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I Believe Intimacy Is Not Purely Sexual

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    I had a talk with a colleague about this

    and I feel that intimacy is knowing the heart and the raw emotion of the person
    Dancemomisme Dancemomisme 46-50, F 6 Responses Jun 19

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    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F 5 Responses May 31

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    If all I had with my husband was sexual

    intimacy, I do not believe we'd still be happily married after 20 years. Although sex is great it's the emotional intimacy that binds people together and keeps them hopeful and strong. My husband is not a counselor but he has an almost counselor-type energy about him (in college...
    lauren71 lauren71 41-45, F 5 Responses Apr 26

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    Hey peep's you can have sex everyday all day,

    but sex will not sustain a relationship!
    tacomasr5 tacomasr5 51-55, M 1 Response Apr 27

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    I missed being intimate with my boyfriend.

    I was starting to get irritated with him because I felt like he was ignoring me and my feelings. But then all day yesterday and all last night and this morning until he had to go to work. We just talked about everything and nothing. I missed that. We connected and actually...
    JuBear424 JuBear424 18-21, F Jun 19

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    My girlfriend and I have a very intimate

    relationship and we haven't even had sex yet. It's wonderful, loving and uplifting.
    utahwriter utahwriter 36-40, M Jun 4

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    Intimacy At A Deeper Level

    One cannot question the existence of feelings. They are there, raw and undeniable. But one can choose NOT to nurture (or pursue) what is felt. Yet, no matter what they say, What has been felt will always be more HONEST that what is CHOSEN. True realities are not built by...
    CandyxCane CandyxCane 36-40, F 7 Responses Oct 29, 2013

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    I think intimacy is about much more

    than sex. Sex is intimate, of course. But real intimacy is about truly being 'in tune' with the other person. The only person I've ever been intimate with is my current boyfriend of 4 years. To me, intimacy means that when we're together, there's no pressure to keep up a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    We can all agree that sex is an important part

    of the intimacy, but thank goodness is not everything!!! The trust, respect, the sharing thoughts,dreams & secrets and love comes in hand too. The hugs, the kisses, caressing, enjoying the warmth of that someone, when you feel their heartbeat, the goosebumps, the smell of their...
    newlifejuliana newlifejuliana 31-35, F 8 Responses Apr 9

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    And To Let The Other Enter....

    I believe Intimacy is not purely sexual.....Intimacy is not only sex for me!Intimacy is also sex but not only!Intimacy is the ability to sharing feelings, emotions, caresses and touches.It is a sentimental meeting!I think each of us has a strong need of intimacy but in most cases...
    dayandnight33 dayandnight33 46-50, F 8 Responses Apr 25, 2013

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    Intimacy is that closeness

    when your souls intertwine, when you look into your partners eyes and know how they feel and what their next words are going to be....that touch that makes everything better and that hug that makes you feel safe....no it's not sexual but when you have all the above, believe me...
    lemolemo lemolemo 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 15

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    Sex is great but I would choose cuddling

    or hand holding or kissing over sex any day. I just love to wake up with my head laying on the chest of someone I love. And omg hand holding is just awesome I love holding hands 24/7. Intimacy is just a million times better than sex in my opinion.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 7

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    I have huge issues with sex,

    I am only just starting to move past them but it's taking a lot. Intimacy would be an alien concept for me if it was all about sex. I am in a new relationship and luckily my boyfriend knows the difference between the too, he is able to offer me intimacy while still waiting until...
    LastBusHome LastBusHome 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 11

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    Being Vulnerable

    I’m not much of a touchy feely person and I have this thing about personal space.  When strangers want to hug me, I get quite uncomfortable. So, sometimes intimacy is challenging for me.  Yet, I crave it.   Being intimate means showing your vulnerabilities. I’ve...
    deleted deleted 26-30 19 Responses May 12, 2012

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    It is possible to be intimate without Sex.

    Just cuddling can be intimate.
    pardax pardax 13-15, M 1 Response Jul 3

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    lyrcheylap lyrcheylap 16-17, F Apr 27

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    Easy enough to have sex without intimacy.

