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I Believe Intimacy Is Not Purely Sexual

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 10,311 People

    His words are beautiful,

    his passion is amazing . With every word he writes I feel His desire for me. I long to feel him So Close to me ....the feeling is amazing. So blissful.
    sassygirl42 sassygirl42 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 20, 2015

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    I agree with this 100%,

    however, in marriage, intimacy will always lead to sex for me. xD
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Aug 25, 2015

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    I have answered this elsewhere.

    I should make sure not to duplicate my experiences...
    Mrskatearch Mrskatearch 31-35, F Sep 7, 2015

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    Could someone tellmme what they regard s

    emotional connection?? Looking forward to examples too
    nilagirl nilagirl 46-50, F 6 Responses Dec 25, 2015

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    A look, a touch. Laughter shared.

    The sweet sense of mutual understanding that makes two people tingle.
    Karen2020 Karen2020 61-65, F 7 Responses Oct 31, 2015

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    I believe that emotional intimacy is just

    as important as physical intimacy. I cannot envision one without the other. Some people can have sex without emotions involved, but that is not for me. I need to feel comfortable with someone, to be able to be myself and be accepted for who I am. Then I can shake off my hang ups...
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 5, 2015

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    Intamacy is not purely sexual.

    There is being able to make a soul connection. Conversation where the two learn from each other and simply enjoying each other's company, sometimes being able to be with each other without even talking is important. I love it when a woman will sleep with her head upon my chest...
    savoy2 savoy2 46-50, M Sep 28, 2015

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    i over talk him,just

    so he can shut me up.......mimdfuck
    Rain0069 Rain0069 26-30, F 6 Responses Oct 25, 2015

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    Intimacy is not purely physical; it's the act

    of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel you can see into their soul. These aren't my words, but I certainly agree with them.
    Robin10 Robin10 46-50, F 4 Responses Jun 14, 2014

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    True intimacy includes making yourself

    vulnerable. When you admit to things you're ashamed of; when you risk rejection, because you MUST tell this person the truth...that is intimacy. . I have had the privilege of having very masculine men confide in me, and show me the cracks in their armor. Popular men; men who...
    SmartKat SmartKat 46-50, F 33 Responses Apr 14, 2015

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    I don't necessarily need to have a person right

    by my side to feel intimately attached to them. They've just gotta know me better than I know myself. I can love without ever touching a person just as I can hate people I've never touched, or feel afraid of things I've never been in the presence of. Sure sexual satisfaction...
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 2, 2015

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    The following quote is one of the most common

    quotes that has been known for years, yet it is is unique in its own way. It is just a matter of understanding. "Intimacy is not purely physical. It is the act of connecting with Someone so deeply You feel like you can see Into their soul."
    hiddentears hiddentears 26-30, F 7 Responses May 22, 2015

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    listen to your words,

    see me with those eyes, kiss me everywhere, lay beside me, take my hand, lick me, bite me, let me take my time and pull you close. the rest will wait.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 25, 2015

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    Do men & women get less/ more/ exactly same

    pleasure through mas_turbating, blow_jobs/licking, hand_jobs/finger_ing, imagination etc as compared to real intercourse, intercourse using toys ?
    pleasureseeker2015 pleasureseeker2015 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 19, 2015

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    Intimacy is definitely more

    than being sexually intimate. It is about that emotional connection, baring your soul down to the very core of your being and having someone that totally gets you and accepts you as you are and they can do the same with you. A connection that runs deep and it's a connection...
    greeneyedlady72 greeneyedlady72 41-45, F 18 Responses Jun 19, 2014

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    I intimacy brings close together,

    heart to heart, that is love.
    Kosmos01 Kosmos01 56-60, F 5 Responses Sep 27, 2015

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    To ***** yourself bare&no not by taking your

    clothes off. Lol. I am talking about opening up your heart.Giving it to that special one . Letting yourself be free. To just be. Without thought&making your self vulnerable,having sensitivity& coming with emotion.You have become powerless,but do not fear rejection. To be dear...
    Sugasug Sugasug 41-45, M 2 Responses May 30, 2015

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    Having a deep conversation with someone

    who has a brilliant mind and a beautiful soul is a new way of making love.
    AmayaTsuki AmayaTsuki 26-30, F 12 Responses Sep 14, 2015

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    I don't think she's good looking,

    but I like her a lot because when we talk, she makes me feel loved...
    citysquare citysquare 22-25, M 3 Responses Jan 1

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    I can spend hours in my bfs arms not saying a

    word just cuddling...... That's intimacy
    gildedlily21 gildedlily21 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 14, 2015

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    It took me a very long time to understand this.

    Emotional intimacy is not sex and having sex does not mean there's emotional intimacy. There are many levels of intimacy. It's rare to find someone who you can be intimate with on all of those levels. I think we all crave that. But we rarely ever find that. I'm careful not...
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 20 Responses Oct 25, 2015

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    I believe we develop intimacy oftentimes

    through sex, but when I think of the people in my life I have been most intimate with, in many cases we never had sex. Trust is a far deeper form of intimacy than is sex, which is why trust is the thing we are most apt to hold back - which is a shame, for if you can give...
    DevilDog71 DevilDog71 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 23, 2015

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    I remember instances

    when holding one another in a warm embrace in silence felt as if our souls were touching. After a secret was shared, that 'it's our thing' sort of understanding.
    iCuriousBabe iCuriousBabe 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 4, 2015

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    I agree to this. Is anyone here a living

    testament to what is said in the picture?
    StubbornTiger StubbornTiger 41-45, F 15 Responses Sep 5, 2015

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    When you're all snuggled up to the person you

    love. And your both just talking about life, the future and how much you love each other. Pouring your heart out to each other and occasionally stealing sweet kisses. Looking in their eyes and feeling a sense of warmth and home. Feeling completely exposed but completely...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Aug 23, 2015

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    my best friend is a male

    and we have been extremely close for the past ten years or so. I cannot explain how he makes me feel and I could not imagine a life without him. We talk all hours of the day about any topic you could imagine and never run out of things to say. We cuddle, watch movies, party, go...
    hottmom22 hottmom22 22-25, F 6 Responses Oct 18, 2015

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    I don't believe it, I know it's fact!

