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I Am Very Selective When It Comes to Letting People Get Close

For anybody who has a hard time -really- opening up to people, because of past relationships or experiences.. 30,188 People

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    It's just how it is when you have been burned

    so many times you lose trust in people.
    Booksaremypassion Booksaremypassion 41-45, F 8 Responses 4 days ago

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    I believe people come in

    and out of our lives for a reason. Each experience, good or bad is a lesson to be learnt,
    Seraphina31 Seraphina31 31-35, F 7 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    I have never been in love

    and quite honestly I'm afraid to be due to witnessing such terrible relationships in my life
    lolitaxSweetie lolitaxSweetie 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    So. I don't really know

    where to start. And I'm not gonna spill a whole bunch of feelings here. I just need someone to talk to, I'm really confused and upset and just really not feeling the greatest.
    cassassy101 cassassy101 16-17, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    In my entire 28 year life i've met exactly 1

    person that i could consider a true friend. someone trustworthy that i could rely on, someone i could share with perhaps not necessarily without being judged but that i would atleast be accepted by. Wth is wrong with all the other people?
    veteran87 veteran87 26-30, M Jul 14

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    Sometimes you just get "that feeling" about

    some people, and though they may not fall in love with you, you can still trust them.
    lifealwayschanges lifealwayschanges 41-45, F 4 Responses Jul 17

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    I think it's because I never feel like I'm good

    enough. And if people know me, they really wouldn't like me at all. For that matter, I don't even like my attitude sometimes....a lot of the time. I just have so much work to do on myself, it feels overwhelming. Then the flip side is saying, let it go, life is a journey, things...
    boobaloo22 boobaloo22 36-40, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I've always been selective with whom I am truly

    friends with. It's just the way I am. I've been burned in the past and so it's just easier not to let someone in.
    TeaAndReading TeaAndReading 26-30, F Aug 8

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    There are numerous older men in the world

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    amelcc11 amelcc11 26-30, F Aug 3

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    I have self-respect. I don't want your attention

    if you only- want it when it's convenient and I don't want you to expect me to give you my 100% attention when it's not returned. I don't want a relationship where I have to basically "wait for my turn" to talk to you because you like "juggling" relationships with people ect ect...
    collegegirl64 collegegirl64 18-21, F 9 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    She Just Snuck Up On Me

    Like a new lust...she s l o w l y started out...smooth and silky, with ever so a subtle hint of sour cherry followed with a sophisticated spicy berry-esque draw...her effusive and fascinating bouquet drifted so quietly, wrapping herself completely around me...overwhelming my very...
    Ferric67 Ferric67 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    I am extremely selective.

    Most people I've met though my life have know little about me. I have grown up in an environment that doesn't allow me space for me to take care of myself. Till recently I've started going to therapy to help myself. Have learned somethings. I believe I have only ever let one or...
    LAlbertoG LAlbertoG 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 2

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    As you lie back your muscles tighten.

    You put him off for a while searching for an excuse, but he refuses to be swayed as he approaches you. He asks if you're afraid and you shake your head bravely. He has had more experience, but it's the first time his finger has found the right place. He probes deeply and you...
    4BlackForest 4BlackForest 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 11

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    I wish there was a dating site/app just to find

    friends or people with common interests in your area. Is that weird? Since moving back home from college I haven't been able to hang out with anyone my age. It probably wouldn't work. Most people are so pre-occupied with sex when they go online, it'd probably just end up...
    littlemissdazed littlemissdazed 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 8

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    I have been working on this one lately.

    I am learning now more and more when to back-up from people when they give these hidden signs and gesture. It is a saying, "If you get bit by a snake once it is his fault." "If you get bit twice it is yours!"
    Babeondwy Babeondwy 41-45, F 3 hrs ago

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    whitesunshine87 whitesunshine87 51-55, F 20 Responses Apr 4

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    Its like this. when you stick your hand out

    and get bitten. you learn very quickly not to stick your hand out anymore. I've been "bitten" so many times by people who are supposed to love me. I pretty much decided not to let any one near me any more. i'm so skeptical of people when they are nice to me I automatically think...
    suthrngal suthrngal 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 30

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    I am very selective and private

    when I let people in my circle of life. Ive been hurt and lied to so many times, Its more of a fear then selective.
    Averageguy41011 Averageguy41011 41-45, M 4 Responses Aug 2

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    I am selective because I had to learn the hard

    way that trusting blinding will get you crushed mercilessly.
    MsIdiosyncrasy0 MsIdiosyncrasy0 22-25, F Aug 8

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    It is extremely difficult

    for me to open up to someone, and is quite rare that I ever really do. I am usually a very naturally trusting person, perhaps a bit naive, always giving the benefit of doubt, but at the same time I am selective of who I let in simply because I tend to over think about things and...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 5

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    When it's not you who they want,

    it's abundantly clear, am I right? if I'm wrong, I need to know. Thoughts??
    TearsWW TearsWW 36-40, F 7 Responses Jul 4

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    maybe because I'm naive.

