I Can Only Change Myself

Focussing on what is really the issue, what is really lying underneath all the fighting and being proactive about it. Changing yourself to bring a changed result in relationships, situations and life. 7,403 People

    And I do... for every relationship.

    I gaze at them. Analyse them and turn into what they want. Problem is that this takes no account of what I want and who I am. Then I get stuck. I am not the part I play. I resent the box I am in. I start tearing down the walls of the box. They are bewildered. Every...
    grommit3 grommit3
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Apr 17, 2015

    Phases Of Life

    The last 7 months were times of rest and spirituality.Through rest and spirituality i am transformed.I began to see life in different perspectives. Though my past traumas and sufferings took a big chunk out of my life,I felt the experiences from them made me wiser. I began to...
    unshakable unshakable
    61-65, F
    9 Responses Oct 21, 2011

    It's Time I Start Living This Life That God Has Given Me!

    I'm done letting the world get to me. I'm done letting people get under my skin. It's about time I be the person I was meant to be all along. My whole life people have let me down but now i'm just not going to expect much anymore. My thinking is all screwed up, and I just...
    MKM18 MKM18
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 2, 2013

    That's So True

    I can only change myself. I can change myself in to a better person. A more caring, loving, compassionate, positive and respectful person. I also can change myself into the real me, a woman inside and out. A real person who has a lot to offer and a lot to learn. I can only...
    Josie06 Josie06
    56-60, F
    4 Responses Nov 25, 2008

    "What if I told you that 10 years from now,

    your life would be exactly the same? I doubt you'd be happy. So, why are you so afraid of change?" - Karen Salmansohn
    Dawb183 Dawb183
    16-17, F
    Jan 6, 2016

    its been 7 years since I left you.

    you told me gym is for people who have money. I love goin to the gym thesedays besides I can swim unlike you.... now I listen to hiphop music and dance to commercial pop music you really hate. I invested 7 years to become a package of everything You can not do or dislike.
    lazysundayafternoon lazysundayafternoon
    36-40, F
    Jan 18, 2016

    I think the aceptance of how you behave yourself

    and being acountable for your words and actions is the only way you can begin to identify the changes that need to be made. . . .if you dont like something change it. . . its not gonna be easy but it will be worth it. . . . .
    212panda 212panda
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jun 3, 2015

    I'm feeling like a pmsing girl right now,

    where the fock are my guts and coldness?!?!?! Why do I keep playing it over and over in my head and relive all the negative feelings and emotions?!?!?!!!! Lord, in my weakness I call on to you because I can't... Lord, I give this to you because in my own strength is not working...
    ChrisErizo1 ChrisErizo1
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Jan 31, 2016

    people say they want to be changed into

    something great, or something bad. it always ends up into something worst for the cost at the end of it. don't change unless your heart disiers of what you want and whatever is good for your judgment etc.
    lourenjessop13 lourenjessop13
    16-17, F
    Jan 15, 2016

    I want to let go of all this dreadful pain This

    pain that consumes me I want to open my heart I wish to remember what it feels to have life again All these laughs, smiles and joy They have been missing, they have been drowning deep within me Help me breathe again I wish to find my shelter I want to turn my mind away from...
    deleted deleted
    Nov 25, 2014

    Your Past Doesn't Define Your Future

    I believe one of the main things that saved my life was being so scared of how it could turn out. My life growing up was very unstable, my mother and father are both drug addicts, We moved from home to home, had little to nothing, and each year it just got worse. The younger...
    HannahGraceS HannahGraceS
    22-25, F
    20 Responses Jul 13, 2013

    2 years ago I was lonely,

    in a job I despised, drinking all the time and just wanted to die. I had severe anxiety and major depression. So I prepared a bath and razor blade to finally end it. Just as I was about to make a deep cut along my arm I had an epiphany. I thought, ok since I'm going to be dead...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Feb 8, 2015

    Why Don't More People Get This?

    I live near a major international airport and I laugh when there are people who moved into their neighborhoods when the airport was already established, decide years later to complain about the noise. Are you f-ing kidding me? Today, I commented on a story about people wanting to...
    NoLongerHere NoLongerHere
    41-45, M
    4 Responses May 7, 2012

    Free Will

    It's Free will. Only you can Work on Changing yourself. You can't Force someone to do what they don't wanna do. I mean I learned it's best to just Try and do what is best For me. And let people Be who they are. If they see they need to change they will. If I Can't Compromise or...
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy
    18-21, F
    8 Responses Jul 17, 2008

    Care & Feeding Of The Mind

    The care & feeding of the mind is just as important as the care & feeding of the body. The mind unfed weakens just as the body does. The mind not sustained by the continual intake of something that is capable of feeding it well or nourishing it, shrinks and shrivels. And it all...
    purpleparrot purpleparrot
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Apr 17, 2012

    Haven't posted here in awhile.

