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I Can Only Change Myself

Focussing on what is really the issue, what is really lying underneath all the fighting and being proactive about it. Changing yourself to bring a changed result in relationships, situations and life. 6,541 People

    Ashes

    Tears no longer fall,I no longer see your face in every stranger.I don't look for your text or wait for a call that I know is not coming.I don't have hatred or malice for you,actually I wish you nothing but blue skies and the sun to shine on you.Yes,I loved you with all I had but...
    BrokenFairytale BrokenFairytale 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 2, 2012

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    Well let's just say I have a problem I need to

    talk about it. And you might call it attention but until you go through what I have you won't understand
    hannaaaaa hannaaaaa 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 29

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    *Everything that ever caused a tear to trickle

    down my cheek, I ran away and hid from it. But now, everything is unwinding and finding its way back to me. And I don't know what to do. I just know that pain I felt so long ago; it's hurting ten times more.
    shafizri shafizri 18-21, M Apr 7

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    Me

    So I'll tell you the short story of my life. I'm 16 years old, I go to a small town school, live in a big house, I have plenty of friends, had a fair share of boyfriends, I have a job, and I get good grades. What more could a person ask for? The truth. I have plenty of friends...
    LettersToTheSky LettersToTheSky 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 18, 2011

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    Your Past Doesn't Define Your Future

    I believe one of the main things that saved my life was being so scared of how it could turn out. My life growing up was very unstable, my mother and father are both drug addicts, We moved from home to home, had little to nothing, and each year it just got worse. The younger...
    HannahGraceS HannahGraceS 18-21, F 24 Responses Jul 13, 2013

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    I have a love/hate relationship with my bf.

    he put me on this pedestal which I never wanted. I'm in love with him and I'm comfortable enough with him that I can talk to him about anything. He's my soulmate. No one has had this kind of effect on me ever. He's just makes my heart melt all the time. I've told him before that...
    Kelsey1111111 Kelsey1111111 18-21, F Mar 10

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    Now that I'm grown, nobody is changing me

    but me! I'm not crazy about the idea, I can't find anyone to change me. After a while it becomes an unbearable stank!
    TheGreatOzzie TheGreatOzzie 26-30, M Feb 12

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    Now that I'm grown, nobody is changing me

    but me! I'm not crazy about the idea, I can't find anyone to change me. After a while it becomes an unbearable stank!
    TheGreatOzzie TheGreatOzzie 26-30, M Feb 12

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    Care & Feeding Of The Mind

    The care & feeding of the mind is just as important as the care & feeding of the body. The mind unfed weakens just as the body does. The mind not sustained by the continual intake of something that is capable of feeding it well or nourishing it, shrinks and shrivels. And it all...
    purpleparrot purpleparrot 41-45, F 7 Responses Apr 17, 2012

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    I feel good that I am changing a lot of bad

    habits. My will power feels strong. It never has before. Starting with small things and building my way up. Building up the courage to get back to what I love doing. It's amazing how treating yourself well, and being honest can make you loose the taste for other negative things...
    SmashedUpSanity SmashedUpSanity 26-30, F Mar 31

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    Don’t change because someone wants you to,

    change because you want to. If you have to change for someone then they aren’t worth it. The one that don’t want you to change accept you for who you are and are worth your time
    serachii serachii 22-25, F Apr 2

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    My Mom is quite ill,

    but also quite manipulative. I never had good boundaries, but I'm trying to build them now. But it is really hard against a steamroller. So does anyone have advice on how to handle this
    Lucreziana Lucreziana 22-25, F Feb 13

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    is it too late to change

    and start over new?
    Dove9 Dove9 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    Change Is Good...

    I know recently that I have caused some hurt to others. Concern, worry.......however you look at it, there is no positivty in those emotions so they are going to cause some damage. I don't mean to do this, but when I meltdown I tend to go nuclear. I can't control it, and I get...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Nov 7, 2012

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    They say you must hit rock bottom

    before you can rebuild yourself from the bottom up. I have turned into the kind of person that I hate. This is because of the need for attention from men. From this day foward I will change myself for the better. I am a good person, I have just gone haywire lately.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 31, 2013

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    Changing My Life Is Changing Me.

