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I Cant Change the Past But I Can Change My Future

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    I am a widow at the age of 25.

    I lost my husband almost 2 months ago every day is a step closer to find serenity and knowing I cannot change the past and only move forward into the future. I truly miss my husband everyday. He will never be forgotten
    frankiejo frankiejo 22-25, F 11 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    Living By My Own Rules Now...

    My entire life I have done whatever I can to make everyone around me happy. I have been taken advantage of, abused, raped, and left for broken. I have given up my dreams to support those around me and help them achieve theirs. I don't think there was a time in my past, where I...
    brokenangel913 brokenangel913 41-45, F 98 Responses Mar 30, 2011

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    I wrote this as a response to a 17 year old

    male who'd just lost a girl and was suicidally depressed. I realized by the end that I was actually writing a letter to a younger me. It is the first time I've wanted to communicate with the younger me; up until now I only wanted to go back in time so I could punch `younger me...
    Woody6 Woody6 41-45, M 3 Responses Mar 28

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    We all have an ugly past

    but that does not mean that we are going to have an ugly future .. Stand up the time is right for you to determine your brighter future....
    whood777 whood777 51-55, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    It's True.

    This is a concept that most people forget on a daily basis. You can't change the past--a minute ago, included, is the past. So what if you can't change it? That just means you have to push forward and make the future better. I need to remember this, myself. I may not be able to...
    Shebby88 Shebby88 18-21, F 19 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    My past hasn't been all

    that great. After all, that is how we learn. We make mistakes, we learn from them. If you don't make any mistakes, you're not trying anything, and you're not truly living. I am the person I am today, because of the hardships I've been through. I'll take it, and go on my Merry...
    Philli8807 Philli8807 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 24

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    Going Forward With Lessons From Your Past

     I found EP after an extremely great personal devastation.  And I am so grateful for this platform and the friends I have found on it.  I have been fairly sheltered all my life.  Being on board EP has been a very eye opening experience.  I have learnt...
    Hannah777 Hannah777 36-40, F 30 Responses Apr 1, 2010

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    Do you think you can slowly learn to forget

    or manage the guilt from a terrible mistake? No matter how big the mistake was? Do you think you can ever move on from it?
    brokenandlost01 brokenandlost01 18-21, F 22 Responses Feb 2

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    I was physically and mentally abused by my bio

    mom until i was 15. I'm 17 now and I'm living my life with an attitude that will destroy the abuse cycle.
    BcopleyD BcopleyD 18-21, F 7 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    This was the worst time in my life

    and I was just a freshman!!! I took weeks to just think about it. I was so hurt by it all. I was surrounded by lots of negativity. Bryanna really made me mad. Even though I was the one who called off the friendship it felt as if she did. I lost all my respect for her and another...
    Shauntreece Shauntreece 16-17, F Apr 1

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    The Past Has Changed Me

    I have a different outlook on my future. All my plans I had, had to go, they were impossible. So, I can't change the change my past has inflected on me. I must roll with the punches. The worse damage done by my past is my heart can't be got! It's stonecold when it comes to...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 6 Responses Jan 31, 2013

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    A Message To Mulkie....

    I used to carry a lot of baggage, I still do. I used to consider I had a "dark heart", and sometimes, I still do. I consider myself a "realist" who sees things for what they are. But my baggage is now overflowing, and now I realize that I have to lay it down. I have to learn...
    mulkie mulkie 41-45, M 6 Responses Jan 28, 2012

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    I am working in improving my life

    and know if I continue my course of action that my life will improve, but there are times I am stuck in the past and feel the regret of poor choices. When my family asks me what I want for my birthday, Father’s Day or Christmas, I sarcastically answer a time machine. Whenever...
    ProgressNotPerfection ProgressNotPerfection 41-45, M 1 Response Mar 14

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    2013 was an awful year

    for me. I was doing drugs, running away, getting into fights... Looking back at this past year I've realized how childish I was acting. It's almost 2014 and I've already began changing my future. I've been applying for jobs, I've stopped using, I've stopped cutting. I've stopped...
    AmandaRachael AmandaRachael 13-15, F 11 Responses Dec 20, 2013