    ..people do it all the time. Sex is physical. Intimacy is emotional. When the two meet it is the best of both worlds but certainly you can have either one without the other.
    TKD1 TKD1 46-50, F 4 Responses Apr 1

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    It can be tactile. Or thought.

    Or eye contact. Or cuddling. Or sharing work. But with me those escalate if not halted. But. EP Link
    converted converted 46-50, M 1 Response Jun 8

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    Intimacy is definitely more

    than being sexually intimate. It is about that emotional connection, baring your soul down to the very core of your being and having someone that totally gets you and accepts you as you are and they can do the same with you. A connection that runs deep and it's a connection...
    greeneyedlady72 greeneyedlady72 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 19

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    I am looking for the intamacy of a relationship.

    Not Sex or being a subject for someone to get off in
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Dec 31, 2013

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    Intimacy Is Trust

    Intimacy is a closeness, a revelation, a trust. Hence the term "intimacy" and the separated term "sexual intimacy". I'd even dare to say I have shared more intimacy in certain non-sexual situations compared to some sexual situations. It's a deep knowing and a connection that goes...
    BebeKitten BebeKitten 26-30, F 5 Responses Aug 29, 2013

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    It's So Much More Than That

    You have easily have sex with someone without it being intimate. You can have that moment of feeling really good without it meaning anything more than that. Intimacy is about sharing things, beyond giving ******* to each other. Anyone can have sex (more or less), but only two...
    DeclarableKitten DeclarableKitten 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 30, 2013

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    I feel most intimate with my bf

    when we are just sitting in silence.. Our hands together and smiling at each other.. No words between us just enjoying each other's presence.. Sex is physical intimacy, it's important to have other kinda of love to make that sex even more meaningful and pleasurable
    Lucy185 Lucy185 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 24

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    What's The Difference Between Sex And Intimacy?

    My concept of intimacy is a closeness, an emotional bond, a true knowing of one another, a deep friendship that involves openness and vulnerability. This need not at all be sexual. In fact, the people that I am most intimate with are in my extended family. Unfortunately...
    Friendlybabe Friendlybabe 31-35, F 4 Responses May 21, 2010

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    Intimacy is not purely physical; it's the act

    of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel you can see into their soul. These aren't my words, but I certainly agree with them.
    Robin10 Robin10 46-50, F 5 Responses Jun 14

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    Today I witnessed a most tender moment between

    a young couple. I felt like a voyeur as I sat unobserved in my lounge. It only lasted the briefest of moments but it was memorable, it was loving, it was beautiful. The couple had just left the adjacent school. He was carrying a baby in a baby pod. She opened the rear car door...
    Rusham Rusham 66-70, M 3 Responses Jun 13

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    The other day when I was hanging out with a

    friend, she had gotten news that her grandfather was in the hospital as she had told me this she grabbed hold of me and hugged me. Of course I had to hug her back I had to give her comfort and let her know everything will be alright we held each other for about 10-15 minutes...
    LcplSkeens LcplSkeens 18-21, M 2 Responses Jun 13

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    I know this because my gf was kind enough to

    hold my hair while I puked my guts out from getting drunk.
    pattycake90 pattycake90 22-25, F 3 Responses May 19

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    Listen stupid pervs. No one wants to see your

    nasty selfies of you man parts. Girls minds do not work like men's, girls are not enjoying random pics like that unless you are sending them to 1. The std **** queen 2. A prostitute 3. Some crazy sexually abused and totally confused girl. Or 4. A "woman" who's smuggling a...
    ellielovesyou ellielovesyou 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 26

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    One of the things I miss

    after my divorce is the intimacy I once had with my ex. We could cuddle in our underwear and watch a movie. We could hold hands or kiss or just talk about things important or trivial. It was a feeling of complete safety. I want that with someone again.
    micmer micmer 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 6

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    Intimacy is to feel your soul dancing together

    with another soul at the rythm of the same music simply looking into each others eyes...like two flames becoming one.
    4biandu 4biandu 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 12

