I Become Distant When You Hurt Me

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    What Do They Want From Me?

    Whenever I give my opinion, question something, say anything at all, I'm wrong. I will admit I am intimidating; I'm ugly, 6'1", 280lbs, think football lineman and maybe I come across too strong. However, since I am always wrong, it gets to a point where it's best for me not to...
    ekkg ekkg
    46-50
    3 Responses Aug 30, 2010

    Sure Sign

    I'm moody to say the least but.... if I get hurt, even if it's unfair to hold back my feeling and not say why...I am distant, you can feel it... open the door so I can come in and clean with what is in my heart and on my mind...I'll tell you. huh... Guess that is unfair too...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze
    56-60, F
    1 Response Apr 15, 2012

    I Trusted You With My Heart

    When I spill my mind too you and you take it and make light of my thoughts and say comments... it hurts because I trusted you with my heart and feel as though I am not supposed to have feellings or emotions...which I can turn off as easily as a switch...so I can talk to you like...
    elderwitch47 elderwitch47
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Oct 15, 2012

    Distant

    I am this way.  I may still speak to who ever hurt me but I do get distant which I believe it is a normal behaviour.
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr
    36-40, F
    1 Response Apr 29, 2012

    Avoid Getting Hurt.

    When Someone Hurts me. Everyone Suffers Because I distance myself. I know I shouldn't be this way. I can't help but being this way. I Sheild myself From the world. I want to learn how to except it and move on. I just haven't  Got to that point in my Life yet.
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 2, 2008

    You Know...

    You knew that your actions would hurt me, regardless of the fact that we did not share what you had hoped for, that I was unable to share the same beliefs and feelings.  Regardless of that, I cared deeply for you, you were my closest friend and you had always said that would...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Oct 30, 2008

    The "Once Bitten, Twice Shy" Syndrome.....

    Yep , of course everybody gets hurt one time or another and 90% of the time its by the person that "Loves" them the most. Of course people deal with the hurts their own indvidual way. I tend to distance myself from that sort of individual 2 the point where I don't...
    coconutzismyflava coconutzismyflava
    22-25, F
    Oct 16, 2008

    Needing My Space For a While

    I eventually come around after a disagreement or argument.  It's like a mini-grieving session for me after a fight:  experiencing feelings of anger, hopelessness, and finally acceptance.  First of all, arguing.  Most of us cringe just hearing the word...
    UnderEli UnderEli
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Jun 26, 2009

    Only With Minor Things....

    if you hurt me a lot or intentionally I just go a bit crazy.  But if I get a little bit upset; if I can't understand someones tone of voice or the way theyre looking at me; if they do something i dont agree with or am not comfortable with; if they are really insensitive; if...
    Tesse Tesse
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 5, 2008

    Sometimes even if I sense the hurt coming.

    I back away. I stop returning calls and texts to guard my own heart. Once, I have been hurt by a person, they seldom get back in. It's not that I don't forgive, I don't trust that person anymore. Trust is a fickle thing, easy to lose, but hard to gain. I have burned a lot of...
    Devinamaria Devinamaria
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jan 14, 2014

    It Hurts Even Now...

    I hate to make friends all because I hate being emotionally hurt. This is a big downfall because I would like to make new friends but I guess because of a few really bad events I know shut people out as a defensive mechanisam and I can't shut it off. I really try too but theres...
    LuciferMaximus LuciferMaximus
    18-21, M
    Aug 26, 2010

    I Push People Away....

    Even if they didn't hurt me, all it takes is one person to hurt me to a certain extendt, and I feel like i can't take it anymore, and I dont want to let anyone in, so I just push everyone so far away. I don't let anyone get close to me, and I don't share how I am feeling, or...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Aug 18, 2010

    Yea I Do That

    if someone hurts me deeply i want to stay away from them i get scared that if i give in to that person again that i'll be hurt yet another time. im tired of hurt and pain. if someone hurts me deeply i'll either seem really 'away' from them even if they can physically touch me. or...
    Hazuki Hazuki
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 23, 2009

    Protection

     When i get out there and show you the real me and you hurt mei have no choise other than go away....
    andreinac13 andreinac13
    22-25, F
    1 Response Oct 13, 2008

    Always Unaccepted

    Being raised in a home where I never felt good enough in any aspect of my life has definitely left scars.  When you get hurt constantly by the ones that are supposed to love you, you learn to shelter your heart.  As a result of not being skinny enough, I became...
    natashamarie natashamarie
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Apr 23, 2010

    Mishandled Logic...

    Normally i am willing to do anything for anyone. I love everyone. i dont care if they lie or cheat (its not really cheating if i allow it though i guess...) on me as long as they are happy and i am a part of that. However... i can still feel betrayed (like if they forget my...
    yedmeipa yedmeipa
    22-25
    2 Responses Mar 2, 2009

    It's a Matter of Survival

    I will become distant when a person hurts me. This is just a matter of survival. It is a time for me to step back and watch the person, to evaluate their intent and guard myself against further hurt. I do believe in forgiveness, and in my life I have had to forgive some things...
    CagedRaven CagedRaven
    46-50, F
    Jul 14, 2009

    I Become Distant Before You Can Hurt Me

    I have a tendency to shut down when things get out of my control. I don't speak, or say as little as possible and watch as it all falls down around me. Even if I did speak, I dont think it would stop me from being hurt. Once someone has it in their mind, there's no...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Nov 3, 2008

    I hear your words of anger.

    ...your words of disappointment....I try to render them with my words of praise and apology....your words return with fire and ice, melting away of what I have said, not hearing them but your own.... I begin to close the doors, hear it slam, then you are out...I can no longer...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jul 15, 2014

    Temporarily Though

    when you hurt me.. i tend to lock my self down and become isolated within my mind my thoughts are all mine kept to myself i tend to become miserable weak.... life seems more problematic over all i loose interest in everything i distance not only from you but from everything...
    amateurgenius amateurgenius
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jul 3, 2011

    ...and Those Three Words Hurt Me The Most.

    She doesn't get it. And I simply cannot express it to her in a way that she would understand. She has said those three words a thousand times for every one time she has said another three word phrase. To her, it is an innocuous response; a way to be cooperative. To go along...
    Bfinally Bfinally
    51-55, M
    Nov 5, 2012

    Yes....

    if I feel like I am getting too Close to someone, I tend to become distant, especailly since someone, who I got really close to, Really did hurt me really bad, and I kinda kicked myself in the ***, because I saw all the warning signs, but I ignored them, because I didn't...
    xSilentlySufferingx xSilentlySufferingx
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Apr 23, 2010

    if I feel like I am getting too Close to

    someone, I tend to become distant, especially since someone, who I got really close to, Really did hurt me really bad, and I kinda kicked myself in the ***, because I saw all the warning signs, but I ignored them, because I didn't believe that she would actually want to hurt me...
    HisLittleAriel HisLittleAriel
    26-30, F
    Jul 4, 2015

    Neglected...Rejected...Runaway

    Being a Pisces and a female one at that is hard. We are imaginative and sensitive, compassionate and kind, selfless and unworldly, intuitive and sympathetic at our best and at our worst escapist and idealistic, secretive and vague, weak-willed and easily let. Now I know that...
    Caramelicious Caramelicious
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Nov 13, 2011

    What to Expect

    If you hurt me, you will immediately see it in my eyes as I can't hide my emotions in them to save my life. They will go from a dark hazel to a gray or blue. It's unmistakable. I will most likely crawl into my shell that I unfortunately know all too well and won't come out until...
    choctawgrrrl choctawgrrrl
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Dec 17, 2008
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