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I Believe Intimacy Is Not Purely Sexual

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    Is it weird that i just prefer making out with

    people and snuggling more then sex and touching? Or am i weird
    cutiepatootie96 cutiepatootie96 18-21, F 6 Responses Apr 6

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    It's the closeness of knowing

    that the things you care most for are reciprocated, and some of the gaps you feel most harshly have been filled. It's growing, half-alone, but entwined, from a fundamental alikeness hidden deep under the earth, out into the sunshine. It's the comfort of sameness and the...
    Brangwen Brangwen 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 21

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    For a few moments this afternoon I spent time

    being a voyeur. From my poolside deck chair I observed the interaction between mother, father and the young boy in the hotel pool. The parents time with the child was shared equally and with love. They were proud parents and obviously in love. If I was observing more casually, I...
    Rusham Rusham 66-70, M 4 Responses Mar 19

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    I have fantasies about being

    so intimate with someone that we can just lay down somewhere (like outside) and hold hands and just enjoy being, enjoy breathing next to one another. Perhaps watch a movie and the guy's head laying on my lap while I gentle run my hands through his hair, maybe rub his earlobe a...
    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 7 Responses Sep 13

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    I have a lot of hopes with being intimate with

    someone, being sexual or not. I think in some ways it not being sexual could be significantly better.
    HumanAsPossible HumanAsPossible 16-17, M Aug 31

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    kux22 kux22 41-45, M 4 Responses Jul 9

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    Anyone who believes Intimacy is only sexual is

    a pinhead in the highest sense of the word. The physical aspects of intimacy come out of an atmosphere of affection, romance and respect. Without it there is no such thing as intimacy.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 9

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    What's The Difference Between Sex And Intimacy?

    My concept of intimacy is a closeness, an emotional bond, a true knowing of one another, a deep friendship that involves openness and vulnerability. This need not at all be sexual. In fact, the people that I am most intimate with are in my extended family. Unfortunately...
    Friendlybabe Friendlybabe 31-35, F 4 Responses May 21, 2010

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    I think that's what nude sunbathing is.

    You're showing yourself true and intimate to strangers, but not really in a sexual way, because you're there for a suntan, an all over suntan. Sex might cross your mind, however, as you lie there on display to the world!
    Lecuyer90 Lecuyer90 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 23

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    True intimacy is a circle,

    it starts in the mind, goes to the genitals and comes back to the mind. Or starts in the genitals and goes the other way around.
    Danceofhours Danceofhours 36-40, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Intimacy is that closeness

    when your souls intertwine, when you look into your partners eyes and know how they feel and what their next words are going to be....that touch that makes everything better and that hug that makes you feel safe....no it's not sexual but when you have all the above, believe me...
    lemolemo lemolemo 41-45, F 7 Responses Jul 15

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    I just love glancing across the room

    and catching his eye. Seeing that look in him, that smile. Knowing we just shared a sweet moment together for just a bit until I had to look away.
    TheNerdYouLove TheNerdYouLove 31-35, F 5 Responses Jun 13

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    Easy enough to have sex without intimacy.

    ..people do it all the time. Sex is physical. Intimacy is emotional. When the two meet it is the best of both worlds but certainly you can have either one without the other.
    TKD1 TKD1 46-50, F 6 Responses Apr 1

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    Being Vulnerable

    I’m not much of a touchy feely person and I have this thing about personal space.  When strangers want to hug me, I get quite uncomfortable. So, sometimes intimacy is challenging for me.  Yet, I crave it.   Being intimate means showing your vulnerabilities. I’ve...
    deleted deleted 26-30 19 Responses May 12, 2012

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    True Intimacy!

    How true the title of this group is! I've always seen a partner as being someone there for you, that cheers you up, that you cuddle up and watch films with. That's what intimacy is to me. And times when I've told girls that I'd like to be intimate with them, or have some time...
    nordicabduction nordicabduction 18-21, M 4 Responses Sep 5, 2013

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    When youhave been with someone

    and talked, discussed, shared, and have been totally open and truthful with each other, even over coffee in a coffee shop, no sexual gratification is predominantly in sight. Brains can have total intimatcy without sex.
    Thesoutherner Thesoutherner 66-70, M 2 Responses Sep 15

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    I am looking for the intamacy of a relationship.

