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I Cant Change the Past But I Can Change My Future

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    I am a widow at the age of 25.

    I lost my husband almost 2 months ago every day is a step closer to find serenity and knowing I cannot change the past and only move forward into the future. I truly miss my husband everyday. He will never be forgotten
    frankiejo frankiejo 26-30, F 10 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    to all the haters and critics around me,

    laugh all you want and throw stones at me. ..One day,I'll rise from ashes like a phoenix and show you I'm not worthless as you think...and believe me,that day is not faraway...#feeling determined..
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Dec 20, 2015

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    If you have a heart full of love then nothing

    but love comes out of your mouth . If you have a heart full of hate then nothing but hate comes out from you. Learn to Love yourself before you start claiming that you love someone. Bcos how could you love when you don't even know what that feels like? When others put you down...
    Ceelea Ceelea 18-21, F Dec 27, 2015

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    The past is a place of REFERENCE,

    not a place of RESIDENCE.
    ImAlivingParadox ImAlivingParadox 22-25, F 7 Responses May 8, 2015

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    My name is Lilian Nyaguthie Mwai,

    am a Kenyan citizen living in Finland. I have decided to come out and share my story so the world can know that racial segregation still exists. I have been going through mental torment and even physical abuse from my ex-boyfriend here in Finland. Efforts to reach out to the...
    Marvelas Marvelas 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 23

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    Some of you know of me some of you do not.

    . I will tell you a little about me,First of all Merry Christmas..mine is not the best but will get too that..when I was young I got mental abuse Daily as far back as I can Remember. physical some Ya my Dad punched me in the face several occasions and If I cried well then I was...
    livinkarma livinkarma 46-50, M 10 Responses Dec 25, 2013

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    i remeber this one time i was in high school i

    did yes get bullied for a wile but i stoped it after a wile.... but i do remeber this one time i saw this one guy hit his girl friend in the locker hallway i walked past and saw it and turned around and went at him he ended up in the hospital for cuts and broken bones i well...
    carnage169 carnage169 18-21, M Jan 23

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    It's funny how one person can change your

    thoughts...Every experience of my life is somehow new again... I find pleasure in every task, no matter how routine it is, there is a feeling inside I can't explain, I remind myself of the important things, I'm changing into the person I want to be and want to share with another...
    Lydia66 Lydia66 46-50, F 8 Responses Jul 26, 2014

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    ncskiguy78 ncskiguy78 36-40, M 16 Responses May 22, 2014

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    I like most people have gone through some

    pretty bad moments in my past .. I have found say the last Ten Years to have taken their toll .. I went through a very rough patch with my health and consequently things turned out that I could not get through my front door from some pretty deep rooted fears that I had. My...
    saxappeal saxappeal 46-50, F 21 Responses May 28, 2015

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    His parents were asking

    for a second chance from me on his behalf after he cheated on me with his sexy long hair officemate. I told them " i had been loyal to your son despite the distance and many chances to cheat to more attractive men surrounding me on his absence while he is on training but never...
    xazygreece xazygreece 22-25, F 8 Responses Sep 2, 2015

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    The Tale Of The Monk And The Scorpion

    “Once in a monastery two monks walked about doing their morning duties. As they passed a small bowl, filled with rain, they saw a scorpion was drowning in the water. One monk reached in to save the creature. As soon as his fingers touched the panicking Scorpion, it stung him...
    NeoNeo NeoNeo 41-45, M 25 Responses Feb 1, 2012

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    Words Of Wisdom

    I was watching "The Voice", one of the contestant had been stalled in his career by a depressive illness,he had a wonderful voice and all four coaches turned around,one of the coaches shared his own story about having suffered with depression and another came out with these...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 4 Responses Apr 10, 2013

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    A Message To Mulkie....

    I used to carry a lot of baggage, I still do. I used to consider I had a "dark heart", and sometimes, I still do. I consider myself a "realist" who sees things for what they are. But my baggage is now overflowing, and now I realize that I have to lay it down. I have to learn...
    mulkie mulkie 41-45, M 4 Responses Jan 28, 2012

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    I'm here to hookup and be dirty

    and speak my inner mind lol
    anonmember anonmember 18-21, M 3 Responses Dec 13, 2015

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    Strange But True!

