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I Battle Insecurity

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    Can I Still Be Insecure After 30 Years?

      I was 18 she 15. We were each others first love, she moved in with me. We lived together about 5 years. We kinda grew apart (I'm blaming it on our being so young) I asked her to leave, I helped her get an apartment fix it up etc. We were cordial with each other when we...
    MJJC MJJC 46-50, M 1 Response Sep 22, 2009

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    Stuck In Insecurity

    I feel stuck and controlled by my insecurity, I am almost forty years old, Everyday I struggle to uplift my self. I grew up and still surrounded by parent and siblings that are all very insecure people. It is very hard when you know that you should help yourself feel and do...
    stucklady stucklady 36-40 4 Responses Apr 17, 2012

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    I Was Doing Fine Until He Said....

    Here I am 31 years old, with two daughters 12 & 7 from my husband. You see I have struggled with insecurities as long as I can remember. In my current relationship, I did get pregnant early in the relationship and while pregnant I found out he was sleeping with some girl. This...
    mai52takn mai52takn 31-35 Dec 15, 2012

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    I Swear My Insecurities Will Eat Me Alive.

    I remember when people told me I must be really brave to dye my hair crazy colors, like purple and blue, and cut over half of it off without thinking twice about it. Everyone thought I had such a high self-estemme and didn't give a hoot what people thought about me; that was...
    SkinnyThoughtsAndRedLipstick SkinnyThoughtsAndRedLipstick 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 25, 2013

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    Never Used Too Feel This Way!

    If you would have met me 20 years ago you never would have thought that I would have a problem with being insecure. Now 35 years old with a prostetic left leg and 32 lbs more I am very insecure! I had my amputation in July of 2011. I also had years to prepare for it seeing how I...
    justshawn77 justshawn77 31-35, F Nov 24, 2012

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    My Heart Hurts

    My heart hurts from all this stress. My mind can barely function anymore, and it's all from worrying about my looks. I'm starting to worry about myself. It's NEVER been this bad before. I think about it ever day, all day. How can I change my looks enough to be considered...
    SugarOwl SugarOwl 18-21 3 Responses Sep 5, 2012

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    Go No Please Don't Leave Me...

    The slightest bad vibe in your words and i panic, the slightest smile when your messaging someone and i feel sick. I battle insecurity day in and day out, why because i have been lied to time and time again and i simply lost trust in everyone around me!! x
    BrokenAngel35 BrokenAngel35 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 3, 2013

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    Pissed Out

    i hate it when i’m meeting relatives/neighbours who haven’t seen me for so long.. they always judge in front of EVERYONE. they say im too this, im too that! you know what i got tonight?!! they say im getting FAT but you know what?? im happy for the way i am! i will always be...
    poorchild257 poorchild257 18-21 1 Response Aug 7, 2013

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    I've Never Felt Secure....

    School for me was hard to get through....taunted for being the girl who was raped and blamed for it. I lost trust, self esteem, and ultimately my life. Everyday is a struggle. I was bounced around from home to home my whole life and told that no one wants me. Which seemed to be...
    Easy2Forget Easy2Forget 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 31, 2012

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    My Insecurity Is Ruining Me

    Hello Everyone! I am happy that I am not alone in this situation. Many people look at me and the last thing someone would think is that I am insecure. I feel like I am living a lie. As I am typing this I am crying because I am very insecure. I have been in a verbally abusive...
    NewBeginning4 NewBeginning4 26-30, F Dec 15, 2012

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    I Now Sadly Admit Ill Never Get Married

    Ever since I can remember I never thought I was good enough.. I never thought that I was worthy of who ever it was I was interested in.. I truly believed and still believe that if someone i think is great is truly great then they deserve so much better then me.. So much prettier...
    EmilyLynn21 EmilyLynn21 26-30, F Aug 2, 2013

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    A Prisoner of My Insecurity

