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I Am Very Shy At First

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 317 People

    How do I stop being so self-conscious

    and shy? I feel like i constantly have a wall up that stops me from being 100% myself until I really get to know the person
    bluecrush42 bluecrush42 18-21, F Mar 3, 2014

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    Shy At First

    Shy at first,That's me,When in big groups,Never know what to say,'Til someone says "Hello",Once I'm started,Lose allĀ sceneĀ of me,Shy no more.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket 46-50, M Dec 18, 2011

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    Shy When First Meeting Someone

         When i first meet someone i am very shy, I only speak when spoken to and it takes a little while before i feel comfortable enough to say anything or to even start a conversation, This is something that i have been working on and i have improved alot...
    confusedone confusedone 41-45, F 7 Responses Dec 21, 2008

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    Im very shy and its hard to make new friends

    and meant people, i want to i just over think everything. There is a girl that works at the store up the street from me that i say hi to and we talk a little, i want to ask if she wants to hang out some time but i dont know how. I always get to shy to ask. Help me please.
    MickeyBella94 MickeyBella94 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 6, 2014

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    Do Not Show Any Weakness.

    When I first met my wife; I came to her house which is now "our house", As soon as I walked in the door her mother and stepfather walked in and sat down at the kitchen table. Her mother kept looking me up and down. She had a smug look on her face. I reacted with a defensive...
    Snookybear Snookybear 36-40, M Feb 17, 2010

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    Very Quite

    It takes a lot to get to know me.  I tend to be very quite and reserved to those I just meet and it takes a lot to bread that shell.
    miaforfun miaforfun 41-45, F 4 Responses Oct 12, 2009

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    I Wish There Was A Pill For The End Of The Curse Of Shyness

    I literally used to feel gulity as if I was sinning against god by being shy.I always had those butterfly nerves at school ... doing talks, reading out loud, drama and sport, music and singing... home work etcI would avoid going to school if my work was bad or I didn't understand...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 19, 2012

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    So Quiet

    Sometimes, Im quiet for a long time after I first meet someone, I think I have some form of Social Anxiety, its getting a little better, but I still often go red around people I dont usually speak to...I wish I could be as loud and confident as everyone around me, it bugs me that...
    Enjoythesilence Enjoythesilence 16-17, F 5 Responses Sep 20, 2009

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    I'm Shy When I'm Alone.

    I'm shy depending on how many people I already know there. If I'm with a lot of good friends, then I'll talk.  But sometimes I appear shy only because I like hanging out in the back and relaxin. I'm just kickin back when I'm kickin it. 
    rhawn rhawn 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 3, 2009

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    Im Really Shy...

    Im extremely shy the first time I talk to you, but im really outgoing once I kno you:)
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 5, 2012

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    Maybe I'm Being Insecure?

    I dunno, I am always horribly shy when I meet most ppl. I think its because I've been hurt by too many ppl before. I just find it hard to open up to ppl any more. I have found some ppl though, which I have just connected to from the start. But I am trying to open up to ppl more...
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp 26-30, M 1 Response Oct 13, 2009

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    I'm very shy at first indeed.

    It really suck because people don't always know how shy I am and they take it sometimes as a disinterest and thing I don't want to get to know them or whatever when in reality I'm just very shy.
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M Dec 12, 2014

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    I normally am but then there are times like this

    when I just wanna talk talk talk so that's why I'm posting so many experiences..
    staygoldenbaby staygoldenbaby 16-17, F Jan 23

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    But In Some Circumstances I Shine

    Usually I'm very reserved at first, but with some groups of people I click the moment I meet them. When I'm in my element I can be witty, funny, creative and intelligent. But with most groups of people I adopt a reserved posture.
    CrazyWuWu CrazyWuWu 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 14, 2010

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    Can Open Up

    Once I get to know someone and feel confident around them, I feel more safe to be myself.
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M Jul 9, 2013

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    Awwwww Chucks....

