I Become Reserved When I Am Upset

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    Watching the clock, Knowing you will soon

    return, I feel nothing but dread. If I could stop time, I would. If I could put you in a happy mood, I would. If I could make you see how lucky you are, I would. Things are supposed to be changing. They are supposed to be getting better. Yet I believe the old cycle is...
    Twinkletoejam Twinkletoejam
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Jul 31, 2015

    It's A Quest

    I've been this way for years. The more upset I get the quieter I become. Some tend to say I'm giving them the silent treatment where all I'm really doing is trying to sort out my own situation. I don't look to others for cheering me up, I don't ask for help and I don't take...
    deleted deleted
    Jun 3, 2012

    Still dealing with stuff.

    .. Just wanted my friends on here to know I'm ok :)
    Twinkletoejam Twinkletoejam
    41-45, F
    8 Responses Aug 12, 2015

    Sometimes I feel like a huge doormat,

    just existing into empty space ... frustrated...bored...busy...just don't want to talk...just want to lay in bed all day...
    deleted deleted
    Feb 1, 2015

    My Typical Behavior

    When I feel attacked, threaten, vulnerable or hurt - I do become reserved. I think there are three ways people could handle this:  1. Become reserved 2. Lash out in anger 3. Let it roll off   I could say that I am number 3, but that...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Feb 19, 2009

    Silent Treatment

    Mum used to use the silent treatment on Dad.  It drove him wild.  After he passed away, I got the same treatment. I have noticed myself doing the same to other people when I get angry.  Rather than lash out with abuse, I clam up.  Partly...
    Koala1964 Koala1964
    51-55, M
    7 Responses Feb 20, 2009

    I Distant Myself....

    When I become so upset, that I don't want to talk to anyone. I do what I am best at, and I push people away. I just run away from them, and practically everyone around me because its what I am good at. Its not like I try and do it, its just something that happenes when I am...
    deleted deleted
    Aug 25, 2009

    When I Am Upset With Myself:

    I think that is the right thing to do. When I am upset with myself- I need to keep my frustation to myself. Why should others deal with my bad mood...?
    tenderfoot1 tenderfoot1
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 30, 2008

    Nice to see many other people do too.

    I thought I was the only one. I used to be reserved all the time, and I feel it was much easier, although I am still happy to be more open now, but being reserved also has its advantages, like it made me less often get upset, less often get misunderstood and I just don't have...
    MissGaga MissGaga
    26-30, F
    Jul 30, 2015


    Just easier to hide and deal w/ it alone. I know others have trouble with it, me, my world. I know that my venting is often taken as negative, whining, weak. It is what it is and because of those who don't understand it, I've learned to hide it. Sad part is this is where I...
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Dec 13, 2008


    It feels like my throat is closing up on me, and I hate when I get like that and someone expects an answer from me. Especially when the question is, "what's wrong?"  I will talk about it when I am ready but many people don't understand this. If I am...
    college101 college101
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Jan 26, 2010

    How to Survive

    I handle upsetting times differently depending on the situation.  When I was a child (Middle child of 5), adolescent, young adult, in my 30's, If I'm in a relationship with you and we argue to the point of being upset and to the point of no return, I'm out of there...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom
    51-55, F
    12 Responses Oct 23, 2008

    "What if one day comes

    and I stop caring about you and I just run away? Will you realize that I am important to you and that you should have shown it before?"
    fascisheanne fascisheanne
    22-25, F
    Feb 17, 2015

    I Am Upset For A Lot Of Reasons

    1) People change - its so true.. To a level, at 1 point I start wondering how did this person meant something to me sometime back... 2) Why the entire world is behind perfect bodies and sexuality what happened to the character of a person. Most of the celebs are either drug...
    GirlThinking GirlThinking
    26-30, F
    Aug 26, 2012

    It's How I Deal

    If I don't get quiet, I shout things I shouldn't and end up making things worse, so being quiet def helps, even though it makes the person I'm arguing with think I don't care about solving the problem.
    SmotherMe SmotherMe
    26-30, F
    Dec 30, 2008


    I give you one word replies, then I am upset. If I don't talk at all I am upset.  I try not to be so reserved but when so much piles up on top of me I begin to get upset and I retreat.
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
    46-50, F
    Sep 6, 2009


    I isiolate myself When I get really upset. I don't like to talk about anything bothering . I just Fade out.  Until I come to grip. I'm just not going To Make my  problem someone else's. Solitude is my Home!    I exist in the depths of solitude pondering my...
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 23, 2008

    I Need to Try to Act Normal

    I've been having a bit of a problem with this lately. I should be there for my friend and I need to be less emotional an be more strong.. but I think I'm naturally emotional and I happen to be quiet when I'm upset and I need to try to act more normal or I'm no use at all. =/
    TheLuckyHobo TheLuckyHobo
    31-35, M
    6 Responses Aug 21, 2009

    This Experience...it's Me

    Wow, I just went and clicked random experience...and found this.  This is so me, anyone who has ever seen me upset, which are very few in numbers, know how very reserved that I can be when I get upset. I get quiet, I choose one-word answers to questions, I nomally...
    papercup papercup
    51-55, M
    Jan 28, 2009

    Sorry I've been quiet guys.

    Just dealing with stuff right now
    Twinkletoejam Twinkletoejam
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Aug 5, 2015

    Quiet Man

    I am reserved most of the time and get even more so when upset. If that is even possible. So much so that my coworkers make a big deal out of the few times they have ever seen me lose my temper and publicly express anger or much of any other emotion other than hapiness for that...
    outercalm outercalm
    51-55, M
    5 Responses Apr 2, 2009

    Plz, Leave Me Alone...

    When I am upset, and when I am hurt, I become extremely reserved. I become so distant from everyone. I push everyone away, and try to just deal with my pain and my hurt on my own, in the only way that I know how to.
    deleted deleted
    Dec 15, 2010

    Just when things were looking up,

    they crash back down
    CatalinaPetrova CatalinaPetrova
    18-21, F
    Jun 28, 2015

    Being quiet instead of shouting how upset

    and hurt I can be works better for me. Sometimes, I will get tired of arguing and defending my side so I prefer to just keep and hide my words inside me. Its better coz I won't be judged.
    fascisheanne fascisheanne
    22-25, F
    Sep 12, 2014
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