I Battle Insecurity

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 382 People

    A Prisoner of My Insecurity

    I have been insecure most of my life being teased throughout middle school and high school for having crooked teeth and being a loner but as if that wasn't enough I suffered with body acne and some acne on my face even into adulthood and present. I go through these...
    isis728 isis728
    2 Responses Jul 16, 2009

    My Heart Hurts

    My heart hurts from all this stress. My mind can barely function anymore, and it's all from worrying about my looks. I'm starting to worry about myself. It's NEVER been this bad before. I think about it ever day, all day. How can I change my looks enough to be considered...
    SugarOwl SugarOwl
    3 Responses Sep 5, 2012

    I've been battling with my insecurity

    for as long as I can remember. I thought I was beginning to grow out of it, but for some reason, it was made very apparent to me the other day that it still weighs heavy on my mind. Well here's where all this insecurity comes from: Growing up, I was always shy and afraid to...
    jennsalas408 jennsalas408
    26-30, F
    Jul 23, 2014

    Maybe Most -if Not All- Women Have This Insecurity Thing

    I don't mean to generalize; I just realize that every lady friend I have had a heart-to-heart talk with have confessed to having even a minute semblance of insecurity. I'm not saying that men do not combat this, but it's more prevalent in women, methinks. Mine would have to...
    sodancewithme sodancewithme
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 7, 2010

    I Was Doing Fine Until He Said....

    Here I am 31 years old, with two daughters 12 & 7 from my husband. You see I have struggled with insecurities as long as I can remember. In my current relationship, I did get pregnant early in the relationship and while pregnant I found out he was sleeping with some girl. This...
    mai52takn mai52takn
    Dec 15, 2012

    I Swear My Insecurities Will Eat Me Alive.

    I remember when people told me I must be really brave to dye my hair crazy colors, like purple and blue, and cut over half of it off without thinking twice about it. Everyone thought I had such a high self-estemme and didn't give a hoot what people thought about me; that was...
    SkinnyThoughtsAndRedLipstick SkinnyThoughtsAndRedLipstick
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 25, 2013

    i have an extreme insecurity.

    it interupts my life. its a very odd insecurity too. had it for a year or two now and its really bad. people mess with it without realizing it every day. my mom is the only one who understands. she helps me and knows when someone messes with my insecurity. and if u mess with it...
    mysteriousnite mysteriousnite
    16-17, F
    Feb 1, 2015

    My Silent Story

    I started to battle insecurity ever since I started gaining weight do to the medicine that i started taking. I recently married the man i have been with for ten years and everytime we go out i feel like everyone is looking at me or at him with shame for being with a female...
    preciousjay preciousjay
    3 Responses Jul 25, 2009

    I've Never Felt Secure....

    School for me was hard to get through....taunted for being the girl who was raped and blamed for it. I lost trust, self esteem, and ultimately my life. Everyday is a struggle. I was bounced around from home to home my whole life and told that no one wants me. Which seemed to be...
    Easy2Forget Easy2Forget
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 31, 2012

    I Am A Painfully Shy Person, But You Wouldn't Know That By Talking To Me.

    I used to have the worst self-esteem issues when I was younger. My father was my constant critic, and I let every word he said get to me until I became paranoid and withdrawn. I still am that way inside, but I act like a very energetic and bubbly person when I am around new...
    Shirogane Shirogane
    22-25, F
    Jun 4, 2013

    I am insecure about a lot of things.

    I hate my body and my constantly fluctuating weight. I hate my smile. I hate that no one can ever pronounce my name correctly, I don't even feel comfortable saying my own name. I hate my awkwardness when meeting/talking to people, I hate feeling dumb and like everyone around me...
    meddie92 meddie92
    22-25, F
    Feb 14, 2015

    From A Better Place

    In the new year I need to to work on silencing the voices of self doubt and insecurity that  jabber in my head and hold me back when I allow them to. There is a light within all of us, a source that has the answers and the key to the peace that we yearn for. I've experienced it...
    Bluetraveler Bluetraveler
    51-55, M
    1 Response Dec 31, 2011

    I Used Too

    Until I met my wife I used to think there was nobody out there for me, and I used to always think when I would see a beautiful woman with what I would consider a nobody "what's this guy have that I don't", but then I got with my wife and now have 2 wonderful boys and a wonderful...
    ILoveSDC ILoveSDC
    31-35, M
    Nov 21, 2012

    I battle insecurity everyday.

