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I Beat Myself Up Too Often

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    I have always beaten myself up over things. I used to beat myself up for just about everything, my fault or not. Now I take the time to stop and think about whether if I actually screwed up or not. Then I kick the crap out of myself.When something bad happens I will think about...
    lyricaldemise lyricaldemise 36-40 Sep 6, 2013

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    Time And Time Again!!

    i beat myself up about the silliest little things all the time, almost on a daily basis!! as i say, i know its silly, but at times i just cant seem to help myself, i always expect better of myself!! its like i want to be successful and make something of myself, then i...
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 3 Responses Feb 4, 2012

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    I Need To Stop Beating Myself Up

    Im 24 and I have a 4 year old son. I have been out on my own for a year now and of course things are hard. Im raising my son alone so thats tough enough by itself. Of course I stuggle like everyone else but for some reason I just dont feel confident in what I'm doing. Even though...
    Sb88 Sb88 26-30, F Nov 29, 2012

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    All the Time

    I am always beating myself up, beating myself up for either things that have happened in my past, or things that I really can't control. Poeple are always telling me that I am way too hard on myself, and I need to learn that things aren't always my fault, and sometimes, **** just...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 6, 2009

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    Figuratively Of Course. No Self-mutilation For Me.

    i have been told throughout my life, even by some of my teachers, that i am too hard on myself. i remember hearing it from my 3rd grade teacher, and most recently from my chorus teacher a year or two ago. and from family and friends. i just want to be smart, pretty, and talented...
    1990cupcake 1990cupcake 18-21 Jan 5, 2010

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    I Beat Myself Up Too Often

    I beat myself up too often because of my feelings and I take people too seriously.  I can blame so many people and things that happened in my life, that I'm not sure if it's right.  I know I'm an adult and have to charge of my life, but still.  One example, I...
    candles24 candles24 41-45, F Jan 29, 2010

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    I Do

    i beat myself up too often . i beat myself over stupid mistakes . not having a perfect safe and the biggest thing is me saying something inapproriate . it gave me fuel to call me a pervert and disrespect me completely.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 17, 2009

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    But Then Maybe Not....

    I think I deserve to beat myself up often but I won't sit here and say that it is helpful as I know it isn't. I am a failure and am behind in life which does deserve emotional batterings from myself but I know deep down it isn't helping. It only gets me into a cycle of hating...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 5, 2012

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