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I Beat Myself Up Over Mistakes and Imperfections

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    I beat myself up over mistakes all the time,

    regardless of how small they may be. For instance, I ignored someone who messaged me on here, by accidentally clicking 'ignore' when her message came up; a stupid mistake to make. I am an idiot
    KiwiDan KiwiDan 22-25, M 4 Responses Nov 7, 2014

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    I want to vomit we I look in the mirror.

    Or when I hear myself talk I want to kill that voice I hear.
    roadrunner34 roadrunner34 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 5, 2014

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    I feel like everything I do upsets someone

    and it's a mistake. I beat myself up over things like this all the time. I get no reassurance in the fact that I've done something right for once. I guess everything I do is a mistake.
    BabyGirlCleo BabyGirlCleo 18-21, F Mar 11

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    Absobl**dylutely!

    I'm still picking on myself for saying things slighty wrong, and some of the utterances are decades old now lol!
    Freedomfriend Freedomfriend 31-35 5 Responses Aug 23, 2009

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    I end up feeling I wish I were gone over small

    mistakes or large. I can't get over them.
    Salze Salze 56-60, F 5 Responses Jan 22

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    CMBd625 CMBd625 31-35, F May 19

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    I do indeed have a hard time forgiving myself

    for not being perfect. I feel now like I'm at a spot where I've made peace on a personal level, but I still can't bring myself to expect others to accept my imperfections. Not sure how to approach that one really. lol
    justNIK justNIK 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 25, 2014

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    Why?

    Why do we beat ourselves up? How do we treat others with faults after we "look in the mirror" so to speak. We all have faults. Why should we train ourselves up to hatred? 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not...
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 19, 2013

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    When I was little the people I called family

    would abuse me and then tell me it is because of something I did. It was always my fault, and even though I am older now and know that was all excuses I can't stop but feeling like a mistake and like everything I do is wrong. I don't expect to be perfect but I act like I do...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 8, 2014

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    My Problem

    I care too much about everything.  I don't know what to do about it.  I want to know what I did wrong and why I was bad and what I can do to improve myself.  It's exhausting.  I am so tired of trying to fix what is wrong with myself and hating myself for tiny...
    bobob0109 bobob0109 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    completemess completemess 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 25, 2014

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    Will I Ever Stop Punishing Myself?

    I'm a terrible person to be a perfectionist when I' so far from it!  I try to go easier on myself now that I'm older, and know a little better. But I don't cut myself much slack even now. Think it's most likely the ADHD. I did not know about this until I was grown. Growing...
    BCBoomer58 BCBoomer58 56-60, F 8 Responses Jun 19, 2010

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    When it comes to mistakes I have to be hard on

    myself so I don't repeat it. Mistakes are dangerous because the wrong move can ruin your life. I rather learn from other peoples mistakes
    ADeepPerspective ADeepPerspective 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2013

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    I Get Depressed If I Dont Perfect My Art Work .

    I love my hobby of drawing and painting I live in a small country town in australia but I get very depressed if I dont perfect my drawing and get the result I want and plan to do . I also get down on myself if I let myself down by not acting a certain way that pleases people...
    mishy40 mishy40 36-40 1 Response Oct 24, 2011

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    Not Good At All.

    I judge myself more than anybody else judges me, I think. My own thoughts are the reason for my sadness sometimes. It frusturates me a lot. I'm really mean to myself, honestly. I am very hard on myself.
    minnie22mouse minnie22mouse 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2008

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    Sometines .not too hard,

    but yeah just a quick reaction like NHOOOOOO !!!!! And slap your Lap or something .
    Sophiakhan1 Sophiakhan1 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 25, 2014

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    I can't stand stress.

    Tomorrow I've got my last University exam. Last week I did the second-last and I did really good. I couldn't do 2 weeks at home so Saturday I went out for a couple of beer with friends. I came back home at 12:00 pm, a little stoned. Since I practice everyday, and I study, I'm...
    CrookedMat CrookedMat 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 1, 2014

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    I seriously beat myself up all the time.

