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I Cant Change the Past But I Can Change My Future

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    In any relationship you must be willing to

    offer what you're expecting to receive. It's not about being perfect or even completing the other person, it's about being enough for a person and that person being enough for you.
    KarenIsMyName KarenIsMyName 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 9

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    ncskiguy78 ncskiguy78 36-40, M 19 Responses May 22, 2014

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    I Hope

    My immediate past has been hell and most of it I screwed up all by myself. Some days I'm obsessed with thoughts of my past mistakes and I can't focus on today. I'm having a hard time forgiving myself and some days I think that I may never forgive me. It all sounds so easy but it...
    pentupfreedom pentupfreedom 46-50, M 28 Responses Jan 24, 2013

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    So I ran into an ex tonight.

    ..one of the hardest and most awkwRd moments of my life! He was with his new girl...typical scenario! I lose the guy, I get replaced...I couldn't look at him. I just looked down staring at my food, my girls already getting ready to get up and confront him....what could I do...
    madusand madusand 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 12

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    I have been sitting down

    and observing the non existent relations ship I have with the father of my child.Its been 2 months since he left me and occasionally i go over to his house just to have someone go lay next to. We usually end up having relations i guess that just part of pregnancy. I now know he...
    grabamic828 grabamic828 18-21, F Jan 15

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    Someone just welcomed me to the neighborhood

    and wished me a happy new year as I was moving a dresser. Moving sucks and I have a few people helping out so I have no room to move anything at the moment. So for now I'm sitting here thinking. Happy new year? Another year to try not to **** up. This one was different...
    Jennerrous Jennerrous 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 1

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    ncskiguy78 ncskiguy78 36-40, M 5 Responses May 16, 2014

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    ncskiguy78 ncskiguy78 36-40, M 5 Responses Jun 1, 2014

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    I do not want to be defined by my past

    so I am very careful what information I share with others. Everyday I try to make a positive impact on others and remain optimistic, that is how I want to be viewed.
    cheersfromaz cheersfromaz 51-55, F 4 Responses Nov 27, 2013

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    I am ready to transform from the bitter unhappy

    disappointed tired person who almost never feels satisfied to someone who is filled with joy contentment and well being. I just have to figure out how.
    greyeye greyeye 51-55, F 9 Responses Aug 10, 2014

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    I've walked away from the woman I loved with

    such passion I didn't want to see the next day. I've buried my closest friend when I was 24 and wished I'd gone with her. I've made incredibly bad decisions that hurt those who loved me in return and been the worst version of myself I can imagine. That's the past if we let it be...
    notext notext 46-50, M 4 Responses Feb 10

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    The moment you realize

    that no one is your enemy, except yourself.
    terriblefixations terriblefixations 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 24

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    halyona halyona 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 13

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    We are what we survived.

    I can't put into words how each sh*t we have to endure teaches us a valuable lesson about loving ourselves a little more so that love can overflow and we'd be sharing it to the people who matter the most. My ex was so wrong when he accused me of being a masochist. I must say...
    Alyyeska Alyyeska 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 31

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    Living By My Own Rules Now...

    My entire life I have done whatever I can to make everyone around me happy. I have been taken advantage of, abused, raped, and left for broken. I have given up my dreams to support those around me and help them achieve theirs. I don't think there was a time in my past, where I...
    brokenangel913 brokenangel913 41-45, F 96 Responses Mar 30, 2011

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    Love Yourself

    You have to love yourself enough to let go of bad situations or people/things that are keeping you away from your true potential and to succeed.. Life is to short to be unhappy. We are hear to grow ad love and live not just struggle.
    prettygirl1982 prettygirl1982 31-35, F 8 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    Some of you know of me some of you do not.

    . I will tell you a little about me,First of all Merry Christmas..mine is not the best but will get too that..when I was young I got mental abuse Daily as far back as I can Remember. physical some Ya my Dad punched me in the face several occasions and If I cried well then I was...
    livinkarma livinkarma 41-45, M 12 Responses Dec 25, 2013

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    Rant session Lately,

    I've been noticing things about myself that I didn't really fully know about myself... I'm actually mean to people.. Like I try to be a good person but there are those moments where I'm mean and sometimes I don't mean for myself to be. The more I've been noticing it and being...
    xxblasianxx xxblasianxx 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 27

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    When I observe the small heap of charred wood

    and sooty ashes, it is easy to forget the brilliant embers that a short time ago glowed bright and warm, toasting s'mores and inspiring words of love and passion. If I will only close my eyes to see and remember that light and heat I so cherished, I can also see the path to a...
    GJOFJ3 GJOFJ3 56-60, M 3 Responses Jan 27

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    No amount of guilt can change the past

    and no amount of anxiety can change the future.
    KarenIsMyName KarenIsMyName 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 16

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    A Message To Mulkie....

