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    WHY? SEXUAL ANOREXIA. Bazaar posed an interesting question to me: I thought I should post my response on the main page in hope that it may help others. It's a question we all ask...
    Jane1024 Jane1024 36-40, F 13 Responses Jun 25

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    I think I've got the guts to post this now. My wife and I have talked about this many times. I think it would help me to talk to others about it, even if it is anonymously. Since...
    7Sparrows 7Sparrows 26-30, M 14 Responses Jun 27

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    I think the hardest thing for me, looking back on how I got into a sexless marriage, was that it was a long slow process (a death by a thousand cuts). In some ways it would have...
    runninginthedark70 runninginthedark70 41-45, M 10 Responses Jun 25

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    From Psychology Today "Contrary to conventional wisdom, married couples—and their cohabiting counterparts—have more sex than the nonmarried, a fact confirmed in a 2010 survey...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 8 Responses Jul 7

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    My college sweetheart and I have been married 21 years and we have three children (11-20). My wife desires no sex. I pay very close attention to and meet her needs in all other...
    NoTalkJustDo NoTalkJustDo 41-45, M 10 Responses Jul 13

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    I could be wrong of course and looking too much into it, but that's how it feels and what my gut tells me. I am very emotional when it comes to sex and need it in cycles or I...
    sasst92 sasst92 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 25

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    What can I say? I love sex. I am very in tuned with my sexuality. I know what I like, I know what I don't like. I know what I'm doing in the bed room. I've accepted the fact that...
    LovelyLadyJ LovelyLadyJ 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 1

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    Myths about low sexual desire: "Myth #3: If your partner wants sex but you don't, you can express your love in other ways. We tend to think that people should be able to choose...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 4 Responses Jul 1

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    Maybe ladies and gents if your partner doesn't want to have sex often or ever maybe it's cause their self esteem is low, try complimenting them by saying as often as you can how...
    greatinbedchick greatinbedchick 16-17, F 10 Responses Jul 11

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    There was this particular person who commented on my sexiness. So I asked him, how could he say so when he hasn't even seen me. His answer was like the words in my head that were...
    malipatient malipatient 26-30, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm in a same sex relationship, we've been together for over a decade. Same sex marriage isn't legal in our state but we had a commitment ceremony several years ago and consider...
    cloudsinyoureyes cloudsinyoureyes 31-35, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    Sexless Marriage is a Biblical Reason for Divorce This is a re-post of a comment I wrote to someone that TheWendigo suggested I post as a story, in case it helps anyone. I am...
    UndefinedValue UndefinedValue 31-35, F 12 Responses 4 days ago

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    Is anybody else in the same boat? I never EVER imagined myself being in my 20s and in such a horrendous situation. My partner and I have been together for 3 years. The first year...
    mistakeoverload mistakeoverload 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 28

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    I've been in a sexless marriage for 14 years. It started going down hill within the first year and I knew then something wasn't right. I've poured my heart out to him so many times...
    ABlueChristine ABlueChristine 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 29

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    Ok, so that first post wasn't so scary so why not a post two? I cannot begin to express how freeing it is just to have expressed it all. SM isn't something most people would want...
    justnanl justnanl 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 1

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    I am mostly naked when Im out on the streets because I love to show my sexy body for people but I also love to dress sexy in a bra, a garter, stockings, a sexy top, a short skirt...
    nakedmartin nakedmartin 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 7

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    I've been reading posts here and I guess I'm what most of you would call a "refuser", and here's why: my husband's "sexy" touch creeps me out and knowing that the sex (if I allow...
    equila equila 41-45 21 Responses Jul 11

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    Pelvic Floor Disorder. Something to think about. My marriage ultimately ended due to this disorder. The lack of intimacy and sex killed our marriage. For over 12 years I...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 10 Responses Jul 15

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    I've been reading for a couple of weeks and I couldn't believe that it's not just our dysfunction. We've been married for 12 years but "together" since high school that's like 24...
    Anirak73 Anirak73 36-40, F 13 Responses Jul 16

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    I Am Looking For Someone Going Through The Same Thing. I am in an all-but-sexless relationship with someone I love and respect, and I'm looking for someone who can relate to talk...
    NXS3 NXS3 26-30, F 18 Responses a week ago

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    Read and weep or read and vow to take the steps under your control to make your life better. "Don't believe us? A Reddit thread popped up this week asking married folks to weigh...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    Not a whole lot to tell. My wife announced over 10 years ago that there would be no more sex. She has hip and shoulder joint pain from being a hairdresser, so I don't blame her for...
    greyeagle45 greyeagle45 66-70, M 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    Maybe I shouldn't complain. Reading other stories on here makes me think that I don't have it so bad, but in reality, it FEELS like emotional torture. My husband and I are...
    elana29 elana29 26-30 2 Responses Jun 25

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    Maybe I shouldn't complain. Reading other stories on here makes me think that I don't have it so bad, but in reality, it FEELS like emotional torture. My husband and I are intimate...
    elana29 elana29 26-30 4 Responses Jun 25

