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I Believe Forgiveness Is A Strength Not A Weakness

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    sirnatural sirnatural 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 2, 2015

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    I forgave you... Not

    because you deserve forgiveness, but because I deserve peace.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 24, 2015

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    I do not hate people.

    I hate actions. I choose love.
    SocialHermit SocialHermit 41-45, F 5 Responses Jun 22, 2015

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    Forgiving Hitler

    I read this account in the book, "The Healing of Memories" by Dennis and Matthew Linn. A Catholic priest in Germany had had a number of his family and friends suffer under Hitler's regime, and he finally joined a plot to kill Hitler. The plot failed, the priest was condemned to...
    eddiecarbone eddiecarbone 61-65, M 2 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    I believe that hate, anger,

    resentment for past wrongs is an energy held between two people. Buda said that its like holding hot coals in your hand. Even if the other person doesn't know it. But forgive the person who hurt you and that person is the only holding the coals and they will get what is right in...
    LILDannaLee LILDannaLee 56-60 2 Responses Aug 21, 2015

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    Just think about it. The idiot

    who hurt you is living their life and doesn't even remember what they did to you, meanwhile , you let them hurt you each time you remember because it reopens the wound. Forgiving is letting that open wound heal. A scar's better than bleeding out.
    QueenVenus QueenVenus 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 10, 2015

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    It felt so good to forgive this one person I

    had been holding a grudge against. At school, , after the incident with this girl, I always felt a bit lonely, always frustrated, and I often doubted whether my decision to stop talking to her was the right one. Once I forgave her, and not only forgave but even asked her to...
    Jkabstmnijno Jkabstmnijno 16-17, F Nov 1, 2015

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    The first to apologize is the Bravest.

    The first to forgive is the Strongest. And the first to forget is the Happiest
    Savitadutta Savitadutta 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 25, 2015

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    Some people spend their lifes in the past.

    That messes up too much relationships whether it's with family, friends, associates. People don't really realize it until it's too late. I know I'm not perfect, so if someone asks for my forgive they will be forgiven. I don't wanna live based on what could've been. I just wanna...
    SymphonyChild SymphonyChild 13-15, F Nov 24, 2015

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    I believe forgiveness is a key to start a new

    chapter of your life. When you forgive someone who sins against you, our heavenly father will also forgive you..
    annieIn21 annieIn21 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 29, 2015

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    Forgiveness is possible

    when the one seeking it takes the bold steps to be forgiven. Acknowledgement, true apology, atonement, change of behavior, rebuilding of trust. Otherwise the offense, is not forgiven; it's accepted, and quite often, repeated.
    livingasme livingasme 51-55, F 3 Responses Jul 3, 2014

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    Forgiveness. Because It's All We Have Sometimes.

    My ex boyfriend broke up with me three months (or so) ago. I was devastated because I didn't see it coming. I was angry because he used me as his emotional doormat without me even realizing. I was angry because he treated me with so little respect and dignity throughout our...
    Speifer Speifer 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 30, 2013

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    It's certainly not showing your acceptance of

    being trampled on to forgive another's wrong-doings. The vast majority of people are decent and obliging people who certainly wouldn't maliciously hurt or offend another. So is it right to react against this blunder by tarnishing then with reprisal!!? Surely it shows your depth...
    PeterSp8 PeterSp8 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 5, 2015

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    Life is too short to wake up with regrets.

    Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands. If it changes your life, let it. No one promised life would be easy, but it will be worth it.
    Q2013 Q2013 46-50, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have forgiven for my own peace.

    but I just can't seem to forget.
    tammyjo7 tammyjo7 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 24, 2015

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    in think forgiveness is the only option

    for finding peace again. I am going to work on it. I don't want to lose my self. I want to become more kind the I ever was.
    Somexyz Somexyz 26-30, M Jul 24, 2015

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    Due to recent events in my life,

    forgiveness has been a reoccurring matter of thought for me. Not a long time ago, my mother said "Everything can be forgiven" Really? The way she said it, it sounded more like a fact than an opinion. She herself has found forgiveness for people who have betrayed her in the most...
    LilyLua LilyLua 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 26, 2015

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    I have always believed

    that forgiveness is very important. I would actually say it is one of the keys to happiness. I am always quick to forgive. Holding onto unforgiveness is simply holding onto pain. Why would anyone want to do that? It does not hurt anyone else, it only hurts you. (but when you...
    tcennoC tcennoC 51-55, M 3 Responses Jul 25, 2015

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    Forgiveness sets you

    and the person you are holding unforgiveness for free You hold the keys to open the prison cell of unforgiveness. Turn that key beloved ?
    kayblue kayblue 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 18, 2015

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    Being unforgiving is not Christlike

    and only hurts yourself!
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 22, 2015

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    forgiving is a wonderful feeling,

    and forgetting is even better :)
    justmeBita66 justmeBita66 46-50, F 6 Responses Jul 24, 2015

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    Only those who are foolish would mistaken my

    Silence for Ignorance. My Calmness as Acceptance.. & My Kindness for Weakness.
    UnderThisSkin UnderThisSkin 18-21 1 Response Sep 16, 2015

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    it really is. it takes a lot of strength to

    forgive people who have done you wrong. Grudges just makes a person bitter and resolves nothing. People who can forgive others are truly amazing. However, there's a point if the same person keeps making the same mistakes after you've forgiven them, it's time to let them go.
    awayfromlife awayfromlife 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 6, 2015

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    It´s already everything said.

