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I Cant Change the Past But I Can Change My Future

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    For two years I have lived in a sexless

    marriage. For two years I've made excuses in my head for the way he acted. It all ended today. I'm 45 and he was my high school sweetheart. He went away with the kids for 5 days. He woke me up the next morning screaming at me. He was in my face. Nasty. Vicious. Hitting one hand...
    alwaysmiling79 alwaysmiling79 41-45, F 8 Responses Aug 26, 2015

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    My Futures So Bright I Have to Wear Shades

    I can’t change what happened yesterday.  Heck I can’t even change what happened a moment ago but if I learned from it and I became a better person that is all that matters.  I have this personal philosophy that every person we meet is in our lives for a...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 38 Responses May 8, 2008

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    I like most people have gone through some

    pretty bad moments in my past .. I have found say the last Ten Years to have taken their toll .. I went through a very rough patch with my health and consequently things turned out that I could not get through my front door from some pretty deep rooted fears that I had. My...
    saxappeal saxappeal 46-50, F 21 Responses May 28, 2015

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    I cant change my past

    but iam now going. To do my best to make a great future for myself iam going to grow up and stop messing. My life up and become a better person help others ect
    Joanne181 Joanne181 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 1

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    I'm not where I want to be

    but am glad I'm not where I used to be
    ArizonaIce24 ArizonaIce24 16-17, M 3 Responses Dec 21, 2015

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    No Regrets. The key to happiness is to always

    be looking forward while moving forward. It is important to pause and look back once in a while to learn from our mistakes or errors in judgement. We should also look back on the good to appreciate all that happened to make us who we are. By reflecting on the past, we can...
    Some1umayNo Some1umayNo 46-50, M 8 Responses Mar 20, 2015

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    Well, this year would be the year to get rid

    if fake friends, fake love, and fake memories. Time to change for the better
    MissBrave22 MissBrave22 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 3

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    Love Yourself

    You have to love yourself enough to let go of bad situations or people/things that are keeping you away from your true potential and to succeed.. Life is to short to be unhappy. We are hear to grow ad love and live not just struggle.
    prettygirl1982 prettygirl1982 31-35, F 8 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    Has anyone ever seen the movie,

    "Yes man"? I've decided in 2016 I plan on getting out of my comfort zone along these lines. Instead of my usual excuses I will make an effort to go to things I'm invited to and to also invite people out to more things.. To keep contact with my friends instead of going months...
    CovertInk CovertInk 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 6

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    I Have The Power

    We all have power in everyday decisions, whether we believe it or not. Its whether we let every decision that we make effect our future for better or for worse. I can't change any of the decisions that I made earlier to day or yesterday, all I have is now and the future. Its time...
    kjiggy03 kjiggy03 18-21 180 Responses Jun 29, 2012

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    Have you ever wondered

    that some of the things that happened to you if they wouldn't have happened or happenend differently would your life be any different than what it is now. I get it, we should be thankful and all and learn from our experiences, but it's just something that I would like to have an...
    CindersAndSmokes CindersAndSmokes 26-30, M 2 days ago

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    I can't change my past,

    our past, but I can change my future and it is mine because there is not "us" in it anymore. You hurt me and I must remember that. I must remember all those nightmares, the sleepless nighs, the crying, the pain. I cannot believe that after all these months you are effortlessly...
    American19 American19 18-21, F 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    Just got dumped by my boyfriend all

    because I go to a different school even though we live right across the road from each other. Any one looking for a girlfriend that loves sports and is 13 u can be 12-14
    Kia2402 Kia2402 13-15, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Betrayed

    I believe that each one of us has their own troubles and I too had my fair share of it as well. I had been betrayed by the person whom I had loved and treasured the most in my life. He spun a lie and distributed my photos without my permission and without even knowing it , I...
    Debbiechan Debbiechan 22-25, F 40 Responses Nov 12, 2012

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    The past is a place of REFERENCE,

    not a place of RESIDENCE.
    ImAlivingParadox ImAlivingParadox 22-25, F 7 Responses May 8, 2015

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    I'm starting a new mainstream school today.

    It's a new beginning for me. I hope I make lots of friends, wish me luck! I'm so nervous 🤕
    taytay1401 taytay1401 13-15, F 3 Responses Jan 28

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    Just when you think you can change your future

    the universe will remind you that is a delusion and while we can hope for things we never truly know what will happen. Be in the present and give up your worries about the future. Let the chips fall as they may. Try your best to contribute to your dream future but know you can...
    peachygreens peachygreens 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    It not real..........

