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I Am Very Selective When It Comes to Letting People Get Close

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    Not only am I afraid of getting hurt

    but im afraid of hurting others. I am complicated, easily misunderstood, reserved and i get disinterested in people quickly. If a relationship or friendship does not meet my standards instead of nurturing it so that it can develop and grow I drop it like a hot potato. So until...
    15ShadesOfBlue 15ShadesOfBlue 16-17, F 4 Responses May 18

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    I am and when I do it means something big.

    I usually end up getting hurt, especially when I am trusting and want to let someone into the biggest part of my life, my daughter Jaelynn. Still unable to go see her, sitting outside the cemetery welling up and losing it emotionally. So many thoughts, memories, and visions...
    Kman4You Kman4You 36-40, M 3 Responses May 31

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    amelcc11 amelcc11 26-30, F Aug 3

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    Sometimes I feel like people in general only

    want to date me because they like the idea of having a girlfriend rather than me myself..I'm kinda glad I've taken a break.
    AlexisOwO AlexisOwO 18-21, F 6 Responses Jul 20

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    I need to be able to trust someone first off

    and get to know them. I need to know that they have a kind heart despite what issues they have and won't hurt me. If you have those three things i will let you close and eventually into my life. I have only ever met a few, but I care for those few with all my heart.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 17

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    In my entire 28 year life i've met exactly 1

    person that i could consider a true friend. someone trustworthy that i could rely on, someone i could share with perhaps not necessarily without being judged but that i would atleast be accepted by. Wth is wrong with all the other people?
    veteran87 veteran87 26-30, M Jul 14

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    I am very particular about the type of people I

    let into my heart and mind.??
    RealmRunner RealmRunner 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I dont let many get close to me.

    .. Not because im snobbish or antisocial... Im just very guarded... Ive been hurt much in my life and i put up walls to protect that from happening... I used to be scared of letting people close not only to protect me but i was scared of what they would see.... The abuse... The...
    sunpea sunpea 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 28, 2014

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    I'm a constant stream of awkwardness.

    The anxiousness never stops.
    mollzjanine mollzjanine 18-21 Jul 11

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    I felt safe. So safe.

    Once again, I felt safe to share my thoughts & feelings, just as I am. No filter, no social structured politeness, just pure expression & need. And he listened. He listened so well. Now I feel violated. So violated. Once again, I experience feeling violated Just Because...
    AdoraGel AdoraGel 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 3

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    To get close to someone,

    they must have thing in common with me, share similar goals and ideas, and set off a good aura. Uk, just that right kinda vibe
    ForeverJashinist ForeverJashinist 18-21, M 3 Responses Apr 4

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    Its like this. when you stick your hand out

    and get bitten. you learn very quickly not to stick your hand out anymore. I've been "bitten" so many times by people who are supposed to love me. I pretty much decided not to let any one near me any more. i'm so skeptical of people when they are nice to me I automatically think...
    suthrngal suthrngal 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 30

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    I'm a walking contradiction.

    I want to be alone but I don't want to be lonely. I want closeness but I'm afraid to let the walls down. I want to share my secrets but I don't want to give you access to my soul. I want more than anything to trust you but I cannot allow you to find the chink in my armor...
    marladurden13 marladurden13 41-45, F 13 Responses Jun 27

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    So. I don't really know

    where to start. And I'm not gonna spill a whole bunch of feelings here. I just need someone to talk to, I'm really confused and upset and just really not feeling the greatest.
    cassassy101 cassassy101 16-17, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    She Just Snuck Up On Me

    Like a new lust...she s l o w l y started out...smooth and silky, with ever so a subtle hint of sour cherry followed with a sophisticated spicy berry-esque draw...her effusive and fascinating bouquet drifted so quietly, wrapping herself completely around me...overwhelming my very...
    Ferric67 Ferric67 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    In time their "truth" comes out.

    ...sometimes if we just sit back and wait...dont jump, we know who we can mix and mongle with and who we cant. Just sit and observe before jumping on any offers from them that seem like an awesome deal. The awesome deal handed to you on a platter....but there is a price...the...
    lifealwayschanges lifealwayschanges 41-45, F 8 Responses Aug 20

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    Reason why I have many friends

    but not a best friend... As long as theres more than 1 box unticked, you'll just be a "friend". And betrayal = Enemies
    AnnelieseChristine AnnelieseChristine 13-15, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Wanna Get Close?

    I am not too sure how it started, but my whole life, I have had a hard time letting people get close to me. If you were to meet me, you wouldn’t think so, I can talk to anyone about anything. I guess that is the difference of being personable and secretive. I find it hard to...
    Joneedslove Joneedslove 26-30, F 11 Responses Jul 6, 2013

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    to nito: don't contact me

    unless u want to be real friends. you've known me for years. we can' t digress, sorry. we've had a very rich, substantial friendship. the kind some never experience. thats to be honored and nurtured. i know you've been going thru things that shook u up but i have to. and yet, i...
    spinsterC spinsterC 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    amelcc11 amelcc11 26-30, F Aug 3

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    I wish there was a dating site/app just to find

    friends or people with common interests in your area. Is that weird? Since moving back home from college I haven't been able to hang out with anyone my age. It probably wouldn't work. Most people are so pre-occupied with sex when they go online, it'd probably just end up...
    littlemissdazed littlemissdazed 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 8

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    I hate opening up to people

    and getting close to them and then they just leave.... Painful is what it is...
    Shoutittotheworld23 Shoutittotheworld23 26-30, M 3 Responses May 25, 2014

