Post
This experience may contain mature content, as flagged by the community. Please click away if you do not want to see this content, or if you are not of age. To report inappropriate content, please email us.

I Believe In Moderate Domestic Discipline

understanding the real purpose of discipline, away from sadistic causes or sexual arouses. 1,713 People

    Adjusting Punishments To Make Her Expect More Of Herself

    My wife grew up in a home where she was protected as the youngest member of the household. So she grew up, sheltered, innocent, and a little spoilt. In fact, she had never even been punished in her whole life till I put her over my own knee. So, whenever she visits her family...
    Redradioflyer Redradioflyer 26-30, M 4 Responses Oct 30, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I am so sad today. I'd let things go.

    My weight was up and my house was a wreck. I just couldn't seem to get back on track. I want and need a DD (domestic discipline) relationship and was talking to a man thru EP who had experience in this type of relationship and offered to help. The difficult thing is that it...
    Looking4More26 Looking4More26 51-55, F 3 Responses Mar 2

    Your Response

    Cancel

    DD Fabulous If It Works For You But Not For Everyone

    I am in a DD marraige and I love it. As soon as you start discussing your life or writing accounts of what has happened you you, you open up the opportunity for discussion with both like minded people and people who think you are nuts! In light of this and in response to comments...
    josfairmaiden josfairmaiden 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 27, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Our New Conract

    I was asked by some of my wonderful EP friends to post our new "contract". This is our agreement regarding how we should conduct our marriage ongoing, with some clear boundaries and commitments spelled out! For background, if you haven't read any of my stories, I've been married...
    josfairmaiden josfairmaiden 36-40, F 7 Responses Jan 15, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    In Trouble Again

    I'm beginning to think that I will never learn to submit to DH fully. I have now lost my android for an undisclosed amount of time. He is right. I'm am just not bending to his will well. I guess I will be doing a lot more reading and writing. Have a great week everyone.
    CherSr CherSr 61-65, F 2 Responses Nov 4, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Am In Trouble Again...

    Friday night I lost my temper. I went on line and payed for a program that would let me look up personal information on someone I was angry with. I knew my Hoh would never allow me to do it. Just my luck he not an hour later went on line and checked out bank account out ...Yup...
    JennaR JennaR 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 13, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Matilda's Spankings By Definition

    I've read and re-read Jenna's spanking definitions, but when I read the names I think of something a bit different! So here is MY Spankings By Definition!!!!This in no way replaces the one that Jenna posted...this is just me being bored and instead of doing housework or being...
    MatildaEve MatildaEve 41-45, F 12 Responses Jul 28, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Tantrums And Paddles

    Yesterday was not my day. For whatever reason I was in a really bad mood and just feeling needy I guess. I had to go out to run a fast errand and I asked my boyfriend if he would come with me because I was afraid to drive due to weather conditions. He on the other hand is a...
    an2012 an2012 22-25, F 11 Responses Oct 31, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I need to vent. We had

    such a wonder day, why did the night have to unravel? Church was delightful and inspiring, Dinner was casual and fun. As a family we played board and card games and watched an old movie. Then my attitude kicked in. After slamming a few cupboard doors and abusing the dishwasher...
    CherSr CherSr 61-65, F 5 Responses Feb 17

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Should Have Known Better

    I earned my first cathartic cry Saturday. I got sentenced to time alone in the bedroom. I should have known that locking my DH out of the room was a bad move. I am a well educated woman. Why do I make these stupid moves? I did enjoy the time with his arms wrapped around me...
    CherSr CherSr 61-65, F 4 Responses Oct 29, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    21 Demerit Points In The Log Earned Me A Punishment Spanking

    Like many others in a DD relationship, we keep a log book of minor infractions which is reviewed on a daily basis. Instead of being spanked immediately for every little thing that happens at home or at work, points are assessed and logged. Yesterday evening I was told that I had...
    Melissa62 Melissa62 51-55, F 9 Responses Apr 3, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    A Weekend With Paulnfuzzy & JennaR

    ~~ Okay, so many of you guys know that JennaR and her husband Sir Paul came to Oklahoma for a visit. They arrived on noon Friday and left about 6 p.m. on Sunday. So a nice visit and plenty of time to get to know one another. Now, I don't know if Jenna will write of ''her...
    MatildaEve MatildaEve 41-45, F 11 Responses Dec 2, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Perfect Card!

