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I Can Forgive, But Not Forget

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 224 People

    Being Dismissed

    My daughter's husband dismissed me from HIS property, for me to never set foot there again, and she went along with it. (1991) I cannot forget that, as I lost her and 2 grandchildren, never knowing my third grandchild. He owed me $55,000.00, so I sued him, garnished his wages...
    britelite britelite 41-45, F Aug 7, 2009

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    My step-dad was horribly abusiveIm not gonna

    roar around in the details, but just for a grasp, i have been beaten to the point where i couldn't see out my eyes, ive seen this disgusting man pick up his 3 year old son by the neck, i have seen my mom beaten to oblivion...there's more, and now that ive had time to think it...
    1Freeyourself1 1Freeyourself1 18-21, M Jan 10

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    What To Do :/

    I have no problem in forgiving this person and the mistake they have done but I have the hardest problem in forgetting. I feel as if I forget it I won't have this lump in my throat when I listen to songs I connected to them or when I just think about them. But if I don't forget I...
    lightning58 lightning58 18-21, T 1 Response Oct 3, 2013

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    Me First

    Having a lot of trouble with forgiveness right now. He moved here to take care of me. I held back on a lot of our plans...waiting for a better time, waiting, waiting. Changing the subject... flitting along blissfully. Then came the day where we argued. We both knew that as...
    Tzech Tzech 46-50, F 1 Response Dec 9, 2009

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    I'm not an elephant but I never forget!

    Where am I? What are we doing here? What is the meaning of life?
    Paca24 Paca24 18-21, F Jul 14

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    Some Things Are Never Forgotten

    One of the biggest mysteries in my life as a man has to do with forgive and forget.  Why are things brought up from 20 years ago still:?  I believe this is a real difference between men and women.
    vtom vtom 46-50, M 1 Response Oct 31, 2008

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    Forgive, Not Forget

    I can forgive someone for something, no matter how much they hurt me, but I can not and will not ever forget what they did to hurt me and wrong me. I will be cautious and look back to what they did before, before I will trust them in that same area in my life again. I think you...
    Sweetheartxoxo Sweetheartxoxo 26-30, F May 27, 2008

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    Darn, My Memory

    I hate the saying "forgive and forget." If we could just forget then there would be no reason to forgive. Of course I know that this isn't a term meant to be taken so literally, but I still dislike it all the same.  In all seriousness though, even though I am...
    brwneyedbeauty brwneyedbeauty 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 22, 2008

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    My Wife And Me

    some days ago was our first anniversary that I, unfortunately, celebrated it alone far away of my wife. I tired to share my celebration with her over the internet as she was at her parents in a different country of mine. But, it didn't work actually. We married in a special...
    hrk79 hrk79 31-35, M Nov 27, 2013

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    There are some things that you can't forget...no matter how much you want to, you just can't. The most I can do is forgive, and, I have.
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21 22-25, F Aug 22, 2008

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    Never Forget

    I Use to Forgive and Forget. But I have learned by Forgetting you Allow The People to Do what they do Constantly. I Can Forgive But Never Forget. I can't allow anyone to Hurt me again. So If I say I Forgive you don't expect me to To Befriend again.
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F Aug 2, 2008

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    A Rule I Live By

     i'll forgive someone the first time its the whole shame on you shame on me ... and i learn from my mistakes ... im not gonna let someone continue to treat me bad ...  i cant afford the heartache ... or the time that would be invested in it ...its not that im not gonna...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 1, 2008

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    I Forgive But Rarely Do I Forget

    I am a very forgiving person. I try my best to treat others the way I would like to be treated. I dislike when people hurt you and figure everything is just going to be ok. I can't stand that. Its not going to be ok. There are going to be fights and arguements unless the person a...
    MiseducatedChik MiseducatedChik 26-30, F Jul 10, 2008

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    OddlyScintilating OddlyScintilating 46-50, M Jul 14

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    Yep

    I can forgive someone for something, no matter how much they hurt me, but I can not and will not ever forget what they did to hurt me and wrong me. I will be cautious and look back to what they did before, before I will trust them in that same area in my life again.
    RealityTVJunkie RealityTVJunkie 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 14, 2009

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    Complete Loss of Trust.

    about a year and a half ago, my current boyfriend cheated on me. he goes to camp every summer, and we don't get to see each other much, so i didn't mind if he like kissed a girl or whatever. but that isn't what he did. he told this girl, i was going to live in germany for a year...
    musicality musicality 18-21, F Feb 10, 2008

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    Forgiveness Is Divine; Forgetting Is Dense

    Learned this lesson the hard way with two people in my life. One was a best friend (supposedly, huh??) that kept taking advantage of me, including stealing my money. I made excuses for her for the longest , and each time didn't hold her accountable for the actions. I "...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 11 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    Forgive and Forget My Hinnie!

    Recenty, my best friend and I ended a 10 friendship over something she thought I did,, but I didnt.  She never even approched me on it,, just assumed it was me.  A call was made to Family Services re: her daughter and grandson.  My "friend" thought I...
    justANNIE justANNIE 46-50, F Jul 10, 2008

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    It's So Easy, But Yet So Hard

    Why is it so easy to forgive, but yet, so hard to forget.....  I really need to work on not holding the past over peoples' heads after I have forgiven them.  It's almost as if, that were my way of coping with what happened, by making them feel bad, or keep bringing it...
    sarboo sarboo 21-25, F 5 Responses Aug 27, 2007

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    How Do you Forgive But Never Forget? That Is The Question

    I have been with my fiancé for almost 4 years and we knew each other for 10 years. To make a long story short, I had got out of a 11 years relationship that had no communication or appreciation until I started dating my fiancé. He was everything that my ex wasn't and wanted. I...
    Babyshmily18 Babyshmily18 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 21, 2012

