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I Cant Change the Past But I Can Change My Future

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    A Message To Mulkie....

    I used to carry a lot of baggage, I still do. I used to consider I had a "dark heart", and sometimes, I still do. I consider myself a "realist" who sees things for what they are. But my baggage is now overflowing, and now I realize that I have to lay it down. I have to learn...
    mulkie mulkie 41-45, M 4 Responses Jan 28, 2012

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    ncskiguy78 ncskiguy78 36-40, M 5 Responses May 16, 2014

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    Life...that's just the ways things are,

    can't undo whats already done.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response 3 days ago

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    We can change our future,

    but two things have to occur first. We need to recognize what needs changed, and then put the change plan into action. I have many faults and this certainly does not make the top of my list, in fact I have a difficulty understanding why others see it as a fault. I have a very...
    GJOFJ3 GJOFJ3 56-60, M 12 Responses Jun 22

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    You have to die a few times

    before you can really live. -Charles Bukowski
    Solovey Solovey 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 27, 2014

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    This statement ever rings true.

    For years I'd carried the weight of the past with all it's regrets, pain, and consequences. Fairly recently I came to the realization that I couldn't change one thing in the past, but I could change myself. I could change the way I reacted to negative situation, simply by...
    prettywomanNautumn prettywomanNautumn 51-55, F 1 Response Jul 29

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    To THE ONE lovely WHO

    who I met one day of July, to THE ONE sweet amazing WHO who always put my hands on her everytime we sit next to each other, to THE ONE innocent WHO who I shared good laughs with on funny moments like the wrong car and the forgotten cellphone. THE ONE smart WHO who loves to watch...
    xazygreece xazygreece 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 28

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    I have no such regrets of my past.

    They made me who I am today, but I do regret some of the decisions I made in my past. Missed opportunities. Could have had the love of my life today if only I had not behaved like a ****. Could have focused on a lot of things, but it's okay. I believe it was meant to happen...
    Dictatorse Dictatorse 22-25, M 6 Responses Jan 10

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    I Hope

    My immediate past has been hell and most of it I screwed up all by myself. Some days I'm obsessed with thoughts of my past mistakes and I can't focus on today. I'm having a hard time forgiving myself and some days I think that I may never forgive me. It all sounds so easy but it...
    pentupfreedom pentupfreedom 46-50, M 28 Responses Jan 24, 2013

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    I Am A Survivor

    Sexual abuse, neglect, rejection, verbal bashing, discrimination, drug abuse, alcoholism....u name it ive probably been there and done that. My latest episode had to have been my strongest and most significant. I was 17 years old, leavin on the streets, selling drugs and...
    Wanascream813 Wanascream813 18-21, F 104 Responses Nov 6, 2009

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    Well mom said five years ago,

    one day i will meet the man who will bring my bag for me? And so three years later,l met a guy just how mom said but he would never carry the bag for me instead he would give me his bag and let me hold them all. He would not offer his food when he is very hungry, he would get...
    xazygreece xazygreece 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 10

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    * I love a good quote * " She has walls

    because she's been hurt before. It's not unusual that those walls have built higher standards. She's not willing to make the same mistakes again. She realized that after so many sorry's, it was time to say goodbye. She saved herself from her situation and chose to love herself...
    MzPhoenix MzPhoenix 31-35, F 9 Responses Jul 23

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    ncskiguy78 ncskiguy78 36-40, M 19 Responses May 22, 2014

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    DeathThrone DeathThrone 22-25, F Aug 3

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    Love Yourself

    You have to love yourself enough to let go of bad situations or people/things that are keeping you away from your true potential and to succeed.. Life is to short to be unhappy. We are hear to grow ad love and live not just struggle.
    prettygirl1982 prettygirl1982 31-35, F 8 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    The past is a place of REFERENCE,

    not a place of RESIDENCE.
    ImAlivingParadox ImAlivingParadox 18-21, F 7 Responses May 8

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    I like most people have gone through some

    pretty bad moments in my past .. I have found say the last Ten Years to have taken their toll .. I went through a very rough patch with my health and consequently things turned out that I could not get through my front door from some pretty deep rooted fears that I had. My...
    saxappeal saxappeal 46-50, F 18 Responses May 28

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    Never forget the past,

    it's what got you to the present. What you do in the present will determine what the fate your future holds. Never forget the people that never gave up on you.
    liketotalkalot liketotalkalot 31-35, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am a widow at the age of 25.

