I Am Very Selective When It Comes to Letting People Get Close

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    It's hard for me to directly tell people I care

    about them. But believing them if they said they cared, too, would be so much scarier. There is a lot more risk involved in the latter, I think.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Nov 27, 2015

    Not only am I afraid of getting hurt

    but im afraid of hurting others. I am complicated, easily misunderstood, reserved and i get disinterested in people quickly. If a relationship or friendship does not meet my standards instead of nurturing it so that it can develop and grow I drop it like a hot potato. So until...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses May 18, 2015

    Some may say that I have trust issues.

    I trust some people with various things, such as my life, being around my kids, etc. I just don't trust anyone (excluding my little ones) with my emotions. I'm a "wear your heart on the sleeve" type. I give my all. But, if someone wrongs me, its hard for me to overcome that. So...
    thesilentchef thesilentchef
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 8

    I want a relationship like Gomez

    and Morticia Addams.
    missmaymay missmaymay
    22-25, F
    4 Responses May 31, 2015

    When it's not you who they want,

    it's abundantly clear, am I right? if I'm wrong, I need to know. Thoughts??
    TearsWW TearsWW
    36-40, F
    7 Responses Jul 4, 2015

    I am careful about letting people close

    because once I care about you, I care about you. I have a hell of a time trying to uncare about some one. It just doesn't work like that for me. So I would rather triple check than be trying to fix my mistake.
    QueenVen QueenVen
    16-17, F
    Jan 25

    I'm the type of person

    who will always care about you. It doesn't matter what you've done to me, how badly you've hurt me, or how far we've drifted apart - a part of me will always care about you. I still love friends I haven't spoken to in decades. I still love lovers who treated me like I was...
    AmayaTsuki AmayaTsuki
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jan 20

    I hate opening up to people

    and getting close to them and then they just leave.... Painful is what it is...
    Shoutittotheworld23 Shoutittotheworld23
    26-30, M
    3 Responses May 25, 2014

    I have self-respect. I don't want your attention

    if you only- want it when it's convenient and I don't want you to expect me to give you my 100% attention when it's not returned. I don't want a relationship where I have to basically "wait for my turn" to talk to you because you like "juggling" relationships with people ect ect...
    DianasaurusRexxx DianasaurusRexxx
    18-21, F
    10 Responses Sep 1, 2015

    I am a laid back, friendly

    and outgoing woman and yes sometimes naughty. Yes, I am real and I'm honest about what I say about myself. However, when it comes opening up to someone about who I am, my past, what I've been through in my life, my likes and dislikes and other things I choose to share, that...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    10 Responses Sep 25, 2015

    I believe people come in

    and out of our lives for a reason. Each experience, good or bad is a lesson to be learnt,
    Seraphina31 Seraphina31
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Jun 2, 2014

    Is anyone else like this.

    . Ive had a roomate for almost a year now in my mom's house (shes 17 I'm 16) and I've only talked to her a few times ..and they were only while I was high and I'm still not very close with her
    lisaisasil lisaisasil
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Nov 27, 2015

    I've always been torn between wanting to tell

    my story to everyone and let them know exactly what's in my head or keeping it to myself. The problem is being outwardly unhappy and consistently so pushes people away, no matter if they say they're always there for you, there's only so much a person can take. On the other...
    MissQueenB MissQueenB
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Mar 2

    Different people awaken different beasts in you.

    . These beasts destroyed different walls of yours.. But beasts know no boundaries.. The destruction didn't stop at the walls.. The damages are on you too.. So new walls are built.. I have regrets in my walls, they entered through the front gate.. Sauntered on the red carpet...
    FaitAccomp1i FaitAccomp1i
    70+, M
    5 Responses Feb 12, 2015

    Because once i give them my trust

    and my heart, they smash it into a million pieces. I'm sick and tired of being let down by people who I think are good friends, so they can just end up abandoning me in the long run. There's no way I can let anyone get close to me, I can't be hurt any further otherwise, I'll be...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Feb 25

    LadyHeartnMind LadyHeartnMind
    31-35, F
    Nov 3, 2015

    I try to be very careful

    when meeting new people. Don't like getting attached. Attachments mean you'll get hurt after a while
    Ariannaaaaa Ariannaaaaa
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 15

    To be honest i have alot of friends still do

    but only really try to keep in touch with only two ive a female friend and a male. Good mix eh anyways trust them two alot i help them they help me in a big way, We click like lego bricks
    Kripper252 Kripper252
    26-30
    2 Responses Feb 12

    Sometimes you just get "that feeling" about

    some people, and though they may not fall in love with you, you can still trust them.
    lifealwayschanges lifealwayschanges
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jul 17, 2015