    When I was young I thought I could change the world.  My idealism took over my life.  The day came when I married and thought with my love, my husband will become all he can be.  It took a couple years for me to see, he is who he is, end of story.  All I had...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 21 Responses Nov 24, 2008

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    I Use To Be A Worm But Now I Am A Butterfly I Changed Me!

    I have found this statement to be true! I can only change myself. One time in life I use to feel like I could change others if I tried hard enough stop people from their bad habits and poor manners. Up until this past year I felt that I could move people in compassion by...
    Babeondwy Babeondwy 41-45, F Jan 27, 2012

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    In the beginning, you will

    either be completely intrigued by who I am, or you don't care for it. Doesn't matter. I don't stress about that part. It either is or iI isn't. But for the ones who just can't go it. They need to know me, for those, you have the chance to know me. A few get transparency. I...
    kbetweens kbetweens 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 24

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    Thoughts and feelings really can change someone

    whole life . In a good way or bad .
    Johnnystha Johnnystha 26-30, M Jan 23

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    That's So True

    I can only change myself. I can change myself in to a better person. A more caring, loving, compassionate, positive and respectful person. I also can change myself into the real me, a woman inside and out. A real person who has a lot to offer and a lot to learn. I can only...
    Josie06 Josie06 56-60, F 5 Responses Nov 25, 2008

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    A man found an eagle's egg

    and put it in a nest of a barnyard hen. The eaglet hatched with the brood of chicks and grew up with them. All his life the eagle did what the barnyard chicks did, thinking he was a barnyard chicken. He scratched the earth for worms and insects. He clucked and cackled. And he...
    Rayablue Rayablue 22-25, F Feb 4

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    When night falls, I'm a completely different

    person, how I feel, how I see. How I act. By midnight I regret it all.
    LilRedFoxTail LilRedFoxTail 18-21, M Mar 30

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    Oh, when people accuse you of "changing"

    as though you have done something wrong. Ask yourself why they feel the need to point it out? To help you? Or to serve themselves? Will you think, "wow silly me, I better change back ASAP, don't want to bother anyone with my personal growth or anything". Why do people say it...
    SmashedUpSanity SmashedUpSanity 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    Change?

    you can only change yourself when you're ready. it's not something you can force it just takes time. time is all it takes for anything to happen because literally ANYTHING could happen. i tried changing myself for so long while trying to stay who i was at the same time with other...
    Spilled Spilled 18-21, F Mar 26, 2013

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    Mentoring

    One of my childhood issues that stayed with me up till my 50s was loneliness.. And being secretive. In primary school my school district had coping with all the kids my age. So I went to five different school buildings in five different parts of town....and by 5th grade I had no...
    HollywoodBob HollywoodBob 46-50, M 8 Responses Jan 31, 2013

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    Now that I'm grown, nobody is changing me

    but me! I'm not crazy about the idea, I can't find anyone to change me. After a while it becomes an unbearable stank!
    TheGreatOzzie TheGreatOzzie 26-30, M Feb 12

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    Iv Changed For The Better

    Two years ago I had everything I could want out of life. But I Only saw what I didn't have, and I wasn't happy. Then we moved. I lost my friends, my own room, my favorite pet, I even lost the majority of my contact with my grandmother. I was fat, depressed and I had no...
    Spittlebug1 Spittlebug1 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 2, 2013

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    SimplyIpsszy SimplyIpsszy 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 31

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    Changes!

    I've learned a lot about myself here lately. For instance, I don't like being accussed of things I don't do, I don't like others assuming that "sorry" fixes everything, I don't like my feelings being tucked away because I'm too nice to share them, I don't like being ignored or...
    ThatGirlAriel ThatGirlAriel 22-25, F 6 Responses Jun 14, 2012

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    Be who you are and say what you feel

    because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. You can't change anyone because everyone is different in there own way..
    dede9090 dede9090 16-17, F Apr 1

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    I am starting to realize a few things.

