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I Believe Intimacy Is Not Purely Sexual

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    So many do not think this.

    ...so many lost without this...so many unaware of this...... it is a touch....gentle, but sensual, up the arm, over the shoulder, across the face, the lips....and to feel what that simple touch does, little giggles, little smiles, lying next to someone, a look, gentle brush...
    DarkThornedLilyRose43 DarkThornedLilyRose43 41-45, F 4 Responses Feb 12

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    I believe that intimacy is sharing.

    Sharing ur thoughts, feelings, and ideas with someone without being judged or evaluated. Sometimes my thoughts are just musings, not wishes to be full filled. Something it think about. 😘😉
    boadiccearose boadiccearose 51-55, F 1 Response Mar 21

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    Being Vulnerable

    I’m not much of a touchy feely person and I have this thing about personal space.  When strangers want to hug me, I get quite uncomfortable. So, sometimes intimacy is challenging for me.  Yet, I crave it.   Being intimate means showing your vulnerabilities. I’ve...
    deleted deleted 26-30 19 Responses May 12, 2012

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    The most intimate thing I think you can do is

    look into someones eyes, And I like sweeping hair from foreheads
    barnest2 barnest2 22-25, M Mar 4

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    True Intimacy!

    How true the title of this group is! I've always seen a partner as being someone there for you, that cheers you up, that you cuddle up and watch films with. That's what intimacy is to me. And times when I've told girls that I'd like to be intimate with them, or have some time...
    nordicabduction nordicabduction 18-21, M 3 Responses Sep 5, 2013

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    Intimacy Is Trust

    Intimacy is a closeness, a revelation, a trust. Hence the term "intimacy" and the separated term "sexual intimacy". I'd even dare to say I have shared more intimacy in certain non-sexual situations compared to some sexual situations. It's a deep knowing and a connection that goes...
    BebeKitten BebeKitten 26-30, F 6 Responses Aug 29, 2013

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    Easy enough to have sex without intimacy.

    ..people do it all the time. Sex is physical. Intimacy is emotional. When the two meet it is the best of both worlds but certainly you can have either one without the other.
    TKD1 TKD1 46-50, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    Slow And Steady

    It took me about two in a half months to let my husband (my then boyfriend) kiss me... and five and a half months to give my virginity to him... you can either wait for a rare flower to bloom or go for a more common one.. that's up to what you see as quality. It takes a strong...
    isthiswrong90 isthiswrong90 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 13, 2013

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    Closeness

    As my mom, bless her, explained to me three days before my wedding: "sex is sharing bodily fluids, and through that being open to new life; intimacy is sharing a toothbrush too." Now my husband and I don't actually share a toothbrush, but our intimacy goes a very long way beyond...
    FaithfulB FaithfulB 26-30, F Sep 30, 2013

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    I think intimacy is about much more

    than sex. Sex is intimate, of course. But real intimacy is about truly being 'in tune' with the other person. The only person I've ever been intimate with is my current boyfriend of 4 years. To me, intimacy means that when we're together, there's no pressure to keep up a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    Had sex today. Woop de do.

    It felt... Like described in my last post, devastatingly hollow. I know the person and we're friends but there was nothing there. The physical pleasure was there but it was like I was simply a viewer along for the ride. I don't feel used, rather I feel like the user. Like I...
    SunlilySky SunlilySky 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 22

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    For a few moments this afternoon I spent time

    being a voyeur. From my poolside deck chair I observed the interaction between mother, father and the young boy in the hotel pool. The parents time with the child was shared equally and with love. They were proud parents and obviously in love. If I was observing more casually, I...
    Rusham Rusham 66-70, M 4 Responses Mar 19

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    What Intimacy Means To Me.

    To me intimacy is a joining of minds, bodies and souls.  Sex would be one of those 3.  Simple story I know but for me that covers it adequately.
    badbinary badbinary 36-40, M 6 Responses Apr 6, 2012

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    And To Let The Other Enter....

