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    Building A New, Passionate Marriage With My Husband

    My Husband and I married young and we never really had passion together because we started dating in HS. Passion for us was learning to fly away from our Mothers nests together. Our falling in love phase was interlaced with teenage growth and development. While I feel this...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 7, 2011

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    My Husband Says He Loves Me...but Does He? So Worried

    Hi I am looking for some advise...wE HAVE BEEN MARRIED 11 YEARS and have always had a very happy and good marriage. The past year has been not so great as we have both had a lot of stuff to deal with...financiall issues, kids sick alot, husband sick alot, job stress , lack of...
    dandelion1 dandelion1 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 7, 2012

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    A Bit Of Encouragement...

    I want to give an update on my situation: My wife and I have been married for almost 13 years...  her 2nd marriage...  my 3rd marriage.  We've had some ups and downs...  and have been in counseling off and on for the past year.  My biggest frustration has been her lack of...
    mls2878 mls2878 56-60, M 6 Responses Jun 19, 2013

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    When Your Heart Stops Beating...

    Marriage is tough. Some days are better than others. I find myself exhausted in life. I don't have a physically tough job, but a mentally and emotionally hard one. I feel like I don't have support at home. I am a passenger in my own life. I might as well be in a movie theatre...
    crow29 crow29 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 28, 2012

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    Sacred Love

    Because I believe in the beauty of the marriage bond, I am currently in a transition from marriage doldrums to rediscovering and renewing my relationship with my husband. This has not been easy.
    itzcomplex itzcomplex 51-55, F 3 Responses Mar 13, 2013

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    Actually, It's All About The Sex.

    Been working this out for a while now, and it may need to be amended, but here it goes: You know that old saying, "Everything in our marriage is great except for the sex". Yeah, there is no such thing. A well-functioning marriage is all about the sex. The key to a...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 13 Responses Jun 18, 2012

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    We Made It Through Another Year

    Yesterday was our 8th wedding anniversary. When I came to EP and joined ILIASM, I didn't think I was going to be married by this time. Yet here I am. Wendigo got some of this update in a pm the other day, but I thought it would be good to share some of that with you all here...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 2, 2011

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    Laugh Your Way To A Better Marriage

    My wife and I have been watching the "Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage" DVDs, by Mark Gungor. I know...  I know...  It sounds a bit silly.  But in the midst of his crazy humor, he discusses all of the key topics that couples tend to struggle with...  and we have found...
    mls2878 mls2878 56-60, M 1 Response Oct 21, 2013

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    My wife and I agreed a couple of weeks ago we

    need to identify what it will take for each of us to be happy in our marriage. We have talked through some of our individual problems without really summing it up yet, beyond her statement she wants a "warm, fuzzy feeling" between us. I think I've figured out the sum of it...
    WishfulGuy WishfulGuy 46-50, M 4 Responses Oct 17

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    A Bucket Filled With Tools And Getting Closer

    Again The crisis between my wife and myself started around Christmas and came to a terrible high at New Years eve. I left the family get together and said, that I wanted to read on my bed. That was the early end of our family party. It was the first time that I just left, not...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 51-55, M 1 Response Jun 29

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    How Long Can I Do This? Or, Here Be Dragons

    I’ve thought a lot about how so many couples get to where my H and I are, and they split up. This is where the road ends for a lot of marriages. In this place, one spouse will say to the other, “I love you, but I am not in love with you.” The attraction is gone, the spark...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 5 Responses Jul 11, 2011

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    we've been having problems.

    ..if you read my past experiences you'll be able to see and catch up! so Thursday I tell my husband iv had enough once and for all and I want out. he cries and begs me,pretty much shouting he pleas at me to give him one more chance,that he'd planned something friday and it was...
    newstart1315 newstart1315 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    For those following my posts

    and who asked for updates: My wife and I are now about a month into our efforts to turn our marriage around after years of highs and lows. I'm trying hard to diffuse things that come up that I would have reacted to before and am making adjustments to contribute more around...
    WishfulGuy WishfulGuy 46-50, M 3 Responses Oct 3

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    I'm reading "The 5 Love Languages" Military

    Edition. Any one else going through this book with their spouse?
    wheelsxoxo wheelsxoxo 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 25

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    Trying To Succeed

    Many heart to hearts...none so much effective as the most recent. Flood gates were opened and well received, on both our parts. Understanding the difference between what was, and what is...holds promise of a better tomorrow. We are both at fault and we both love the other more...
    SweetlyLingering SweetlyLingering 70+, F 1 Response Mar 6, 2012

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    I want to work on my marriage

    but I had a miscarriage and my husband felt work mattered more.
    leaf90McC leaf90McC 22-25, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Trying To Explain It.

