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I Am Working To Improve My Marriage

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    Laugh Your Way To A Better Marriage

    My wife and I have been watching the "Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage" DVDs, by Mark Gungor. I know...  I know...  It sounds a bit silly.  But in the midst of his crazy humor, he discusses all of the key topics that couples tend to struggle with...  and we have found...
    mls2878 mls2878 56-60, M 1 Response Oct 21, 2013

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    Building A New, Passionate Marriage With My Husband

    My Husband and I married young and we never really had passion together because we started dating in HS. Passion for us was learning to fly away from our Mothers nests together. Our falling in love phase was interlaced with teenage growth and development. While I feel this...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 7, 2011

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    Trying To Succeed

    Many heart to hearts...none so much effective as the most recent. Flood gates were opened and well received, on both our parts. Understanding the difference between what was, and what is...holds promise of a better tomorrow. We are both at fault and we both love the other more...
    SweetlyLingering SweetlyLingering 70+, F 1 Response Mar 6, 2012

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    Trying To Explain It.

    Over the weekend, I was trying to explain why I am staying in my marriage for now, even though I am not exactly happy right now. It is hard for her to understand, because all she can see is my frustration and unhappiness, and (being the good friend that she is), just wants me to...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 5, 2011

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    My husband recently admitted to me

    that he had an emotional affair. He even used that phrase. We've been married 4 years and have been together since 2006. I love him very much and want to work through this. It's all happens so recently... He told me on Monday (12-30-13) and had seen her the previous Friday (12...
    happilyeverafter5110 happilyeverafter5110 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 3

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    A Work In Progress

    I wrote another story about a possible divorce that I did not want. Things are looking better now and I feel like we're going to be ok. I've been married for almost 16 years and I've had a lot of time to think about it over the last few weeks. We've had plenty of ups and downs...
    jennalove jennalove 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 14, 2013

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    How Long Can I Do This? Or, Here Be Dragons

    I’ve thought a lot about how so many couples get to where my H and I are, and they split up. This is where the road ends for a lot of marriages. In this place, one spouse will say to the other, “I love you, but I am not in love with you.” The attraction is gone, the spark...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 5 Responses Jul 11, 2011

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    So all my posts have been very reflective of my

    sadness and hopelessness in my married. I began reading a book titled: Becoming The Woman of His Dreams by Sharon Jaynes. She outlines the type of woman I should be to my husband (Proverbs 31 woman). Over the weekend I have seen a turn around with him and within my self as I...
    Ashley216 Ashley216 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 9, 2013

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    Midlife Crisis For Both Of Us???

    My husband bought a book on iTunes "The Sex Starved Marriage" in July of 2011.  He completed the book...I have not.  We've had other issues come up.  He told me after purchasing the book that he couldn't continue to live like roomates any longer.  Problem is, I was okay with...
    Crazeemom Crazeemom 36-40, F 6 Responses Jan 12, 2012

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    Marriage Is Tough

    Up until a month ago, I thought being married was pretty easy. My husband and I have been together for 14.5 years and I figured we had worked through most of the kinks in our relationship. We were at a really good place. Then he decided to share some dark secrets about his life...
    FlowersOfPurple FlowersOfPurple 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 13, 2013

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    It Does Make A Difference

    Up until yesterday being in debt, my husband's unhappiness with his place of employment, and my discontent with all of it hung over our marriage like a dampened thunder cloud just waiting to storm. Every room was filled with a chaotic silence that filtered into every crevice of...
    SweetlyLingering SweetlyLingering 70+, F 1 Response Mar 10, 2012

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    We Made It Through Another Year

    Yesterday was our 8th wedding anniversary. When I came to EP and joined ILIASM, I didn't think I was going to be married by this time. Yet here I am. Wendigo got some of this update in a pm the other day, but I thought it would be good to share some of that with you all here...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 2, 2011

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    My Wife Isn'T Interested In Me Any More

    I need some help. Almost every day I wake up ANGRY at about 4:00 AM from a recurring dream. I stay angry all day and feel my body shaking. I don't know what to do. My dream is that my wife still thinks I’m Prince Charming and wants to make love to me. And as we’re at the...
    SampsonLee SampsonLee 51-55, M 6 Responses Apr 14, 2013

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    When Your Heart Stops Beating...

