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    My boyfriend has broken over the past few months. He went from loving, attentive, caring,and romantic to someone so overwhelmed with life they shut down. He avoids anything and everything a lot of times including me and our relationship. I dont understand, but im trying to. I...
    Beanette04 Beanette04 22-25, F 2 Responses May 29, 2010

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    I Always Avoid Things.

    I always avoid things. I can't even make a date with a friend, because I will say no in the end anyway :( When I have a date, I feel terrible, because I hate being sticked to something/someone.. So I try to avoid that. I also avoid fights, I'm really bad at discussions, I'll...
    olfinsdottir olfinsdottir 19-21, F Feb 29, 2008

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    For Far Too Long...

    I have only recently come to the conclusion that I deal with problems by avoiding them. I know that might sound stupid but sadly it is true. For far too long, I avoided dealing with my problems and instead, I just shut myself off from a lot of people. There were many good...
    Foreigntraveller Foreigntraveller 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 19, 2013

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    I'm Trying to Avoid Avoidence...

    Lol, my therapist told me a while back that I had avoident personality disorder (along with social phobia, chronic depression, and that great catch all generalised anxiety disorder).  I wanted to say to her, 'isn't there some way we can avoid having this conversation...
    Superfluous Superfluous 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 21, 2007

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    Avoiding You

    I'm not talking to you...I'm dodging and leaving. But why? Why am I trying to hide myself? Because. I want you to ask me..."what's wrong?" I want to see that you really did care. I've been screaming inside. I can't even stand. I'm not trying to avoid you...I just don't know how...
    BloodRedShadow BloodRedShadow 18-21 Aug 15, 2013

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    Let me say that my personality is an outgoing

    one or used to be or when i get out, still have this outgoing thing in my personality. But i avoid making any contact with anyone and everyone. I know that avoiding people or have or reach anyone to talk with, makes me like indoor and hard to explain it. I just ignore a lot of...
    Egyptianguy34 Egyptianguy34 31-35, M 1 Response Sep 5

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    yes, Sometimes and ...

    yes, sometimes and realy don't like it much when i do.
    dayandnight dayandnight 51-55, F Oct 28, 2007

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    Embarassed

    I avoid people I don't want to talk to. i use the silent treatment, I avoid doing things that will make me feel awkward like dates, I don't want to be like this but I can't stop myself
    DyingWhileIntoxicated DyingWhileIntoxicated 18-21, F Mar 16, 2013

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    I Avoid Anything That Is Diffi...

    i avoid anything that is difficult, awkward or uncomfortable. not good. too many things in life are difficult, awkward and uncomfortable. my life is passing me by and i'm not really leaving a good impression.
    FeelingCrazy FeelingCrazy 46-50 3 Responses Oct 28, 2007

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    Yeah, Especially Conflict. ...

    Yeah, especially conflict. I also hate making left hand turns.
    hjvenable hjvenable 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 20, 2007

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    I Often Avoid Things I Think C...

    I often avoid things I think can cause me harm. I believe that's normal, though.
    peacelovejuicy peacelovejuicy 16-18, F Oct 20, 2007

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    I Just Avoided the Door.

    Yeah. Someone buzzed me, and I pretended I wasn't home. I'm not expecting guests for another 2 hours, so I wont answer it. My previous guests left a little while ago, and I need some me time before my friends arrive later. I was actually going to answer the door, but at the...
    Cinderelly Cinderelly 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 8, 2007

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    Avoiding The Unavoidable, It Doesn'T Work Out

    Yeah. I tend to avoid things. Whether it's cleaning the dishes or throwing out the trash, I simply avoid those tasks because I'm lazy. Then there are things which I do avoid but usually feel pressured into avoiding or feel awfully guilty for avoiding such as "the talk." There...
    TheGirlBehindtheBrownEyes TheGirlBehindtheBrownEyes 18-21, F Jun 15, 2013

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    Apparently Not

    Actually I avoid avoiding things - for example, I succesfully avoided the temptation of avoiding becoming a member of this group - which would have been funny conceptually, except that no one would have noticed - except me - so only I would have gotten the joke.  Not much...
    ElLagarto ElLagarto 56-60, M 4 Responses Feb 21, 2008

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     I Think That There Ar...

     I think that there are few things that we have to avoid to keep going.
    glor glor 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 29, 2008

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    I Find I Do :|

    n then things build up , but i knew they would n then i feel overwhelmed *LOL* n wana run away . but dont n have to try n deal with the new collection of stuff , bit by bit .. with a lot of sighs *lol* i dont get that about me .. coz actually .. im usually trying to do and...
    wezamuntkee wezamuntkee 36-40, M Oct 24, 2007

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    Core Pattern

    Avoidance is one of the things that is deep within me and causes a lot of my problems, says my psychologist. I avoid bad feelings through dissociation because I worry that I cant cope with them, I avoid going out with my friends, answering the phone, doing daily activities. The...
    vivalagloria vivalagloria 22-25, F Sep 6, 2008

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    I Think I Have Avoidant Personality Disorder

    I was going to a therapist for about a year and a half to help me deal with some emotional and commitment issues and it just seemed like she was not helping me at all and after one really upbeat session, she decided that I no longer needed her. I didn't agree with that and have...
    DrPepperFan DrPepperFan 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 12, 2009

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    Silly Things

    i avoid answering the phone. i avoid making plans with people, because when i actually do make plans, i don't show, & avoid the person afterwards. i have a`mentor, & i am very dependant on her. every week we meet & review my progress working towards the goals i set...
    thirty30 thirty30 31-35, F 1 Response May 27, 2008

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    Certain Things, People

    People often mean well when they speak well.. But they speak well even if they don't that well. They can't. I don't like facing everyone... really.
    FreeFallWall FreeFallWall 22-25, M 2 Responses May 16, 2011

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    Whenever Possible.  Thing...

