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I Am Working To Improve My Marriage

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    When Your Heart Stops Beating...

    Marriage is tough. Some days are better than others. I find myself exhausted in life. I don't have a physically tough job, but a mentally and emotionally hard one. I feel like I don't have support at home. I am a passenger in my own life. I might as well be in a movie theatre...
    crow29 crow29 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 28, 2012

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    Strength And Independence...a Weakness?

    Being the youngest of five, with three older brothers I learned young that strength was a virtue. I had to be tough, if they sensed a weakness they were relentless. Not mean...but their teasing to a young girl was stuff to be feared. Growing up on a cattle ranch where everyone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jan 1, 2013

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    My Husband Says He Loves Me...but Does He? So Worried

    Hi I am looking for some advise...wE HAVE BEEN MARRIED 11 YEARS and have always had a very happy and good marriage. The past year has been not so great as we have both had a lot of stuff to deal with...financiall issues, kids sick alot, husband sick alot, job stress , lack of...
    dandelion1 dandelion1 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 7, 2012

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    My Wife Isn'T Interested In Me Any More

    I need some help. Almost every day I wake up ANGRY at about 4:00 AM from a recurring dream. I stay angry all day and feel my body shaking. I don't know what to do. My dream is that my wife still thinks I’m Prince Charming and wants to make love to me. And as we’re at the...
    SampsonLee SampsonLee 51-55, M 6 Responses Apr 14, 2013

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    Midlife Crisis For Both Of Us???

    My husband bought a book on iTunes "The Sex Starved Marriage" in July of 2011.  He completed the book...I have not.  We've had other issues come up.  He told me after purchasing the book that he couldn't continue to live like roomates any longer.  Problem is, I was okay with...
    Crazeemom Crazeemom 36-40, F 6 Responses Jan 12, 2012

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    Laugh Your Way To A Better Marriage

    My wife and I have been watching the "Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage" DVDs, by Mark Gungor. I know...  I know...  It sounds a bit silly.  But in the midst of his crazy humor, he discusses all of the key topics that couples tend to struggle with...  and we have found...
    mls2878 mls2878 56-60, M 1 Response Oct 21, 2013

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    Monday Night In

    Monday night. My husband's night out. I usually accept his absence and the empty house with a reluctant heart. Tonight, I had plans of my own. Seven o'clock approached. I opened a beer and waited for the door. It had been so long... I reminisced about old college days as the...
    AshCents AshCents 26-30 2 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    Marriage Is Tough

    Up until a month ago, I thought being married was pretty easy. My husband and I have been together for 14.5 years and I figured we had worked through most of the kinks in our relationship. We were at a really good place. Then he decided to share some dark secrets about his life...
    FlowersOfPurple FlowersOfPurple 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 13, 2013

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    Building A New, Passionate Marriage With My Husband

    My Husband and I married young and we never really had passion together because we started dating in HS. Passion for us was learning to fly away from our Mothers nests together. Our falling in love phase was interlaced with teenage growth and development. While I feel this...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 7, 2011

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    It Does Make A Difference

    Up until yesterday being in debt, my husband's unhappiness with his place of employment, and my discontent with all of it hung over our marriage like a dampened thunder cloud just waiting to storm. Every room was filled with a chaotic silence that filtered into every crevice of...
    SweetlyLingering SweetlyLingering 70+, F 1 Response Mar 10, 2012

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    My husband recently admitted to me

    that he had an emotional affair. He even used that phrase. We've been married 4 years and have been together since 2006. I love him very much and want to work through this. It's all happens so recently... He told me on Monday (12-30-13) and had seen her the previous Friday (12...
    happilyeverafter5110 happilyeverafter5110 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 3

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    but its not working both people have to pull in

    the same direction or you get nowhere she just says "its not my fault you fix it" and that dose not work!!
    moparman51 moparman51 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 7, 2013

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    A Bit Of Encouragement...

    I want to give an update on my situation: My wife and I have been married for almost 13 years...  her 2nd marriage...  my 3rd marriage.  We've had some ups and downs...  and have been in counseling off and on for the past year.  My biggest frustration has been her lack of...
    mls2878 mls2878 56-60, M 5 Responses Jun 19, 2013

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    Mutual Sharing Feels Like A Reboot

    Greetings, EP members. This is my first story and I'd like to share with you what I did a few weeks ago to improve both my relationship and my sexuality. It's been almost 7 years since I met my girlfriend. After interesting but messy previous relationships, we are living a...
    lebarrron lebarrron 41-45, M Jan 9, 2012

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    "Falling Out Of Love" Is An Inevitable Step Of Marriage.

