I Can Forgive, But Not Forget

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    Forgive and Forget My Hinnie!

    Recenty, my best friend and I ended a 10 friendship over something she thought I did,, but I didnt.  She never even approched me on it,, just assumed it was me.  A call was made to Family Services re: her daughter and grandson.  My "friend" thought I...
    justANNIE justANNIE
    46-50, F
    Jul 10, 2008

    Yep

    I can forgive someone for something, no matter how much they hurt me, but I can not and will not ever forget what they did to hurt me and wrong me. I will be cautious and look back to what they did before, before I will trust them in that same area in my life again.
    RealityTVJunkie RealityTVJunkie
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 14, 2009

    Never Forget

    I Use to Forgive and Forget. But I have learned by Forgetting you Allow The People to Do what they do Constantly. I Can Forgive But Never Forget. I can't allow anyone to Hurt me again. So If I say I Forgive you don't expect me to To Befriend again.
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy
    18-21, F
    Aug 2, 2008

    I'm Trying Hard to Forgive Someone

    There's someone in my life that has betrayed me a few times and I think I have forgiven her but I haven't forgotten and our relationship is not the same.  How do you trust someone who has betrayed you?   By this I mean everything I had confided in her she used...
    tenderheart08 tenderheart08
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Mar 24, 2008

    I have a horrible mind

    if someone does something to me n ask for forgiveness I can forgive but I cannot forget that easily it haunts me!
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Oct 1, 2015

    My best friend ganged up with the meanest girl

    in my school and made a YouTube video calling me a Lesbian with my other best friend I have forgiven her but I am no longer her friend and I can't forget all the crying and suffering I went through it still hurts
    Angel2345 Angel2345
    13-15, F
    Jun 29, 2014

    I Forgive But Rarely Do I Forget

    I am a very forgiving person. I try my best to treat others the way I would like to be treated. I dislike when people hurt you and figure everything is just going to be ok. I can't stand that. Its not going to be ok. There are going to be fights and arguements unless the person a...
    MiseducatedChik MiseducatedChik
    26-30, F
    Jul 10, 2008

    My Wife And Me

    some days ago was our first anniversary that I, unfortunately, celebrated it alone far away of my wife. I tired to share my celebration with her over the internet as she was at her parents in a different country of mine. But, it didn't work actually. We married in a special...
    hrk79 hrk79
    36-40, M
    Nov 27, 2013

    Forgive, Not Forget

    I can forgive someone for something, no matter how much they hurt me, but I can not and will not ever forget what they did to hurt me and wrong me. I will be cautious and look back to what they did before, before I will trust them in that same area in my life again. I think you...
    Sweetheartxoxo Sweetheartxoxo
    26-30, F
    May 27, 2008

    Being Dismissed

    My daughter's husband dismissed me from HIS property, for me to never set foot there again, and she went along with it. (1991) I cannot forget that, as I lost her and 2 grandchildren, never knowing my third grandchild. He owed me $55,000.00, so I sued him, garnished his wages...
    britelite britelite
    41-45, F
    Aug 7, 2009

    A Rule I Live By

     i'll forgive someone the first time its the whole shame on you shame on me ... and i learn from my mistakes ... im not gonna let someone continue to treat me bad ...  i cant afford the heartache ... or the time that would be invested in it ...its not that im not gonna...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 1, 2008

    Me First

    Having a lot of trouble with forgiveness right now. He moved here to take care of me. I held back on a lot of our plans...waiting for a better time, waiting, waiting. Changing the subject... flitting along blissfully. Then came the day where we argued. We both knew that as...
    Tzech Tzech
    46-50, F
    1 Response Dec 9, 2009

    Forgiveness comes easily to me.

    Stab me in the kidney? "I forgive you." Steal my money? "I forgive you." Betray me and try to hurt me? "I forgive you." However, I'm not going to forget what you did. It's etched in my brain. Want me to forgive? Easy. But each of your stabs leaves a scar that cannot be erased...
    Fuzzies Fuzzies
    61-65, M
    Oct 26, 2015

    I'm not an elephant but I never forget!

    Where am I? What are we doing here? What is the meaning of life?
    Paca24 Paca24
    18-21, F
    Jul 14, 2014

    Some Things Are Never Forgotten

    One of the biggest mysteries in my life as a man has to do with forgive and forget.  Why are things brought up from 20 years ago still:?  I believe this is a real difference between men and women.
    vtom vtom
    46-50, M
    1 Response Oct 31, 2008

    My step-dad was horribly abusiveIm not gonna

    roar around in the details, but just for a grasp, i have been beaten to the point where i couldn't see out my eyes, ive seen this disgusting man pick up his 3 year old son by the neck, i have seen my mom beaten to oblivion...there's more, and now that ive had time to think it...
    1Freeyourself1 1Freeyourself1
    18-21, M
    Jan 10, 2014

    ...

    There are some things that you can't forget...no matter how much you want to, you just can't. The most I can do is forgive, and, I have.
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21
    22-25, F
    Aug 22, 2008

    How Do you Forgive But Never Forget? That Is The Question

    I have been with my fiancé for almost 4 years and we knew each other for 10 years. To make a long story short, I had got out of a 11 years relationship that had no communication or appreciation until I started dating my fiancé. He was everything that my ex wasn't and wanted. I...
    Babyshmily18 Babyshmily18
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 21, 2012

    It's So Easy, But Yet So Hard

    Why is it so easy to forgive, but yet, so hard to forget.....  I really need to work on not holding the past over peoples' heads after I have forgiven them.  It's almost as if, that were my way of coping with what happened, by making them feel bad, or keep bringing it...
    sarboo sarboo
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Aug 27, 2007

    Complete Loss of Trust.

    about a year and a half ago, my current boyfriend cheated on me. he goes to camp every summer, and we don't get to see each other much, so i didn't mind if he like kissed a girl or whatever. but that isn't what he did. he told this girl, i was going to live in germany for a year...
    musicality musicality
    18-21, F
    Feb 10, 2008

    I will always remember what happened

    and what almost came to be, but I forgave someone a few years ago. He was an old bully from middle school, but he asked me to forgive him and so I did.
    asert12345678 asert12345678
    31-35, M
    Jan 31

    Just call me Moby! We all make mistakes

    and bad choices, which aren't meant maliciously. So why not forgive. It's when these happen repeatedly that this excuse becomes thinner and thinner, until trust's fabric is broken irreparably.
    PeterSp8 PeterSp8
    46-50, M
    Jun 11, 2015

    What To Do :/

    I have no problem in forgiving this person and the mistake they have done but I have the hardest problem in forgetting. I feel as if I forget it I won't have this lump in my throat when I listen to songs I connected to them or when I just think about them. But if I don't forget I...
    lightning58 lightning58
    18-21, T
    2 Responses Oct 3, 2013

    part of my make up is to look back in pain

    and anger but never in hatred, keeping the door open for anyone from the past and giving them a fresh clean slate for the future. sadly, if they don't write a new script I need to show them the door
    roobs42 roobs42
    41-45, M
    1 Response Mar 5

    Darn, My Memory

    I hate the saying "forgive and forget." If we could just forget then there would be no reason to forgive. Of course I know that this isn't a term meant to be taken so literally, but I still dislike it all the same.  In all seriousness though, even though I am...
    brwneyedbeauty brwneyedbeauty
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Oct 22, 2008

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