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I Can Only Change Myself

Focussing on what is really the issue, what is really lying underneath all the fighting and being proactive about it. Changing yourself to bring a changed result in relationships, situations and life. 6,749 People

    Why Don't More People Get This?

    I live near a major international airport and I laugh when there are people who moved into their neighborhoods when the airport was already established, decide years later to complain about the noise. Are you f-ing kidding me? Today, I commented on a story about people wanting to...
    NoLongerHere NoLongerHere 41-45, M 5 Responses May 7, 2012

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    Today I have taken the challenge.

    New horizons and a new hope... Anybody want to join?
    purelaughter purelaughter 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 9

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    Timely Change, Paralyzed-fear Of The Unkown, Irreversible Damage!

    I'm at a point in my lifes journey where I've reached crisis levels in a majority of the challenges that have been effecting my life since I was a pre-teen. My days are filled with one appointment or another with a slew of various of healthcare professionals, addiction counselor...
    libra604 libra604 26-30, M 4 Responses Feb 22, 2012

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    One can't simply change another person,

    they have to be devoted to change themselves, I'm tired of trying to change someone for the better so I'm changing myself, I will no longer care and I will not have empathy.
    demcats13 demcats13 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 21

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    My Life Story: I Made It

    My name is Lauren Quirk, I'm 18 years old, and this is my story. I grew up in one of the most loving families I ever could have been born into. I had a great mother and father who loved me to death, the best grandparents a girl could ask for, and lots of loving cousins and...
    looloolemons looloolemons 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 25, 2012

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    I prefer to change myself

    than losing someone.
    InsanelySaneGuy InsanelySaneGuy 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 3

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    Go Within

    Recently, while having a rare conversation with my wife that I love very much I suggested that she “Go within”. I did not realize the importance of what I was saying. Heloise was talking about her interest in healing with the aid of crystals and her intention of practicing...
    BarryOne BarryOne 51-55, M 9 Responses Sep 15, 2011

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    “You’re under no obligation to be the same

    person you were five minutes ago.” Grow every second
    Bound2 Bound2 22-25, F May 15

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    It's Time I Start Living This Life That God Has Given Me!

    I'm done letting the world get to me. I'm done letting people get under my skin. It's about time I be the person I was meant to be all along. My whole life people have let me down but now i'm just not going to expect much anymore. My thinking is all screwed up, and I just...
    MKM18 MKM18 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    Your Past Doesn't Define Your Future

    I believe one of the main things that saved my life was being so scared of how it could turn out. My life growing up was very unstable, my mother and father are both drug addicts, We moved from home to home, had little to nothing, and each year it just got worse. The younger...
    HannahGraceS HannahGraceS 22-25, F 22 Responses Jul 13, 2013

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    Changes!

    I've learned a lot about myself here lately. For instance, I don't like being accussed of things I don't do, I don't like others assuming that "sorry" fixes everything, I don't like my feelings being tucked away because I'm too nice to share them, I don't like being ignored or...
    ThatGirlAriel ThatGirlAriel 22-25, F 6 Responses Jun 14, 2012

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    treebopper treebopper 18-21, M 2 days ago

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    Now, safely in my own world,

    I can change. I can expect more, because I need more. I want a certain life and it has me in the center. I'm done with compromise and fulfilling others wishes. I refuse to mold myself into anyone's trophy for a shelf and I will give my heart the chance of happiness and...
    breathtakingyou breathtakingyou 26-30, F Jun 21

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    You can't help a man

    who can't help themselves.
    Chrysanthemummarie Chrysanthemummarie 16-17 1 Response Jun 4

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    I Am Learning To Love Myself

    I don't love myself enough to surround myself with goodness, because I don't believe I deserve it. I think that people are always going to hurt me. This is because I don't feel good enough. Yet most people live in admiration of me. Most people dot believe I have low self esteem...
    Elizahrose Elizahrose 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 15, 2012

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    Free Will

    It's Free will. Only you can Work on Changing yourself. You can't Force someone to do what they don't wanna do. I mean I learned it's best to just Try and do what is best For me. And let people Be who they are. If they see they need to change they will. If I Can't Compromise or...
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 17, 2008

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    That's So True

    I can only change myself. I can change myself in to a better person. A more caring, loving, compassionate, positive and respectful person. I also can change myself into the real me, a woman inside and out. A real person who has a lot to offer and a lot to learn. I can only...
    Josie06 Josie06 56-60, F 5 Responses Nov 25, 2008