    It is a trust thing and a lot of people have

    hurt my feelings over the years.
    AdriiaValise AdriiaValise
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Feb 8

    I've been ditched one too many times

    and encountered too many people who turned out to be bad eggs for me to become so easily comfortable with people anymore. I'm still open to making new friends but now I make sure that I'm becoming friends with the right people. People who are genuinely interested in being my...
    CarverReturns CarverReturns
    22-25, F
    Feb 29

    I'm a loner and get kinda lonely from time to

    time but my problem is that most people either bore me or **** me off. Like I don't know what to do? How do I find people that don't do either of those things?
    paintdeath paintdeath
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 8, 2015

    just admit you ****** up

    and let's move on
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Mar 26

    I like keeping my life private

    so I talk about college, hobbies, and anything that pertains to the current situation offline in person. On the other hand, I self-disclose some personal information about my life online anonymously. I also write journals almost daily by hand or typed on my laptop that I don't...
    joahola98wj joahola98wj
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 17
    Mollywolly92 Mollywolly92
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Oct 25, 2015

    Too many people in these days suffer from

    emotional divorces from temporary relationships....be careful how much of yourself and who you share yourself with.
    BeautifullyBrokenAngel BeautifullyBrokenAngel
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jan 6

    Every single person I've opened up to winds up

    ignoring me. Like, the **** I tell you is personal. I don't wanna tell you. If I do, I feel comfortable with you. People just suck sometimes.
    ExploreroftheUnknown ExploreroftheUnknown
    18-21, M
    9 Responses Jan 9

    Well yes because i trust no one.

    .its not coz of some personal bad experience..i just cant let people in..i am very vary of human ..i dont know why but i always am afraid that something bad will happen..cant really explain😅😅!
    FarihaKhan FarihaKhan
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 9

    Another day, another person soon to leave my

    life. As I am sure you have experienced, people come and go into ones life. I struggle with letting people in, close to my heart, close to my thoughts, when we fully know that whatever ship this is that we have embarked on, every journey inevitably comes to an end, and with...
    itscake itscake
    22-25, F
    Jan 26

    Those who are heartless,

    once cared too much. -Unkown
    AmayaTsuki AmayaTsuki
    26-30, F
    1 Response Oct 6, 2015

    Sometimes..wondering i wish i could meet someone

    who i don't need to hold back my feelings and can totally just being me in front of you. i don't need to put ''mask'' in front of you. Love shouldn't be like a Job or Volunteer. It's like a ship..we chose our favorite ship but if we are both bad driver,fail.. as long as we can...
    genjiipiexx genjiipiexx
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Mar 8

    Yes. I am. Sometimes almost too much so.

    I am glad someone here got beyond that. I will always be glad. He makes me smile. Thank you EP. Although , I am sad to see that soon you will turn the lights off here one final time and no one else will again experience something the way I did within these halls I am...
    rainydaywriter rainydaywriter
    46-50, F
    Mar 27

    It is extremely difficult

    for me to open up to someone, and is quite rare that I ever really do. I am usually a very naturally trusting person, perhaps a bit naive, always giving the benefit of doubt, but at the same time I am selective of who I let in simply because I tend to over think about things and...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77
    31-35, F
    11 Responses Mar 5, 2015

    I am and when I do it means something big.

    I usually end up getting hurt, especially when I am trusting and want to let someone into the biggest part of my life, my daughter Jaelynn. Still unable to go see her, sitting outside the cemetery welling up and losing it emotionally. So many thoughts, memories, and visions...
    Kman4You Kman4You
    36-40, M
    2 Responses May 31, 2015

    I just posted a rant on a group "I Need To

    Vent" & they wouldn't let it post, cuz I was sharing about how frustrated I feel regarding all the guys who are trying to hit on me here... And I was specific about the things they've said & how much it ****** me off... And I cussed a lot. *Anyway, just thought I'd throw out...
    AdoraGel AdoraGel
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Jun 11, 2015

    i might be an open book

    and tell u all the past events in my life, as well as planned events. but that doesnt mean ive let u in. im very selective with who i let in on an emotional level. im like that with everyone.
    SadisticPsychoBitch SadisticPsychoBitch
    31-35, F
    6 Responses May 14, 2014

    She Just Snuck Up On Me

    Like a new lust...she s l o w l y started out...smooth and silky, with ever so a subtle hint of sour cherry followed with a sophisticated spicy berry-esque draw...her effusive and fascinating bouquet drifted so quietly, wrapping herself completely around me...overwhelming my very...
    Ferric67 Ferric67
    36-40, M
    3 Responses Apr 24, 2012

    I have never fully felt like someone has ever

    excepted me for who I am. I have few friends and that's about it really. I date people but most never make an effort to really know me it like at some point it became a thing to no ask questiona. I want to find that person friend pen pal or what ever , that could be on the end...
    peachpie88 peachpie88
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Jun 3, 2015

    As a kid I was very quiet,

    shy, and reserved. I preferred staying in reading than going out with kids from school, though I did always have at least one or two good friends. In college I thought, this doesn't seem normal, maybe I should try to be more outgoing, maybe I should make more friends and party...
    arailia03 arailia03
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Oct 3, 2015

    Yessir, I am extremely selective!