    Marriage is tough. Some days are better than others. I find myself exhausted in life. I don't have a physically tough job, but a mentally and emotionally hard one. I feel like I don't have support at home. I am a passenger in my own life. I might as well be in a movie theatre...
    crow29 crow29 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 28, 2012

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    Part 2 As I states before,

    I am reading: Becoming The Woman Of His Dreams by Sharon Jaynes. Since I posted, I feel the need to continue talking about my progress. My husband continues to show more energy and excitement than before. Even if it bugs me I have responded in agreement to all his requests with...
    Ashley216 Ashley216 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2013

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    A Bit Of Encouragement...

    I want to give an update on my situation: My wife and I have been married for almost 13 years...  her 2nd marriage...  my 3rd marriage.  We've had some ups and downs...  and have been in counseling off and on for the past year.  My biggest frustration has been her lack of...
    mls2878 mls2878 56-60, M 5 Responses Jun 19, 2013

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    Actually, It's All About The Sex.

    Been working this out for a while now, and it may need to be amended, but here it goes: You know that old saying, "Everything in our marriage is great except for the sex". Yeah, there is no such thing. A well-functioning marriage is all about the sex. The key to a...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 17 Responses Jun 18, 2012

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    Sacred Love

    Because I believe in the beauty of the marriage bond, I am currently in a transition from marriage doldrums to rediscovering and renewing my relationship with my husband. This has not been easy.
    itzcomplex itzcomplex 51-55, F 1 Response Mar 13, 2013

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    Monday Night In

    Monday night. My husband's night out. I usually accept his absence and the empty house with a reluctant heart. Tonight, I had plans of my own. Seven o'clock approached. I opened a beer and waited for the door. It had been so long... I reminisced about old college days as the...
    AshCents AshCents 26-30 1 Response Sep 24, 2013

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    "Falling Out Of Love" Is An Inevitable Step Of Marriage.

    "I love him, but I am not IN love with him..." It is the most cliche expression about struggling marriages, but when you are living through it, it feels like the end of the world. I have been there. It is a terrible realization that makes you feel trapped, depressed, and bitterly...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 13 Responses Jan 12, 2012

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    My Husband Says He Loves Me...but Does He? So Worried

    Hi I am looking for some advise...wE HAVE BEEN MARRIED 11 YEARS and have always had a very happy and good marriage. The past year has been not so great as we have both had a lot of stuff to deal with...financiall issues, kids sick alot, husband sick alot, job stress , lack of...
    dandelion1 dandelion1 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 7, 2012

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    Marriage For Athiests

    I have been trying to save myself and my marriage since January. Well, it began before that, but that is when the real, deliberate work began. In all this time of deliberate work, I have sought out advice from about anywhere I can get it. I was hoping to find personal...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 7 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    This story is being posted in the SEPTIC group,as well as "I Want To Improve the Experience Project,and "Ask EP Arsineh"Dear EP Arsineh,,Why does EP hate my kind? You know,my kind...
    bookerdana bookerdana 51-55, M 8 hrs ago

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    Understand English well enough but if I need to have a dialogue with someone I am bad. I want to improve my English.
    Ovidiu91 Ovidiu91 22-25, M 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    Newly Released: Story Editing + Better Spam Filtering + More! It's been a couple weeks since our last update and since then we've been plugging away, working on building a number...
    EPArsineh EPArsineh 26-30, F 187 Responses 3 days ago

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    my husband left to US and he will be taking me in another 2 months....and his parents are forcing me ...taking me to all their relatives house..whom I dont even know and all these...
    needemotionalsupport needemotionalsupport 22-25, F 6 hrs ago

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    I have read many posts now, and I cannot claim to know what is the best route for others. I love my wife and I have amazing young kids, but our problem with sex goes back from...
    travelight travelight 41-45, M 3 hrs ago

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    I'm not married but I was engaged and I had to break it off it did hurt because I really loved him but I'm a sex addict and I thought I could change that and he wanted me to...
    June4U June4U 22-25, F 5 Responses 1 hr ago

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    People keep asking me whether i'm married. Why? 1, do i look like i should be married? Or,,look like im married? With kids maybe? 😕 2, Why would my status concerns u anyway? It...
    bellabong bellabong 26-30, F 2 Responses 40 mins ago

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    I’ve recently posted a very lengthy story in this category with recommendations for improvements. I figured that that was enough for a while, but I can already see several other...
    TheGreatLeveler TheGreatLeveler 22-25, M 2 Responses Apr 4

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    Two weeks ago, I shared what I thought would be my current status for awhile. Life being what it is - it has thrown me into a crazy roller coaster loop once again. The good news...
    lightblueeyes lightblueeyes 46-50, F 21 Responses Mar 28

