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I Can Forgive, But Not Forget

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 414 People

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    Having a lot of trouble with forgiveness right now. He moved here to take care of me. I held back on a lot of our plans...waiting for a better time, waiting, waiting. Changing the subject... flitting along blissfully. Then came the day where we argued. We both knew that as...
    Tzech Tzech 46-50, F 1 Response Dec 9, 2009

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    Forgiveness Is Divine; Forgetting Is Dense

    Learned this lesson the hard way with two people in my life. One was a best friend (supposedly, huh??) that kept taking advantage of me, including stealing my money. I made excuses for her for the longest , and each time didn't hold her accountable for the actions. I "...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 11 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    My step-dad was horribly abusiveIm not gonna

    roar around in the details, but just for a grasp, i have been beaten to the point where i couldn't see out my eyes, ive seen this disgusting man pick up his 3 year old son by the neck, i have seen my mom beaten to oblivion...there's more, and now that ive had time to think it...
    1Freeyourself1 1Freeyourself1 18-21, M Jan 10, 2014

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    I'm Trying Hard to Forgive Someone

    There's someone in my life that has betrayed me a few times and I think I have forgiven her but I haven't forgotten and our relationship is not the same.  How do you trust someone who has betrayed you?   By this I mean everything I had confided in her she used...
    tenderheart08 tenderheart08 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 24, 2008

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    It's So Easy, But Yet So Hard

    Why is it so easy to forgive, but yet, so hard to forget.....  I really need to work on not holding the past over peoples' heads after I have forgiven them.  It's almost as if, that were my way of coping with what happened, by making them feel bad, or keep bringing it...
    sarboo sarboo 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 27, 2007

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    My Wife And Me

    some days ago was our first anniversary that I, unfortunately, celebrated it alone far away of my wife. I tired to share my celebration with her over the internet as she was at her parents in a different country of mine. But, it didn't work actually. We married in a special...
    hrk79 hrk79 31-35, M Nov 27, 2013

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    So my boyfriend did something

    that hurt me and betrayed my trust and now he is begging me to forgive him. I do believe he is sorry and won't do it again but I can't forget what he did and I can't trust him now. How can I trust him again?
    PrettyPrincess23 PrettyPrincess23 18-21, F May 19

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    I Forgive But Rarely Do I Forget

    I am a very forgiving person. I try my best to treat others the way I would like to be treated. I dislike when people hurt you and figure everything is just going to be ok. I can't stand that. Its not going to be ok. There are going to be fights and arguements unless the person a...
    MiseducatedChik MiseducatedChik 26-30, F Jul 10, 2008

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    Forgive and Forget My Hinnie!

    Recenty, my best friend and I ended a 10 friendship over something she thought I did,, but I didnt.  She never even approched me on it,, just assumed it was me.  A call was made to Family Services re: her daughter and grandson.  My "friend" thought I...
    justANNIE justANNIE 46-50, F Jul 10, 2008

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    My best friend ganged up with the meanest girl

    in my school and made a YouTube video calling me a Lesbian with my other best friend I have forgiven her but I am no longer her friend and I can't forget all the crying and suffering I went through it still hurts
    Angel2345 Angel2345 13-15, F Jun 29, 2014

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    A Rule I Live By

     i'll forgive someone the first time its the whole shame on you shame on me ... and i learn from my mistakes ... im not gonna let someone continue to treat me bad ...  i cant afford the heartache ... or the time that would be invested in it ...its not that im not gonna...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 1, 2008

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    I'm not an elephant but I never forget!

    Where am I? What are we doing here? What is the meaning of life?
    Paca24 Paca24 18-21, F Jul 14, 2014

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    What To Do :/

    I have no problem in forgiving this person and the mistake they have done but I have the hardest problem in forgetting. I feel as if I forget it I won't have this lump in my throat when I listen to songs I connected to them or when I just think about them. But if I don't forget I...
    lightning58 lightning58 18-21, T 2 Responses Oct 3, 2013

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    Never Forget

    I Use to Forgive and Forget. But I have learned by Forgetting you Allow The People to Do what they do Constantly. I Can Forgive But Never Forget. I can't allow anyone to Hurt me again. So If I say I Forgive you don't expect me to To Befriend again.
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F Aug 2, 2008

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    Being Dismissed

    My daughter's husband dismissed me from HIS property, for me to never set foot there again, and she went along with it. (1991) I cannot forget that, as I lost her and 2 grandchildren, never knowing my third grandchild. He owed me $55,000.00, so I sued him, garnished his wages...
    britelite britelite 41-45, F Aug 7, 2009

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    There are some things that you can't forget...no matter how much you want to, you just can't. The most I can do is forgive, and, I have.
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21 22-25, F Aug 22, 2008

