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I Am Very Selective When It Comes to Letting People Get Close

For anybody who has a hard time -really- opening up to people, because of past relationships or experiences.. 28,859 People

    Value....

    "A friend who understands your tears is much more valuable than a lot of friends who only know your smile." -- Sushan R Sharma
    SparkofHope SparkofHope 46-50, F 2 Responses Oct 4, 2013

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    I absolutely trust no one in my life.

    No one. Everyday that goes by is another day I know I am bring used and manipulated. It makes me sick. I am so lonely. So very very very lonely for a real connection. For one person who can love me as much as they love them self.
    NotSoPerfect777 NotSoPerfect777 41-45, F 12 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    I don't trust easily.

    So when I tell you that ''I Trust You'', Please Don't Make Me Regret It.
    SecretiveLady SecretiveLady 18-21, F Jun 18, 2014

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    Why so serious? Some people may think I am snob

    and serious person. Sometimes I am, sometimes I am just shy or tired. I might accelerate to extreme seriousness if needed. It's a useful thing at keeping unnecessary people away.
    JD0121 JD0121 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 22, 2014

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    I hate opening up to people

    and getting close to them and then they just leave.... Painful is what it is...
    Shoutittotheworld23 Shoutittotheworld23 26-30, M 3 Responses May 25, 2014

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    keliscc11 keliscc11 26-30, F Dec 30, 2014

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    Saras905 Saras905 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 5

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    Relationships

    I was hurt but the first girl I truly liked when I was 18 and since then I haven't been able to let anyone get close and all my relationships have ended up just being one night stands. Sometime I hate myself for doing it but I don't want to be hurt again; anyone have any ideas...
    JensonC JensonC 22-25, M 11 Responses Jan 23, 2012

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    Its like this. when you stick your hand out

    and get bitten. you learn very quickly not to stick your hand out anymore. I've been "bitten" so many times by people who are supposed to love me. I pretty much decided not to let any one near me any more. i'm so skeptical of people when they are nice to me I automatically think...
    sweetpea6200 sweetpea6200 31-35, F 6 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    I am usually very cautious about

    who I let into my life. I won't bore you with the back story, but I do not trust easily. It takes time for me to feel a level of friendship or intimacy. Every time I think I've moved past this, I'm proven wrong by the people I've chosen to let in. I always swear it will never...
    scorpio1106 scorpio1106 36-40, F 7 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    I'm selective with who I allow into my life

    because I no longer believe in relating to people on a superficial level. I've found with many that as soon as I start talking about anything spiritually-related, they tend to get this blank look on their face and sort of shut down. I'm required to interact with others just as...
    AKLady15 AKLady15 26-30, F 2 Responses May 23, 2014

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    Wanna Get Close?

    I am not too sure how it started, but my whole life, I have had a hard time letting people get close to me. If you were to meet me, you wouldn’t think so, I can talk to anyone about anything. I guess that is the difference of being personable and secretive. I find it hard to...
    Joneedslove Joneedslove 26-30, F 11 Responses Jul 6, 2013

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    kristiniacc11 kristiniacc11 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Don't Throw Your Pearls Before Swine

    Several months after my puppy dog Grace had been weaned, my children and I took her back so I could speak with the breeder and to visit her mother Sweet Pea. My dog was so excited to see her mother. She jumped all over her and licked her and did whatever she could to get her...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 7 Responses Oct 25, 2012

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    I have to have some kind of connection with you

    before I let anyone in. Trust is very important to me.
    whyisitsohard44 whyisitsohard44 41-45, F 15 Responses May 19, 2014

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    Call me paranoid, but u don't trust people.