    I don't want this to come off as a sob story or a pity party, but I truly feel ugly and unwanted. I am not socially awkward at all, and can have great interactions with those around me. However, when it comes to girls it's almost as if my "physical features" prevent me from...
    cparfait cparfait
    22-25, M
    Jan 2, 2015

    Sometimes I feel like I'm hot ****.

    Sometimes I feel like actual **** 💩💩. It's been a lifelong battle but I persevere to be positive in my character.
    deleted deleted
    May 6, 2014

    Falling Into Depression

    Because of my insecurities & how much they've taken a roll in my life, I feel like I'm slowly going into depression. I've been getting so distant from everyone & everything. I've been acting so different to those around me & those close to me. I can't help it but to push myself...
    SMarrero SMarrero
    18-21, F
    Feb 18, 2013

    Pissed Out

    i hate it when i’m meeting relatives/neighbours who haven’t seen me for so long.. they always judge in front of EVERYONE. they say im too this, im too that! you know what i got tonight?!! they say im getting FAT but you know what?? im happy for the way i am! i will always be...
    poorchild257 poorchild257
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Aug 7, 2013

    Not Sure Why Im Insecure

    I guess being not sure of why Im insecure is an oxymoron.. I'm unsure of being unsure haha.. Thats how it is for me everyday of my life. I try to cover up my insecurities with humor. In my group of friends Im the guy making all the jokes and making people laugh. I think its...
    OZcookiemonster OZcookiemonster
    31-35, M
    1 Response Sep 19, 2011

    So Confused...

    I start to wonder if its something more than just insecurity. Sometimes I feel like I am beautiful, but most of the time, I feel the opposite. Most of the time I feel like I am disgusting to look at, and like my boyfriend should be with someone more attractive. From what I am...
    sweetasugar102 sweetasugar102
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Aug 12, 2009

    Social Insecurity

    A lack of an ability to socialize effectively has plagued me for a good decade.  It’s not like I’m socially awkward or lack tact, but I suppose I lack confidence (or if anyone else got an idea throw it my way).  Coincidentally, I was chatting with a friend about missing...
    Bassanio Bassanio
    Jun 22, 2011

    Trying To Overcome

    Overcoming insecurity is a battle, a battle that I can't seem to win. I've struggled for years with being insecure, tho the last two years seem the hardest. I come from a family that didn't show emotion. Good or bad emotion. I know my parents loved me, but I didn't "feel" loved...
    Jeni0803 Jeni0803
    31-35, F
    1 Response May 4, 2013

    Insecurity Vs. Acknowledgement

    I look at my friend opposite me, and I think – damn, she’s insecure. Poor girl.I look at my friend in front of me in a knowing agreement. What am I doing? Why can’t I acknowledge the truth?Darling, don’t you feel the same way?Why can’t you acknowledge it?You know you...
    beautifulbynature beautifulbynature
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 3, 2011

    I Have No More Words

    Who do you feel the most secure with? Who makes you feel at home? Who do you feel most comfortable being yourself? I'm guessing for most people, their answer would be, with family. That will never be my answer. I suppose I should clarify my answer as I am a grown-up with...
    SeriouslySappy SeriouslySappy
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Oct 25, 2011

    I had tremendous dysfunction in my childhood.

    My father died before I was born at age 39, and my mother never recovered from his death, struggling with addictions and mental illness the rest of her life. It is by the grace of God that I overcame my security. That's why I write about my experiences with my insecurity battle...
    lbworley lbworley
    56-60, F
    Aug 27, 2014

    Never Used Too Feel This Way!

