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I Build Walls Around My Heart

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    I have experienced heartbreak,

    backstabbing and dishonesty. I have been hurt so many times that I no longer open my heart to others. I am protective and cautious of who I let close to me. There comes a time in your life when you can no longer bear the pain from being hurt or backstabbed by the people you...
    Susana1985 Susana1985 26-30, F 2 Responses May 21

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    Had to Tall thick impenetrable walls.

    Been hurt too many times by the promise of love, the promise of forever, the promise of friendship, by hope. So I protected myself and stopped letting people in. Made it harder for people to get to know me. Stopped believing their words. It was rare for anyone to break down...
    sassyg1rl sassyg1rl 36-40, F Dec 14, 2013

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    Empty (Story 76)

    When my walls are up is when I'm empty. I feel absolutely nothing. Not love, not joy, not friendship, not excitement, not pain. Over the years I think I've learned not to internalize the anger and hurt that leads to a mental breakdown right after I explode into feeling it all at...
    LadyIndiscretion LadyIndiscretion 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 31, 2012

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    I Alienate Myself

    Ever since i lost my ama i never learned to love again (this being 10yrs later) . It sim one bad thing happens after the other,i have pushed my sistrs n bros away unwittingly koz im so scared of loosing ppl that i feel that "mybe if i dont get too close i wont lose them" . I...
    melassy melassy 18-21, F Nov 14, 2012

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    These walls were built

    for my protection to take your affection and run. I've tried to care but I'm surrounded my hearts there but you won't find it so move on...
    Missmonroe95 Missmonroe95 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 9

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    For

    For way to long I have build walls around my heart. I must say when you build those walls you miss out on the people that really care. And just want to help you Not judge you just help They have nothing but kind words for you . But you still try to keep them at arms length to...
    CMA1234 CMA1234 46-50, F 4 Responses Nov 3, 2011

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    I'm Alone....

    Shutting everyone out has its good points and its bad. Bad - your alone and you can't pretend to yourself that you do have a life. You become a like a hermit, curl up into your self forget how to communicate with others, forget how to put your self out there. You become a lesser...
    Jb4321 Jb4321 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 10, 2013

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    I Allowed One Brick To Be Removed And I'll Regret It For The Rest Of My Life!

    My husband and I are going through a difficult time right now. We have barely talked in months and two nights ago we decided to talk and try to work it out. So as Im crying and telling him I feel lonely and abandoned by him because he works so much, I actually thought he was...
    sydvin sydvin 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 4, 2012

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    I've always built walls around my heart

    but a lot of it is because I've gone through so much. So much happened when I was younger so I never really let anyone in, and now I found the one person who has opened up to me and slowly started breaking through some of my wall but in too scared to let him completely in. My...
    Ldylvlylcks2002 Ldylvlylcks2002 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 13

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    Walls: Everyone has them,

    though some have more than others. Some build layers upon layers around themselves. The outermost layer is usually two feet of steel standing hundreds of feet high. It takes bravery for anyone to climb them, audacity for them to break them down. It takes even more effort for...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 2

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    We Fill These Empty Spaces

    For a long time I've always felt like I was lost. I still kind of am. Its the kind of lost where you feel like you're going somewhere but you don't really know where you're going. You just keep going in a circle not really moving forwards, but not really backwards either. You...
    ametrain ametrain 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 19, 2010

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    I Dont Let Anyone In Unless I Trust You

    Because im afraid i might get hurt again :(
    whatsmynameohnana whatsmynameohnana 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 6, 2013

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    Walls made of steel. No one can get in

    or out of it. People try but good luck with that lol
    XxBellabixtch49xX XxBellabixtch49xX 13-15, F 3 Responses May 17

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    I recently realized that I'm actually quite

    guarded and that I have been putting up some walls around myself. I realized that not only do they keep others from knowing me, but they've also been keeping myself from reaching out to others who I want to help. I want to change that.
    almaera almaera 18-21, F May 20

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    A Story Of Me

    Hmm.... Where should I start this..?Okay... I was living in such a secure and safe place. I have high and thick grey wall made of the hardest stone in the world (well, at least on my own world) and an invisible shell to protect me. I have them around me, the wall as the frontier...
    AllyC89 AllyC89 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 25, 2011

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    Needs Love Before Death

    Turned down once more..... By a guy who said he loved me and would be there. But yes he broke me down to where it's hard to get up once more. The feeling of never wanting to love again comes back into play. The feeling of never wanting to leave your room or bed. Many feel this...
    lonelyangel3321 lonelyangel3321 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    Another Brick In The Wall

    Trying to learn to deal with hurt that stems from my spouses affair.I just like so many others am looking for answers.How do I keep this kind of pain from ever coming into my heart again? I found a solution, but not the solution.Either way I feel safe.I have constructed a fortess...
    Waymor Waymor 46-50, M 4 Responses Nov 13, 2012

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    Hold My Heart Close

    I agree totally to building walls around the heart. I do the same thing because its like I am a very heartfelt person. I try to help and love people and keep their information feelings safe but I feel like because I am very private and closed in when I finally open up about...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Aug 20, 2012

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    What A Boyfriend...