    Just in the short time I have been a mother, I have seen who I've become in the last year. Jackson is 1 month old tomorrow. He is a very calm baby. He is amazed at the most simplistic things. His eyes, have this depth and grace to them. An old soul. Inspiring happiness, and...
    PandorasDream PandorasDream 31-35, F Apr 13

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    My Life Story: I Made It

    My name is Lauren Quirk, I'm 18 years old, and this is my story. I grew up in one of the most loving families I ever could have been born into. I had a great mother and father who loved me to death, the best grandparents a girl could ask for, and lots of loving cousins and...
    looloolemons looloolemons 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 25, 2012

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    Phases Of Life

    The last 7 months were times of rest and spirituality.Through rest and spirituality i am transformed.I began to see life in different perspectives. Though my past traumas and sufferings took a big chunk out of my life,I felt the experiences from them made me wiser. I began to...
    unshakable unshakable 61-65, F 10 Responses Oct 21, 2011

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    I was just sitting at a meeting talking

    and I said something like the only person I can change is me. And maybe if I let go of the illusion that I can change other people by shear will alone I can just relax into what is. So far today I am doing that I am giving up trying to control other people and bend them to my...
    sara50 sara50 46-50, F 3 Responses Mar 10

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    My life is a lie. I taken this **** far to long.

    If making myself crazy is what it takes I'll do it. I'm not tied down. I will get out of here and be me. I can't get my inspiration back, but I can learn.
    JakeSuspence JakeSuspence 16-17, M Feb 8

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    I stare into the darkness of my room

    and I know only I can change me. Not fearing death. Not fearing loneliness. I'll survive another day, without you. No more overbearing clinginess. I'm changing me. I hope you can change yourself too.
    LilRedFoxTail LilRedFoxTail 18-21, M Jan 31

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    Love+Live+Learn... Love: the time you got to

    spend with them, Love; there personality and all the goods things they've done to brought you here. Live, forget all the problems and live within the moment for then you'll find yourself in a loving environment. Learn, your mistakes and all the discussions brought you here, not...
    sch4denfr3ude sch4denfr3ude 18-21, M Jan 28

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    In Search Of Clarity ..........

    When we see people and situations as they really are, without any false perceptions, we experience clarity. As we live life from a place of clarity, we experience a peace that comes from being guided by the still voice within. Clarity is the first step in taking appropriate...
    Kathieredart Kathieredart 56-60, F 3 Responses Feb 15, 2012

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    Everyone asks me if I'm doing ok.

    .. I truly don't know what to say. Everyday is different. Somedays I'm empty others I'm sad. So many questions I have to answer. Many decision to be made. Do I stay or do I go? Do I forgive and let go. Of the hurt and the fear? Do I hold on to my fears and hope for the best...
    Loveuloveme Loveuloveme 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 15

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    Go Within

    Recently, while having a rare conversation with my wife that I love very much I suggested that she “Go within”. I did not realize the importance of what I was saying. Heloise was talking about her interest in healing with the aid of crystals and her intention of practicing...
    BarryOne BarryOne 51-55, M 10 Responses Sep 15, 2011

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    Keep your expectations

    for the world and people low so that you aren't always let down or disappointed. Keep expectations for yourself high because those are the only ones you can control or change.
    mythirdeye72 mythirdeye72 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 7

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    Free Will

    It's Free will. Only you can Work on Changing yourself. You can't Force someone to do what they don't wanna do. I mean I learned it's best to just Try and do what is best For me. And let people Be who they are. If they see they need to change they will. If I Can't Compromise or...
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 17, 2008

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    Changing Me

    i am angry. i can be very blue. so easily i come unglued. i self distruct and cause my self to bleed.i always feel alone, and i cant stand to see my self in a mirror.change is what i reach for. a new me is what i pray for.i struggle to grow new skin and long to shed my sin.ive...
    glasswalls007 glasswalls007 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 27, 2012

