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I Believe Intimacy Is Not Purely Sexual

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    Intimacy is that closeness

    when your souls intertwine, when you look into your partners eyes and know how they feel and what their next words are going to be....that touch that makes everything better and that hug that makes you feel safe....no it's not sexual but when you have all the above, believe me...
    lemolemo lemolemo 41-45, F 7 Responses Jul 15, 2014

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    I enjoy the thrill of unknown

    and a build up of suspense; I enjoy the chase. Just because I may seem confident, doesn't necessarily make me so, I'm usually nervous and humbled that I've gained the opportunity to explore another person - a moment to share a deep connection into another soul. I've had the...
    kevvy832 kevvy832 31-35, M 1 Response Jul 30

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    When you're all snuggled up to the person you

    love. And your both just talking about life, the future and how much you love each other. Pouring your heart out to each other and occasionally stealing sweet kisses. Looking in their eyes and feeling a sense of warmth and home. Feeling completely exposed but completely...
    SarahBerry1 SarahBerry1 18-21, F 8 Responses Aug 23

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    True intimacy includes making yourself

    vulnerable. When you admit to things you're ashamed of; when you risk rejection, because you MUST tell this person the truth...that is intimacy. . I have had the privilege of having very masculine men confide in me, and show me the cracks in their armor. Popular men; men who...
    SmartKat SmartKat 46-50, F 34 Responses Apr 14

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    chemistry cut through the lies we tell

    ourselves during  the act of temempary pleasure 
    miimii0069 miimii0069 26-30, F 7 Responses Aug 8

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    Intimacy is sharing the whole of

    who you are the good and the bad.
    sroonaka616 sroonaka616 18-21 Jul 30

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    Nicole the most beautiful woman I never met.

    The moment I saw her photos I was mesmerized, captured by the most soulful green eyes I have ever seen. Her photos (face only) had me hooked it was love at first sight. I managed to contact Nic, we chatted by txt over a few weeks. She was drawn to me and I to her. Our chat...
    jakdempsey jakdempsey 46-50, M 7 Responses Aug 5

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    I can see you much deeper

    than you think. I see your soul. Let me pick your brains for you intrigue me and a spark is lit.
    OSoQuiet OSoQuiet 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 3

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    I believe that before sex,

    a couple should have mental intimacy, sharing their thoughts and ideas with absolute freedom. Spiritual/emotional intimacy follows, with sharing of emotions, opening their hearts and deepening their love to even greater levels. Then, when physical intimacy occurs, that becomes...
    Writer1967 Writer1967 46-50, M 4 Responses Jun 18

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    The following quote is one of the most common

    quotes that has been known for years, yet it is is unique in its own way. It is just a matter of understanding. "Intimacy is not purely physical. It is the act of connecting with Someone so deeply You feel like you can see Into their soul."
    hiddentears hiddentears 26-30, F 8 Responses May 22

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    I agree with this 100%,

    however, in marriage, intimacy will always lead to sex for me. xD
    RealmRunner RealmRunner 22-25, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    Brunette4U Brunette4U 31-35, F 16 Responses Jun 23

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    It's beautiful when you find someone

    that is in love with your mind. Someone who wants to undress your conscience and make love to your thoughts. Someone that wants to watch you slowly take down all of your walls you've built up around you're mind and let them inside.
    Sirwithherkey Sirwithherkey 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 1, 2014

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    His words are beautiful,

    his passion is amazing . With every word he writes I feel His desire for me. I long to feel him So Close to me ....the feeling is amazing. So blissful.
    sassygirl42 sassygirl42 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 20

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    I had an ex boyfriend

    who was all about sex and nothing more. He sweet talked me into the relationship, and since it was my first one i fell for his games. He was nice at first, bought me nice things, and even gave me his credit card, but he ALWAYS wanted sex. Sometimes i would be sleeping and i...
    Lauraluvsyou Lauraluvsyou 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 2

