerate to extreme seriousness if needed. It's a useful thing at keeping unnecessary people away.
    JD0121 JD0121 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 22, 2014

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    Many people have used me

    or abused our friendship. So now I have very low trust, so people who want to pm me on ep; I won't be quick to reply or may not trust you at all at first. It's not your fault it's just me.
    shur09 shur09 13-15, F 4 Responses Jan 7

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    I have pushed a lot of potential friends away.

    My reason is because of lack of trust. I have a hard time letting people get too close to me. Betrayal is a big thing, and it hurts when one day you have a best friend and the next they won't pick up to talk with you. and you're left wondering, what did I do wrong. Takes too...
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 20

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    Wanna Get Close?

    I am not too sure how it started, but my whole life, I have had a hard time letting people get close to me. If you were to meet me, you wouldn’t think so, I can talk to anyone about anything. I guess that is the difference of being personable and secretive. I find it hard to...
    Joneedslove Joneedslove 26-30, F 11 Responses Jul 6, 2013

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    restored87 restored87 46-50, F 21 Responses Apr 4

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    Saras905 Saras905 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 5

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    I've been hurt a lot over the past few years

    so I've kind of closed myself off, But at the same time I've learned to read people according to their actions and I have to say that I'm pretty good at it. Because I've learned to read people, I've become really picky at who I let get close. You can count the people I trust...
    saeteurn saeteurn 22-25, M 1 Response Mar 28

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    XXimdeadinsideXX XXimdeadinsideXX 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 14

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    It probably would be nice to have a lot of

    people in my life but I've realized that you can't allow just anyone in your life without really getting to know them. A person may have some serious issues going on that can bring harm to you. You must know their character, background.. all that matters when I make a decision...
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 1, 2014

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    I'm gonna be real if I don't think we have

    anything in common or i think we just won't work I'll tell you straight up .
    Princeofnothing Princeofnothing 18-21, M 5 Responses Jan 22

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    I wonder if 'getting it' has to do with a

    common thread of understanding between two individuals? Sometimes people share the same woes which creates a natural bond. While other times, although they are compatible, there are things that people often can't fathom. People are often so quick to cast their opinions about...
    SmartSweet1 SmartSweet1 51-55, F 3 Responses Mar 1

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    Due to jerks. Who claim to care.

    But merely care for their needs. Not any others.
    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M 1 Response Apr 16

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    So I am writing this

    because I have tried over and over to write about myself . I just keep a lot private . I only have a few people I truly let in. I admire everybody here who can let go & express what they feel . Me on the other hand ; I always feel as I should write more ; but my own deep truths...
    LavenderTeal23 LavenderTeal23 31-35, F 3 Responses May 14, 2014

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    Value....

    "A friend who understands your tears is much more valuable than a lot of friends who only know your smile." -- Sushan R Sharma
    SparkofHope SparkofHope 46-50, F 2 Responses Oct 4, 2013

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    I met a girl a couple months ago

    and instantly I was crushing on her. She didn't have many friends and I wanted to make her feel comfortable around my friends and myself so that she would spend more time with me. I went out of my way to let her know that I cared about her and she took advantage of it. I've...
    RHpendragon RHpendragon 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 21

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    Wayward Stepped Right In.

    Shhhhhh, he reminds me. The world stills. My heart slowly hums. My blood finds its rhythm. My soul succumbs. The silence widens. Calming. Bends. We are just ripples in our own reflection. A paradox of echoing perfection. Footfalls, under moon lit sprawls. Casting down velvet...
    SilentBluemoon SilentBluemoon 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 29, 2013

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    Je Ne Regrette Rien

    Nobody has ever hurt me, not that i can recall. No one ever really made me feel betrayed either. I have never had my heart broken, how could I...I have never felt love, they way I would expect too...yet it seems that My ENTIRE family loves me. I have one younger sister, and...
    Ferric67 Ferric67 36-40, M 7 Responses Mar 16, 2012

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    I don't trust easily.

    So when I tell you that ''I Trust You'', Please Don't Make Me Regret It.
    SecretiveLady SecretiveLady 18-21, F Jun 18, 2014

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    I would say I have not always been like this.

    . It is just that no one really wants to get to know me. I swear I tried being open and not judge, but it just ends with the problem. No really cares about me because I'm to out there. So.. being quiet is the best thing for me to do. Because I can save the trouble...
    jellyrolls34 jellyrolls34 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 1

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    Its like this. when you stick your hand out

    and get bitten. you learn very quickly not to stick your hand out anymore. I've been "bitten" so many times by people who are supposed to love me. I pretty much decided not to let any one near me any more. i'm so skeptical of people when they are nice to me I automatically think...
    sweetpea6200 sweetpea6200 31-35, F 6 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    Don't let yourself with the people

    who adjust because you are gonna suffocate despite of everything.
    AlphaLion AlphaLion 22-25, M 4 Responses Mar 2

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    People...

