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I Cant Change the Past But I Can Change My Future

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    Some of you know of me some of you do not.

    . I will tell you a little about me,First of all Merry Christmas..mine is not the best but will get too that..when I was young I got mental abuse Daily as far back as I can Remember. physical some Ya my Dad punched me in the face several occasions and If I cried well then I was...
    livinkarma livinkarma 41-45, M 13 Responses Dec 25, 2013

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    20 000 Words A Day An Most Of Them Defamatory.

    (For those of us who beat down on ourselves) We speak to ourselves all the time. Most days we direct around 20 000 words at ourselves. Of these,nearly all are negative. We keep feeding our mind with negative dialogue. How long would you expect to keep a friend, if you did the...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 3 Responses Mar 28, 2013

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    I Am A Survivor

    Sexual abuse, neglect, rejection, verbal bashing, discrimination, drug abuse, alcoholism....u name it ive probably been there and done that. My latest episode had to have been my strongest and most significant. I was 17 years old, leavin on the streets, selling drugs and...
    Wanascream813 Wanascream813 18-21, F 103 Responses Nov 6, 2009

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    Ive screwed things up with some people,

    but i know im not a bad person and i wont shed another tear. The past is called the past for a reason. i cant go back in time, and my experiences in life will help me be the person thats in my future. Future me is smiling like sunshine.
    Breelovely98 Breelovely98 16-17, F Jul 15

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    I was physically and mentally abused by my bio

    mom until i was 15. I'm 17 now and I'm living my life with an attitude that will destroy the abuse cycle.
    BcopleyD BcopleyD 18-21, F 7 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    Royced45 Royced45 36-40, M 3 Responses Jun 23

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    Fear

    You've been with me since I was young from the very first smile on his face. You wrapped yourself around my heart...and dug deep into my soul, where you still remain. As they came and went...your grip got tighter. With every lie told, and every sting of a hurtful touch....you...
    Wurkoutgurl Wurkoutgurl 36-40, F 8 Responses Oct 28, 2012

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    Kaitlyn262 Kaitlyn262 18-21, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I use to selfharm. I had 10 scars underneath a

    purple bracelet that I never take off. I have been treating my scars for 3 years, today I realized that only 8 are still visible!! This may sound like a very odd victory, but these scars were deep and stacked. I used to make deep scratches, I would scratch one spot...
    SaphiraJane SaphiraJane 16-17, F 8 Responses Jun 29

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    Choices

    Sadness Happiness Suffering Empowerment Live in memories Live in the now Inaction Action Stagnation Growth Grief Understanding loveless love Self hate Self respect He said she said We say: ) Blame Take responsibility Pain Healing Lies to Honesty Prison Freedom...
    topboy1968 topboy1968 41-45 12 Responses Sep 18, 2013

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    Yes ..,that's it I am nobody now!

    But my parents really hate me, I'm sure they do specially my mom I'm asking God to kill me right now I ruined my whole life...
    kimi97 kimi97 16-17, F 5 Responses Jun 22

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    Im moving on soon, Saturday is the big day

    for my move. Moving out is going to be a big step for me and my children. But i am ready! Just looking for some support :)
    MissMarisa MissMarisa 36-40, F 16 Responses Dec 5, 2013

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    It is more than just words.

    When you take them to heart everything changes.
    JennaR JennaR 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 23

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    It's True.

    This is a concept that most people forget on a daily basis. You can't change the past--a minute ago, included, is the past. So what if you can't change it? That just means you have to push forward and make the future better. I need to remember this, myself. I may not be able to...
    Shebby88 Shebby88 18-21, F 20 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    ncskiguy78 ncskiguy78 36-40, M 5 Responses Jun 1

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    I understand I can not change my past - the

    fears from my past have very much affected the person I have become. I've met some very nice people here on EP who have been very patient and understanding - I must apologize because several weeks ago I ran away some of you seemed genuinely interested in my well being but I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 16

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    This is something that happened a

    while a go but, I just feel like I need to spit it out - Last year I went out with a guy, at first I really liked him and it was all fine and all that, but like after about 4 months it became really awful relationship to be in, I felt forced into being in this relationship, I...
    FayeAndMerlin FayeAndMerlin 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 26

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    Note to future self: Matt,

    leave the past where it is. You may never forget what happened, but some of the other people are trying very hard to forget and you should let them forget. The best course of action is to remember quietly.
    MattsShadow MattsShadow 18-21, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I've been absolutely torn down

    because of my weight. I weigh 145, I'll tell anyone, and I'm not ashamed of my weight. I'm only 5 ft 4 in, but in no way am I going to be put down by the thoughts on others about how my body should look. I love my body; every stretch mark, mole, dark spot, hair, scar, and...
    kaleidoscopekay kaleidoscopekay 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 17

