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I Am Very Selective When It Comes to Letting People Get Close

For anybody who has a hard time -really- opening up to people, because of past relationships or experiences.. 29,708 People

    sweetcandycane99 sweetcandycane99 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 5

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    Why so serious? Some people may think I am snob

    and serious person. Sometimes I am, sometimes I am just shy or tired. I might accelerate to extreme seriousness if needed. It's a useful thing at keeping unnecessary people away.
    JD0121 JD0121 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 22, 2014

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    I'm a walking contradiction.

    I want to be alone but I don't want to be lonely. I want closeness but I'm afraid to let the walls down. I want to share my secrets but I don't want to give you access to my soul. I want more than anything to trust you but I cannot allow you to find the chink in my armor...
    marladurden13 marladurden13 41-45, F 15 Responses a week ago

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    Relationships

    I was hurt but the first girl I truly liked when I was 18 and since then I haven't been able to let anyone get close and all my relationships have ended up just being one night stands. Sometime I hate myself for doing it but I don't want to be hurt again; anyone have any ideas...
    JensonC JensonC 22-25, M 11 Responses Jan 23, 2012

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    This is very true of me,

    cannot be too careful!
    Jhayne8 Jhayne8 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 16

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    Wanna Get Close?

    I am not too sure how it started, but my whole life, I have had a hard time letting people get close to me. If you were to meet me, you wouldn’t think so, I can talk to anyone about anything. I guess that is the difference of being personable and secretive. I find it hard to...
    Joneedslove Joneedslove 26-30, F 11 Responses Jul 6, 2013

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    I want a relationship like Gomez

    and Morticia Addams.
    missmaymay missmaymay 18-21, F 5 Responses May 31

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    Glimpse Of What Might Be

    You touched my cheek and twisted my hair around your finger. You held my hand and kissed my lips softly. Your smile reaches your eyes and when you look at me it's sincere and I see how much you care. You put your arms around me and I feel safe, I feel protected. I close my eyes...
    Wurkoutgurl Wurkoutgurl 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 2, 2013

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    Choose the guy or girl

    who brings you to meet his or her parents, not his or her bedroom.
    Brunette4U Brunette4U 31-35, F 5 Responses Jun 14

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    whitesunshine87 whitesunshine87 51-55, F 20 Responses Apr 4

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    I used to be fearless

    and so curious about others. As a kid on the playground, I'd march up to any other kid and say, "Wanna be friends?" Everyone hits bumps along the road. I just took them harder than most. My reticence with others comes from a shattered sense of pride and self. Doing better...
    elevenstrikes elevenstrikes 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 7

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    Not only am I afraid of getting hurt

    but im afraid of hurting others. I am complicated, easily misunderstood, reserved and i get disinterested in people quickly. If a relationship or friendship does not meet my standards instead of nurturing it so that it can develop and grow I drop it like a hot potato. So until...
    15ShadesOfBlue 15ShadesOfBlue 16-17, F 4 Responses May 18

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    I hate opening up to people

    and getting close to them and then they just leave.... Painful is what it is...
    Shoutittotheworld23 Shoutittotheworld23 26-30, M 3 Responses May 25, 2014

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    It's hard to let people close

    when you feel like you never live up to people's image of you. The constant fear of disappointing them holds you back. I hate that feeling I get after I see that they've realised I haven't lived up to their expectations. I almost wish they thought little of me, so I could prove...
    ambivalentFriability ambivalentFriability 18-21 May 16

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    because in the end they always leave.

    .. they either die, or I must push them away, or they finally see all of me and want nothing to do with me... people say I have had a difficult life... an example, I hadn't seen my mother in five years. her greeting to me, "oh my god, your hair looks terrible as does your make...
    Ieatzebras Ieatzebras 26-30, T 1 Response Jun 8

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    To get close to someone,

    they must have thing in common with me, share similar goals and ideas, and set off a good aura. Uk, just that right kinda vibe
    ForeverJashinist ForeverJashinist 18-21, M 3 Responses Apr 4

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    Different people awaken different beasts in you.