    If you would have met me 20 years ago you never would have thought that I would have a problem with being insecure. Now 35 years old with a prostetic left leg and 32 lbs more I am very insecure! I had my amputation in July of 2011. I also had years to prepare for it seeing how I...
    deleted deleted
    Nov 24, 2012

    My Insecurity Is Ridiculous

    I met a woman, and I want to be her friend. She is close to my age. We have a lot in common. We both have crazy families, we like to cook, art, decorating. We have a ton to talk about when we get together. The reality is, I have come to a balance at this point in my life. I dress...
    GalileosFinger GalileosFinger
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Oct 23, 2012

    I am so insecure this boy likes me

    and he's never seen me in person and I'm just so afraid that he'll think I'm ugly. I cry about it all the time he means everything to me, we go to different schools I have seen him before getting off the bus but he's never seem me I just feel really ugly I'm 14
    akimberly11 akimberly11
    18-21, F
    May 27, 2014

    Scared Of Being Eaten And Digested By Society

     Hi all,  I am a student, acting major, and I am a male in my early 20s. I have been feeling very stressed lately and have frequent feelings of failure daily. I guess I should start by describing my upbringing... When I was born my mother, a city girl in her early 3...
    Troubled2 Troubled2
    22-25, M
    Oct 27, 2009

    I Always Think People Are Judging Me.....

    I constantly get told that I look really young and that I have a different sounding voice so this makes me feel really self conscious. It also makes me feel ashamed and really embarrassed. I am an extremely insecure person and admit this. I worry that people think I am ugly and...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Sep 18, 2011

    my ex-husband and father of our 3 children had

    an affair w the female two doors down from us. My ex-boyfriend had many female "friends". Both men said some horrible things to me, insulating my physical appearance and intelligence. Now I am living w a man that is wonderful. However, I am going to ruin this relationship w my...
    Meow62 Meow62
    41-45, F
    Jun 2, 2014

    she becomes quiet than she used to be so safe

    not to be judged she's a strong woman without boasting she keeps her head down and never speak a word unless spoken to she laughs at herself at her mistakes i envy her i envy her attitude towards everything and i want to change myself but i can't i think i'm sick i'm so sick...
    shenghuidai shenghuidai
    26-30, F
    Nov 13, 2014

    Afraid Of Other Women Looks And Insecurities

    i have a big problem. i have been with my bf now for a year and it was great the beginning. and we moved in not even 6 months of being together then things slowly started to not be so great and i started feeling like he was staring at all these women and comparing myself all the...
    janie2121 janie2121
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 28, 2013

    Stuck In Insecurity

    I feel stuck and controlled by my insecurity, I am almost forty years old, Everyday I struggle to uplift my self. I grew up and still surrounded by parent and siblings that are all very insecure people. It is very hard when you know that you should help yourself feel and do...
    stucklady stucklady
    4 Responses Apr 17, 2012

    Here I Go Again

    I have been insecure most of my life or at least as far back as I can remember. Growing up in a small town I was the only one of my cousin's who didn't have blonde hair and blue eyes. Plus they started dating at 13 and my parents made me wait till I was 16 so most of the guys I...
    LonelyX3 LonelyX3
    46-50, F
    2 Responses May 7, 2011

    I have a horrible insecurity about my age.

    About being young. I hate when people say about people my age: "Your too young to date, your a child, your too young to do this, and that, your immature, you dont know anything, blah blah blah. They dont understand how it makes me feel. i have panic attacks all the time. I have...
    DarknessIsLight99 DarknessIsLight99
    13-15, F
    Aug 13, 2015

    My Insecurity Is Ruining Me

    Hello Everyone! I am happy that I am not alone in this situation. Many people look at me and the last thing someone would think is that I am insecure. I feel like I am living a lie. As I am typing this I am crying because I am very insecure. I have been in a verbally abusive...
    NewBeginning4 NewBeginning4
    26-30, F
    Dec 15, 2012


    The inferior vena cava lays, palpitating, on the tile with veins flowing parallel to the grout. The sweater that she thought another girl would fill out better Was bloodied. Red from a sudden, simple cardiac burst.
    nowvoyager42 nowvoyager42
    22-25, F
    May 19, 2013

    Who Am I?

