Post

I Am Working On Not Being Codependent

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 32 People

    11 years I've been married to my husband,

    a man I respected and loved unconditionally. If you also codependent, you know what I'm talking about, the kind of love that withstands constant criticism from the one who is supposed to be supportive. The loyalty that is given despite being betrayed in so many big and small...
    reader4life reader4life 31-35, F Jan 13

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm A Codependent

    Its sort of funny that i would share on a website like this.  But here goes: I battle every day with my codependency.  I've been a codependent from a very early age although it didn't have a name at that time.  The biggest thing that happened was that i was in a...
    tisaac tisaac 51-55, F 1 Response Nov 9, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Related Experiences

    July 25. Keep at It. Keep practicing your recovery behaviors, even when they feel awkward, even when they haven't quite taken yet, even if you don't get it yet. Sometimes it...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 3 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    June 28. When Things Don't Work. Frequently, when faced with a problem, we may attempt to solve it in a particular way. When that way doesn't work, we may continue trying to solve...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 28

    Your Response

    Cancel
    June 30. Accepting Change. One day, my mother and I were working together in the garden. We were transplanting some plant for the third time. Grown from seed in a small container...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jun 30

    Your Response

    Cancel
    July 2. Who Knows Best? Others do not know what's best for us. We do not know what's best for others. It is our job to determine what's best for ourselves. "I know what you...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 2

    Your Response

    Cancel
    July 14. We Are Lovable. "Even if the most important person in your world rejects you, you are still real, and you are still okay." —Codependent No More Do you ever find...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 14

    Your Response

    Cancel
    July 6. Step Seven. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings. —Step Seven of Al-Anon In the Sixth and Seventh Steps of the program, we become willing to let go of our...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 6

    Your Response

    Cancel
    July 7. Getting It All Out. "Let yourself have a good gripe session." From: " Woman, Sex, and Addiction" —Charlotte Davis Kasl, Ph.D. Get it out. Go ahead. Get it all out...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 7

    Your Response

    Cancel
    July 19. Proving It to Ourselves. "I spent a year trying to prove to my husband how much his drinking was hurting me. When I began to recover, I realized I was the one who needed...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 19

    Your Response

    Cancel
    July 9. Overspending and Underspending. "I used to beat my husband to death with my credit card. It made me feel like I had some control, some way to get even with him...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 9

    Your Response

    Cancel
    July 12. Letting Go of Fear of Abandonment. "Where are you, God? Where did you go?" So many people have gone away. We may have felt so alone so much. In the midst of our...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 12

    Your Response

    Cancel
    July 15. Self-care with Family Members. "I was thirty- five years old the first time I spoke up to my mother and refused to buy into her games and manipulation. I was terribly...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 15

    Your Response

    Cancel
    July 21. Being Is Enough. We are not always clear about what we are experiencing, or why. In the midst of grief, transition, transformation, learning, healing, or discipline - it...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F a week ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    June 29. God's Will. God's will most often happens in spite of us, not because of us. We may try to second guess what God has in mind for us, looking, searching, hypervigilant to...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jun 29

    Your Response

    Cancel
    July 10. Ending Relationships. It takes courage and honesty to end a relationship - with friends, loved ones, or a work relationship. Sometimes, it may appear easier to let the...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 10

    Your Response

    Cancel
    July 22. Learning to Trust Again. Many of us have trust issues. Some of us tried long and hard to trust untrustworthy people. Over and again, we believed lies and promises never...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 6 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Well I could go on and on for days about my work situations, all the jobs I've been at and left. Some that I was fired from, etc. Some days I love making money but dread the people...
    bettygingham bettygingham 22-25, F Jun 28

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Everyone should experience working out in HARD-MORE, its what we are ment to do genetically, historically and BIOLOGICALLY. We were hunter gatherers, in the wild, chasing down our...
    slipdasystem slipdasystem 18-21, M Jul 17

    Your Response

    Cancel
    It's just dawned on me what one of my abilities are. I've always known that I have a deeper wanting to always help and assist people. Especially those who are broken and need...
    Destinyyy Destinyyy 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 14

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I'm working on being positive and happy loving others, life and myself ❤❤ Be positive!! Nothing is worth it! Time is precious Much love and peace ❤❤
    catxfreak catxfreak 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 16

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Because I hate people obviously, it's like everyone's telling me to grow up or else cut her some slacks. God, working while having negative thoughts and afraid people hearing what...
    GrumpyMe GrumpyMe 22-25, F Jul 17

    Your Response

    Cancel
    There was a period of my career when I came in from working my morning job. I would have about 3 to 4 hours free to shower and kick back until I had to go on duty at my other job...
    freddyshirley freddyshirley 51-55, F Jun 28