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    I lost him. The situation was complicated

    and the way things turned out gave no other option but to end it. It makes me sad knowing how he's feeling and that I'll have to keep living without any word. All I know is that I'm going to love in a way that I'd know he'd be happy and proud of me. I just hope he does the same...
    shellseverywhere shellseverywhere 18-21, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    Love Of My Life

    My boyfriend of three years died when I was in middle school and I don't like talking about it but lately I've been able to open up about it an I never would have thought that my story would help my best friend. Yeah I loved him and I miss him more than anything. I would give...
    alice96pixie alice96pixie 16-17, F 8 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    A few days ago I met a new friend

    who shone a ray of light and showed me a path back to my humanity, and hopefully redemption. I am beginning that journey, I am talking those first steps and I can feel the winds of change starting to blow through my life. I have a chance, I must not fail, I must keep going, and...
    DarkBarbarian DarkBarbarian 41-45, M 4 Responses Jun 29

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    Wish I had a special vacuum device to keep at

    hand. Each time I need it, to use it on my brains to clean unwanted memories... or a special cord to connect my brains to the key bord... search through the memories and click: Delete...delete..delete... Would it be more easy to change the future if there were no unwanted...
    laughingsoul laughingsoul 41-45, F 5 Responses Jun 22

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    Words Of Wisdom

    I was watching "The Voice", one of the contestant had been stalled in his career by a depressive illness,he had a wonderful voice and all four coaches turned around,one of the coaches shared his own story about having suffered with depression and another came out with these...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 5 Responses Apr 10, 2013

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    I am a widow at the age of 25.

    I lost my husband almost 2 months ago every day is a step closer to find serenity and knowing I cannot change the past and only move forward into the future. I truly miss my husband everyday. He will never be forgotten
    frankiejo frankiejo 22-25, F 11 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    "Your past is your past.

    Even if it remembers you, forget it". <3 My past has been super horrible...some of it was my fault, but a lot of it wasn't. Some of the things that weren't my fault, I let them impact my decisions. But still, I was dumb about some stuff. I feel so horrible about everything...
    njgirll njgirll 16-17, F 2 days ago

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    So you guys remember

    that guy I mentioned, the 28 year old? Well, I'm really starting to like him. A lot. But how do I explain my life to him. My past, my present. I don't want him to think I'm insane and never speak to me again. I mean, I'm not gonna tell him every bad thing I've ever done right on...
    reneeo11314 reneeo11314 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    21 Days Sober - Don't miss Alcohol a bit!

    ! FREEDOM!! Change your mind, Change your life!
    ncskiguy78 ncskiguy78 36-40, M 6 Responses May 28

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    Sometimes it seems I just can't face the day.

    Sometimes I just don't have the dam energy..but I catch my thoughts and realise it is not the day or the situation bringing me down. It is my choice to turn those thoughts off because I know I can some how handle this. .and then I realise that there is a fire in me you and...
    topboy1968 topboy1968 41-45 4 Responses Jul 21

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    The Tale Of The Monk And The Scorpion

    “Once in a monastery two monks walked about doing their morning duties. As they passed a small bowl, filled with rain, they saw a scorpion was drowning in the water. One monk reached in to save the creature. As soon as his fingers touched the panicking Scorpion, it stung him...
    NeoNeo NeoNeo 41-45, M 26 Responses Feb 1, 2012

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    Oooops! I didn't realize this site was

    so prude... However I have made a few cool friends on here, it's still frustrations that I can't post pictures of me in my bikini or in a seductive pose without being removed! My setting are 18+. Oh well. I still enjoy taking dares, I'll just have to post more appropriate...
    girl4me girl4me 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 28

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    Since my Husband left me I am

    so angry. I actually feel like a volcano erupting. He lied to me constantly for over three years about his secret affair. He took our joint credit cards when he left and charged them to their max supporting her and ruined my credit rating and I fed us into horrible debt. He...
    greyeye greyeye 51-55, F 9 Responses Jun 18

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    I Hope

    My immediate past has been hell and most of it I screwed up all by myself. Some days I'm obsessed with thoughts of my past mistakes and I can't focus on today. I'm having a hard time forgiving myself and some days I think that I may never forgive me. It all sounds so easy but it...
    pentupfreedom pentupfreedom 46-50, M 27 Responses Jan 24, 2013

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    This can be the year

    that everything changed for the better. Sometimes in order to grow and for us to reach our full potential we have to let go. So learn from the past, let go of those who are holding you back and start making moves. The only moment you are guaranteed is this one. Now is the time...
    Aly00cat Aly00cat 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 5

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    Your Past Does Not Define Your Future Pt. 2

    I'm going to start this post with thanking everyone who read my last post "Your Past Does Not Define Your Future" If you have yet to read it I encourage you to do so know, this is the sequel. Either way, I hope you enjoy. I was going through a huge turning point in my life. I...
    HannahGraceS HannahGraceS 22-25, F 18 Responses Jul 26, 2013

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    It's funny how one person can change your

    thoughts...Every experience of my life is somehow new again... I find pleasure in every task, no matter how routine it is, there is a feeling inside I can't explain, I remind myself of the important things, I'm changing into the person I want to be and want to share with another...
    Lydia66 Lydia66 46-50, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    I just needed someone to reach out to.