    .I find it hard to see the worse in someone till it's to late
    raggedeagle raggedeagle 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    I have never fully felt like someone has ever

    excepted me for who I am. I have few friends and that's about it really. I date people but most never make an effort to really know me it like at some point it became a thing to no ask questiona. I want to find that person friend pen pal or what ever , that could be on the end...
    peachpie88 peachpie88 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 3

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    I am very particular about the type of people I

    let into my heart and mind.??
    RealmRunner RealmRunner 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Sometimes I feel like people in general only

    want to date me because they like the idea of having a girlfriend rather than me myself..I'm kinda glad I've taken a break.
    AlexisOwO AlexisOwO 18-21, F 6 Responses Jul 20

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    I need to be able to trust someone first off

    and get to know them. I need to know that they have a kind heart despite what issues they have and won't hurt me. If you have those three things i will let you close and eventually into my life. I have only ever met a few, but I care for those few with all my heart.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 17

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    Je Ne Regrette Rien

    Nobody has ever hurt me, not that i can recall. No one ever really made me feel betrayed either. I have never had my heart broken, how could I...I have never felt love, they way I would expect too...yet it seems that My ENTIRE family loves me. I have one younger sister, and...
    Ferric67 Ferric67 36-40, M 7 Responses Mar 16, 2012

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    amelcc11 amelcc11 26-30, F Aug 3

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    I hate opening up to people

    and getting close to them and then they just leave.... Painful is what it is...
    Shoutittotheworld23 Shoutittotheworld23 26-30, M 3 Responses May 25, 2014

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    i might be an open book

    and tell u all the past events in my life, as well as planned events. but that doesnt mean ive let u in. im very selective with who i let in on an emotional level. im like that with everyone.
    SadisticPsychoBitch SadisticPsychoBitch 31-35, F 6 Responses May 14, 2014

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    Especially a girl. She can use you

    for her own needs, or reject you after you do whatever she wanted. It's why I try not to be overly nice to any girl. The same applies for guys but in a different way.
    StudCanadian StudCanadian 16-17, M 4 Responses Aug 8

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    It probably would be nice to have a lot of

    people in my life but I've realized that you can't allow just anyone in your life without really getting to know them. A person may have some serious issues going on that can bring harm to you. You must know their character, background.. all that matters when I make a decision...
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 1, 2014

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    Reason why I have many friends

    but not a best friend... As long as theres more than 1 box unticked, you'll just be a "friend". And betrayal = Enemies
    AnnelieseChristine AnnelieseChristine 13-15, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I am not selective at all.

    I flat out don't do it.
    StudCanadian StudCanadian 16-17, M 3 Responses Jul 18

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    to nito: don't contact me

    unless u want to be real friends. you've known me for years. we can' t digress, sorry. we've had a very rich, substantial friendship. the kind some never experience. thats to be honored and nurtured. i know you've been going thru things that shook u up but i have to. and yet, i...
    spinsterC spinsterC 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Choose the guy or girl

    who brings you to meet his or her parents, not his or her bedroom.
    Brunette4U Brunette4U 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 14

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    I felt safe. So safe.

    Once again, I felt safe to share my thoughts & feelings, just as I am. No filter, no social structured politeness, just pure expression & need. And he listened. He listened so well. Now I feel violated. So violated. Once again, I experience feeling violated Just Because...
    AdoraGel AdoraGel 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 3

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    I have to have some kind of connection with you

    before I let anyone in. Trust is very important to me.
    whyisitsohard44 whyisitsohard44 46-50, F 12 Responses May 19, 2014

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    People might think that I have too much pride

    or I consider myself superior. But that's not how it is. I just want to surround myself with good hearted, moral, loyal and smart people who I can share meaningful things with and have both hilarious and real deep conversations with. That's the perfect kind of environment.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses a week ago

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    Different people awaken different beasts in you.

    . These beasts destroyed different walls of yours.. But beasts know no boundaries.. The destruction didn't stop at the walls.. The damages are on you too.. So new walls are built.. I have regrets in my walls, they entered through the front gate.. Sauntered on the red carpet...
    FaitAccomp1i FaitAccomp1i 70+, M 7 Responses Feb 12

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    I don't trust easily.

    So when I tell you that ''I Trust You'', Please Don't Make Me Regret It.
    SecretiveLady SecretiveLady 18-21, F Jun 18, 2014

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    earthlingcc11 earthlingcc11 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    I am and when I do it means something big.

    I usually end up getting hurt, especially when I am trusting and want to let someone into the biggest part of my life, my daughter Jaelynn. Still unable to go see her, sitting outside the cemetery welling up and losing it emotionally. So many thoughts, memories, and visions...
    Kman4You Kman4You 36-40, M 3 Responses May 31

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    chriscc11 chriscc11 26-30, F Jul 21

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    Not only am I afraid of getting hurt

    but im afraid of hurting others. I am complicated, easily misunderstood, reserved and i get disinterested in people quickly. If a relationship or friendship does not meet my standards instead of nurturing it so that it can develop and grow I drop it like a hot potato. So until...
    15ShadesOfBlue 15ShadesOfBlue 16-17, F 4 Responses May 18

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