I Believe Blame Is a Waste of Energy

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    Neither blaming yourself

    nor blaming others normally fixes the problem ... it's just a form of procrastination ... a kind of excuse that your mind needs to keep doing nothing about the problem
    DisappearingShadow DisappearingShadow
    36-40
    1 Response Oct 17, 2015

    Nobody Wants It

    When it comes to being the blame for something nobody wants to fess up to it. In my family no matter what happened my parents had to have someone to blame. Nowdays if I feel something is my fault I step up and take my medicine right away. Blame is like the last piece of a...
    cinfullynn cinfullynn
    46-50, F
    7 Responses Apr 2, 2008

    No More Blame

    I spent a long long time blaming my mother for the lousy childhood I endured. I resented her, I spent a lot of time and energy holding a grudge and making damn sure i kept her at a distance so she couldn't hurt me again and she wouldn't get to enjoy my company since she was too...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jan 26, 2012

    It's no use putting blame on somebody else

    unless they are willing to take that blame. Equally there is no point blaming yourself for something if the blames not yours to take, that's pointless.
    Nelaew Nelaew
    46-50, F
    Oct 30, 2015

    Blame Is Always a Waste of Energy

    What does one accomplish from blaming another person, whether it be true or false? I know my limits, and that I can handle things better than most people so even if it was true, I wouldn't mind taking blame upon myself. Placing blames on a person falsely is not only a waste of...
    Sparklepaws Sparklepaws
    18-21, M
    1 Response May 25, 2008

    The Futility Of Blame

    "Blame" is, per se, an exercise in futility. It never fixes anything. Taking personal responsibility does.Taking personal responsibility for our own actions can be hard. If it was easy, we wouldn't value the gifts we receive in return, the things that truly matter, like love...
    TimSchmidt TimSchmidt
    31-35, M
    1 Response Oct 26, 2013

    just solve the fnicking problem

    and stop trying to find out whose fault it is
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Oct 18, 2015

    Blame Is Not a Bad Word

    Blame is another term for assigning responsibility It is NOT wrong to blame someone for something that is their fault; it is not wrong to blame someone for the things they caused and expect there to be consequences  If there was no blame there would be no...
    tulick tulick
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Aug 18, 2008

    my new neighbors are having a heated

    discussion in some Hindu language....lol its the funniest **** all you see is fingers waving
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Oct 18, 2015

    The day comes when we decide

    that it no longer serves us to blame our parents, our family, our circumstances or anyone or anything else and we decide its time to move forward simply because we are worth it. And that`s the day, despite our circumstances, that we begin to discover how powerful we really are...
    toufie1 toufie1
    22-25
    Apr 2, 2014

    Responsibility

    Blaming othersa and taking responsiblity for ourselves regardless of where the blame lies is a tool we have to learn early in life and carry with us each day. It's easy to blame/put responsibility on someone else but the time and engery taken to keep it up is a dead end. Asking...
    Grits4life Grits4life
    46-50, F
    11 Responses Aug 18, 2008

    It's Up to You

    "Your consciousness put you where you are now. Your consciousness will either keep you there or lift you to a better position.It's up to you."       Louise Hay
    datura datura
    56-60, F
    44 Responses Feb 12, 2008

    Little Mistakes Aren't Worth It

    Using blame as a means of one-upmanship (I have been in that situation more times than I can remember) is simply unproductive.  I especially dislike when a manager uses that against his or her employees.  Yes, managers are there to train and make sure things are done...
    UnderEli UnderEli
    46-50, M
    1 Response Apr 19, 2010

    Better to Focus On Solving the Problem

    I had this job a few years ago where I made a mistake that cost the company a good sized chunk of money. Rather than scold me for the mistake, the boss said that we were all to blame because nobody else caught the mistake until it was too late, and that we should be focused...
    pickingoutathermos pickingoutathermos
    31-35, M
    1 Response Apr 4, 2008

    Taking Responsibility

    Most of the time, I think the need to blame comes from a fear of "owning" the consequences of our own decisions. And when I say that "blame is a waste of energy," I certainly don't mean that we need to live in some blind delusion where nobody is responsible...
    Denmarkguy Denmarkguy
    56-60, M
    1 Response Dec 30, 2007

    But Not Always

    Not if you blame yourself for a situation and learn from it.
    WiseOldOwl WiseOldOwl
    56-60, M
    4 Responses Jul 22, 2009

    Blaming Others

    People blame others for their problems because they can't face up to seeing thier own faults.
    annina annina
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Jun 5, 2008

    Waste of Energy and Time

    Be responsible and fix it! What does it really matter who did it in the first place?
    GoddessNakiBean GoddessNakiBean
    36-40, F
    2 Responses May 12, 2008

    Every Other Word

    Every other word out of The Kid's mouth is placing blame on someone. He doesn't excuse himself when he burps bc his dad does it. If he's a smart a$$ it's bc his dad is. If he's scared of heights it's bc his mom is. If there is a mess around him it's bc the dogs scattered it. It...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Apr 2, 2008

    Blame Is...

    Blame is kind if like passing the buck. I believe everyone is partially responsible for most things that occur to them, except sexual assaults and unprovoked violence. While you may not start something, you allow it to affect you.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman
    31-35, F
    2 Responses May 2, 2008
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