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I Am Very Selective When It Comes to Letting People Get Close

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    I am not too sure how it started, but my whole life, I have had a hard time letting people get close to me. If you were to meet me, you wouldn’t think so, I can talk to anyone about anything. I guess that is the difference of being personable and secretive. I find it hard to...
    Joneedslove Joneedslove 26-30, F 11 Responses Jul 6, 2013

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    I've never actually connected with anyone.

    There was this one girl I mean on here and we both bad social anxiety and one common interest. Even then I didn't feel connected to her. Kinda the same with my family even my sister(who I'm pretty close comfortable around) it's probably because I never told her how crappy I...
    Overdrive18 Overdrive18 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 4

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    It is extremely difficult

    for me to open up to someone, and is quite rare that I ever really do. I am usually a very naturally trusting person, perhaps a bit naive, always giving the benefit of doubt, but at the same time I am selective of who I let in simply because I tend to over think about things and...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 5

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    It probably would be nice to have a lot of

    people in my life but I've realized that you can't allow just anyone in your life without really getting to know them. A person may have some serious issues going on that can bring harm to you. You must know their character, background.. all that matters when I make a decision...
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 1, 2014

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    I'm a walking contradiction.

    I want to be alone but I don't want to be lonely. I want closeness but I'm afraid to let the walls down. I want to share my secrets but I don't want to give you access to my soul. I want more than anything to trust you but I cannot allow you to find the chink in my armor...
    marladurden13 marladurden13 41-45, F 14 Responses Jun 27

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    I want a relationship like Gomez

    and Morticia Addams.
    missmaymay missmaymay 18-21, F 5 Responses May 31

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    chriscc11 chriscc11 26-30, F Jul 21

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    I don't trust easily.

    So when I tell you that ''I Trust You'', Please Don't Make Me Regret It.
    SecretiveLady SecretiveLady 18-21, F Jun 18, 2014

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    yes I can admit it is

    so hard to let people get close to me . But that's because I have been hurt and abused in so many ways I feel I have to have control. I build walls and take them down but when I start to bring them down I get hurt again so it just easier to leave walls up
    sexygirl81 sexygirl81 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 8

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    I dont let many get close to me.

    .. Not because im snobbish or antisocial... Im just very guarded... Ive been hurt much in my life and i put up walls to protect that from happening... I used to be scared of letting people close not only to protect me but i was scared of what they would see.... The abuse... The...
    sunpea sunpea 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 28, 2014

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    I just posted a rant on a group "I Need To

    Vent" & they wouldn't let it post, cuz I was sharing about how frustrated I feel regarding all the guys who are trying to hit on me here... And I was specific about the things they've said & how much it ****** me off... And I cussed a lot. *Anyway, just thought I'd throw out...
    AdoraGel AdoraGel 31-35, F 7 Responses Jun 11

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    I want to be able to talk to someone about how

    I feel, what I have been through. But I have never done it before everything I have been through I have been through alone councillors gave up pretty quick if you tried in person I stutter so bad you get bored and over message it's like my fingers forget how to type any...
    rbambro rbambro 18-21, F Jul 4

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    bellecc11 bellecc11 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    You do not protect your heart by keeping it

    closed, but by learning which people you let get close ~ Unknown~
    orchidangel orchidangel 41-45, F 7 Responses Mar 7

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    i might be an open book

    and tell u all the past events in my life, as well as planned events. but that doesnt mean ive let u in. im very selective with who i let in on an emotional level. im like that with everyone.
    SadisticPsychoBitch SadisticPsychoBitch 31-35, F 6 Responses May 14, 2014

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    She Just Snuck Up On Me

    Like a new lust...she s l o w l y started out...smooth and silky, with ever so a subtle hint of sour cherry followed with a sophisticated spicy berry-esque draw...her effusive and fascinating bouquet drifted so quietly, wrapping herself completely around me...overwhelming my very...
    Ferric67 Ferric67 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    Choose the guy or girl

    who brings you to meet his or her parents, not his or her bedroom.
    Brunette4U Brunette4U 31-35, F 5 Responses Jun 14

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    alizeeccaa alizeeccaa 26-30, F Jun 12

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    Yo!! Been out with family tonight.

    .and just wondering..what u think of people meeting online and falling in love?! I thought it was pretty out there..but my auntie is happily married, my cousin with a decent bloke for ages..it happens (they met online)....?? what happened to chance and fate and all that? and..is...
    saravonpein saravonpein 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 11

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    I believe people come in

    and out of our lives for a reason. Each experience, good or bad is a lesson to be learnt,
    Seraphina31 Seraphina31 31-35, F 7 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    I'm a constant stream of awkwardness.

    The anxiousness never stops.
    mollzjanine mollzjanine 18-21 1 Response Jul 11

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    Sometimes you just get "that feeling" about

    some people, and though they may not fall in love with you, you can still trust them.
    lifealwayschanges lifealwayschanges 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 17

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    I am and when I do it means something big.