    I have been insecure most of my life being teased throughout middle school and high school for having crooked teeth and being a loner but as if that wasn't enough I suffered with body acne and some acne on my face even into adulthood and present. I go through these...
    isis728 isis728 26-30 3 Responses Jul 16, 2009

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    My Silent Story

    I started to battle insecurity ever since I started gaining weight do to the medicine that i started taking. I recently married the man i have been with for ten years and everytime we go out i feel like everyone is looking at me or at him with shame for being with a female...
    preciousjay preciousjay 26-30 3 Responses Jul 25, 2009

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    Falling Into Depression

    Because of my insecurities & how much they've taken a roll in my life, I feel like I'm slowly going into depression. I've been getting so distant from everyone & everything. I've been acting so different to those around me & those close to me. I can't help it but to push myself...
    SMarrero SMarrero 18-21, F Feb 18, 2013

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    Who Am I?

    Past few months I've been struggling. Trying to figure out who I am, and what defines me. Since I got dumped, I'm kind off lost. I was that kind of girl that was always insecure about who she was, what she looked like and how other people saw her. I was an introvert. But then...
    GrevenyMartina GrevenyMartina 18-21 1 Response Nov 2, 2013

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    I Used Too

    Until I met my wife I used to think there was nobody out there for me, and I used to always think when I would see a beautiful woman with what I would consider a nobody "what's this guy have that I don't", but then I got with my wife and now have 2 wonderful boys and a wonderful...
    ILoveSDC ILoveSDC 31-35, M Nov 21, 2012

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    Image

    I guess this should be under the "image and weight" category, to be the most specific, but it definitely deals with insecurity, so I'll just go with it. I have been dealing with increasing self hatred for about a year now. I was a "late bloomer" and for the longest time, I was...
    luvbug7 luvbug7 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 13, 2013

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    I Always Think People Are Judging Me.....

    I constantly get told that I look really young and that I have a different sounding voice so this makes me feel really self conscious. It also makes me feel ashamed and really embarrassed. I am an extremely insecure person and admit this. I worry that people think I am ugly and...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 18, 2011

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    Burst

    The inferior vena cava lays, palpitating, on the tile with veins flowing parallel to the grout. The sweater that she thought another girl would fill out better Was bloodied. Red from a sudden, simple cardiac burst.
    nowvoyager42 nowvoyager42 18-21, F May 19, 2013

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    Trying To Overcome

    Overcoming insecurity is a battle, a battle that I can't seem to win. I've struggled for years with being insecure, tho the last two years seem the hardest. I come from a family that didn't show emotion. Good or bad emotion. I know my parents loved me, but I didn't "feel" loved...
    Jeni0803 Jeni0803 26-30, F May 4, 2013

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    My Insecurity Is Ridiculous

    I met a woman, and I want to be her friend. She is close to my age. We have a lot in common. We both have crazy families, we like to cook, art, decorating. We have a ton to talk about when we get together. The reality is, I have come to a balance at this point in my life. I dress...
    GalileosFinger GalileosFinger 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 23, 2012

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    I Am A Painfully Shy Person, But You Wouldn't Know That By Talking To Me.

    I used to have the worst self-esteem issues when I was younger. My father was my constant critic, and I let every word he said get to me until I became paranoid and withdrawn. I still am that way inside, but I act like a very energetic and bubbly person when I am around new...
    Shirogane Shirogane 18-21, F Jun 4, 2013

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    Not Sure Why Im Insecure

    I guess being not sure of why Im insecure is an oxymoron.. I'm unsure of being unsure haha.. Thats how it is for me everyday of my life. I try to cover up my insecurities with humor. In my group of friends Im the guy making all the jokes and making people laugh. I think its...
    OZcookiemonster OZcookiemonster 31-35, M 3 Responses Sep 19, 2011

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    Afraid Of Other Women Looks And Insecurities

    i have a big problem. i have been with my bf now for a year and it was great the beginning. and we moved in not even 6 months of being together then things slowly started to not be so great and i started feeling like he was staring at all these women and comparing myself all the...
    janie2121 janie2121 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 28, 2013