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    Stop Seeking For Love From Others

    I've recently taken off my online dating profile, to prevent myself from further disappointments. One incident in particular, I went on 5 dates with a guy I met online and thought it was a beginning of something special or it could just be wishful thinking on my part. He may...
    WCindy WCindy 22-25, F 12 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    My Futures So Bright I Have to Wear Shades

    I can’t change what happened yesterday.  Heck I can’t even change what happened a moment ago but if I learned from it and I became a better person that is all that matters.  I have this personal philosophy that every person we meet is in our lives for a...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 39 Responses May 8, 2008

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    20 000 Words A Day An Most Of Them Defamatory.

    (For those of us who beat down on ourselves) We speak to ourselves all the time. Most days we direct around 20 000 words at ourselves. Of these,nearly all are negative. We keep feeding our mind with negative dialogue. How long would you expect to keep a friend, if you did the...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 3 Responses Mar 28, 2013

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    My past was misspent.

    I was a bad boy who did time but eventually got wise. Now on parole, I see the limitations my prior mistakes place upon me. Robbery was my thing but I really just robbed myself of a lot of the good experiences most people take for granted. Never let it be said that life is a one...
    malice1960 malice1960 51-55, F 1 Response Apr 2

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    Choices

    Sadness Happiness Suffering Empowerment Live in memories Live in the now Inaction Action Stagnation Growth Grief Understanding loveless love Self hate Self respect He said she said We say: ) Blame Take responsibility Pain Healing Lies to Honesty Prison Freedom...
    topboy1968 topboy1968 41-45 12 Responses Sep 18, 2013

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    This happened many years ago.

    A friend's dad was alone as my friend and her Mom were away.I went to give him something on my Mom's request.My cousin was with me.That man sat next to me and tried to rub his cheek against mine.I left immediately .Later I learnt he tried to do the same with my sister.Suddenly I...
    mona87 mona87 46-50, F 3 Responses Mar 24

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    My parents are drug addicts.

    I spent my life watching meth destroy peoples lives. And mine. But I strive to be like my sister. She's currently in college with two jobs and still finds time to help my brother and I. I can't wait until I'm out if here and choosing my own path.
    CuteShyGinger CuteShyGinger 16-17, F 21 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    In the past, I used to blame myself

    and people around me for every single thing happened to me. I blamed parents for not sending me to a fancy high school, I blamed teachers for not giving me good marks, I blamed sisters who are not supportive enough, I blamed myself for being a big ******* blaming everyone else...
    bubblyeater bubblyeater 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 13

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    my past was a horrible road trip

    but I hope the future will change everything...
    SweetAlone13 SweetAlone13 13-15, F Apr 9

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    Betrayed

    I believe that each one of us has their own troubles and I too had my fair share of it as well. I had been betrayed by the person whom I had loved and treasured the most in my life. He spun a lie and distributed my photos without my permission and without even knowing it , I...
    Debbiechan Debbiechan 22-25, F 43 Responses Nov 12, 2012

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    After my totally break down last week,

    i am trying to dust my self from the past. Yea i am aware i can not change the past, although at some times i wish i had not known him at all. I still at some point dammed the day i met him first time. If only i had not been there or came late for few more minutes.. But...
    flyingviking flyingviking 36-40, F 8 Responses Mar 18

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    I went to ask for help from the witness

    advocate. the woman told me that you can not trust people from east india. to be clear she said they are the Anti Christ.. she said I should not think they would return anything they took. sad reality i am sure she is right in 2010 i was almost dead from my head being bashed...
    FreeThinker2 FreeThinker2 46-50 Apr 8

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    I was healthy and had a very active life

    and worked very long hours for the last 16 years until January of this year.. I fought for 10 months with my employer to keep employed gave them lots of suggestions that would be cost effective to not sack me due to my health it would of been better for them in the long run...
    Louisek81 Louisek81 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 10