    Not Sex or being a subject for someone to get off in
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Dec 31, 2013

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    I truly believe that holding hands is the most

    intimate thing you can do. You will kiss a one night stand, you will sleep with a one night stand but unless their is a connection, you won't hold hands with a one night stand
    Tealonly Tealonly 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 2

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    I feel most intimate with my bf

    when we are just sitting in silence.. Our hands together and smiling at each other.. No words between us just enjoying each other's presence.. Sex is physical intimacy, it's important to have other kinda of love to make that sex even more meaningful and pleasurable
    Lucy185 Lucy185 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 24

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    Sex is great but I would choose cuddling

    or hand holding or kissing over sex any day. I just love to wake up with my head laying on the chest of someone I love. And omg hand holding is just awesome I love holding hands 24/7. Intimacy is just a million times better than sex in my opinion.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 7

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    "We ache to touch intimately what is real,

    to find the marriage of meaning and matter in our lives and in the world. We ache to feel and express the fire of being fully alive. When we cultivate and refuse to separate those essential expressions of a human soul-our spirituality, sexuality, and creativity-we feed the...
    lovelife135 lovelife135 41-45, F 4 Responses May 10

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    And To Let The Other Enter....

    I believe Intimacy is not purely sexual.....Intimacy is not only sex for me!Intimacy is also sex but not only!Intimacy is the ability to sharing feelings, emotions, caresses and touches.It is a sentimental meeting!I think each of us has a strong need of intimacy but in most cases...
    dayandnight33 dayandnight33 46-50, F 8 Responses Apr 25, 2013

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    It is possible to be intimate without Sex.

    Just cuddling can be intimate.
    pardax pardax 13-15, M 1 Response Jul 3

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    Ohhh the brain plays greater part in

    even in sexuality much less in intimacy !!
    anasteel2 anasteel2 41-45, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I can't believe I just wrote what may have been

    the best experience ever written, and lost it while trying to post it !!
    Lthayer2011 Lthayer2011 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 13

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    sometimes the most softest of touches from him

    tells me the depth of his love more than words.
    colorfullcolorado colorfullcolorado 22-25, F Aug 11

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    My man and I have been together

    for 7 months. It's not a long time by comparison. I moved in awhile ago and everything is going great! :) He is my best friend as well and we had been great friends for over 4 years before we got together. He understands that I have been through alot, and he doesn't pressure me...
    XxSweetxSuffocationxX XxSweetxSuffocationxX 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 26

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    Intimacy. You think of sex.

    But I believe that intimacy is something that two people have. Being naked, but not in taking your clothes off but in the way that their soul is naked. They know each other, their hopes, dreams, everything. That's intimacy to me.
    EmiTru EmiTru 16-17, F 10 Responses Feb 2

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    Intimacy is definitely more

    than being sexually intimate. It is about that emotional connection, baring your soul down to the very core of your being and having someone that totally gets you and accepts you as you are and they can do the same with you. A connection that runs deep and it's a connection...
    greeneyedlady72 greeneyedlady72 41-45, F 20 Responses Jun 19

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    You have to stimulate me mentally

    and emotionally before you do physically otherwise I might as well be doing the dishes.
    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 11 Responses Sep 23

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    So this past Sunday I watched this gentleman

    perform a dance while painting. He was Cuban and had lots of Cuban music playing along with poetry and other meaningful things playing in the back ground. The was he danced, to me, seemed to be almost seductive. He was very graceful at times, swaying his hips and groin in a...
    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 22

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    I have huge issues with sex,

    I am only just starting to move past them but it's taking a lot. Intimacy would be an alien concept for me if it was all about sex. I am in a new relationship and luckily my boyfriend knows the difference between the too, he is able to offer me intimacy while still waiting until...
    LastBusHome LastBusHome 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 11

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    Yup. Had more sex. This time though,

    it was amazing. The whole shebang while all I could do was hold on while feeling like I was going to break in to pieces. I stayed the night in his bed and when I looked up at him he had changed. No longer the sad sarcastic person he normally is but instead he was like a nymph...
    SunlilySky SunlilySky 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 13

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    I missed being intimate with my boyfriend.