    Whenever possible.  Things are not my favorite things to do.
    Mandragora Mandragora 46-50, F Oct 20, 2007

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    Escaping

    When I am overwhelmed, nervous, embarrassed, or anything uncomfortable, I usually run away.  I am trying to work on that. I feel I am missing things by checking out. I realized Life's to short, and I am tired of being afraid.
    mytime mytime 36-40, F 5 Responses Feb 21, 2008

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    RDW currently: avoiding study.

    Funny this group should be in the daily interview, I have had the group opened in a tab for about 5 hours now. I thought I should join this group but I was trying to avoid explaining why. I avoid my problems and emotions the most. I figure if I avoid them then I can get...
    randomdriftwood randomdriftwood 21-25, F Oct 20, 2007

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    I think I do this because I'm afraid of failure.

    As the youngest child in my family I grew up feeling like everyone was better at everything than me. So I worked really hard to stand out. The result of this being that I am now an extremely competitive person. I hate losing. The truth is that no one was better than me but...
    himynameiserica himynameiserica 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 29

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    A Problem of Commitment.

    Sometimes, I will not join an Experience Group, because then I would feel compelled to follow through and actually do something about my problem instead of just writing about it. Ah, the sophistry of avoidant behaviour! (Observant sorts will notice that I have avoided...
    TheTardyDodo TheTardyDodo 31-35, M 4 Responses Sep 4, 2007

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    Avoid Everything

    I avoid being around people when possible. I avoid anything that might lead me to be embarrassed or feel bad about myself (I do enough of that on my own). I avoid driving whenever possible (less so now than I used to). I avoid a lot of things, but mainly people.
    OfADifferentColor OfADifferentColor 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 23, 2013

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    Sometimes I Do Avoid Things......

    Sometimes I do avoid things... I go out of my way to avoid confrontation  because I don't think  it's healthy for a persons' soul...
    Cheleanne Cheleanne 66-70, F Oct 20, 2007

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    Confrontations!

    When it for myself, I don't like confrontations. I can face them, when it's an attack against my friends or family. But, I pretty much try and avoid them, for myself. I don't like arguments, at all. And irl, shouting and anger causes great fear in me. I pretty much break down...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Feb 28, 2009

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    Many Things..

    I hate to argue so I try to avoid it.. I avoid becoming an alcoholic by not drinking any alcohol at all So many things more..
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 21, 2007

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    Avoid Certain Clothing

    I have an insatiable interests in clothing that is lighter, softer and even silky and exceptionally comfortable. But when it comes to reality - I avoid them altogether when wearing them in public. In private I don't mind wearing them as they are so much more roomier and comfy...
    wxmann2 wxmann2 36-40, M 1 Response Jun 4, 2013

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    Self Explanatory

    I avoid all sorts of things. Toxic things, grimy things, sugary things, expensive things, & also sad things.
    Rookie009 Rookie009 22-25, M Jan 22, 2013

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    Indeed, I Do.

    ...and I'm stepping out here to say it, once and for all. :D Ahh.. My daily quota of doing stuff is filled. Feels good. As a half-hearted addendum, I tend to avoid stuff that *should* be done, regardless of whether I like doing it or not.
    Bob57 Bob57 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 23, 2007

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    Going to bed praying

    for a better tomorrow. Sleeping away tonight's troubles. They'll disappear in the morning
    cartmanlover cartmanlover 18-21 1 Response Jun 10

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    I Avoid Anything Which Causes Discomfort

    I think it's getting worse! Lately I hardly venture outside the house even to walk my dogs. I make excuses, say that it's too cold, too hot, too tired, feel I look too awful to venture out. I'm avoiding people, almost like I'm scared of them. I hope this is just a passing phase...
    elRana elRana 36-40 1 Response Mar 24, 2008

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    I Aviod Embaressing My Self In Front Of Some Body I Like.....

    I aviod any chance of being embarresed in front of some one I have strong feelings for. I won't eat in front of them, won't play sports in front of them, I don't even want to stand up in while there in the room. If I think I'm going to embaress my self some how, then I won't do...
    toughchick101 toughchick101 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 3, 2010

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    From A to Z

    I'm an 'avoider' ... yes, I am.  It makes no difference what it is I have this ability to justify why I haven't been able to complete said task.  I'm able to avoid with the best of 'em!  I come up with every valid reason in the book and am able to make the invalid...
    AbbyNormal AbbyNormal 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 4, 2007

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