    I am not for everyone, and everyone is not for me. If anyone can have it, I do not want it. Good day!
    GlitzandGlamber GlitzandGlamber
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Mar 6

    Why so serious? Some people may think I am snob

    and serious person. Sometimes I am, sometimes I am just shy or tired. I might accelerate to extreme seriousness if needed. It's a useful thing at keeping unnecessary people away.
    JD0121 JD0121
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Aug 22, 2014

    I don't know why people send me messages

    and expect me to carry the conversation. If you read my profile, you'll know that I detest small talk and that I won't open up to you easily. If you truly want to get to know me, it'll take some effort on your part. It's only after we've developed a connection that I'll be more...
    AmayaTsuki AmayaTsuki
    26-30, F
    9 Responses Sep 15, 2015

    Getting attached to people easily

    and thinking everyone was my friend has gotten my feelings hurt and made me realize who was actually there for me. I can be a nice ******* person if people only just loan me their ear or treat me right instead of someone that gets on their nerves or when they need something and...
    PetiteChica PetiteChica
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 26

    In time their "truth" comes out.

    ...sometimes if we just sit back and wait...dont jump, we know who we can mix and mongle with and who we cant. Just sit and observe before jumping on any offers from them that seem like an awesome deal. The awesome deal handed to you on a platter....but there is a price...the...
    lifealwayschanges lifealwayschanges
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Aug 20, 2015

    I've been accused of being aloof

    and disinterested-more often than I would care to admit. As is normal practice, when getting to know someone there is a degree of letting them have a small piece of yourself. Whether it's a smile, an anecdote or your life story, they take something of you away with them. I...
    Saintlysinner Saintlysinner
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Oct 31, 2015

    Sometimes I feel like people in general only

    want to date me because they like the idea of having a girlfriend rather than me myself..I'm kinda glad I've taken a break.
    AlexisOwO AlexisOwO
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Jul 20, 2015

    Recently I received a private message from

    someone demanding to know why I don't reply to others responses to my postings more often. I rarely do. As much as I post if I replied to everyone I would do almost nothing else. I'm sorry but most frequently I'll only reply to those I have a prior relationship with. This is not...
    savoy2 savoy2
    46-50, M
    1 Response Nov 27, 2015

    Sex Is amazing and I love it!

    !! however a relationship is not all about sex. Right?
    3rdday 3rdday
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Dec 11, 2015

    i am a huge contradiction

    when it comes to this topic. yes i am selective with who i share my personal life with but at the same time i am an open book and will discuss most things if asked about it. i guess for me getting to know someone on a more emotional/deeper level is where i am selective with...
    shecanonlydream shecanonlydream
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Feb 2

    I have one close person

    that has been with me through it all He is the only one i can tell everything to without the fear of being judged .. I can tell him everything and anything.I dont know what i would do without him .. He is a very special existence to me.. And I can never sleep a...
    M00ah M00ah
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Sep 5, 2015

    What I have dealt with in relationships

    and friendships has caused me to become leery of getting to know more people. I have been through some truly crazy **** and cannot handle much more, so I am cautious about who I choose to let into my life.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 3, 2015

    Je Ne Regrette Rien

    Nobody has ever hurt me, not that i can recall. No one ever really made me feel betrayed either. I have never had my heart broken, how could I...I have never felt love, they way I would expect too...yet it seems that My ENTIRE family loves me. I have one younger sister, and...
    Ferric67 Ferric67
    36-40, M
    6 Responses Mar 16, 2012

    I'm a walking contradiction.

    I want to be alone but I don't want to be lonely. I want closeness but I'm afraid to let the walls down. I want to share my secrets but I don't want to give you access to my soul. I want more than anything to trust you but I cannot allow you to find the chink in my armor...
    marladurden13 marladurden13
    41-45, F
    11 Responses Jun 27, 2015

    This is my story...every bit of it is true.

    This is MY life... No one knows how I felt, how I lived it...but me. All those bittersweet memories....are forever marked through my smiles, through my salty tears in the shower, through the papers that say who I am. Wherever I go....I AM ME because of this story. I never...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jan 20
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