    I am feeling wayyy better than before :)) misses a couple of days of working out but I'm still actually continuing it so far! Also, I'm about to finally go on a date after years of being single ^^ finally things are looking a lot better in life. Of course I won't have high...
    ShesGottaBeTheOne ShesGottaBeTheOne
    22-25, M
    Mar 18, 2016

    Timely Change, Paralyzed-fear Of The Unkown, Irreversible Damage!

    I'm at a point in my lifes journey where I've reached crisis levels in a majority of the challenges that have been effecting my life since I was a pre-teen. My days are filled with one appointment or another with a slew of various of healthcare professionals, addiction counselor...
    libra604 libra604
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Feb 22, 2012

    There are 3 Types of People.

    1. People that make things Happen. 2. People that watch whats happening. 3. People that go: "oh! What Happened!!!
    ApacheKuruk ApacheKuruk
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Apr 17, 2015

    At the end of the day is ur life.

    .soo y shud u struggle to make ur self happy...
    Tumie05 Tumie05
    26-30, F
    Feb 9, 2016

    relationships, even with family members,

    take two. if only one person is willing to work on issues, grow, and change - it isn't a healthy relationship. I reserve the right to set my boundaries and have no obligation to toxic people simply because we share similar DNA or lived in the same house once upon a time
    goodwitchofthenorth goodwitchofthenorth
    41-45, F
    1 Response Mar 19, 2016

    Iv Changed For The Better

    Two years ago I had everything I could want out of life. But I Only saw what I didn't have, and I wasn't happy. Then we moved. I lost my friends, my own room, my favorite pet, I even lost the majority of my contact with my grandmother. I was fat, depressed and I had no...
    Spittlebug1 Spittlebug1
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 2, 2013

    Remember that 70's song "It only takes a

    minute"? It says: "it only takes a minute girl to fall in love, to fall in love... " I say, it only takes a minute girl to **** it up, to **** it up.... I'm still discovering sides of me I didn't know I had, kind of scary... I've always thought I was a very good person, but I...
    ChrisErizo1 ChrisErizo1
    31-35, M
    Feb 29, 2016

    I believe that the more open

    and honest we can become with ourselves, the more we can enjoy all that life has to offer
    NakedTherapist NakedTherapist
    61-65, M
    1 Response Apr 2, 2015
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Nov 1, 2015

    **** the voice of a generation I just wanna be

    who I am No one can change or guide me I'm content with where I stand. So **** the voice of a generation You can stand on your own two feet Hooligans from across the nation Sing my songs when you mob the street This is who we are, we are A product of war. Why do they...
    BrokeAssBxtch BrokeAssBxtch
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 13, 2015

    If you want to know what it feels like to be an

    idiot, try caring deeply for someone who doesn't care for you like that....
    ChrisErizo1 ChrisErizo1
    31-35, M
    4 Responses Oct 30, 2015

    To be yourself in a world

    that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. Ralph Waldo Emerson
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jan 19, 2016
    ChrisErizo1 ChrisErizo1
    31-35, M
    Dec 2, 2015

    I struggle to let my ex go

    but if he's not the one God has for me I don't want him. It's hard to convince the heart to be logical but eventually I will. Because the carnal heart is inherently evil. I pray God will diminish my desires for the last man I loved.
    BeautifullyBrokenAngel BeautifullyBrokenAngel
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Oct 15, 2015

    I lost you to people I cannot be like.

    .... If only you could have remained unchanged by them, like I did.... RIP friendship
    ChrisErizo1 ChrisErizo1
    31-35, M
    Nov 1, 2015

    My Life Story: I Made It

    My name is Lauren Quirk, I'm 18 years old, and this is my story. I grew up in one of the most loving families I ever could have been born into. I had a great mother and father who loved me to death, the best grandparents a girl could ask for, and lots of loving cousins and...
    looloolemons looloolemons
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Nov 25, 2012

    i will never change my self

    for someone. i will change if i see something wrong in me. i dont want you to tell me, you just accept me or reject me.
    mkdpk mkdpk
    41-45, M
    Feb 9, 2016

    Go Within

    Recently, while having a rare conversation with my wife that I love very much I suggested that she “Go within”. I did not realize the importance of what I was saying. Heloise was talking about her interest in healing with the aid of crystals and her intention of practicing...
    BarryOne BarryOne
    51-55, M
    9 Responses Sep 15, 2011

    I can only change me.

    Some people more than others have made me realize the importance of being true to myself and doing my best. They are quick to interpret conversations quick to judge others and then think they can damage or hurt a person with their misinterpretation of what occurred. I'm fine...
    startingpointguard33 startingpointguard33
    26-30, M
    Nov 22, 2015

    I feel like $&@¥£€####!

    !!!! But this too shall pass. Peace be with all of us :)
    ChrisErizo1 ChrisErizo1
    31-35, M
    Apr 17, 2016


    I've learned a lot about myself here lately. For instance, I don't like being accussed of things I don't do, I don't like others assuming that "sorry" fixes everything, I don't like my feelings being tucked away because I'm too nice to share them, I don't like being ignored or...
    ThatGirlAriel ThatGirlAriel
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Jun 14, 2012

    I don't know if this goes here.

