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I Am Very Selective When It Comes to Letting People Get Close

For anybody who has a hard time -really- opening up to people, because of past relationships or experiences.. 28,605 People

    I have found throughout my life,

    that people are very cruel. They will infiltrate your life, your persona; they will discover your innermost secrets by parading as your friend. But people are cruel, and they will tear you down to your baser levels and stomp on the things that you love, the greater attitudes...
    PatrickMoosePants PatrickMoosePants 22-25, M 3 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    Je Ne Regrette Rien

    Nobody has ever hurt me, not that i can recall. No one ever really made me feel betrayed either. I have never had my heart broken, how could I...I have never felt love, they way I would expect too...yet it seems that My ENTIRE family loves me. I have one younger sister, and...
    Ferric67 Ferric67 36-40, M 7 Responses Mar 16, 2012

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    Awer1 Awer1 13-15, M 1 Response Nov 23, 2014

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    Don't Throw Your Pearls Before Swine

    Several months after my puppy dog Grace had been weaned, my children and I took her back so I could speak with the breeder and to visit her mother Sweet Pea. My dog was so excited to see her mother. She jumped all over her and licked her and did whatever she could to get her...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 7 Responses Oct 25, 2012

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    on here i have "messages must be approved"

    and so far some real creepy people have messaged me with criminal offense confessions and questions about familial ******. it's best to be weary on here. it's not all about finding people to relate to and platonic support! i feel so dumb for coming here looking for FRIENDS. isn...
    katariffik katariffik 31-35, F Nov 17, 2014

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    Why so serious? Some people may think I am snob

    and serious person. Sometimes I am, sometimes I am just shy or tired. I might accelerate to extreme seriousness if needed. It's a useful thing at keeping unnecessary people away.
    JD0121 JD0121 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 22, 2014

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    Im very selective when it comes to my friends.

    In the past i used to be cool with almost everyone at my school. Now that im older (16), i come to realize that not everyone is your friend. There are some people i look at now and in my head im like"Wow was i reallyyy friends with this b!tch". People need to open their eyes...
    stacy0508 stacy0508 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 2, 2014

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    I have to have some kind of connection with you

    before I let anyone in. Trust is very important to me.
    whyisitsohard44 whyisitsohard44 41-45, F 15 Responses May 19, 2014

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    Trust me its not a quality I chose.

    Theres this kid who rides my bus; he lives one street over from me so we have the same stop. the other day he threw me for a complete circle when he popped into my seat; needless to say he figured out that my face is just that, a face i.e im not as bitchy as i appear. So now...
    CassieWithAnO CassieWithAnO 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 8, 2014

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    There have been times

    when I have allowed people to walk into my life and be friends with me very easily coz am generally that carefree and happy go lucky person who keeps his problems to himself.. But I suppose people stay with you as long as they see that you are happy go lucky and the moment they...
    uselessguy uselessguy 36-40, M 4 Responses Oct 31, 2014

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    I am sure lots of people can relate to this

    but I grew up in an emotionally abusive environment. My parents fought every single bloody day, screaming at each other, screaming at me and for the longest time I thought that was "normal" and that was what "love" and "marriage" was all about. For every 1 day we were happy or...
    thiswatermelonlovesme thiswatermelonlovesme 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 2, 2014

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    XXimdeadinsideXX XXimdeadinsideXX 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 14

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    I recently got out of an abusive relationship

    and I have trust issues to begin with. Unfortunately, the relationship made them worse. I'm not interested in a relationship and it may be awhile. I want to trust people, and I know not everyone is the same, but I don't know how to let my guard down.
    TheWicked TheWicked 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 2

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    I don't trust easily.

    So when I tell you that ''I Trust You'', Please Don't Make Me Regret It.
    SecretiveLady SecretiveLady 18-21, F Jun 18, 2014

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    It seems like letting people inside

    and trusting people is hard to do these days. I've become very careful and selective with the people I choose to be close with. It's like there's always some twisted motive that people have. Like they just want to use you or be around you out of convenience. Having trust issues...
    AcousticSoul17 AcousticSoul17 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 5, 2014

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    Wanna Get Close?