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    They say blood's thicker

    than water. My life's a story that proves that isn't always true. The more I discover the more I realize how insignificant family bonds can be, and now, after a young lifetime of contemplation and stretches of agony, I've learned how little it even means to me. They say friends...
    WeBePeasants WeBePeasants 22-25 18 Responses Jan 10

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    I am in a abusive relationship

    but I know that with the hard work I am doing to become independent I will be able to be happy again the present will be the past in less than I know it!
    adela75 adela75 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 15

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    It's been 6 weeks without alcohol

    and I finally feel alive! I've accomplished so many things and have become ambitious about life, I'm travelling Europe in June, finishing the health and fitness course I started, have lost weight and am going back to university to study psychology. It's funny though, my partner...
    Ellyse47 Ellyse47 22-25 2 Responses Mar 16

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    I've been married for 11 months - we dated

    for 8 months before getting married... Dumb, I now know. Well through all this time to the point we are now, there has been over a year of him abusing alcohol and mentally abusing me. Putting me down making me feel like sh*t everytime he drank( which was often) and sometimes...
    childlessstepmom childlessstepmom 22-25, F 8 Responses Apr 4

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    I've been through tough times

    and the best of them.. Every person has a story and mine is too long to tell. God gave me life on June 29,1993. Since I was 7 I knew the medical field was for me but figuring out where is the problem. We are Gods highest form of creation which means we shouldn't have to settle...
    LittleHandGrenade LittleHandGrenade 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    Love Yourself

    You have to love yourself enough to let go of bad situations or people/things that are keeping you away from your true potential and to succeed.. Life is to short to be unhappy. We are hear to grow ad love and live not just struggle.
    prettygirl1982 prettygirl1982 31-35, F 8 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    Today is a new day, and I feel like a load has

    been lifted from my shoulders. I quit my job as I have a new job in starting in a couple of weeks..... My husband and I reconcilled 3 years ago to give the marriage another try .... but He had his licence revoked and lied about it and then after finding out more about even more...
    Elena36 Elena36 36-40, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    A Promise To Deal Honestly With Life

    I am a person that did not deal with what was happening to me during my life. It goes all the way back to my childhood. Most of the time I pretended I was fine. or pretended not to hurt. I repressed most of what I was feeling, thinking, living.  I am also a person that did not...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 16 Responses Apr 29, 2011

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    Your Past Does Not Define Your Future Pt. 2

    I'm going to start this post with thanking everyone who read my last post "Your Past Does Not Define Your Future" If you have yet to read it I encourage you to do so know, this is the sequel. Either way, I hope you enjoy. I was going through a huge turning point in my life. I...
    HannahGraceS HannahGraceS 18-21, F 18 Responses Jul 26, 2013

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    the future is a mystery

    so always look forward and never look back at what has happend
    Hemanwar Hemanwar 18-21, M Mar 23

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    I Have The Power

    We all have power in everyday decisions, whether we believe it or not. Its whether we let every decision that we make effect our future for better or for worse. I can't change any of the decisions that I made earlier to day or yesterday, all I have is now and the future. Its time...
    kjiggy03 kjiggy03 18-21 186 Responses Jun 29, 2012

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    Feeling very vulnerable & emotional.

    Wishing I could rewind my life and focus on things from my last a little more. Beating myself up lately & feeling stuck....
    jfelty jfelty 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 24

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    My fiancé and I broke up yesterday.

    This whole custody battle with his parents wanting our child has gone too out if control, we weren't strong enough to get through it. I feel so much ... Freer, free to be rid of them :) my future is changing drastically with every choice I make
    Floodpanda Floodpanda 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 13

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    The Tale Of The Monk And The Scorpion

    “Once in a monastery two monks walked about doing their morning duties. As they passed a small bowl, filled with rain, they saw a scorpion was drowning in the water. One monk reached in to save the creature. As soon as his fingers touched the panicking Scorpion, it stung him...
    NeoNeo NeoNeo 41-45, M 26 Responses Feb 1, 2012

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    Some of you know of me some of you do not.