    Matter of fact, this little jewel is what keeps getting people into trouble in this little EP world! The anonymity allows people to fully express themselves, open up without fear of rejection, and to delve deeply into their innermost desires, feelings, and emotions. Next thing...
    Extant1 Extant1 51-55, M 7 Responses Feb 7, 2015

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    I think it can be just

    as intimate sharing a sexual experience by words (by text, email etc) as the real thing. When sexual fantasies are shared in detail & with the use of imagination....
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy 31-35, F 15 Responses Jun 28, 2015

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    I believe that before sex,

    a couple should have mental intimacy, sharing their thoughts and ideas with absolute freedom. Spiritual/emotional intimacy follows, with sharing of emotions, opening their hearts and deepening their love to even greater levels. Then, when physical intimacy occurs, that becomes...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jun 18, 2015

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    The word "intimacy" has been hijacked

    as a euphemism - but the real definition of the word is closeness, in all its forms. Total intimacy means being able to share anything with someone. It means being able to tell them anything. It means physical intimacy, both sexual and non-sexual. It's ironic - in our modern...
    SilverSearching SilverSearching 31-35, M 3 Responses May 8, 2015

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    Just as life isn’t perfect,

    intimate relationships aren’t either. They require effort and compromise. They require two people to practice patience and presence, and thoughtfully extend themselves for the sake of the other.
    LadyHeartnMind LadyHeartnMind 31-35, F 4 Responses Nov 5, 2015

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    I was travelling out of the country

    and my boyfriend saw me off... at the airport, we where talking while sipping coffee; something about his lips turned me (memories of what had happened earlier that morning must have made him look much more sexy). I knew my panties(thong) was wet. I told him about...
    TheMelaninGoodness TheMelaninGoodness 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 1, 2015

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    I believe it is being

    so comfortable with someone you feel uninhibited and completely free of any insecurities.
    IPleadthe5th IPleadthe5th 41-45, F 34 Responses Aug 8, 2015

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    I've never understood casual sex.

    Why do people feel the need to have it. Do you think they are afraid of commitment? Are they afraid of being hurt if a real relationship goes wrong. For me friendship, mental and emotional intimacy come first. Get these right and the sexual act is nothing less than fantastic!
    Heartheocean Heartheocean 61-65, M 3 Responses Nov 6, 2015

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    After a session with Mistress I like to hold my

    pillow and snuggled down and simple talk with her about anything. It's of our favourite times of play
    Cupcakestoy Cupcakestoy 41-45, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I don't really fully understand this concept.

    It just makes zero sense to me. What is Intimacy and what is sex? I think the crux of the issue is that a lot of people seems to either confuse the two or disregard what each means on it's own. Since when does intimacy have to be sexual in the first place? Intimacy is about...
    GoneGirl78 GoneGirl78 36-40, F 20 Responses Nov 11, 2015

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    And, I believe sexuality is not purely

    intimacy. As always, the truth lies somewhere between.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Sep 17, 2015

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    Intimacy starts in the mind

    and then is a cumulation of the mind and body working together, leading you along the way, where your souls meet. Words can't describe pure intimacy, only feelings can.
    Kman4You Kman4You 36-40, M 11 Responses Apr 5, 2015

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    You have to stimulate me mentally

    and emotionally before you do physically otherwise I might as well be doing the dishes.
    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    I love when I can just cuddle

    and talk with the man. We can just sit there and talk and look at each other for hours. We may joke about sex but we don't need it. When he rubs my back or shoulder when we're sitting together. Or opens his eyes to look into mine when we're face to face. Just the fact that he...
    Beijodeabacaxi Beijodeabacaxi 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 16, 2015

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    I hear that it's not only that

    but that connection u have with ur soul mate/ best friend u can totally be ur self with n all right???
    riderz4christ riderz4christ 36-40, M 1 Response Dec 22, 2015

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    Intimacy is about spiritual nakedness.

    Being completely vulnerable & trusting, and having it reciprocated.
    yppirt yppirt 36-40, F 12 Responses Oct 5, 2015

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    ZenGrrrlLioNESS ZenGrrrlLioNESS 46-50, F 2 Responses Dec 25, 2015

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    Recently, I had a friend with perks.

    We began as online friends, and got along so well that our short messages progressed to long emails every weekday. We began confiding in each other and then flirting led to talking about what fun we wanted in our marriages and for ourselves. He proposed a get together with his...
    CoffeeFirst CoffeeFirst 46-50, F 23 Responses May 30, 2015

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    Intimacy is integral to human interaction on a

    deeper level. To truly know someone, to feel them in their raw state, means to open yourself up to them fully and without reservation. Intimacy to me is very much more than that only based on a physical act. Intimate moments don't even necessarily involve touch. To be intimate...
    Saintlysinner Saintlysinner 31-35, F 13 Responses Feb 11, 2015

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