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I Believe Fantastic Sex Starts In Your Mind

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 1,401 People

    My Letter to a Young(er) Man: I'm no expert,

    and I have 2 sons, so I really try to limit myself when it comes to younger men, but I will tell you this since you asked ..... I have been with men of a lot of different ages, including one hot young 20-year old this past summer (i'm 31) and sure, we engaged in some intimate...
    teach82 teach82
    31-35, F
    Feb 21, 2014

    Bliss

    You touch me with your eyes. They reach my soul and stir something there. I have no words for it but you have. Common words about almost nothing that stir again. It's their sound, the music of your mouth, The thing that is not said by words, They are a veil.  ...
    moreandless moreandless
    56-60, M
    2 Responses May 10, 2010

    I am being trained to achieve O on demand.

    Are there others in this group who have experience with that?
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Apr 3, 2015

    Sow The Seeds.........

    I think this is totally true. Fantastic sex, or fantastis sex that I have had, has always started with mental foreplay. I think imagining what you are going to do to someone, or what they are going to do to you, is a serious turn on. Telling someone what you are thinking makes...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Oct 14, 2012

    Head ****

    I believe this term has gotten a bad rap... A good Head **** means to me..   someone gets into my head, knows how i think..uses that knowledge to buid roads into the depths of my mind... *shiver*...once deep inside..then they can translate those thoughts into physical...
    girlflower girlflower
    41-45, F
    1 Response Mar 5, 2009

    But Let's Face It

    Thank goodness it doesn't end there!  Whooo-hooooo!
    SaratogaGirl SaratogaGirl
    26-30, F
    May 10, 2010

    Free Your Mind, And Your *** Will Follow

    ...sang George Clinton, and, by George, he got it right! The mind is the sexiest organ we possess, and can take you anywhere! The anticipation of a sexual encounter, the imagination of what's to come, what could be, what isn't but what you would like it to be, it's all...
    mizzen123 mizzen123
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Dec 20, 2009

    Can You Do It Baby?

    If you want to hear me moan it is simple; know that my sexuality is more than my vagina.  I like feeling loved all over.  This includes my mind, my legs, my neck, my face, and my hands.  Pay attention to all of me and I will give you all of me freely.  Pay...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
    46-50, F
    18 Responses Feb 19, 2010

    A Fantasy Journey ...

    When my lover is on my mind ... I can imagine step by step exactly what I would do with him ... From the first moment I set eyes on him ... knowing how he feels under the palm and fingers of my hands ... the first touch of his lips on my mouth ... the brush of his cheek against...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss
    51-55, F
    6 Responses Dec 20, 2009

    If your an idiot your not creative

    and if your not creative there's no love in the bedroom cause the mind is dull and boring. Some of my best sexual experiences was with a divorced Jewish foot doctor. Very intelligent and creative. Also a complete freak which I just loved and couldn't get enough of and he was...
    RainbowLoveFire RainbowLoveFire
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Aug 15, 2014

    I Love Summer

    Hot Sun... What is it about the sun? Why do we worship it so... crave to soak up every last ray it sends to earth? I can’t speak for others... but I know my body... my bones ache to feel the heat of the sun... warm me from the outside in. I am a summer girl... I look...
    sexycpl4uall sexycpl4uall
    26-30, F
    May 10, 2010

    It Helps

    .... to watch **** and get cool ideas from there!
    jimrich jimrich
    70+, M
    Feb 3, 2011

    The Brain, What A Tool!

    Before I was married my boyfriend (now husband of 23 yrs) and I would read Penthouse letters to one another. I loved the stories and the sexual freedom that some of the stories would allow my mind to soar to. I had the best fantasies reading some of those stories! My mind would...
    Silky41 Silky41
    41-45, F
    7 Responses May 21, 2013

    The older you get the more you realize this to

    be a fact!When I was young all I cared about was getting laid but as I got older I realized there was more to it than just me getting my rocks off!
    hammer963 hammer963
    51-55, M
    1 Response Jan 2

    I practice elements of tantric sex

    and my favorite is being mindful during sex and not just focusing on the physical. It allows me to be in tune with my lover in a deeper, more satisfying way, and our lovemaking is more sensual and intimate.
    padraig17325 padraig17325
    56-60, M
    Jan 15, 2015

    on the train travelling to work today an

    attractive slim brunette in her 40s sat next to me. I noticed her long slim thumb first and then her fingers all elegant and slim neat nails unvarnished. It was that they were so long and elegant though that really got me interested. I soon realised I was visualising them around...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Mar 9

    As Long As It Doesn't Remain the Only Source....

    She says, longingly, casting her eyes across the ocean to her love... Thank God, he has a fertile mind too. EDIT December 21 2009: When I wrote this, I had somebody and now that he's left me, my mind is all I have. Gods Above, I would give anything for some loving thoughts...
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Mar 1, 2009

    It All Starts....