    .....…...................... WHEN U R READING THIS DONT STOP OR SOMETHING BAD WILL HAPPEN! {SORRY ABOUT THIS} THIS GIRL’S NAME IS SUMMER SHE’S 15 YEARS OLD & hasBLONDE HAIR ,MANY SCARS no NOSE OR EARS.. SHE IS DEAD. IF U DONT COPYTHIS JUST LIKE FROM THE RING, COPY N POST...
    dboykilla dboykilla 13-15, M 1 Response Jan 1

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    I saw this quote that said "I realized I

    couldn't touch yesterday so I'm not sure why I keep letting it touch me" and I haven't got to thinking until I saw that. Life is challenging and I have ****** up 1,000 times over and over in the past but that's not who I am now and I can't let it define me
    laurenzerbe laurenzerbe 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    The Tale Of The Monk And The Scorpion

    “Once in a monastery two monks walked about doing their morning duties. As they passed a small bowl, filled with rain, they saw a scorpion was drowning in the water. One monk reached in to save the creature. As soon as his fingers touched the panicking Scorpion, it stung him...
    NeoNeo NeoNeo 41-45, M 25 Responses Feb 1, 2012

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    I focus on the past

    so much. I think it's natural as we learn from the past, but I think it's the main reason I suffer. I know this, yet I find myself doing it. Maybe I'm at an age where I can't stop? I don't know. I fantasise about changing things in my past.... But I. Having no future. I'm...
    AlphaGoat AlphaGoat 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 17

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    I have no such regrets of my past.

    They made me who I am today, but I do regret some of the decisions I made in my past. Missed opportunities. Could have had the love of my life today if only I had not behaved like a ****. Could have focused on a lot of things, but it's okay. I believe it was meant to happen...
    Dictatorse Dictatorse 22-25, M 6 Responses Jan 10, 2015

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    i remeber this one time i was in high school i

    did yes get bullied for a wile but i stoped it after a wile.... but i do remeber this one time i saw this one guy hit his girl friend in the locker hallway i walked past and saw it and turned around and went at him he ended up in the hospital for cuts and broken bones i well...
    carnage169 carnage169 18-21, M Jan 23

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    I'm always dwelling on how we can never really

    afford anything, and although my family's making an effort, we've lived like this for so long. And while we are improving, there's always room for more improvement; I'm going to be the one to change things. I want to be the catalyst. My family is the reason that I will continue...
    Moonlitt Moonlitt 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 27, 2015

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    That's what I'm going to do.

    ..my habit of procrastination held me down through all these years and ruined my life...but I will not let these same things happen to me again in the future if I can help it..its a promise I'm making to myself...
    missdeterminedforever missdeterminedforever 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 1

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    to all the haters and critics around me,

    laugh all you want and throw stones at me. ..One day,I'll rise from ashes like a phoenix and show you I'm not worthless as you think...and believe me,that day is not faraway...#feeling determined..
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Dec 20, 2015

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    I was asked once what would I change in my life

    if I had such chance ? I thought hard about it and the only things that I found was avoiding hurting people and thanking to those who did something for me. Sometimes we hurt people without knowing it. Years later when I thought back I realized it but its late to do anything...
    laughingsoul laughingsoul 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 27, 2015

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    finally good news! after they kicked me out of

    my high school and told me that I couldn't finish my senior year anywhere, I appealed the school's decision and today the supervisor of schools of the district granted my appeal and said that my cognitive abilities are too great to be kicked out of high school (he basically said...
    hadargirl22 hadargirl22 16-17, F 7 Responses Jul 7, 2015

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    Living By My Own Rules Now...

