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I Can Forgive, But Not Forget

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    Forgive, Not Forget

    I can forgive someone for something, no matter how much they hurt me, but I can not and will not ever forget what they did to hurt me and wrong me. I will be cautious and look back to what they did before, before I will trust them in that same area in my life again. I think you...
    Sweetheartxoxo Sweetheartxoxo 26-30, F May 27, 2008

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    I Forgive But Rarely Do I Forget

    I am a very forgiving person. I try my best to treat others the way I would like to be treated. I dislike when people hurt you and figure everything is just going to be ok. I can't stand that. Its not going to be ok. There are going to be fights and arguements unless the person a...
    MiseducatedChik MiseducatedChik 26-30, F Jul 10, 2008

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    Forgive and Forget My Hinnie!

    Recenty, my best friend and I ended a 10 friendship over something she thought I did,, but I didnt.  She never even approched me on it,, just assumed it was me.  A call was made to Family Services re: her daughter and grandson.  My "friend" thought I...
    justANNIE justANNIE 46-50, F Jul 10, 2008

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    Me First

    Having a lot of trouble with forgiveness right now. He moved here to take care of me. I held back on a lot of our plans...waiting for a better time, waiting, waiting. Changing the subject... flitting along blissfully. Then came the day where we argued. We both knew that as...
    Tzech Tzech 46-50, F 1 Response Dec 9, 2009

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    I'm not an elephant but I never forget!

    Where am I? What are we doing here? What is the meaning of life?
    Paca24 Paca24 18-21, F Jul 14, 2014

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    My best friend ganged up with the meanest girl

    in my school and made a YouTube video calling me a Lesbian with my other best friend I have forgiven her but I am no longer her friend and I can't forget all the crying and suffering I went through it still hurts
    Angel2345 Angel2345 13-15, F Jun 29, 2014

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    Never Forget

    I Use to Forgive and Forget. But I have learned by Forgetting you Allow The People to Do what they do Constantly. I Can Forgive But Never Forget. I can't allow anyone to Hurt me again. So If I say I Forgive you don't expect me to To Befriend again.
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F Aug 2, 2008

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    How Do you Forgive But Never Forget? That Is The Question

    I have been with my fiancé for almost 4 years and we knew each other for 10 years. To make a long story short, I had got out of a 11 years relationship that had no communication or appreciation until I started dating my fiancé. He was everything that my ex wasn't and wanted. I...
    Babyshmily18 Babyshmily18 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 21, 2012

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    Complete Loss of Trust.

    about a year and a half ago, my current boyfriend cheated on me. he goes to camp every summer, and we don't get to see each other much, so i didn't mind if he like kissed a girl or whatever. but that isn't what he did. he told this girl, i was going to live in germany for a year...
    musicality musicality 18-21, F Feb 10, 2008

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    Darn, My Memory

    I hate the saying "forgive and forget." If we could just forget then there would be no reason to forgive. Of course I know that this isn't a term meant to be taken so literally, but I still dislike it all the same.  In all seriousness though, even though I am...
    brwneyedbeauty brwneyedbeauty 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 22, 2008

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    Forgiveness Is Divine; Forgetting Is Dense

    Learned this lesson the hard way with two people in my life. One was a best friend (supposedly, huh??) that kept taking advantage of me, including stealing my money. I made excuses for her for the longest , and each time didn't hold her accountable for the actions. I "...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 11 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    It's So Easy, But Yet So Hard

    Why is it so easy to forgive, but yet, so hard to forget.....  I really need to work on not holding the past over peoples' heads after I have forgiven them.  It's almost as if, that were my way of coping with what happened, by making them feel bad, or keep bringing it...
    sarboo sarboo 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 27, 2007

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    Yep

    I can forgive someone for something, no matter how much they hurt me, but I can not and will not ever forget what they did to hurt me and wrong me. I will be cautious and look back to what they did before, before I will trust them in that same area in my life again.
    RealityTVJunkie RealityTVJunkie 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 14, 2009

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    My step-dad was horribly abusiveIm not gonna

    roar around in the details, but just for a grasp, i have been beaten to the point where i couldn't see out my eyes, ive seen this disgusting man pick up his 3 year old son by the neck, i have seen my mom beaten to oblivion...there's more, and now that ive had time to think it...
    1Freeyourself1 1Freeyourself1 18-21, M Jan 10, 2014

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    What To Do :/

    I have no problem in forgiving this person and the mistake they have done but I have the hardest problem in forgetting. I feel as if I forget it I won't have this lump in my throat when I listen to songs I connected to them or when I just think about them. But if I don't forget I...
    lightning58 lightning58 18-21, T 2 Responses Oct 3, 2013

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    Forgiving may be easy.

