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I Believe Sex Should Always Be Consensual

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 781 People

    I Said "no"

    I was hangin out w/a few friends of mine at my place having a few drinks. 1 by 1 people started to leave. A couple of my friends decided they wanted to stay over because they had drunk so much, I didn't mind because they're my friends and I want them to be safe. I lived alone so...
    2012TheN 2012TheN 26-30, M Nov 11, 2012

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    Wish

    How I wish that some ep members are actually living in the philippines
    Arjayb Arjayb 51-55, M Nov 21, 2013

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    Consensual Sex...

    Is the only real sex to have, one where it is meaningful and connected. Where you can enjoy the moment and the time together. It is possibly the best sex out there where you can give yourself to your partner and she to you full and open. She can tell you what she wants with out...
    Michael820 Michael820 41-45, M Dec 1, 2012

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    Another Poem About My Rape:(

    i took the shaky weapon and i shot me in the head it musta took some courage to wind up somewhat dead you see events transpired that i took very badly didnt take too long to sadly wildly shag me you saw french-kissing ***** wanting to lick your wanton stick you felt my...
    foldedunfolding foldedunfolding 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 8, 2012

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    No Means No

    Sex should never ever be forced. Thats a major no no. It hurts my heart to hear about the the women that get raped because some guy's gotta have it. How do you even do something like that? I could never imagine forcing myself onto a woman. Sometimes I still having trouble taking...
    groundshaker groundshaker 26-30, M 3 Responses Nov 3, 2012

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    If I have to "force" myself on someone,

    what's the point? It wouldn't feel good to me and obviously wouldn't feel good to her. Kind of the same principle about meeting women in bars. If they have to be intoxicated to find me desirable, that hurts almost as bad as being straight-out rejected.
    rsb97080 rsb97080 41-45, M Dec 11, 2013

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    Forced Sex Isn't Right!

    I remember the first time I was forced into a sex act. It wasn't good at all... very demeaning, belittling. I didn't think I'd ever get over it but I realized I had to live through it and move on. I was a very young 13 yrs old and was forced to suck my lifetime (at that time...
    hbud055 hbud055 56-60, M Dec 22, 2012

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    Not Just Sex Itself. Conversations of a sexual

    nature should also be consensual, especially on EP.
    HStoner HStoner 51-55, M Jan 30

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    Sex Should Always Be Consensual

    idc weather ur a man or a woman u should never feel pressured or uncomfortable with whomever ur with just remember "NO MEANS NO"
    sweetpea053190 sweetpea053190 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 3, 2012

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    rsb97080 rsb97080 41-45, M Dec 10, 2013

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    No Is No

    WHEN SOMEONE SAYS NO TO SEX THAT MEENS THEY DO NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX WHEN THEY SAY STOP THEY MEEN STOP NO ONE SHOULD HAVE TO SAY IT MORE THEN ONCE I WAS RAPED WHEN I WAS 14 I SAID NO AND I SAID STOP BUT IT NEVER STOPED SO IF YOU ARE TOLD TO STOP OR NO THAT SHOULD BE THE END OF IT...
    PROUDGRANDMAOF6 PROUDGRANDMAOF6 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 16, 2012

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    A L W A Y S !

    Plain and simple, rape is a crime.Sex should always be consensual with adults or late teens. No beasts or children because they are unable to give knowledgeable consent. Sex is a celebration of life, so do it sensually with someone who enjoys you.
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 Jan 18, 2013

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