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    Insecure About Gf

    I was always the smallest kid in school, always the one the bullies beat up on and always the one girls laughed at. As time has gone by I have worked at masking my insecurities and have done a good job of it. After an almost 20 yr marriage, I am separated and going to divorce. I...
    darkken darkken 46-50, M Aug 21, 2011

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    I Have No More Words

    Who do you feel the most secure with? Who makes you feel at home? Who do you feel most comfortable being yourself? I'm guessing for most people, their answer would be, with family. That will never be my answer. I suppose I should clarify my answer as I am a grown-up with...
    SeriouslySappy SeriouslySappy 51-55, F 6 Responses Oct 25, 2011

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    My Insecurity Drives People Away

    i am constantly driving people away and ruining relationships through my insecurities. My wake up call was only yesterday, i had met someone i really liked and wanted to have a relationship with, but my low self-esteem and being very insecure lead him to telling me to leave him...
    jackaleen jackaleen 36-40, F Jul 11, 2012

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    Insecurity Vs. Acknowledgement

    I look at my friend opposite me, and I think – damn, she’s insecure. Poor girl.I look at my friend in front of me in a knowing agreement. What am I doing? Why can’t I acknowledge the truth?Darling, don’t you feel the same way?Why can’t you acknowledge it?You know you...
    beautifulbynature beautifulbynature 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 3, 2011

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    Help Me

    Ello I don't know where to start. I was with my ex for 7 years we had a little girl and then I found out she cheated on me 3 times. We've been spilt up for 3 years now but I have found a girl I really like but can't get it out my head that she will do the same and I can't stop...
    Ldndave Ldndave 26-30, M 4 Responses Apr 19, 2010

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    From A Better Place

    In the new year I need to to work on silencing the voices of self doubt and insecurity that  jabber in my head and hold me back when I allow them to. There is a light within all of us, a source that has the answers and the key to the peace that we yearn for. I've experienced it...
    Bluetraveler Bluetraveler 51-55, M 1 Response Dec 31, 2011

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    Maybe Most -if Not All- Women Have This Insecurity Thing

    I don't mean to generalize; I just realize that every lady friend I have had a heart-to-heart talk with have confessed to having even a minute semblance of insecurity. I'm not saying that men do not combat this, but it's more prevalent in women, methinks. Mine would have to...
    sodancewithme sodancewithme 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 7, 2010

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    Here I Go Again

    I have been insecure most of my life or at least as far back as I can remember. Growing up in a small town I was the only one of my cousin's who didn't have blonde hair and blue eyes. Plus they started dating at 13 and my parents made me wait till I was 16 so most of the guys I...
    LonelyX3 LonelyX3 46-50, F 3 Responses May 7, 2011

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    Scared Of Being Eaten And Digested By Society

     Hi all,  I am a student, acting major, and I am a male in my early 20s. I have been feeling very stressed lately and have frequent feelings of failure daily. I guess I should start by describing my upbringing... When I was born my mother, a city girl in her early 3...
    Troubled2 Troubled2 22-25, M Oct 27, 2009

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    So Confused...

    I start to wonder if its something more than just insecurity. Sometimes I feel like I am beautiful, but most of the time, I feel the opposite. Most of the time I feel like I am disgusting to look at, and like my boyfriend should be with someone more attractive. From what I am...
    sweetasugar102 sweetasugar102 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 12, 2009

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    It's Taking Over My Life

    Its honestly an every day struggle. Having to deal with my insecurities, depression, anxiety. I have skipped so many days of school because of it. I will get up, get dressed, get all ready, walk out my door to turn around and walk back into my room and just stay there for the...
    ohsnapitzbree ohsnapitzbree 16-17 2 Responses Apr 22, 2013

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    I Battle Insecurity Every Day

    I have always been insecure from the moment I can remember. And as anyone knows, highschool is not an easy experience let alone if you are a person who is not secure. Thirty people can tell me how wonderful and beautiful and intelligent I am and one person can make a derragatory...
    lnholley lnholley 22-25 4 Responses Jun 29, 2009

