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I Believe Intimacy Is Not Purely Sexual

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 9,816 People

    I believe it is being

    so comfortable with someone you feel uninhibited and completely free of any insecurities.
    IPleadthe5th IPleadthe5th
    46-50, F
    31 Responses Aug 8, 2015

    Having a deep conversation with someone

    who has a brilliant mind and a beautiful soul is a new way of making love.
    AmayaTsuki AmayaTsuki
    26-30, F
    10 Responses Sep 14, 2015

    To me, intimate relationships of any kind are

    more about the other person's well being than about my "happiness". Caring about them leads to closeness and confidence for both of us, even if the initial basis of the relationship is books, or chinese food or just listening to how their day went. People all have depth if you...
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    1 Response Sep 3, 2015

    I hear that it's not only that

    but that connection u have with ur soul mate/ best friend u can totally be ur self with n all right???
    deleted deleted
    Dec 22, 2015

    I believe we develop intimacy oftentimes

    through sex, but when I think of the people in my life I have been most intimate with, in many cases we never had sex. Trust is a far deeper form of intimacy than is sex, which is why trust is the thing we are most apt to hold back - which is a shame, for if you can give...
    DevilDog71 DevilDog71
    46-50, M
    1 Response Nov 23, 2015

    I love when I can just cuddle

    and talk with the man. We can just sit there and talk and look at each other for hours. We may joke about sex but we don't need it. When he rubs my back or shoulder when we're sitting together. Or opens his eyes to look into mine when we're face to face. Just the fact that he...
    Beijodeabacaxi Beijodeabacaxi
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 16, 2015

    I don't think she's good looking,

    but I like her a lot because when we talk, she makes me feel loved...
    citysquare citysquare
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Jan 1, 2016

    I don't really fully understand this concept.

    It just makes zero sense to me. What is Intimacy and what is sex? I think the crux of the issue is that a lot of people seems to either confuse the two or disregard what each means on it's own. Since when does intimacy have to be sexual in the first place? Intimacy is about...
    GoneGirl78 GoneGirl78
    36-40, F
    13 Responses Nov 11, 2015

    I believe that before sex,

    a couple should have mental intimacy, sharing their thoughts and ideas with absolute freedom. Spiritual/emotional intimacy follows, with sharing of emotions, opening their hearts and deepening their love to even greater levels. Then, when physical intimacy occurs, that becomes...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jun 18, 2015

    This what my eyes see in you.

    .. You are a loving person You are understanding You are respectful You are peaceful You are beautiful You are feminine You are adventurous You are resilient You are a friend You are genuine You are kind You are funny You are noble You are warmhearted You are sensible You are...
    ChrisErizo1 ChrisErizo1
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Apr 7, 2016

    And, I believe sexuality is not purely

    intimacy. As always, the truth lies somewhere between.
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    1 Response Sep 17, 2015

    If I can't connect with a person emotionally,

    sex isn't even a thought. Sex is an act. Intimacy is so much more than that. Knowing what each other are thinking without saying a word. It's great. I'm very lucky to have a girl that recipricates
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Nov 19, 2015

    i over talk him,just

    so he can shut me up.......mimdfuck
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Oct 25, 2015

    Intimacy is integral to human interaction on a

    deeper level. To truly know someone, to feel them in their raw state, means to open yourself up to them fully and without reservation. Intimacy to me is very much more than that only based on a physical act. Intimate moments don't even necessarily involve touch. To be intimate...
    Saintlysinner Saintlysinner
    31-35, F
    11 Responses Feb 11, 2015

    True intimacy includes making yourself

    vulnerable. When you admit to things you're ashamed of; when you risk rejection, because you MUST tell this person the truth...that is intimacy. . I have had the privilege of having very masculine men confide in me, and show me the cracks in their armor. Popular men; men who...
    SmartKat SmartKat
    46-50, F
    22 Responses Apr 14, 2015

    I think it can be just

    as intimate sharing a sexual experience by words (by text, email etc) as the real thing. When sexual fantasies are shared in detail & with the use of imagination....
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy
    36-40, F
    11 Responses Jun 28, 2015

    I've never understood casual sex.

    Why do people feel the need to have it. Do you think they are afraid of commitment? Are they afraid of being hurt if a real relationship goes wrong. For me friendship, mental and emotional intimacy come first. Get these right and the sexual act is nothing less than fantastic!
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Nov 6, 2015

    I remember instances

    when holding one another in a warm embrace in silence felt as if our souls were touching. After a secret was shared, that 'it's our thing' sort of understanding.
    iCuriousBabe iCuriousBabe
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jun 4, 2015

    Saw this loved it !!!