    . These beasts destroyed different walls of yours.. But beasts know no boundaries.. The destruction didn't stop at the walls.. The damages are on you too.. So new walls are built.. I have regrets in my walls, they entered through the front gate.. Sauntered on the red carpet...
    FaitAccomp1i FaitAccomp1i 70+, M 8 Responses Feb 12

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    I want to be able to talk to someone about how

    I feel, what I have been through. But I have never done it before everything I have been through I have been through alone councillors gave up pretty quick if you tried in person I stutter so bad you get bored and over message it's like my fingers forget how to type any...
    rbambro rbambro 18-21, F 48 mins ago

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    I can honestly say I've only let one person

    know me almost completely and it did not turn out well, now I feel like I just can't let anyone else even get close
    ZacharyGray19 ZacharyGray19 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 8

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    I have to have some kind of connection with you

    before I let anyone in. Trust is very important to me.
    whyisitsohard44 whyisitsohard44 41-45, F 12 Responses May 19, 2014

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    I am usually very cautious about

    who I let into my life. I won't bore you with the back story, but I do not trust easily. It takes time for me to feel a level of friendship or intimacy. Every time I think I've moved past this, I'm proven wrong by the people I've chosen to let in. I always swear it will never...
    JARSMS JARSMS 36-40, F 6 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    I have always had a hard time trusting

    that the people I "let in" truly have the intention of staying. As a consequence I tend to show them the exit before they have a chance to find it for themselves. When I think back I know that I've shut out a lot of good people and I do carry regret for any hurt it caused them...
    Bumblelion Bumblelion 31-35, M 3 Responses Apr 7

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    Everyone falls so easily into love.

    Which is boring and probably a lie. I don't love easy. It takes YEARS before I can, and even then it's reckless..
    octoberlovely octoberlovely 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 30

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    I'm very very interested in this group!

    ! For sometimes I think my best friend is far too open, but because I don't think she feels threatened by most. However, she's a wise girl and craves experience, which may be most of the situation! I have a very open ended question and I've even read an article about it in "O...
    LwrenSD LwrenSD 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 4

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    I am only truly close to my parents.

    I have friends, but I don't let them see my weaknesses. Only my parents know it all.
    SolaLuna SolaLuna 18-21, F Jun 12

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    alizeeccaa alizeeccaa 26-30, F Jun 12

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    It probably would be nice to have a lot of

    people in my life but I've realized that you can't allow just anyone in your life without really getting to know them. A person may have some serious issues going on that can bring harm to you. You must know their character, background.. all that matters when I make a decision...
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 1, 2014

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    She Just Snuck Up On Me

    Like a new lust...she s l o w l y started out...smooth and silky, with ever so a subtle hint of sour cherry followed with a sophisticated spicy berry-esque draw...her effusive and fascinating bouquet drifted so quietly, wrapping herself completely around me...overwhelming my very...
    Ferric67 Ferric67 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    When it's not you who they want,

    it's abundantly clear, am I right? if I'm wrong, I need to know. Thoughts??
    TearsWW TearsWW 36-40, F 7 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    yes I can admit it is

    so hard to let people get close to me . But that's because I have been hurt and abused in so many ways I feel I have to have control. I build walls and take them down but when I start to bring them down I get hurt again so it just easier to leave walls up
    sexygirl81 sexygirl81 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 8

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    One good reason for keeping people at a distance

    and maintaining a small circle of friends is that more often than not the murder victim is someone the killer knew.
    Bumblelion Bumblelion 31-35, M 3 Responses May 18

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    Very very VERY selective.