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    Forgive, Not Forget

    I can forgive someone for something, no matter how much they hurt me, but I can not and will not ever forget what they did to hurt me and wrong me. I will be cautious and look back to what they did before, before I will trust them in that same area in my life again. I think you...
    Sweetheartxoxo Sweetheartxoxo 26-30, F May 27, 2008

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    Some Things Are Never Forgotten

    One of the biggest mysteries in my life as a man has to do with forgive and forget.  Why are things brought up from 20 years ago still:?  I believe this is a real difference between men and women.
    vtom vtom 46-50, M 1 Response Oct 31, 2008

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    Just call me Moby! We all make mistakes

    and bad choices, which aren't meant maliciously. So why not forgive. It's when these happen repeatedly that this excuse becomes thinner and thinner, until trust's fabric is broken irreparably.
    PeterSp8 PeterSp8 41-45, M Jun 11

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    Complete Loss of Trust.

    about a year and a half ago, my current boyfriend cheated on me. he goes to camp every summer, and we don't get to see each other much, so i didn't mind if he like kissed a girl or whatever. but that isn't what he did. he told this girl, i was going to live in germany for a year...
    musicality musicality 18-21, F Feb 10, 2008

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    Darn, My Memory

    I hate the saying "forgive and forget." If we could just forget then there would be no reason to forgive. Of course I know that this isn't a term meant to be taken so literally, but I still dislike it all the same.  In all seriousness though, even though I am...
    brwneyedbeauty brwneyedbeauty 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 22, 2008

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    Yep

    I can forgive someone for something, no matter how much they hurt me, but I can not and will not ever forget what they did to hurt me and wrong me. I will be cautious and look back to what they did before, before I will trust them in that same area in my life again.
    RealityTVJunkie RealityTVJunkie 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 14, 2009

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    Forgiving may be easy.

    ..not forgetting...
    Brunette4U Brunette4U 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 16

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    How Do you Forgive But Never Forget? That Is The Question

    I have been with my fiancé for almost 4 years and we knew each other for 10 years. To make a long story short, I had got out of a 11 years relationship that had no communication or appreciation until I started dating my fiancé. He was everything that my ex wasn't and wanted. I...
    Babyshmily18 Babyshmily18 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 21, 2012

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    For two years I have lived in a sexless marriage. For two years I've made excuses in my head for the way he acted. It all ended today. I'm 45 and he was my high school sweetheart...
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    Please, please forgive me, But I won't be home again. Maybe someday you'll look up, And, barely conscious, you'll say to no one: "Isn't something missing?" You won't cry for my...
    warriorshe4489 warriorshe4489 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I act very mature and can be serious, but I love just lounging around on the weekends, watching cartoons. Or jumping on my bed, eating cereals like Lucky Charms, or just acting...
    waywardgirl98 waywardgirl98 16-17, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I try my best to keep things at peace. As much as possible, I want everyone happy. I adjust to everyone's needs. I often put their needs before mine. But there are some instances...
    ayamesan16 ayamesan16 22-25, F Aug 22

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    I swear I can hear ppl. thoughts... I will say more like them talking to me! Just with no vocal sounds. Also then can hear me, but it seems like its only with ppl I've truly had...
    AJSandy AJSandy 31-35, M Aug 22

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    My past makes me who I am today. I have had many awful experiences occur throughout my life, and while I haven't forgiven all of those involved, I have forgiven many. Yet I'm told...
    GlitterCheeks GlitterCheeks 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    I hate my memory. I remember almost everything which makes my life miserable. I easily forgive people but it's impossible for me to forget their wrongdoings
    minime159 minime159 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 21

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    why is it so easy for me to forgive others but I haven't been able to forgive myself? It's as if I should have known better. I'm still striving for myself to be perfect and I keep...
    brknsilence79 brknsilence79 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 21

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    I forgive you. How many times should I have to say that to one person? When will you understand the concept of unconditional love? You are imperfectly perfect and flawlessly...
    Nikolasmom Nikolasmom 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 21

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    The old saggy ***** had apologized via text message. It was random at like nine at night when I got the message from it. It wrote an incredibly huge paragraph apologizing and...
    CharleeLuv CharleeLuv 18-21, F 8 Responses Aug 21

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    Sometimes I act like I can stand alone but in reality all I really need is a best friend to vent with when im feeling down and out. 😔
    sunshineh13 sunshineh13 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 20

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    "Forgive me my trespasses as I forgive those who trespass against me" ... Prayer usually comforts me but it scares me crapless today since I'm still angry and not ready to let it...
    VeryBear VeryBear 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 19

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