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I Am Very Selective When It Comes to Letting People Get Close

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    It's hard for me to directly tell people I care

    about them. But believing them if they said they cared, too, would be so much scarier. There is a lot more risk involved in the latter, I think.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 27, 2015

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    It is extremely difficult

    for me to open up to someone, and is quite rare that I ever really do. I am usually a very naturally trusting person, perhaps a bit naive, always giving the benefit of doubt, but at the same time I am selective of who I let in simply because I tend to over think about things and...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 5, 2015

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    I have self-respect. I don't want your attention

    if you only- want it when it's convenient and I don't want you to expect me to give you my 100% attention when it's not returned. I don't want a relationship where I have to basically "wait for my turn" to talk to you because you like "juggling" relationships with people ect ect...
    DianasaurusRexxx DianasaurusRexxx 18-21, F 11 Responses Sep 1, 2015

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    Every single person I've opened up to winds up

    ignoring me. Like, the **** I tell you is personal. I don't wanna tell you. If I do, I feel comfortable with you. People just suck sometimes.
    ExploreroftheUnknown ExploreroftheUnknown 18-21, M 13 Responses Jan 9

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    i am a huge contradiction

    when it comes to this topic. yes i am selective with who i share my personal life with but at the same time i am an open book and will discuss most things if asked about it. i guess for me getting to know someone on a more emotional/deeper level is where i am selective with...
    shecanonlydream shecanonlydream 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 2

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    I am and when I do it means something big.

    I usually end up getting hurt, especially when I am trusting and want to let someone into the biggest part of my life, my daughter Jaelynn. Still unable to go see her, sitting outside the cemetery welling up and losing it emotionally. So many thoughts, memories, and visions...
    Kman4You Kman4You 36-40, M 3 Responses May 31, 2015

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    I'm a loner and get kinda lonely from time to

    time but my problem is that most people either bore me or **** me off. Like I don't know what to do? How do I find people that don't do either of those things?
    paintdeath paintdeath 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 8, 2015

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    LadyHeartnMind LadyHeartnMind 31-35, F Nov 3, 2015

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    to liz: i know u dnt get the way i lead my life.

    unfortunately, that leads u to have issues w/staying in ur lane. i , too, do not agree w/ how u see things but i can respect ur different pov. u r not me. u were not raised like me. u were raised in a drastically different environment where everyone tried to be the same. and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 13, 2015

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    What I have dealt with in relationships

    and friendships has caused me to become leery of getting to know more people. I have been through some truly crazy **** and cannot handle much more, so I am cautious about who I choose to let into my life.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 3, 2015

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    I have one close person

    that has been with me through it all He is the only one i can tell everything to without the fear of being judged .. I can tell him everything and anything.I dont know what i would do without him .. He is a very special existence to me.. And I can never sleep a...
    M00ah M00ah 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 5, 2015

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    I am careful about letting people close

    because once I care about you, I care about you. I have a hell of a time trying to uncare about some one. It just doesn't work like that for me. So I would rather triple check than be trying to fix my mistake.
    QueenVen QueenVen 16-17, F Jan 25

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    In time their "truth" comes out.

    ...sometimes if we just sit back and wait...dont jump, we know who we can mix and mongle with and who we cant. Just sit and observe before jumping on any offers from them that seem like an awesome deal. The awesome deal handed to you on a platter....but there is a price...the...
    lifealwayschanges lifealwayschanges 41-45, F 6 Responses Aug 20, 2015

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    Is anyone else like this.

    . Ive had a roomate for almost a year now in my mom's house (shes 17 I'm 16) and I've only talked to her a few times ..and they were only while I was high and I'm still not very close with her
    lisaisasil lisaisasil 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 27, 2015

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    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 8, 2015

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    When it's not you who they want,

    it's abundantly clear, am I right? if I'm wrong, I need to know. Thoughts??
    TearsWW TearsWW 36-40, F 7 Responses Jul 4, 2015

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    I am a laid back, friendly

    and outgoing woman and yes sometimes naughty. Yes, I am real and I'm honest about what I say about myself. However, when it comes opening up to someone about who I am, my past, what I've been through in my life, my likes and dislikes and other things I choose to share, that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 18 Responses Sep 25, 2015

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    to nito: i cant thank you enough

    for bringing me home. i know we made a solid friendship back in the day. regardless of details, if you ever really need me--I GOT YOU.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 7, 2015

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    I hate opening up to people

    and getting close to them and then they just leave.... Painful is what it is...
    Shoutittotheworld23 Shoutittotheworld23 26-30, M 3 Responses May 25, 2014

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    I don't open up to just anyone anymore,

    because that has gotten me hurt in the past. If I am close to you and trust you, if I can confide in you, then consider yourself lucky.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 25, 2015

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    Why so serious? Some people may think I am snob

    and serious person. Sometimes I am, sometimes I am just shy or tired. I might accelerate to extreme seriousness if needed. It's a useful thing at keeping unnecessary people away.
    JD0121 JD0121 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 22, 2014

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    As a kid I was very quiet,

    shy, and reserved. I preferred staying in reading than going out with kids from school, though I did always have at least one or two good friends. In college I thought, this doesn't seem normal, maybe I should try to be more outgoing, maybe I should make more friends and party...
    arailia03 arailia03 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 3, 2015

