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I Can Only Change Myself

Focussing on what is really the issue, what is really lying underneath all the fighting and being proactive about it. Changing yourself to bring a changed result in relationships, situations and life. 7,311 People

    Changes!

    I've learned a lot about myself here lately. For instance, I don't like being accussed of things I don't do, I don't like others assuming that "sorry" fixes everything, I don't like my feelings being tucked away because I'm too nice to share them, I don't like being ignored or...
    ThatGirlAriel ThatGirlAriel 22-25, F 5 Responses Jun 14, 2012

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    My life right at this moment is bad.

    I feel like my mom hates whatever I do. She always picks on me and doesn't let me go places. All the opportunities I had came and went away. She always finds to yell at me for. Now let's talk about my whole family. I tend to be very anti social at times. I've been really close...
    alyssapin alyssapin 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 16

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    I want to let go of all this dreadful pain This

    pain that consumes me I want to open my heart I wish to remember what it feels to have life again All these laughs, smiles and joy They have been missing, they have been drowning deep within me Help me breathe again I wish to find my shelter I want to turn my mind away from...
    BeautifulPetal BeautifulPetal 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 25, 2014

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    So I'm on the train and this girl keeps staring

    at me like she is gona eat me up. I look away coz she is bigger than me n I don't want her to squash me. Then I catch a glimpse of my face at the window beside me.. Man! I got a nasty frown on my face coz I just spoke to someone I didn't like over the phone. Moral: What you are...
    Wonderstruck28 Wonderstruck28 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 26

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    the last 12 hours ive been fighting what was

    left to me, trying to get rid of past experience s because u kno its unrealistic in ur new relationship is emotionally draining, I cant get over a few bumps and its making me cry, I kno its stupid I kno its probably nothing but last time it wasnt and there it is that doubt that...
    Ffirebrand Ffirebrand 31-35, F Apr 19

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    lewis2001 lewis2001 13-15, M 1 Response Feb 13

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    My Life Story: I Made It

    My name is Lauren Quirk, I'm 18 years old, and this is my story. I grew up in one of the most loving families I ever could have been born into. I had a great mother and father who loved me to death, the best grandparents a girl could ask for, and lots of loving cousins and...
    looloolemons looloolemons 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 25, 2012

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    So let's change. Let's move on.

    Let's forget the past. Let's remove people from our lifes who make us feel bad about ourselves.
    spacemonkeyea spacemonkeyea 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 7, 2014

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    For the past 17 days I have willingly chose to

    avoid responsibility. Multiple times when my phone rang, I stared at the screen with a feelings of apprehension and stress. Deadlines have been ignored and I hate to admit it, but tears have been shed. However, now my duties have piled up to close to unmanageable levels. It...
    YouAreNotWhoYouSayYouAre YouAreNotWhoYouSayYouAre 22-25, M Jul 12

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    That's right. Don't feel sad

    if someone leave or hurt you. Noone but You. If you have yourself,you can meet right person someday. I believe it.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 19

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    Why can't I change others through my own body,

    heart, and soul. And once the holes are filled and tears are sown up, give them back their renewed selves. I know I'm not perfect myself but I'd fix them before me.
    ridge76 ridge76 22-25, M 3 Responses Jun 10

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    Because I know for sure

    that my desire to change is real, you will never really know if someone else has the desire to change unless they prove it to you everyday.
    alycia12 alycia12 26-30, F Jun 14, 2014

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    Changing My Life Is Changing Me.

    When I was young I thought I could change the world.  My idealism took over my life.  The day came when I married and thought with my love, my husband will become all he can be.  It took a couple years for me to see, he is who he is, end of story.  All I had...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 21 Responses Nov 24, 2008

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    Free Will

    It's Free will. Only you can Work on Changing yourself. You can't Force someone to do what they don't wanna do. I mean I learned it's best to just Try and do what is best For me. And let people Be who they are. If they see they need to change they will. If I Can't Compromise or...
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 17, 2008

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    There are 3 Types of People.

    1. People that make things Happen. 2. People that watch whats happening. 3. People that go: "oh! What Happened!!!
    ApacheKuruk ApacheKuruk 46-50, M 4 Responses Apr 17

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    Today I read a lovely

    and inspiring story about relationships. The run down is that this lady spent a great deal of time belittling her husband over silly things. How he did them that wasn't quite up to her standard. She went on and on about this. One example being how she asked him to get...
    MaryflockingPoppins MaryflockingPoppins 31-35, F Jan 14

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    As much as I know this is true.

