I Believe In Courtship

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 840 People

    My Hero

    Having just re-entered the dating scene after a nearly 20 relationship and marriage to the same person, I have to say I still like the courtship of getting to know a new person. I'm about 4 months into a relationship with a person whom is completely different than anyone I've...
    DrewBerry DrewBerry
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Feb 22, 2009

    Mating Calls, Ruffled Feathers, Etc

    I've been strutting around for a while now showing off, trying to get attention.  Courting females is more complicated than I ever thought.  Mating calls, songs, rituals, ruffled tail feathers, the whole bit.  I even started a fight with another male just to prove...
    ReformedAutomaton ReformedAutomaton
    41-45, M
    14 Responses Jul 1, 2007


    I believe courtship is dating with the intent to marry.  That is the way I prefer to do things, and that is the reason I have only had one boyfriend before my fiance.  I really regret that relationship because the person I was in it with did not feel the same way. ...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 22, 2009

    I think it is better

    if young men and women begin their relationship in a controlled environment which is supervised by their parents and chaperoned. It's old fashioned but it allows them to get to know each other without being overwhelmed by physical attraction and without the relationship...
    MrsSThomas MrsSThomas
    36-40, F
    Oct 13, 2015

    Courtship Is An Outdated Conse...

    Courtship is an outdated consept. People  are in to big of a hurry for old fashion courting
    autumebrookblue autumebrookblue
    46-50, F
    Jan 9, 2007
    Skna31 Skna31
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jan 1, 2016

    I Believe In Courtship

    I am a romantic...to my core.  I believe courtship is more than dating.  Dating lately has gone from the old days of opening car doors for the girl and paying for meals...to going dutch, and the girl driving to the date....or even meeting there.  I want a man who...
    Jynx Jynx
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Nov 5, 2007

    I was never allowed to "date"

    or have a "boyfriend". I was always accountable to my dad and stayed under his authority. Any guy that was interested in me had to talk to dad first, and nothing was done without his permission. Once I became engaged to the man of my dreams, my dad begin taking steps to...
    TractorGirl93 TractorGirl93
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Nov 7, 2014

    A Teen Ager's Courtship Story... True to Every Detail :) Fascinating! ^^

    Courtship?? it's still present. it's no wish for me... it's more of a must. here's my very own story we started of as highschool classmates... i'm closer with his friends than i am to him before... he asked me if he can court me... he started hanging up with me and my...
    miss1in6bliss miss1in6bliss
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 16, 2008

    Wow Chivalry Is Not Dead!

    I totally love this site!!! Now that is a man..... who will court a woman, not in a rush to get what will probably lead to divorce if you don't take the time to know someone. I would LOVE to be courted, it is an old pastime from the Bible, and when I was young I would have...
    prettywomanNautumn prettywomanNautumn
    56-60, F
    1 Response Sep 4, 2010


    I totally believe in courtship, i just wish it didnt end once the real relationship begins. People should try to court and woo each other the whole time they are together. That is what living and loving is supposed to  be all about.
    goldie25 goldie25
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Jun 27, 2008

    Courting 101

    I recently talked with my twenty five year old godson about courtship, and he stared blankly back at me as if I was speaking a foreign language.  Is it possible that courting a mate is a dying trait?  I certainly hope not.  To me, it's an integral part of any...
    AaaaaaRGH AaaaaaRGH
    36-40, M
    3 Responses Aug 5, 2010

    Traditional Courtship Still Rocks

    Filipino traditional courtship are very romantic (cheesy-ly romantic). Before, a filipino guy can court a filipina lady, he have to court the lady's parents first. By the way of giving gifs, helping in the house chores, and any possible way that the parents would allow the guy to...
    sunsetglow sunsetglow
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 6, 2010

    If I Meet the Right Person I D...

    if i meet the right person i do. been there and done the 1 night stand thing and that bores me now i want something with a bit of substance some-one who is always there to give you a hug and let you know eveything will be ok. no more bad boys!!!! so if that is courtship then yes...
    bexjw bexjw
    18-21, F
    Jan 9, 2007

    Falling In Love

    I always had an ideal of courtship. Especially after reading Joshua Harris' books. I have a crippled past of horrid relationships and early sexual relationships so I never thought I could have this- or deserved it. I'm also a single mother of an infant.   I've just begun a...
    mamagaga12 mamagaga12
    1 Response Apr 29, 2008

    Take The Time

    I definitely believe in courtship.  It takes time to get to know a person and that is part of what courting is.  Most men nowadays dont believe in courting a woman.  So how are you going to get to know anything about me?  Some older men have stopped courting.  Old-fashioned...
    Curious276 Curious276
    46-50, F
    May 21, 2011

    There Is Nothing Wrong With Doing Somethings The More Traditional Way

    I would love to be courted. I would love for a man to come over to my house instead of saying we'd meet someplace or to meet him outside. I want to introduce him to my parents to see if they can get a feel for him while I get to know him too so that I may consult with them about...
    EnchantingMinx EnchantingMinx
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jul 2, 2012

    I'm Old Fashioned ...

