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I Blame Myself For Things Gone Wrong

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    He Died

    My dad died a year ago, and I sometimes feel like it's partially my fault. It started when he had the stroke in September. My mom had went to check on him in their room, and saw that he'd fallen out of bed and wasn't acting right. I went in to see, and realized it was likely a...
    SagesBabie SagesBabie 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 16, 2009

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    Gone Wrong

    If it is my fault, then I will blame myself.  If it is not my fault, I will not.
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F Sep 30, 2011

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    Where Did I Go Wrong In Life?

    hello please hear me out please.where do i start this is tough... ok I am 43 Male i live in Britain.I live with my Mother and her boyfriend who drive me mad (she is 63 i love her)but we clash and old people do become annoying yes?(they love life) i hate every minute of mine.I am...
    defoekeane defoekeane 36-40, M 2 Responses Apr 2, 2013

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    Idk.

    He said it's not my fault. I said it was. It's all because of my ****** up mind and my over emotional responses to absolutely everything. He said it's his fault. I said it wasn't.   He said no matter what it's not me this time. That's the one thing he wanted me to know...
    cookiecakes cookiecakes 18-21, F Oct 11, 2009

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    My Friend

    My best friend has had a lot happen to her in the last few years and I've managed to blame myself for a whole lot of it. She was in a snowboarding accident a few years ago. I was the one who convinced her to go snowboarding that day. She and her boyfriend of 2 years reached a...
    BleedingMascara BleedingMascara 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 15, 2008

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    I Was Abused......... Until I Reached The Bed

    I couldnt stop the abuse on myself inflicted by my family, and when things fell apart i blamed myself!
    HelenParis HelenParis 22-25 Mar 8, 2012

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    Life Fell Apart...

    April 1st 2007 - My life came crashing down around me.  My other half was taken away from me.  My husband was an immigrant from England.  He was brought over when he was 9 years old.  His family never got him his paperwork.  So when we married, I filed...
    IrishEyes IrishEyes 21-25, F 4 Responses Sep 20, 2007

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    Why Can't I Be Better?

    I had a patient.  He was very ill, needy, rude, demanding, pushy, childish and immature, and generally sucked the life out of me anytime I had to deal with him.  He died today.  After a meeting with him and his son, he left, and by the time he got home he was in such severe...
    cedricsmom cedricsmom 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 7, 2011

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    I Think Everything Is My Fault And Blame Myself For Everything

    I blame myself for anything that goes on around me, or that happens to the people around me. my dad left mom's favorite dish hanging off the table, the cat nocked it over, it broke, it was my cat must be my fault, and instantly i start shaking and wondering what the punishment...
    stoiccloset stoiccloset 18-21 1 Response Oct 11, 2009

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    Life Gone Wrong

    I feel somtimes the way my life has turned out is my fault if I would of went school when I was 18 instead of getting involved in things I should have not.  I was lost at 18.  Now I'm a mom with 2 amazing wonderful children 5 and 6 I feel like i'm letting them down...
    Babygirl1977 Babygirl1977 26-30, F Jan 8, 2010

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    The Chains Of Habit Are Generally Too Small To Be Felt Until They Are Too Strong To Be Broken

    Blame…. It is such an ugly word, yet I get blame piled on top of me on a daily basis. If I were to be able to make it through an entire day without being faulted for someone else’s problem, I do not know if I would even recognize my own life. Having the finger...
    TypicalPisces TypicalPisces 31-35, F Dec 7, 2010

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    I Almost Lost My Arm From A Hena

    I went to Hong Kong Summer of 2012 for vacation as I've always loved my heritage and culture as a Chinese American. I spent the next 2 months staying with extended relatives and living with them. I spent everyday observing and interacting with people who live their lives vastly...
    bfung bfung 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 22, 2013

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    Even Though I Know I Didn't Do It.

    It's so hard to get past the guilt of things gone wrong. Today I feel like I ruined everyones day....I asked to be left alone for a bit....that I just needed some space to deal....and he snapped at me and everyone else. He smashed the door and porch gate...he put a hole in the...
    luckypickle luckypickle 26-30 32 Responses Nov 15, 2009

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    Because Everybody Blames Me

    Anything that happens, that goes wrong, or anything. I get the blame. Even if I wasn't involved I get the blame. I do all the frikken hard work and I still get the blame! It's so annoying and frustrating. But now when something goes wrong I blame myself, even if I didn't do, I...
    ImOkayNow ImOkayNow 16-17, F Oct 30, 2011

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    "my Colonscopy"

    A colonscopy is a piece of cake. Mmmmmmmmmmm,piece of cake. Im hungry, just kidding. I would have never jeopardized my colonscopy by introducing solids the day of Evacud to. Every dream, and i had many involved accidentally eating something i should'nt which meant ANYTHING. I did...
    Anto815 Anto815 46-50, F Apr 24, 2011

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    I Blame It All On Me

    i remember when i first went out with my ex it all went smooth till prob 3 weeks and then he tried to go to the next step i wasn't ready for that specially since hes brother was in the same room so i told him i have to go so i ran upstairs grabbed my bag and left after that he...
    meaglouait meaglouait 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 6, 2011

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    It's Not The Victims Fault.

    yet we all blame ourselves. what if i did this, or did that. screamed louder? resisted more? told sooner? told at all? cried more? begged more? pleaded more? ran? hid? fought back? fought at all? what did i do? what didnt i do? why did this happen? what wrong have i done? truth...
    monsterwithinme monsterwithinme 16-17, F Dec 20, 2011

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    I'm pissed at my self no one else.I am a big failure in life.I cant even accomplish half of the goals i set for my self,and i only had 3. I have missed my finale dead line .I look...
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    Put together all the tenderest love you know the deepest you have ever felt and the strongest that has ever been poured out upon you and heap upon it all the love of all the loving...
    dfries63 dfries63 46-50, M 6 Responses Jun 28

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    Well, on the bright side, he most likely isn't responsible for being nonexistent.
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    I could remind myself to do something, and I'll still forget to do it 😏
    BeccaK1 BeccaK1 16-17, F Jun 30

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    I'm sad / disappointed my husband and I will never have a baby or move. I realized this today when I was looking through a house real estate book one said in a certain school...
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    gorgeoushobo gorgeoushobo 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 28

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    Canonomousjay Canonomousjay 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 28

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    sproetje sproetje 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    I grew up elsewhere and moved to the US a few years ago. While growing up, it was always my dream to move to the US and I had successfully done that! I have great family and...
    1dayloneliness 1dayloneliness 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 28

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    I Hate Myself Because Everyone seems to hate me and I seem to unconsciously sabotage everything good that happens in my life. I only seem to chase after people who hate me. But the...
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    I am 25 and when I found out I was pregnant, I cried, full of despair and fear. I instantly new what I had to do and instantly realised that I would never get to know my baby, that...
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    In Korean society a mother has considerable influence over her son's life. I am mother's oldest son and my life went well as long as I listened to her and complied with her wishes...
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