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I Am Very Selective When It Comes to Letting People Get Close

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    I just posted a rant on a group "I Need To

    Vent" & they wouldn't let it post, cuz I was sharing about how frustrated I feel regarding all the guys who are trying to hit on me here... And I was specific about the things they've said & how much it ****** me off... And I cussed a lot. *Anyway, just thought I'd throw out...
    AdoraGel AdoraGel 31-35, F 7 Responses Jun 11

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    I'm a walking contradiction.

    I want to be alone but I don't want to be lonely. I want closeness but I'm afraid to let the walls down. I want to share my secrets but I don't want to give you access to my soul. I want more than anything to trust you but I cannot allow you to find the chink in my armor...
    marladurden13 marladurden13 41-45, F 13 Responses Jun 27

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    I need to be able to trust someone first off

    and get to know them. I need to know that they have a kind heart despite what issues they have and won't hurt me. If you have those three things i will let you close and eventually into my life. I have only ever met a few, but I care for those few with all my heart.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 17

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    I absolutely trust no one in my life.

    No one. Everyday that goes by is another day I know I am bring used and manipulated. It makes me sick. I am so lonely. So very very very lonely for a real connection. For one person who can love me as much as they love them self.
    NotSoPerfect777 NotSoPerfect777 41-45, F 12 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    I am not selective at all.

    I flat out don't do it.
    StudCanadian StudCanadian 16-17, M 3 Responses Jul 18

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    kimcc11 kimcc11 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    I have never fully felt like someone has ever

    excepted me for who I am. I have few friends and that's about it really. I date people but most never make an effort to really know me it like at some point it became a thing to no ask questiona. I want to find that person friend pen pal or what ever , that could be on the end...
    peachpie88 peachpie88 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 3

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    Different people awaken different beasts in you.

    . These beasts destroyed different walls of yours.. But beasts know no boundaries.. The destruction didn't stop at the walls.. The damages are on you too.. So new walls are built.. I have regrets in my walls, they entered through the front gate.. Sauntered on the red carpet...
    FaitAccomp1i FaitAccomp1i 70+, M 7 Responses Feb 12

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    I want a relationship like Gomez

    and Morticia Addams.
    missmaymay missmaymay 18-21, F 5 Responses May 31

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    She Just Snuck Up On Me

    Like a new lust...she s l o w l y started out...smooth and silky, with ever so a subtle hint of sour cherry followed with a sophisticated spicy berry-esque draw...her effusive and fascinating bouquet drifted so quietly, wrapping herself completely around me...overwhelming my very...
    Ferric67 Ferric67 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    amelcc11 amelcc11 26-30, F Aug 3

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    Je Ne Regrette Rien

    Nobody has ever hurt me, not that i can recall. No one ever really made me feel betrayed either. I have never had my heart broken, how could I...I have never felt love, they way I would expect too...yet it seems that My ENTIRE family loves me. I have one younger sister, and...
    Ferric67 Ferric67 36-40, M 7 Responses Mar 16, 2012

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    In time their "truth" comes out.

    ...sometimes if we just sit back and wait...dont jump, we know who we can mix and mongle with and who we cant. Just sit and observe before jumping on any offers from them that seem like an awesome deal. The awesome deal handed to you on a platter....but there is a price...the...
    lifealwayschanges lifealwayschanges 41-45, F 8 Responses Aug 20

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    chriscc11 chriscc11 26-30, F Jul 21

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    Sometimes I feel like people in general only

    want to date me because they like the idea of having a girlfriend rather than me myself..I'm kinda glad I've taken a break.
    AlexisOwO AlexisOwO 18-21, F 6 Responses Jul 20

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    I used to be that girl

    that could make anyone feel like we were best friends. Not anymore. Those days are long gone.
    ladysapio ladysapio 22-25, F 6 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    to nito: i appreciate u reaching out

    but it still had to be on my terms. at first, i thought i was being too firm but i ferl ive earned the right to have My recovery on My terms. these last few years have been no crystal stair. and i have to show patience and generosity to myself. i cant be rushed or pressured...
    spinsterC spinsterC 41-45, F 1 day ago

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    Choose the guy or girl

    who brings you to meet his or her parents, not his or her bedroom.
    Brunette4U Brunette4U 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 14

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    Especially a girl. She can use you

    for her own needs, or reject you after you do whatever she wanted. It's why I try not to be overly nice to any girl. The same applies for guys but in a different way.
    StudCanadian StudCanadian 16-17, M 4 Responses Aug 8

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    I felt safe. So safe.