    "I love him, but I am not IN love with him..." It is the most cliche expression about struggling marriages, but when you are living through it, it feels like the end of the world. I have been there. It is a terrible realization that makes you feel trapped, depressed, and bitterly...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 13 Responses Jan 12, 2012

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    Part 2 As I states before,

    I am reading: Becoming The Woman Of His Dreams by Sharon Jaynes. Since I posted, I feel the need to continue talking about my progress. My husband continues to show more energy and excitement than before. Even if it bugs me I have responded in agreement to all his requests with...
    Ashley216 Ashley216 26-30, F Dec 10, 2013

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    A Bucket Filled With Tools And Getting Closer

    Again The crisis between my wife and myself started around Christmas and came to a terrible high at New Years eve. I left the family get together and said, that I wanted to read on my bed. That was the early end of our family party. It was the first time that I just left, not...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 2 Responses Jun 29

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    A Work In Progress

    I wrote another story about a possible divorce that I did not want. Things are looking better now and I feel like we're going to be ok. I've been married for almost 16 years and I've had a lot of time to think about it over the last few weeks. We've had plenty of ups and downs...
    jennalove jennalove 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 14, 2013

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    So all my posts have been very reflective of my

    sadness and hopelessness in my married. I began reading a book titled: Becoming The Woman of His Dreams by Sharon Jaynes. She outlines the type of woman I should be to my husband (Proverbs 31 woman). Over the weekend I have seen a turn around with him and within my self as I...
    Ashley216 Ashley216 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 9, 2013

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    Trying To Explain It.

    Over the weekend, I was trying to explain why I am staying in my marriage for now, even though I am not exactly happy right now. It is hard for her to understand, because all she can see is my frustration and unhappiness, and (being the good friend that she is), just wants me to...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 5, 2011

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    We Made It Through Another Year

    Yesterday was our 8th wedding anniversary. When I came to EP and joined ILIASM, I didn't think I was going to be married by this time. Yet here I am. Wendigo got some of this update in a pm the other day, but I thought it would be good to share some of that with you all here...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 2, 2011

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    Trying To Succeed

    Many heart to hearts...none so much effective as the most recent. Flood gates were opened and well received, on both our parts. Understanding the difference between what was, and what is...holds promise of a better tomorrow. We are both at fault and we both love the other more...
    SweetlyLingering SweetlyLingering 70+, F 1 Response Mar 6, 2012

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    Hubby and I have decided no technology

    after 8 pm! So I won't be on here during the evenings.
    wheelsxoxo wheelsxoxo 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    How Long Can I Do This? Or, Here Be Dragons

    I’ve thought a lot about how so many couples get to where my H and I are, and they split up. This is where the road ends for a lot of marriages. In this place, one spouse will say to the other, “I love you, but I am not in love with you.” The attraction is gone, the spark...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 5 Responses Jul 11, 2011

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    Last week we had our 18th anniversary.

    My wife asked me what to do on that day. And I had this idea with 18 stops. My idea was to present each other a surprise or task for each year, that meant 18 stops and surprises for each other. After having been to a restaurant and giving each other love letters. We drove to...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 2

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    Marriage For Athiests

    I have been trying to save myself and my marriage since January. Well, it began before that, but that is when the real, deliberate work began. In all this time of deliberate work, I have sought out advice from about anywhere I can get it. I was hoping to find personal...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 7 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    Actually, It's All About The Sex.

    Been working this out for a while now, and it may need to be amended, but here it goes: You know that old saying, "Everything in our marriage is great except for the sex". Yeah, there is no such thing. A well-functioning marriage is all about the sex. The key to a...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 16 Responses Jun 18, 2012

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    Sacred Love

    Because I believe in the beauty of the marriage bond, I am currently in a transition from marriage doldrums to rediscovering and renewing my relationship with my husband. This has not been easy.
    itzcomplex itzcomplex 51-55, F 3 Responses Mar 13, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    Seeking Therapy I’ve made my first step. I am seeing a therapist. This is not to try and repair my sexless marriage. I have realized that my sex life, the passion, the lust...
    Adam4Eve Adam4Eve 46-50, M 6 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I thought I'd update since it's been a couple months. Bazzar wrote this story: EP Link I think this is the point I got to a couple months ago. It's abundantly clear whatever my...
    intoodeepat35 intoodeepat35 36-40, M 1 Response Jun 25

