I Am Very Shy At First

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 342 People

    Maybe I'm Being Insecure?

    I dunno, I am always horribly shy when I meet most ppl. I think its because I've been hurt by too many ppl before. I just find it hard to open up to ppl any more. I have found some ppl though, which I have just connected to from the start. But I am trying to open up to ppl more...
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp
    26-30, M
    1 Response Oct 13, 2009

    How do I stop being so self-conscious

    and shy? I feel like i constantly have a wall up that stops me from being 100% myself until I really get to know the person
    bluecrush42 bluecrush42
    18-21, F
    Mar 3, 2014

    Im Really Shy...

    Im extremely shy the first time I talk to you, but im really outgoing once I kno you:)
    deleted deleted
    Jul 5, 2012

    I normally am but then there are times like this

    when I just wanna talk talk talk so that's why I'm posting so many experiences..
    staygoldenbaby staygoldenbaby
    18-21, F
    Jan 23, 2015

    Can Open Up

    Once I get to know someone and feel confident around them, I feel more safe to be myself.
    asert12345678 asert12345678
    31-35, M
    Jul 9, 2013

    Very Quite

    It takes a lot to get to know me.  I tend to be very quite and reserved to those I just meet and it takes a lot to bread that shell.
    miaforfun miaforfun
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Oct 12, 2009

    So Quiet

    Sometimes, Im quiet for a long time after I first meet someone, I think I have some form of Social Anxiety, its getting a little better, but I still often go red around people I dont usually speak to...I wish I could be as loud and confident as everyone around me, it bugs me that...
    Enjoythesilence Enjoythesilence
    16-17, F
    5 Responses Sep 20, 2009


    i wish i never get shy at first sut i always do and that is a big problem with me even since childhood. I beleive that it has effected my whole life and wish i could just open up more. As soon as i get to know someone i get very talkative. feels strange.
    mistyic mistyic
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Jan 29, 2010

    But In Some Circumstances I Shine

    Usually I'm very reserved at first, but with some groups of people I click the moment I meet them. When I'm in my element I can be witty, funny, creative and intelligent. But with most groups of people I adopt a reserved posture.
    CrazyWuWu CrazyWuWu
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Mar 14, 2010

    Do Not Show Any Weakness.

    When I first met my wife; I came to her house which is now "our house", As soon as I walked in the door her mother and stepfather walked in and sat down at the kitchen table. Her mother kept looking me up and down. She had a smug look on her face. I reacted with a defensive...
    Snookybear Snookybear
    36-40, M
    Feb 17, 2010

    I'm Shy When I'm Alone.

    I'm shy depending on how many people I already know there. If I'm with a lot of good friends, then I'll talk.  But sometimes I appear shy only because I like hanging out in the back and relaxin. I'm just kickin back when I'm kickin it. 
    rhawn rhawn
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jul 3, 2009

    I Wish There Was A Pill For The End Of The Curse Of Shyness

    I literally used to feel gulity as if I was sinning against god by being shy.I always had those butterfly nerves at school ... doing talks, reading out loud, drama and sport, music and singing... home work etcI would avoid going to school if my work was bad or I didn't understand...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Apr 19, 2012

    Shy At First

    Shy at first,That's me,When in big groups,Never know what to say,'Til someone says "Hello",Once I'm started,Lose allĀ sceneĀ of me,Shy no more.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket
    46-50, M
    Dec 18, 2011

    Shy When First Meeting Someone

         When i first meet someone i am very shy, I only speak when spoken to and it takes a little while before i feel comfortable enough to say anything or to even start a conversation, This is something that i have been working on and i have improved alot...
    confusedone confusedone
    41-45, F
    7 Responses Dec 21, 2008

    Awwwww Chucks....

    I'm always very shy when i meet people in person, and i feel like my heart sinks into my stomach and as people start to talk to me for a little while my hearts like XD but after a period of time like maybe min. hours. a day or two or weeks, i tend to come out of my shell.. unless...
    FWhIsPeR FWhIsPeR
    18-21, M
    Jan 27, 2010

    I'm very shy at first indeed.

    It really suck because people don't always know how shy I am and they take it sometimes as a disinterest and thing I don't want to get to know them or whatever when in reality I'm just very shy.
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25
    31-35, M
    Dec 12, 2014

    Im very shy and its hard to make new friends

    and meant people, i want to i just over think everything. There is a girl that works at the store up the street from me that i say hi to and we talk a little, i want to ask if she wants to hang out some time but i dont know how. I always get to shy to ask. Help me please.
    MickeyBella94 MickeyBella94
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 6, 2014

    I am shy but will talk with you

    if you approach me lol drinks help too :-)
    MrMan1978 MrMan1978
    31-35, M
    Feb 3, 2014

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