    It still is a "Easier said than done thing." I know it is other people in this world that could agree that sometimes you can realize something like this is true. Yet to actually do it is a horse of another color. Yes I do agree I can only change myself yet I also agree I wish...
    Babeondwy Babeondwy 41-45, F 2 Responses May 14

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    With every step I take.

    I'm forever conscious of the quest for inner peace. The stillness of mind while everything around forms reality that resonates. - When I survey where I am. Who I have become. Recalling when this change happened baffles me. Who stole my body? . Who ravaged my thoughts...
    complex7 complex7 31-35, F Apr 23

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    A Delicious Steak With A Hint Of Testosterone

    I am on a journey. I whet my skills to become better, to become more complex, to become useful and lovable. You know how people are jerks? How they are careless, thoughtless, merciless, greedy, mean, harsh, vicious, cold-hearted? Well, I thought to myself. Why should I settle for...
    Slysmile Slysmile 22-25, M 3 Responses Jul 24, 2013

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    Well i don't like sharing my personal

    inconsistencies with people, but here i go so in February i went to Sydney Australia for a little visit seeing that I'm from there, that same night my best mate, his sisters and i went out for dinner.... So during dinner all i thought about was this one girl who meant more than...
    Arizv11 Arizv11 22-25, M May 14, 2014

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    I really need to change

    and I've known this for a long time. I would like to be a kinder person I mean like.. I'm nice but I just want to be the kindest I could be.
    kianaleaf kianaleaf 13-15, F Jul 19

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    I'm giving up ***********

    for good. No more. I only watched it because it's the closest I have ever been to sex...
    jonbz17 jonbz17 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 5

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    Phases Of Life

    The last 7 months were times of rest and spirituality.Through rest and spirituality i am transformed.I began to see life in different perspectives. Though my past traumas and sufferings took a big chunk out of my life,I felt the experiences from them made me wiser. I began to...
    unshakable unshakable 61-65, F 9 Responses Oct 21, 2011

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    I've realised something from reading over my

    other experiences, it seems you can be so miserable in a relationship but something always keeps you hanging on. It's all a lie. It's an image that we create or an idea of what we want the other person to be. If being with a person is not bettering you and all you do is give and...
    Jin959 Jin959 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 15

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    I believe that the more open

    and honest we can become with ourselves, the more we can enjoy all that life has to offer
    NakedTherapist NakedTherapist 56-60, M 1 Response Apr 2

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    Memory recalls Magnifying Unraveling Heart

    disconnects Mind seeks Soul questions The journey of life Let they say it to be mediocre Not listening Letting none Been and done and it's not much In search of the very moment Of revelation A purpose of life Still hidden Unsatisfied Heart forgives Restless soul Burning...
    ForMyLegMan ForMyLegMan 26-30, F Jun 26

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    I realized that, I'm the one that's stoping my

    self from being happy. No matter the situation, there is always a good n positive side to respond to it, but I've been usually taking the other route. I will be happy, no matter how bad things get, I'll turn something good out of it
    fav777 fav777 18-21 1 Response Nov 13, 2014

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    2 years ago I was lonely,

    in a job I despised, drinking all the time and just wanted to die. I had severe anxiety and major depression. So I prepared a bath and razor blade to finally end it. Just as I was about to make a deep cut along my arm I had an epiphany. I thought, ok since I'm going to be dead...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 8

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    In Search Of Clarity ..........

    When we see people and situations as they really are, without any false perceptions, we experience clarity. As we live life from a place of clarity, we experience a peace that comes from being guided by the still voice within. Clarity is the first step in taking appropriate...
    Kathieredart Kathieredart 56-60, F 2 Responses Feb 15, 2012

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    Me

    So I'll tell you the short story of my life. I'm 16 years old, I go to a small town school, live in a big house, I have plenty of friends, had a fair share of boyfriends, I have a job, and I get good grades. What more could a person ask for? The truth. I have plenty of friends...
    LettersToTheSky LettersToTheSky 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 18, 2011

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    That's So True

    I can only change myself. I can change myself in to a better person. A more caring, loving, compassionate, positive and respectful person. I also can change myself into the real me, a woman inside and out. A real person who has a lot to offer and a lot to learn. I can only...
    Josie06 Josie06 56-60, F 5 Responses Nov 25, 2008

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    Only I can be stronger in mind,

    body, and soul. You cannot make or break someone who is starting again. I from here on out am my own best friend until proven beyond the shadow of a doubt that I am respected and loved by someone more. Someone not just in need but legitimately able to clearly choose.
    YeahthatsMylife YeahthatsMylife 26-30, M 3 Responses Jun 1

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    And I do... for every relationship.