    .. I feel like I make so many mistakes that I'm just one big mistake. I'm a disappointment to myself and to everyone else. I mean, it is pretty evident. My mom says she'll make me go to therapy if I can't start looking at things positively, but how am I supposed to do that?
    Icrossmyheart Icrossmyheart 13-15, F 1 Response May 8

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    I never feel good enough,

    pretty enough, or worthy enough for someone to love me....I honestly feel like I don't deserve to be loved😫😪😭
    Court24 Court24 22-25, F 6 Responses Oct 11, 2014

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    Every mistake I make I obsess over

    and beat myself up over I hate myself even more each time I make another mistake. I cut because I deserve the punishment.
    sammylynn333 sammylynn333 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 12, 2014

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    I have bruises all over my body from punching

    myself 24/7. Why can't I just be perfect like everyone else? I hide my bruises so no one knows. I hate who I am. I think I'm gods worst experiment. I don't even know why I'm alive!
    PierceSleepingWithParamore PierceSleepingWithParamore 16-17, F 8 Responses May 1, 2014

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    rubysmom rubysmom 51-55, F 5 Responses Jan 31

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    I know I shouldn't and I know I'm not perfect

    but I can't help the way I feel
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 22, 2014

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    I'm a creature of predictions

    and observation. I dislike being wrong and am used to being right. Of course I'm not perfect and at times I am wrong or I make mistakes about advice I give to people or mistakes about my own life predicting the reactions and actions of people around me which disheartens me to no...
    Plungeintoadream Plungeintoadream 18-21, F Dec 8, 2014

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    I generally just analyze every aspect of my

    appearance and actions. As much as I try t stop myself it happens anyway.
    myrandomusername myrandomusername 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 7, 2014

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    Not Alone

    Although I know I shouldn't ... I still am guilty of this from time to time. I often find myself feeling bad about having made a mistake and am often quite hard on myself.  I usually do bounce back quite quickly, but it's a hard habit to break. I know we are supposed to learn...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 6 Responses Jan 15, 2011

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    Sometimes I think too much about my mistakes

    that I almost forgot the cool dude that I am. And I hate these days, when my head hurts, because I can't do right decisions sometimes, I just follow the road without take a turn or stop a moment to think where I'm going. Stress kills me, indirectly. I beat myserlf up over...
    CrookedMat CrookedMat 26-30, M 1 Response Oct 29, 2014

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    With Good Reason

    I aspire to get things right all the time. Needless to say,I fall some way short of this goal. Sometimes I fall farther than others... Repercussions vary,but I am my own sternest critic. Just because I don't advertise the internal dialogue doesn't mean it isn't happening. I...
    notdarcy notdarcy 41-45, M 8 Responses May 18, 2009

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    Always Saying, 'i'm Sorry'.

    I feel like I spend half my life walking on eggshells and the other half saying, "I am sorry'. For what I don't know. I guess I am so insecure...
    toolongalone toolongalone 56-60, F 3 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    I beat myself up over my mistakes

    and imperfections - don't we all. I don't want to spend too much time on this one - it is a very common mistake.
    tryingagainII tryingagainII 56-60, M Nov 24, 2014

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    I find it harder to forgive myself

    for mistakes. I never really realised until recently that I've always blamed myself for a lot of things that are out of my control. Always second guessing and wondering what if I'd done this or done that. Hindsight is a beautiful thing.
    Quinney Quinney 26-30, M 2 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Mistakes Hurt

    I don't know when it began, nor do I know how it began. Perhaps it was in 1st grade when I had to stand in the corner for winding my watch in class, even though all my work was correctly done. Perhaps it was when I tore the neighbor's tv antenna wire, or was it a telephone...
    jiggstrixie92 jiggstrixie92 51-55, F 8 Responses Jun 30, 2011

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    My Dying Soul Is Lost........................

