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I Beat Myself Up Over Mistakes and Imperfections

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    Why?

    Why do we beat ourselves up? How do we treat others with faults after we "look in the mirror" so to speak. We all have faults. Why should we train ourselves up to hatred? 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not...
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71 41-45, M 1 Response Mar 19, 2013

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    Kendraaa7 Kendraaa7 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 1

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    I find it harder to forgive myself

    for mistakes. I never really realised until recently that I've always blamed myself for a lot of things that are out of my control. Always second guessing and wondering what if I'd done this or done that. Hindsight is a beautiful thing.
    Quinney Quinney 22-25, M 2 Responses May 6

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    My Dying Soul Is Lost........................

                       The darkness surrounds me It'sso cold im all alone with noone to hold.My world is so empty.All I want left is pain. No sunshine to lightmy way Just never ending rain I drown in tears My heart is crying no one sems to notice My soul  is dying...
    Anto815 Anto815 46-50, F 3 Responses Dec 23, 2011

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    If Only.

    If only I could take back what I said or did to make him leave me. To take back everything that happened would mean I could have my happiness back. I could live a day without wanting to cut my skin to shreds.
    nickeew nickeew 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 28, 2013

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    You would think that I would be good at

    handling mistakes, and failures. As I fail a lot in life. But I don't, I've had a long history of just losing my mind over failures, and letting little mistakes get to me. Here's a few examples: I've smashed at least 6 Xbox controllers, as a result of losing or screwing up in...
    DeathstalkerScorpion DeathstalkerScorpion 22-25, M 1 Response Dec 8, 2013

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    My Own Kind Of Perfect

    All my life I've been teased,called names,bullied.I've always felt unwanted,unnneed.After a while,I gave in,I believed the lies,I refused the believe the truth.I refused to eatwhen someone called me fat.I refused to singwhen someone said I has a horride voice.I covered my face...
    invisiblegirl904 invisiblegirl904 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 29, 2012

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    I Get Depressed If I Dont Perfect My Art Work .

    I love my hobby of drawing and painting I live in a small country town in australia but I get very depressed if I dont perfect my drawing and get the result I want and plan to do . I also get down on myself if I let myself down by not acting a certain way that pleases people...
    mishy40 mishy40 36-40 1 Response Oct 24, 2011

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    Abilohman Abilohman 26-30 1 Response Feb 1

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    Welcome to My Life

    most of us strive for perfection but i find that complaining about what im doing  wrong is easier
    theluckyduck theluckyduck 26-30, M 2 Responses Jan 20, 2009

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    When I Say Something Stupid

    I can't say anything wrong, or else i am a horrible person. Someone who doesn't deserve what I have. I don't think before i talk and when i say something stupid that is very obvious I freak out. now physically anyway, just emotionally. How can I be so stupid, I must really be...
    battlefighter battlefighter 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 30, 2013

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    Please Read<3

    Hey you! Yes, you. Stop being unhappy with yourself. You are perfect. Stop wishing you looked like someone else or wishing people liked you as much as they like someone else. Stop trying to get attention from those who hurt you. Stop hating your body, your face, your personality...
    claaaire claaaire 16-17, F May 17, 2012

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    All the Time.

    It basically boils down to this: my relationship with myself is an all or nothing ordeal. I expect perfection from myself in most every aspect of my life, and if I'm not perfect I feel like I'm worthless. Failure and rejection is not something I can take lightly, and so much...
    deleted deleted 26-30 12 Responses Feb 10, 2009

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    When it comes to mistakes I have to be hard on

    myself so I don't repeat it. Mistakes are dangerous because the wrong move can ruin your life. I rather learn from other peoples mistakes
    ADeepPerspective ADeepPerspective 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2013

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    I generally just analyze every aspect of my

    appearance and actions. As much as I try t stop myself it happens anyway.
    myrandomusername myrandomusername 16-17, M 1 Response Feb 7

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    I want to vomit we I look in the mirror.

    Or when I hear myself talk I want to kill that voice I hear.
    roadrunner34 roadrunner34 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 5

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    DO I NEED TO LET HIM GO?

    I MARRIED A MAN IN 2010 THAT IS A ALCHOLIC AND DRUG ADDICT.HE WAS EMOTIONALY,VERBALY ANS PHYSICALY ABUSIVE.I DIVORCED HIM THIS YEAR.HE HAS GOTTEN BETTER BUT HE STILL HAS HIS WORSE TIMES TO.WE HAVE BEEN TRYING TO WORK THINGS OUT AND GET BACK TOGETHER TIL NOW.HE REFUSES TO CHANGE...
    Elizabeth02 Elizabeth02 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 2, 2013

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    It Would Be Easier

    I should probably just stop doing anything... That way I can't make a mistake. If only it worked that way, lol. :P But it seems like it would be easier to avoid making mistakes and putting myself in situations where my imperfections are obvious than working on the 'not beating...
    maydaybandit maydaybandit 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 12, 2009

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    Will I Ever Stop Punishing Myself?