    I believe Intimacy is not purely sexual.....Intimacy is not only sex for me!Intimacy is also sex but not only!Intimacy is the ability to sharing feelings, emotions, caresses and touches.It is a sentimental meeting!I think each of us has a strong need of intimacy but in most cases...
    dayandnight33 dayandnight33 46-50, F 8 Responses Apr 25, 2013

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    Is it weird that i just prefer making out with

    people and snuggling more then sex and touching? Or am i weird
    cutiepatootie96 cutiepatootie96 16-17, F 6 Responses Apr 6

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    Unless we were no more

    than our genitalia then of course there are many facets of intimacy. However, I do believe that once a person harbours physical attraction toward another then any shared intimacy, whether mental or emotional will certainly beautify those feelings.
    merrygentry merrygentry 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 6

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    ♥ Comfortable Silence ♥

    i think "comfortable silence" is also a proof that two people have this very close or personal relationship. you never have to feel the need to say a word or two... you both can sit for hours without feeling very awkward or uneasy.
    SweetAppleBlossom SweetAppleBlossom 26-30, F 6 Responses Apr 26, 2010

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    To look deep into his eyes

    and feel his touch, his breath on my skin.
    Dixiechic66 Dixiechic66 46-50, F 3 Responses Feb 21

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    Before you will ever reach the ultimate in

    sexual experience, you will have to connect with your mate in a more spiritual way. I speak not of religion but of your spirit -the real inner you- connecting with his or her. Once that occurs, you are on a different plain -one higher than physical- and once there the physical...
    Northernlite45 Northernlite45 41-45, M 3 Responses Jan 31

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    I believe intimacy is

    when someone reveals their feelings, soul, and expose their vulnerability. The body is just the shell that which protects the essence of vulnerability.
    jenneruz jenneruz 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 5

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    Last night was the second night

    after 2 weeks straight of my male best friend sleeping over. We have been friends for so long and he just got released from jail right before thanksgiving. Never have been sexual before and we did have sex a few times. But he mainly sleeps over and just holds me and comforts me...
    Kayylinda Kayylinda 18-21, F Jan 6

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    But it helps! ... Eugh,

    being single is a drain on the soul.
    RustinCohle RustinCohle 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 5

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    Just Talk To Me

    You may want sex, but I want to talk. I love talking about everything and nothing. I'm satisfied when I know you're listening and that you've heard me. It's always been far better than any climax I've ever known.
    Sunshine0615 Sunshine0615 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 11, 2013

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    NoYouCannot NoYouCannot 16-17, M 1 Response Mar 11

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    It's So Much More Than That

    You have easily have sex with someone without it being intimate. You can have that moment of feeling really good without it meaning anything more than that. Intimacy is about sharing things, beyond giving ******* to each other. Anyone can have sex (more or less), but only two...
    DeclarableKitten DeclarableKitten 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 30, 2013

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    Don't get me wrong, sex is great!

    BUT I think there is so much more to being intimate than just the sexual part. Being intimate with my partner enhances the entire sexual experience. I love to hold hands, to cuddle under a blanket on the couch, to rest my head on her lap while she plays w/my hair...even just the...
    lifesinlimbo lifesinlimbo 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 5

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    I am looking for the intamacy of a relationship.

    Not Sex or being a subject for someone to get off in
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Dec 31, 2013

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    What's The Difference Between Sex And Intimacy?

    My concept of intimacy is a closeness, an emotional bond, a true knowing of one another, a deep friendship that involves openness and vulnerability. This need not at all be sexual. In fact, the people that I am most intimate with are in my extended family. Unfortunately...
    Friendlybabe Friendlybabe 31-35, F 4 Responses May 21, 2010

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    Sex is great but I would choose cuddling

    or hand holding or kissing over sex any day. I just love to wake up with my head laying on the chest of someone I love. And omg hand holding is just awesome I love holding hands 24/7. Intimacy is just a million times better than sex in my opinion.
    TeenMomHannah TeenMomHannah 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    I feel most intimate

    when we just lay there snuggled under the blankets or when we lay together watching a movie. The experience of being intimate without sexual touching is something of the purest of love.
    MiMiMaNiAc MiMiMaNiAc 18-21, F Jan 5

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    Virgins Still Exist 💙

    Im proud to be a virgin. Its hard though! So many of my friends think I'm stuck up or scared. Not the case though. I just want to find someone who loves me unconditionally. Preferably someone I will spend the rest of my life with. 19 & still waiting.
    JustLex JustLex 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 14, 2013

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    Intimacy is a rly broad term.