    I am 100 % agree with that.
    Loretta78 Loretta78 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 28, 2015

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    On the flip side, we could just be angry all

    the time and take it out on everybody else. When I forgive someone, I do it for myself and the people I love. There's no need to harbor rage, which is essentially self-righteous self-pity. It's being unable to get past the idea that you've been victimized. As long as you're...
    adianoeta adianoeta 26-30, F 5 Responses Oct 28, 2014

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    I have forgiven those

    who have hurt me, and I hope those I have hurt will be able to forgive me in time.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 28, 2015

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    Never Go To Sleep Angry,

    Because You Never Know If You Or The Person You're Mad At Will Wake Up The Next Morning...Always Forgive Because You Never Know If You Will Have The Chance To See Or Talk To Them Again.Things Happen,Get Over It....Always Forgive,You May Not Forget But Its Better Than Knowing You...
    isanda888 isanda888 18-21, M Nov 19, 2015

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    Sometimes its best to let go of past by

    learning to forgive. Otherwise, you'll continue to manifest the same problem dynamics in other relationships.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jun 28, 2015

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    Lee124 Lee124 41-45, F 5 Responses Nov 15, 2014

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    Forgiveness is a releasing of Gods blessings in

    your life. Holding onto bitterness, anger, resentment is like a anchor holding you in the depths of sins dungeon. It's like a cancer that kills every possibilty of you fulfilling your destiny in christ jesus. Recieving christ as your savior is like getting the keys to the...
    lilprincess09 lilprincess09 56-60, F 3 Responses Aug 27, 2015

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    To forgive and forget is a much nobler deed than

    but be filled with rage and hatred for the rest of your life. It is not a weakness. To forgive someone is to have the strength to open your mind and forgive them for all the pain that they have caused you. This does not necessarily mean taking that person back, what it does mean...
    Liv4Life Liv4Life 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 28, 2014

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    I am going through a tough time.

    I'm going through the process of forgiving and forgetting. The process is hard, but worth it. I admire those who are able to let go and move on.
    indreality indreality 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    I was in a situation

    where I met my best friend. I fell in love with her but there was a big problem, she was eight years younger than I was. I knew I had feelings for her but purposely did not say anything because I knew it was wrong. The more we talked The closer we got, in time she could see that...
    poppunkkiddo poppunkkiddo 22-25, M 2 Responses Nov 23, 2015

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    How ironic that I post

    that story, telling myself that I shouldn't marry him, that things are so awful lately and then last night he comes home with roses, sincerely apologetic... before I could really express myself, our couple friends, Cassidy and Kelly, came over with food and drinks. It was...
    thejoneses thejoneses 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 3, 2015

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    Forgiving does not erase the bitter past.

    A healed memory is not a deleted memory. Instead, forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future. Lewis B. Smedes
    Beautifulnlost22 Beautifulnlost22 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 16, 2015

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    Sometimes, when we are left with no other choice

    but to forgive someone, it doesn't necessarily mean we have to keep them in our lives. It's more or less about no longer allowing what they've done to hurt or anger you. And moving on.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 5, 2015

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    I used to shut people out

    when I'm hurt.It was like I will stop communication with that person and avoid that person as far as I can.I held a hidden resentment and anger towards that person who hurt me. Then one day,I realized that by doing that,the only person I was really hurting is myself while the...
    SingapuraGirl SingapuraGirl 36-40, F 6 Responses Jan 23

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    What is the point of holding onto a grudge?

    -You have the burden of hating someone -You can't let go of what they did when they could try to improve What is the point ?
    theguywiththeredhair theguywiththeredhair 18-21, M 2 Responses Oct 21, 2015

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    “Forgiveness is unlocking the door to set

    someone free and realising you were the prisoner." Max Lucado
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 22, 2014

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    Forgiveness

    Confessed he or she said', I feel I may never be unforgiven for my past cruelties and neglects. Please help me."'Do not think about forgiveness from man-made ideas about it. They consist of assorted illusions , including self-serving sentimentality. Start with the idea of self...
    CrystalRainsPearls CrystalRainsPearls 41-45, F 2 Responses May 14, 2012

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    I believe that there is a difference between

    forgiveness and trust. Everyone deserves forgiveness, not everyone deserves to be trusted again.
    underlyinghonesty underlyinghonesty 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 24, 2015

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    The Power Of Forgiveness

    I always show mercy and forgiveness, people who do evil and wrongdoings don't know what they do, blindly lead astray from the light of goodness and compassion, they are lost in the dark with no love in their hearts. I have learned to forgive seventy times seven and more. When you...
    Lushiro Lushiro 22-25, M 23 Responses Aug 7, 2013

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    LadyHeartnMind LadyHeartnMind 31-35, F Nov 4, 2015

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    Forgiveness Forgive -- it is a hard concept to

    understand, because we believe that Forgiveness is something we do for someone else... But it is something we do for ourselves... We look at those we've done us wrong and forgive them their ignorance -- even evil people are Ignorant -- yes, they know what they are doing is wrong...
    findemmawoodhouse findemmawoodhouse 22-25, F 1 Response May 22, 2014

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    I asked a question today about what it actually

    means to forgive someone. I asked whether the fact that I am on guard for someone to hurt me again meant that I haven't actually forgiven them. A lot of the responses that came back were similar of nature - "you have forgiven, but you have not forgotten." I feel like I would...
    sophiebelle27 sophiebelle27 26-30, F 7 Responses Jan 10

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