    I'm a terrible person to be a perfectionist when I' so far from it!  I try to go easier on myself now that I'm older, and know a little better. But I don't cut myself much slack even now. Think it's most likely the ADHD. I did not know about this until I was grown. Growing...
    BCBoomer58 BCBoomer58 56-60, F 8 Responses Jun 19, 2010

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    Absobl**dylutely!

    I'm still picking on myself for saying things slighty wrong, and some of the utterances are decades old now lol!
    Freedomfriend Freedomfriend 31-35 5 Responses Aug 23, 2009

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    Bad Grades, I Never Understand, Im Stupid

    i just dont understand math at all i mean like i understand none of it. my brain just dont work like that. im dyslexic but it affects reading only a little bit like im slow but it mostly affects math--i just cant do it right. But my new family dont understand that i just cant do...
    AquilaAqua AquilaAqua 13-15, M 5 Responses Jan 3, 2013

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    Would people stop putting me in their circle of

    they're just going to ask me and send me pictures of their genitals/genitalia... It's very uncomfortable and it makes me depressed, because all I do is post details about myself and it gets the wrong attention... What do I do wrong anyways (°_°)
    IamtheawesomePrussia IamtheawesomePrussia 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 30

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    When I was little the people I called family

    would abuse me and then tell me it is because of something I did. It was always my fault, and even though I am older now and know that was all excuses I can't stop but feeling like a mistake and like everything I do is wrong. I don't expect to be perfect but I act like I do...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 8

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    Phew

    It's just as well I'm perfect and make so few mistakes because otherwise this could turn into a life wasted, I would never leave this page, or this group. I do have worries but thankfully every one of them can be blamed on someone else, or on bad luck, or if it's something...
    CrookedMan CrookedMan 46-50 Mar 25, 2011

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    I Should Stop It Too 'cause It Hurts .

    Its hurting everyone around me and is affecting what relationships I do have . I'm isolating myself on purpose by accident and that's the worst thing I can do at this point . It has been passed on to my kids and I know that was just one reason for our divorce .
    Tanengreen Tanengreen 36-40, M 1 Response Mar 10, 2010

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    Too Much To Handle

    I have an anxiety disorder, meaning that even the slightest mental push can make me hurt like crazy. Most people do beat themselves up for making major mistakes, but who does that for everything? I mean, even if my teacher tells me to be quiet in class, i'll want to cry. I'll...
    sufferingxinsanity sufferingxinsanity 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 16, 2012

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    I realize that no one is perfect,

    but when people point out the annoy, selfish, rude things I do, many times unaware, it really gets to me. I try to work on myself and improve, but I can't seem to accept the fact that I am simply flawed--no matter how I try to fix myself. I usually apologize to people and then...
    dorothea779 dorothea779 31-35, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I'm tired of this, nothing good comes out of my

    life, I'm always getting rejected by girls. I'm always in some type of emotional pain. I always have crushes on chicks that I can never have. I've been told that I'm sweet and attractive, but I don't see it. I feel like I will never find that one girl. I'm starting to lose hope...
    romero44 romero44 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 12

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    Really Bad

    People think I am strange. They think I am stubborn, naïve, childlike. They think I do not understand what it means to learn. They think I am unable to improve myself or my situation, that I lack the ability to look into the mirror and see my own flaws. They think I do not...
    JojaRodenaLente JojaRodenaLente 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 17, 2009

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    Suze2 Suze2 46-50, F Oct 18, 2013

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    Looser

    All my life i was working and now at 56 don't have any money saved. all the time can not spent even couple extra dollars, bills only, mortgage and even for that - i'm in demand... No money, nothing ahead. I'm smart, never laizy - and what is waiting for me ahead?! Nothing..... Is...
    declined declined 56-60 3 Responses Jun 12, 2013

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    Every mistake I make I obsess over

    and beat myself up over I hate myself even more each time I make another mistake. I cut because I deserve the punishment.
    sammylynn333 sammylynn333 16-17, F Apr 12

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    I know I shouldn't and I know I'm not perfect

    but I can't help the way I feel
    Goddesslove3 Goddesslove3 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 22

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    I Seem To Just Focus On The Bad!