    Past few months I've been struggling. Trying to figure out who I am, and what defines me. Since I got dumped, I'm kind off lost. I was that kind of girl that was always insecure about who she was, what she looked like and how other people saw her. I was an introvert. But then...
    GrevenyMartina GrevenyMartina
    1 Response Nov 2, 2013


    I guess this should be under the "image and weight" category, to be the most specific, but it definitely deals with insecurity, so I'll just go with it. I have been dealing with increasing self hatred for about a year now. I was a "late bloomer" and for the longest time, I was...
    luvbug7 luvbug7
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 13, 2013

    Help Me

    Ello I don't know where to start. I was with my ex for 7 years we had a little girl and then I found out she cheated on me 3 times. We've been spilt up for 3 years now but I have found a girl I really like but can't get it out my head that she will do the same and I can't stop...
    Ldndave Ldndave
    26-30, M
    4 Responses Apr 19, 2010

    I Now Sadly Admit Ill Never Get Married

    Ever since I can remember I never thought I was good enough.. I never thought that I was worthy of who ever it was I was interested in.. I truly believed and still believe that if someone i think is great is truly great then they deserve so much better then me.. So much prettier...
    EmilyLynn21 EmilyLynn21
    26-30, F
    Aug 2, 2013

    I Battle Insecurity Every Day

    I have always been insecure from the moment I can remember. And as anyone knows, highschool is not an easy experience let alone if you are a person who is not secure. Thirty people can tell me how wonderful and beautiful and intelligent I am and one person can make a derragatory...
    lnholley lnholley
    4 Responses Jun 29, 2009

    I am insecure in many ways,

    but overall I have found that the core of my insecurity is that I never feel good enough. I'm not smart enough, I'm not pretty enough, I'm not nice enough, not athletic enough, and most importantly I never feel good enough for my wonderful boyfriend. These feelings cause me...
    Azuriel Azuriel
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Oct 14, 2015

    My Insecurities

    I have been lurking around the site, reluctant to post, but I feel I just need to get it all out and maybe I will feel better about it. I have been reading various peoples stories on here regarding insecurities, and it's nice to know I am not the only one out there feeling this...
    ChLS ChLS
    3 Responses Jun 2, 2011

    It's Taking Over My Life

    Its honestly an every day struggle. Having to deal with my insecurities, depression, anxiety. I have skipped so many days of school because of it. I will get up, get dressed, get all ready, walk out my door to turn around and walk back into my room and just stay there for the...
    ohsnapitzbree ohsnapitzbree
    2 Responses Apr 22, 2013

    My Insecurity Drives People Away

    i am constantly driving people away and ruining relationships through my insecurities. My wake up call was only yesterday, i had met someone i really liked and wanted to have a relationship with, but my low self-esteem and being very insecure lead him to telling me to leave him...
    jackaleen jackaleen
    36-40, F
    Jul 11, 2012

    Can I Still Be Insecure After 30 Years?

      I was 18 she 15. We were each others first love, she moved in with me. We lived together about 5 years. We kinda grew apart (I'm blaming it on our being so young) I asked her to leave, I helped her get an apartment fix it up etc. We were cordial with each other when we...
    46-50, M
    1 Response Sep 22, 2009

    In high school, I got together with a girl who

    that I put everything into. We dated for almost 2 years before I found out that she cheated on me, and still attempted to lie about it. I put myself through trying to stay with her after that, until I found out she was still lying and ended up having a kid with him. The...
    R3N3 R3N3
    26-30, M
    Apr 30, 2014
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