    All of love making starts with a thought.  A scent, A sight.  Smoldering eyes locked on each other.  A touch from a fingertip, down your cheek, tracing your lips.  A taste.  Lips press together.  Tongues play.  Hands drift down, studying every...
    GoodMan67 GoodMan67
    41-45, M
    Feb 19, 2010

    Car Wash

    The driver was on vacation and Maggie's car was getting dirty. He always washed and polished it. So, that morning she wore shorts and a t-shirt. Nobody was around, it was late afternoon, turned on music and started to wash. The foam lather was becoming too much, perhaps she had...
    Perksplayhot Perksplayhot
    36-40, F
    Jun 13, 2013

    Dirty Mind ;)

    Mind is dirty :)..it so happened with the man who was addicted to ****..he would get naked and slip under sheets..then turn on the **** show..as he saw the girls..he would get hard..then his webcam would get on and his virtual gf..would be online..and this would be an extension...
    Perksplayhot Perksplayhot
    36-40, F
    May 30, 2013

    Tips To Spice Up Ur Sex Life - 1

    Who doesn’t like a wife that likes to show off! The kind of wife that dresses like a **** even out of the bedroom, and preferably when she goes out. Short skirts, tight tops that show off her ****, high heels stilettos or boots - Yummy! You have to be pretty secure to let...
    sexycpl4uall sexycpl4uall
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 10, 2010
    DarknessDepth DarknessDepth
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Mar 8

    My Fantasy

    Lying naked in the sun always makes me horny. There's something about the warmth of the sun on my body that arouses me. It usually starts out innocently - I would put on my bikini and take a towel out to my backyard and lie down to read a book. It's not long before I take off...
    sexycpl4uall sexycpl4uall
    26-30, F
    Apr 18, 2010

    Icecream

    I like icecream, its yum, and there are soooooo many flavours and varieties. Vanilla is nice of course, but a bit ordinary. It's like sexuality, with so much variety, why would you choose Vanilla? :)
    tamarage tamarage
    61-65, M
    Jun 11, 2013
    gmeerkreebs gmeerkreebs
    56-60, M
    Sep 20, 2015

    Be creative and have fun

    and most importantly make sure you please your partner if you do that it will always keep things interesting
    justmyself11 justmyself11
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Jan 6

    Loves Dirty Talk

    I definitely agree. One way to turn me on is to tell me what your going to do to me and get me thinkn bout it...make my mind wonder about all the possibilites...and if u whisper it in my ear that just adds to the effect and turns me on even more...i hav a great imagination and...
    Tinkatude Tinkatude
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 27, 2011

    I had a wonderful experience with an older

    woman. She was hot. We both enjoyed the physical experience. She surprised me with her skills. She even smell and taste great. Don't miss out on this. Try a mature woman.
    Misterylife Misterylife
    46-50, M
    Jan 3, 2015

    It Starts With A Thought

    The mind is just as powerful and suggestive as lingerie, ****, or any kind of nudity or turn on that you can think of.  And that's just it...THINK of it!!!  Start to think of all the different things you can do to get your woman hot and wet.  Think of the things...
    Miluna Miluna
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jan 3, 2010

    The best sex I've ever had was entirely

    imagined... So yeah I guess that fits lol
    SoCalRenaissance SoCalRenaissance
    36-40, M
    Jan 18

    Once You Learn This Principle ...

    The sex is FANTASTIC!  But both parties need to understand this. You can get so much farther with a man / woman if you understand the man/woman and how they think. It's not how fast you can unzip each others pants ...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Mar 1, 2009

    Seduction

    Seduce his mind and the rest will follow...heart, body and soul. I know....
    akindheart akindheart
    61-65, F
    14 Responses Feb 27, 2012
    hbssportsnetwork hbssportsnetwork
    51-55, M
    Feb 8, 2014

    It All Starts In The Mind For Sure......

    just imagine.....before you even touch your partner....tell them what you "visually" want to do to them, feed their imagination, let them picture in their mind what you want to do before you even want to touch them, get their pulse going before the touch, do that and I tell ya...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    May 3, 2010

    Sex Is Beautiful When It Begins Somewhere Important

    It begins with confidence and self-awareness.  Somewhere in my mind, I have these baggages and sometimes it hinders me from enjoying the moment fully.  Like, maybe I look funny or I need to cleanse.  All these worries clogging up the brain can just effectively...
    hisloverface hisloverface
    22-25, F
    Apr 5, 2010

    The Biggest Sex Organ

    ....is of course the brain (or if you don't go for physicalist philosophy, it is all in the mind). I guess not only does sex start in your mind, it ends there too - all the physical acts we perform send pleasure signals there; it is the mind that experiences them. I personally...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jul 11, 2012

    ****** On Command

    Not only is the brain your largest sex organ, but if used right, it can literally blow your mind. My wife and I have a relationship where she is not allowed ******* unless I permit them. She is very happy with this arrangement. VERY HAPPY. Because of the teasing and dirty talk...
    sirsemega sirsemega
    41-45, M
    Sep 14, 2009

    Being Descriptive Is More Of A Turn On Than Dirty Words...

    I believe that describing details and avoiding even possibly offensive words is the sexiest way to use words as a form of foreplay. I will write an example. I'm going to use "****" and "****" but that's the only slightly dirty word I will use. I am alone in front of the...
    narcan2 narcan2
    36-40, M
    1 Response Dec 1, 2011
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