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I Believe Sex Should Always Be Consensual

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    No Means No

    Sex should never ever be forced. Thats a major no no. It hurts my heart to hear about the the women that get raped because some guy's gotta have it. How do you even do something like that? I could never imagine forcing myself onto a woman. Sometimes I still having trouble taking...
    groundshaker groundshaker 26-30, M 3 Responses Nov 3, 2012

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    rsb97080 rsb97080 41-45, M Dec 10, 2013

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    If I have to "force" myself on someone,

    what's the point? It wouldn't feel good to me and obviously wouldn't feel good to her. Kind of the same principle about meeting women in bars. If they have to be intoxicated to find me desirable, that hurts almost as bad as being straight-out rejected.
    rsb97080 rsb97080 41-45, M Dec 11, 2013

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    Sex should always be consensual,

    otherwise it's rape and that's unacceptable.
    secretz1 secretz1 36-40, F 5 Responses Jan 8

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    Another Poem About My Rape:(

    i took the shaky weapon and i shot me in the head it musta took some courage to wind up somewhat dead you see events transpired that i took very badly didnt take too long to sadly wildly shag me you saw french-kissing ***** wanting to lick your wanton stick you felt my...
    foldedunfolding foldedunfolding 26-30, F 6 Responses Dec 8, 2012

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    A L W A Y S !

    Plain and simple, rape is a crime.Sex should always be consensual with adults or late teens. No beasts or children because they are unable to give knowledgeable consent. Sex is a celebration of life, so do it sensually with someone who enjoys you.
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 Jan 18, 2013

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    No Means No Nomatter What

    It should always be consensual, two sided! Otherwise, it's force, abuse of power, and wrong. It doesn't matter if the abuser is a male or female. It doesn't matter if the victim is a male or female. It doesn't matter if they are your partner or a stranger. If you say "No," they...
    Goslyn Goslyn 31-35, T Feb 1, 2013

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    I Said "no"

    I was hangin out w/a few friends of mine at my place having a few drinks. 1 by 1 people started to leave. A couple of my friends decided they wanted to stay over because they had drunk so much, I didn't mind because they're my friends and I want them to be safe. I lived alone so...
    2012TheN 2012TheN 26-30, M Nov 11, 2012

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    No Is No

    WHEN SOMEONE SAYS NO TO SEX THAT MEENS THEY DO NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX WHEN THEY SAY STOP THEY MEEN STOP NO ONE SHOULD HAVE TO SAY IT MORE THEN ONCE I WAS RAPED WHEN I WAS 14 I SAID NO AND I SAID STOP BUT IT NEVER STOPED SO IF YOU ARE TOLD TO STOP OR NO THAT SHOULD BE THE END OF IT...
    PROUDGRANDMAOF6 PROUDGRANDMAOF6 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 16, 2012

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    Consensual Sex...

    Is the only real sex to have, one where it is meaningful and connected. Where you can enjoy the moment and the time together. It is possibly the best sex out there where you can give yourself to your partner and she to you full and open. She can tell you what she wants with out...
    Michael820 Michael820 41-45, M Dec 1, 2012

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    Yep

    Because non consensual sex is no fun.
    Twisted01 Twisted01 31-35 Nov 6, 2013

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