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I Believe That "Homemaker" Is a Perfectly Valid Occupation

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    I know this is Daddy's day

    but I thought I would give a little bit of a salute to my Mom too. This is a repost from an old account I can't access anymore from last year. Saluting My Mom For my whole life and the life of my older brother, my mom has been a homemaker. My mom did have a job for awhile...
    abigailc abigailc 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 15, 2014

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    I Did Not Marry a Dwelling Structure

    So...don't correct me and say 'housewife'. LOL. There may have been times I thought I was tethered to it...but never married. I believe it is valid as an occupation. I put every bit as much, if not more, effort into what I do as anyone working 'outside the house' and really...
    Toby2day Toby2day 51-55, F 7 Responses Aug 12, 2009

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    I will say that when I was married

    and a stay at home mom, even though I was married to a man I wasn't truly in love with it was the most fulfilling and best job I ever had. I felt such a sense of nurturing, love and caring. Oh sure it wasn't all roses and candy. I could tell you stories. And I am sure I will in...
    bowchickawowow bowchickawowow 41-45, F Apr 6

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    What About

    homewreckers?..................
    righteouschica righteouschica 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 22, 2012

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    Hard Work!

    I did a (very, very) brief stint as a housekeeper.  That crap's effing hard!  Keeping a "perfect" house and doing all the crazy little stuff that pops out of every corner?  No effing way.  It's hard!  And I didn't do all the stuff a homemaker does on a daily basis, either...
    Plaid Plaid 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 16, 2011

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    Why I'm A Homemaker

    I've made this choice because it makes my family and I happy. I get to follow my dreams of staying home and in doing so my husband doesn't have to worry about things at home. He has the time to focus on his career and going to school to get his degree. I also have the time to...
    TastyHousewife TastyHousewife 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 10, 2013

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    Hello...

    Well I'm a househusband for 22 yrs. And I very much like and enjoy my job..yes it is a real job..I cook, clean, do laundry etc..
    scott49 scott49 46-50, M 3 Responses Jan 30, 2013

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    My best friend is a home maker,

    and although I looked down upon her decision at times I can also understand why she chose to stay at home. I can always see the side of bringing in two checks and becoming more financially stable. I and my husband make just a little more than the poverty line with a 10 month old...
    aburns aburns 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 11, 2014

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    My 2 Cents On Being A Homemaker

    I'm a proponent of homemaking as a perfectly valid occupation. If the family can afford it, why the heck not? If I had a choice I would want to serve my family and improve the quality of their lives by working from home. That's not to say that they can't pick up after themselves...
    tessa4ever tessa4ever 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 4, 2013

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    How Much Would You Pay

    For someone to cook your meals, wash, dry, fold and/or iron your clothes, make your bed, drop off and pick up your items from the dry cleaner, go grocery shopping, buy your clothes, clean your house, be your personal assistant, keep your calendar of events, have your children...
    TheBlackBuck TheBlackBuck 46-50, M 5 Responses Sep 8, 2011

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    Problem

    I have a problem with the stigma that seems to come with being a homemaker these days. What in the world is wrong with staying at home to care for your domain and your children? To me, it seems like the most noble career of all. The children are our future, and investing in...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 12, 2010

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    From my last post "I am still learning being a

    housewife" I shared that I really want to be a housewife. I shared this with some friends and they kind of looked down on my for it and it made me feel like less of a person. I do think they had good points like "I couldn't depend on a man" and "If you divorce then you won't...
    Lipsofred Lipsofred 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 4, 2014

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    Again

    My mom was (is...) a homemaker. She didn't want to put her children in daycare. Plus, my dad worked 24 hour shifts so that would have been a hard schedule to work around. It worked out for all of us and she enjoyed it a lot. There's nothing wrong with being a stay at home mom or...
    kleisse kleisse 22-25, F Apr 29, 2009

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    I Want This Job... For A While

    Domestic Engineer : Hardest job; lowest paid! I think it's the hardest job because everyone else in the family gets to taking advantage of the house wife/mom. The house should be clean, polished, laundry done and put away, all rooms organized and picked up, full coarse meals...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 5 Responses Jul 11, 2013

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    Soon-to-be Housewife

    I'm an engaged lady now and will be marrying in June. My fiancee is very old fashioned and insists that his wife will not work outside the home. I am in total agreement and cannot wait to be a full time traditional housewife and (hopefully soon) say-at-home mom. I really do...
    MrsAshleyR MrsAshleyR 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 22, 2013

