I Believe Its Better to Be a Survivor Than a Victim

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    Closure From a Traumatic Experience Is So Important.

         To get past the traumatic experience is the personal growth that we all need to learn to deal with adversity.  I used to get so hung up on my past and blame my current behavior on what I had gone through.  Life is not easy and we all ...
    SavingMissy SavingMissy
    36-40, F
    Aug 2, 2008

    Required Mindset

    I have never liked the term 'victim' and have refused to be allowed it to be applied to me. I have survived things, things that I would never wish on others but know many have went through.  I have no understanding as yet to why they happened, but know that each thing...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Aug 25, 2008

    I've Been Both!

    I have been victimized for most of my life. I was a child-abuse victim (from my birth-father), then bullied most of my school-life, and then finally a rape victim. I know all about being a victim and it was just not the place to be! I was shattered, broken, gave-in to negative...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 14, 2009

    No ****.

    I'm not gonna write my story here- I wrote it more than enough a few weeks ago in the groups I needed to unload to... I'm stronger when I do not go there...  I liked this Group Name- saw it on someone's page. I've always loved the saying, "Whatever doesn't kill you...
    TorturedLittleThing TorturedLittleThing
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jun 27, 2008

    I'm a Survivor

    With all the horrendous things that have happened in my life one would think that I am a victim however I don't see it that way. I overcome the negative in my life so now I am a survivor.
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
    46-50, F
    13 Responses Jun 18, 2008

    I Am a Survivor

    Someone told me today to be a survivor and not a victim, as I have been suffering from depression.  Maade me think of the abuse in my past that I have suffered.  Made me think of the torment and turmoil my school years were.  Made me think of amny things I ahev...
    TruePal TruePal
    31-35, M
    6 Responses Jun 18, 2008

    Denial Or Blocking?

    Don't even go there!! I will not let myself be limited, paralyzed, held hostage or alienated by fear or fantasy that relies on exploitive emotional rescue, sacrifice or truth, or victimization. I will not be prinsonor to my own jperceptions or expectations. Why did Cinderella...
    Friendlybabe Friendlybabe
    31-35, F
    Jul 14, 2008

    I Am A Survior :)

    i have went trough a lot in my young life alreaday im thinking im soo much better than any of that. it has taken me a while to see that. im proud of myself and i know my stregths and weakness now. i know who i am and the past will not stop me from being who i will be in the...
    Tawny26 Tawny26
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jun 25, 2011

    To All Who Have Survived Sexual Assault

    A Letter to SA Survivors You are not alone. There are others who have known the hurt that comes with being a victim of assault. But I can tell you now that you are not a victim. You are a survivor. It took me a while to understand the difference between victim and survivor, and...
    Goldenpoet820 Goldenpoet820
    18-21, F
    Dec 24, 2010

    Learning To Not Fall Into A Personal Hell

    It was about 9:00 am during a hot air balloon festival. i hadn't thought twice about falling asleep on his couch, and if someone had told me ten minutes earlier on that day, in the home of someone i thought a good person that my life would change forever, that i would be the...
    RainyMist RainyMist
    18-21
    2 Responses Aug 7, 2010

    I Don't Let the Past Rule My Life.

    I use what happened to me as a child to help others turn from victim to survivor. I use my story to raise funds and awareness so more children can be helped. I don't let the past rule my future like I have in the past. Life is way to short and let the past rule my future allows...
    AmericanAngel04 AmericanAngel04
    26-30
    2 Responses Jun 18, 2008

    I Choose to Be Strong

    The victim mindset is a seductive one and its easy to get drawn into thinking like a victim...especially while you're in the situation. I refuse/d to let that happen to me. Call it stubborness, call it contrariness, call it what ever you want but I refuse, refuse, refuse to act...
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Aug 2, 2008

    It Is..

    It's so much better to be a survivor then being the victim of a horrible crime.... Then it makes it so much easier to get over the crime... But I still think I am a victim and a survivor.. I can't wait for the day to able to think that I am a survivor and nothing else.
    XLunaXLovegoodX XLunaXLovegoodX
    22-25, F
    Jul 18, 2008

    Not A Victim

    I'm not a victim or a survivor...i'm somewhere in between, just living my life the best way I can given the circumstances.
    purplebutterfly33 purplebutterfly33
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 24, 2011

    THat Would Be a Big Noooooooooooooo

    Because if all we ever are is survivors we forget what it is to be victimized and lose empathy Because if all there ever becomes in this world we forget the trauma and the pain and the just plain WRONG of it all- then who will change the world If all we ever do is survive...
    tulick tulick
    31-35, F
    17 Responses Aug 2, 2008

    I Would Know, I've Been Both.

    I had a pretty difficult childhood. Spent my entire life as a teenager being the victim. I trusted nobody, and I'll admit I still have quite a few trust issues. It isn't an easy feat, trusting someone after somebody you once trusted betrayed that trust. I trusted my dad to...
    ladyzantorian ladyzantorian
    18-21, F
    Jan 25, 2012

    We Can Only Save Ourseives By Moving Past The Evil That Has Been Done To Us And Envisioning A Better World And Making It Happen!

    I do not think that you should get an automatic “get out of jail card free” because of your having been abused as a child so that you get to abuse others like you may have been taught, but I do believe that this should be given some consideration as long as the person...
    Chelebub Chelebub
    51-55, F
    Jan 13, 2013

    I Just Learned Something New That Changed My Intire Life........

    About 3 years ago I learned how to be happy and confident and I want to share this with anyone and everyone who wishes to know about what this was. I realized almost overnight what I had been doing that caused me a lot of misery. That was to no longer a need to explain myself to...
    MsOracle MsOracle
    70+, F
    5 Responses Jun 26, 2011

    Don't be a victim, be a target.

    . Targets can move!
    Littlemisssomebody Littlemisssomebody
    31-35, F
    Dec 15, 2014

    Fighter

    I personally think a fighter would better descibe me ! I have survived what life has laid in my lap and it wasn't by lying down and taking it! Initially people used the term survivor in reference to my enduring neglect,abandonment,abuse,rape....I survived by having a fighting...
    redheadsrule redheadsrule
    36-40, F
    10 Responses Sep 13, 2008
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