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I Cant Change the Past But I Can Change My Future

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    For two years I have lived in a sexless

    marriage. For two years I've made excuses in my head for the way he acted. It all ended today. I'm 45 and he was my high school sweetheart. He went away with the kids for 5 days. He woke me up the next morning screaming at me. He was in my face. Nasty. Vicious. Hitting one hand...
    alwaysmiling79 alwaysmiling79 41-45, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Living By My Own Rules Now...

    My entire life I have done whatever I can to make everyone around me happy. I have been taken advantage of, abused, raped, and left for broken. I have given up my dreams to support those around me and help them achieve theirs. I don't think there was a time in my past, where I...
    brokenangel913 brokenangel913 41-45, F 96 Responses Mar 30, 2011

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    Strange But True!

    The past is all the water that's floated under the bridge. The bridge is the here and now present. As you stand upon, and, gaze from the bridge you look into your future. The only way to change your future for the best is to begin creating a brighter much better one. Learn from...
    01Joe9 01Joe9 41-45, M 9 Responses Nov 7, 2012

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    21 Days Sober - Don't miss Alcohol a bit!

    ! FREEDOM!! Change your mind, Change your life!
    ncskiguy78 ncskiguy78 36-40, M 7 Responses May 28, 2014

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    1234rthhvfj 1234rthhvfj 13-15, M 1 Response Aug 19

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    I Am A Survivor

    Sexual abuse, neglect, rejection, verbal bashing, discrimination, drug abuse, alcoholism....u name it ive probably been there and done that. My latest episode had to have been my strongest and most significant. I was 17 years old, leavin on the streets, selling drugs and...
    Wanascream813 Wanascream813 18-21, F 104 Responses Nov 6, 2009

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    You have to die a few times

    before you can really live. -Charles Bukowski
    Solovey Solovey 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 27, 2014

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    Words Of Wisdom

    I was watching "The Voice", one of the contestant had been stalled in his career by a depressive illness,he had a wonderful voice and all four coaches turned around,one of the coaches shared his own story about having suffered with depression and another came out with these...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 4 Responses Apr 10, 2013

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    This statement ever rings true.

    For years I'd carried the weight of the past with all it's regrets, pain, and consequences. Fairly recently I came to the realization that I couldn't change one thing in the past, but I could change myself. I could change the way I reacted to negative situation, simply by...
    prettywomanNautumn prettywomanNautumn 51-55, F 1 Response Jul 29

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    * There are two kinds of people,

    those who do this division and those who don't. * The History doesn't repeat but the historians repeat themselves........!!!!
    be2u be2u 36-40, M Jul 29

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    I like most people have gone through some

    pretty bad moments in my past .. I have found say the last Ten Years to have taken their toll .. I went through a very rough patch with my health and consequently things turned out that I could not get through my front door from some pretty deep rooted fears that I had. My...
    saxappeal saxappeal 46-50, F 18 Responses May 28

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    I'm currently struggling with

    who I was and who I want to be , everyday I think about who am I what I want to be what's my purpose and I find myself battling my own thoughts I even start to get upset and in the mist of my thoughts I lash out at the ones I love then they start to feel like I hate them they...
    Yariilondon Yariilondon 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 4

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    No Regrets. The key to happiness is to always

    be looking forward while moving forward. It is important to pause and look back once in a while to learn from our mistakes or errors in judgement. We should also look back on the good to appreciate all that happened to make us who we are. By reflecting on the past, we can...
    Some1umayNo Some1umayNo 46-50, M 6 Responses Mar 20

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    Love Yourself

    You have to love yourself enough to let go of bad situations or people/things that are keeping you away from your true potential and to succeed.. Life is to short to be unhappy. We are hear to grow ad love and live not just struggle.
    prettygirl1982 prettygirl1982 31-35, F 8 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    finally good news! after they kicked me out of

    my high school and told me that I couldn't finish my senior year anywhere, I appealed the school's decision and today the supervisor of schools of the district granted my appeal and said that my cognitive abilities are too great to be kicked out of high school (he basically said...
    editavner22 editavner22 16-17, F 7 Responses Jul 7