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    I want a relationship like Gomez

    and Morticia Addams.
    missmaymay missmaymay 22-25, F 5 Responses May 31, 2015

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    I just posted a rant on a group "I Need To

    Vent" & they wouldn't let it post, cuz I was sharing about how frustrated I feel regarding all the guys who are trying to hit on me here... And I was specific about the things they've said & how much it ****** me off... And I cussed a lot. *Anyway, just thought I'd throw out...
    AdoraGel AdoraGel 31-35, F 7 Responses Jun 11, 2015

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    I've been accused of being aloof

    and disinterested-more often than I would care to admit. As is normal practice, when getting to know someone there is a degree of letting them have a small piece of yourself. Whether it's a smile, an anecdote or your life story, they take something of you away with them. I...
    Saintlysinner Saintlysinner 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 31, 2015

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    Deceptively easy going has been a phrase I've

    heard before. I'm not trying to deceive anyone, but the truth is, getting close to me is an extremely difficult thing to do. I don't know who he is, so I'm not sure how anyone else is going to.
    Extant1 Extant1 51-55, M 2 Responses Oct 7, 2015

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    Sex Is amazing and I love it!

    !! however a relationship is not all about sex. Right?
    3rdday 3rdday 51-55, M 3 Responses Dec 11, 2015

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    I don't know why people send me messages

    and expect me to carry the conversation. If you read my profile, you'll know that I detest small talk and that I won't open up to you easily. If you truly want to get to know me, it'll take some effort on your part. It's only after we've developed a connection that I'll be more...
    AmayaTsuki AmayaTsuki 26-30, F 11 Responses Sep 15, 2015

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    No matter what social media site I go on I'm

    always careful on who I talk to. Almost all the time my intuition is able to pick up on which ones are real and which ones are worth rejecting. I'm full aware of what lurks behind a disreputable user name and the words they use. I'm not saying I've never been tricked by fake...
    ThisStrangeEffect ThisStrangeEffect 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 30

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    Not only am I afraid of getting hurt

    but im afraid of hurting others. I am complicated, easily misunderstood, reserved and i get disinterested in people quickly. If a relationship or friendship does not meet my standards instead of nurturing it so that it can develop and grow I drop it like a hot potato. So until...
    BleuReign BleuReign 16-17, F 4 Responses May 18, 2015

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    Je Ne Regrette Rien

    Nobody has ever hurt me, not that i can recall. No one ever really made me feel betrayed either. I have never had my heart broken, how could I...I have never felt love, they way I would expect too...yet it seems that My ENTIRE family loves me. I have one younger sister, and...
    Ferric67 Ferric67 36-40, M 7 Responses Mar 16, 2012

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    Getting attached to people easily

    and thinking everyone was my friend has gotten my feelings hurt and made me realize who was actually there for me. I can be a nice ******* person if people only just loan me their ear or treat me right instead of someone that gets on their nerves or when they need something and...
    PetiteChica PetiteChica 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 26

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    i might be an open book

    and tell u all the past events in my life, as well as planned events. but that doesnt mean ive let u in. im very selective with who i let in on an emotional level. im like that with everyone.
    SadisticPsychoBitch SadisticPsychoBitch 31-35, F 6 Responses May 14, 2014

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    It's just how it is when you have been burned

    so many times you lose trust in people.
    Booksaremypassion Booksaremypassion 41-45, F 8 Responses Aug 27, 2015

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    whitesunshine87 whitesunshine87 51-55, F 19 Responses Apr 4, 2015

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    Trust has never come easy to me.

    Usually when I meet a person I've already assumed the worst of what is to happen and I'm already plotting my escape. I push until people have nowhere left to stand. It makes for lonely footing but it minimizes the chance of disappointment. Occasionally a person will enter...
    RememberTomorrow RememberTomorrow 31-35, M 7 Responses Nov 19, 2015

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    Sometimes you just get "that feeling" about

    some people, and though they may not fall in love with you, you can still trust them.
    lifealwayschanges lifealwayschanges 41-45, F 4 Responses Jul 17, 2015

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    Mollywolly92 Mollywolly92 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 25, 2015

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    Sometimes I feel like people in general only

    want to date me because they like the idea of having a girlfriend rather than me myself..I'm kinda glad I've taken a break.
    AlexisOwO AlexisOwO 18-21, F 6 Responses Jul 20, 2015

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    niccj28 niccj28 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 20, 2015

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    I'm the type of person

    who will always care about you. It doesn't matter what you've done to me, how badly you've hurt me, or how far we've drifted apart - a part of me will always care about you. I still love friends I haven't spoken to in decades. I still love lovers who treated me like I was...
    AmayaTsuki AmayaTsuki 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 20

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    I'm a walking contradiction.

    I want to be alone but I don't want to be lonely. I want closeness but I'm afraid to let the walls down. I want to share my secrets but I don't want to give you access to my soul. I want more than anything to trust you but I cannot allow you to find the chink in my armor...
    marladurden13 marladurden13 41-45, F 13 Responses Jun 27, 2015

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    Those who are heartless,

    once cared too much. -Unkown
    AmayaTsuki AmayaTsuki 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 6, 2015

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    I have never fully felt like someone has ever

    excepted me for who I am. I have few friends and that's about it really. I date people but most never make an effort to really know me it like at some point it became a thing to no ask questiona. I want to find that person friend pen pal or what ever , that could be on the end...
    peachpie88 peachpie88 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 3, 2015

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