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    "We ache to touch intimately what is real,

    to find the marriage of meaning and matter in our lives and in the world. We ache to feel and express the fire of being fully alive. When we cultivate and refuse to separate those essential expressions of a human soul-our spirituality, sexuality, and creativity-we feed the...
    lovelife135 lovelife135 41-45, F 4 Responses May 10

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    Any tips on how to let a guy you know you like

    them? looking for subtle hints.. Thanks!!
    melixx melixx 31-35, F 7 Responses May 13

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    For a few moments this afternoon I spent time

    being a voyeur. From my poolside deck chair I observed the interaction between mother, father and the young boy in the hotel pool. The parents time with the child was shared equally and with love. They were proud parents and obviously in love. If I was observing more casually, I...
    Rusham Rusham 66-70, M 3 Responses Mar 19

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    Amazing sex stays with you.

    It soaks into your skin. It floats through your dreams and has you silently smoldering with delicious remembrances for hours after. It has you craving it days later. And it has you aching for it if you don’t get it for awhile.
    lovelife135 lovelife135 41-45, F 8 Responses May 20

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    Caressing.kissing.hugging just a few of the

    things that can be done that doesn't have to be sexual but is nice to do just because it's nice to do.I love touch I enjoy massaging a female body nice and slow making her relaxed and content.I even enjoy washing a woman's hair making her know that she can trust me and enjoy my...
    bignatbreastluver bignatbreastluver 46-50, M 1 Response May 12

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    I started dating a guy just last week.

    And I've known him for years... We went to school together and whatnot... Well last night my daughter and I spent the night at his house, and it's just amazing how good he is with her. We didn't talk much in school, but over these last couple months it's like we just clicked. I...
    Hersheychic Hersheychic 18-21, F 2 Responses May 7

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    It's the closeness of knowing

    that the things you care most for are reciprocated, and some of the gaps you feel most harshly have been filled. It's growing, half-alone, but entwined, from a fundamental alikeness hidden deep under the earth, out into the sunshine. It's the comfort of sameness and the...
    Brangwen Brangwen 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 21

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    Is it weird that i just prefer making out with

    people and snuggling more then sex and touching? Or am i weird
    cutiepatootie96 cutiepatootie96 16-17, F 6 Responses Apr 6

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    I just love glancing across the room

    and catching his eye. Seeing that look in him, that smile. Knowing we just shared a sweet moment together for just a bit until I had to look away.
    TheWomanYouHate TheWomanYouHate 31-35, F 5 Responses Jun 13

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    kux22 kux22 41-45, M Jul 9

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    Don't get me wrong, sex is great!

    BUT I think there is so much more to being intimate than just the sexual part. Being intimate with my partner enhances the entire sexual experience. I love to hold hands, to cuddle under a blanket on the couch, to rest my head on her lap while she plays w/my hair...even just the...
    lifesinlimbo lifesinlimbo 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 5

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    On My Mind...

    Profound intimacy and connections are possible without sex... the 'MOST' intimate moments I've had is to be spiritually connected to someone on a tough day and even though you do not discuss what it wrong - the unspoken patience and kindness means more to me than all of the...
    sunshinegirl23 sunshinegirl23 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 27, 2013

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    Intimacy. You think of sex.

    But I believe that intimacy is something that two people have. Being naked, but not in taking your clothes off but in the way that their soul is naked. They know each other, their hopes, dreams, everything. That's intimacy to me.
    EmiTru EmiTru 16-17, F 10 Responses Feb 2

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    Yup. Had more sex. This time though,

    it was amazing. The whole shebang while all I could do was hold on while feeling like I was going to break in to pieces. I stayed the night in his bed and when I looked up at him he had changed. No longer the sad sarcastic person he normally is but instead he was like a nymph...
    SunlilySky SunlilySky 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 13

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    Intimacy is not who you let touch you. Intimacy is who you text at 3am about your dreams and fears. Intimacy is giving someone your attention, when ten other people are asking for...
    mik02 mik02 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 21

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    One day, you will get what you deserve. Whether it be good or bad. Lead your life purely.
    EstherKay EstherKay 22-25 3 Responses Jul 16

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