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    ncskiguy78 ncskiguy78 36-40, M 5 Responses May 16, 2014

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    I used to think this,

    but life screwed me around even more when I was trying to improve. I want to believe the past is the past and it doesn't define your future, but sadly it does.
    usernameinneed usernameinneed 26-30, M Aug 6

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    Well mom said five years ago,

    one day i will meet the man who will bring my bag for me? And so three years later,l met a guy just how mom said but he would never carry the bag for me instead he would give me his bag and let me hold them all. He would not offer his food when he is very hungry, he would get...
    xazygreece xazygreece 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 10

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    At 23 i learned the advantage of the old

    and strong narra tree that stood there rain or shine. At 23, i learned to let go of the most beautiful butterfly i have ever seen from my hand since it struggles to be free. At 23 i learned to love each blooming red roses and its magical way of saying have a nice day. At 23 i...
    xazygreece xazygreece 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 28

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    I Have The Power

    We all have power in everyday decisions, whether we believe it or not. Its whether we let every decision that we make effect our future for better or for worse. I can't change any of the decisions that I made earlier to day or yesterday, all I have is now and the future. Its time...
    kjiggy03 kjiggy03 18-21 180 Responses Jun 29, 2012

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    The problem isn't that I don't know

    who I am. I know myself all too well. I know what excites me. I know what I fancy. And it is nothing acceptable or reasonable in this life. The problem is WHY? Why do I do what I do? Why do I crave the things I crave? Why am I like this? Why does my brain do this to me? Why am...
    Awesg Awesg 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 29

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    My foster Mom I grew up with,

    told me to stop telling her I love her when I was 14 years old. I never did. I told her everyday before I left the house, or if she was sick, or when I went to bed. I wouldn't ever miss a chance to say it. Even if I just got a "uh huh." Never heard it back. I longed for a long...
    Awesg Awesg 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    Life...that's just the ways things are,

    can't undo whats already done.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Confucius once said that only 2 types of people

    never change: the most stupid and the most intelligent. All our life depends on whether we are enough courageous for a change. A change is a breath of fresh air, it`s our hope and the most essential proof of our freedom and will. Nothing is more scary than being left behind...
    Tatius Tatius 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 1

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    We can change our future,

    but two things have to occur first. We need to recognize what needs changed, and then put the change plan into action. I have many faults and this certainly does not make the top of my list, in fact I have a difficulty understanding why others see it as a fault. I have a very...
    GJOFJ3 GJOFJ3 56-60, M 12 Responses Jun 22

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    The Tale Of The Monk And The Scorpion

    “Once in a monastery two monks walked about doing their morning duties. As they passed a small bowl, filled with rain, they saw a scorpion was drowning in the water. One monk reached in to save the creature. As soon as his fingers touched the panicking Scorpion, it stung him...
    NeoNeo NeoNeo 41-45, M 25 Responses Feb 1, 2012

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    Fallen further than I thought possible only to

    bring myself out of the abyss, the shattered pieces of myself molded into something quite different than before.
    Disobey247 Disobey247 22-25, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I have no such regrets of my past.

    They made me who I am today, but I do regret some of the decisions I made in my past. Missed opportunities. Could have had the love of my life today if only I had not behaved like a ****. Could have focused on a lot of things, but it's okay. I believe it was meant to happen...
    Dictatorse Dictatorse 22-25, M 6 Responses Jan 10

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    A Message To Mulkie....

