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I Believe Intimacy Is Not Purely Sexual

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    Intimacy is not purely physical; it's the act

    of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel you can see into their soul. These aren't my words, but I certainly agree with them.
    Robin10 Robin10 46-50, F 4 Responses Jun 14, 2014

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    ToriSama ToriSama 16-17, M 3 Responses Mar 27

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    You have to stimulate me mentally

    and emotionally before you do physically otherwise I might as well be doing the dishes.
    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 7 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    I don't believe it, I know it's fact!

    Matter of fact, this little jewel is what keeps getting people into trouble in this little EP world! The anonymity allows people to fully express themselves, open up without fear of rejection, and to delve deeply into their innermost desires, feelings, and emotions. Next thing...
    Extant1 Extant1 51-55, M 10 Responses Feb 7

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    carry11 carry11 26-30, F Dec 22, 2014

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    I love when I can just cuddle

    and talk with the man. We can just sit there and talk and look at each other for hours. We may joke about sex but we don't need it. When he rubs my back or shoulder when we're sitting together. Or opens his eyes to look into mine when we're face to face. Just the fact that he...
    Beijodeabacaxi Beijodeabacaxi 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 16

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    I truly believe saying you're intimate with

    someone because you had sex is kinda like saying you're a cowboy because you visited a ranch.
    FryyM FryyM 22-25, M 4 Responses Nov 21, 2014

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    True intimacy includes making yourself

    vulnerable. When you admit to things you're ashamed of; when you risk rejection, because you MUST tell this person the truth...that is intimacy. . I have had the privilege of having very masculine men confide in me, and show me the cracks in their armor. Popular men; men who...
    SmartKat SmartKat 46-50, F 34 Responses Apr 14

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    Intimacy is like a craving

    when you have walls so high and so strong they cannot be broken. It is like someone has put the one thing you want behind impenetrable glass and no matter how hard you try, it stays forever out of your reach. A lot of people think that sex is the most intimate thing you can do...
    Superficialsaint Superficialsaint 31-35, F 7 Responses Feb 17

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    I'm a demisexual. half asexual.

    I'm pretty sure a lot of us feel that way. intimacy and affection don't mean sex. I can be affectionate with my cat, my friend, my nephew. we can cuddle and hug, and hold hands and give kisses but nothing is sex. sex is sex. I can have a deep intimate conversation with someone...
    khirh khirh 22-25, M Nov 24, 2014

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    His words are beautiful,

    his passion is amazing . With every word he writes I feel His desire for me. I long to feel him So Close to me ....the feeling is amazing. So blissful.
    sassygirl42 sassygirl42 41-45, F 7 Responses Mar 20

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    Intimacy starts in the mind

    and then is a cumulation of the mind and body working together, leading you along the way, where your souls meet. Words can't describe pure intimacy, only feelings can.
    Kman4You Kman4You 36-40, M 12 Responses Apr 5

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    It's the closeness of knowing

    that the things you care most for are reciprocated, and some of the gaps you feel most harshly have been filled. It's growing, half-alone, but entwined, from a fundamental alikeness hidden deep under the earth, out into the sunshine. It's the comfort of sameness and the...
    Brangwen Brangwen 41-45, F 6 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    One thing I do know about intimacy is

    that there are certain natural laws which govern the sexual experience of two people, and that these laws cannot be budged any more than gravity can be negotiated with. To feel physically comfortable with someone else's body is not a decision you can make. It has very little...
    Brunette4U Brunette4U 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 20

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    There is nothing more amazing then

    when you meet that person who is able to build the bridge to your heart with words alone.
    RainbowMind RainbowMind 16-17, T 4 Responses Mar 25

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    It’s not just about sex.

    Don’t get me wrong. Sex is ******* great, but when you have a connection with someone, when you feel so strong for someone, just a kiss is enough to make your knees weak. You just can’t beat that.
    smeckledorfed smeckledorfed 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 17

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    We can all agree that sex is an important part

    of the intimacy, but thank goodness is not everything!!! The trust, respect, the sharing thoughts,dreams & secrets and love comes in hand too. The hugs, the kisses, caressing, enjoying the warmth of that someone, when you feel their heartbeat, the goosebumps, the smell of their...
    newlifejuliana newlifejuliana 31-35, F 11 Responses Apr 9, 2014

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    What could be more intimate

    than the pure joy of just holding the hand of some-one you love and feeling their fingers holding onto yours. To see the the crinkle lines around their eyes when they smile at you. To smell their hair as you hold them tight.
    bill1960 bill1960 51-55, M 6 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    What's The Difference Between Sex And Intimacy?

    My concept of intimacy is a closeness, an emotional bond, a true knowing of one another, a deep friendship that involves openness and vulnerability. This need not at all be sexual. In fact, the people that I am most intimate with are in my extended family. Unfortunately...
    Friendlybabe Friendlybabe 31-35, F 6 Responses May 21, 2010

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    It's not, I read a book

    that said it isn't and I believe it.
    Letmebepatient Letmebepatient 31-35, M 3 Responses Jan 8

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    Intimacy is definitely more

    than being sexually intimate. It is about that emotional connection, baring your soul down to the very core of your being and having someone that totally gets you and accepts you as you are and they can do the same with you. A connection that runs deep and it's a connection...
    greeneyedlady72 greeneyedlady72 41-45, F 18 Responses Jun 19, 2014

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    Intimacy is much more

    than sex. Sex is a basic urge. Sex with someone you really love and care for is the best!
    mslvr01 mslvr01 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 5, 2014

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    Intimacy is that closeness

    when your souls intertwine, when you look into your partners eyes and know how they feel and what their next words are going to be....that touch that makes everything better and that hug that makes you feel safe....no it's not sexual but when you have all the above, believe me...
    lemolemo lemolemo 41-45, F 7 Responses Jul 15, 2014

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    True Intimacy!