    Once again, I felt safe to share my thoughts & feelings, just as I am. No filter, no social structured politeness, just pure expression & need. And he listened. He listened so well. Now I feel violated. So violated. Once again, I experience feeling violated Just Because...
    AdoraGel AdoraGel 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 3

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    To get close to someone,

    they must have thing in common with me, share similar goals and ideas, and set off a good aura. Uk, just that right kinda vibe
    ForeverJashinist ForeverJashinist 18-21, M 3 Responses Apr 4

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    I am very particular about the type of people I

    let into my heart and mind.??
    RealmRunner RealmRunner 22-25, F 1 Response a week ago

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    So. I don't really know

    where to start. And I'm not gonna spill a whole bunch of feelings here. I just need someone to talk to, I'm really confused and upset and just really not feeling the greatest.
    cassassy101 cassassy101 16-17, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I believe people come in

    and out of our lives for a reason. Each experience, good or bad is a lesson to be learnt,
    Seraphina31 Seraphina31 31-35, F 7 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    I've always been selective with whom I am truly

    friends with. It's just the way I am. I've been burned in the past and so it's just easier not to let someone in.
    TeaAndReading TeaAndReading 26-30, F Aug 8

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    I wish there was a dating site/app just to find

    friends or people with common interests in your area. Is that weird? Since moving back home from college I haven't been able to hang out with anyone my age. It probably wouldn't work. Most people are so pre-occupied with sex when they go online, it'd probably just end up...
    littlemissdazed littlemissdazed 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 8

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    I think it's because I never feel like I'm good

    enough. And if people know me, they really wouldn't like me at all. For that matter, I don't even like my attitude sometimes....a lot of the time. I just have so much work to do on myself, it feels overwhelming. Then the flip side is saying, let it go, life is a journey, things...
    boobaloo22 boobaloo22 36-40, M 3 Responses a week ago

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    I used to be a very forgiving

    and trusting person. Too trusting, even. I used to fall in love hard, and get all these intense emotions for my significant other(s). That is, until "she" came along. It was my junior year of high school, and this new transfer came in from another school. She was gorgeous- half...
    A7SH A7SH 18-21, M 3 Responses Aug 2

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    earthlingcc11 earthlingcc11 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    It's just how it is when you have been burned

    so many times you lose trust in people.
    Booksaremypassion Booksaremypassion 41-45, F 8 Responses a week ago

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    I dont let many get close to me.

    .. Not because im snobbish or antisocial... Im just very guarded... Ive been hurt much in my life and i put up walls to protect that from happening... I used to be scared of letting people close not only to protect me but i was scared of what they would see.... The abuse... The...
    sunpea sunpea 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 28, 2014

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    I am selective because I had to learn the hard

    way that trusting blinding will get you crushed mercilessly.
    MsIdiosyncrasy0 MsIdiosyncrasy0 22-25, F Aug 8

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    I have self-respect. I don't want your attention

    if you only- want it when it's convenient and I don't want you to expect me to give you my 100% attention when it's not returned. I don't want a relationship where I have to basically "wait for my turn" to talk to you because you like "juggling" relationships with people ect ect...
    collegegirl64 collegegirl64 18-21, F 14 Responses 3 days ago

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    I don't trust easily.

    So when I tell you that ''I Trust You'', Please Don't Make Me Regret It.
    SecretiveLady SecretiveLady 18-21, F Jun 18, 2014

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    I am and when I do it means something big.

    I usually end up getting hurt, especially when I am trusting and want to let someone into the biggest part of my life, my daughter Jaelynn. Still unable to go see her, sitting outside the cemetery welling up and losing it emotionally. So many thoughts, memories, and visions...
    Kman4You Kman4You 36-40, M 3 Responses May 31

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    Its like this. when you stick your hand out

    and get bitten. you learn very quickly not to stick your hand out anymore. I've been "bitten" so many times by people who are supposed to love me. I pretty much decided not to let any one near me any more. i'm so skeptical of people when they are nice to me I automatically think...
    suthrngal suthrngal 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 30

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    amelcc11 amelcc11 26-30, F Aug 3

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    whitesunshine87 whitesunshine87 51-55, F 20 Responses Apr 4

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    Not only am I afraid of getting hurt

    but im afraid of hurting others. I am complicated, easily misunderstood, reserved and i get disinterested in people quickly. If a relationship or friendship does not meet my standards instead of nurturing it so that it can develop and grow I drop it like a hot potato. So until...
    15ShadesOfBlue 15ShadesOfBlue 16-17, F 4 Responses May 18

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    Reason why I have many friends

    but not a best friend... As long as theres more than 1 box unticked, you'll just be a "friend". And betrayal = Enemies
    AnnelieseChristine AnnelieseChristine 13-15, F 1 Response a week ago

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    It probably would be nice to have a lot of

    people in my life but I've realized that you can't allow just anyone in your life without really getting to know them. A person may have some serious issues going on that can bring harm to you. You must know their character, background.. all that matters when I make a decision...
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 1, 2014

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    People might think that I have too much pride

    or I consider myself superior. But that's not how it is. I just want to surround myself with good hearted, moral, loyal and smart people who I can share meaningful things with and have both hilarious and real deep conversations with. That's the perfect kind of environment.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 25

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    I have been working on this one lately.

    I am learning now more and more when to back-up from people when they give these hidden signs and gesture. It is a saying, "If you get bit by a snake once it is his fault." "If you get bit twice it is yours!"
    Babeondwy Babeondwy 41-45, F 3 days ago

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    i might be an open book

    and tell u all the past events in my life, as well as planned events. but that doesnt mean ive let u in. im very selective with who i let in on an emotional level. im like that with everyone.
    SadisticPsychoBitch SadisticPsychoBitch 31-35, F 6 Responses May 14, 2014

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    Why so serious? Some people may think I am snob

    and serious person. Sometimes I am, sometimes I am just shy or tired. I might accelerate to extreme seriousness if needed. It's a useful thing at keeping unnecessary people away.
    JD0121 JD0121 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 22, 2014

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