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    Well i don't like sharing my personal

    inconsistencies with people, but here i go so in February i went to Sydney Australia for a little visit seeing that I'm from there, that same night my best mate, his sisters and i went out for dinner.... So during dinner all i thought about was this one girl who meant more than...
    Arizv11 Arizv11 18-21, M May 14

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    is it too late to change

    and start over new?
    Dove9 Dove9 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    Mentoring

    One of my childhood issues that stayed with me up till my 50s was loneliness.. And being secretive. In primary school my school district had coping with all the kids my age. So I went to five different school buildings in five different parts of town....and by 5th grade I had no...
    HollywoodBob HollywoodBob 46-50, M 7 Responses Jan 31, 2013

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    I'm sick of this world.

    I wish I could go back in time to before humanity took the wrong turn that made everything like this. Eeh.... Whatever. To hell with the system. I guess ill be a backpacker to wherever the wind takes me till I figure something out lol hope you guys have a good day ❤️
    CaliPoppy CaliPoppy 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 26

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    Iv Changed For The Better

    Two years ago I had everything I could want out of life. But I Only saw what I didn't have, and I wasn't happy. Then we moved. I lost my friends, my own room, my favorite pet, I even lost the majority of my contact with my grandmother. I was fat, depressed and I had no...
    Spittlebug1 Spittlebug1 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 2, 2013

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    I promise myself not to masturbattee

    for one month. I wish i could make it. Yes! I can do it! I can!! :))
    lwh98 lwh98 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 4

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    Mhm but I'm not going to.

    .. For the first time in like forever I don't completely hate myself, and I have only one person to thank for it :) except old habits die hard and he isn't a fan of my old habits haha I'm not going to say who though Becuz I want him and only him to know who he is :) lol I'm weird...
    ImNotOkayWhyCantYouSeeThat ImNotOkayWhyCantYouSeeThat 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 14

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    The Only Reality

    I need to be a different person. I need to get real. I shouldn't let anyone think i'm weak or vulnerable or an easy target. I'm too nice to people and they think its weakness. NO. I'm done being nice. When people have bad intentions, you can't read them at their faces, its...
    FreeFallWall FreeFallWall 22-25, M 16 Responses Apr 6, 2010

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    "Everyone thinks of changing the world,

    but no one thinks of changing himself." ~Leo Tolstoy
    lovingRIZA lovingRIZA 51-55, F 1 Response Jul 17

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    Ive been in Limbo for the past year,

    I needed to quit my job and have been deliberating whether I should or shouldnt. I have to. So I did. I quit my job this week, I resigned. After mustering the courage to quit, I was told...I wont accept this, I need you to think it over. Am I a quitter? No. Definitly not, I am...
    IseekWithin IseekWithin 22-25, F 2 Responses May 7

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    Modesthijabiigirl Modesthijabiigirl 18-21, F May 11

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    A Delicious Steak With A Hint Of Testosterone

    I am on a journey. I whet my skills to become better, to become more complex, to become useful and lovable. You know how people are jerks? How they are careless, thoughtless, merciless, greedy, mean, harsh, vicious, cold-hearted? Well, I thought to myself. Why should I settle for...
    Slysmile Slysmile 18-21, M 3 Responses Jul 24, 2013

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    So I need some feedback.

    My mom and sister have been fighting since may this year because she didn't tell my mom that she switched churches. I do not think it was lying when my little sister who is 23 and doesn't live at home didn't let my mother in on that part of her life. Last time my sister switched...
    ilmafam ilmafam 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Changing My Life Is Changing Me.

    When I was young I thought I could change the world.  My idealism took over my life.  The day came when I married and thought with my love, my husband will become all he can be.  It took a couple years for me to see, he is who he is, end of story.  All I had...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 21 Responses Nov 24, 2008

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    Lately I feel I am annoying my friends.

    When I talk to them, the conversation fades and loses it's interest. They ditch me and only listen to the drama in life. I realize I can only change myself, so I will listen more instead of talking. Maybe then will we have more of a connection or bond. I will try to not come on...
    Brookiecookie2000 Brookiecookie2000 13-15, F 1 Response May 12

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    Should I Go Blonde?

