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I Am Very Selective When It Comes to Letting People Get Close

For anybody who has a hard time -really- opening up to people, because of past relationships or experiences.. 28,832 People

    Why so serious? Some people may think I am snob

    and serious person. Sometimes I am, sometimes I am just shy or tired. I might accelerate to extreme seriousness if needed. It's a useful thing at keeping unnecessary people away.
    JD0121 JD0121 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 22, 2014

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    I dont let many get close to me.

    .. Not because im snobbish or antisocial... Im just very guarded... Ive been hurt much in my life and i put up walls to protect that from happening... I used to be scared of letting people close not only to protect me but i was scared of what they would see.... The abuse... The...
    sunpea sunpea 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 28, 2014

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    I met a girl a couple months ago

    and instantly I was crushing on her. She didn't have many friends and I wanted to make her feel comfortable around my friends and myself so that she would spend more time with me. I went out of my way to let her know that I cared about her and she took advantage of it. I've...
    RHpendragon RHpendragon 18-21, M 1 Response a week ago

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    Selectively Social? It really sounds like a

    douchey term, but I'd usually prefer to keep my circles small. Even then, I want to be able to get to know some one. It's a reason I don't make too much an effort to show off on social media be it here, Facebook, whatever. I'm not one to make and break friendships on a whim...I...
    RoddyB7589 RoddyB7589 16-17, M 2 Responses Dec 26, 2014

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    After being pretty much used by pretty much

    every ******* guy I ever cared for (except maybe 2 or 3) and being betrayed by every female I have called friends except 2. Yes I am very guarded.
    ImJustJen ImJustJen 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 5, 2014

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    I'm gonna be real if I don't think we have

    anything in common or i think we just won't work I'll tell you straight up .
    Princeofnothing Princeofnothing 18-21, M 5 Responses Jan 22

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    I am usually very cautious about

    who I let into my life. I won't bore you with the back story, but I do not trust easily. It takes time for me to feel a level of friendship or intimacy. Every time I think I've moved past this, I'm proven wrong by the people I've chosen to let in. I always swear it will never...
    scorpio1106 scorpio1106 36-40, F 7 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    Je Ne Regrette Rien

    Nobody has ever hurt me, not that i can recall. No one ever really made me feel betrayed either. I have never had my heart broken, how could I...I have never felt love, they way I would expect too...yet it seems that My ENTIRE family loves me. I have one younger sister, and...
    Ferric67 Ferric67 36-40, M 7 Responses Mar 16, 2012

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    Wayward Stepped Right In.

    Shhhhhh, he reminds me. The world stills. My heart slowly hums. My blood finds its rhythm. My soul succumbs. The silence widens. Calming. Bends. We are just ripples in our own reflection. A paradox of echoing perfection. Footfalls, under moon lit sprawls. Casting down velvet...
    SilentBluemoon SilentBluemoon 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 29, 2013

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    When you go on a date with your ex,

    not thinking anything of it and then he says this (picture above) and talks about how he wants you back but you honestly don't know if you want to. If you know me and his past you would understand why I'm so hesitant. Short story everyone on earth hated me for dating him...
    Wynnieskye Wynnieskye 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 31

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    Relationships

    I was hurt but the first girl I truly liked when I was 18 and since then I haven't been able to let anyone get close and all my relationships have ended up just being one night stands. Sometime I hate myself for doing it but I don't want to be hurt again; anyone have any ideas...
    JensonC JensonC 22-25, M 12 Responses Jan 23, 2012

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    I don't trust easily.

    So when I tell you that ''I Trust You'', Please Don't Make Me Regret It.
    SecretiveLady SecretiveLady 18-21, F Jun 18, 2014

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    Glimpse Of What Might Be

    You touched my cheek and twisted my hair around your finger. You held my hand and kissed my lips softly. Your smile reaches your eyes and when you look at me it's sincere and I see how much you care. You put your arms around me and I feel safe, I feel protected. I close my eyes...
    Wurkoutgurl Wurkoutgurl 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 2, 2013

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    Self-proclaimed loner?

    People generally don't like me..  It might be my presence ( I'm not the big, but two heads taller than most women of my age.. and they are all pretty skinny ), the look in my eyes, my strong will, the fact that I'm a smart-alec or that I'm not full blooded caucasian. So when...
    PinkBunnyProject PinkBunnyProject 22-25, F 6 Responses Nov 18, 2007

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    keliscc11 keliscc11 26-30, F Dec 30, 2014

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    Many people have used me

    or abused our friendship. So now I have very low trust, so people who want to pm me on ep; I won't be quick to reply or may not trust you at all at first. It's not your fault it's just me.
    shur09 shur09 13-15, F 4 Responses Jan 7

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    It probably would be nice to have a lot of

    people in my life but I've realized that you can't allow just anyone in your life without really getting to know them. A person may have some serious issues going on that can bring harm to you. You must know their character, background.. all that matters when I make a decision...
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 1, 2014

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    Im very selective when it comes to my friends.