    I used to carry a lot of baggage, I still do. I used to consider I had a "dark heart", and sometimes, I still do. I consider myself a "realist" who sees things for what they are. But my baggage is now overflowing, and now I realize that I have to lay it down. I have to learn...
    mulkie mulkie 41-45, M 6 Responses Jan 28, 2012

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    Strange But True!

    The past is all the water that's floated under the bridge. The bridge is the here and now present. As you stand upon, and, gaze from the bridge you look into your future. The only way to change your future for the best is to begin creating a brighter much better one. Learn from...
    01Joe9 01Joe9 41-45, M 8 Responses Nov 7, 2012

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    20 000 Words A Day An Most Of Them Defamatory.

    (For those of us who beat down on ourselves) We speak to ourselves all the time. Most days we direct around 20 000 words at ourselves. Of these,nearly all are negative. We keep feeding our mind with negative dialogue. How long would you expect to keep a friend, if you did the...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 2 Responses Mar 28, 2013

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    Im a recovered bulimic.

    I'm ashamed about what I've done to my body. I'm proud about what I've overcome though
    bradley1234567890 bradley1234567890 13-15, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I woke up this morning feeling sad

    because last night I wasn't with the people I wanted to be with and didn't have much fun. I'm hoping that this year will be better for me and that I make better decisions. Another thing I want to change is also how I view life and my attitude. I tend to go back and forth with a...
    alostone alostone 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 1

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    I was physically and mentally abused by my bio

    mom until i was 15. I'm 17 now and I'm living my life with an attitude that will destroy the abuse cycle.
    BcopleyD BcopleyD 18-21, F 7 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    Some may succeed because they are destined to,

    but most succeed because they are determined to!
    KarenIsMyName KarenIsMyName 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    21 Days Sober - Don't miss Alcohol a bit!

    ! FREEDOM!! Change your mind, Change your life!
    ncskiguy78 ncskiguy78 36-40, M 7 Responses May 28, 2014

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    It's True.

    This is a concept that most people forget on a daily basis. You can't change the past--a minute ago, included, is the past. So what if you can't change it? That just means you have to push forward and make the future better. I need to remember this, myself. I may not be able to...
    Shebby88 Shebby88 18-21, F 20 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    The Tale Of The Monk And The Scorpion

    “Once in a monastery two monks walked about doing their morning duties. As they passed a small bowl, filled with rain, they saw a scorpion was drowning in the water. One monk reached in to save the creature. As soon as his fingers touched the panicking Scorpion, it stung him...
    NeoNeo NeoNeo 41-45, M 25 Responses Feb 1, 2012

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    Haven't heard a word silence heavy

    compounds building up pressing down moments feel like years magnified by fears Trying to escape this constant ache Trying desperately to fill this chasm eluded ignored forgotten Hope left too long the shelf gives off the tell tale stench of something rotten I can't get rid of...
    LittleBirds0827 LittleBirds0827 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 15

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    Stop Seeking For Love From Others

    I've recently taken off my online dating profile, to prevent myself from further disappointments. One incident in particular, I went on 5 dates with a guy I met online and thought it was a beginning of something special or it could just be wishful thinking on my part. He may...
    WCindy WCindy 26-30, F 12 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    It's funny how one person can change your

    thoughts...Every experience of my life is somehow new again... I find pleasure in every task, no matter how routine it is, there is a feeling inside I can't explain, I remind myself of the important things, I'm changing into the person I want to be and want to share with another...
    Lydia66 Lydia66 46-50, F 7 Responses Jul 26, 2014

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    I Have The Power

    We all have power in everyday decisions, whether we believe it or not. Its whether we let every decision that we make effect our future for better or for worse. I can't change any of the decisions that I made earlier to day or yesterday, all I have is now and the future. Its time...
    kjiggy03 kjiggy03 18-21 185 Responses Jun 29, 2012

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    Hello ..this is Angel.