    My entire life I have done whatever I can to make everyone around me happy. I have been taken advantage of, abused, raped, and left for broken. I have given up my dreams to support those around me and help them achieve theirs. I don't think there was a time in my past, where I...
    brokenangel913 brokenangel913 41-45, F 95 Responses Mar 30, 2011

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    If you have a heart full of love then nothing

    but love comes out of your mouth . If you have a heart full of hate then nothing but hate comes out from you. Learn to Love yourself before you start claiming that you love someone. Bcos how could you love when you don't even know what that feels like? When others put you down...
    Ceelea Ceelea 18-21, F Dec 27, 2015

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    I Hope

    My immediate past has been hell and most of it I screwed up all by myself. Some days I'm obsessed with thoughts of my past mistakes and I can't focus on today. I'm having a hard time forgiving myself and some days I think that I may never forgive me. It all sounds so easy but it...
    pentupfreedom pentupfreedom 46-50, M 27 Responses Jan 24, 2013

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    Words Of Wisdom

    I was watching "The Voice", one of the contestant had been stalled in his career by a depressive illness,he had a wonderful voice and all four coaches turned around,one of the coaches shared his own story about having suffered with depression and another came out with these...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 4 Responses Apr 10, 2013

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    It's funny how one person can change your

    thoughts...Every experience of my life is somehow new again... I find pleasure in every task, no matter how routine it is, there is a feeling inside I can't explain, I remind myself of the important things, I'm changing into the person I want to be and want to share with another...
    Lydia66 Lydia66 46-50, F 8 Responses Jul 26, 2014

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    My parents are drug addicts.

    I spent my life watching meth destroy peoples lives. And mine. But I strive to be like my sister. She's currently in college with two jobs and still finds time to help my brother and I. I can't wait until I'm out if here and choosing my own path.
    Bearcookie Bearcookie 18-21, F 17 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    2015 has been total crap,

    long story short, I was diagnosed with clinical depression, started to have anxiety attacks, my obsessive thoughts came back which resulted in an eating disorder, I lost a lot of weight and am now underweight, then I was wrongly diagnosed with a brain tumor, there even was an...
    sia303 sia303 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 12

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    Jackson Browne - Running on Empty .

    ... Years ago, I heard this song ... after a long swim, a run or a hard work day ... it redirected my attention from weary muscles to looking ahead. Worked through the night ... heard it this morning ... as morning popped ... decided to share! Running into the sun ... y'all...
    questionWeaver questionWeaver 56-60, M 2 Responses Jan 16

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    Some of you know of me some of you do not.

    . I will tell you a little about me,First of all Merry Christmas..mine is not the best but will get too that..when I was young I got mental abuse Daily as far back as I can Remember. physical some Ya my Dad punched me in the face several occasions and If I cried well then I was...
    livinkarma livinkarma 46-50, M 10 Responses Dec 25, 2013

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    I Am A Survivor

    Sexual abuse, neglect, rejection, verbal bashing, discrimination, drug abuse, alcoholism....u name it ive probably been there and done that. My latest episode had to have been my strongest and most significant. I was 17 years old, leavin on the streets, selling drugs and...
    Wanascream813 Wanascream813 18-21, F 104 Responses Nov 6, 2009

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    Strange But True!

    The past is all the water that's floated under the bridge. The bridge is the here and now present. As you stand upon, and, gaze from the bridge you look into your future. The only way to change your future for the best is to begin creating a brighter much better one. Learn from...
    01Joe9 01Joe9 41-45, M 9 Responses Nov 7, 2012

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    His parents were asking

    for a second chance from me on his behalf after he cheated on me with his sexy long hair officemate. I told them " i had been loyal to your son despite the distance and many chances to cheat to more attractive men surrounding me on his absence while he is on training but never...
    xazygreece xazygreece 22-25, F 8 Responses Sep 2, 2015

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    ncskiguy78 ncskiguy78 36-40, M 5 Responses May 16, 2014

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    Finally 2015 is over.

    This has been the WORST year in my entire 13 years of life. Even the year started off negatively, when I got caught smoking midway through January- January 12 to be precise. I hope next year on the exact SAME day I am in a position EXACT different from this year.-- a place...
    taytay1401 taytay1401 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 31, 2015

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    Have two episodes is like being born again.

    .... I have to learn never to put myself in this position again, Sometimes I feel to give up, sometimes I feel I have no choice..... Will I ever be my own self again
    jml5 jml5 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    This is what I have told my daughters.

    I know that I made some (a lot to be truthful) bad decisions and worse choices that negatively affected their lives. Since I finally got on a medication that keeps me from going off the deep end of the pool without water wings, I've apologized to them all and told them I can...
    Serenitree1 Serenitree1 70+, F Dec 28, 2015

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    It's True.

    This is a concept that most people forget on a daily basis. You can't change the past--a minute ago, included, is the past. So what if you can't change it? That just means you have to push forward and make the future better. I need to remember this, myself. I may not be able to...
    Shebby88 Shebby88 18-21, F 20 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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