    I am not too sure how it started, but my whole life, I have had a hard time letting people get close to me. If you were to meet me, you wouldn’t think so, I can talk to anyone about anything. I guess that is the difference of being personable and secretive. I find it hard to...
    Joneedslove Joneedslove 26-30, F 11 Responses Jul 6, 2013

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    Have you ever seen a beautiful lady

    or a handsome guy at the bus stop or wherever, and thought, " man, I'd be the luckiest person to have him/her in my life!", not knowing how he/ she really is?..... you should always remember, that the dish looks more appetizing when you ain't the one having it.
    razac2 razac2 22-25, M 5 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    Iam in a situation where I have a partner

    which is a female for 6 yrs that I have trust issues I love her, but she lies about even small things , because she doesn't like conformation .Our biggest issue is who's the boss .Technically speaking! The problem is that I let her handle things and they fall apart and IHave...
    tkgb1 tkgb1 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    She Just Snuck Up On Me

    Like a new lust...she s l o w l y started out...smooth and silky, with ever so a subtle hint of sour cherry followed with a sophisticated spicy berry-esque draw...her effusive and fascinating bouquet drifted so quietly, wrapping herself completely around me...overwhelming my very...
    Ferric67 Ferric67 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    i might be an open book

    and tell u all the past events in my life, as well as planned events. but that doesnt mean ive let u in. im very selective with who i let in on an emotional level. im like that with everyone.
    SadisticPsychoBitch SadisticPsychoBitch 31-35, F 6 Responses May 14, 2014

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    I absolutely trust no one in my life.

    No one. Everyday that goes by is another day I know I am bring used and manipulated. It makes me sick. I am so lonely. So very very very lonely for a real connection. For one person who can love me as much as they love them self.
    NotSoPerfect777 NotSoPerfect777 36-40, F 12 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    Its pretty hard actually

    for me to get close so much to other people I consider it as an attachment, and as my immediate family .I never let someone in my own world easily Im a type of a person who is a hard to be close with, I dont open myself oftenly especially to the strangers I think that what makes...
    mystery05 mystery05 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 23, 2014

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    It probably would be nice to have a lot of

    people in my life but I've realized that you can't allow just anyone in your life without really getting to know them. A person may have some serious issues going on that can bring harm to you. You must know their character, background.. all that matters when I make a decision...
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 1, 2014

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    Many people have used me

    or abused our friendship. So now I have very low trust, so people who want to pm me on ep; I won't be quick to reply or may not trust you at all at first. It's not your fault it's just me.
    shur09 shur09 13-15, F 4 Responses Jan 7

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    My first foster mom that I lived with

    for 16 years gave me up 3 years ago 2 weeks before Christmas leaving me homeless. We didn't separate on good terms but over the last few years I've grown to forgive. And we've found we're better as friends than as mother and daughter. I'm seeing her for the second time since the...
    Minnowshi Minnowshi 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 2

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    Self-proclaimed loner?

    People generally don't like me..  It might be my presence ( I'm not the big, but two heads taller than most women of my age.. and they are all pretty skinny ), the look in my eyes, my strong will, the fact that I'm a smart-alec or that I'm not full blooded caucasian. So when...
    PinkBunnyProject PinkBunnyProject 22-25, F 6 Responses Nov 18, 2007

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    keliscc11 keliscc11 26-30, F Dec 30, 2014

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    It's difficult to soar like an eagle

    when you are surrounded by turkeys." Lesson to be learned from this? Choose your friends carefully...
    Rightherenow Rightherenow 26-30, M 4 Responses Oct 3, 2014

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    I am very emotionally closed off

    and find it close to impossible to let people get close. That's because I am aware of the fact that I have problems with people and I cannot expect others to accept my ways if I find them had to deal with myself. If I get pushed I can be rather destructive. I like people in...
    ultimatehacker ultimatehacker 26-30, M Oct 17, 2014

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    Call me paranoid, but u don't trust people.

    People are mean. People are two faced. People will hurt you. People will most likely try to rob you of money, happiness and dignity. I have a very smart conscience. I call her by my own name, and yes she is female. If I feel someone has anterior motives in the first 5 seconds of...
    Passionfruit101 Passionfruit101 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 25, 2014

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    Trying to be, anyway.

    A lot of people want to get close to me on the basis of being able to rely on me for anything and everything, at any given time, and it doesn't work.
    GreenButtercup GreenButtercup 36-40, F Jan 4

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    I am usually very cautious about

    who I let into my life. I won't bore you with the back story, but I do not trust easily. It takes time for me to feel a level of friendship or intimacy. Every time I think I've moved past this, I'm proven wrong by the people I've chosen to let in. I always swear it will never...
    scorpio1106 scorpio1106 36-40, F 7 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    So I am writing this

    because I have tried over and over to write about myself . I just keep a lot private . I only have a few people I truly let in. I admire everybody here who can let go & express what they feel . Me on the other hand ; I always feel as I should write more ; but my own deep truths...
    LavenderTeal23 LavenderTeal23 31-35, F 3 Responses May 14, 2014

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    Not sure why but I guard my heart fiercely

    but can love/care deeply once you reach it :)
    minnadt minnadt 46-50, M 3 Responses Nov 29, 2014

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    Value....