    In the past i used to be cool with almost everyone at my school. Now that im older (16), i come to realize that not everyone is your friend. There are some people i look at now and in my head im like"Wow was i reallyyy friends with this b!tch". People need to open their eyes...
    stacy0508 stacy0508 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 2, 2014

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    I am sure lots of people can relate to this

    but I grew up in an emotionally abusive environment. My parents fought every single bloody day, screaming at each other, screaming at me and for the longest time I thought that was "normal" and that was what "love" and "marriage" was all about. For every 1 day we were happy or...
    thiswatermelonlovesme thiswatermelonlovesme 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 2, 2014

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    After my husband passed

    and everyone went away, only the true friends were left. I'm pretty content with the group of friends I have and am shy to bring new people close.
    mommyraquel mommyraquel 31-35 1 Response 3 days ago

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    She Just Snuck Up On Me

    Like a new lust...she s l o w l y started out...smooth and silky, with ever so a subtle hint of sour cherry followed with a sophisticated spicy berry-esque draw...her effusive and fascinating bouquet drifted so quietly, wrapping herself completely around me...overwhelming my very...
    Ferric67 Ferric67 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    Iam in a situation where I have a partner

    which is a female for 6 yrs that I have trust issues I love her, but she lies about even small things , because she doesn't like conformation .Our biggest issue is who's the boss .Technically speaking! The problem is that I let her handle things and they fall apart and IHave...
    tkgb1 tkgb1 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    i might be an open book

    and tell u all the past events in my life, as well as planned events. but that doesnt mean ive let u in. im very selective with who i let in on an emotional level. im like that with everyone.
    SadisticPsychoBitch SadisticPsychoBitch 31-35, F 6 Responses May 14, 2014

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    Saras905 Saras905 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 5

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    I absolutely trust no one in my life.

    No one. Everyday that goes by is another day I know I am bring used and manipulated. It makes me sick. I am so lonely. So very very very lonely for a real connection. For one person who can love me as much as they love them self.
    NotSoPerfect777 NotSoPerfect777 41-45, F 12 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    Have you ever seen a beautiful lady

    or a handsome guy at the bus stop or wherever, and thought, " man, I'd be the luckiest person to have him/her in my life!", not knowing how he/ she really is?..... you should always remember, that the dish looks more appetizing when you ain't the one having it.
    razac2 razac2 22-25, M 5 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    Wanna Get Close?

    I am not too sure how it started, but my whole life, I have had a hard time letting people get close to me. If you were to meet me, you wouldn’t think so, I can talk to anyone about anything. I guess that is the difference of being personable and secretive. I find it hard to...
    Joneedslove Joneedslove 26-30, F 11 Responses Jul 6, 2013

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    Selective To My Detriment?

    I tend to be very selective when it comes to who I let close to me in a very real way. I am very open about myself, but it takes a long time to understand me, what I have accomplished, been through, learned, etc. I often find people who have such preconceptions of who I am, based...
    SailN SailN 46-50, M 4 Responses Apr 24, 2013

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    It looks like they're coming back at it again!

    Taverncraft, a extra of 3 Aspect Entertainment, just announced that they have just engaged some new "Legendary Collection" Steins to their Hand-crafted Stein Selection. Extremely enough, Indicate Berkwits, the Promotion Manager of 3 Aspect.By the way,you can login RS Gold to...
    zhuanghan zhuanghan 22-25, F Nov 25, 2014

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    Awer1 Awer1 13-15, M 1 Response Nov 23, 2014

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    Don't Throw Your Pearls Before Swine

    Several months after my puppy dog Grace had been weaned, my children and I took her back so I could speak with the breeder and to visit her mother Sweet Pea. My dog was so excited to see her mother. She jumped all over her and licked her and did whatever she could to get her...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 7 Responses Oct 25, 2012

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    My time on EP has been a great one,

    meeting so many wonderful people and making some lasting friendships. Am going to be writing more as I have some personal decisions to make about relationships and I don't want to cause people pain. I will be chatting at times but just need some time away to think, will be on...
    romanticdreams romanticdreams 46-50, M Feb 26, 2014

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    XXimdeadinsideXX XXimdeadinsideXX 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 14

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    Call me paranoid, but u don't trust people.

    People are mean. People are two faced. People will hurt you. People will most likely try to rob you of money, happiness and dignity. I have a very smart conscience. I call her by my own name, and yes she is female. If I feel someone has anterior motives in the first 5 seconds of...
    Passionfruit101 Passionfruit101 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 25, 2014

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    Trying to be, anyway.