    Over the weekend, I was trying to explain why I am staying in my marriage for now, even though I am not exactly happy right now. It is hard for her to understand, because all she can see is my frustration and unhappiness, and (being the good friend that she is), just wants me to...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 5, 2011

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    Marriage Is Tough

    Up until a month ago, I thought being married was pretty easy. My husband and I have been together for 14.5 years and I figured we had worked through most of the kinks in our relationship. We were at a really good place. Then he decided to share some dark secrets about his life...
    FlowersOfPurple FlowersOfPurple 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 13, 2013

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    I'm actually a guy but I really need help

    learning to deal with my wonderful wife each month. It's bad. Very. Very. Baaaad. I don't know how to say it strongly enough. We have a beautiful marriage and enjoy each day throughout the month, but then for a couple days prior to menstruation she regrets marrying me and she...
    gman1616 gman1616 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 27

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    Part 2 As I states before,

    I am reading: Becoming The Woman Of His Dreams by Sharon Jaynes. Since I posted, I feel the need to continue talking about my progress. My husband continues to show more energy and excitement than before. Even if it bugs me I have responded in agreement to all his requests with...
    Ashley216 Ashley216 26-30, F Dec 10, 2013

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    Has anyone ever fallen out of love with their

    spouse, and then was able to fall in love again and have a happy marriage?
    Amiramae Amiramae 22-25, F Aug 26

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    So all my posts have been very reflective of my

    sadness and hopelessness in my married. I began reading a book titled: Becoming The Woman of His Dreams by Sharon Jaynes. She outlines the type of woman I should be to my husband (Proverbs 31 woman). Over the weekend I have seen a turn around with him and within my self as I...
    Ashley216 Ashley216 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 9, 2013

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    My Wife Isn'T Interested In Me Any More

    I need some help. Almost every day I wake up ANGRY at about 4:00 AM from a recurring dream. I stay angry all day and feel my body shaking. I don't know what to do. My dream is that my wife still thinks I’m Prince Charming and wants to make love to me. And as we’re at the...
    SampsonLee SampsonLee 51-55, M 6 Responses Apr 14, 2013

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    but its not working both people have to pull in

    the same direction or you get nowhere she just says "its not my fault you fix it" and that dose not work!!
    moparman51 moparman51 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 7, 2013

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    Strength And Independence...a Weakness?

    Being the youngest of five, with three older brothers I learned young that strength was a virtue. I had to be tough, if they sensed a weakness they were relentless. Not mean...but their teasing to a young girl was stuff to be feared. Growing up on a cattle ranch where everyone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jan 1, 2013

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    My husband recently admitted to me

    that he had an emotional affair. He even used that phrase. We've been married 4 years and have been together since 2006. I love him very much and want to work through this. It's all happens so recently... He told me on Monday (12-30-13) and had seen her the previous Friday (12...
    happilyeverafter5110 happilyeverafter5110 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 3

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    Our belated 20th Anniversary trip to New

    England was exactly what we needed to help us reconnect. Despite having a Nor'easter begin hitting the area on second full day, we had a great time. We still managed to take several short to medium hikes in White Mountains area, some in our rain gear. Did a little shopping...
    WishfulGuy WishfulGuy 46-50, M Oct 25

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    Hubby and I have decided no technology

    after 8 pm! So I won't be on here during the evenings.
    wheelsxoxo wheelsxoxo 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    "Falling Out Of Love" Is An Inevitable Step Of Marriage.