    Ok so I recently got out of a relationship with this guy. It wasn't a bad relationship, but it also wasn't a good one. So after I found out I was single a couple days AFTER he posted it on Facebook (childish) I called him nd a discussion about it went on for about two or three...
    OnlyGirlOutThere OnlyGirlOutThere 13-15, F Jun 7, 2013

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    But They're the Wrong Ones

    I do build walls around my heart... lots of them...  they are made of all sorts of materials.  Someone hurts me, I build a wall against them.  Someone betrays me, there is another wall...but the walls that go up only seem to shut out those that I really want to...
    dyin2live dyin2live 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 10, 2008

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    I've Again.....

    I built walls around my heart a while ago, when I got out of a really bad relationship. I would not let anyone in. I would not open myself up to that kind of pain, but overtime, someone started to knock those walls down, and he got into my heart, and I fell for him, HARD.....and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 18, 2010

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    And I Just Made The Last Wall Out Of Cement

    It's going to take a lot to get in next time.  I think I made it to easy, I let people in to soon and loved them to much. I've always wore my heart on my sleeve and  I used to think it was a good thing, but I've learned if you're not smart about it it's dangerous. Not everyone...
    GeminiAngel GeminiAngel 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 28, 2011

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    Walls....

    I build walls around my heart because its been shattered so many times that i cant handle another shattered heart.Ive been in alot of bad relationships and thats why i always say my heart will never heal. Every guy that ive been with has broke it,and not just by breakin up wit me...
    demonicsangel2011 demonicsangel2011 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 29, 2011

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    I Build Walls Around My Heart, But Mines Always Have Doors And Windows

    I was always that type of girl which guys never felt attracted to... Till I got out of mine teenage years. Creating ''walls'' around my heart always prevented me of getting it broken and made it hard to trust other people. I decided that, the best way to not get my heart broken...
    kady4e kady4e 22-25, F May 16, 2012

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    How Do I Take Down This Ever So Growing Wall...

    I`m a good person, just have the wrong taste in women, God only knows its the story of my life...especially recently...I fell in love with a girl who was my friend, well she claims shes still my friend...I had already built a wall around my heart and slowly it came down...only to...
    1986Scott 1986Scott 22-25, M Nov 25, 2012

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    I Don'T Want To Be This Way

    I want to be more open. I would like to be able to trust and express my feelings. I would love to give 100% of myself to someone. I just can't. I always hold back a little, hesitate, act distant and cool. The thing is, I'm not a distant cold person at all. It just takes a while...
    455cargirl 455cargirl 36-40, F Mar 31, 2013

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    Love Lockdown

    I have a tendancy to be a little too nice. Especially when I was in high school, I would just extend my hand to anyone who needed it. I wouldn't even think of the reprecussions, I would never think if this person had other intentions. But then I met this one particular person who...
    emmie92 emmie92 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 26, 2011

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    Self Protection

    When we are young its so easy to fall in love. As we lose loved ones, or as they leave us we become protective. We build a wall to protect our hearts from being broken. But we are just a shell without someone to share our lives with Just hope there is a chink in the armor we...
    mark247 mark247 41-45, M 5 Responses Apr 20, 2011

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    Try!

    Only b/c I want to know that I matter enough for you to break through them.
    GoneCrazyBBL GoneCrazyBBL 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 2, 2008

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    Walls

    I think thats pretty normal for people who have been hurt a lot in life. Letting people in after experiencing heart break is something that is scary to many people. What makes it worse, is often, our emotions are so raw from being hurt so many times, that when we finally do let...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Nov 13, 2012

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    Am Never Ever...

    I am came from ..... what ever i don't care, but i never ever hart my self again. that is why am the l only one close in my self. she is.....!
    bretrue bretrue 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 22, 2012

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    I've Been Hurt So Many Times

    i've been hurt so many times, and to prevent that i shyed away from society and i put up walls not only around my heart, but around myself. for a while my walls were slowly coming down, but now, i think they just might be up for good.
    musicality musicality 18-21, F 13 Responses Mar 2, 2008

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    I'm scared to be myself.

    I'm always adapting to other people. Sometimes because I'm insecure in myself I go overboard on the ego. I'm really saying please notice that I'm not a failure. I never admit any of this out loud because I might make it true. I hope by posting things like this here I can heal...
    CherryWildepie CherryWildepie 26-30, F May 17

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    Yes.. I build walls around my heart.