    I usually end up getting hurt, especially when I am trusting and want to let someone into the biggest part of my life, my daughter Jaelynn. Still unable to go see her, sitting outside the cemetery welling up and losing it emotionally. So many thoughts, memories, and visions...
    Kman4You Kman4You 36-40, M 3 Responses May 31

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    I have never fully felt like someone has ever

    excepted me for who I am. I have few friends and that's about it really. I date people but most never make an effort to really know me it like at some point it became a thing to no ask questiona. I want to find that person friend pen pal or what ever , that could be on the end...
    peachpie88 peachpie88 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 3

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    I have always had a hard time trusting

    that the people I "let in" truly have the intention of staying. As a consequence I tend to show them the exit before they have a chance to find it for themselves. When I think back I know that I've shut out a lot of good people and I do carry regret for any hurt it caused them...
    Bumblelion Bumblelion 31-35, M 3 Responses Apr 7

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    I have never been in love

    and quite honestly I'm afraid to be due to witnessing such terrible relationships in my life
    lolitaxSweetie lolitaxSweetie 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    Its like this. when you stick your hand out

    and get bitten. you learn very quickly not to stick your hand out anymore. I've been "bitten" so many times by people who are supposed to love me. I pretty much decided not to let any one near me any more. i'm so skeptical of people when they are nice to me I automatically think...
    suthrngal suthrngal 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 30

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    I hate opening up to people

    and getting close to them and then they just leave.... Painful is what it is...
    Shoutittotheworld23 Shoutittotheworld23 26-30, M 3 Responses May 25, 2014

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    This is very true of me,

    cannot be too careful!
    Jhayne8 Jhayne8 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 16

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    Very very VERY selective.

    ..like idk why... Maybe I don't want to let anyone know me completely... Maybe I just don't want anyone to know all about me, my weaknesses, my mistakes, my desires, my dreams, my secrets... I don't want someone to have power over me by knowing all that about me... That'd make me...
    LittleUnicorn LittleUnicorn 18-21 3 Responses Jun 12

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    One good reason for keeping people at a distance

    and maintaining a small circle of friends is that more often than not the murder victim is someone the killer knew.
    Bumblelion Bumblelion 31-35, M 3 Responses May 18

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    I am not selective at all.

    I flat out don't do it.
    UnlovingAlex UnlovingAlex 16-17, M 3 Responses Jul 18

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    AlphaLion AlphaLion 22-25, M Jul 7

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    When it's not you who they want,

    it's abundantly clear, am I right? if I'm wrong, I need to know. Thoughts??
    TearsWW TearsWW 36-40, F 7 Responses Jul 4

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    Sometimes I feel like people in general only

    want to date me because they like the idea of having a girlfriend rather than me myself..I'm kinda glad I've taken a break.
    AlexisOwO AlexisOwO 18-21, F 6 Responses Jul 20

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    Hii!I’ve been in unrequited love

    for 4 years now. I know it hurts a lot.I wrote a book on this topic too.The book trailer for my debut novel “You are my Wonderwall” is finally out.Please spare 2 minutes to have a look.The novel will be out pretty soon.Thanks.
    youaremywonderwall youaremywonderwall 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    because in the end they always leave.

    .. they either die, or I must push them away, or they finally see all of me and want nothing to do with me... people say I have had a difficult life... an example, I hadn't seen my mother in five years. her greeting to me, "oh my god, your hair looks terrible as does your make...
    Ieatzebras Ieatzebras 26-30, T 1 Response Jun 8

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    Je Ne Regrette Rien

    Nobody has ever hurt me, not that i can recall. No one ever really made me feel betrayed either. I have never had my heart broken, how could I...I have never felt love, they way I would expect too...yet it seems that My ENTIRE family loves me. I have one younger sister, and...
    Ferric67 Ferric67 36-40, M 7 Responses Mar 16, 2012

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    Why so serious? Some people may think I am snob

    and serious person. Sometimes I am, sometimes I am just shy or tired. I might accelerate to extreme seriousness if needed. It's a useful thing at keeping unnecessary people away.
    JD0121 JD0121 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 22, 2014

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    To get close to someone,

    they must have thing in common with me, share similar goals and ideas, and set off a good aura. Uk, just that right kinda vibe
    ForeverJashinist ForeverJashinist 18-21, M 3 Responses Apr 4

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    Not only am I afraid of getting hurt

    but im afraid of hurting others. I am complicated, easily misunderstood, reserved and i get disinterested in people quickly. If a relationship or friendship does not meet my standards instead of nurturing it so that it can develop and grow I drop it like a hot potato. So until...
    15ShadesOfBlue 15ShadesOfBlue 16-17, F 4 Responses May 18

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    maybe because I'm naive.

    .I find it hard to see the worse in someone till it's to late
    raggedeagle raggedeagle 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    I've been messed around by people too many,

    I've been too forgiving, too trusting, maybe too open with my personality. But no more, chances are you won't get close to me, you'll have make the effort and I'll have to believe you thoroughly and unconditionally trust you, but at best, you'll be at arms length.
    usernameinneed usernameinneed 26-30, M 2 Responses Jul 3

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    I am only truly close to my parents.

    I have friends, but I don't let them see my weaknesses. Only my parents know it all.
    SolaLuna SolaLuna 18-21, F Jun 12

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    only one person has ever known me completely in

    my whole life... im so hard to get close to but i know im an amazing person and worth getting to know so i feel like if ppl dont try... then i prob wouldnt let myself get close to them anyway. when i make friends, im loyal as hell, i cant help it so...i just made myself sound...
    Breeze82b Breeze82b 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 6

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    It sucks when you want to spend time to get to

    know a person and yet he doesn't seem to give much importance to it. I don't know if he became too comfortable with what we have.
    gorgeouswit gorgeouswit 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 5

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