    "A friend who understands your tears is much more valuable than a lot of friends who only know your smile." -- Sushan R Sharma
    SparkofHope SparkofHope 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 4, 2013

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    People...

    I assume that everyone at some point is going to hurt me in a really bad way. I never really had friends and after high school, I just kinda stopped talking to everyone. I'm 20 now. I don't have friends. I have people that I'll hang out with every once in a while but they're far...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 1, 2012

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    I am very selective when it comes to this,

    yet I am here. It's a paradox.
    Nakedness8 Nakedness8 41-45, M 3 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    I'm selective with who I allow into my life

    because I no longer believe in relating to people on a superficial level. I've found with many that as soon as I start talking about anything spiritually-related, they tend to get this blank look on their face and sort of shut down. I'm required to interact with others just as...
    AKLady14 AKLady14 26-30, F 2 Responses May 23, 2014

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    Wayward Stepped Right In.

    Shhhhhh, he reminds me. The world stills. My heart slowly hums. My blood finds its rhythm. My soul succumbs. The silence widens. Calming. Bends. We are just ripples in our own reflection. A paradox of echoing perfection. Footfalls, under moon lit sprawls. Casting down velvet...
    SilentBluemoon SilentBluemoon 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 29, 2013

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    Follow up from earlier today; Lunch was

    wonderful with my foster mom. it wasn't awkward though, I did cry when she drove away. But I didn't let her see. As angry as I still may be with her its hard to see her go. I still love her. I mean, she raised me. She called me Babygirl when we were saying goodbye and I think...
    Minnowshi Minnowshi 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    Saras905 Saras905 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 5

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    My time on EP has been a great one,

    meeting so many wonderful people and making some lasting friendships. Am going to be writing more as I have some personal decisions to make about relationships and I don't want to cause people pain. I will be chatting at times but just need some time away to think, will be on...
    romanticdreams romanticdreams 46-50, M Feb 26, 2014

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    It's true. I've been hurt a lot.

    I'm afraid if I let someone get too close they'll eventually leave.
    Kayleer18 Kayleer18 18-21, F Feb 8, 2014

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    I didn't used to be..

    .but life has taught me to be more cautious. I have let too many people get close to me when I was younger & I ended up getting hurt. So I have been more selective as I've gotten older. Yet I let my boyfriend (eventually fiancee) get close & we were together for 2 years...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 10, 2014

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    I lost one of my best friends a few years back

    and I'm so afraid of becoming that close to people again 😢
    IrishRedhead IrishRedhead 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 30, 2014

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    I hate opening up to people

    and getting close to them and then they just leave.... Painful is what it is...
    Shoutittotheworld23 Shoutittotheworld23 26-30, M 3 Responses May 25, 2014

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    Selectively Social? It really sounds like a

    douchey term, but I'd usually prefer to keep my circles small. Even then, I want to be able to get to know some one. It's a reason I don't make too much an effort to show off on social media be it here, Facebook, whatever. I'm not one to make and break friendships on a whim...I...
    RoddyB7589 RoddyB7589 16-17, M 3 Responses Dec 26, 2014

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    I believe people come in

    and out of our lives for a reason. Each experience, good or bad is a lesson to be learnt,
    Seraphina31 Seraphina31 31-35, F 8 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    I think I'm going on a date tonight.

    I say I think because... I don't really know how to start new. It's my first date since my last relationship. My last, lasted over 2.5 years. I have crazy anxiety and a thousand mixed emotions right now. But right now, he deserves my attention and my other thoughts need to be...
    Minnowshi Minnowshi 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 19, 2014

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    I dont let many get close to me.

    .. Not because im snobbish or antisocial... Im just very guarded... Ive been hurt much in my life and i put up walls to protect that from happening... I used to be scared of letting people close not only to protect me but i was scared of what they would see.... The abuse... The...
    sunpea sunpea 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 28, 2014

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    I'm gonna be real if I don't think we have

    anything in common or i think we just won't work I'll tell you straight up .
    Princeofnothing Princeofnothing 18-21, M 5 Responses 6 days ago

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