Post
Experience Project iOS Android Apps | Download EP for your Mobile Device

I Am Working To Improve My Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 396 People

    A Work In Progress

    I wrote another story about a possible divorce that I did not want. Things are looking better now and I feel like we're going to be ok. I've been married for almost 16 years and I've had a lot of time to think about it over the last few weeks. We've had plenty of ups and downs...
    jennalove jennalove 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 14, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Sacred Love

    Because I believe in the beauty of the marriage bond, I am currently in a transition from marriage doldrums to rediscovering and renewing my relationship with my husband. This has not been easy.
    itzcomplex itzcomplex 56-60, F 3 Responses Mar 13, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Actually, It's All About The Sex.

    Been working this out for a while now, and it may need to be amended, but here it goes: You know that old saying, "Everything in our marriage is great except for the sex". Yeah, there is no such thing. A well-functioning marriage is all about the sex. The key to a...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 13 Responses Jun 18, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Laugh Your Way To A Better Marriage

    My wife and I have been watching the "Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage" DVDs, by Mark Gungor. I know...  I know...  It sounds a bit silly.  But in the midst of his crazy humor, he discusses all of the key topics that couples tend to struggle with...  and we have found...
    mls2878 mls2878 56-60, M Oct 21, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    what should a wife think

    when her husband said to her like that 'if not this wife, I can marry a new wife, but I only have 1 mother. u will always stand to my mother side' when she has problems with her mother in law?
    tranglib tranglib 26-30, F 5 Responses May 5, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    It Does Make A Difference

    Up until yesterday being in debt, my husband's unhappiness with his place of employment, and my discontent with all of it hung over our marriage like a dampened thunder cloud just waiting to storm. Every room was filled with a chaotic silence that filtered into every crevice of...
    SweetlyLingering SweetlyLingering 66-70, F 1 Response Mar 10, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    So all my posts have been very reflective of my

    sadness and hopelessness in my married. I began reading a book titled: Becoming The Woman of His Dreams by Sharon Jaynes. She outlines the type of woman I should be to my husband (Proverbs 31 woman). Over the weekend I have seen a turn around with him and within my self as I...
    Ashley216 Ashley216 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 9, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Marriage For Athiests

    I have been trying to save myself and my marriage since January. Well, it began before that, but that is when the real, deliberate work began. In all this time of deliberate work, I have sought out advice from about anywhere I can get it. I was hoping to find personal...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 7 Responses Sep 1, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    It's been a long, rocky road

    but the counseling my wife and I have been going through for months is starting to make a difference. Wasn't sure we could turn back from some of what happened the last few years, but a determined mindset and a truckload of patience seem to be paying off. While we have a ways...
    4EverMan 4EverMan 51-55, M 2 Responses Sep 29, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    A Bit Of Encouragement...

    I want to give an update on my situation: My wife and I have been married for almost 13 years...  her 2nd marriage...  my 3rd marriage.  We've had some ups and downs...  and have been in counseling off and on for the past year.  My biggest frustration has been her lack of...
    mls2878 mls2878 56-60, M 7 Responses Jun 19, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Midlife Crisis For Both Of Us???

    My husband bought a book on iTunes "The Sex Starved Marriage" in July of 2011.  He completed the book...I have not.  We've had other issues come up.  He told me after purchasing the book that he couldn't continue to live like roomates any longer.  Problem is, I was okay with...
    Crazeemom Crazeemom 36-40, F 6 Responses Jan 12, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Building A New, Passionate Marriage With My Husband

    My Husband and I married young and we never really had passion together because we started dating in HS. Passion for us was learning to fly away from our Mothers nests together. Our falling in love phase was interlaced with teenage growth and development. While I feel this...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 7, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    we've been having problems.

    ..if you read my past experiences you'll be able to see and catch up! so Thursday I tell my husband iv had enough once and for all and I want out. he cries and begs me,pretty much shouting he pleas at me to give him one more chance,that he'd planned something friday and it was...
    newstart1315 newstart1315 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 21, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    We Made It Through Another Year

    Yesterday was our 8th wedding anniversary. When I came to EP and joined ILIASM, I didn't think I was going to be married by this time. Yet here I am. Wendigo got some of this update in a pm the other day, but I thought it would be good to share some of that with you all here...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 2, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Trying To Explain It.

    Over the weekend, I was trying to explain why I am staying in my marriage for now, even though I am not exactly happy right now. It is hard for her to understand, because all she can see is my frustration and unhappiness, and (being the good friend that she is), just wants me to...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 5, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Has anyone ever fallen out of love with their

    spouse, and then was able to fall in love again and have a happy marriage?
    Amiramae Amiramae 22-25, F Aug 26, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I was away from EP most of the summer working

    on some things, enjoying vacation, and lots of activities with my kids. But i also spent some time trying to improve my marriage, but time will tell how things play out now that school has started. We recently had our anniversary and not much happened. I got her roses but...
    otherme1966 otherme1966 46-50, M Sep 6, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    When Your Heart Stops Beating...