    My ex blocked me on Facebook & I don't understand what I did?? It's been two years, I have moved on romantically but I miss my friend. We were friends before we dated. We were finally getting along, texting back and forth ect....a few months ago he tells me "I don't think we...
    MicheleAerin MicheleAerin 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 3

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    Just wanna say a few words to someone

    who is out there and can't seem to forget the past, the past doesn't determine your future... your bigger than your past... use your past as a motivation to make your future a brighter destination #StayStrong #I_love_You _and _I'm_Here_For_You
    LDRlover LDRlover 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 19

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    My parents are drug addicts.

    I spent my life watching meth destroy peoples lives. And mine. But I strive to be like my sister. She's currently in college with two jobs and still finds time to help my brother and I. I can't wait until I'm out if here and choosing my own path.
    Bearcookie Bearcookie 16-17, F 19 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    Sometimes you just felt like you really wanna

    go back in time and do everything back again. But this time, avoiding all of the mistakes that give you the reason why you choose to go back :/
    Ph24689 Ph24689 16-17, M Jul 5

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    Letting go? My heart has not been able to

    so easily. Perhaps we all have a deep seated desire to be cared for wanted and to enjoy special people or moments in life. Such depth..such wisdom..passion..warmth connection. I have recently learnt that our whole life is a what we perceive of it and so I wonder what of it...
    topboy1968 topboy1968 41-45 10 Responses Feb 10

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    I can't change my past.

    But I feel like my past is changing me.. I am trying not to let my past define myself. But I feel it's hard to sometimes...
    ShadowedLover ShadowedLover 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    Betrayed

    I believe that each one of us has their own troubles and I too had my fair share of it as well. I had been betrayed by the person whom I had loved and treasured the most in my life. He spun a lie and distributed my photos without my permission and without even knowing it , I...
    Debbiechan Debbiechan 22-25, F 44 Responses Nov 12, 2012

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    "Even we want a happy life,

    we dont know when it will come!
    forgiveforabetterlife forgiveforabetterlife 36-40 3 Responses a week ago

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    A Message To Mulkie....

    I used to carry a lot of baggage, I still do. I used to consider I had a "dark heart", and sometimes, I still do. I consider myself a "realist" who sees things for what they are. But my baggage is now overflowing, and now I realize that I have to lay it down. I have to learn...
    mulkie mulkie 41-45, M 6 Responses Jan 28, 2012

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    anjil anjil 16-17, M Jul 5

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    I'm 28 nearly 29, and have no career,

    never had a real girlfriend and i'm on the back end of my mental illness, I had a drug and alcohol problem which i have addressed by going to NA and have been over 3 months clean, it's just I have trouble accepting the reality of my situation and where i am in life, it's...
    mushkin85 mushkin85 26-30, M 5 Responses Jun 28

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    michigan11 michigan11 22-25, M 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    ncskiguy78 ncskiguy78 36-40, M 21 Responses May 22

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    Love Yourself

    You have to love yourself enough to let go of bad situations or people/things that are keeping you away from your true potential and to succeed.. Life is to short to be unhappy. We are hear to grow ad love and live not just struggle.
    prettygirl1982 prettygirl1982 31-35, F 8 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    They say blood's thicker

    than water. My life's a story that proves that isn't always true. The more I discover the more I realize how insignificant family bonds can be, and now, after a young lifetime of contemplation and stretches of agony, I've learned how little it even means to me. They say friends...
    PunchandPie PunchandPie 22-25 23 Responses Jan 10

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    Going Forward With Lessons From Your Past

     I found EP after an extremely great personal devastation.  And I am so grateful for this platform and the friends I have found on it.  I have been fairly sheltered all my life.  Being on board EP has been a very eye opening experience.  I have learnt...
    Hannah777 Hannah777 36-40, F 30 Responses Apr 1, 2010

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    Stop Seeking For Love From Others

    I've recently taken off my online dating profile, to prevent myself from further disappointments. One incident in particular, I went on 5 dates with a guy I met online and thought it was a beginning of something special or it could just be wishful thinking on my part. He may...
    WCindy WCindy 22-25, F 12 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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