    So this is a card I saw tonight in the grocery store! I loved it :) Actually I couldn't believe I saw it here.(sorry the pictures aren't that good, I was in a rush. I was already late getting to a birthday party and trying to pick out a card)To my dearest husband, :)     (it...
    dclovingdd dclovingdd 26-30, F 10 Responses Aug 16, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Prolonged Delayed Discipline

     We live in a world of instant gratification. I agree that delaying discipline can be a tool in itself. Giving a person time to think and achieve a proper mind set. I also understand that there are often circumstances that will make delays impossible to avoid. Lately I have...
    JennaR JennaR 46-50, F 10 Responses Dec 5, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Recent Dd Publicity... What A Crock...

    I can't finish the phrase in the title of this story - I don't want to risk my first mouth soaping... (after a recent 'episode' I am on a zero tolerance bad language embargo. Does typing count? I don't think I'll test him to find out!) So DD, or more specifically CDD has been in...
    LittleSally LittleSally 31-35, F 9 Responses Jul 12, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My HOH Has Gone Submissive On Me

    ugh! I have told some of my story on other experiences but just came across this one. I guess I am looking for sympathy, and that may be wrong. I'm always open to advice as well LOL my husband and I have been married for 16 years. We began our relationship in a very traditional...
    Stormie01 Stormie01 46-50, F 5 Responses Nov 6, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Oh Boy... I'M For It Now

    I messed up yesterday. It wasn't all my fault but I have already received an email lecture this morning. My husband was away with his team for a weekend tournament this weekend. I went round to a friend's for lunch... her husband is on the same team and was also away. We drank...
    LittleSally LittleSally 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 29, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My Fiancé And Me

    I have been with my fiancé for over 3 years and during that time we have had our fare share of fights. After the last major fight that we had, we broke up for few days and we realized that we belong together. Since I got spanked at home and he used to get spanked when he was...
    Mrsthandie Mrsthandie 18-21, F 6 Responses Nov 1, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My boyfriend and I have an agreement

    and have chosen to live the domestic discipline life style. I believe it makes for the best relationships because it allows both of us to b so open with each other. We haven't been together that long but I've already experienced my first punishment spanking. I'll post that...
    Monkeybut63 Monkeybut63 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 14

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Consistancy As HOH Is Key

    I write from out house in France where my wife and I have come to redefine out marital boundaries on a special holiday alone. I carried out an experiment in a run up to our "boot camp" holiday. My household expectations during this experiment remained the same as usual... BUT I...
    Jameshoh Jameshoh 41-45, M 3 Responses Feb 16, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Spanked for a full day of infractions.

    .. Well my started out with me not being on top of laundry and my hoh had no clean pants for work. Once he came home he decided to go into town to do some shopping and I had an attitude for no real reason in the car the hole way there and when we got there I got out and slammed...
    Monkeybut63 Monkeybut63 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 25

    Your Response

    Cancel

    "Looks like the good old wooden spoon is still

    considered okay for spankings"January 22, 2014, 4:26 amSAN JOSE, Calif. (AP) — A California court has sided with a mother who was placed on a state child abuse database after spanking her 12-year-old daughter.The mother, Veronica Gonzalez, was reported for child abuse...
    tripdelta3 tripdelta3 56-60, M Jan 23

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I woke up Thanksgiving morning with a huge chip

    on my shoulder and don't know why. I was just feeling edgy. My husband had to leave early to go help my brother with something. He was home early (around 9am). When he got home I had been cooking for a couple of hours. Not a big deal, I usually enjoy it. I just was not in the...
    lover70 lover70 41-45, F 8 Responses Nov 29, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Wife's Mouthsoaping

    Wives are like parrots. They will repeat what they hear. I've had to wash my wife’s mouth out with soap many times, and she still hasn't stopped swearing. I diligently remind all my guests to watch their language around her and I never ever swear even when in the house alone...
    Lomaz Lomaz 61-65, M 17 Responses Jan 11, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    What DD Means To Me

    I truly don't care what people think of our lifestyle. It is not their life. I understand the desire of most women to define 'equality' as being the same. But my view is different. We are equal but not the same. When I was young, I had an eating disorder. For some reason I needed...
    LittleSally LittleSally 31-35, F 7 Responses May 11, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Observations From A Newb.