    People are mean. People are two faced. People will hurt you. People will most likely try to rob you of money, happiness and dignity. I have a very smart conscience. I call her by my own name, and yes she is female. If I feel someone has anterior motives in the first 5 seconds of...
    Passionfruit101 Passionfruit101 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 25, 2014

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    Have you ever seen a beautiful lady

    or a handsome guy at the bus stop or wherever, and thought, " man, I'd be the luckiest person to have him/her in my life!", not knowing how he/ she really is?..... you should always remember, that the dish looks more appetizing when you ain't the one having it.
    razac2 razac2 22-25, M 5 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    Follow up from earlier today; Lunch was

    wonderful with my foster mom. it wasn't awkward though, I did cry when she drove away. But I didn't let her see. As angry as I still may be with her its hard to see her go. I still love her. I mean, she raised me. She called me Babygirl when we were saying goodbye and I think...
    Minnowshi Minnowshi 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    Wayward Stepped Right In.

    Shhhhhh, he reminds me. The world stills. My heart slowly hums. My blood finds its rhythm. My soul succumbs. The silence widens. Calming. Bends. We are just ripples in our own reflection. A paradox of echoing perfection. Footfalls, under moon lit sprawls. Casting down velvet...
    SilentBluemoon SilentBluemoon 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 29, 2013

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    I met a girl a couple months ago

    and instantly I was crushing on her. She didn't have many friends and I wanted to make her feel comfortable around my friends and myself so that she would spend more time with me. I went out of my way to let her know that I cared about her and she took advantage of it. I've...
    RHpendragon RHpendragon 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 21

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    I have pushed a lot of potential friends away.

    My reason is because of lack of trust. I have a hard time letting people get too close to me. Betrayal is a big thing, and it hurts when one day you have a best friend and the next they won't pick up to talk with you. and you're left wondering, what did I do wrong. Takes too...
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 5 Responses Feb 20

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    I am very selective when it comes to this,

    yet I am here. It's a paradox.
    Nakedness8 Nakedness8 41-45, M 3 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    Don't let yourself with the people

    who adjust because you are gonna suffocate despite of everything.
    AlphaLion AlphaLion 22-25, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Taverncraft, a extra of 3 Aspect Entertainment, just announced that they have just engaged some new "Legendary Collection" Steins to their Hand-crafted Stein Selection. Extremely enough, Indicate Berkwits, the Promotion Manager of 3 Aspect.By the way,you can login RS Gold to...
    zhuanghan zhuanghan 22-25, F Nov 25, 2014

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    XXimdeadinsideXX XXimdeadinsideXX 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 14

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    I've only ever let three people in on the real

    me. no one else knows how I think or my opinions. As of late, the first one moved away. the second one dumped me for a good friend after giving her 3 years of my life and the third just completely abandoned me without a word of what happened. I feel like I have no one. of course...
    Joeyschnepel Joeyschnepel 22-25, M 2 Responses Feb 18

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    I recently got out of an abusive relationship

    and I have trust issues to begin with. Unfortunately, the relationship made them worse. I'm not interested in a relationship and it may be awhile. I want to trust people, and I know not everyone is the same, but I don't know how to let my guard down.
    TheWicked TheWicked 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 2

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    it took me two years to find someone I'd let

    get close and the day before valentine's, she completely disappeared and now I don't know what to do. I want to chase after her but I don't know if it's the smart thing to do.
    Joeyschnepel Joeyschnepel 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 16

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    She Just Snuck Up On Me

    Like a new lust...she s l o w l y started out...smooth and silky, with ever so a subtle hint of sour cherry followed with a sophisticated spicy berry-esque draw...her effusive and fascinating bouquet drifted so quietly, wrapping herself completely around me...overwhelming my very...
    Ferric67 Ferric67 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    It's true. I've been hurt a lot.

    I'm afraid if I let someone get too close they'll eventually leave.
    Kayleer18 Kayleer18 18-21, F Feb 8, 2014

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    My heart Is a many faceted substance.

    While it slumbers, dark watchmen hold vigil. Their shields are stout, their manner fiercely protective.It becomes pliant and awakens scarcely. When it does, it feasts in a riot of delight and wonder at what it sees. It feels with such intensity, fervor and ferocity that it is...
    SwanSongRebeL SwanSongRebeL 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 19, 2014

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    I dont let many get close to me.

