I Believe Forgiveness Is A Strength Not A Weakness

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    What is the point of holding onto a grudge?

    -You have the burden of hating someone -You can't let go of what they did when they could try to improve What is the point ?
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    2 Responses Oct 21, 2015

    Forgiveness is possible

    when the one seeking it takes the bold steps to be forgiven. Acknowledgement, true apology, atonement, change of behavior, rebuilding of trust. Otherwise the offense, is not forgiven; it's accepted, and quite often, repeated.
    livingasme livingasme
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Jul 3, 2014

    I have forgiven those

    who have hurt me, and I hope those I have hurt will be able to forgive me in time.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Nov 28, 2015
    Lee124 Lee124
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Nov 15, 2014

    The Power Of Forgiveness

    I always show mercy and forgiveness, people who do evil and wrongdoings don't know what they do, blindly lead astray from the light of goodness and compassion, they are lost in the dark with no love in their hearts. I have learned to forgive seventy times seven and more. When you...
    Lushiro Lushiro
    22-25, M
    20 Responses Aug 7, 2013

    It´s already everything said.

    I am 100 % agree with that.
    Loretta78 Loretta78
    36-40, F
    1 Response Nov 28, 2015

    I believe that hate, anger,

    resentment for past wrongs is an energy held between two people. Buda said that its like holding hot coals in your hand. Even if the other person doesn't know it. But forgive the person who hurt you and that person is the only holding the coals and they will get what is right in...
    LILDannaLee LILDannaLee
    2 Responses Aug 21, 2015

    in think forgiveness is the only option

    for finding peace again. I am going to work on it. I don't want to lose my self. I want to become more kind the I ever was.
    Somexyz Somexyz
    26-30, M
    Jul 24, 2015

    Forgiving does not erase the bitter past.

    A healed memory is not a deleted memory. Instead, forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future. Lewis B. Smedes
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    4 Responses Dec 16, 2015
    sirnatural sirnatural
    41-45, M
    1 Response Sep 2, 2015

    I asked a question today about what it actually

    means to forgive someone. I asked whether the fact that I am on guard for someone to hurt me again meant that I haven't actually forgiven them. A lot of the responses that came back were similar of nature - "you have forgiven, but you have not forgotten." I feel like I would...
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Jan 10, 2016

    I am struggling with truly forgiving my

    boyfriend for an extremely rough year, he cheated, at times I feel forgiveness and love and others I feel so sensitive, upset, jealous, and outraged.. my mind easily becomes consumed of negative thoughts visualizing what happened and feeling so hurt, I am unsure what to do when...
    kat115nk kat115nk
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Sep 12, 2015

    Forgiving Hitler

    I read this account in the book, "The Healing of Memories" by Dennis and Matthew Linn. A Catholic priest in Germany had had a number of his family and friends suffer under Hitler's regime, and he finally joined a plot to kill Hitler. The plot failed, the priest was condemned to...
    eddiecarbone eddiecarbone
    61-65, M
    1 Response Sep 12, 2013

    I have always believed

    that forgiveness is very important. I would actually say it is one of the keys to happiness. I am always quick to forgive. Holding onto unforgiveness is simply holding onto pain. Why would anyone want to do that? It does not hurt anyone else, it only hurts you. (but when you...
    tcennoC tcennoC
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Jul 25, 2015

    I used to shut people out

    when I'm hurt.It was like I will stop communication with that person and avoid that person as far as I can.I held a hidden resentment and anger towards that person who hurt me. Then one day,I realized that by doing that,the only person I was really hurting is myself while the...
    SingapuraGirl SingapuraGirl
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Jan 23, 2016

    Life is too short to wake up with regrets.

    Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands. If it changes your life, let it. No one promised life would be easy, but it will be worth it.
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    1 Response Feb 6, 2016

    I do not hate people.

    I hate actions. I choose love.
    SocialHermit SocialHermit
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Jun 22, 2015

    LadyHeartnMind LadyHeartnMind
    31-35, F
    Nov 4, 2015

    How ironic that I post

    that story, telling myself that I shouldn't marry him, that things are so awful lately and then last night he comes home with roses, sincerely apologetic... before I could really express myself, our couple friends, Cassidy and Kelly, came over with food and drinks. It was...
    thejoneses thejoneses
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jul 3, 2015

    It's certainly not showing your acceptance of

    being trampled on to forgive another's wrong-doings. The vast majority of people are decent and obliging people who certainly wouldn't maliciously hurt or offend another. So is it right to react against this blunder by tarnishing then with reprisal!!? Surely it shows your depth...
    PeterSp8 PeterSp8
    46-50, M
    1 Response Jul 5, 2015

    Just think about it. The idiot

    who hurt you is living their life and doesn't even remember what they did to you, meanwhile , you let them hurt you each time you remember because it reopens the wound. Forgiving is letting that open wound heal. A scar's better than bleeding out.
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Nov 10, 2015

    Apologies and forgiveness are important

    because intractable conflicts generate such deep and searing emotions. Even after the fighting stops, people still feel the pain, hurt, anger, fear, and hatred that produced the conflict and its horrors in the first place. Without apology and forgiveness, people remain locked in...
    samanthathegreat samanthathegreat
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Nov 17, 2015

    Struggling with this one

    because I believe in forgiveness. Have been in a conference for three days on healing. While in some of the sessions, memories of being assaulted by a grown man when I was two started intruding. I've been in touch with the memories before but did not expect them to come boiling...
    Sunnymornings Sunnymornings
    61-65, F
    4 Responses Feb 28, 2016

    Only those who are foolish would mistaken my

    Silence for Ignorance. My Calmness as Acceptance.. & My Kindness for Weakness.
    UnderThisSkin UnderThisSkin
    1 Response Sep 16, 2015