    I gaze at them. Analyse them and turn into what they want. Problem is that this takes no account of what I want and who I am. Then I get stuck. I am not the part I play. I resent the box I am in. I start tearing down the walls of the box. They are bewildered. Every...
    grommit3 grommit3 36-40, F 5 Responses Apr 17

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    Over this past year I've changed.

    The truth is I can hardly recognise myself,I'm almost a completely different person from before.I'm not really sure what triggered this change,it could have been when I flunked school, or maybe I realised I needed to change because I felt worthless and depressed...who knows...the...
    MeAndMySelf98 MeAndMySelf98 16-17, M May 10

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    I've decided that today was the day

    that I started to really promise myself that I was going to work on getting better. I have a lot to tackle, but I know that I can handle it. If I don't, no one is going to. I won't be able to do what I want with my life if I'm dead, so I have no real choice.
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jul 15

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    I'm able of doing many small changes,

    but my core will still the same.
    HeterosexualTransexual HeterosexualTransexual 18-21, T Mar 7

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    It's Time I Start Living This Life That God Has Given Me!

    I'm done letting the world get to me. I'm done letting people get under my skin. It's about time I be the person I was meant to be all along. My whole life people have let me down but now i'm just not going to expect much anymore. My thinking is all screwed up, and I just...
    MKM18 MKM18 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    Trying to change my mind.

    Trying to invent a new me. Trying to shed the bad and gain the new and better version of myself. Trying to trust myself. Trying and seeking answers. Self time is important
    Anonymouscoast Anonymouscoast 22-25 Mar 3

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    I know i resist change a lot.

    .It's hard..I hope I can change,I need to.it's just f**cking hard.I start doing things that are good for me than I'll stop and revert back to doing the same destructive crap/behaviors..Like right now I'm contemplative weather to keep trying to change for the better or go back to...
    simpleandpossible simpleandpossible 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 27

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    some faliure in life gives us a lesson

    for future projects.....
    singhvi2006 singhvi2006 31-35, M Mar 14

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    Timely Change, Paralyzed-fear Of The Unkown, Irreversible Damage!

    I'm at a point in my lifes journey where I've reached crisis levels in a majority of the challenges that have been effecting my life since I was a pre-teen. My days are filled with one appointment or another with a slew of various of healthcare professionals, addiction counselor...
    libra604 libra604 26-30, M 4 Responses Feb 22, 2012

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    I think I'm done with weed,

    among other things. It's been a fun past few months, but taking a break from it has felt great. The thing I never realized was that weed hits you twice. First you're high for a while, and then for days afterwards you'll still be slow and unmotivated. It just feels like such a...
    Indistinct Indistinct 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 8, 2014

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    For so long I have been carrying these weights.

    To the unsuspecting person I appear to have my "**** together". I have a loving girlfriend, go to a good university, go to the gym and have multiple friendship groups. But to be honest, this whole time I have been saving face by lying and saying I'm okay, when deep down inside...
    YouAreNotWhoYouSayYouAre YouAreNotWhoYouSayYouAre 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 25

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    I have always been in fights at school

    but now that I'm older I see now that even when you win it doesn't prove whose right or wrong 😂
    ZoeBright ZoeBright 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    Why Don't More People Get This?

    I live near a major international airport and I laugh when there are people who moved into their neighborhoods when the airport was already established, decide years later to complain about the noise. Are you f-ing kidding me? Today, I commented on a story about people wanting to...
    NoLongerHere NoLongerHere 41-45, M 4 Responses May 7, 2012

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    Go Within

    Recently, while having a rare conversation with my wife that I love very much I suggested that she “Go within”. I did not realize the importance of what I was saying. Heloise was talking about her interest in healing with the aid of crystals and her intention of practicing...
    BarryOne BarryOne 51-55, M 9 Responses Sep 15, 2011

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