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    My Insecurities

    I have been lurking around the site, reluctant to post, but I feel I just need to get it all out and maybe I will feel better about it. I have been reading various peoples stories on here regarding insecurities, and it's nice to know I am not the only one out there feeling this...
    ChLS ChLS 26-30 3 Responses Jun 2, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    I have battled Depression for my whole life. Nothing has helped lesson the pain. There is no hope, no future to look forward to. Everyday feels like more of me dies. I don't think...
    EndlessWandering EndlessWandering 18-21, M 4 Responses Apr 7

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    What is depression? Depression is emptiness. It's a deep, dark hole inside you that can't be filled. It's feeling like you are all alone in the world and no one knows you exist...
    KittenHasaWhip KittenHasaWhip 46-50, F 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    I do battle depression and the people around me know it. My girlfriend helped me see the positive things in life but since we don't go to the same school she doesn't see what it's...
    Ghrite Ghrite 13-15, M Mar 22

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    I was diagnosed with depression at eight years old and have lived with it in such a way that it has crippled nearly every aspect of my life. I have never been on medication to help...
    Scorpio018 Scorpio018 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 26

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    I have battled for over 6 years now and I'm only 17. Is it bad that I don't even know what it's like not to battle it.
    apwnn apwnn 16-17, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    I rather fight my battles alone ..because at least i have the peace that I was the one that made that decision and the decisions were not made for me
    gresto12 gresto12 26-30 Mar 20

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    I battle this everyday, but I win because I surround myself with people I love and love me, and do things that I truly love to do
    ash5698 ash5698 13-15, M 1 Response Mar 21

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    *Read if you battle depression* I do too. It's not as bad as you may think it is, but when I have a bad day I just feel like breaking apart. But don't worry about me, I will be...
    violetangel violetangel 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 22

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    I've always had troubles with being depressed and in 8th grade I was bullied so much I threatened suicide. I was taken to the hospital and now take medication. I still get bullied...
    zachsiebs zachsiebs 13-15, M 6 Responses Mar 23

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    And sometimes I try to eat a lot to make myself feel better. Simple carbs, after all, boost endorphins and dopamine temporarily ("happy" hormones). Then, after a while, I get a...
    tryingtobeashappyasiappear tryingtobeashappyasiappear 18-21, F Mar 23

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    I'm the teen who's slammed into the wall. I'm the teen forced to do someone's homework. I'm the Asian everyone teases. I'm the Asian, where they isolate me out of every class. They...
    BloodyShatteredStyx BloodyShatteredStyx 13-15 3 Responses Mar 23

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    i have depression and ADHD. my doctor said that my depression is because of my dads brain tomur. my dad has had this tomur since he was 18. my theropetist says that i have...
    1994trip 1994trip 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 23

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    I battle with self-harm and simply cannot stop myself from relapsing.
    SociallyAwkwardness SociallyAwkwardness 16-17, F Mar 23

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    I feel it is brave of me to admit this, but I can in this anonymous world. I am a professional married mother. The depression, if that is what it is hit me as a teenager. It got...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Mar 24

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    It seems as if for the last couple of years I have been more so of a burden to those than anything. Especially when I've gone off to college it seems that I've burdened my family...
    Life1sinteresting Life1sinteresting 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 24

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    I've battled depression for a few years now. I can only say it had taken over my life. No matter how hard I tried to push it away it would hit even harder. I hate how people...
    HyperAngel HyperAngel 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 25

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    I constantly battle my anxiety. Right now I have so much on my plate, that I don't even know where to begin and I can feel the tension and anxiety building up inside of me. When...
    flightlessbird314 flightlessbird314 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 25

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    I battle depression. When I am depressed, I cant function. I cant get out of bed before 1oclock. When I do get out of bed, my body gets tired so I go right to the couch. Dishes sit...
    amarie02 amarie02 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 26