    Should i? or should i not?-Destini
    LuvDestini LuvDestini 18-21, F 23 Responses Apr 8, 2012

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    Honestly it's time for me to be happy :) I'm

    tired of making others happy which ends makes me miserable. So good-bye to those fake smiles, and hello to my new happy life. Those who walk out of my life I'll appreciate them, those who stay I'll love them. It's never to late to be happy.
    DeterminedToMakeLifeWorthIt DeterminedToMakeLifeWorthIt 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 27

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    Me

    So I'll tell you the short story of my life. I'm 16 years old, I go to a small town school, live in a big house, I have plenty of friends, had a fair share of boyfriends, I have a job, and I get good grades. What more could a person ask for? The truth. I have plenty of friends...
    LettersToTheSky LettersToTheSky 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 18, 2011

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    I think my life is ok

    but sometimes do feel that is this what i wanted. I have to start thinking positively and Hope for the best
    Sonakshi1987 Sonakshi1987 26-30, F Jul 14

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    Phases Of Life

    The last 7 months were times of rest and spirituality.Through rest and spirituality i am transformed.I began to see life in different perspectives. Though my past traumas and sufferings took a big chunk out of my life,I felt the experiences from them made me wiser. I began to...
    unshakable unshakable 61-65, F 10 Responses Oct 21, 2011

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    Feeling Much Better

    Have you ever looked at an undone puzzle. Only half of it done and you still cant really see the picture. Thats how I've been doing things lately. I've been trying to see a picture that wasn't there. I spoke to someone for 4 hours yesterday and i can't believe how much that alone...
    Grizzly007 Grizzly007 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 21, 2012

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    In Search Of Clarity ..........

    When we see people and situations as they really are, without any false perceptions, we experience clarity. As we live life from a place of clarity, we experience a peace that comes from being guided by the still voice within. Clarity is the first step in taking appropriate...
    Kathieredart Kathieredart 56-60, F 3 Responses Feb 15, 2012

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    I get really disgusted

    and mad at my boyfriend when I feel like he's being weak or pathetic. I feel bad about being mad then too.
    bengalis bengalis 18-21, F 2 Responses May 17

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    I'm looking to find myself again is it ok

    that I go places by myself for example bars, movies, restaurants?
    BrittTHart BrittTHart 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 18

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    With my marriage on the rocks I'm having

    trouble moving on. I drown myself into work and art which is my attempt to not have to sit and think about it.
    BrittTHart BrittTHart 26-30, F 1 Response May 8

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    Life is beautiful, as long

    as it consumes you. When it is rushing through you, destroying you, life is gorgeous, glorious. It’s when you burn a slow fire and save fuel, that life’s not worth having.
    FARHANqureshi FARHANqureshi 18-21, M Apr 20

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    Care & Feeding Of The Mind

    The care & feeding of the mind is just as important as the care & feeding of the body. The mind unfed weakens just as the body does. The mind not sustained by the continual intake of something that is capable of feeding it well or nourishing it, shrinks and shrivels. And it all...
    purpleparrot purpleparrot 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 17, 2012

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    I'm slowly making adjustments to my life

    and with effort it's working and I am finally seeing glimmers of hope. Yes I feel very down when the past comes to my mind but I am learning to change and eventually I hope I can win this battle with myself. The only thing I can say to others out there who are going through a...
    brokenheart19 brokenheart19 18-21, F Apr 23

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    Women Changing Me

    I wanted to tell a story about dating my one and only GF in college. I hear a lot of stories about women wanting man to change or seeing the potential in them to be a great person, and I have an experience like that. All through our dating, things were the most part wonderful. So...
    chimbie88 chimbie88 31-35, M 2 Responses Sep 15, 2012

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    no you cannot change yourself you cannot just

    go back to the birth shop and change what god gave you ...you can only live life to the best of your ability and also to the best you can be .thats not changing yourself you are who you are ....but live life to the better you !
    psychicprayer psychicprayer 36-40 3 Responses May 14

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    I know life is difficult

    but I know that things will get better
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 22

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    They say you must hit rock bottom

    before you can rebuild yourself from the bottom up. I have turned into the kind of person that I hate. This is because of the need for attention from men. From this day foward I will change myself for the better. I am a good person, I have just gone haywire lately.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 31, 2013

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    "Any change, even a change

    for the better, is always accompanied by drawbacks and discomforts." ~Arnold Bennett
    lovingRIZA lovingRIZA 51-55, F Jul 17

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    Because I know for sure

    that my desire to change is real, you will never really know if someone else has the desire to change unless they prove it to you everyday.
    alycia12 alycia12 26-30, F Jun 14

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    I find I always let others control my happiness.

    I never understand why, I need to start focusing on myself and being selfish.
    Experiencezzzz Experiencezzzz 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 29

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