    ! Wanted to share it
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    1 Response Dec 26, 2014

    Intamacy is not purely sexual.

    There is being able to make a soul connection. Conversation where the two learn from each other and simply enjoying each other's company, sometimes being able to be with each other without even talking is important. I love it when a woman will sleep with her head upon my chest...
    savoy2 savoy2
    46-50, M
    Sep 28, 2015

    To ***** yourself bare&no not by taking your

    clothes off. Lol. I am talking about opening up your heart.Giving it to that special one . Letting yourself be free. To just be. Without thought&making your self vulnerable,having sensitivity& coming with emotion.You have become powerless,but do not fear rejection. To be dear...
    Sugasug Sugasug
    41-45, M
    2 Responses May 30, 2015

    After a session with Mistress I like to hold my

    pillow and snuggled down and simple talk with her about anything. It's of our favourite times of play
    Cupcakestoy Cupcakestoy
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Feb 6, 2016
    ZenLioNESS719 ZenLioNESS719
    51-55, F
    1 Response Dec 25, 2015

    Oh goodness, it pains me see ppl on here looking

    for cyber-whatever in this topic. Anyway, with that aside. Intimacy is EMOTIONAL, sex is secondary. Otherwise it's just plain selfish. No giving, just getting, like the types I mentioned above just wanting a thrill, not caring anything about who the person is, just wanting an...
    domesticgypsy domesticgypsy
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Jul 13, 2015

    A look, a touch. Laughter shared.

    The sweet sense of mutual understanding that makes two people tingle.
    Karen2020 Karen2020
    61-65, F
    3 Responses Oct 31, 2015

    I believe that emotional intimacy is just

    as important as physical intimacy. I cannot envision one without the other. Some people can have sex without emotions involved, but that is not for me. I need to feel comfortable with someone, to be able to be myself and be accepted for who I am. Then I can shake off my hang ups...
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    Nov 5, 2015

    Recently, I had a friend with perks.

    We began as online friends, and got along so well that our short messages progressed to long emails every weekday. We began confiding in each other and then flirting led to talking about what fun we wanted in our marriages and for ourselves. He proposed a get together with his...
    CoffeeFirst CoffeeFirst
    51-55, F
    12 Responses May 30, 2015

    I enjoy the thrill of unknown

    and a build up of suspense; I enjoy the chase. Just because I may seem confident, doesn't necessarily make me so, I'm usually nervous and humbled that I've gained the opportunity to explore another person - a moment to share a deep connection into another soul. I've had the...
    kevvy832 kevvy832
    36-40, M
    Jul 30, 2015

    When you're all snuggled up to the person you

    love. And your both just talking about life, the future and how much you love each other. Pouring your heart out to each other and occasionally stealing sweet kisses. Looking in their eyes and feeling a sense of warmth and home. Feeling completely exposed but completely...
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    7 Responses Aug 23, 2015

    Sex is neither fulfilling no fully satisfying

    with out a soul level connection.
    SleepingTiger SleepingTiger
    56-60, M
    1 Response Mar 7, 2016

    I was travelling out of the country

    and my boyfriend saw me off... at the airport, we where talking while sipping coffee; something about his lips turned me (memories of what had happened earlier that morning must have made him look much more sexy). I knew my panties(thong) was wet. I told him about...
    TheMelaninGoodness TheMelaninGoodness
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Nov 1, 2015

    I can spend hours in my bfs arms not saying a

    word just cuddling...... That's intimacy
    gildedlily21 gildedlily21
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 14, 2015

    Just as life isn’t perfect,

    intimate relationships aren’t either. They require effort and compromise. They require two people to practice patience and presence, and thoughtfully extend themselves for the sake of the other.
    LadyHeartnMind LadyHeartnMind
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Nov 5, 2015

    Could someone tellmme what they regard s

    emotional connection?? Looking forward to examples too
    nilagirl nilagirl
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Dec 25, 2015

    Intimidated moments can also be referred to

    such moments which contains alot of romantic talks, appreciating your partner for the type of personality they are and how much you love them
    pleasuretobehere pleasuretobehere
    26-30, M
    1 Response Apr 3, 2016

    I have answered this elsewhere.