    .. Not because im snobbish or antisocial... Im just very guarded... Ive been hurt much in my life and i put up walls to protect that from happening... I used to be scared of letting people close not only to protect me but i was scared of what they would see.... The abuse... The...
    sunpea sunpea 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 28, 2014

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    Selective To My Detriment?

    I tend to be very selective when it comes to who I let close to me in a very real way. I am very open about myself, but it takes a long time to understand me, what I have accomplished, been through, learned, etc. I often find people who have such preconceptions of who I am, based...
    SailN SailN 46-50, M 4 Responses Apr 24, 2013

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    Self-proclaimed loner?

    People generally don't like me..  It might be my presence ( I'm not the big, but two heads taller than most women of my age.. and they are all pretty skinny ), the look in my eyes, my strong will, the fact that I'm a smart-alec or that I'm not full blooded caucasian. So when...
    PinkBunnyProject PinkBunnyProject 22-25, F 6 Responses Nov 18, 2007

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    Not sure why but I guard my heart fiercely

    but can love/care deeply once you reach it :)
    minnadt minnadt 46-50, M 3 Responses Nov 29, 2014

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    My first foster mom that I lived with

    for 16 years gave me up 3 years ago 2 weeks before Christmas leaving me homeless. We didn't separate on good terms but over the last few years I've grown to forgive. And we've found we're better as friends than as mother and daughter. I'm seeing her for the second time since the...
    Minnowshi Minnowshi 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 2

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    I wonder if 'getting it' has to do with a

    common thread of understanding between two individuals? Sometimes people share the same woes which creates a natural bond. While other times, although they are compatible, there are things that people often can't fathom. People are often so quick to cast their opinions about...
    SmartSweet1 SmartSweet1 51-55, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Selectively Social? It really sounds like a

    douchey term, but I'd usually prefer to keep my circles small. Even then, I want to be able to get to know some one. It's a reason I don't make too much an effort to show off on social media be it here, Facebook, whatever. I'm not one to make and break friendships on a whim...I...
    RoddyB7589 RoddyB7589 16-17, M 2 Responses Dec 26, 2014

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    I'm gonna be real if I don't think we have

    anything in common or i think we just won't work I'll tell you straight up .
    Princeofnothing Princeofnothing 18-21, M 5 Responses Jan 22

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    Many people have used me

    or abused our friendship. So now I have very low trust, so people who want to pm me on ep; I won't be quick to reply or may not trust you at all at first. It's not your fault it's just me.
    shur09 shur09 13-15, F 4 Responses Jan 7

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    Trying to be, anyway.

    A lot of people want to get close to me on the basis of being able to rely on me for anything and everything, at any given time, and it doesn't work.
    GreenButtercup GreenButtercup 36-40, F Jan 4

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    Im very selective when it comes to my friends.

    In the past i used to be cool with almost everyone at my school. Now that im older (16), i come to realize that not everyone is your friend. There are some people i look at now and in my head im like"Wow was i reallyyy friends with this b!tch". People need to open their eyes...
    stacy0508 stacy0508 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 2, 2014

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    After being pretty much used by pretty much

    every ******* guy I ever cared for (except maybe 2 or 3) and being betrayed by every female I have called friends except 2. Yes I am very guarded.
    ImJustJen ImJustJen 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 5, 2014

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    People...

    I assume that everyone at some point is going to hurt me in a really bad way. I never really had friends and after high school, I just kinda stopped talking to everyone. I'm 20 now. I don't have friends. I have people that I'll hang out with every once in a while but they're far...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 1, 2012

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    i might be an open book

    and tell u all the past events in my life, as well as planned events. but that doesnt mean ive let u in. im very selective with who i let in on an emotional level. im like that with everyone.
    SadisticPsychoBitch SadisticPsychoBitch 31-35, F 6 Responses May 14, 2014

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    Iam in a situation where I have a partner

    which is a female for 6 yrs that I have trust issues I love her, but she lies about even small things , because she doesn't like conformation .Our biggest issue is who's the boss .Technically speaking! The problem is that I let her handle things and they fall apart and IHave...
    tkgb1 tkgb1 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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