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    My best friend ganged up with the meanest girl

    in my school and made a YouTube video calling me a Lesbian with my other best friend I have forgiven her but I am no longer her friend and I can't forget all the crying and suffering I went through it still hurts
    Angel2345 Angel2345 13-15, F Jun 29

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    I'm Trying Hard to Forgive Someone

    There's someone in my life that has betrayed me a few times and I think I have forgiven her but I haven't forgotten and our relationship is not the same.  How do you trust someone who has betrayed you?   By this I mean everything I had confided in her she used...
    tenderheart08 tenderheart08 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 24, 2008

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    Boy big one!! That's a lil hard to do at times cause some ex have been so **** up in ways no one will get only you and God no what that person did and how they done they done it...
    marvel901jones marvel901jones 41-45, M Nov 28

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    After what you said? After what you did? How could u? And now you're trying to talk to me? Well it's not gonna work okay? YOU broke ME. I mean isn't that what you wanted? Have a...
    carleyb148 carleyb148 16-17, F 1 day ago

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    Im too good to be twisted with your deeds tho! Now that I found out something that's really a shame into your being. Such a stupid little ***** who's your delusion can kill your...
    Choirayla Choirayla 22-25, F 2 hrs ago

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    Can someone please tell me what should I do ? My kitten always scared of my dad whenever he see him he will be like running under the sofa or in the wardrobe ? Cause my dad is so...
    narinagrg narinagrg 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    This is my problem. Im a loving person a good hearted person willing to do anything for a person I love, but ohhhhh if you have betrayed me..... the love I have turns into pure...
    vnesanarti vnesanarti 22-25, F 2 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    I don't believe in divorce. So, my first marriage is most likely going to be my only marriage. But I am not going to get married until I am 46 or 49. Lmao
    SunshineH316 SunshineH316 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 28

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    I could have the people I hate bowing down to me and if not obeying then would be punished severely but I choose to have their heads on my wall. I could tear people apart but I'd...
    Butterking47 Butterking47 18-21 15 hrs ago

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    I asked my dad for some suggestion about what time will the job Centre will open and he was like ******* stupid for no reason it's hurts me thought no matter how many times he...
    narinagrg narinagrg 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 22

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    I am The prince of darkness, Do not ignore this message. Darkness will consume you.There will be a war of black and white. Do you want to make a deal???
    DJer DJer 13-15, M 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I bottle up and leave you alone, just like Corey said "the last man standing gets no pity"
    teddy714 teddy714 13-15, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    The small things...I can forgive. But when someone lies to me, cheats on me, leaves me, etc...I'm not going to just forgive that person. I don't forget anything. I have tried to...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 7

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    I don't know how much longer I can go on. My throat is bleeding again, and I am unable to eat. I don't want to go on if I never get to talk with him again. I didn't even need to be...
    WingsofTime WingsofTime 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 10

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    I've been reading some of these experiences with something about not being able to remember yourself before the diagnosis, but I can't seem to forget it or stop comparing it to...
    tiaa26 tiaa26 16-17, F Nov 28

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    Sometimes people think of the world their in, a dark world nothing but the things you see and make up. People are in these worlds to leave something be hide, or to forget what they...
    RyanLThomas RyanLThomas 16-17, M 2 Responses Dec 2

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    What I am supposed to do, uh oh When she's so damn cold, like twenty below? That girl, that girl, she's such a ***** But I tell myself I can handle it You know I don't frequent...
    RememberingSunday22 RememberingSunday22 36-40, F Dec 4

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    Twenty-five years ago today fourteen female students of Engineering at the Ecole Polytechnique of Montreal were shot to death by a man who felt that women should not be seeking...
    paulie138 paulie138 66-70, M 2 Responses Dec 6

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    "Human" I can hold my breath I can bite my tongue I can stay awake for days If that's what you want Be your number one I can fake a smile I can force a laugh I can dance and play...
    pickupdragon pickupdragon 70+, F Nov 27

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    It's so selfish to say "We won't be found out a lie."I hope you have a good place to hide.Someone will find you.No one should have to live with this much stress,killing yourself...
    airisfleeting airisfleeting 22-25, M Nov 29

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    I am not certain if long distance relationships can work or not. Distance can create a passion that is not taken for granted. Then again distance is difficult and can create strain...
    ttbridge ttbridge 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 29

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    It's so weird like individuals can be awesome but when individuals turn into people it can get nasty... No wonder individuals have social anxiety. I look at people as a unit
    JustMeWuuuut JustMeWuuuut 26-30, M Dec 5

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    So there's multiple girls who really like me. And being a single guy, I'm not really tied down anywhere, so I flirt and talk to multiple girls. There's 2 specific girls who are...
    KayJayHoeBum KayJayHoeBum 16-17, M Dec 8

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    So my grandmother has been short of breath and they've found s tumor in her right lung all nestled up to her veins :( they biopsied this monster but haven't said if it's cancerous...
    Virgo1981 Virgo1981 31-35, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I was watching a doco about cancer, at the beginning they explained how cancer spreads, and oddly thought to myself how it seems to act just like a fungus. Toward the end of the...
    ThePinkPowerRanger ThePinkPowerRanger 31-35, F 5 days ago

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    The older I get the more I despise reality. Reality, as they say, sucks. However, to the contrary, some say we make our own reality. I suppose this is true to a certain extent...
    TRP92 TRP92 22-25, M 1 day ago

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    I can make bacon but thats it lmao, I like baking though.
    PB793 PB793 16-17, F 6 Responses Nov 21

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    I can act tough but when someone starts crying I'm the first to help cheer them up
    Tyelioo Tyelioo 13-15, F Nov 23

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