    I should make sure not to duplicate my experiences...
    Mrskatearch Mrskatearch
    31-35, F
    Sep 7, 2015

    listen to your words,

    see me with those eyes, kiss me everywhere, lay beside me, take my hand, lick me, bite me, let me take my time and pull you close. the rest will wait.
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    1 Response Oct 25, 2015

    I had an ex boyfriend

    who was all about sex and nothing more. He sweet talked me into the relationship, and since it was my first one i fell for his games. He was nice at first, bought me nice things, and even gave me his credit card, but he ALWAYS wanted sex. Sometimes i would be sleeping and i...
    Lauraluvsyou Lauraluvsyou
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 2, 2015

    The word "intimacy" has been hijacked

    as a euphemism - but the real definition of the word is closeness, in all its forms. Total intimacy means being able to share anything with someone. It means being able to tell them anything. It means physical intimacy, both sexual and non-sexual. It's ironic - in our modern...
    SilverSearching SilverSearching
    31-35, M
    2 Responses May 8, 2015

    I don't necessarily need to have a person right

    by my side to feel intimately attached to them. They've just gotta know me better than I know myself. I can love without ever touching a person just as I can hate people I've never touched, or feel afraid of things I've never been in the presence of. Sure sexual satisfaction...
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Mar 2, 2015

    His words are beautiful,

    his passion is amazing . With every word he writes I feel His desire for me. I long to feel him So Close to me ....the feeling is amazing. So blissful.
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    5 Responses Mar 20, 2015

    I agree with this 100%,

    however, in marriage, intimacy will always lead to sex for me. xD
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Aug 25, 2015

    The following quote is one of the most common

    quotes that has been known for years, yet it is is unique in its own way. It is just a matter of understanding. "Intimacy is not purely physical. It is the act of connecting with Someone so deeply You feel like you can see Into their soul."
    hiddentears hiddentears
    26-30, F
    6 Responses May 22, 2015

    my best friend is a male

    and we have been extremely close for the past ten years or so. I cannot explain how he makes me feel and I could not imagine a life without him. We talk all hours of the day about any topic you could imagine and never run out of things to say. We cuddle, watch movies, party, go...
    hottmom22 hottmom22
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Oct 18, 2015

    You have to stimulate me mentally

    and emotionally before you do physically otherwise I might as well be doing the dishes.
    OhGK OhGK
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Sep 23, 2014

    The sexiest encounter is

    when you can be yourself, truthfully to your partner's real self.
    ZenLioNESS719 ZenLioNESS719
    51-55, F
    9 Responses Oct 12, 2015

    Intimacy starts in the mind

    and then is a cumulation of the mind and body working together, leading you along the way, where your souls meet. Words can't describe pure intimacy, only feelings can.
    Kman4You Kman4You
    41-45, M
    8 Responses Apr 5, 2015

    It took me a very long time to understand this.

    Emotional intimacy is not sex and having sex does not mean there's emotional intimacy. There are many levels of intimacy. It's rare to find someone who you can be intimate with on all of those levels. I think we all crave that. But we rarely ever find that. I'm careful not...
    snowberry75 snowberry75
    36-40, F
    12 Responses Oct 25, 2015

    Intimacy is definitely more

    than being sexually intimate. It is about that emotional connection, baring your soul down to the very core of your being and having someone that totally gets you and accepts you as you are and they can do the same with you. A connection that runs deep and it's a connection...
    greeneyedlady72 greeneyedlady72
    41-45, F
    11 Responses Jun 19, 2014

    New Experience

    my husband let me delve into this site. i'm somewhat stunned to the kind of things he's been reading about..and the groups he is part of..i'm a bit shaken. but i'm gettin turned on by it all...
    angie1972 angie1972
    41-45, F
    13 Responses Jan 3, 2013

    She doesn't touch me.

    It's not sex that I miss, it's affection. She doesn't kiss me except for a peck on the cheek. I'm starving.
    RockNRollHeart RockNRollHeart
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Feb 15, 2016

    the best sanctification is identifying

    similarity in the peering eys of your mate
    miimii0069 miimii0069
    31-35, F
    Sep 6, 2015

    I agree to this. Is anyone here a living

    testament to what is said in the picture?
    StubbornTiger StubbornTiger
    41-45, F
    10 Responses Sep 5, 2015

    Easy enough to have sex without intimacy.

    ..people do it all the time. Sex is physical. Intimacy is emotional. When the two meet it is the best of both worlds but certainly you can have either one without the other.
    TKD1 TKD1
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Apr 1, 2014
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