    A lot of people want to get close to me on the basis of being able to rely on me for anything and everything, at any given time, and it doesn't work.
    GreenButtercup GreenButtercup 36-40, F Jan 4

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    I have pushed a lot of potential friends away.

    My reason is because of lack of trust. I have a hard time letting people get too close to me. Betrayal is a big thing, and it hurts when one day you have a best friend and the next they won't pick up to talk with you. and you're left wondering, what did I do wrong. Takes too...
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 5 Responses Feb 20

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    Its like this. when you stick your hand out

    and get bitten. you learn very quickly not to stick your hand out anymore. I've been "bitten" so many times by people who are supposed to love me. I pretty much decided not to let any one near me any more. i'm so skeptical of people when they are nice to me I automatically think...
    sweetpea6200 sweetpea6200 31-35, F 6 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    I've only ever let three people in on the real

    me. no one else knows how I think or my opinions. As of late, the first one moved away. the second one dumped me for a good friend after giving her 3 years of my life and the third just completely abandoned me without a word of what happened. I feel like I have no one. of course...
    Joeyschnepel Joeyschnepel 22-25, M 2 Responses Feb 18

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    Value....

    "A friend who understands your tears is much more valuable than a lot of friends who only know your smile." -- Sushan R Sharma
    SparkofHope SparkofHope 46-50, F 2 Responses Oct 4, 2013

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    Follow up from earlier today; Lunch was

    wonderful with my foster mom. it wasn't awkward though, I did cry when she drove away. But I didn't let her see. As angry as I still may be with her its hard to see her go. I still love her. I mean, she raised me. She called me Babygirl when we were saying goodbye and I think...
    Minnowshi Minnowshi 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    So I am writing this

    because I have tried over and over to write about myself . I just keep a lot private . I only have a few people I truly let in. I admire everybody here who can let go & express what they feel . Me on the other hand ; I always feel as I should write more ; but my own deep truths...
    LavenderTeal23 LavenderTeal23 31-35, F 3 Responses May 14, 2014

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    I hate opening up to people

    and getting close to them and then they just leave.... Painful is what it is...
    Shoutittotheworld23 Shoutittotheworld23 26-30, M 3 Responses May 25, 2014

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    I have found throughout my life,

    that people are very cruel. They will infiltrate your life, your persona; they will discover your innermost secrets by parading as your friend. But people are cruel, and they will tear you down to your baser levels and stomp on the things that you love, the greater attitudes...
    PatrickMoosePants PatrickMoosePants 22-25, M 2 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    I believe people come in

    and out of our lives for a reason. Each experience, good or bad is a lesson to be learnt,
    Seraphina31 Seraphina31 31-35, F 8 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    I recently got out of an abusive relationship

    and I have trust issues to begin with. Unfortunately, the relationship made them worse. I'm not interested in a relationship and it may be awhile. I want to trust people, and I know not everyone is the same, but I don't know how to let my guard down.
    TheWicked TheWicked 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 2

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    Its pretty hard actually

    for me to get close so much to other people I consider it as an attachment, and as my immediate family .I never let someone in my own world easily Im a type of a person who is a hard to be close with, I dont open myself oftenly especially to the strangers I think that what makes...
    mystery05 mystery05 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 23, 2014

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    My first foster mom that I lived with

    for 16 years gave me up 3 years ago 2 weeks before Christmas leaving me homeless. We didn't separate on good terms but over the last few years I've grown to forgive. And we've found we're better as friends than as mother and daughter. I'm seeing her for the second time since the...
    Minnowshi Minnowshi 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 2

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    Different people awaken different beasts in you.

    . These beasts destroyed different walls of yours.. But beasts know no boundaries.. The destruction didn't stop at the walls.. The damages are on you too.. So new walls are built.. I have regrets in my walls, they entered through the front gate.. Sauntered on the red carpet...
    FaitAccomp1i FaitAccomp1i 70+, M 5 Responses Feb 12

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    I wish I was that person

    that would give people tight hugs and just be completely open with how I felt. Or I wouldn't mind cuddling with friends and allowed myself to trust them. I was once that person. Due to being hurt by negative recent experiences I'm hesitant and unfeeling to the point where I'm...
    XxWolverinaxX XxWolverinaxX 18-21 1 Response Nov 16, 2014

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    I am very selective when it comes to this,

    yet I am here. It's a paradox.
    Nakedness8 Nakedness8 41-45, M 3 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    It's true. I've been hurt a lot.

    I'm afraid if I let someone get too close they'll eventually leave.
    Kayleer18 Kayleer18 18-21, F Feb 8, 2014

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