    I assume that everyone at some point is going to hurt me in a really bad way. I never really had friends and after high school, I just kinda stopped talking to everyone. I'm 20 now. I don't have friends. I have people that I'll hang out with every once in a while but they're far...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 1, 2012

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    It is extremely difficult

    for me to open up to someone, and is quite rare that I ever really do. I am usually a very naturally trusting person, perhaps a bit naive, always giving the benefit of doubt, but at the same time I am selective of who I let in simply because I tend to over think about things and...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 15 Responses Mar 5

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    So selective in-fact,

    that I've got no one close and everyone far away. It gets tiring being alone. Oh woe is me. :p Maybe I should try harder to change my status of "alone and hurting because of it". But for what? So I can get screwed over? I know everyone's not out to hurt me, and I know you can't...
    ambivalentFriability ambivalentFriability 18-21 Apr 7

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    Don't Throw Your Pearls Before Swine

    Several months after my puppy dog Grace had been weaned, my children and I took her back so I could speak with the breeder and to visit her mother Sweet Pea. My dog was so excited to see her mother. She jumped all over her and licked her and did whatever she could to get her...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 7 Responses Oct 25, 2012

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    Ive been thru lots of hurt

    so its hard letting others in. I have to know you for a long time before I can trust you enough to let you get close to me as a friend.
    zzz1silentheart zzz1silentheart 18-21, M Apr 12

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    Trying to be, anyway.

    A lot of people want to get close to me on the basis of being able to rely on me for anything and everything, at any given time, and it doesn't work.
    GreenButtercup GreenButtercup 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    After my husband passed

    and everyone went away, only the true friends were left. I'm pretty content with the group of friends I have and am shy to bring new people close.
    mommyraquel mommyraquel 31-35 1 Response Feb 25

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    i might be an open book

    and tell u all the past events in my life, as well as planned events. but that doesnt mean ive let u in. im very selective with who i let in on an emotional level. im like that with everyone.
    SadisticPsychoBitch SadisticPsychoBitch 31-35, F 6 Responses May 14, 2014

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    I hate opening up to people

    and getting close to them and then they just leave.... Painful is what it is...
    Shoutittotheworld23 Shoutittotheworld23 26-30, M 3 Responses May 25, 2014

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    So it is painful when the two people

    who I have wanted to let in for years still don't want a relationship with me. I began not getting along with my parents in my teenage years (no surprise), but it didn't turn out to be a phase. I began realizing that my parents and I didn't have a very close relationship since I...
    Emsily Emsily 18-21, F Mar 11

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    Self-proclaimed loner?

    People generally don't like me..  It might be my presence ( I'm not the big, but two heads taller than most women of my age.. and they are all pretty skinny ), the look in my eyes, my strong will, the fact that I'm a smart-alec or that I'm not full blooded caucasian. So when...
    PinkBunnyProject PinkBunnyProject 22-25, F 6 Responses Nov 18, 2007

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    She Just Snuck Up On Me

    Like a new lust...she s l o w l y started out...smooth and silky, with ever so a subtle hint of sour cherry followed with a sophisticated spicy berry-esque draw...her effusive and fascinating bouquet drifted so quietly, wrapping herself completely around me...overwhelming my very...
    Ferric67 Ferric67 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    I'm selective with who I allow into my life

    because I no longer believe in relating to people on a superficial level. I've found with many that as soon as I start talking about anything spiritually-related, they tend to get this blank look on their face and sort of shut down. I'm required to interact with others just as...
    AKLady15 AKLady15 26-30, F 2 Responses May 23, 2014

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    So ya the title of this post says it all.

    Umm the reasons for are because I have been hurt and betrayed by lots of people in my life. Because of these things I don't just let anybody in and close to me, you have to earn my trust. You hurt me and I get rid of our friendship. Now I know that that can be the wrong way to...
    LittleMissCanada LittleMissCanada 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 5

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    I've only ever let three people in on the real

    me. no one else knows how I think or my opinions. As of late, the first one moved away. the second one dumped me for a good friend after giving her 3 years of my life and the third just completely abandoned me without a word of what happened. I feel like I have no one. of course...
    Joeyschnepel Joeyschnepel 22-25, M 2 Responses Feb 18

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    I absolutely trust no one in my life.

    No one. Everyday that goes by is another day I know I am bring used and manipulated. It makes me sick. I am so lonely. So very very very lonely for a real connection. For one person who can love me as much as they love them self.
    NotSoPerfect777 NotSoPerfect777 41-45, F 12 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    My heart Is a many faceted substance.

    While it slumbers, dark watchmen hold vigil. Their shields are stout, their manner fiercely protective.It becomes pliant and awakens scarcely. When it does, it feasts in a riot of delight and wonder at what it sees. It feels with such intensity, fervor and ferocity that it is...
    SwanSongRebeL SwanSongRebeL 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 19, 2014

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    Relationships

    I was hurt but the first girl I truly liked when I was 18 and since then I haven't been able to let anyone get close and all my relationships have ended up just being one night stands. Sometime I hate myself for doing it but I don't want to be hurt again; anyone have any ideas...
    JensonC JensonC 22-25, M 11 Responses Jan 23, 2012

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    I am usually very cautious about

    who I let into my life. I won't bore you with the back story, but I do not trust easily. It takes time for me to feel a level of friendship or intimacy. Every time I think I've moved past this, I'm proven wrong by the people I've chosen to let in. I always swear it will never...
    JARSMS JARSMS 36-40, F 6 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    I have to have some kind of connection with you

    before I let anyone in. Trust is very important to me.
    whyisitsohard44 whyisitsohard44 41-45, F 13 Responses May 19, 2014

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    it took me two years to find someone I'd let

    get close and the day before valentine's, she completely disappeared and now I don't know what to do. I want to chase after her but I don't know if it's the smart thing to do.
    Joeyschnepel Joeyschnepel 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 16

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    I have always had a hard time trusting

    that the people I "let in" truly have the intention of staying. As a consequence I tend to show them the exit before they have a chance to find it for themselves. When I think back I know that I've shut out a lot of good people and I do carry regret for any hurt it caused them...
    Bumblelion Bumblelion 31-35, M 4 Responses Apr 7

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