    ..not forgetting...
    Brunette4U Brunette4U 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 16

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    A Rule I Live By

     i'll forgive someone the first time its the whole shame on you shame on me ... and i learn from my mistakes ... im not gonna let someone continue to treat me bad ...  i cant afford the heartache ... or the time that would be invested in it ...its not that im not gonna...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 1, 2008

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    Some Things Are Never Forgotten

    One of the biggest mysteries in my life as a man has to do with forgive and forget.  Why are things brought up from 20 years ago still:?  I believe this is a real difference between men and women.
    vtom vtom 46-50, M 1 Response Oct 31, 2008

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    Being Dismissed

    My daughter's husband dismissed me from HIS property, for me to never set foot there again, and she went along with it. (1991) I cannot forget that, as I lost her and 2 grandchildren, never knowing my third grandchild. He owed me $55,000.00, so I sued him, garnished his wages...
    britelite britelite 41-45, F Aug 7, 2009

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    My Wife And Me

    some days ago was our first anniversary that I, unfortunately, celebrated it alone far away of my wife. I tired to share my celebration with her over the internet as she was at her parents in a different country of mine. But, it didn't work actually. We married in a special...
    hrk79 hrk79 31-35, M Nov 27, 2013

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    What I went through in last few years was a

    devastating blow to my confidence, to my ability to trust, however looking back from this vantage point it molded me to become stronger and taught me to never expect anything from others. If someone is genuine and kind it gives much more pleasure of you never expected it!!!!
    wayforward08 wayforward08 41-45, M 1 Response Feb 7

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    There are some things that you can't forget...no matter how much you want to, you just can't. The most I can do is forgive, and, I have.
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21 22-25, F Aug 22, 2008

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    I'm Trying Hard to Forgive Someone

    There's someone in my life that has betrayed me a few times and I think I have forgiven her but I haven't forgotten and our relationship is not the same.  How do you trust someone who has betrayed you?   By this I mean everything I had confided in her she used...
    tenderheart08 tenderheart08 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 24, 2008

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    The problem with me is, I have this weird thing in me which makes it possible for me to outlook or forgive people but I can never forget anything...literally! My earliest memory is...
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    And it's really terrible cause i want to forgive them, but after you break my trust I'm never the same again. Ill cry over you but I won't forgive you, even if you did anything for...
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    How can I trust my husband again? He said we are going to try to work it out but I know he is still in communication with his other woman. I feel so tortured. I can't just trust...
    purplefreespirit purplefreespirit 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 13

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    Jusjellybean Jusjellybean 18-21, F 10 Responses Apr 14

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    To start off, I've never really been that much of a social person. I've always had more of an introvert-like nature and I'm not fond about it. This nature of mine especially comes...
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    Why? Oh why? Why do I want things I can't have? There are things in front of me that I can easily get but why suffer wanting things I can't have.
    RedThatDescribesMe RedThatDescribesMe 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 28

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    Guys and girls can be friends but other people might get the wrong idea when they think about it. But guys can be girls with girls there's nothing wrong with that.
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    When I was a baby I was taken from my real family and abused by the people I lived with. I'm free from them now (in a sense) and I give all the glory to God. I just feel devastated...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F Mar 29

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    Am I wrong in feeling this way?! So it's my first weekend of not drinking because I have issues & am finally dealing with them & not in denial and its also a bank holiday, so...
    TrustxxIssues TrustxxIssues 31-35, F Apr 3

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    Okay so this is ridiculous, and after explaining the story I'm pretty sure I'll get called crazy. I started working at shoe store about 8 months ago, there are 4 managers and I...
    Pearlljjam Pearlljjam 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 6

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    You and me We used to be together Everyday together always I really feel That I'm losing my best friend I can't believe This could be the end It looks as though you're...
    angelaarron angelaarron 36-40, F Apr 7

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    Idk where to start. I guess I just feel like she doesn't have time for me anymore. And yes I'm highly aware she has her own life, but its something i want to be a part of. I know...
    DaveEatsToast DaveEatsToast 13-15, M Apr 8

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    I am shy, I have always been, and that's why I have always expressed myself better using written words than spoken ones. Spoken words can be caresses, but arrows too. I see...
    Danceofhours Danceofhours 41-45, M 2 Responses Apr 12

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    I can't stop crying, I'm listening to Sam Smith's -Lay Me Down and I can't help but think of my sister who died and it hurts so so much. I feel so much pain, that I'm so angry and...
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    Or could. Now i am unsure. The wealthy wrecked us all. And few can deny it. But they do. Vehemently. Like there will be some big reward. From the wealthy...
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    I Don't have any close friends. The closest friend I had stopped talking to me when his relationship got serious. I have two people in my life I can talk to, but neither I can be...
    MissRejected MissRejected 22-25, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    My friend's sister is crazy sometimes. She shows a lot of cleavage. Sometimes, I think she pulls her pants down on purpose so everyone can see her butt.
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    I am sad a lot. But I am not depressed. I can be sad but I don't want to kill my self! I love life I don't want to leave so soon I just have a lot of sad days!! So whatever I say...