    .. But I've changed a lot... I used to be depressed all the time... Had anxiety bad. Always felt bad about my self. But as the year past I've grown up, I've realized that life's not just about me and that others have feelings too. I know that being depressed is not helpful so I...
    Straightouttabacon Straightouttabacon
    22-25, M
    1 Response Dec 10, 2015

    i swear when i get my gal back im not ever

    gonna take her for granted again. im also never gonna allow myself to be taken for granted again. and if she doesnt want me back im damn sure not gonna beg her. im a man. a real man. i make mistakes. big ones sometimes, that's what happens when you take chances but I also...
    toomuchjoy toomuchjoy
    31-35, M
    1 Response Mar 21, 2016

    I am an invisible man.

    I am a man of substance, of flesh and bone, fiber and liquids and I might even be said to possess a mind. I am invisible, understand, simply because people refuse to see me. It's when you feel like this, that out of resentment you begin to bump people back. And let me confess...
    ChrisErizo1 ChrisErizo1
    31-35, M
    Mar 20, 2016

    I want what I can't have

    and need what money can't buy. Thanks a lot life...
    ChrisErizo1 ChrisErizo1
    31-35, M
    Nov 3, 2015

    on some real ****, I'm about to start treating

    people how they treat me nfs I'm way too nice to mfs and then they always cross the line. fxck all types of relationships :)
    LeanMamii LeanMamii
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 30, 2016

    I really want to love you.

    I want to feel every inch of my body crying out for you. I want to have eyes just for you, I want to love you with my soul and heart. I wish I could gouge my eyes out and walk in an endless road where I could not see the perils in life and cringe with anxiety and anticipation. I...
    ChrisErizo1 ChrisErizo1
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Apr 18, 2016

    Is it normal to be in your early 20s

    and not even have the desire to date anymore?
    BeautifullyBrokenAngel BeautifullyBrokenAngel
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Nov 4, 2015

    I love this app because I have nothing to hide,

    I can express how strong or weak I feel without really caring about being judge... Right now I'm feeling like an emotional punching bag, it's blow after blow and it's draining my energy and emotions. I need to feel better ASAP I don't like feeling like this, it's painful :(
    ChrisErizo1 ChrisErizo1
    31-35, M
    Jan 29, 2016

    In Search Of Clarity ..........

    When we see people and situations as they really are, without any false perceptions, we experience clarity. As we live life from a place of clarity, we experience a peace that comes from being guided by the still voice within. Clarity is the first step in taking appropriate...
    Kathieredart Kathieredart
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Feb 15, 2012

    I refuse to live like a little unconscious

    human. But in all fairness little unconscious humans live the happiest lives not being aware of what they don't know... Living a conscious life and being painstakingly aware can be tiring and exhausting at times...
    ChrisErizo1 ChrisErizo1
    31-35, M
    Mar 11, 2016

    Only I can be stronger in mind,

    body, and soul. You cannot make or break someone who is starting again. I from here on out am my own best friend until proven beyond the shadow of a doubt that I am respected and loved by someone more. Someone not just in need but legitimately able to clearly choose.
    YeahthatsMylife YeahthatsMylife
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Jun 1, 2015

    Changing My Life Is Changing Me.

    When I was young I thought I could change the world.  My idealism took over my life.  The day came when I married and thought with my love, my husband will become all he can be.  It took a couple years for me to see, he is who he is, end of story.  All I had...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom
    51-55, F
    19 Responses Nov 24, 2008

    “I no longer believed in the idea of soul

    mates, or love at first sight. But I was beginning to believe that a very few times in your life, if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that...
    lindwe lindwe
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 21, 2016
    ChrisErizo1 ChrisErizo1
    31-35, M
    4 Responses Feb 22, 2016

    i really need to change myself,

    my personality ( if that's possible ) my perspectives, the way i live my life.. i work in a job that i hate with people who i don't like and they don't like me, i drink everyday, i watch a lot of **** instead of dating and stuff... i don't like who i've become at all, i feel...
    sabbracaddabraa sabbracaddabraa
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Dec 10, 2015

    "Hey, baby, I want to make you mine,

    want to go skinny dipping and talk about it?" "Can't my niece finish that little project?" "I wish my mom would get her head out!" The inspirations for this little piece right now are the things that I wish I could change. I have come to some realizations just now by...
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71
    41-45, M
    1 Response Dec 19, 2015

    Love never guaranteed no pain,

    struggles or loss. But that love is what keeps you going for the other person. Not giving up hope, dreaming with them, inspiring each other. When things become dark it's time to look for the stars. Looking up forces us to keep our head up high & not give up. Loss is not an...
    NotperfectEver NotperfectEver
    41-45, F
    1 Response Aug 26, 2015

    My mouth digs my own tomb

    and my thoughts assassinate my soul. There's a hole in my heart and my bones are weak, why would I want to dream for tomorrow when I have no more strength to want, no will to go no and no reason to be...
    ChrisErizo1 ChrisErizo1
    31-35, M
    Nov 6, 2015
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