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    Oh goodness, it pains me see ppl on here looking

    for cyber-whatever in this topic. Anyway, with that aside. Intimacy is EMOTIONAL, sex is secondary. Otherwise it's just plain selfish. No giving, just getting, like the types I mentioned above just wanting a thrill, not caring anything about who the person is, just wanting an...
    domesticgypsy domesticgypsy 46-50, F 5 Responses Jul 13

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    Intimacy is definitely more

    than being sexually intimate. It is about that emotional connection, baring your soul down to the very core of your being and having someone that totally gets you and accepts you as you are and they can do the same with you. A connection that runs deep and it's a connection...
    greeneyedlady72 greeneyedlady72 41-45, F 18 Responses Jun 19, 2014

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    I like transactional analysis´s take on

    intimacy. Tho, not too much to gather from this. From wikipedia. "Intimacy as a way of structuring time allows one to exchange the strongest strokes without playing a Game. Intimacy differs from Games as there is no covert purpose, and differs from Activities as there is no...
    mirkwood86 mirkwood86 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 13

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    You have to stimulate me mentally

    and emotionally before you do physically otherwise I might as well be doing the dishes.
    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    To ***** yourself bare&no not by taking your

    clothes off. Lol. I am talking about opening up your heart.Giving it to that special one . Letting yourself be free. To just be. Without thought&making your self vulnerable,having sensitivity& coming with emotion.You have become powerless,but do not fear rejection. To be dear...
    Sugasug Sugasug 41-45, M 3 Responses May 30

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    I don't necessarily need to have a person right

    by my side to feel intimately attached to them. They've just gotta know me better than I know myself. I can love without ever touching a person just as I can hate people I've never touched, or feel afraid of things I've never been in the presence of. Sure sexual satisfaction...
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 2

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    What of people stayed celibate

    til a year into the relationship???
    ReelTruth ReelTruth 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    Attraction is... a lengthy conversation

    that doesn't involve sexual innuendoes or frankness.
    Evabeth Evabeth 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 7

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    I can spend hours in my bfs arms not saying a

    word just cuddling...... That's intimacy
    gildedlily21 gildedlily21 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 14

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    mengak mengak 26-30, M May 30

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    We can all agree that sex is an important part

    of the intimacy, but thank goodness is not everything!!! The trust, respect, the sharing thoughts,dreams & secrets and love comes in hand too. The hugs, the kisses, caressing, enjoying the warmth of that someone, when you feel their heartbeat, the goosebumps, the smell of their...
    newlifejuliana newlifejuliana 31-35, F 10 Responses Apr 9, 2014

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    It doesn't even have to involve touching one

    another. It can simply be talking, sharing your thoughts with one another openly and freely, without a care in the world. It can be having such a connection, such a feeling of relaxation around each other. It can be laying under the stars and counting them together. It can be a...
    wishingforrecovery wishingforrecovery 16-17, F 6 Responses Jul 11

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    absolutely not! Of course,

    often intimacy and sex go on the same way but intimacy is a look between 2 people, helding her hand, a particular huge, or also to be in silence looking at the sky...
    Enjoyyourlife Enjoyyourlife 26-30, M Jun 4

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    Nic Part 3. Around 430 this morning I was out

    for a walk and I asked God to help Nicole find/contact me and at around 440 a message on my ph. " hi it's Nic". Can you believe it, I am so happy to have the most beautiful woman I have never met back again. we have been texting non stop since then. if anyone prayed, willed or...
    jakdempsey jakdempsey 46-50, M 7 Responses Aug 7

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    Intimacy starts in the mind

    and then is a cumulation of the mind and body working together, leading you along the way, where your souls meet. Words can't describe pure intimacy, only feelings can.
    Kman4You Kman4You 36-40, M 12 Responses Apr 5

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    I love when I can just cuddle

    and talk with the man. We can just sit there and talk and look at each other for hours. We may joke about sex but we don't need it. When he rubs my back or shoulder when we're sitting together. Or opens his eyes to look into mine when we're face to face. Just the fact that he...
    Beijodeabacaxi Beijodeabacaxi 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 16

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    Easy enough to have sex without intimacy.

