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I Am Working To Improve My Marriage

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    My husband recently admitted to me

    that he had an emotional affair. He even used that phrase. We've been married 4 years and have been together since 2006. I love him very much and want to work through this. It's all happens so recently... He told me on Monday (12-30-13) and had seen her the previous Friday (12...
    happilyeverafter5110 happilyeverafter5110 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 3

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    but its not working both people have to pull in

    the same direction or you get nowhere she just says "its not my fault you fix it" and that dose not work!!
    moparman51 moparman51 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 7, 2013

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    Trying To Explain It.

    Over the weekend, I was trying to explain why I am staying in my marriage for now, even though I am not exactly happy right now. It is hard for her to understand, because all she can see is my frustration and unhappiness, and (being the good friend that she is), just wants me to...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 5, 2011

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    How Long Can I Do This? Or, Here Be Dragons

    I’ve thought a lot about how so many couples get to where my H and I are, and they split up. This is where the road ends for a lot of marriages. In this place, one spouse will say to the other, “I love you, but I am not in love with you.” The attraction is gone, the spark...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 5 Responses Jul 11, 2011

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    It Does Make A Difference

    Up until yesterday being in debt, my husband's unhappiness with his place of employment, and my discontent with all of it hung over our marriage like a dampened thunder cloud just waiting to storm. Every room was filled with a chaotic silence that filtered into every crevice of...
    SweetlyLingering SweetlyLingering 70+, F 1 Response Mar 10, 2012

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    Monday Night In

    Monday night. My husband's night out. I usually accept his absence and the empty house with a reluctant heart. Tonight, I had plans of my own. Seven o'clock approached. I opened a beer and waited for the door. It had been so long... I reminisced about old college days as the...
    AshCents AshCents 26-30 2 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    Building A New, Passionate Marriage With My Husband

    My Husband and I married young and we never really had passion together because we started dating in HS. Passion for us was learning to fly away from our Mothers nests together. Our falling in love phase was interlaced with teenage growth and development. While I feel this...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 7, 2011

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    "Falling Out Of Love" Is An Inevitable Step Of Marriage.

    "I love him, but I am not IN love with him..." It is the most cliche expression about struggling marriages, but when you are living through it, it feels like the end of the world. I have been there. It is a terrible realization that makes you feel trapped, depressed, and bitterly...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 13 Responses Jan 12, 2012

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    My Husband Says He Loves Me...but Does He? So Worried

    Hi I am looking for some advise...wE HAVE BEEN MARRIED 11 YEARS and have always had a very happy and good marriage. The past year has been not so great as we have both had a lot of stuff to deal with...financiall issues, kids sick alot, husband sick alot, job stress , lack of...
    dandelion1 dandelion1 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 7, 2012

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    Midlife Crisis For Both Of Us???

    My husband bought a book on iTunes "The Sex Starved Marriage" in July of 2011.  He completed the book...I have not.  We've had other issues come up.  He told me after purchasing the book that he couldn't continue to live like roomates any longer.  Problem is, I was okay with...
    Crazeemom Crazeemom 36-40, F 6 Responses Jan 12, 2012

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    Actually, It's All About The Sex.

    Been working this out for a while now, and it may need to be amended, but here it goes: You know that old saying, "Everything in our marriage is great except for the sex". Yeah, there is no such thing. A well-functioning marriage is all about the sex. The key to a...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 16 Responses Jun 18, 2012

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    Sacred Love

    Because I believe in the beauty of the marriage bond, I am currently in a transition from marriage doldrums to rediscovering and renewing my relationship with my husband. This has not been easy.
    itzcomplex itzcomplex 51-55, F 3 Responses Mar 13, 2013

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    We Made It Through Another Year

    Yesterday was our 8th wedding anniversary. When I came to EP and joined ILIASM, I didn't think I was going to be married by this time. Yet here I am. Wendigo got some of this update in a pm the other day, but I thought it would be good to share some of that with you all here...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 2, 2011

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    A Bucket Filled With Tools And Getting Closer

    Again The crisis between my wife and myself started around Christmas and came to a terrible high at New Years eve. I left the family get together and said, that I wanted to read on my bed. That was the early end of our family party. It was the first time that I just left, not...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 2 Responses Jun 29

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    A Work In Progress

    I wrote another story about a possible divorce that I did not want. Things are looking better now and I feel like we're going to be ok. I've been married for almost 16 years and I've had a lot of time to think about it over the last few weeks. We've had plenty of ups and downs...
    jennalove jennalove 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 14, 2013

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    I'm reading "The 5 Love Languages" Military

    Edition. Any one else going through this book with their spouse?
    wheelsxoxo wheelsxoxo 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 25

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    Last week we had our 18th anniversary.

    My wife asked me what to do on that day. And I had this idea with 18 stops. My idea was to present each other a surprise or task for each year, that meant 18 stops and surprises for each other. After having been to a restaurant and giving each other love letters. We drove to...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 2

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    Strength And Independence...a Weakness?