    . Some of my friends said that I always too hard to get close to.. It's not because I don't like to have friends or boyfriend, it's just I always get scared of getting hurt.. Sometimes I feel so alone.. But I get used to it.. I don't know until when I could finally break my...
    heartandbrain heartandbrain 26-30, F 1 Response May 8

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    The Distance

    I don't just build walls around my heart..I build cities. Once you've proven you could hurt me I shut down, shut off, and the buildings rise. My emotions will never quite be the same. Once those buildings are up good luck ever finding your way back through them to my heart...
    jeslisn jeslisn 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 29, 2013

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    I Used Too

      I had walls, guards and shields built around my heart to avoid getting hurt. It started when my dad left and over the years the walls & etc got larger and stronger. I never let anyone close enough to hurt me but then I ended up feeling really lonely. When I met my...
    simplicityx simplicityx 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 19, 2009

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    More of An Ancient Emperor

     An ancient Chinese emperor sits on his throne after his daily security check. His fortress is build like a labyrinth, littered with infantry highly trained swordsmen’s, units of Calvary, and human walls of archers and crossbowmen.  The dead ends are equipped with...
    Azoru Azoru 26-30 4 Responses Apr 19, 2009

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    How Do You Avoid Building a Wall Around Your Heart?

    I was upset by the wall you kept up against me. You knew you had built it and told me and you said you could not help it. What I denied of myself was the wall I had built against you. You had shared so much of what you want from me, but I was afraid to walk that path too far. I...
    tinymind tinymind 41-45, M Jun 9, 2013

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    KEEP OUT Sign...

    Has been posted on the wall. Follow the sign's direction and nobody gets hurt.
    TheGuRoo TheGuRoo 31-35 3 Responses Aug 19, 2013

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    Sadly...I Do

    been denying this to myself and been trying to escape this from the notice of others, yet i know deep down inside me that "yes, i do build walls around my heart" and "yes, it's because i'm scared"
    micz521 micz521 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 10, 2013

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    Together

    I'm gonna be here for you baby And I'll keep my word Speak the language in a voice that you have never heard And I wanna die in your arms In a cabin by a meadow where the wild bees swarm And I'm gonna love you like nobody loves you And I'll earn your trust making memories of us I...
    JacobSky JacobSky 18-21, T 1 Response Apr 27, 2013

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    I don't let very many people get close to me.

    I guess it's from the experience of being hurt so many times. The people who I let in need to be gentle. I have wounds there from the past that I don't new to open again. If i do let you in then please be great full. You lucky.
    mickey123xp mickey123xp 13-15, F May 20

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    Slowly Coming Down

    Over the years I slowly built up the walls around my heart. Only a few times have I let someone chip away small pieces. Unfortunately, I end up having to patch the wall up again and again. Recently, I let someone completely tear the wall down. The whole situation has been...
    brokenspirit85 brokenspirit85 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 29, 2013

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    High Security Clearance.

    Each experience I have been through in my life has only verified that my heart needs to be guarded. Through time it seems as though my heart is in a high security prison. A prison? yes, because even when I want to show someone my heart, it's still incredibly guarded, I can't...
    angeldancer angeldancer 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 20, 2012

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    Sure I Do!!

    I have always put up walls around my heart. Fear of losing love, fear of getting hurt ...we all have fears right?I freely admit, I have walls. Anyone who knows me, knows this about me. I have to truly trust you to let you into my heart. Some may think that's not a good thing but...
    snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002 46-50, F 9 Responses Feb 27, 2011

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    Too Afraid To Look

    I build walls around my heart. I am afraid of what people will find there, even though I think I'm mostly okay with all I've done. I want to tear the walls down so bad, but don't know how. I don't think I even know what's behind them anymore, I'm too afraid to look. It's too...
    royalmint royalmint 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 25, 2013

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    I Must Build The Walls

    in my 35 years i have seen my people come and go out of my life and with each one they have managed to take a piece of my heart or break it in someway. nowadays i come off a lil bitchy to keep people away for my own good. now my circle of people is very small but the ones in i...
    datbeech44 datbeech44 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 6, 2011

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    Pader

    Hmmm finally, I found a group which I think this story fits in. (People who read my story about closing my door for another relationship often advise me not to do it. Not to surrender etc. and always look forward that someone will come. I appreciate their concern and I thank...
    riffraffmonster riffraffmonster 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 22, 2012

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    My Heart Was So Open And Trusting

    I loved easily and was so trusting forgave alot but each time my heart was wounded a little piece of me died. I didn't know what else to do but eventually build a wall and still I would react with deep sadness and loneliness and so build a thicker wall. It took me 2 years to...
    mpde mpde 56-60, F 3 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    I hate that feeling where you feel like you cant let yourself get too close to people..you hold yourself back a bit.. Let them in at times but never quite let yourself all the way...
    sunpea sunpea 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 5

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    WingsofTime WingsofTime 22-25, F Oct 10

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    No one ever tore down my walls like that, no one ever made me feel so loved. No one ever touched me like you did. And no one ruined me as beutifully as you. You broke into my heart...
    ColourfulDreams ColourfulDreams 13-15, F Oct 10