    ..people do it all the time. Sex is physical. Intimacy is emotional. When the two meet it is the best of both worlds but certainly you can have either one without the other.
    TKD1 TKD1 46-50, F 5 Responses Apr 1, 2014

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    I don't believe it, I know it's fact!

    Matter of fact, this little jewel is what keeps getting people into trouble in this little EP world! The anonymity allows people to fully express themselves, open up without fear of rejection, and to delve deeply into their innermost desires, feelings, and emotions. Next thing...
    Extant1 Extant1 51-55, M 9 Responses Feb 7

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    Nic part two. She has been in my thoughts

    constantly. This beautiful woman that I never met, my instinct tells me she has gone for good. I am still in awe of the experience we shared, only words and a few pics. How can two people form such a powerful attraction when they have never met ? Nic where ever you I hope that...
    jakdempsey jakdempsey 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 6

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    Do men & women get less/ more/ exactly same

    pleasure through mas_turbating, blow_jobs/licking, hand_jobs/finger_ing, imagination etc as compared to real intercourse, intercourse using toys ?
    pleasureseeker2015 pleasureseeker2015 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 19

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    Intimacy is not purely physical; it's the act

    of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel you can see into their soul. These aren't my words, but I certainly agree with them.
    Robin10 Robin10 46-50, F 5 Responses Jun 14, 2014

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    One thing I do know about intimacy is

    that there are certain natural laws which govern the sexual experience of two people, and that these laws cannot be budged any more than gravity can be negotiated with. To feel physically comfortable with someone else's body is not a decision you can make. It has very little...
    Brunette4U Brunette4U 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 20

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    Intimacy is like a craving

    when you have walls so high and so strong they cannot be broken. It is like someone has put the one thing you want behind impenetrable glass and no matter how hard you try, it stays forever out of your reach. A lot of people think that sex is the most intimate thing you can do...
    Saintlysinner Saintlysinner 31-35, F 7 Responses Feb 17

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    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Dec 26, 2014

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    Okay, this is my take on intimacy.

    Intimacy, or the level of intimacy you have with a partner, likely more so with a woman, is based upon trust, not sex. If trust truly exists, then intimacy will grow, which does include a sexual component. Sexual intimacy is important, but without trust, not even sex will...
    comeonletsgo comeonletsgo 61-65, M 6 Responses Aug 13

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    mengak mengak 26-30, M Jul 12

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    Intimacy is integral to human interaction on a

    deeper level. To truly know someone, to feel them in their raw state, means to open yourself up to them fully and without reservation. Intimacy to me is very much more than that only based on a physical act. Intimate moments don't even necessarily involve touch. To be intimate...
    Saintlysinner Saintlysinner 31-35, F 14 Responses Feb 11

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    I like to touch a pregnant belly.

    I have touched pregnant bellies before and I think they are so beautiful.
    Funkystronglover Funkystronglover 18-21, M 3 Responses Aug 15

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    Don't germs wrong, sex can be excellent with a

    like minded partner. But the yantra and oneness of uninhibited sharing and togetherness is the best! Sessions that last hours.
    PeterSp8 PeterSp8 41-45, M 2 Responses May 30

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    The word "intimacy" has been hijacked

    as a euphemism - but the real definition of the word is closeness, in all its forms. Total intimacy means being able to share anything with someone. It means being able to tell them anything. It means physical intimacy, both sexual and non-sexual. It's ironic - in our modern...
    SilverSearching SilverSearching 31-35, M 5 Responses May 8

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    I remember instances

    when holding one another in a warm embrace in silence felt as if our souls were touching. After a secret was shared, that 'it's our thing' sort of understanding.
    iCuriousBabe iCuriousBabe 41-45, F 3 Responses