    I lost my husband almost 2 months ago every day is a step closer to find serenity and knowing I cannot change the past and only move forward into the future. I truly miss my husband everyday. He will never be forgotten
    frankiejo frankiejo 26-30, F 10 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    I was asked once what would I change in my life

    if I had such chance ? I thought hard about it and the only things that I found was avoiding hurting people and thanking to those who did something for me. Sometimes we hurt people without knowing it. Years later when I thought back I realized it but its late to do anything...
    laughingsoul laughingsoul 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 27

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    I used to think this,

    but life screwed me around even more when I was trying to improve. I want to believe the past is the past and it doesn't define your future, but sadly it does.
    usernameinneed usernameinneed 26-30, M Aug 6

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    Living By My Own Rules Now...

    My entire life I have done whatever I can to make everyone around me happy. I have been taken advantage of, abused, raped, and left for broken. I have given up my dreams to support those around me and help them achieve theirs. I don't think there was a time in my past, where I...
    brokenangel913 brokenangel913 41-45, F 96 Responses Mar 30, 2011

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    It's funny how one person can change your

    thoughts...Every experience of my life is somehow new again... I find pleasure in every task, no matter how routine it is, there is a feeling inside I can't explain, I remind myself of the important things, I'm changing into the person I want to be and want to share with another...
    Lydia66 Lydia66 46-50, F 8 Responses Jul 26, 2014

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    Going Forward With Lessons From Your Past

     I found EP after an extremely great personal devastation.  And I am so grateful for this platform and the friends I have found on it.  I have been fairly sheltered all my life.  Being on board EP has been a very eye opening experience.  I have learnt...
    Hannah777 Hannah777 36-40, F 28 Responses Apr 1, 2010

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    i want to delete my Facebook profile.

    i don't think it's an accurate representation of me at all...and my sister just made me publicly delete a photo of her because it was unflattering..it's just so bullshit. i never say anything anyway. i wonder if i should delete it and start fresh..or if it matters at all..and...
    saravonpein saravonpein 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 4

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    My foster Mom I grew up with,

    told me to stop telling her I love her when I was 14 years old. I never did. I told her everyday before I left the house, or if she was sick, or when I went to bed. I wouldn't ever miss a chance to say it. Even if I just got a "uh huh." Never heard it back. I longed for a long...
    Awesg Awesg 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 21

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    Few years back when this lady i prefer calling

    " kaye"( not her real name) was still working for us, I would always love mentioning her name on my diary. Not because i was fond of her but because i considered her my worst enemy during the time. Her moves were all written on my diary. I would write how she eats the food with...
    xazygreece xazygreece 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 3

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    Suddenly I feel like it is time to start

    something new ..something would make good change ..I trust the magic of beginnings.
    Noha4 Noha4 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 4

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    I want to be free. I want to be happy.

    I wanna change everything in my life, and i will. I know that, and that's what keeps me alive, cause I WILL. I'm gonna back to school next two weeks, I'm not ready yet.. But at least I'm not insecure anymore. I'm a different person, happy person.
    GIRLpower21 GIRLpower21 22-25, F 5 Responses Aug 17

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    We hope. Our chances may be blocked.

    Since the wealthy bought everything.
    Converted Converted 46-50, M Jul 31

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    * There are two kinds of people,

    those who do this division and those who don't. * The History doesn't repeat but the historians repeat themselves........!!!!
    be2u be2u 36-40, M Jul 29

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    Some of you know of me some of you do not.