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    Countdown to D-Day: 10 days and counting…. Last night was rough. The days leading up to July 6th – the day I’m announcing to my H that we’re getting divorced and handing...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 10 Responses Jun 25

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    I finally decided to post a few stories and contribute to the site. What better place to start than one of my main pet peeves with modern society. In today’s world where everyone...
    Silverrun5 Silverrun5 41-45, M 2 Responses Jun 27

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    I've been married for 28 years. On our honeymoon of 2 weeks, we had sex three times. Our sex life went downhill from there. The only time my wife had a strong desire was during her...
    Dirtyoldman728 Dirtyoldman728 61-65, M 4 Responses Jun 27

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    Things are moving rapidly now. For years I tried to get him to understand my pain in being denied sex and my needs. I would tell him the thing I would like most in the world from...
    Aubergine7 Aubergine7 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 28

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    I started dating a girl, we'll call her becka, well over a year ago. When we first got together it was amazing, for months at the beginning we were the perfect couple. I loved...
    mitchel71 mitchel71 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 29

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    Hey everyone. I have not updated in a while. Found out my husband has a sex addiction. I would have never thought so since we hardly had sex and to me a sex addict was someone that...
    miamorinvano miamorinvano 26-30, F 15 Responses Jul 1

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    I'm 29, married for 5 years, 2 beautiful kids. Unfortunately like most here I live in a sexless marriage. I have for several years. Now some will say, your young and just not happy...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 15 Responses Jul 1

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    For many years everything was great - including the sex. Then menopause and hormones kicked in and she has zero - I mean ZERO interest in having sex or pleasuring me. We're still...
    amaturegent amaturegent 56-60, M 10 Responses Jul 2

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    It's Complicated I'm in a sexless marriage, and it's complicated, probably not unlike a lot of people here. I've been married for 28 years, and the last eight years have been...
    LightAtNight LightAtNight 51-55 8 Responses Jul 3

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    I am in my third marriage. Curious how things go, my first one ended because my wife refused sex almost all the time. to the point of being intolerable. The stories I read here, i...
    marcz7 marcz7 46-50, M 9 Responses Jul 4

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    I don't know if anybody else experiences the same but there is no intimacy not just lack of sex. There is the mandatory kiss goodnight....which I absolutely resent! We have only...
    forensicfox forensicfox 31-35, F 21 Responses Jul 6

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    Our child is away with grandparents for the next 10 days. I thought we'd have sex because it's one less excuse not to. He worked last night so I didn't try anything b/c I knew he...
    elana29 elana29 26-30 7 Responses Jul 7

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    Our child is away with grandparents for the next 10 days. I thought we'd have sex because it's one less excuse not to. He worked last night so I didn't try anything b/c I knew he...
    elana29 elana29 26-30 1 Response Jul 7

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    Being a woman of pre-menopause years, my sexual appetite was literally gone for right at 4 years. I did not think about sex, talk about sex, dream about sex, nothing. I was...
    RosieRose63 RosieRose63 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    I'm tired of arguing about sex, but I feel like if I don't bring it up, we would NEVER have it. I tried to discuss a solution to our issue and plan days for sex. He totally blew...
    elana29 elana29 26-30 10 Responses Jul 9

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    So I'm about to completely pull the plug on sex with my wife, going from minimal and miserable intimacy to a state of married celibacy. No touch, no look, no talking about it, it's...
    nmau nmau 41-45, M 18 Responses Jul 9

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    It has been 6 yrs since my husband and I have had sex. I say sex because it was years before that when we made love. Our love life was amazing. We were always touching, kissing...
    LexiNY LexiNY 41-45, F 15 Responses Jul 12

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    I sometimes wonder what it would be like if we lived according to our sexual instincts. I've sometimes imagined a world where it was normal to be naked and people can just have sex...
    truthhurts511 truthhurts511 22-25, F 16 Responses Jul 12

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    I usually love sex. I'm a very sexual person and I would do it multiple times a day if I could but right now, I'm so sick of sex. Anything about sex I just feel nauseous because of...
    sunflowerpet sunflowerpet 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 16

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    Where to start? Ten years into this marriage and no sex for almost five years. Yes, YEARS..... Feel like a fool when a woman makes advances towards me. Feel like a pervert when...
    letsexperience letsexperience 56-60, M 4 Responses a week ago

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    Okay I live in Michigan and the age to consent to sex is 16 I'm guessing that's with any age but below 16. Anyways this 42 year old police officer who lives in Canada came over the...
    cupcakes38 cupcakes38 18-21, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Okay I live in Michigan I was 17 now 18 at the time and the age to consent to sex is 16 I'm guessing that's with any age but below 16. Anyways this 42 year old police officer who...
    cupcakes38 cupcakes38 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    "Im in a sexless marriage but I won't cheat on my spouse." The problem you hope to never face but are never prepared to face. Often people are at the end of their rope, having...
    Happablap Happablap 26-30, M 7 Responses 4 days ago