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    It is really the only thing I have ever dreamed

    of becoming, being a mother and wife being a "homemaker". I talk to many girls my age and they all plan on going to college after high school but I have never really seriously thought about that.
    doodlebug224 doodlebug224 18-21, F 18 Responses Feb 8

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    It Would Be Nice

    I would love to be a homemaker one day. I would really prefer it over having a job. I would even love to home school my children because I believe public (and private) schools are full of ****. The only thing that sucks is the fact that I can't cook (but I am learning :P). Sadly...
    righteouschica righteouschica 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 22, 2012

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    Yes But

        i i believe that being a homemaker is a valid job but    you have to do the part . clean house , laundry , grocery shopping , taking care of the kids .  that is a job of its own .
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 6, 2009

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    Old Fashioned

    I was born in 1961 and raised in the deep south.  I have seen many changes in our country.  One of the changes that I've watched and not agreed with has been the women’s movement. I have no issues with the core beliefs that began the movement way back to move...
    Grits4life Grits4life 46-50, F 5 Responses Feb 15, 2009

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    My Wife Is A Homemaker :)

    My wife is a stay at home mom and i am happy for it. I always wanted to have it this way, and now it is and it is hard for both of us but it is so much less stressful now that at last one of us doesn't have to work for some a-hole who thinks he is something special because he can...
    KoteRahl KoteRahl 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 14, 2013

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    Burn Out

    I completely believe that being a homemaker is valid and respectful. I love my life and lifestyle. But I am just so burned out right now. I don't enjoy any of the cooking or cleaning anymore. I used to, I really did. But I lost the joy somewhere along the road. Every day is...
    pjdbnd pjdbnd 36-40, F 5 Responses May 24, 2013

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    This is a full time occupation

    for anyone that has children . I have seen over the years what my wife has had to do for my kids and even me even when I was working fulltime and long hours . This is the same for single parents and full time carers who are caring for family members . My mrs typical day started...
    nakednudist nakednudist 46-50, M Apr 12

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    I volunteer a few hours a day,

    a couple days a week at our church but only when our kids are in school. I have always felt it is much more important to be home when they get out of school and a clean, warm home for my husband to come home to after work. With a hot meal waiting of course.
    akaLauraWhitmer akaLauraWhitmer 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 20

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    Not just "perfectly valid"

    but one which any woman should be proud of and proud to aspire to. It is not easy to run a home and bring up children, it is not a soft option and it is not a sign of weakness or lack of ambition.
    MrsSThomas MrsSThomas 36-40, F 8 Responses Feb 18

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    Its Really The Only Valid Occupation

    Making a home for your family is really the only valid occupation for men or women. As late as 1900 about 90% of American families worked a family farm with both parents sharing work of the family. About 90% of the rest worked in a family shop with the family home behind or...
    DozerDan DozerDan 66-70, M May 7, 2013

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    As a Man Or a Woman

    I have heard that it can sometimes cause a strain on the relationship, though. Also, I guess I should make it clear that I never once in my life believed that a woman's function is to be a home maker. I think a man can do the job just as nicely. I think it could be a good life...
    NaomiZero NaomiZero 26-30, F 9 Responses Apr 28, 2009

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    My Two Cents, Ladies...

    Homemakers; valid and respected in the community...and in many circles, revered. I have also found that, as a homemaker, I am more able to assist other women in a pinch (babysitting, baking the cake, getting mail or watering plants when they are away, picking kids up, etc...
    laserx laserx 46-50, F 4 Responses Jul 11, 2012

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    I think that Homemaker

    and Mom are great jobs. I just wish there was a better way to make it work now a days.
    ChloeGenovar ChloeGenovar 22-25, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    Thats All I Ever Wanted

    I guess to have beliefs like we do you have to have some sort of old fashioned brain, well i do and i think its perfectly okay. Unfortunately all the men I got with either had some sort of gender confusion or were just plain lazy because there was no way that was going to...
    hrtbrkn1 hrtbrkn1 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 21, 2010

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    I known all my life that

    when I'm grown and married my job will be a wife and mother. A "homemaker" as they its put. Does this mean I have no goals or ambitions? absolutely not I plan on going to college and getting a degree in education and hopefully teach after my kids are grown and married...
    sassygirl15 sassygirl15 13-15, F Mar 18

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    The idea that everybody has the right to be

    employed regardless of gender on equal conditions with equal pay is a most important thing and an advance in how women are treated. The one thing I find so troubling is that in focusing on this right, we ignore the other right which is the right to work doing whatever we feel...
    Joanne0chan Joanne0chan 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 1

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