    I have willfully and in full capacity of my mind entered into what is labeled as a Domestic Discipline marriage. I am still fairly new and so of course is my husband. But I want to share some of my observations so far. As many may know if you've read any other stories I've...
    MatildaEve MatildaEve 41-45, F 7 Responses Jan 18, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    No Excuses

    I do not believe in, or tolerate excuses. To have a successful DD marriage, consistency is paramount. I will accept explanation, but an explanation is not the same as an excuse. When my wife gives me a reasonable explanation for something, my response is always the same...
    Jameshoh Jameshoh 41-45, M 4 Responses May 11, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Believe In Moderate Domestic Discipline Am Looking For A Female For A Loving Anr Or Abf Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    thisthatcurious thisthatcurious 56-60 1 Response Nov 28, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel
    CherSr CherSr 61-65, F 4 Responses Jan 7

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Me And Dclovingdd

    After my x-wife and I divorced, I became an Adult Disciplinarian (AD). I love the responsibility of taking care of someone else. For me this involved teaching, instructing, guiding and when necessary punishing women. I would help ladies break bad habits, start good habits...
    christinasHOH christinasHOH 51-55, M 8 Responses Jul 6, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My husband told me to post this.

    He would like all the submissive women and Dom men's opinion on this. He believes that when I continue to act out, that it is foreplay for me. I explained that it is not in anyway foreplay. When I initially act out it is just a slip, however, when I am allowed to act this way...
    lover70 lover70 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 20

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My Goal

    I have set a goal for myself for the week, starting with today! I have a gym membership that I used every week for a couple months then the last 2 months I have not even set foot into the gym. I have driven by it leaving work everyday but the car just wouldn't turn into the...
    dclovingdd dclovingdd 26-30, F 12 Responses Nov 4, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Humility

    I am not a spokeswoman for ladies in domestic discipline relationships, so I can only speak truthfully from my own point of view. So forgive me if you disagree. Being a volunteer wife in a DD relationship (I actually introduced this to my husband) there are many assumptions that...
    MatildaEve MatildaEve 41-45, F 9 Responses Aug 2, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    The Hotel Manager

    On a business trip to Zambia last week, I was greeted by an enthusiastic young Dutch lady, who was managing the hotel I was staying in. She had been on the job only a few weeks, and she was all smiles and laughs, and very friendly and polite. Even though she had taken up a...
    drfessee drfessee 31-35, M Nov 15, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    A while back my bf and I broke up.

    The last couple months we have been going on dates again and trying to see if we can work things out. We decided that while we are dating we should practice dd as it was a part of our relationship and we want to see how things go as if we were back together. So anyways, the...
    an2012 an2012 22-25, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    One Of Many Conversations..................................................

    ''I don't want you to touch me. I don't want to have sex anymore. I think of you as just a friend.'' ~ These are words I told my husband a LONG while ago. I had nearly forgotten I've said them, than he recalled them to me this weekend with still a look of hurt in his eyes. My...
    MatildaEve MatildaEve 41-45, F 8 Responses Dec 8, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Oh no, What have I done I feel

    as though I've failed. I lost it this morning big time, I was so disrespectful even swore a couple of times at my husband. I know there is no reason to be disrespectful, I believe it was due to 3 hrs sleep 'teething baby' Anyway I had to act up for the first time in months to...
    Flick86 Flick86 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 14

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My First Spanking.

    I remember my first spanking like it was yesterday. I ran off from a discussion me and by husband Jason were having one night. I left in my car and went to the grocery store parking lot and just stayed there for a bit. Then I came home. My husband asked if I was ready to talk...
    JennStone JennStone 26-30, F 4 Responses May 4, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Medical Insight Into Why Wives Love To Be Spanked

    http://www.news-medical.net/news/2005/03/29/8788.aspx Smack that bottom - it can cure everything !! Published on March 29, 2005 at 7:01 PM Russian scientists at the Novosibirsk Institute of Medicine are claiming a beating on the naked buttocks with a cane is the perfect way to...
    conceptualclarity conceptualclarity 51-55, M 33 Responses Apr 11, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Why I Am Grateful When You Spank Me... A Wifes Confession To Her Husband

      It makes me think of you for hours, it obviously excites me, but there's so much more.  The warmth spreading across my bottom reminds me of the woman I want to be, makes me want to show you how much I love and desire you.  I feel your strength and I know that I can come to...
    traditionalwifeanjul traditionalwifeanjul 36-40 14 Responses Feb 10, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Now That Hoh Is Retired...

    This was so much easier before L and I retired. After spending so many year teaching and in law enforcement telling people what to do, I am at home with L having him telling me what I cannot do. Grrrr. I am not a fast learner in this subject. Now I have an assignment to read The...
    CherSr CherSr 61-65, F 3 Responses Nov 4, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    So very happy... I've never felt happier

    or more treasured in my life. Our marriage was wonderful before we entered a dd relationship. Now? I can't believe how much better it is. He makes me feel safe, loved, cherished. *happy, content sigh*
    Tihtil Tihtil 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 1

    Your Response

    Cancel

    The Many Ways He Shows His Love For My Own Good.