    . I will tell you a little about me,First of all Merry Christmas..mine is not the best but will get too that..when I was young I got mental abuse Daily as far back as I can Remember. physical some Ya my Dad punched me in the face several occasions and If I cried well then I was...
    livinkarma livinkarma 41-45, M 13 Responses Dec 25, 2013

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    Right now I have no clue what to do anymore.

    I feel so lost and alone. A few weeks ago I met this amazing guy during the worst time. I am in the process of getting a divorce and my ex has a new girl and we don't get along at all. Not because I want him back, I was the one who asked for the divorce! Well this new guy and I...
    lostnunsure lostnunsure 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 16

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    Love Of My Life

    My boyfriend of three years died when I was in middle school and I don't like talking about it but lately I've been able to open up about it an I never would have thought that my story would help my best friend. Yeah I loved him and I miss him more than anything. I would give...
    alice96pixie alice96pixie 16-17, F 9 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    I wouldn't change a thing about my past.

    It bought me to be a mother of a wonderful daughter! It black topped who iam today some things I shouldn't of done. But those things made me a better person
    Lynn0617 Lynn0617 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 19

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    Im moving on soon, Saturday is the big day

    for my move. Moving out is going to be a big step for me and my children. But i am ready! Just looking for some support :)
    MissMarisa MissMarisa 36-40, F 16 Responses Dec 5, 2013

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    I Am A Survivor

    Sexual abuse, neglect, rejection, verbal bashing, discrimination, drug abuse, alcoholism....u name it ive probably been there and done that. My latest episode had to have been my strongest and most significant. I was 17 years old, leavin on the streets, selling drugs and...
    Wanascream813 Wanascream813 18-21, F 103 Responses Nov 6, 2009

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    I Hope

    My immediate past has been hell and most of it I screwed up all by myself. Some days I'm obsessed with thoughts of my past mistakes and I can't focus on today. I'm having a hard time forgiving myself and some days I think that I may never forgive me. It all sounds so easy but it...
    pentupfreedom pentupfreedom 46-50, M 27 Responses Jan 24, 2013

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    We walk through life expecting tomorrow to be

    like today. Something happens and your reality is unfamiliar. Accident, illness, heartache, it could be any or all of these things. I became complacent, never thought my wife would never love me because she always had. Complacency breeds problems. Be it in your job...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 24

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    Words Of Wisdom

    I was watching "The Voice", one of the contestant had been stalled in his career by a depressive illness,he had a wonderful voice and all four coaches turned around,one of the coaches shared his own story about having suffered with depression and another came out with these...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 5 Responses Apr 10, 2013

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    yeah sure do believe in it

    as nothin can change my past but the future sure is in my own hands!
    romell romell 36-40, M 5 Responses Mar 15

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    =|

    It’s just a days ago; Tragedy left me nothing but a haunted memories. When the love of your life died and you cannot do anything because your miles apart, it leaves you with remorse and wounds inner of your soul. Those vivid hours was so harsh and left me with little hope that...
    rainbowavalanche rainbowavalanche 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 26, 2013

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    Maybe, it's time to change Maybe I need to

    stop this cycle now Maybe I just need to smile and say whatever I want Stop being afraid to live and take risks I feel it's time now, I had enough of this negativity
    Beau4u12 Beau4u12 26-30, F 4 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Fear

    You've been with me since I was young from the very first smile on his face. You wrapped yourself around my heart...and dug deep into my soul, where you still remain. As they came and went...your grip got tighter. With every lie told, and every sting of a hurtful touch....you...
    Wurkoutgurl Wurkoutgurl 36-40, F 8 Responses Oct 28, 2012

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    Let me tell you now. Never send your child to

    Browns Plains State School. The people there are just cruel.
    CharliCWattpad CharliCWattpad 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 13

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    Watch this, great motivation https://www.

    youtube.com/watch?v=mgmVOuLgFB0
    squizz5 squizz5 41-45, M 1 Response Mar 24

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    Been having a hard time letting oh the past

    since I moved back to my hometown..
    ladeet34 ladeet34 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 14