    But to me I would much prefer to seek into someone's mind. There's so many neurons firing, electrons bouncing around, thoughts, memories, the mind is the powerhouse of the whole body. I loooove when people let me into their mind and share thoughts or listen to their thoughts...
    parapsychology parapsychology 18-21, F Feb 4

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    Emotional connection.

    .. Nothing else really matters.
    Ryanholmes20375 Ryanholmes20375 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 16

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    Intimacy is that sparkle in the eyes you see

    for the first time or ten thousandth time. I call it true love (Cliché) or the sixth sense (my term). C ;-)
    CharlotteBlue CharlotteBlue 36-40, F Jan 3

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    I believe intimacy is

    so much more than just having sex. Sex happens all the time. To me, intimacy involves a true emotional connection as well. There is a certain degree of respect and trust, and each of those factors compliments the others.
    smhinterrupted smhinterrupted 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 9

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    On Fire

    We had just finished. I'm laying on top of him.  We're both breathing hard, listening to our heart beats return to normal.  Nothing is said right away, but soon enough we begin to talk.  No one topic in particular, but it's soothing, laying in each other's arms.  Most of the...
    pinkcorsage pinkcorsage 18-21, F 6 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    Humans live for connection with other humans.

    Without we go mad. We live for love.
    StreetSurfer StreetSurfer 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 7

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    I also believe intimacy isn't purely sexual.

    You don't need to have sex with someone to show them you love and care for them. Quite honestly, if I were in a relationship, I would prefer not having any sex at all.
    KeithPrice94 KeithPrice94 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 21

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    It's the closeness of knowing

    that the things you care most for are reciprocated, and some of the gaps you feel most harshly have been filled. It's growing, half-alone, but entwined, from a fundamental alikeness hidden deep under the earth, out into the sunshine. It's the comfort of sameness and the...
    Brangwen Brangwen 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 21

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    Intimacy occurs when people connect mentally,

    sex occurs when they connect physically. I crave the latter, but it is meaningless without some kind of relationship
    donnjb donnjb 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 4

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    We can all agree that sex is an important part

    of the intimacy, but thank goodness is not everything!!! The trust, respect, the sharing thoughts,dreams & secrets and love comes in hand too. The hugs, the kisses, caressing, enjoying the warmth of that someone, when you feel their heartbeat, the goosebumps, the smell of their...
    newlifejuliana newlifejuliana 31-35, F 7 Responses Apr 9

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    On My Mind...

    Profound intimacy and connections are possible without sex... the 'MOST' intimate moments I've had is to be spiritually connected to someone on a tough day and even though you do not discuss what it wrong - the unspoken patience and kindness means more to me than all of the...
    sunshinegirl23 sunshinegirl23 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 27, 2013

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    Nothing Without Love

    She smells like vanilla She moves in her familiar rhythmic way Her lips flushed roses Diamonds glisten against her skin Her pulse is erratic Her usual brown now pools of black iris Her breath short and fast little puffs Entwined, we dance our peculiar dance She's not a model...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 19, 2013

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    when I think of intimacy I do not think of sex

    and everything in between. I think of laying with someone, feeling so close to them. Having nothing but truth and love between us. Staring into one another's eyes feeling so in love with each other.
    bluefrogs247 bluefrogs247 16-17, F 3 Responses Jan 26

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    For me and first, emotional connection is very

    intimate. Without it, I can't be sexual with someone.
    Booksaremypassion Booksaremypassion 41-45, F 5 Responses Feb 2

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    Intimacy. You think of sex.

    But I believe that intimacy is something that two people have. Being naked, but not in taking your clothes off but in the way that their soul is naked. They know each other, their hopes, dreams, everything. That's intimacy to me.
    EmiTru EmiTru 16-17, F 11 Responses Feb 2

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