    I want to be courted. You could send flowers, candy, even teddy bears or write me poetry. Or you could talk with me and ask me out. A candle-lit afternoon snack or a picnic, a movie or dinner. Just remember, we're not "hanging out" nor are we "hooking up"...
    Josie06 Josie06
    56-60, F
    1 Response Dec 1, 2008

    Once You Court You Must Always Court

    My now fiance used to be so romantic, even when it used to make me uncomfortable b/c I simply wasn't used to it. He left notes under the welcome matt, he'd wait for me after class, he even climed by roof to see me. He is a total sweetheart but now the romance has declined and...
    XioBlue XioBlue
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 18, 2011

    I think that's something

    that will make it challenging for me to find a suitable husband, now that I've started looking- my conviction that courting is the way to go. Usually it's practiced in major religions but I've been attracted to the idea since I learned what it was as a child.
    PrettiestPirate PrettiestPirate
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 27, 2015

    I believe that courtship rituals may be a thing

    of the past. One can get inspired with creativity when the first signs of a possible romance with someone comes about. Music, poetry, gifts.... All seem to fall on deaf, unappreciative ears. Or maybe it's a just a sign, the other not showing appreciation for such things...
    MulLeriBridGo MulLeriBridGo
    36-40, M
    Jan 3, 2014

    Call Me Old-fashioned

    I think courtship is adorable.  It really goes down to animal instincts... like how fireflies blink, or how peacocks flaunt their plumes. When I see a guy courting a girl, I think it's quite charming. I'm very selective about who I get close to, and I wouldn't become...
    paperalias paperalias
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 18, 2008

    As Opposed to Knock'n E...

    As opposed to knock'n em in the head an dragging em inta caves? It's unquestionably more civilized, However riding em down and throwing em over a saddle kicking and screaming has a certain appeal I must admit.. LoL *** Disclaimer .. To those lovely and sensitive ladies who...
    Mountainman923518 Mountainman923518
    56-60, M
    1 Response May 28, 2007

    Dating Is For Children, Courting Is For Adults.

    I've never been one to "date". What is there to this actual concept of dating, actually? Someone spends money to take someone else out somewhere they really don't want to be just so that there's a chance they might get in that other's pants? There's no room for GETTING TO KNOW...
    AmericanLeanings AmericanLeanings
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 28, 2011

    I Dreamed..

    That there was a love so pure, so true, so undefinable that I felt the world had stood still. It didn't matter if he was rich or poor, handsome or horrid, smart or not. He was kind, he was gentle, and he loved me unconditionally. To him, I was Miss Marianna Darcy. To me, he was...
    TheBareFootedTruth TheBareFootedTruth
    18-21, F
    Feb 27, 2013

    I have been with women

    since my first real girlfriend at age 11. (Damn..I'm old!) Anyway, there have been a fling here and there, but my best relationships by far have always been slow and steady. I firmly believe that being a friend first is the best course to being a lover. That's how it was with my...
    choctawgrrrl choctawgrrrl
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Mar 27, 2014

    Who Wants To Date A Happy Homo?

     Do gay people even date anymore? We’ve all heard the lesbian joke about the U-Haul. (For the straights; “What does a lesbian bring on a second date?” The answer, “A U-Haul” Because we move so fast.) I really want to be pursued, romanced...
    Aw8ingf8 Aw8ingf8
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jan 8, 2010

    The Fast-Tracker

    You might be having the time of your life when you enter into a new relationship, but that’s not a sign that you should try to rush into anything. Saying “I love you” after two dates is probably just going to scare them, and insisting on marriage after three months is never...
    anghel77 anghel77
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jun 14, 2013

    Call Me Old Fashion

    I still strongly believe and uphold courtship as the tool to knowing each other before anything else. 
    ladyryan ladyryan
    46-50, F
    Feb 13, 2012

    Yes. I Am a Christian. ...

    Yes. I am a Christian. I dont belive people should be dating just to date. I beilve that they should be careful and only date when they are ready for marriage.
    girlwhoalwayshasdrama girlwhoalwayshasdrama
    18-21, F
    Jan 9, 2007

    A Thing Of The Past?

    In this society, people tend to immediately throw themselves at others and push their way into a relationship – what is so appealing about this? If courtship was to return and become a natural part of life again, I would be elated. Things have changed so drastically and in my...
    rose123273 rose123273
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Jul 22, 2011

    I have dated in the past

    and it was never what I wanted. During my last relationship, I learned about courtship but my boyfriend was not on board so I ended it. I took a dating fast to really discern what I needed and that was definitely courtship! I have been talking to a guy recently, we are praying...
    leahjo12 leahjo12
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jun 6, 2015

    How do I meet nice guys in the city?

    Very sick of jocks, parties and players.
    sunflower1994 sunflower1994
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Apr 4, 2014


    I guess sometimes courtship is nice, and sometimes lack thereof can be romantic or spontaneous. Not sure. Seems good to me :-) The more love the better!
    EPJulio EPJulio
    26-30, M
    Jan 7, 2010

    This is probably unusual coming from someone my

    age, especially these days, but I believe you should really get to know someone before even thinking about having a relationship or anything like that with them. I know courting is old fashioned but sometimes I wonder why. I mean these days people are literally hopping into bed...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jun 22, 2014

    A Good Guy In a Sea of Pimps......

    Ah yes, that's me.  I'm old fashioned. I've had a handful of girlfriends, a lot less than most guys my age (read three), and all of them were with the intent of seeing if she's marriage material.  Sadly, this is now how the dating scene works these days..... How Most...
    DarkParade83 DarkParade83
    1 Response Feb 22, 2009

    I Believe If a Couple Are to M...

    I believe if a couple are to make a go of things they should certainly be able to sustain a good friendship before they settle down.  Not to say there should be none of the fun stuff first but it helps lay a good groundsheet for later days!  I've been in love...
    pickle pickle
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 9, 2007
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