                       The darkness surrounds me It'sso cold im all alone with noone to hold.My world is so empty.All I want left is pain. No sunshine to lightmy way Just never ending rain I drown in tears My heart is crying no one sems to notice My soul  is dying...
    Anto815 Anto815 46-50, F 4 Responses Dec 23, 2011

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    Bad Grades, I Never Understand, Im Stupid

    i just dont understand math at all i mean like i understand none of it. my brain just dont work like that. im dyslexic but it affects reading only a little bit like im slow but it mostly affects math--i just cant do it right. But my new family dont understand that i just cant do...
    AquilaAqua AquilaAqua 13-15, M 5 Responses Jan 3, 2013

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    Please Read<3

    Hey you! Yes, you. Stop being unhappy with yourself. You are perfect. Stop wishing you looked like someone else or wishing people liked you as much as they like someone else. Stop trying to get attention from those who hurt you. Stop hating your body, your face, your personality...
    claaaire claaaire 16-17, F May 17, 2012

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    I definitely have a terrible habit of thinking

    about all the stupid mistakes I've made and hating myself for them as well as looking at all my imperfections and beating myself up for them as well. It's something I've been working to change but it has definitely been a struggle.
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 3 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    We strive so hard to be perfect in this world.

    . To not make a mistake, to not say anything wrong or get left out. But is that really what we will be remembered for? For being close-to-perfect and never taking chances and thus almost never making mistakes? I doubt it, I think we'll be remembered for our mistakes. For the...
    ThisIsNickers ThisIsNickers 16-17, M 1 Response Jan 5

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    I realize that no one is perfect,

    but when people point out the annoy, selfish, rude things I do, many times unaware, it really gets to me. I try to work on myself and improve, but I can't seem to accept the fact that I am simply flawed--no matter how I try to fix myself. I usually apologize to people and then...
    dorothea779 dorothea779 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 25, 2014

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    I don't beat myself up per se,

    as much as I give myself a stern talking to. I really don't handle defeat well. When it comes to me handling situations I'm like a hemophiliac in a razor factory. I think I have an objective point of view of my failures, it's just that they see me first. I'm quite certain...
    Modiwolfshit Modiwolfshit 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 3, 2013

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    Definitely guilty of this.

    I've been beating myself up for the same thine for almost 6 months.
    Ellytheoutcast Ellytheoutcast 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 25, 2014

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    I'm tired of this, nothing good comes out of my

    life, I'm always getting rejected by girls. I'm always in some type of emotional pain. I always have crushes on chicks that I can never have. I've been told that I'm sweet and attractive, but I don't see it. I feel like I will never find that one girl. I'm starting to lose hope...
    romero44 romero44 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 12, 2014

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    Aware Of My Mistakes

    I am In self loath. Not because I am Ignorant to the fact that my Imperfections and mistakes don't matter, but at the same time they are everything. Being conscious of such Is a task In It's self. Then the will to fight for sanity and motivation escape me due to my reminder of...
    Blukk Blukk 18-21 1 Response Aug 19, 2012

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    I like this guy he's really nice

    and sweet and he would make my heart flutter at the littlest of things he would say sweet things like "even when times get rough you would still be easy to love or why does it matter you're gonna be mine someday" I went out on a date Saturday and it was lovely I had fun and we...
    IntegraBlackwell IntegraBlackwell 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 29, 2014

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    My Own Kind Of Perfect

    All my life I've been teased,called names,bullied.I've always felt unwanted,unnneed.After a while,I gave in,I believed the lies,I refused the believe the truth.I refused to eatwhen someone called me fat.I refused to singwhen someone said I has a horride voice.I covered my face...
    invisiblegirl904 invisiblegirl904 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 29, 2012

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    Never have I thought of killing myself

    or try hurting myself in ways that would end my life easily. I started to beat myself a few days ago and it felt good. I feel like I deserve to punish myself for doing such a little mistake, my mom would make me feel how fcking useless I am and I know that what she's saying was...
    MaryJay712 MaryJay712 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 4, 2014

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    I know the whole "nobody's perfect "

    and "everybody makes mistakes" cliches are said all the time but It's hard failing an making a mess of things all the time even when you don't even try too and having it pointed out all the time (thanks mom-_-)...every time I mess up no matter how small it may seem I just feel...
    irreelevance irreelevance 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 24

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