    The past is all the water that's floated under the bridge. The bridge is the here and now present. As you stand upon, and, gaze from the bridge you look into your future. The only way to change your future for the best is to begin creating a brighter much better one. Learn from...
    01Joe9 01Joe9 41-45, M 9 Responses Nov 7, 2012

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    Finally 2015 is over.

    This has been the WORST year in my entire 13 years of life. Even the year started off negatively, when I got caught smoking midway through January- January 12 to be precise. I hope next year on the exact SAME day I am in a position EXACT different from this year.-- a place...
    taytay1401 taytay1401 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 31, 2015

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    I cant change my past

    but iam now going. To do my best to make a great future for myself iam going to grow up and stop messing. My life up and become a better person help others ect
    Joanne181 Joanne181 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    If much worse torment ,

    not to see them, much worse again would be, not to see them free . I have held them so much in dreams that I know better than their parents will ever do, their skin, their scents and their warmth. I know and I am done letting my wish persistently left against all the wounds...
    SlRlN SlRlN 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 19, 2015

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    Betrayed

    I believe that each one of us has their own troubles and I too had my fair share of it as well. I had been betrayed by the person whom I had loved and treasured the most in my life. He spun a lie and distributed my photos without my permission and without even knowing it , I...
    Debbiechan Debbiechan 22-25, F 40 Responses Nov 12, 2012

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    This is what I have told my daughters.

    I know that I made some (a lot to be truthful) bad decisions and worse choices that negatively affected their lives. Since I finally got on a medication that keeps me from going off the deep end of the pool without water wings, I've apologized to them all and told them I can...
    Serenitree1 Serenitree1 70+, F Dec 28, 2015

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    That's what I'm going to do.

    ..my habit of procrastination held me down through all these years and ruined my life...but I will not let these same things happen to me again in the future if I can help it..its a promise I'm making to myself...
    missdeterminedforever missdeterminedforever 22-25, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    For two years I have lived in a sexless

    marriage. For two years I've made excuses in my head for the way he acted. It all ended today. I'm 45 and he was my high school sweetheart. He went away with the kids for 5 days. He woke me up the next morning screaming at me. He was in my face. Nasty. Vicious. Hitting one hand...
    alwaysmiling79 alwaysmiling79 41-45, F 8 Responses Aug 26, 2015

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    I was asked once what would I change in my life

    if I had such chance ? I thought hard about it and the only things that I found was avoiding hurting people and thanking to those who did something for me. Sometimes we hurt people without knowing it. Years later when I thought back I realized it but its late to do anything...
    laughingsoul laughingsoul 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 27, 2015

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    I always thought the hardest thing to do in

    life is to forgive others for the pain they've caused you.. Growing up I was a child/teenager trapped inside a woman's body. I was handed or more I had to take responsibility for things/play the role of a parent for my parents. I was the adult and they were the children. My...
    MissQueenB MissQueenB 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 21, 2015

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    My parents are drug addicts.

    I spent my life watching meth destroy peoples lives. And mine. But I strive to be like my sister. She's currently in college with two jobs and still finds time to help my brother and I. I can't wait until I'm out if here and choosing my own path.
    Bearcookie Bearcookie 18-21, F 17 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    Has anyone ever seen the movie,

    "Yes man"? I've decided in 2016 I plan on getting out of my comfort zone along these lines. Instead of my usual excuses I will make an effort to go to things I'm invited to and to also invite people out to more things.. To keep contact with my friends instead of going months...
    CovertInk CovertInk 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 6

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    I Am A Survivor

    Sexual abuse, neglect, rejection, verbal bashing, discrimination, drug abuse, alcoholism....u name it ive probably been there and done that. My latest episode had to have been my strongest and most significant. I was 17 years old, leavin on the streets, selling drugs and...
    Wanascream813 Wanascream813 18-21, F 104 Responses Nov 6, 2009

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    I have no such regrets of my past.