    How true the title of this group is! I've always seen a partner as being someone there for you, that cheers you up, that you cuddle up and watch films with. That's what intimacy is to me. And times when I've told girls that I'd like to be intimate with them, or have some time...
    nordicabduction nordicabduction 22-25, M 4 Responses Sep 5, 2013

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    Being Vulnerable

    I’m not much of a touchy feely person and I have this thing about personal space.  When strangers want to hug me, I get quite uncomfortable. So, sometimes intimacy is challenging for me.  Yet, I crave it.   Being intimate means showing your vulnerabilities. I’ve...
    deleted deleted 26-30 16 Responses May 12, 2012

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    Humiliating as it is to admit,

    I don't allow anyone to get close to me physically. It's always been this way. Despite this, I yearn for emotional intimacy, and a tiny part of me has always remained hopeful of having someone special come into my life (albeit in a limited capacity). Reflecting on the many...
    Intotheunknown Intotheunknown 46-50, F 8 Responses Mar 8

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    I had an a-ha moment

    while watching Gotham. Bruce was looking all over for Selena just to give her a gift, to make her smile. Ahh how pure n giving that love is~ Xxx Reminds me of how things should be.~~~
    Kletsgo Kletsgo 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 26

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    I had an ex boyfriend

    who was all about sex and nothing more. He sweet talked me into the relationship, and since it was my first one i fell for his games. He was nice at first, bought me nice things, and even gave me his credit card, but he ALWAYS wanted sex. Sometimes i would be sleeping and i...
    Lauraluvsyou Lauraluvsyou 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 2

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    Amazing sex stays with you.

    It soaks into your skin. It floats through your dreams and has you silently smoldering with delicious remembrances for hours after. It has you craving it days later. And it has you aching for it if you don’t get it for awhile.
    lovelife135 lovelife135 41-45, F 8 Responses May 20, 2014

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    **** is totally brainwashing our culture

    and giving a whole new definition to racey. I think it's important to take a step back and see the bigger picture when it comes to sexuality who we could lose the whole scene. Plus, not everybody watches it so the people who don't have no idea how kinky things can get and it...
    Coryms88 Coryms88 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 2

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    It's beautiful when you find someone

    that is in love with your mind. Someone who wants to undress your conscience and make love to your thoughts. Someone that wants to watch you slowly take down all of your walls you've built up around you're mind and let them inside.
    Sirwithherkey Sirwithherkey 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 1, 2014

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    Intimacy is integral to human interaction on a

    deeper level. To truly know someone, to feel them in their raw state, means to open yourself up to them fully and without reservation. Intimacy to me is very much more than that only based on a physical act. Intimate moments don't even necessarily involve touch. To be intimate...
    Superficialsaint Superficialsaint 31-35, F 17 Responses Feb 11

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    It's the act of connecting with someone

    so deeply, you feel like you can see into their soul.
    Daydreaming2 Daydreaming2 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 7

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    Intimacy. You think of sex.

    But I believe that intimacy is something that two people have. Being naked, but not in taking your clothes off but in the way that their soul is naked. They know each other, their hopes, dreams, everything. That's intimacy to me.
    EmiTru EmiTru 18-21, F 10 Responses Feb 2, 2014

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    Saw this loved it !!!

    ! Wanted to share it
    Jusjellybean Jusjellybean 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 26, 2014

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    Sadfate Sadfate 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 23

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    It's about holding her,

    looking into her eyes, kissing her mouth, and then her nose, pretending you missed. Sliding your hands down her back as she stands before you, over her perfect body, though she doubts it's any more than 100% flawed. It's about closing your eyes, and opening them slowly, not...
    GreenManley GreenManley 18-21, M 3 Responses Dec 14, 2014

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    The Invitation Oriah Mountain Dreamer It

    doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing. It doesn't interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of...
    Etheros Etheros 46-50, F 6 Responses Feb 7

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    Easy enough to have sex without intimacy.

    ..people do it all the time. Sex is physical. Intimacy is emotional. When the two meet it is the best of both worlds but certainly you can have either one without the other.
    TKD1 TKD1 46-50, F 4 Responses Apr 1, 2014

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    I don't necessarily need to have a person right

    by my side to feel intimately attached to them. They've just gotta know me better than I know myself. I can love without ever touching a person just as I can hate people I've never touched, or feel afraid of things I've never been in the presence of. Sure sexual satisfaction...
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 2

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    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M 4 Responses Mar 13

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    I can spend hours in my bfs arms not saying a

    word just cuddling...... That's intimacy
    gildedlily21 gildedlily21 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 14

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    I truly believe that holding hands is the most

    intimate thing you can do. You will kiss a one night stand, you will sleep with a one night stand but unless their is a connection, you won't hold hands with a one night stand
    Tealonly Tealonly 22-25, F 5 Responses Sep 2, 2014

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    For a few moments this afternoon I spent time

    being a voyeur. From my poolside deck chair I observed the interaction between mother, father and the young boy in the hotel pool. The parents time with the child was shared equally and with love. They were proud parents and obviously in love. If I was observing more casually, I...
    Rusham Rusham 66-70, M 4 Responses Mar 19, 2014

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    A kiss on your forehead,

    my hand running through your hair.When look into your eyes,with smile upon my face.Holding your hand,walking side by side.I know how you make me feel and with all that knowledge,it's all that I truly do need.
    AfanOfbigNaturals AfanOfbigNaturals 46-50, M Feb 14

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