    On the flip side, we could just be angry all

    the time and take it out on everybody else. When I forgive someone, I do it for myself and the people I love. There's no need to harbor rage, which is essentially self-righteous self-pity. It's being unable to get past the idea that you've been victimized. As long as you're...
    adianoeta adianoeta
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Oct 28, 2014

    I have forgiven for my own peace.

    but I just can't seem to forget.
    tammyjo7 tammyjo7
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jul 24, 2015

    Never Go To Sleep Angry,

    Because You Never Know If You Or The Person You're Mad At Will Wake Up The Next Morning...Always Forgive Because You Never Know If You Will Have The Chance To See Or Talk To Them Again.Things Happen,Get Over It....Always Forgive,You May Not Forget But Its Better Than Knowing You...
    isanda888 isanda888
    18-21, M
    Nov 19, 2015

    Forgive yourself. Let go of your past.

    Today deserves a bare hug!
    whyacinth whyacinth
    36-40, F
    1 Response Apr 11, 2016

    Definitely! When someone has wronged you,

    it takes a lot of strength to forgive them. When you forgive, it's not only good for the person who has hurt you, but it's good for you as well. Holding a grudge is just a waste of energy.
    Hannah1100 Hannah1100
    16-17, F
    1 Response Apr 18, 2016

    To forgive and forget is a much nobler deed than

    but be filled with rage and hatred for the rest of your life. It is not a weakness. To forgive someone is to have the strength to open your mind and forgive them for all the pain that they have caused you. This does not necessarily mean taking that person back, what it does mean...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Jun 28, 2014

    Being unforgiving is not Christlike

    and only hurts yourself!
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Aug 22, 2015

    I am going through a tough time.

    I'm going through the process of forgiving and forgetting. The process is hard, but worth it. I admire those who are able to let go and move on.
    indreality indreality
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Dec 24, 2014

    I believe forgiveness is a key to start a new

    chapter of your life. When you forgive someone who sins against you, our heavenly father will also forgive you..
    annieIn21 annieIn21
    26-30, F
    Aug 29, 2015

    forgiving is a wonderful feeling,

    and forgetting is even better :)
    justmeBita66 justmeBita66
    51-55, F
    6 Responses Jul 24, 2015

    “Forgiveness is unlocking the door to set

    someone free and realising you were the prisoner." Max Lucado
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    2 Responses Mar 22, 2014

    Savitadutta Savitadutta
    22-25, F
    Jul 29, 2015

    It felt so good to forgive this one person I

    had been holding a grudge against. At school, , after the incident with this girl, I always felt a bit lonely, always frustrated, and I often doubted whether my decision to stop talking to her was the right one. Once I forgave her, and not only forgave but even asked her to...
    Jkabstmnijno Jkabstmnijno
    18-21, F
    Nov 1, 2015


    Confessed he or she said', I feel I may never be unforgiven for my past cruelties and neglects. Please help me."'Do not think about forgiveness from man-made ideas about it. They consist of assorted illusions , including self-serving sentimentality. Start with the idea of self...
    CrystalRainsPearls CrystalRainsPearls
    41-45, F
    2 Responses May 14, 2012

    Forgiveness is a releasing of Gods blessings in

    your life. Holding onto bitterness, anger, resentment is like a anchor holding you in the depths of sins dungeon. It's like a cancer that kills every possibilty of you fulfilling your destiny in christ jesus. Recieving christ as your savior is like getting the keys to the...
    lilprincess09 lilprincess09
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Aug 27, 2015

    Sometimes its best to let go of past by

    learning to forgive. Otherwise, you'll continue to manifest the same problem dynamics in other relationships.
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    3 Responses Jun 28, 2015

    When you can pray for the happiness

    and well being of someone who has hurt you deeply,that is true forgiveness.
    SingapuraGirl SingapuraGirl
    36-40, F
    1 Response Apr 3, 2016

    I forgave you... Not

    because you deserve forgiveness, but because I deserve peace.
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    Jul 24, 2015

    Forgiveness Forgive -- it is a hard concept to

    understand, because we believe that Forgiveness is something we do for someone else... But it is something we do for ourselves... We look at those we've done us wrong and forgive them their ignorance -- even evil people are Ignorant -- yes, they know what they are doing is wrong...
    findemmawoodhouse findemmawoodhouse
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 22, 2014

    Sometimes, when we are left with no other choice

    but to forgive someone, it doesn't necessarily mean we have to keep them in our lives. It's more or less about no longer allowing what they've done to hurt or anger you. And moving on.
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    2 Responses Jul 5, 2015

    I was in a situation

    where I met my best friend. I fell in love with her but there was a big problem, she was eight years younger than I was. I knew I had feelings for her but purposely did not say anything because I knew it was wrong. The more we talked The closer we got, in time she could see that...
    poppunkkiddo poppunkkiddo
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Nov 23, 2015

    The first to apologize is the Bravest.

    The first to forgive is the Strongest. And the first to forget is the Happiest
    Savitadutta Savitadutta
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jul 25, 2015

    Forgiveness is the key

    that unlocks the door of resentment and the handcuffs of hatred. It breaks the chains of bitterness and the shackles of selfishness. ~Corrie ten Bloom
    CurvesandClass CurvesandClass
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Jul 27, 2015

    Forgiveness. Because It's All We Have Sometimes.

    My ex boyfriend broke up with me three months (or so) ago. I was devastated because I didn't see it coming. I was angry because he used me as his emotional doormat without me even realizing. I was angry because he treated me with so little respect and dignity throughout our...
    Speifer Speifer
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Oct 30, 2013
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