    I m frustrated with in my life m searching peace from my life.There is no way to find happiness.I believe that some day I will find the happiness peace from my life.This is in my hand.I know I hv problems in my family,college life.At home always violence n traps no one...
    Dukhisitara Dukhisitara 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 14

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    We've all done what we've done

    and had happen to us what has happened to us. None of us can do a thing about what was. We only have power over what is. We choose how we treat people, how we look at the world, and how we react to what is happening to us in the present. This will determine what our futures...
    curiousinomaha3 curiousinomaha3 51-55, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I Am A Survivor

    Sexual abuse, neglect, rejection, verbal bashing, discrimination, drug abuse, alcoholism....u name it ive probably been there and done that. My latest episode had to have been my strongest and most significant. I was 17 years old, leavin on the streets, selling drugs and...
    Wanascream813 Wanascream813 18-21, F 103 Responses Nov 6, 2009

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    So now I'm thinking why did we stop

    because of u I no what I want out of Lyfe because of u I no how to react to things that are real because of u my heart will beat the letters of ur name till it beats no more imy #Shon ily and always will
    crazyitchwiddahgun crazyitchwiddahgun 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 11

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    Words Of Wisdom

    I was watching "The Voice", one of the contestant had been stalled in his career by a depressive illness,he had a wonderful voice and all four coaches turned around,one of the coaches shared his own story about having suffered with depression and another came out with these...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 4 Responses Apr 10, 2013

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    Kaitlyn262 Kaitlyn262 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 28, 2014

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    My Futures So Bright I Have to Wear Shades

    I can’t change what happened yesterday.  Heck I can’t even change what happened a moment ago but if I learned from it and I became a better person that is all that matters.  I have this personal philosophy that every person we meet is in our lives for a...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 38 Responses May 8, 2008

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    I am a widow at the age of 25.

    I lost my husband almost 2 months ago every day is a step closer to find serenity and knowing I cannot change the past and only move forward into the future. I truly miss my husband everyday. He will never be forgotten
    frankiejo frankiejo 26-30, F 10 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    She wanted to rid herself of the past,

    rid herself of the weight being carried around every day. Never have been one to share true raw emotions with others, but rather smile and stay strong, terrified of looking weak.  My life isn't a glamorous one, its simple, sometimes even boring, but its mine & I live every...
    JustAGirLinAbaR JustAGirLinAbaR 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 22

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    I have loved in life

    and I have been loved. I have drunk the bowl of poison from the hands of love as nectar, and have been raised above life's joy and sorrow. My heart, aflame in love, set afire every heart that came in touch with it. My heart has been rent and joined again; My heart has been...
    desertdrop desertdrop 22-25, M 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    I have no such regrets of my past.

    They made me who I am today, but I do regret some of the decisions I made in my past. Missed opportunities. Could have had the love of my life today if only I had not behaved like a ****. Could have focused on a lot of things, but it's okay. I believe it was meant to happen...
    Dictatorse Dictatorse 22-25, M 6 Responses Jan 10

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    My ex boyfriend told me

    that I would never be beautiful as my sister, men would never choose me over any other girls and that I wasn't worth being a friend. Those harsh words became the truth. I felt unattractive, unworthy and unloved. Got got rejected and abused since then. Alot of people said not to...
    Myalee Myalee 41-45, F 4 Responses Feb 9

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    How can you change something

    that isn't defined yet, such as future? Every action, even thought can change your whole life. As long as you make decisions, your future is as blank as it could ever be. I would rather name this topic 'I cant change the past, but I'm stil in control of my future.
    arenxus arenxus 31-35, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Looking Forward

    I can't change my past. I've done what I've done and that's it. Everything I have chosen to do in my past has made me the amazing person I am now. Yes, I am amazing. I am strong, I am funny, I am smart. There was a time I didn't realize that but thanks to my past now I do. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 13 Responses Jul 31, 2012

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    My parents are drug addicts.

    I spent my life watching meth destroy peoples lives. And mine. But I strive to be like my sister. She's currently in college with two jobs and still finds time to help my brother and I. I can't wait until I'm out if here and choosing my own path.
    Bearcookie Bearcookie 18-21, F 19 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    You have to die a few times

    before you can really live. -Charles Bukowski
    Solovey Solovey 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 27, 2014

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    KarenIsMyName KarenIsMyName 18-21, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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