    ..like idk why... Maybe I don't want to let anyone know me completely... Maybe I just don't want anyone to know all about me, my weaknesses, my mistakes, my desires, my dreams, my secrets... I don't want someone to have power over me by knowing all that about me... That'd make me...
    Undecodable Undecodable 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 12

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    I've been messed around by people too many,

    I've been too forgiving, too trusting, maybe too open with my personality. But no more, chances are you won't get close to me, you'll have make the effort and I'll have to believe you thoroughly and unconditionally trust you, but at best, you'll be at arms length.
    usernameinneed usernameinneed 26-30, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I don't really tell people the whole spectrum

    of myself, but when I do, it's really important to me. It's not that I have trust issues, or that I'm shy, I just want the person who starts knowing me in more ways than others to stay by my side.
    RoddyB7589 RoddyB7589 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 1

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    I have never fully felt like someone has ever

    excepted me for who I am. I have few friends and that's about it really. I date people but most never make an effort to really know me it like at some point it became a thing to no ask questiona. I want to find that person friend pen pal or what ever , that could be on the end...
    peachpie88 peachpie88 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 3

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    The major reason is lack of trust,

    trust that has been broken too many times. And even after I forgave and gave second chances, it only cleared up an area for a new betrayal. I suppose, this how we all learn to be self sufficient in the end...
    Tatius Tatius 26-30, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    You do not protect your heart by keeping it

    closed, but by learning which people you let get close ~ Unknown~
    orchidangel orchidangel 41-45, F 7 Responses Mar 7

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    I just posted a rant on a group "I Need To

    Vent" & they wouldn't let it post, cuz I was sharing about how frustrated I feel regarding all the guys who are trying to hit on me here... And I was specific about the things they've said & how much it ****** me off... And I cussed a lot. *Anyway, just thought I'd throw out...
    AdoraGel AdoraGel 31-35, F 7 Responses Jun 11

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    Its like this. when you stick your hand out

    and get bitten. you learn very quickly not to stick your hand out anymore. I've been "bitten" so many times by people who are supposed to love me. I pretty much decided not to let any one near me any more. i'm so skeptical of people when they are nice to me I automatically think...
    suthrngal suthrngal 31-35, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I have weird thoughts,

    I'm an odd person, not like most other girls. For sure. So, I need someone who can put up with... all o this!
    girlinwhite girlinwhite 18-21, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    It is extremely difficult

    for me to open up to someone, and is quite rare that I ever really do. I am usually a very naturally trusting person, perhaps a bit naive, always giving the benefit of doubt, but at the same time I am selective of who I let in simply because I tend to over think about things and...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 5

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    Je Ne Regrette Rien

    Nobody has ever hurt me, not that i can recall. No one ever really made me feel betrayed either. I have never had my heart broken, how could I...I have never felt love, they way I would expect too...yet it seems that My ENTIRE family loves me. I have one younger sister, and...
    Ferric67 Ferric67 36-40, M 7 Responses Mar 16, 2012

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    I dont let many get close to me.

    .. Not because im snobbish or antisocial... Im just very guarded... Ive been hurt much in my life and i put up walls to protect that from happening... I used to be scared of letting people close not only to protect me but i was scared of what they would see.... The abuse... The...
    sunpea sunpea 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 28, 2014

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    I believe people come in

    and out of our lives for a reason. Each experience, good or bad is a lesson to be learnt,
    Seraphina31 Seraphina31 31-35, F 7 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Is it just me or do you find it harder to give

    the next guy your heart because you know he just going to be like the rest. He's going to break his promise throw your heart on the ground like a piece of trash. I get tired of it and it makes it harder for me to believe that the next guy actually loves me. I guess its me...
    ChevyGirl101 ChevyGirl101 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 2

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    i might be an open book

    and tell u all the past events in my life, as well as planned events. but that doesnt mean ive let u in. im very selective with who i let in on an emotional level. im like that with everyone.
    SadisticPsychoBitch SadisticPsychoBitch 31-35, F 6 Responses May 14, 2014