    I love my domestic dominate husband. His rules and regulations make me feel warm and safe. I know I have boundaries I can not cross. It helps me discipline myself and keeps my temper under wraps. I have always had unconditional love for him but my respect for him wavered. Now, I...
    Klt3shottie Klt3shottie 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 26, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Just wanted to know if you had any odd

    or hard rules your husband makes you follow or do during the whole spanking process. For example in our house, I am not allowed to let my heels kick off my feet while being spanked. I wear heels a lot, nothing real high, but I try to everyday. Hubby has a rule that they are to...
    kimkan50 kimkan50 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 26

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Reluctant Domestic Discipline

    i have a woman that i'm proud to call my own. she is also does me the honor of calling me hers. at the beginning of our serious relationship, i told her that the only thing that i would expect of her was her, "best." in turn i offered my best effort to her. i have me one of them...
    daguid daguid 61-65, M 21 Responses Jan 19, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Spankings By Definition

    I read this and wanted to share with others. It was of great help when we were new to DD and I have found it useful to share with others who are new and have questions.  I got it from C's Loving Domestic Discipline Blog. I know it is a tad long.Good Girl (GG) spankings are...
    JennaR JennaR 46-50, F 40 Responses Apr 10, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Was Spanked Hard Last Night

    So he finally punished me. I was sent to the bedroom at about 8pm, nose in the corner. He left me there for 15 minutes before I heard him coming into the room, going into the drawer and taking a few things out. I was dying to turn around but didn't quite dare. He then came up...
    LittleSally LittleSally 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 15, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Discipline Is Always There!

    Some may think that discipline within a marriage is just a kink. But, as I see it, every couple has a certain discipline dynamic. If you are a *****, your husband will punish you! One way or another. He may ignore you, come home really late, and so on... He could even cheat on...
    anonimacy anonimacy 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 3, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I don’t think I have shared the story

    as to how I got here, how I believed in the power of such a thing. I am naturally the submissive one in the relationship. When I was 13 I met M (17) and we had a normal relationship of teenagers. When he was 19 he got his own place and I found myself over there a lot. I got into...
    SgtsLittleGirl SgtsLittleGirl 22-25, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I know us women would like to think we don't

    deserve any of our spanking, but let's be honest, 99% of them are justified. But I was wondering if any women out there have honestly been disciplined for something you definitely did not do? Or men, have you ever spanked your wife or girlfriend and later found out she was in...
    kimkan50 kimkan50 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 29

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Ok, so does any body have thoughts about

    equality and mutual respect in a dd relationship? Are they possible? Are they important?
    GeeGee8 GeeGee8 46-50, F 7 Responses Dec 14, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    For The Right Man

    I was talking to my husband the other day, chatting about DD, spankings, TIH, this thing we do, the different variations of similar concepts. And one thing that baffles us both is unworthy HOHs. First, I understand that not all HOHs are male. But I'm going to refer to the HOH as...
    ckrazyinme ckrazyinme 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 15, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Today was pretty bad

    for me, especially when for the last two days we have decided that “we” should become stricter on my training. First of all, I got a snotty, bratty attitude and made a snappy comment…something along the lines of I really don’t give a damn. I got a look, a look that makes...
    SgtsLittleGirl SgtsLittleGirl 22-25, F 1 Response 3 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    How My D&D Journey Started

    My name is Sara and I have been practicing domestic discipline just shy of 8 months now. I first brought it up to my husband after close to a year of researching and talking to others about it, and ever since then it’s been smooth sailing. Well, almost. Getting my husband on...
    raindropseve raindropseve 36-40, F 6 Responses Aug 8, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Have Been Blessed

    With a delightful weekend with Sir Rod and MatildaEve. As you may have read in MatildaEve's amusing rendition of the weekend we Spent the Thanksgiving holiday with Sir Rod and Matilda. It was truly a wonderful break from the stress life has been throwing at us lately. The drive...
    JennaR JennaR 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 2, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    2 Day Submission Refersher

    Last week I was spanked twice, for good reason. Yesterday I got another hiding. A short sharp shock my husband called it. It was for attitude, and he said in light of how recently I'd been spanked with a paddle brush, he had expected my attitude to be better. Now, as of Friday...
    josfairmaiden josfairmaiden 36-40, F 5 Responses Apr 15, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Related Experiences

    Can a submissive surrender to her dom without the threat of spanking or other discipline?
    MrsHarley MrsHarley 26-30, F 6 Responses