    Marriage is tough. Some days are better than others. I find myself exhausted in life. I don't have a physically tough job, but a mentally and emotionally hard one. I feel like I don't have support at home. I am a passenger in my own life. I might as well be in a movie theatre...
    crow29 crow29 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 28, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    but its not working both people have to pull in

    the same direction or you get nowhere she just says "its not my fault you fix it" and that dose not work!!
    moparman51 moparman51 51-55, M 2 Responses Dec 7, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    How Long Can I Do This? Or, Here Be Dragons

    I’ve thought a lot about how so many couples get to where my H and I are, and they split up. This is where the road ends for a lot of marriages. In this place, one spouse will say to the other, “I love you, but I am not in love with you.” The attraction is gone, the spark...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 5 Responses Jul 11, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm reading "The 5 Love Languages" Military

    Edition. Any one else going through this book with their spouse?
    wheelsxoxo wheelsxoxo 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 25, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Hubby and I have decided no technology

    after 8 pm! So I won't be on here during the evenings.
    wheelsxoxo wheelsxoxo 22-25, F Jul 15, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My husband recently admitted to me

    that he had an emotional affair. He even used that phrase. We've been married 4 years and have been together since 2006. I love him very much and want to work through this. It's all happens so recently... He told me on Monday (12-30-13) and had seen her the previous Friday (12...
    happilyeverafter5110 happilyeverafter5110 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 3, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Strength And Independence...a Weakness?

    Being the youngest of five, with three older brothers I learned young that strength was a virtue. I had to be tough, if they sensed a weakness they were relentless. Not mean...but their teasing to a young girl was stuff to be feared. Growing up on a cattle ranch where everyone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jan 1, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    "Falling Out Of Love" Is An Inevitable Step Of Marriage.

    "I love him, but I am not IN love with him..." It is the most cliche expression about struggling marriages, but when you are living through it, it feels like the end of the world. I have been there. It is a terrible realization that makes you feel trapped, depressed, and bitterly...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 12 Responses Jan 12, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My Wife Isn'T Interested In Me Any More

    I need some help. Almost every day I wake up ANGRY at about 4:00 AM from a recurring dream. I stay angry all day and feel my body shaking. I don't know what to do. My dream is that my wife still thinks I’m Prince Charming and wants to make love to me. And as we’re at the...
    SampsonLee SampsonLee 56-60, M 6 Responses Apr 14, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Part 2 As I states before,

    I am reading: Becoming The Woman Of His Dreams by Sharon Jaynes. Since I posted, I feel the need to continue talking about my progress. My husband continues to show more energy and excitement than before. Even if it bugs me I have responded in agreement to all his requests with...
    Ashley216 Ashley216 26-30, F Dec 10, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm actually a guy but I really need help

    learning to deal with my wonderful wife each month. It's bad. Very. Very. Baaaad. I don't know how to say it strongly enough. We have a beautiful marriage and enjoy each day throughout the month, but then for a couple days prior to menstruation she regrets marrying me and she...
    gman1616 gman1616 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 27, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Trying To Succeed

    Many heart to hearts...none so much effective as the most recent. Flood gates were opened and well received, on both our parts. Understanding the difference between what was, and what is...holds promise of a better tomorrow. We are both at fault and we both love the other more...
    SweetlyLingering SweetlyLingering 66-70, F 1 Response Mar 6, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My Husband Says He Loves Me...but Does He? So Worried

    Hi I am looking for some advise...wE HAVE BEEN MARRIED 11 YEARS and have always had a very happy and good marriage. The past year has been not so great as we have both had a lot of stuff to deal with...financiall issues, kids sick alot, husband sick alot, job stress , lack of...
    dandelion1 dandelion1 31-35, F 6 Responses Feb 7, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I want to work on my marriage

    but I had a miscarriage and my husband felt work mattered more.
    leaf90McC leaf90McC 22-25, F Dec 20, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Out for lunch wife, no kids,

    in 6 days 23 years married.
    nevets68 nevets68 46-50, M Oct 4, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Related Experiences

    So recently my friend got deleted. Let me tell you about this friend. He cared. When he suspected you were not ok, he would message one, and ask if one was ok. He never gave up...
    JoannaBe JoannaBe 41-45, F 9 Responses 18 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    What's the Latest self improvement you have been Focusing on ?
    CODECRACKER2014 CODECRACKER2014 41-45, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    A very weird thing has happened. I joined Ep, as I was so sad, so lonely and utterly adrift, I didn't know where to turn or what to do. I was somewhere that there wasn't a map, or...
    egbertnosh egbertnosh 51-55, M 6 Responses 1 day ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I think there are different cases in long distance marriages. I believe the emotional challenges is different even though they are all "long distance marriages". The list below...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky 26-30, F 3 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    My husband and I have been together for 8 years and we have many issues like trust, loyalty, infertility, and respect and problems with crazy in-laws. Yes I know these are big...
    NotSoConfident123 NotSoConfident123 36-40, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Today was a great day! Did legs. 7 sets of squats working up to final 3 sets at 315lb for 10 reps each set. Then I proceed to do 8 sets on leg press working my way to 16 total...
    Imageobsessed Imageobsessed 31-35, M 3 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I am new here, but I am determined to make this year a new and better year for myself. I am in a marriage where I love my husband but the stress of being a step mom, mom to my 3...
    adangelo121 adangelo121 31-35, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Marriage is a religious institution. The government shouldn't be in the business of giving out marriage licenses. The government should only be giving out Civil Unions. If you want...
    Mossonarock Mossonarock 41-45, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Just wanted to say goodbye to everyone here. I will remain in the group just to check back on stories and the many people I have chatted with. I am no longer in a sexless marriage...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 18 Responses 4 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    You can learn a lot about a man by his perception of marriage. Somen think of marriage is a government conspiracy, another man can think marriage is only good for having sex with a...
    niceguycursed niceguycursed 31-35, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I've never been very fond of marriage. No, my parents never got married. No, I didn't really want them to get married nor did I not want them to. I think I just realized after...
    lunarrose123 lunarrose123 16-17, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    If I had to change my character. 1-I'd change my social skills. How I interact with others. How I hold a conversation. 2-much more confidence in myself, not looking to others...