    . I will tell you a little about me,First of all Merry Christmas..mine is not the best but will get too that..when I was young I got mental abuse Daily as far back as I can Remember. physical some Ya my Dad punched me in the face several occasions and If I cried well then I was...
    livinkarma livinkarma 46-50, M 10 Responses Dec 25, 2013

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    I felt so hurt after dismissing him,

    after all I hadn't talked to him in a whole month. I'm still attached for some odd reason. it's tough. But as I said before, not this time. I can't continue to lower my standards for him...him, a married man. I miss him like crazy, and I would love to be with him...but that's in...
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 5

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    So much has happened the last month

    so much stress and chaos..I'm trying to tackle each thing one at a time,but it has all been very emotionally draining I'm still in the mist of the chaos but some things seem like they can get better,it's just hard.My end goal is just harmony,not only with my own self but with...
    simpleandpossible simpleandpossible 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 28

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    It's True.

    This is a concept that most people forget on a daily basis. You can't change the past--a minute ago, included, is the past. So what if you can't change it? That just means you have to push forward and make the future better. I need to remember this, myself. I may not be able to...
    Shebby88 Shebby88 18-21, F 20 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    The past... It's gone,

    everything has been done and there's nothing you can do about it. If it bothers you, then try your hardest to change the future as much as you can, don't sit around, make yourself feel better Because whatever you want to do and be remembered for in the future, it starts now.
    AnonymousJSS AnonymousJSS 13-15, F 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Strange But True!

    The past is all the water that's floated under the bridge. The bridge is the here and now present. As you stand upon, and, gaze from the bridge you look into your future. The only way to change your future for the best is to begin creating a brighter much better one. Learn from...
    01Joe9 01Joe9 41-45, M 9 Responses Nov 7, 2012

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    I tell myself every day bt this doesn't brings

    any changes.... coz I hate stuggle!
    gaziraisa gaziraisa 13-15, F Aug 14

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    1234rthhvfj 1234rthhvfj 13-15, M 1 Response Aug 19

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    Because we cannot go back in time to fix .

    . so why waste time dwelling in the past. Rather we can start building what we want in future, by preparing our mind.Any one interested in joining me in this mission are most welcome, for I have started to make changes to the future.www.newfatherofnation.com
    NewFatherofSG NewFatherofSG 46-50, M Aug 1

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    I do not want to be defined by my past

    so I am very careful what information I share with others. Everyday I try to make a positive impact on others and remain optimistic, that is how I want to be viewed.
    cheersfromaz cheersfromaz 51-55, F 4 Responses Nov 27, 2013

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    When he says he doesn’t love you anymore,

    roll your shoulders back and look him in the eye even when it feels like your ribs are breaking inward; like spider legs. When he digs up old aches that he swore he forgave you for, smile and ask him why he didn’t leave you sooner. Ignore the way the words feel like sandpaper...
    xazygreece xazygreece 22-25, F Aug 16

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    Iam currently in an abusive relationship with

    my boyfriend and I want out I just need some information on where I can get emergency funds to move to another state.Iam currently in. Maryland.Thank you and god bless all of you always.sincerely,godsbeautifulangel1.
    godsbeautifulangel1 godsbeautifulangel1 46-50, F 2 Responses Aug 6

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    For two years I have lived in a sexless

    marriage. For two years I've made excuses in my head for the way he acted. It all ended today. I'm 45 and he was my high school sweetheart. He went away with the kids for 5 days. He woke me up the next morning screaming at me. He was in my face. Nasty. Vicious. Hitting one hand...
    alwaysmiling79 alwaysmiling79 41-45, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    My parents are drug addicts.

    I spent my life watching meth destroy peoples lives. And mine. But I strive to be like my sister. She's currently in college with two jobs and still finds time to help my brother and I. I can't wait until I'm out if here and choosing my own path.
    Bearcookie Bearcookie 18-21, F 17 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    Words Of Wisdom

    I was watching "The Voice", one of the contestant had been stalled in his career by a depressive illness,he had a wonderful voice and all four coaches turned around,one of the coaches shared his own story about having suffered with depression and another came out with these...
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