    "I love him, but I am not IN love with him..." It is the most cliche expression about struggling marriages, but when you are living through it, it feels like the end of the world. I have been there. It is a terrible realization that makes you feel trapped, depressed, and bitterly...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 13 Responses Jan 12, 2012

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    Monday Night In

    Monday night. My husband's night out. I usually accept his absence and the empty house with a reluctant heart. Tonight, I had plans of my own. Seven o'clock approached. I opened a beer and waited for the door. It had been so long... I reminisced about old college days as the...
    AshCents AshCents 26-30 2 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    Marriage For Athiests

    I have been trying to save myself and my marriage since January. Well, it began before that, but that is when the real, deliberate work began. In all this time of deliberate work, I have sought out advice from about anywhere I can get it. I was hoping to find personal...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 7 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    A Work In Progress

    I wrote another story about a possible divorce that I did not want. Things are looking better now and I feel like we're going to be ok. I've been married for almost 16 years and I've had a lot of time to think about it over the last few weeks. We've had plenty of ups and downs...
    jennalove jennalove 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 14, 2013

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    It Does Make A Difference

    Up until yesterday being in debt, my husband's unhappiness with his place of employment, and my discontent with all of it hung over our marriage like a dampened thunder cloud just waiting to storm. Every room was filled with a chaotic silence that filtered into every crevice of...
    SweetlyLingering SweetlyLingering 70+, F 1 Response Mar 10, 2012

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    Last week we had our 18th anniversary.

    My wife asked me what to do on that day. And I had this idea with 18 stops. My idea was to present each other a surprise or task for each year, that meant 18 stops and surprises for each other. After having been to a restaurant and giving each other love letters. We drove to...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 51-55, M Jul 2

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    Where to begin ... My wife

    and I experienced a set back in our attempts to improve our marriage. I found some evidence last week of an on-going emotional relationship she got started with an old-boyfriend a few months ago and met with the man while visiting her parents in July, a couple months before our...
    WishfulGuy WishfulGuy 46-50, M 1 Response Nov 10

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    Active efforts to work on our marriage are

    "on-hold" to an extent over the holidays at my wife's insistence, though I struggle to believe good things can come from letting serious issues sit idly by. I asked and she did agree in the interim to finish reading the 5 Love Languages book, that I have already read. As...
    WishfulGuy WishfulGuy 46-50, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    Related Experiences

    It's been a year since I last posted. I had an online affair with a woman I met on EP. I fell in love with her. My wife found out and I broke it off. I haven't spoken to her in a...
    aaw7395 aaw7395 41-45, M 4 Responses Nov 28

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    I went to see our marriage counselor with my wife today. I feel more and more that the situation is hopeless.
    Cowboy011 Cowboy011 51-55, M 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    Who gets to decide? My former account was taken down by EP, and I'm very discouraged by the way things are handled here. When I joined EP two years ago, I had found a place to...
    kandinsky41 kandinsky41 46-50, F 9 Responses Dec 4

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    Well I'm not sure where this will end up. But I'm here as a former refuser. One to make some amends and two to tell the truth to all the women who are currently living with a...
    Transgressed Transgressed 46-50, M 4 Responses Dec 10

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    I'm working on being present. On living in the moment, but not in the way that justifies doing harmful, destructive things. Just living in the moment, in the purest sense. I'm...
    manzanilla manzanilla 18-21, F Nov 30

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    I admire people who take time to improve themselves. There is this lady in my group who always looks so beat, so good. When I see her I admire the fact that with all the stress in...
    crimsonreggie crimsonreggie 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    40 years of a miserable marriage/ I cant afford to leave. I am not working. We have a lot of debt. He causes me so much stress. He has such a temper. Never helps me in the house...
    Maggie1909 Maggie1909 61-65, F Nov 27

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    I'd like to talk to someone about there marriage and why it isn't working and we could talk about other stuff to
    StephyLynnJoe StephyLynnJoe 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 6

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    My lawyer is working on the paper works , I can't wait to leave this crazy sexless marriage
    World4me World4me 26-30, M 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm feeling very hopeless and depressed lately. Particularly today. At this point my psychology is so ****** up as a result of my husband never wanting me and being such an angry...
    myownproblem13 myownproblem13 36-40, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Anyone who is looking to supplement their income or live a more natural healthier life. Would you like to make some extra money not only for the holidays coming up but maybe to...
    CassieBennett CassieBennett 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 9

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    I lost 66lbs and have since hit a plateau. I want to dedicate myself to working out and get fit. Any tips would be fantastic because I am so lost!
    KismetWrites KismetWrites 31-35 4 Responses 1 day ago

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