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    It is extremely difficult

    for me to open up to someone, and is quite rare that I ever really do. I am usually a very naturally trusting person, perhaps a bit naive, always giving the benefit of doubt, but at the same time I am selective of who I let in simply because I tend to over think about things and...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 5

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    I think it's because I never feel like I'm good

    enough. And if people know me, they really wouldn't like me at all. For that matter, I don't even like my attitude sometimes....a lot of the time. I just have so much work to do on myself, it feels overwhelming. Then the flip side is saying, let it go, life is a journey, things...
    boobaloo22 boobaloo22 36-40, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    People might think that I have too much pride

    or I consider myself superior. But that's not how it is. I just want to surround myself with good hearted, moral, loyal and smart people who I can share meaningful things with and have both hilarious and real deep conversations with. That's the perfect kind of environment.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I absolutely trust no one in my life.

    No one. Everyday that goes by is another day I know I am bring used and manipulated. It makes me sick. I am so lonely. So very very very lonely for a real connection. For one person who can love me as much as they love them self.
    NotSoPerfect777 NotSoPerfect777 41-45, F 12 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    I used to be a very forgiving

    and trusting person. Too trusting, even. I used to fall in love hard, and get all these intense emotions for my significant other(s). That is, until "she" came along. It was my junior year of high school, and this new transfer came in from another school. She was gorgeous- half...
    A7SH A7SH 18-21, M 3 Responses Aug 2

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    I've always been selective with whom I am truly

    friends with. It's just the way I am. I've been burned in the past and so it's just easier not to let someone in.
    TeaAndReading TeaAndReading 26-30, F Aug 8

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    Different people awaken different beasts in you.

    . These beasts destroyed different walls of yours.. But beasts know no boundaries.. The destruction didn't stop at the walls.. The damages are on you too.. So new walls are built.. I have regrets in my walls, they entered through the front gate.. Sauntered on the red carpet...
    FaitAccomp1i FaitAccomp1i 70+, M 7 Responses Feb 12

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    Je Ne Regrette Rien

    Nobody has ever hurt me, not that i can recall. No one ever really made me feel betrayed either. I have never had my heart broken, how could I...I have never felt love, they way I would expect too...yet it seems that My ENTIRE family loves me. I have one younger sister, and...
    Ferric67 Ferric67 36-40, M 7 Responses Mar 16, 2012

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    Especially a girl. She can use you

    for her own needs, or reject you after you do whatever she wanted. It's why I try not to be overly nice to any girl. The same applies for guys but in a different way.
    StudCanadian StudCanadian 16-17, M 4 Responses Aug 8

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    I am extremely selective.

    Most people I've met though my life have know little about me. I have grown up in an environment that doesn't allow me space for me to take care of myself. Till recently I've started going to therapy to help myself. Have learned somethings. I believe I have only ever let one or...
    LAlbertoG LAlbertoG 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 2

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    I just posted a rant on a group "I Need To

    Vent" & they wouldn't let it post, cuz I was sharing about how frustrated I feel regarding all the guys who are trying to hit on me here... And I was specific about the things they've said & how much it ****** me off... And I cussed a lot. *Anyway, just thought I'd throw out...
    AdoraGel AdoraGel 31-35, F 7 Responses Jun 11

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    I want a relationship like Gomez

    and Morticia Addams.
    missmaymay missmaymay 18-21, F 5 Responses May 31

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    I am very selective and private

    when I let people in my circle of life. Ive been hurt and lied to so many times, Its more of a fear then selective.
    Averageguy41011 Averageguy41011 41-45, M 4 Responses Aug 2

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    i might be an open book

    and tell u all the past events in my life, as well as planned events. but that doesnt mean ive let u in. im very selective with who i let in on an emotional level. im like that with everyone.
    SadisticPsychoBitch SadisticPsychoBitch 31-35, F 6 Responses May 14, 2014

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    I have never fully felt like someone has ever

    excepted me for who I am. I have few friends and that's about it really. I date people but most never make an effort to really know me it like at some point it became a thing to no ask questiona. I want to find that person friend pen pal or what ever , that could be on the end...
    peachpie88 peachpie88 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 3

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    maybe because I'm naive.

    .I find it hard to see the worse in someone till it's to late
    raggedeagle raggedeagle 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    As you lie back your muscles tighten.

    You put him off for a while searching for an excuse, but he refuses to be swayed as he approaches you. He asks if you're afraid and you shake your head bravely. He has had more experience, but it's the first time his finger has found the right place. He probes deeply and you...
    4BlackForest 4BlackForest 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 11

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    I believe people come in

    and out of our lives for a reason. Each experience, good or bad is a lesson to be learnt,
    Seraphina31 Seraphina31 31-35, F 7 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    whitesunshine87 whitesunshine87 51-55, F 20 Responses Apr 4

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    It's just how it is when you have been burned

    so many times you lose trust in people.
    Booksaremypassion Booksaremypassion 41-45, F 8 Responses 4 days ago

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    earthlingcc11 earthlingcc11 26-30, F 22 hrs ago

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    I have never been in love

    and quite honestly I'm afraid to be due to witnessing such terrible relationships in my life
    lolitaxSweetie lolitaxSweetie 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    I am selective because I had to learn the hard

    way that trusting blinding will get you crushed mercilessly.
    MsIdiosyncrasy0 MsIdiosyncrasy0 22-25, F Aug 8

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