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I Am Working On Not Being Codependent

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 33 People

    11 years I've been married to my husband,

    a man I respected and loved unconditionally. If you also codependent, you know what I'm talking about, the kind of love that withstands constant criticism from the one who is supposed to be supportive. The loyalty that is given despite being betrayed in so many big and small...
    reader4life reader4life 31-35, F Jan 13

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    I'm A Codependent

    Its sort of funny that i would share on a website like this.  But here goes: I battle every day with my codependency.  I've been a codependent from a very early age although it didn't have a name at that time.  The biggest thing that happened was that i was in a...
    tisaac tisaac 51-55, F 1 Response Nov 9, 2009

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