    I was starting to get irritated with him because I felt like he was ignoring me and my feelings. But then all day yesterday and all last night and this morning until he had to go to work. We just talked about everything and nothing. I missed that. We connected and actually...
    JuBear424 JuBear424 18-21, F Jun 19

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    Intimacy is not purely physical; it's the act

    of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel you can see into their soul. These aren't my words, but I certainly agree with them.
    Robin10 Robin10 46-50, F 4 Responses Jun 14

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    I know this because my gf was kind enough to

    hold my hair while I puked my guts out from getting drunk.
    pattycake90 pattycake90 22-25, F 3 Responses May 19

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    Well if you have read any of my posts from

    before you will see that i have tried again and again to find a girlfriend I found someone her name was Meghan. Me and her kinda fell through and broke up but anyway I found someone again her name is Dakota and I think things are going pretty well so far but that's another story...
    LcplSkeens LcplSkeens 18-21, M Aug 18

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    One of the things I miss

    after my divorce is the intimacy I once had with my ex. We could cuddle in our underwear and watch a movie. We could hold hands or kiss or just talk about things important or trivial. It was a feeling of complete safety. I want that with someone again.
    micmer micmer 36-40, M Jul 6

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    We can all agree that sex is an important part

    of the intimacy, but thank goodness is not everything!!! The trust, respect, the sharing thoughts,dreams & secrets and love comes in hand too. The hugs, the kisses, caressing, enjoying the warmth of that someone, when you feel their heartbeat, the goosebumps, the smell of their...
    newlifejuliana newlifejuliana 31-35, F 8 Responses Apr 9

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    Intimacy Is Trust

    Intimacy is a closeness, a revelation, a trust. Hence the term "intimacy" and the separated term "sexual intimacy". I'd even dare to say I have shared more intimacy in certain non-sexual situations compared to some sexual situations. It's a deep knowing and a connection that goes...
    BebeKitten BebeKitten 26-30, F 5 Responses Aug 29, 2013

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    It can be tactile. Or thought.

    Or eye contact. Or cuddling. Or sharing work. But with me those escalate if not halted. But. EP Link
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 1 Response Jun 8

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    The other day when I was hanging out with a

    friend, she had gotten news that her grandfather was in the hospital as she had told me this she grabbed hold of me and hugged me. Of course I had to hug her back I had to give her comfort and let her know everything will be alright we held each other for about 10-15 minutes...
    LcplSkeens LcplSkeens 18-21, M 2 Responses Jun 13

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    If all I had with my husband was sexual

    intimacy, I do not believe we'd still be happily married after 20 years. Although sex is great it's the emotional intimacy that binds people together and keeps them hopeful and strong. My husband is not a counselor but he has an almost counselor-type energy about him (in college...
    lauren71 lauren71 41-45, F 5 Responses Apr 26

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    Intimacy for me starts in my mind.

    As I feel a connection to a person and am drawn to them, I feel the barriers dissolve and a true connection is formed. And as that bond develops, I feel like I can become more vulnerable to that person and share what is truly in my heart and mind. It is an intimacy that can...
    bunnigirl bunnigirl 46-50, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    Amazing sex stays with you.

    It soaks into your skin. It floats through your dreams and has you silently smoldering with delicious remembrances for hours after. It has you craving it days later. And it has you aching for it if you don’t get it for awhile.
    lovelife135 lovelife135 41-45, F 8 Responses May 20

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    Listen stupid pervs. No one wants to see your

    nasty selfies of you man parts. Girls minds do not work like men's, girls are not enjoying random pics like that unless you are sending them to 1. The std **** queen 2. A prostitute 3. Some crazy sexually abused and totally confused girl. Or 4. A "woman" who's smuggling a...
    ellielovesyou ellielovesyou 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 26

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    Intimacy is to feel your soul dancing together

    with another soul at the rythm of the same music simply looking into each others eyes...like two flames becoming one.
    4biandu 4biandu 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 12

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    Today I witnessed a most tender moment between

    a young couple. I felt like a voyeur as I sat unobserved in my lounge. It only lasted the briefest of moments but it was memorable, it was loving, it was beautiful. The couple had just left the adjacent school. He was carrying a baby in a baby pod. She opened the rear car door...
    Rusham Rusham 66-70, M 2 Responses Jun 13

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    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F 4 Responses May 31

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