    Your Response

    Cancel
    What has caused me to be a victim of bullying? What traits do I possess that make me reluctant to be a victim? Some may see them as flaws but I'm not sure that is the truth. Just...
    betweenlustandlove betweenlustandlove 22-25, F Jul 2

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Ever since I was 12 years of age, I've lived with my father. My mother left me with my dad. I have three other siblings that were also hurt by my mothers actions. I've been...
    jcindp jcindp 16-17, F Jul 10

    Your Response

    Cancel
    But The Adults Were the Worst. When kids bully other kids, although that's bad enough, it's not unusual. Kids could be mean. It is almost expected that most children will...
    deadmoon deadmoon 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 15

    Your Response

    Cancel
    This will sort of be a stream of consciousness vent. I don't feel totally comfortable writing this here. Putting out my problems on the internet like this for strangers to read but...
    fibrodoodle fibrodoodle 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 16

    Your Response

    Cancel
    One of our most overlooked superpowers in life is the unbelievable power of our beliefs. A quick note: This is not for the faint of heart. It is going to go deeper than possibly...
    NeoJesusOfTheMatrix NeoJesusOfTheMatrix 70+ 4 Responses Jul 16

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I live in a house with six cousins and my 31 year old sister. Every saturday, we all go down to the woods for the day. We are all nudists and have seen each other's "bits" many...
    TheNudistTeen TheNudistTeen 13-15, M 4 Responses 11 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I love being full nude. It's amazing! For anyone that hasn't tried it yet you definitely should! Just walk around your house naked ir something!
    MrYoungNudist MrYoungNudist 13-15, M 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I joined this group as, like most people, I really don't like being lied to. You take me as you find me, and I don't put on heirs and graces, so there's no need to lie or be false...
    ConcreteSleeper ConcreteSleeper 31-35, M 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Looking to chat and make new friends. Shoot me a message, i love being inboxed. Lol
    everlong86 everlong86 26-30, M 7 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Enjoy Being Around People Who Inspire and Motivate
    michigan11 michigan11 22-25, M 1 Response 4 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I hate being used by players. I always tell myself that I'll never fall for another one again and yet I do, over and over again. I feel like, to guys, I'm only good enough for sex...
    xkylie xkylie 18-21, F 3 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    After some important exams, I'm finally on holidays, and I can finally do what I've planned to do during the whole year. Sleeping, reading, meditation, cooking, listening to music...
    Eryalina Eryalina 18-21, F 3 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I hate being ignored because wen im trying to talk with someone , and they dont say say nothing . I feel like im a ghost or something , like today i try to tell my mom something...
    paola93 paola93 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Whoever keeps reporting me just stop lol honestly if you can't handle a few stories about being naked... Like good luck. Just in general. With your life.
    gracieee1997 gracieee1997 16-17, F 8 Responses 1 hr ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Being the type to prove that i can be the better person, than ANYBODY could,would, or expect me to be. 🌹
    Richesss Richesss 16-17, F Jun 28

    Your Response

    Cancel
    A Bucket Filled With Tools And Getting Closer Again The crisis between my wife and myself started around Christmas and came to a terrible high at New Years eve. I left the family...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 2 Responses Jun 29

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I am psychotically attentive to detail, unfortunately this means my thoughts are far to complex to explain. I am going to try anyways. I know I will never be fortunate enough to...
    SaphiraJane SaphiraJane 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 3

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I hate being ignored by the people that I care about and that claim they care about me. I don't really mind so much if a stranger, someone that I just meet, or someone that I'm...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 8 Responses Jul 17

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I have a dream.... I have many dreams..... I have made some of my dreams come true but not others. Why is that? Fear... Procrastination .... And waiting for life to happen instead...
    imjustadreamin imjustadreamin 41-45, F 6 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    One of my biggest problems in life is being so afraid of what people think of me that I don't talk to anyone at all. Sometimes I do, but I feel like anything I say is stupid or I...
    AnomalousEarthling AnomalousEarthling 22-25, F 6 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I have my own gym in the garage and love working out naked then jumping in my pool to cool off. Spent all day naked with my GF yesterday in the garden. We just love being naked lol...
    Dazzer2K Dazzer2K 26-30, M 5 Responses 4 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I hate being angry because when I am angry I sin and I feel so badly and fear I disappoint God. I always apologize to God when I calm down but I feel so guilty because the next...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I love working out, it has transformed me from a depressed scrony, not confident boy, to a totally new person who loves working out and values life now. I enjoy waking up in the...
    VishalM92 VishalM92 18-21, M Jul 1

    Your Response

    Cancel