    I used to carry a lot of baggage, I still do. I used to consider I had a "dark heart", and sometimes, I still do. I consider myself a "realist" who sees things for what they are. But my baggage is now overflowing, and now I realize that I have to lay it down. I have to learn...
    mulkie mulkie 41-45, M 4 Responses Jan 28, 2012

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    ncskiguy78 ncskiguy78 36-40, M 19 Responses May 22, 2014

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    I tell myself every day bt this doesn't brings

    any changes.... coz I hate stuggle!
    gaziraisa gaziraisa 13-15, F Aug 14

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    I do not want to be defined by my past

    so I am very careful what information I share with others. Everyday I try to make a positive impact on others and remain optimistic, that is how I want to be viewed.
    cheersfromaz cheersfromaz 51-55, F 4 Responses Nov 27, 2013

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    It's True.

    This is a concept that most people forget on a daily basis. You can't change the past--a minute ago, included, is the past. So what if you can't change it? That just means you have to push forward and make the future better. I need to remember this, myself. I may not be able to...
    Shebby88 Shebby88 18-21, F 20 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    * I love a good quote * " She has walls

    because she's been hurt before. It's not unusual that those walls have built higher standards. She's not willing to make the same mistakes again. She realized that after so many sorry's, it was time to say goodbye. She saved herself from her situation and chose to love herself...
    MzPhoenix MzPhoenix 31-35, F 9 Responses Jul 23

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    It's funny how one person can change your

    thoughts...Every experience of my life is somehow new again... I find pleasure in every task, no matter how routine it is, there is a feeling inside I can't explain, I remind myself of the important things, I'm changing into the person I want to be and want to share with another...
    Lydia66 Lydia66 46-50, F 8 Responses Jul 26, 2014

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    I am a widow at the age of 25.

    I lost my husband almost 2 months ago every day is a step closer to find serenity and knowing I cannot change the past and only move forward into the future. I truly miss my husband everyday. He will never be forgotten
    frankiejo frankiejo 26-30, F 10 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    Few years back when this lady i prefer calling

    " kaye"( not her real name) was still working for us, I would always love mentioning her name on my diary. Not because i was fond of her but because i considered her my worst enemy during the time. Her moves were all written on my diary. I would write how she eats the food with...
    xazygreece xazygreece 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 3

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    I want to be free. I want to be happy.

    I wanna change everything in my life, and i will. I know that, and that's what keeps me alive, cause I WILL. I'm gonna back to school next two weeks, I'm not ready yet.. But at least I'm not insecure anymore. I'm a different person, happy person.
    GIRLpower21 GIRLpower21 22-25, F 5 Responses Aug 17

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    Never forget the past,

    it's what got you to the present. What you do in the present will determine what the fate your future holds. Never forget the people that never gave up on you.
    liketotalkalot liketotalkalot 31-35, F 1 Response 20 mins ago

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    Suddenly I feel like it is time to start

    something new ..something would make good change ..I trust the magic of beginnings.
    Noha4 Noha4 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 4

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    Hi I am new to this just felt

    so fed up I've been with my partner 19 years I am 36 with 4 children he has cheated on me once an I forgave him but I feel like we have grown apart he still acts like a child we have nothing in common we don't even laugh anymore I'm just nervous of walking away an being on my...
    Louloujas Louloujas 36-40, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    To THE ONE lovely WHO

    who I met one day of July, to THE ONE sweet amazing WHO who always put my hands on her everytime we sit next to each other, to THE ONE innocent WHO who I shared good laughs with on funny moments like the wrong car and the forgotten cellphone. THE ONE smart WHO who loves to watch...
    xazygreece xazygreece 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 28

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    We hope. Our chances may be blocked.

    Since the wealthy bought everything.
    Converted Converted 46-50, M Jul 31

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    I felt so hurt after dismissing him,

    after all I hadn't talked to him in a whole month. I'm still attached for some odd reason. it's tough. But as I said before, not this time. I can't continue to lower my standards for him...him, a married man. I miss him like crazy, and I would love to be with him...but that's in...
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 5

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    So much has happened the last month

    so much stress and chaos..I'm trying to tackle each thing one at a time,but it has all been very emotionally draining I'm still in the mist of the chaos but some things seem like they can get better,it's just hard.My end goal is just harmony,not only with my own self but with...
    simpleandpossible simpleandpossible 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 28

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