    I'm always very shy when i meet people in person, and i feel like my heart sinks into my stomach and as people start to talk to me for a little while my hearts like XD but after a period of time like maybe min. hours. a day or two or weeks, i tend to come out of my shell.. unless...
    FWhIsPeR FWhIsPeR 18-21, M Jan 27, 2010

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    I am shy but will talk with you

    if you approach me lol drinks help too :-)
    MrMan1978 MrMan1978 31-35, M Feb 3, 2014

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    Shyness

    i wish i never get shy at first sut i always do and that is a big problem with me even since childhood. I beleive that it has effected my whole life and wish i could just open up more. As soon as i get to know someone i get very talkative. feels strange.
    mistyic mistyic 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 29, 2010

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    I'm a friendly person but very shy. I find it hard to communicate with others. People end up thinking I'm anti-social.
    kuroijukai kuroijukai 26-30, F 2 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Being shy sucks, I want to message people but I just can't bring myself to do it, I just feel like I'm going to be bothering them if I do, but if I don't I feel like I will regret...
    Fred363 Fred363 18-21, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    When I was 8 years old at summer camp, I met this girl named Gwen. She was my first true love. You see, I never found girls gross. For as long as I remember, I have always liked...
    Account1138 Account1138 36-40, M 1 day ago

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    I'm super shy. Once get to know me. I'm funny and I outgoing
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I am very shy I really just don't know what to say sometimes people take it wrong when you get to know me that bit more I am not as shy I have my moments of being loud sometimes...
    susangoga susangoga 31-35, F 3 days ago

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    It's so annoying to be like that I remember one time on a bus I was alone going to visit my family in the north and some guy in front of me was cold and he wanted to close the air...
    ronyida ronyida 16-17, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Yeah I'm very shy around people I don't know and in school.I don't like saying speeches or talking in front of the class.I stutter a lot and go red if I have to say a speech.But...
    MusicLover4Eternity MusicLover4Eternity 13-15, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am hardly ever the first to message someone on here, but once in a while, I find someone who seems SO FREAKING PHENOMENAL and could potentially become besties with and then I...
    queeniejean queeniejean 13-15, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I can't even tell my parents about health problems that I have and these problems are very serious. I think that I have a collapsed lung and serious gastritis and more. Well I'm a...
    ArthurIII ArthurIII 13-15, M 5 days ago

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    I could be shy if I really don't know you but I could be feisty if you mess with me
    RagingDemon29 RagingDemon29 13-15, F 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    When ever my mom introduces me to people her age I get very shy and quiet and when they talk I'm node and don't say anything. I just nervous that I will make a bad impression or...
    CourtneyForever CourtneyForever 13-15, F 6 days ago

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    1 (As the title suggests, this is the second part of this story. You can read the first part by clicking at my story titled 'I will tell You a story about the first day of my new...
    becomeinvisible becomeinvisible 22-25, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    yes I am especially with one certain person the one person I don't want to be shy with i know that person is why out of my league and is taken just wish I was not shy around that...
    susangoga susangoga 31-35, F 6 days ago

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    I am easily startled like a little bird. If you try to grab me, I flutter to the safety of the trees But if you are still and hold out your hand. If you remain quiet and calm...
    AmyOnEP AmyOnEP 41-45, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I'm really shy when I meet people I don't know although sometimes if I meet someone and we get on straightaway then I am fine. I remember when I was young I was so shy I never...
    Tofi786 Tofi786 22-25, F a week ago

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    i want to have lots of friends so that i can prove to myself that im not a shy person!!
    msdainne msdainne 18-21, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    Being on EP is a way to break out of that. Do I need to be shy? The comments and feedback that I get on posts, questions and photos helps me to feel more self confident!
    Cbob1412 Cbob1412 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 22

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    I use to be so shy I was scared to talk in front of people, and I hated to be seen. I'm still shy just not that shy anymore
    bmorev bmorev 22-25, F Jul 22

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    Ugh it was extremely embarrassing... I'm 20 years old and yesterday was my first time smoking pot. I'm clean of everything else. So It was not only my first time smoking pot, but...
    Maricopa Maricopa 18-21 2 Responses Jul 22

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    I've met people who, after initially meeting me, told me they were afraid to approach me because I looked stuck up! I think that is worse than being shy or introverted, but they're...
    Annaelaine Annaelaine 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 20

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    I'm sarcastic and sassy (my feisty side) confident in my intellect but shy about my looks. Sometimes I feel like someone dumped a bunch of different puzzles into a big bucket and...
    Pumpkinivy Pumpkinivy 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 20

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    You know, it's funny, but I was just having this discussion with a new friend who has the word shy in her name. She said she "didn't know there was a cure" for being shy. I told...
    ambroseguy80 ambroseguy80 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 20

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    For as long as I live I will never forget my first kiss. However my first kiss wasn't with a boy...it was with another girl. It happened last year when I was 12 years old. I had a...
    katiemitchell katiemitchell 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 19

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    **** THIS SHYNESS!!!!!!!!!!!!
    halohai halohai 18-21, F Jul 19

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    I am one of those people that are really shy and quiet when I first get to know you. But when I am comfortable with you, then that's when all my bluntness and funniness come out...
    SammyPoo91 SammyPoo91 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 18

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