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I Can Forgive, But Not Forget

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    Forgive, Not Forget

    I can forgive someone for something, no matter how much they hurt me, but I can not and will not ever forget what they did to hurt me and wrong me. I will be cautious and look back to what they did before, before I will trust them in that same area in my life again. I think you...
    Sweetheartxoxo Sweetheartxoxo 26-30, F May 27, 2008

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    There are some things that you can't forget...no matter how much you want to, you just can't. The most I can do is forgive, and, I have.
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21 22-25, F Aug 22, 2008

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    How Do you Forgive But Never Forget? That Is The Question

    I have been with my fiancé for almost 4 years and we knew each other for 10 years. To make a long story short, I had got out of a 11 years relationship that had no communication or appreciation until I started dating my fiancé. He was everything that my ex wasn't and wanted. I...
    Babyshmily18 Babyshmily18 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 21, 2012

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    Some Things Are Never Forgotten

    One of the biggest mysteries in my life as a man has to do with forgive and forget.  Why are things brought up from 20 years ago still:?  I believe this is a real difference between men and women.
    vtom vtom 46-50, M 1 Response Oct 31, 2008

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    What To Do :/

    I have no problem in forgiving this person and the mistake they have done but I have the hardest problem in forgetting. I feel as if I forget it I won't have this lump in my throat when I listen to songs I connected to them or when I just think about them. But if I don't forget I...
    lightning58 lightning58 18-21, T 1 Response Oct 3, 2013

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    My best friend ganged up with the meanest girl

    in my school and made a YouTube video calling me a Lesbian with my other best friend I have forgiven her but I am no longer her friend and I can't forget all the crying and suffering I went through it still hurts
    Angel2345 Angel2345 13-15, F Jun 29

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    Never Forget

    I Use to Forgive and Forget. But I have learned by Forgetting you Allow The People to Do what they do Constantly. I Can Forgive But Never Forget. I can't allow anyone to Hurt me again. So If I say I Forgive you don't expect me to To Befriend again.
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F Aug 2, 2008

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    Forgiveness Is Divine; Forgetting Is Dense

    Learned this lesson the hard way with two people in my life. One was a best friend (supposedly, huh??) that kept taking advantage of me, including stealing my money. I made excuses for her for the longest , and each time didn't hold her accountable for the actions. I "...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 11 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    Being Dismissed

    My daughter's husband dismissed me from HIS property, for me to never set foot there again, and she went along with it. (1991) I cannot forget that, as I lost her and 2 grandchildren, never knowing my third grandchild. He owed me $55,000.00, so I sued him, garnished his wages...
    britelite britelite 41-45, F Aug 7, 2009

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    My Wife And Me

    some days ago was our first anniversary that I, unfortunately, celebrated it alone far away of my wife. I tired to share my celebration with her over the internet as she was at her parents in a different country of mine. But, it didn't work actually. We married in a special...
    hrk79 hrk79 31-35, M Nov 27, 2013

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    Yep

    I can forgive someone for something, no matter how much they hurt me, but I can not and will not ever forget what they did to hurt me and wrong me. I will be cautious and look back to what they did before, before I will trust them in that same area in my life again.
    RealityTVJunkie RealityTVJunkie 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 14, 2009

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    Darn, My Memory

    I hate the saying "forgive and forget." If we could just forget then there would be no reason to forgive. Of course I know that this isn't a term meant to be taken so literally, but I still dislike it all the same.  In all seriousness though, even though I am...
    brwneyedbeauty brwneyedbeauty 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 22, 2008

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    Forgive and Forget My Hinnie!

    Recenty, my best friend and I ended a 10 friendship over something she thought I did,, but I didnt.  She never even approched me on it,, just assumed it was me.  A call was made to Family Services re: her daughter and grandson.  My "friend" thought I...
    justANNIE justANNIE 46-50, F Jul 10, 2008

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    Me First

    Having a lot of trouble with forgiveness right now. He moved here to take care of me. I held back on a lot of our plans...waiting for a better time, waiting, waiting. Changing the subject... flitting along blissfully. Then came the day where we argued. We both knew that as...
    Tzech Tzech 46-50, F 1 Response Dec 9, 2009

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    My step-dad was horribly abusiveIm not gonna

    roar around in the details, but just for a grasp, i have been beaten to the point where i couldn't see out my eyes, ive seen this disgusting man pick up his 3 year old son by the neck, i have seen my mom beaten to oblivion...there's more, and now that ive had time to think it...
    1Freeyourself1 1Freeyourself1 18-21, M Jan 10

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    I Forgive But Rarely Do I Forget

    I am a very forgiving person. I try my best to treat others the way I would like to be treated. I dislike when people hurt you and figure everything is just going to be ok. I can't stand that. Its not going to be ok. There are going to be fights and arguements unless the person a...
    MiseducatedChik MiseducatedChik 26-30, F Jul 10, 2008

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    I'm not an elephant but I never forget!

    Where am I? What are we doing here? What is the meaning of life?
    Paca24 Paca24 18-21, F Jul 14

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    Complete Loss of Trust.

    about a year and a half ago, my current boyfriend cheated on me. he goes to camp every summer, and we don't get to see each other much, so i didn't mind if he like kissed a girl or whatever. but that isn't what he did. he told this girl, i was going to live in germany for a year...
    musicality musicality 18-21, F Feb 10, 2008

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    It's So Easy, But Yet So Hard

    Why is it so easy to forgive, but yet, so hard to forget.....  I really need to work on not holding the past over peoples' heads after I have forgiven them.  It's almost as if, that were my way of coping with what happened, by making them feel bad, or keep bringing it...
    sarboo sarboo 21-25, F 5 Responses Aug 27, 2007

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    A Rule I Live By

     i'll forgive someone the first time its the whole shame on you shame on me ... and i learn from my mistakes ... im not gonna let someone continue to treat me bad ...  i cant afford the heartache ... or the time that would be invested in it ...its not that im not gonna...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 1, 2008

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    I'm Trying Hard to Forgive Someone

    There's someone in my life that has betrayed me a few times and I think I have forgiven her but I haven't forgotten and our relationship is not the same.  How do you trust someone who has betrayed you?   By this I mean everything I had confided in her she used...
    tenderheart08 tenderheart08 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 24, 2008

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    thats right for a lil over 6 months we have talked consistently and the more you talk the more i listen when ever we talk you always make me smile and its never awkward between us...
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    I think the one thing I've always struggled with was my boyfriends forgetting my birthday 2 times in a row. We've been together for 3 years so it does hurt and it does make me feel...
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    My mind is spinning. Everything I think is a repeat. She doesn't like me. How could she? Everything I think is a repeat. I can't get my homework done, my mind is spinning, running...
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    Life is too strange, ironic, and unfair. Life is strange because everything has a deeper meaning that we can't see, but it's always around us in every step we take. Life is ironic...
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