    I went through a really bad break up last year, around Christmas. It was a long term relationship, and though I knew something was wrong, I didn't see a break up coming, it traumatized me deeply and turned my world inside out. All of a sudden, the person I thought was my rock had...
    DonutsJunction DonutsJunction 26-30, F Jan 6, 2013

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    Mistakes Hurt

    I don't know when it began, nor do I know how it began. Perhaps it was in 1st grade when I had to stand in the corner for winding my watch in class, even though all my work was correctly done. Perhaps it was when I tore the neighbor's tv antenna wire, or was it a telephone...
    jiggstrixie92 jiggstrixie92 51-55, F 8 Responses Jun 30, 2011

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    DeadOfDecember DeadOfDecember 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 20, 2011

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    Not Alone

    Although I know I shouldn't ... I still am guilty of this from time to time. I often find myself feeling bad about having made a mistake and am often quite hard on myself.  I usually do bounce back quite quickly, but it's a hard habit to break. I know we are supposed to learn...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 5 Responses Jan 15, 2011

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    My Problem

    I care too much about everything.  I don't know what to do about it.  I want to know what I did wrong and why I was bad and what I can do to improve myself.  It's exhausting.  I am so tired of trying to fix what is wrong with myself and hating myself for tiny...
    bobob0109 bobob0109 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    Right But Guilty...

    so today , the stupid driver uncle with whom i doubt my mom is in love with, crossed my mind....i was just too straight forward in saying that he is a driver no matter what and that he should not act like its us who beg him to come(my mom thinks it shud be) ...and he was home...
    tushrocker tushrocker 13-15 Sep 22, 2013

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    In retrospect

    Yes, I know it’s not a good trait to have because more often than not, it can lead to self-destruction. However, I think that beating myself up over mistakes and imperfections has its merit. See, whenever I do that, consciously or unconsciously, I’ve been able to reflect on...
    papervoices papervoices 22-25, F May 28, 2010

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    With Good Reason

    I aspire to get things right all the time. Needless to say,I fall some way short of this goal. Sometimes I fall farther than others... Repercussions vary,but I am my own sternest critic. Just because I don't advertise the internal dialogue doesn't mean it isn't happening. I...
    notdarcy notdarcy 41-45, M 10 Responses May 18, 2009

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    It truly gets to me when I don't do something

    right. I hate it. Like today my manager got mad over the facts that I messed up on my clock in worksheet for work because I'm a lifeguards like wow really I'm not the only one that has made that mistake before she got after me again today like omg idk it's just weird little...
    andreaespe andreaespe 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 5

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    Aware Of My Mistakes

    I am In self loath. Not because I am Ignorant to the fact that my Imperfections and mistakes don't matter, but at the same time they are everything. Being conscious of such Is a task In It's self. Then the will to fight for sanity and motivation escape me due to my reminder of...
    Blukk Blukk 18-21 1 Response Aug 19, 2012

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    Always Saying, 'i'm Sorry'.

    I feel like I spend half my life walking on eggshells and the other half saying, "I am sorry'. For what I don't know. I guess I am so insecure...
    toolongalone toolongalone 56-60, F 2 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    Right Foot, Left Foot, Right Foot...

    Every step revisited. Every word... Every fault. At which point did the luster fade? I look... I cannot see.
    SevenTierCrazyCake SevenTierCrazyCake 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 16, 2013

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    azeemuddin azeemuddin 18-21, M Jan 2

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    be4everyome be4everyome 13-15, F Mar 29

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    Driving

    One of the things I frequently beat myself up about is that I am not a good driver. I have had my license for two years now, but I still make a lot of mistakes. It feels like I can't ever get behind the wheel without almost causing an accident. People honk their horns at me...
    MabelLarosse MabelLarosse 18-21 1 Response Jul 8, 2013

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    I have bruises all over my body from punching

    myself 24/7. Why can't I just be perfect like everyone else? I hide my bruises so no one knows. I hate who I am. I think I'm gods worst experiment. I don't even know why I'm alive!
    FuzzyBunnyx3 FuzzyBunnyx3 16-17, F 6 Responses May 1

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    I don't beat myself up per se,

    as much as I give myself a stern talking to. I really don't handle defeat well. When it comes to me handling situations I'm like a hemophiliac in a razor factory. I think I have an objective point of view of my failures, it's just that they see me first. I'm quite certain...
    Modiwolfshit Modiwolfshit 41-45, M 3 Responses Dec 3, 2013

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    I like this guy he's really nice

    and sweet and he would make my heart flutter at the littlest of things he would say sweet things like "even when times get rough you would still be easy to love or why does it matter you're gonna be mine someday" I went out on a date Saturday and it was lovely I had fun and we...
    IntegraBlackwell IntegraBlackwell 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Imperfections!

      I push my self to be perfect, the imperfections I try to force out, I am OCD about it. over time I have learned to deal with my imperfections, and my mistakes, instead of them being failures to me, I learned where I went wrong and how, then looked back to where I could...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 25, 2009

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    My Worst Critic

    My worst critic: ME! I have always been the type to really be hard on myself - I do expect perfection - from myself more than anyone else.  I get so frustrated with myself when I don't live up to MY expectations. Lately, this has become worse for me.  I have reached...
    AnalyticalAly AnalyticalAly 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 15, 2009