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    I think the problem with my sexless marriage is not the fact that it's sexless, but the fact that it's a marriage. The wedding of a non-union. What is not united should not be...
    Aeonian Aeonian 51-55, M 15 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    EP I want to ask something! The flagging system NEEDS to be replaced by actual people, if you pay me well I can offer to sit here and literally go through stories so people can...
    christfukk christfukk 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 9

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    So sorry this is happening in your marriage. I as, the wife, am suffering the consequences of a sexless marriage. But I am here over 24 years... it's been going on for at least...
    mwmom mwmom 46-50 17 Responses Jul 4

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    Hello all you wonderful EP folks, I have another update on my formerly sexless marriage. If you want the back story, read my previous posts as they will shed light on the progress...
    mistereko mistereko 36-40, M 13 Responses Jul 14

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    The Next Bit Starts With You. Here you are, having joined this group. You've already attempted "scented candles" strategies, "counselling" strategies, "REALLY talking to them...
    bazzar bazzar 56-60, M 10 Responses Jun 24

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    I've always known I wasnt perfect. Never once claimed I was. I know ill always have room to improve my life and how I live this life. Learning to ignore negative people and their...
    badgirlbee badgirlbee 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Since our last update we've been working to revamp our EP Volunteer Program, preparing to launch our EP Android app, and tackling spam.If you missed our last community update, you...
    EPArsineh EPArsineh 26-30, F 122 Responses Jun 25

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    Lessons From Finance Class... I'm taking Business Finance this month (because nothing is more fun than sixteen-week courses packed into a four-week-long summer class), and my...
    MeNotWe MeNotWe 26-30, F 12 Responses Jul 10

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    This is just an update on my story and I hope it can show other people here that there is future after a bad relationship. I read stories for here for maybe more than one year...
    mfur mfur 26-30, F 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    I didn't wait until marriage. I was 17 an he was 23. I didn't regret it, and still dont, but the way he treats me now, i love him unconditionally, yet he fails to even try an talk...
    happyconfused212 happyconfused212 18-21, T 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    So I have been married for eight years to a smart, good looking, caring man who loves me dearly. And I do live him. But we haven't had sex in 8 1/2 years. I've tried to initiate...
    Candymaker Candymaker 41-45, F 22 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    My wife has been having online conversations with a group of people outside of our marriage it has awoken a sexual side of her that is arousing to me. I am going to allow it to...
    44megpipe 44megpipe 41-45, M 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    My wife never tells me she loves me and never has a kind word for me. She doesnt like the way I breathe, sweep the floor, clean the toilets or the counter, gets angry with me when...
    48Jeff 48Jeff 46-50, M 5 hrs ago

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    I feel very trapped in my marriage. We are two people who should never have gotten married. There are some things I want to do and experience that I am unable to do. She has so...
    wannabechef wannabechef 51-55, M 4 hrs ago

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    There's a new book out that may be helpful to some of you here. I'm about to get a copy. http://www.amazon.com/Sacred-Cows-Truth-Divorce-Marriage-ebook/dp/B00LEMDLC2/ref=sr_1_1...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 1 hr ago

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    My college sweetheart and I have been married 21 years and we have three children (11-20). My wife desires no sex. I pay very close attention to and meet her needs in all other...
    NoTalkJustDo NoTalkJustDo 41-45, M 10 Responses Jul 13

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    the perfect way to describe my wife is a line from a Police song Synchronicity part II , "mother chants her litany of boredom and frustration , but we know all her suicides are...
    skiball5150 skiball5150 36-40, M 13 Responses Jul 15

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    We have got to do things differently. This system we have built is working well enough to profit the people who already have their fortunes but it is not promoting any new...
    icDavey icDavey 56-60, M Jul 2

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    I have been married for over 15 years, have two wonderful children, but I live with the hurt and humiliation of a sexless marriage. In fact, we have NEVER consummated our marriage...
    BucketFiller BucketFiller 41-45, F 28 Responses Jul 13

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    Sort of an update to my situation. But I'm sure it's not anything new to many of us who have been here for a while. For the record, I'm aware of my options, and the following isn't...
    angryspartan angryspartan 36-40, M 12 Responses 6 days ago

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