    Being the youngest of five, with three older brothers I learned young that strength was a virtue. I had to be tough, if they sensed a weakness they were relentless. Not mean...but their teasing to a young girl was stuff to be feared. Growing up on a cattle ranch where everyone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jan 1, 2013

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    I'm actually a guy but I really need help

    learning to deal with my wonderful wife each month. It's bad. Very. Very. Baaaad. I don't know how to say it strongly enough. We have a beautiful marriage and enjoy each day throughout the month, but then for a couple days prior to menstruation she regrets marrying me and she...
    gman1616 gman1616 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 27

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    Marriage For Athiests

    I have been trying to save myself and my marriage since January. Well, it began before that, but that is when the real, deliberate work began. In all this time of deliberate work, I have sought out advice from about anywhere I can get it. I was hoping to find personal...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 7 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    When Your Heart Stops Beating...

    Marriage is tough. Some days are better than others. I find myself exhausted in life. I don't have a physically tough job, but a mentally and emotionally hard one. I feel like I don't have support at home. I am a passenger in my own life. I might as well be in a movie theatre...
    crow29 crow29 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 28, 2012

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    Hubby and I have decided no technology

    after 8 pm! So I won't be on here during the evenings.
    wheelsxoxo wheelsxoxo 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    Part 2 As I states before,

    I am reading: Becoming The Woman Of His Dreams by Sharon Jaynes. Since I posted, I feel the need to continue talking about my progress. My husband continues to show more energy and excitement than before. Even if it bugs me I have responded in agreement to all his requests with...
    Ashley216 Ashley216 26-30, F Dec 10, 2013

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    Trying To Succeed

    Many heart to hearts...none so much effective as the most recent. Flood gates were opened and well received, on both our parts. Understanding the difference between what was, and what is...holds promise of a better tomorrow. We are both at fault and we both love the other more...
    SweetlyLingering SweetlyLingering 70+, F 1 Response Mar 6, 2012

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    Marriage Is Tough

    Up until a month ago, I thought being married was pretty easy. My husband and I have been together for 14.5 years and I figured we had worked through most of the kinks in our relationship. We were at a really good place. Then he decided to share some dark secrets about his life...
    FlowersOfPurple FlowersOfPurple 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 13, 2013

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    A Bit Of Encouragement...

    I want to give an update on my situation: My wife and I have been married for almost 13 years...  her 2nd marriage...  my 3rd marriage.  We've had some ups and downs...  and have been in counseling off and on for the past year.  My biggest frustration has been her lack of...
    mls2878 mls2878 56-60, M 5 Responses Jun 19, 2013

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    So all my posts have been very reflective of my

    sadness and hopelessness in my married. I began reading a book titled: Becoming The Woman of His Dreams by Sharon Jaynes. She outlines the type of woman I should be to my husband (Proverbs 31 woman). Over the weekend I have seen a turn around with him and within my self as I...
    Ashley216 Ashley216 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 9, 2013

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    My Wife Isn'T Interested In Me Any More

    I need some help. Almost every day I wake up ANGRY at about 4:00 AM from a recurring dream. I stay angry all day and feel my body shaking. I don't know what to do. My dream is that my wife still thinks I’m Prince Charming and wants to make love to me. And as we’re at the...
    SampsonLee SampsonLee 51-55, M 6 Responses Apr 14, 2013

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    Laugh Your Way To A Better Marriage

    My wife and I have been watching the "Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage" DVDs, by Mark Gungor. I know...  I know...  It sounds a bit silly.  But in the midst of his crazy humor, he discusses all of the key topics that couples tend to struggle with...  and we have found...
    mls2878 mls2878 56-60, M 1 Response Oct 21, 2013

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    Mutual Sharing Feels Like A Reboot

    Greetings, EP members. This is my first story and I'd like to share with you what I did a few weeks ago to improve both my relationship and my sexuality. It's been almost 7 years since I met my girlfriend. After interesting but messy previous relationships, we are living a...
    lebarrron lebarrron 41-45, M Jan 9, 2012

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    So I was quite active in this group about a year ago. We started seeing a therapist, working on marriage. Quit EP, committed to change. Everything was different for quite a while...
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    Hmm this week I've been adding stories to the experiences I've chosen since being a member on here. I've been adding each story one at a time.And so far it's been pretty straight...
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    I'm sure we all have read the story of the guy who emailed his wife a spreadsheet of his failed attempts at sexual advances. I've read more than a few articles on the story...
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    DONE as opposed to done. It kind of went like this. On holiday I was putting my stuff into 'my' room, we have not shared beds in years due to the SM and her crazy crap, that's...
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    I am scared of marriage, I almost hate it. It is because I do not want to form a scattered family, they are not even a family, they hate each other, I do not want to bring such...
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    Thanks to all the great feedback I’ve been getting here, I’ve been able to process a lot of what’s going on in my marriage. Most of it is simply about clarity rather than any...
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