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    Life is beautiful, as long

    as it consumes you. When it is rushing through you, destroying you, life is gorgeous, glorious. It’s when you burn a slow fire and save fuel, that life’s not worth having.
    FARHANqureshi FARHANqureshi 16-17, M 1 day ago

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    A Delicious Steak With A Hint Of Testosterone

    I am on a journey. I whet my skills to become better, to become more complex, to become useful and lovable. You know how people are jerks? How they are careless, thoughtless, merciless, greedy, mean, harsh, vicious, cold-hearted? Well, I thought to myself. Why should I settle for...
    Slysmile Slysmile 18-21, M 3 Responses Jul 24, 2013

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    Should I Go Blonde?

    Should i? or should i not?-Destini
    LuvDestini LuvDestini 18-21, F 23 Responses Apr 8, 2012

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    Feeling Much Better

    Have you ever looked at an undone puzzle. Only half of it done and you still cant really see the picture. Thats how I've been doing things lately. I've been trying to see a picture that wasn't there. I spoke to someone for 4 hours yesterday and i can't believe how much that alone...
    Grizzly007 Grizzly007 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 21, 2012

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    Women Changing Me

    I wanted to tell a story about dating my one and only GF in college. I hear a lot of stories about women wanting man to change or seeing the potential in them to be a great person, and I have an experience like that. All through our dating, things were the most part wonderful. So...
    chimbie88 chimbie88 31-35, M 2 Responses Sep 15, 2012

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    Say you had the opportunity to restart your

    life... Would you accept yourself for your faults and mistakes or would you just rather retry? Would you miss the people that surround you or would you rather forget them? Would you choose to forget those nights you cherish just for a chance to start over again?
    anglesanddemons anglesanddemons 18-21, M Mar 21

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    Timely Change, Paralyzed-fear Of The Unkown, Irreversible Damage!

    I'm at a point in my lifes journey where I've reached crisis levels in a majority of the challenges that have been effecting my life since I was a pre-teen. My days are filled with one appointment or another with a slew of various of healthcare professionals, addiction counselor...
    libra604 libra604 26-30, M 4 Responses Feb 22, 2012

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    I'm looking to find myself again is it ok

    that I go places by myself for example bars, movies, restaurants?
    BrittTHart BrittTHart 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Now that I'm grown, nobody is changing me

    but me! I'm not crazy about the idea, I can't find anyone to change me. After a while it becomes an unbearable stank!
    TheGreatOzzie TheGreatOzzie 26-30, M Feb 12

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    I'm a pretty petty person

    when it comes down to it. Somedays I get so worked up about how ignorant and ****** the world is I forget that a lot of issues are just my own. Most of the stuff that upsets me is justified(ie animal welfare, people being treated unfairly), but also.. I think I get overly upset...
    threestepsback threestepsback 18-21, F Feb 3

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    It's Time I Start Living This Life That God Has Given Me!

    I'm done letting the world get to me. I'm done letting people get under my skin. It's about time I be the person I was meant to be all along. My whole life people have let me down but now i'm just not going to expect much anymore. My thinking is all screwed up, and I just...
    MKM17 MKM17 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    I woke up with the strangest idea of breaking

    up with him. Not because he isnt what i wanted, because he is! But because i am not what i want for him.
    mypath7 mypath7 26-30, F Apr 1

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    Okay so for the people

    that play Vedic games they may know this image from imfamous the second son, but this picture is a great message for people. The white side represents good and the red side means evil, this is a good image because it represents that you have the power to shoes what side you are...
    laia120841 laia120841 13-15, M Apr 2

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    I am my own worst enemy.

    I so want to get out of this mentality that I have being inadequate. I want to find the courage and strength to accept who I am and hopefully be accepted by others. I absolutely hate feeling unaccepted by society.
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M Feb 18

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