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I Am Working On Not Being Codependent

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    I'm A Codependent

    Its sort of funny that i would share on a website like this.  But here goes: I battle every day with my codependency.  I've been a codependent from a very early age although it didn't have a name at that time.  The biggest thing that happened was that i was in a...
    tisaac tisaac 51-55, F 1 Response Nov 9, 2009

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    11 years I've been married to my husband,

    a man I respected and loved unconditionally. If you also codependent, you know what I'm talking about, the kind of love that withstands constant criticism from the one who is supposed to be supportive. The loyalty that is given despite being betrayed in so many big and small...
    reader4life reader4life 31-35, F Jan 13

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    December 18. Staying Open to Our Feelings. Many of us have gotten so good at following the "don't feel" rule that we can try to talk ourselves out of having feelings, even in...
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    November 30. Detachment. One day, my son brought a gerbil home to live with us. We put it in a cage. Some time later, the gerbil escaped. For the next six months, the animal ran...
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    December 2. Putting Our Life on Hold. We cannot afford to put our needs on hold, waiting for another person to fulfill us, make our life better, or come around and be who and what...
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    November 29. Step Twelve. The Twelfth Step says that having had a spiritual awakening, we try to carry this message to others. Our message is one of hope, love, comfort, health...
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    December 6. Letting Go of Shame. Many of us were victimized, sometimes more than once. We may have been physically abused, sexually abused, or exploited by the addictions of...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Dec 6

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    December 15. Feelings. It's okay to have and feel our feelings - all of them. Years into recovery, we may still be battling with ourselves about this issue. Of all the...
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    Stevejons Stevejons 22-25, M 2 Responses Dec 3

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