    They made me who I am today, but I do regret some of the decisions I made in my past. Missed opportunities. Could have had the love of my life today if only I had not behaved like a ****. Could have focused on a lot of things, but it's okay. I believe it was meant to happen...
    Dictatorse Dictatorse 22-25, M 6 Responses Jan 10, 2015

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    Well, this year would be the year to get rid

    if fake friends, fake love, and fake memories. Time to change for the better
    MissBrave22 MissBrave22 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 3

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    We can change our future,

    but two things have to occur first. We need to recognize what needs changed, and then put the change plan into action. I have many faults and this certainly does not make the top of my list, in fact I have a difficulty understanding why others see it as a fault. I have a very...
    GJOFJ3 GJOFJ3 56-60, M 10 Responses Jun 22, 2015

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    My past was pretty f#cked up being raised by my

    mum who was pretty much my everything well my dad was a wife beating dickhead who was around but only it suited him to this day I cant get over the **** my dads gone and done even now least I know better now than to never fall for a man like him, I love my dad cos well he's my...
    Haze94 Haze94 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 19, 2015

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    I have to man up. Now

    that my mum is gone, I am the matriarch here at our household. Big shoes to fill in. Wasn't aware that her responsibilities were this hard. I can do this!
    ObliviousSainte ObliviousSainte 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 19

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    Of course this is a slightly misleading title

    because we cannot change our futures, we can only influence them. By definition, you cannot change something that hasn't existed. We can however act upon the influences in the future that can impact our lives and take alternative paths to those suggested by our past.
    Riffster Riffster 51-55, M Dec 19, 2015

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    I Hope

    My immediate past has been hell and most of it I screwed up all by myself. Some days I'm obsessed with thoughts of my past mistakes and I can't focus on today. I'm having a hard time forgiving myself and some days I think that I may never forgive me. It all sounds so easy but it...
    pentupfreedom pentupfreedom 46-50, M 27 Responses Jan 24, 2013

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    I'm starting a new mainstream school today.

    It's a new beginning for me. I hope I make lots of friends, wish me luck! I'm so nervous 🤕
    taytay1401 taytay1401 13-15, F 3 Responses Jan 28

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    Love Yourself

    You have to love yourself enough to let go of bad situations or people/things that are keeping you away from your true potential and to succeed.. Life is to short to be unhappy. We are hear to grow ad love and live not just struggle.
    prettygirl1982 prettygirl1982 31-35, F 8 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    2015 has been total crap,

    long story short, I was diagnosed with clinical depression, started to have anxiety attacks, my obsessive thoughts came back which resulted in an eating disorder, I lost a lot of weight and am now underweight, then I was wrongly diagnosed with a brain tumor, there even was an...
    sia303 sia303 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 12

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    finally good news! after they kicked me out of

    my high school and told me that I couldn't finish my senior year anywhere, I appealed the school's decision and today the supervisor of schools of the district granted my appeal and said that my cognitive abilities are too great to be kicked out of high school (he basically said...
    hadargirl22 hadargirl22 16-17, F 7 Responses Jul 7, 2015

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    It's True.

    This is a concept that most people forget on a daily basis. You can't change the past--a minute ago, included, is the past. So what if you can't change it? That just means you have to push forward and make the future better. I need to remember this, myself. I may not be able to...
    Shebby88 Shebby88 18-21, F 20 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    We can learn from the past

    and gain insights of coping strategies when things go wrong. Or see other perspectives. But we should not dwell on it. It is the present that matters and how we treat other people, our friends and family
    Galdi Galdi 61-65, M 1 Response Dec 15, 2015

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    I'm a product of my own imagination.

    What I imagine I am, I become. I tell myself I am good, but that's because I'm deciding to be what I call good. All my worries and fears are my own. I'm a machine that has programmed myself with only the society I'm surrounded by as my guidebook. Now I'm 30 years into my...
    AlphaGoat AlphaGoat 31-35, M 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Have you ever wondered

    that some of the things that happened to you if they wouldn't have happened or happenend differently would your life be any different than what it is now. I get it, we should be thankful and all and learn from our experiences, but it's just something that I would like to have an...
    CindersAndSmokes CindersAndSmokes 26-30, M 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    I'm always dwelling on how we can never really

    afford anything, and although my family's making an effort, we've lived like this for so long. And while we are improving, there's always room for more improvement; I'm going to be the one to change things. I want to be the catalyst. My family is the reason that I will continue...
    Moonlitt Moonlitt 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 27, 2015

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    2016 smaller circle..

    ...stay away from jealous self absorbed people snobby people.... Concentrating on making money and taking time out for myself
    jml5 jml5 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 3

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