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    Make that, that I used to live in a marriage that was becoming a sexless marriage. Today would have been our second anniversary. The story is complicated, but to make it short, she...
    soundtrackforantarctica soundtrackforantarctica 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    Very unhappily married and no sex now for 9yrs ! I told my husband we need to decide once we sale the house the route of our marriage I told him we can stay friends since we have...
    Unhappilylonely Unhappilylonely 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 4

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    Before and After … Nearing 8 months after my separation, I reflect on the emotional desert I have called my marriage. During those years, I was starved for a smile or a hug. A...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 6

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    For Kids Sake.... As part of our divorce and the process both my stbx and my therapist suggested a seminar called For Kids Sake. I got quite a bit out of it myself. I attended...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 7 Responses Mar 30

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    So I first came to EP years ago to discuss my sexless marriage. It has not been easy, a marriage with dwindling sex and now we are close to four years since we last tried. However...
    VanillaLife VanillaLife 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 20

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    So yesterday we saw a marriage councillor. We haddn't been for a few years since before the kids came along. I was really hoping that she was going to be able to help my husband...
    Germanovna Germanovna 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 3

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    Talking Points - To get agreement to separate Now I have to solicit advice from those here on ILIASM that have successfully left their marriages with no fight, no rancor, but...
    EinEngel EinEngel 46-50, F 17 Responses Apr 11

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    It's over. All would be so much easier if I weren't so emotional about my own life. Unfortunately, when you are in a marriage that lacks love, and all that entails, you simply have...
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 36-40, F 19 Responses 1 day ago

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    So, I had to go home today to do some chores at the parent's. Hubs normally helps out but he's gone so it was up to me to cover. (wtf weird dynamic) I felt like being nice so I...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 23

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    March 22 at 8 am my marriage officially ended... my husband is very sad.. I am the only one he has ever loved, and the thought of him finding a new girl makes him feel sick... not...
    WendyBlabs WendyBlabs 36-40, F Mar 24

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    Why won't you just let me go?! I'm doing you, us, a favor by owning it all and *trying* to set you free! But no, you hold on for dear effing life. Am I property? Status? A promise...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 10 Responses Mar 26

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    I have been married 8 years and been together with my wife for a total of 18 years. we had 2 small kids. for the past 4-5 years, we have not been working on our marriage but...
    needtotalk37 needtotalk37 36-40, M 4 Responses Apr 1

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    Laughing like a crazy person... Exit strategy has been thwarted, but not surprised at all. H got fired by his uncle Monday night. Gentle conversation on my part got me the...
    jmx46578 jmx46578 36-40, F 10 Responses Apr 2

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    I am new here. I haven't participated in online discussions in years so this is quite awkward but I like the anonymity an could really use an ear. I will be married for five years...
    gardinel gardinel 36-40, F 12 Responses Apr 10

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    Hi, I am a 28 yrs Hindu Girl, Graduated from Delhi, India and post graduated from Wales, UK now working in Delhi as a Management professional. I am in a straight a relationship...
    alia0001 alia0001 26-30, F 22 hrs ago

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    It was someone I hated, a week before first sleeping with my boyfriend (now fiancé). And I'm so glad I did, for a few reasons. Partly because of the physical aspects. For me, it...
    MissIntent MissIntent 18-21, F Mar 27

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    A few days ago I spoke with my STBX about what comes next. I guess I should not be surprised, but he has decided that since the relationship didn't work out and he has been...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 19 Responses Apr 4

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    I have been married for 8 years. The sex was just alright in the first couple of years and then basically dwindled off into never ever land. I thought I could accept her lack of...
    ll2live ll2live 41-45 9 Responses Apr 7

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    My time has come. Court is tomorrow. Hopefully it is the last court date and I get my divorce. It is bittersweet. I had such hopes. I took my vows seriously. For better or worse...
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 36-40, F 25 Responses 2 days ago

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    Hello there, I am Indian 29 years old working in UAE, looking asexual/ straight fun loving independent girl for Sexless Marriage to support each other and spend a smooth life...
    HHopeful HHopeful 26-30, M 20 hrs ago

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    Hey EP admin......this is not a huge thing, but it's been ongoing for months, and I wonder if others here are having the same problem. When I am signed in from my phone I can't...
    Babydoll42 Babydoll42 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    So, I thought I'd post something positive for a change. I'm working on getting stronger. The most frustrating feeling is the feeling of not just being able to start the process...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 28

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